My name is Mychal. I live in the san fernando valley of Los Angeles, CA; with my Husband, A talented Camera man. My son, and two stinky Boston Terriers. I am a stay at home mom and when I have free time I like to craft, Snack and be a couch potato.
Just 10 days shy of 3 years old, Zach and I were in the process of researching some near by early preschools to enroll Blake into.
Stress, Pressure and guilt of Blake not only obviously being an only child, But as well as being nearly 500 miles away from our families. We decided it was time to get him into a place with not only some what of a curriculum. But a place where he could socialize with kids his age. Gain some independence. Burn some energy. Mom and dad can only entertain him so much anymore.
We ended up enrolling him in a place he didn’t stay for more than a month. I went with my gut feeling with unrolling him and I am glad I did. The first few days was easy. He didn’t look back. He was so ready to play and be with other kids his age. But as the week went on he was upset about going. It broke my heart to leave him behind with tears in his eyes. I am still not exactly sure what it is. I believe another kid was picking on him. Over time with observation I noticed the teacher was overwhelmed with the children. It was too corporate. Too much of the children fending for them selves and not getting enough one on one with the teacher. Which defiantly doesn’t work for my child of one and distant family.
Tutor Time caught our eye and we enrolled him because it seemed great. I still don’t hate it. I just wouldn’t recommend it. Unless you had no other option. Yes it was a nice renovated building. Newer playground equipment. Class room setting was fancy. Security cameras in every room. Even an app for your handy dandy iPhone to receive updates daily on how your child is doing that day. Such as if and what they ate for a snack or lunch. What activity they did. What time they went down for a nap. I loved having that security throughout the day. It was also a plus for Dad because he travels for work so often.
So I immediately withdrew him and researched other schools. Also because I recently got hired, My first job since pre Blake. So we needed a new school we could be comfortable and secure about. Blake now loves his new teacher, He loves his new friends. Not once has he thrown a fit crying leaving him at school. It is a family owned place. Run by the family and I love that about it. The playground isn’t brand new and fancy. But that doesn’t matter.
Little Blake Izaac Storer is 3 years old. Knows all his colors. Sometimes counts to 20. Sings his ABC’s. Loves to sing itsy Bitsy Spider. Obsessed with Halloween and anything monster related. We have our christmas tree up before Thanksgiving. Because uhh duh. He has his own pet hamster. He likes watching King of the Hill with dad. * laughing eye roll * Couldn’t be luckier to be his mom.
Being a new mom is tough, and it’s one of the most important jobs that someone can have. With everything our kids have access too, and everything they can get involved in, being vigilant and wary is a 24/7 job.
Naturally, that comes with a lot of stress and anxiety. You might worry about how you’re caring for your baby, how they’re going to grow up, or what kind of parent you’re going to be. And this worry can take a huge toll on your everyday life.
Managing this stress is part of being a parent. And luckily there are a lot of tips and tricks you can use to help you get through even the toughest periods.
1- Use Your Support System
It’s easy for new moms, especially single mothers, to be overwhelmed by everything that goes into raising a child when the baby first comes home. This is a time to use your support system as much as possible. Even things as simple as having your own mother watch the baby for an hour so you can get a shower can really make a huge difference to your headspace.
2 - Sleep when you Can
Lack of sleep is a huge issue for new parents. Trying to reliably predict when a newborn is going to be tired enough to sleep is close to impossible. But that doesn’t mean you should spend all of your time awake. Ask your spouse or friend to watch them baby for an hour or two, and catch a small snooze when you can. There’s no shame in asking for help, after all.
3 - Go For a Drive
This is something that can work until your child is six, seven, or even eight years old. Not only is going for a 10-20 minute drive in the silence and comfort of your car a great way to clear your own head (focusing on a task tends to focus the mind), but it usually puts your child to sleep as well! The continuous rumbling noise and unchanging interior tend to relax a child’s senses while the soft rocking motion lulls them to sleep.
4 - Take Time to Socialize
It can be easy to convince yourself that being a parent is your full-time job. And to an extent, that’s true. Yet for the sake of your own health and your child’s well-being, it’s important to take time to socialize. Interacting with other adults is necessary to keep us. Whether you’re spending time with other parents or taking advantage of a babysitter, it’s important to keep adults in your life. Finding a night or two every couple weeks can make a huge difference to your state of mind
5-Take Time For Yourself
Taking time for yourself is the most important stress reliever of all. Self-care is vital in understanding that you are a separate person from your kid, even if it doesn’t feel that way all the time. This can be easier once your kid settles into a more normal sleeping schedule. Take advantage of that time to read a book, have a nice cup of tea, or spend some time with your significant other. It can seem a bit counter-intuitive, but you need to take care of yourself before you can properly take care of someone else.
