Once I began leveling-up in my delusion as a man, it became quickly evident that for the majority of modern women, there is a severe disconnection present between her head, heart and vagina.
Women have acquired the deadly ability to totally separate love from s€x. (as a protection)
She fucks without feeling.
Fucks without loving.
She fucks to run.
Fucks to avoid.
Much of it is painted with the "empowered independent woman" brush, and it´s deeply unfortunate as a MAN to see the reality of this pattern - That to be an empowered woman in this day and age, means to be more like a numb dysfunctional male - Actively violating herself.
This disconnect is poisonous to a woman’s being...and there is modern man...supporting it all!
It’s pretty impossible to live your life as a woman, when you are not honoring the very nature which makes you a beautiful and powerful woman. Choosing to “fuck” while her heart is tightly shut, is eroding to her aliveness.
Men, you must be aware of this unnatural malfunction, and be willing to figure-out what is needed from you, in order to make love to her in a way which brings her head, heart, and s€x back into alignment.
A man MUST be there in support of her full activation to womanhood, especially due to the fact that her interfacing with males is what originally caused such a detrimental disconnection.
Its very difficult to feel like a woman, when you have never been handled as one.
The reason I share this, is because I just finished an energy session with a young woman who has been dealing with deep depression, due to how dead she feels in her life.
She HATES s€x!
It has caused her much trauma, but she does it anyway. Why? - because thats what a good girlfriend does, right?
She quickly realized into our session, that she has never actually had s€x before. She was doing some other thing, some friction thing, some performance thing, which was fed to her as s€x. A thing which left her feeling empty, sore, numb, used and ashamed. Her tears erupted right on time to save and realign her.
Women, I would ADORE if you stopped compromising yourself.
I would ADORE if you immediately stopped engaging with anything which does not feel loving and of strength to you. I would ADORE if you took the time to feel, understand and express every part of yourself loudly, so that clarity and internal intelligence can be arrived to...and I would love if men stood up and supported this!
- Because as a man, you will begin to experience a WOMAN from this commitment. You will get to taste all of her outlandishly overwhelming gifts...and you will be held more accountable then you have ever known before. Breeding a more conscious and powerful version of modern man.
Stop fucking her and start acquiring the ability to hear her.
Hear how desperately she needs you as a man, to step up into integrity.
Also, You may have to remind her what unconditional loves feels like, in a world that has granted her so little.
To find your purpose, you must first find yourself.
There is literally no other way around it. Dont fall for the quick-sell hype which has become the basis of the "spiritual growth" economy.
Take a look, that sneaky, glorified unconsciousness is all over your timeline! Making promises to you, like a flacid ex-boyfriend attempting to get back into your bed.
He gets your hopes up, but never lives true to his word, leaving you even worse-off than before.
No workshop, retreat, circle or coach is going to "fix" you or your life. It may spark some things in you...but your beingness is YOURS. In my work, I am not here to save you. Im not here to fix you - Instead, Im here to show you, you...again and again and again. Because that is where the intelligence, energy and life is.
Whatever you do with you, is your call. Nobody elses. Period.
Until you take full responsibility for your existence and how you relate with it...you will remain weak and enslaved, by that flacid-cock of empty sparkly promises...preying on your blind spots.
Most "spirituality" has become entertainment. Like Netflix. Nothing more, nothing less.
You feel "totes pumped" after your weekend Tony Robbins seminar. You announce how your life has changed, but 2 weeks later after the entertainment and adrenaline has wore off...nothing has changed...except the weight of your pocket, and now you are back to square one. Pissed off at Tony.
It wasnt his fault...it was yours...for buying into such ridiculousness. This is what trauma does to us. We make poor decisions out of it. We place irresponsible expectations, on things and people outside of us.
Self, self, self, self, SELF!
KNOW THY SELF!
Nothing else will hold true.
In order to locate self, you must first put down all of the distractions, "spiritual" entertainment, and absolute madness which you are continuously giving your consciousness and attention to - Figuring out how to turn the fear of self, into love of self. That is the alchemical process which needs to occur, to transform it all.
I invite you to drop the external and retreat to the internal, as if your life depended on it...because it does.
Once you begin to understand your internals(which may take a whole lot of time and patience), you...the authentic you...flows to the surface of your being - Taking back full domain over your physical, in reclamation.
Your work, involves exposing/seeing all of the identities which you have fabricated and committed to in your life, which disable & bully you - Which are not you...
These acts of self-abuse are due to the fact that somewhere along the way, you were convinced a bunch of times that you were not enough. Of course, this measurement was conducted via the measuring-tape of insanity.
To truly shift, you will have to commit every last morsel of you, to first locate you, and to then stay fully true to you. The amount of courage, love, and gentleness this may take, can be mountainous. Therefor, this level of alignment walking around, is very VERY rare. We owe it, to ourselves. To humanity.
My hope and intention for you reading this, is to come to the heavy realisation, that this is ALL on you. To drop the fantasies and farytales which keep you so dumbed-down and erratic.
