I’m Whitney. I’m 27 and I live in a small town in southern Kentucky. I am a stay at home mommy of 2 beautiful girls. This blog is to share my experiences as a stay at home mom, and to learn from others as well! Also to use this blog as a personal journal to record and document all about family life.
How is it that my girls are already so big? B is 5, A is 3 and Grace is still itsy bitsy, but she will be 16 before I know it! Okay, I don’t even want to think about that yet. But what I’m trying to get to, is that time flies. You need to make every day, every minute count. I want my girls to look back at their childhood and remember the fun mommy they had. Not a mommy that was too busy, or too stressed, or too tired. And with the way my last pregnancy went.. I’m afraid that is exactly what they will remember. After Grace was born, I felt like a completely different person. I’m more productive now, than I was even before I was pregnant.
After being sick for 9 months (okay, maybe 8 months), I felt so disconnected with both of my sweet girls. I slowly felt like I was losing B, she just didn’t see me as fun anymore. My sweet A, that I have always been so close with, was beginning to act out, A LOT. Yes she was in her terrible 2’s/3’s, yes we just bought a new house and was in the process of moving, and yes, I was about to give birth to another baby girl. Meaning that although she will ALWAYS be my baby (they both will!) she’s not officially “the baby” anymore. So with all of her acting out mostly because all the changes that were being thrown her way, I felt lost and so far away from my beautiful sweet girls.
How could I have let that happen? They won’t always be here wanting to play Barbie and paw patrol with me, so why couldn’t I just overcome my constant nausea and heartburn and just be the most wonderful mommy, like they both deserve?
Mom guilt is strong with this one.
Well, I’m not sick anymore, I am sick of not being productive though, and this mama is back in action and determined to make things right. I don’t want to lose my girls, and I will do anything to mend the connection with them, before it’s too late.
And I will never give up.
Change yourself first.
My first steps on re-connection are working on some things I struggle with most often.
Turn off technology.
Between my blogging, and backing up photos, and making photo books, etc. I am always on my iPhone or iPad. Don’t get me wrong, all those things are very important. But I limit screen time for them, therefore should not be a hypocrite.
Leave the housework.
You may have come across this poem on Pinterest. It’s actually a part of a bigger poem, but every time I read it, it brings tears to my eyes. Every. Time.
Oh, cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow,
but children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.
I’m rocking my baby. Babies don’t keep.
Agh. All the feels.
That poem though, is something I try to keep in mind. Doing housework is very important, but there needs to be a time set aside for those hardcore cleaning moments. Do your dishes absolutely have to be done this very second, when your child is wanting to play? Or can it wait till later? The dishes will be there later, I promise. If you make your child wait for later, and then try to play with them, they may not want to play anymore. I’ve done that a few times and it kills me to think I should have just played when they asked the first time. It’s not the end of the world if I don’t get all my cleaning done today.
Create a journal
I came across the idea of a journal on Pinterest (where else?). This can be a photo journal, a scrapbook, or just a place to jot down memories or funny things that happen. It’s something that will be nice to read years down the road, for you and your kids. A trip right down memory lane.
Putting away all the tech and just spending good ole fashioned quality time together is the most important step you can take to connect to your child. So, if nothing else, turn off the tv and just play together. Even if you have things to do, or you don’t feel good, or maybe you find it boring to play silly pretend games. Just give them a piece of your day, one on one. To you it may just be a short time out of your busy day and you make not think it will make a difference, but I promise you this, to them, it’s everything.
We stopped in Pineville, Ky to visit Chained Rock, which is part of Pine Mountain State Resort Park. The story of the chain on the rock, from what I have read, dates back to the early days of the town. Supposedly, kids and people passing through always asked about the rock, and if it could ever fall on the town, flattening everything in its path. The residents always said there was a chain up there to hold the rock in place, when there really wasn’t. In reality, there was never any need for the chain, because the rock is just part of the mountain. Eventually, people were tired of lying about the chain, and decided just to finally place one up there.
There is a road that takes you to the top of the mountain, and a small parking lot just a few yards away from the overlook.
Unfortunately, you cannot see the chain and rock from this overlook. There is a trail that is 1/2 mile one way and it takes you directly to the rock.
It was a nice learning experience for my girls, most kids love being outside anyways, so why not take that opportunity to learn about nature? They loved picking up rocks and exploring different textures, like sand and moss. Of course, they mostly loved getting dirty!
The sign reads,
“Chained Rock is a boulder formation of Pine Mountain, 2,200 feet above sea level.
The Chain, 101 feet long with seven pound links, was carried here by a four-mule team in two trips. It is anchored to the rock with pegs 1 1/2 x 24 inches concreted into holes, star drilled by hand.
In 1933, the Pineville Chain Rock Club, assisted by the Boy Scouts and the Civilian Conservation Corps, replaced an old chain with this chain to hold the rock which, by tradition, is to protect the city of Pineville, Kentucky.”
The trail is pretty easy-going to the rock, but the way back is mainly uphill, and definitely a workout for those out of shape!
Thankfully there are benches along the way to stop and rest, and we probably used over half of them!
While we took our girls to the rock, we kept a very close eye, and held hands.
*While the main overlook is like any other overlook, with railings and stuff, you can’t actually see the chain from there. So the trail leading to the rock itself is not somewhere I would recommend to someone with small children. There are no railings, nothing to keep you from going off the mountain except your own common sense. And watch out for black bears!!
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They are the same price if not cheaper than any Halloween costume your going to find at any given store. But what makes them stand out is that the material is not the normal, scratchy mess that most costumes have. These are nice enough to play all day in, as well as wearing them when you go out and about! The girls may or may not have, even slept in their dresses.
I love that they have a wide selection to choose from, for young children to adults, even matching dresses for your dolls! Their outfits are all machine washable as well, so bring on the outside playtime!
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Wow so it has been so long since I’ve posted on here. I feel absolutely HORRIBLE for neglecting my blog!
But what can I say, when life gets in the way? I have been trying so hard to put more time into this and make a few changes to keep this blog exactly how I like it. Now I’m ready to post and commit to it again.
When I was here last, I had just recently joined ItWorks! It was a fun experience and their products are AWESOME! But same with that, life got in the way, and it was also put on the back burner. So I am no longer a part of that company unfortunately. Maybe one day I can join back with them.
Not long after I joined ItWorks, my grandma was put into the hospital for a brain aneurysm. It was not a fun experience, for her or for us. I’ll be posting more on the aneurysm later. But she was in the hospital for a couple of months, and I’m so thankful to say that she has made a FULL RECOVERY! She’s a walking miracle for sure.
Then, not long after spending countless hours, days and nights, in the hospital, I discovered we are pregnant with our third baby! Yay! I say “yay” because I absolutely cannot wait to have my new little one here with me, but this pregnancy hasn’t been fun at all! I have been sick the whole time.
Tomorrow, I will be 33 weeks with my 3rd baby girl. We are beyond ecstatic to finally meet her. I beyond excited to stop being so sick. Ha!
So when I said “life got in the way”, I meant it! Besides a new baby being added to our wonderful family, we will also be moving into a new house in the next week or two. I have decided to homeschool my sweet girls. And I will also be getting my tubes tied after I give birth. I will be posting about all these topics, so expect plenty more posts in the future!