These tips mostly focus on taking care of yourself, and for good reason. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed as a new parent, and there’s a feedback loop that intensifies that anxiety. When you’re anxious, it’s harder to assess problems, react calmly, and find solutions. Take a step back, breathe, and remember to look after yourself with the same care you’re using to look after your child. They’ll thank you for it.
Written by: Lexi Carr is a freelance writer with a passion for helping others. When she's not spending time with her family, she's playing with her Australian blue heeler.
We did it! We accomplished the milestone of potty training before age 3.
Not that the age matters anymore I suppose. The quicker the better in my opinion. I was tired of shit smeared diapers and continuously avoiding emptying out the diaper genie...
I was one of "those" moms when Blake was an infant thinking that maybe if I introduce my child to the toilet as soon as possible that it would stick in his brain or keep him comfortable around the potty. I thought I was sharing success when my 8-12 month old was actually shitting in the toilet. Well that clearly became a fail. He was only POOing in the toilet because I knew the signs of him having to go, Because he wasn't actually aware what was even happening. Also a fail because I got lazy with it.
As time went on he became as expected, Opinionated and more independent. My toddler grew a fear and hate of the porcelain throne.. Even the plastic one that plays cheery cheesy ass music every time you tinkle or poo in it... That was also a fail as well. Because the potty tune ended up scaring the piss out of him. He developed a fear and hate of the toilet.
So I gave up for awhile. Also was tired of the annoying comments from others stating I'm rushing it or he will do it on his time! or vise versa, You need to push him. So on and so forth.. I caved, I gave up. I put my shoes on and grabbed my car keys and made the continuous COSTCO trip to buy my toddler diapers in bulk.
After a few months passed, And tallying up receipts from diaper purchasing, As well, Just over the morning show of Blake hiding under his table trying to sneak a shit in his pants. Or his bright idea of distracting me while trying to crap his costco diaper. I had enough. Now I couldn't just do what others have done or suggested keeping my child in the nude to potty train. Or the miserable three days of camping out by the toilet, Though I periodically have sat on the bathroom floor for an hour or two at a time. I couldn't even humor the thought of cleaning up shit or piss off my furniture or the floor of my house. I have animals in my house they don't even do that and I didn't want to give them a reason to.
Nothing would motivate this kid. Food, Toys or taking his current toys away. What oddly did it was taking my son out side to play in his birthday suit and when I noticed that he needed to pee or poo, I learned he would go where our dogs do their business. So for the next few days we made constant trips outside where he would just stand in the rocks and do his business like his furry friends. I slowly introduced his little potty. Which actually didn't work right away either. SO I did the unthinkable. I took the bowl part out of his potty and basically was playing catch with feces and urine in my backyard. Thrilling let me tell you.. Once he was comfortable with that he used his potty chair outside.. Gradually brought it indoors like a civil human being he finally started using the toilet inside the house. I told him that the big toilet is a nice toilet so now he just prefers to use the big toilet, And continuously proceeds to tell me after each visit that " It's a nice Toilet mama! " Yes Blake... Nice toilet I say rolling my eyes and laughing to my self. " BYE POOP! " or Pee. He half sings to the toilet each time now.
I do have to add that once he did start using the toilet we did have to bribe him to use it indoors. With Cake Pops. Which worked in my favor because well I am a Starbucks addict. SO every time my kid shit in the toilet it was a double win for me. Because one it wasn't in his diaper and two we had to go to the starbucks drive through to get a cake pop and of course a macchiato for myself.
So slowly but surely we got there, He is even letting me know when he needs to go now instead of me repeatedly asking him if he needs to go. I haven't bought diapers in months. Big Kid Pull Ups now! Now I am saving money to fund my espresso addiction...
Last night Blake and I ventured to the Royce Hall Theater in LA, To see The Wiggle's!
For those who don't know, The Wiggle's are a children's music group that was formed in Sydney, Australia in 91. So they have been around quite a awhile, Of course it doesnt consist of the original members. Just one original the creator still stands with The Wiggle's today.
I am familiar with The Wiggle's because in a way its been a part of the family. My husbands youngest sister was obsessed, My mother in law has taken her to two live shows. Along with every damn DVD and CD, Wiggle's toys, Gear. She had it. It grew on me. It's cute and catchy..
So after Blake was born of course we had to introduce Blake to it. He of course took to it and loves them now like the rest of the kids in our family. Zach a few weeks ago received a notification via Spotify alerting him of The Reunion Show, So duh we bought tickets. But just for Blake and I. Dad didn't want to go.. Not sure why hahah.
We had a great time. Blake danced thee entire time, And I sang along to all of the familiar songs. The crowd was so behaved for it obviously being mostly young children. Many dressed up lie their favorite character. So many adorable Emma Wiggle's in their yellow tutus and big yellow bows.