This, is the most rapidly sobering and empowering thing any human can hear, feel, and know. Because from this point, you take absolute responsibility for your existence and vibration on this planet.
When we truly commit to restoring alignment and balance within ourselves, we do the same for humanity.
My purpose...is to be here in direct support of the waking-up process. Much love, Chris
“You can’t impact me. Life can’t impact me. I’m a strong woman.”
Unfortunately, modern day woman has been conditioned with a deep twist of poison. Teaching her to go to war against her greatest gift: Receptivity!
As soon as Woman makes it her mission and stance to be unaffected by life...to be un-impacted...she misses her womanhood, entirely. She misses her strength, entirely.
A woman who runs from feeling, is a woman who runs from truth.
A woman who doesn’t feel, is a woman who doesn’t know.
She voids her intelligence. She disconnects from mama-earth, and chooses to be out here alone, scared, confused, pissed-off, lacking-love in all its flavors...& tired. Really fucking tired.
That’s what happens when you are utterly dehydrated. When you no longer allow the water to flow. When you refuse it. You stagnate.
This is the single biggest reason why so many women are unwell. She has been directed to turn her back on her nature. It’s a mass genocide of healthy femininity.
If a woman only knew how powerfully transformative her love was, she would never again have to rise up in hate. She would never again have to “fight-back” with bitterness. Because she would know that whatever she placed her heart upon, would immediately soften & transform. The greatest evil would be no more.
Imagine if an angry mob of 100 feminists, hating...were replaced by 100 women, loving. Who's sole mission it was to love fearlessly...imagine the overwhelming difference in energy!
Men would show up in support so deeply. He would turn up just to get a sip of a love so great. He would be seduced, befuddled, in-awe, in-love...and FIRMLY READY TO STAND UP FOR THAT!
Just imagine the magnetic pull. The beauty. Nobody can fight back against an army who’s weapon is compassion, gentleness & love.
Hate needs hate to inflict hate.
The collective has feared her power, so we have strangled her. Turned her into a stroppy child. Filled her with anger and resentment. Trampled her heart and told her it was weak. Deactivating her most powerful weapon of transformation.
We have left her under-nourished and locked in her mind. Forever bracing against life’s tremendous softness...which will always get her in the end.
We really need women down here, who are not only connected to what’s really happening, but women who are magnetically manifesting through the oceanic love they are all intrinsically connected to.
But, for this type of a space to even be available to her...men!? Where you at....??? (That’s a whole other topic) We must first grant her the space to return home. To heal. To let go of the mountainous amounts of anger and bitterness she secretly has towards the ways unhealthy men have handled her. For the ways in which she has been disallowed, judged, abused, compared, and instructed to toughen up.
This is in no way to victimise her. This is to say enough is enough. Grow up and take your deliciousness back...we got fucking work to do...and love must be leading the way!
Men, if she does not feel you being here in support of ALL of her(including her anger), then it’s a wrap.
Women, open your eyes and look at how the man who peaks your intimate interest does his life.
Look at every way he relates with it, before you ever decide to go home with him…
Because how a man engages with his life, is how he’s going to engage with you. How a man does his life, is how he is going to do you.
A man can attempt to put on an "act of impressiveness" when he first meets you, and he can possibly even hold it together for some time…but very soon, the reality of how he operates in life is going to start leaking at the seams, and you will begin to see who he truly is. Although an evolved woman will feel his incongruence immediately upon meeting.
This is not an attack on men, but rather a calling for him to do his work, so he no longer fears being fully authentic.
I invite women to be profoundly proficient detectors of bullshit. Your health and safety depends on it. I invite you to grow out of the naivety which society has indulgently impregnated you with. You are powerful beyond belief…once matured.
Examine a man when he steps to you, deeply! Because 6 months down the line when you are broken down and in tears, cursing the day you ever met him…you will have to open your eyes and realise that YOU walked right into it…blindfolded & willing.
I have women coming to me all the time, talking about “he lied to me and treated me like shit”…and I must respect her enough as a grown-ass-woman to say “yeah…and you stayed there!” (underlying patterns of past abuse can fuel this behaviour)
The most hurtful thing I see with how we treat women on this planet, is how we undermine her intelligence and disguise it as “care”. We disguise it as “empowerment”, without ever holding her to the fullest extent of her own responsibility of self. This is TRUE empowerment. Supporting her in total reclamation.
As men, we MUST support a womans RIGHT to question absolutely everything that any man brings to her.
In the work I do, many of the men who come to see me, want to figure out how to be better with women. I see nothing wrong with this foundational desire for lovingness and connection.
Unfortunately, how modern men function around women has become very messy and inauthentic, mainly due to the lack of clear & healthy masculine role-models.
When I ask the man what problems he may be currently having, he will usually begin to ramble, sharing all of the things he is doing & saying that just dont seem to be "working". To the point I must interrupt him and ask "where is she in this story? How was she feeling in that moment?" - A confused look is usually the response.
