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I’m Lottie and I’m so excited to help you on your journey to a healthy happier you, through my lifestyle blog, pilates videos, recipes or health coaching, I hope that you find something that will light you up.
We are half way through February and I thought I’d talk a little bit about my personal fitness routine, goals and how I stay motivated. I have some weeks where I’m less active than others usually the week before my period or when I’m travelling but I feel like I have been quite consistently motivated for the past 6 months due to a few reasons like finding more routine, having buddies to workout with and getting to know my optimal time to workout. There’s still things I’d like to improve which I’ll talk about too.
I try to now look at my week as a whole and how much stress I might be putting on myself. I’ll alter my week of fitness dependent on whether I’m rushing around London a lot or have lots of early morning starts for instance. I don’t see the point anymore in stressing myself out to get to a class across town after a late night and then having to rush to teach or get to another meeting/event. I won’t gain anything from that workout apart from feeling exhausted. I like to feel fresh and mindful during all my different activities so being in the right frame of mind is key.
Current Weekly Routine
So currently I attend 3 F45 workouts a week which is a combination of HIIT and strength training. I go for a run once or twice a week, usually between 4-6 kilometres which I’d like to up to 10 kilometres by the end of the month. I do my own mat Pilates class at least once a week whether that’s at home myself or attending a group class. I then try to get to a yoga or reformer Pilates class whenever I can too and take the occasional Psycle class.
I’ve set myself a goal to find a regular yoga class that I go to every week, the same studio and teacher. I tend to drop in and out whenever I can which is something I try to encourage people not to do. It’s great to change things up every now and again but I think finding a class you love and sticking to it each week to see improvements and development is ideal. I have a few in mind so I’ll keep you updated on that.
I also want to get back on the reformer regularly again, I used to love it so much and would go 3-4 times a week! I then fell a bit more in love with mat Pilates and other kinds of training but I’m going to try to incorporate more reformer back into my week.
There’s not enough hours in the day or days in the week to fit my ideal week of fitness in as I’d also love to include bouldering and cycling but week by week I’ve found having a set routine and same gym to go too really enjoyable and keeps me on track.
What keeps me motivated?
So I know for sure that my optimal time to workout, especially a more intense workout, is in the morning and latest lunchtime. In the evening I just am mentally quite drained from a full on day and tend to clock watch because I just want to leave and get on with my evening. I love my evenings to be with my boyfriend, friends and family- don’t let your fitness take over your life so much so that you don’t have one! And my body doesn’t respond as well to movement in the evening apart from more restorative movements, stretching and breathing.
The biggest factor that’s kept me so consistency motivated is joining F45 Tottenham Court Road, I’ve never stuck at a gym style workout for so long. It’s something I actually look forward to and it helps that there’s such a sense of community there. Amy and Mike are the owners and are the loveliest humans as are the other trainers. There’s so many friendly faces and as someone that spends a lot of my day to day life on my own, it’s so nice to feel part of a team.
If you’re looking for a new workout buddy and want to meet new people but a regular gym is a little too intimidating then I’d really recommend trying a F45 class. Freya Active partnered with YouGov to look into gym habits and found that 42% of us would actually be very happy to have a chat in the gym rather than solo squatting, but only 13% of us would be brave enough to make the first move and go over to someone for a chat. So make the first move, it is the month of giving love after all!
RUNNING WITH MY BESTIE
I’ve always ran on and off but recently been quite consistent and not missing a week without a 5k run outdoors. Despite the cold I do love getting outside in the fresh air and Natalie and I have been meeting up every Sunday morning to run together before getting some brunch. It’s our own little run brunch club. We take it easy and just catch up along the way. Even if we haven’t been 100% up for it, we go for it anyway and always feel so good after. The brunch is always so exciting after too.
I’ve always been able to motivate myself to roll my mat out at home and do my own Pilates workout or tune in to some of my favourite online workouts on YouTube or Pilates Anytime. I think once you get into the habit of doing it it becomes much easier and even setting yourself a set day and time to do your home practice like you would a class. I’m trying to have one day a week now where I don’t travel around London or meet up with anyone (haha- my anti-social me day) and this is the day I like to put my music on and flow on my mat.
What I do when I’m not feeling motivated.