The Wiggles - YouTube
It's not every day you see the Wiggle's, So I bought Blake a poster, TShirt and light up wand. Those sneaky foxes, with their ingenious idea to make an adult shirt.. Which was bad ass. Oh I bought one. Blake and I rocked our shirts the entire concert and the next day.
I would defiantly recommend giving The Wiggle's a try if you have little ones.. Id go again !
So I have to mention and point out because I am assuming I will get asked this question, OF "Why isn't your son wearing shoes in the photos you posted?"
Well ill tell you... Dad said he would get Blake dressed and ready to go so that I could get myself ready etc. Zach dressed Blake and put him in the car, Buckled him up ready to go. I drive all the way to the theater..Finally Park after a pain in the ass venture to find a spot, Open Blake's door.. Look at his feet, Instantly. Because he was wearing bright colored socks. "SHIT! Where are your shoes?" Frantically looking throughout the whole car hoping I for some reason had an extra pair laying around... Nope. Damnit... Call up the hubs.. " Uhh you didn't put shoes on Blake?!" " Shit I thought you did...?" hahaha Parenting fail for the both of us. I was on the verge of opening Postmates to have someone deliver a pair of shoes. I certainly didn't want to carry Blake, Nor push his huge stroller into the theater. I oddly had extra socks for him so I layered his socks and carried him half way. Rolling my eyes and just dealing with it the remainder of the evening. It didnt stop us from having fun though. Visiting the restroom was a fun task.. We are in the middle of potty training, I was the mom covering the floor of the stall with toilet seat covers so my sons feet weren't touching the bathroom ground. I know that doesn't completely make sense or make a difference for that matter considering he walked half the way in his socks to the theater, But whatever,
We had fun. Thank you WIGGLES!
PS. Don't forget your kids shoes. Or yours for that matter..
This was going to be a more elaborate post, But along with just every day things needing to get done in life. Sprinkle some OCD and a toddler on top I can never meet my deadline anymore. The cherry on top was that I just had currently typed several paragraphs and this website crashed on me, Causing me to start over...Also I have yet to make time to upload photos from Zach's nice camera. So I suppose a LEGOLAND Part 2 will have to come soon.
So, Legoland. A spur of the moment trip. Because well, With Zach's schedule we do not always get to plan far ahead in advance at all really. With his career things can change at a moment notice. As they always do. It just so happened that I had the upcoming week off when Zach was coming back from a work trip. We had discussed going away for a few days. Since rarely given am opportunity we decided to do Legoland. We were originally planning to take Blake for his 3rd Birthday. But we beat the tourist crowds and the summer heat. As well as Blake having free admission till he is three years of age.. Decision was made.
We booked two days for Legoland, And a stay in the new recently opened Castle Hotel, that is on the property alongside the park. The wizard themed room was ours . They also have a kids corner which is basically their own bedroom inside your hotel room . Of course elaborately decorated, with Wizards, Magic, Legos. Downstairs offered a Dragon themed restaurant that offers kids friendly menu items. Just outside an amazing playground next to a heated pool and a stage for performances. Also provided was a grassy area and chairs and a few benches. Lego movies were projected on a large outdoor movie screen. It really is a perfect kid friendly hotel. Honestly a kids dream. I would recommend kids 10 and under, Because mostly everything is slow and small as far as rides go.
Because we stayed at the Lego Hotel, We were given the opportunity to access the park an hour early prior to opening time. Which I assume is a big plus during busy summer and break days. But we were able to ride mostly everything without having to wait more then 10-15 minutes. Blake was even able to get away with the Junior Driving School. Which is basically a bunch of toddler driving a mini lego car on a mini track, Bumping into each other repeatedly. It was pretty damn adorable. My favorite part of the trip.
MiniLand, Was an area of basically little towns built of entirely legos. Which was another favorite. Blake oddly loved it and we spent a decent amount of time there both days. It did have interactive options where the kids can press buttons and the lego car or boat would move and make a sound. StarWars Mini Land was pretty extravagant and impressive. Surrounded by Millions and Millions of tiny legos.. You can get an idea from watching the videos below.
The hotel offered a buffet brunch. Blake and I took advantage of it our first morning there, But as you can guess it was a bit chaotic with all the children everywhere. Dad stayed back in the room.. Good call. But I needed coffee in my life.
It was a great time though. I defiantly recommend it for the littles.. Check out the Instagram stories I have posted below!
So as you can tell by the title, I am revamping my blog, and website. I mostly use my website for my dog walking business. To look more legit and professional and legit. Kind of a laugh. But I am able to show proof and post my business license etc. I have been struggling this past year with keeping up with my blog and posting updates... Official diagnosis with Post-Partum, OCD and Anxiety. Along with just life in general of Motherhood, being a Wife and Keeper of many animals, I am constantly busy. But I am finally. I suppose... Putting my foot down and trying to make and keep a schedule. Because venting on here, When I actually accomplish writing and publishing it. Becomes a great type of therapy... Here I go!