Men, she is not a robot with codes, she is a person, with a heart!
Most men get so caught up in themselves and their egos, that they totally forget their is a beautiful woman infront of them, wanting to be felt. He gets swept up in his attempt to use her as an ego validation short-cut.
She doesnt really give a fuck about how many mountains you have climbed, if she cannot feel you, feeling her.
(sidenote: She also, for the most part, totally doesnt give a fuck about your problems. Dont get me wrong, she will smile and nod and listen to you, but in reality...she wishes you would stand up tall and sort your shit out, so you dont expect her to babysit and mother you. So she can start to love you more wildly, knowing that you got this, and her. So she can melt, more, and more, and more. A puddle of embodiment.)
..She wants you to feel her...To tune into her...To care enough about her, that you are choosing to be fully present for her. If you are NOT willing to be there, then please LEAVE HER ALONE!
Woman is a heart-based being, who needs to feel you meet her, so she can decide wether or not she can even begin to trust you.
Also, you can never be "good" with women. Let this go. You can only be good with yourself.
This, coincidentally, will allot you everything you need in order to connect deeper with a woman who you may be drawn to.
Id like to finish by saying; It is very difficult to have another human being like you, if you act and behave in a way which demonstrates you dislike yourself.
Stop avoiding your feelings. Stop performing. Stop chasing. Instead, be authentic(if you dont know what that means, go figure it out), and slow down, enough, so you can begin to make contact with her. Because if you dont, you will end up totally missing her.
You will have to face discomfort and fear within this process, but luckily its everything to do with you...which means you can take back responsibility for your own life; for your own healing.
My left hand gently stroked her head as she wailed with the most gut-wrenching of screams. A sound so chilling, it would once buckle me…now a common-place tapestry I dance with, weaved throughout my days.
With my other hand…I held hers, lovingly…saturating her in a ferocious & conscious love for HER freedom. Steering her through the mud.
She dripped in tears and sweat, not knowing where one began, and the other one ended. Body writhing. Fingers clenching. Confused. Out of control….But for the first time…free! “FUCK MEN…FUCK YOU…I FUCKING HATE YOU…DAD YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE…WHY??!!” - She bawled, with her mascara river enveloping her ears. Renouncing. For this human has experienced levels of wrong-doing unbeknownst to me.
I increased the energy. I increased the love. Higher & higher she rose in her vivacious reclamation of her womanhood. Spitting out anything which was no longer welcome in her being. Showing her teeth…but grabbing my arm...just incase.
I watched, as I always do, in awe at the power of this life when its invited back home.
She purged and purged, for what seemed like an eternity, until there was nothing left.
Then…silence. Stillness. Existence.
She assumed it was done, yet I knew it was only beginning.
I shifted the frequency, & like a gust of wind, the bliss cascaded up through her legs & thighs, massaging its way through her pelvis & flooding her heart. Electricity, pulsing. “Oh my god what is this?” - she shrieked. “Your femininity” - I replied. She burst out laughing, letting go of my arm, arching her lower back, receiving...Falling right down deep into her exquisiteness. Her deliciousness. Her birthright.
My work with women has been one of the most challenging, terrifying, and humbling commitments of my entire life. It continues to show me just how looked after we truly are, when we choose to courageously return home. Thank you! Profoundly!
Doing your REAL spiritual work is the simplest process imaginable. Your daily life is granting you the practice pad in every moment. But many fail to even see it...because they are too distracted with their abstract “spiritual practices”, which are far too impractical to ever be applied if chaos comes knocking on your door.
The challenge, lays In your ability to remain fully committed and consistent to the marvelous innocence within you, and to seduce it to the surface via consciousness.
Most adults have lost all innocence. To live by it, in a world where everybody is trying to be better than everybody else, seems counter-intuitive to “winning”. If you would just open your eyes, you would notice what you win pails in comparison with what you have lost, in the process of competing. Coming back to innocence and authenticity in everything...love, sex, expression, movement...is the godly key.
Spiritual growth has absolutely nothing to do with doing headstands for Shiva, shakti or the Easter Bunny. Nor does it have anything to do with how many times you can chant Krishna in your big hippy pants. Don’t get me wrong, if it warms you, then by all means enjoy it. It can be a cute hobby. But I PROMISE YOU, the bells and whistles that accompany new-age spiritualism has very little to do with the reality of your growth. It’s boho entertainment. It’s distraction. Which is fine if that’s what you want. Just don’t hang your hat on it...
Your true spiritual practice will be conducted out there in your life, as you are waiting in a long-ass line, running late for your connecting flight, in a hot overcrowded airport, where there are 3 kids screaming behind you. It’s the moment when you feel huge amounts of fear and tension rise up in you in a social interaction.
These are the situations where your true work will be done. Where the profound self actualisations will occur. And don’t get me wrong, you can leave your hippy pants on the entire time, if you want to. Those things are comfortable AF.