DON’T WRITE THE DAY OFF
Okay perhaps the morning didn’t go to plan and you missed your workout (it happens to me often when I sleep through my alarm or my trains are rubbish) but don’t let the day defeat you. Pack that activewear in your bag and head outside for a lunch time run or walk in the park, find a class after work or hit the gym before heading home. Use social media as a positive tool to turn the day around; I love finding my favourite fitness girls to follow and save their workouts if I need some inspiration. I also have short Pilates workouts on my YouTube channel that you can squeeze into any time of day.
FIND SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO
I never want to live for the weekend or wish months of my life away waiting for a holiday and most the time I live for Mondays as much as I do Fridays but sometimes you can’t help those start of the week blues. If I feel this way, I’ll think about all the lovely things I have to look forward to. Maybe it’s a birthday celebration, a best friend’s wedding, a summer holiday or brunch with the girls at the weekend. Even this small thought will cheer me up and usually makes me want to look after myself by eating healthy and moving my body because I want to feel fabulous inside and out for that event.
So if I’m feeling completely zapped and unmotivated to exercise, I sometimes know that it’s better for me to just relax, chill out and give myself a day off. However, what I do like to do on these days is just plan ahead. I get my diary out and book some F45 workouts in for the next week, I find some Pilates inspiration to try out next time I hit my mat and I text Natalie to organise that run. Just the thought of some lovely movement on days ahead when I do feel motivated helps my mood and allows me to just relax into a day of rest. Rest is a becoming a very important part of my life.
Love, Lottie x
*This post is in collaboration with Freya Lingerie but all words and opinions are as always my own.
Oh Bath where have you been my whole life. Following on from my blog post last week about my very cosy stay at the new hotel spa No.15 Great Pulteney, I thought I’d share with you where we ventured to when we did leave the hotel- it mainly involves food and coffee but with the sun shining we also couldn’t resist wandering the streets of Bath city and taking an early morning dip in the rooftop pool at Thermae Bath Spa. Of course Natalie and I hunted down all the cutest coffee shops and foodie spots in 24 hours. So here’s a list of where we went; if you know you’re just like us and find yourself in Bath craving a matcha latte and a long lunch at the best vegan restaurant then save this post now…
Getting There: Great Western Rail
So firstly, how easy it to get to Bath from London and why do I not do it on a monthly basis? I mean I’m seriously considering moving there and commuting one day. After picking up the must have Pret porridge at London Paddington, we were comfortably cosied up with our laptops and books for just an hour and a half before coming into Bath Spa in the heart of the city.
Beautiful blue skies in Bath City Centre
Caffeine Stops: Society Cafe, Colonna and Smalls
Our first stop was Society Café and we headed first to the smaller one of the two in Bath on a corner very near the station and overlooking the stunning Bath Abbey. I don’t know why but I was pleasantly surprised to see they had matcha lattes and with the option to have my favourite Oatly milk. I know we were only an hour and a half out of London but I genuinely thought Bath wouldn’t be so hip and happening. And it doesn’t get more hip and happening that Colonna and Smalls, the coffee shop we went to get our hit on Friday. I mean just check out the baristas top knot in the photo below. I also realise that the more I say “hip and happening” the less of that I actually am. Colonna and Smalls is not just a coffee shop but an education into the art of drinking coffee itself. As I sipped my flat white I read up on how the optimum temperature to heat your milk to for a latte or cappuccino is 60C degrees. These guys know there stuff so let them help you choose from the weekly changing coffees.
Pretending To Know Everything About Coffee At Colonna And Smalls
The Best Veggie Food: Beyond The Kale, The Acorn Restaurant
So if you go anywhere to be convinced that plant based eating is exciting, delicious and creative then the these to gems we ate at in Bath are the places to go. Beyond The Kale is a rustic vegan cafe with an array of colourful yummy options to feast your eyes on as soon as you walk through the door. Natalie and I had the mixed salad plate and bought ourselves some raw chocolate goodies to enjoy back in our hotel room. I feel like this was just the warm up for The Acorn Restaurant the following day where we were completely spoilt. My tastebuds are literally firing up now just thinking about the roasted butternut squash creamy risotto with hazelnut butter, all vegan! It was hands down one of the best meals I’ve ever had. You can read my top five best meals ever here.
Beyond The Kale’s Vegan Food Heaven
The Best Meal Ever At The Acorn Restaurant
Vegan Chocolate And Coffee Dessert At The Acorn Restaurant
Boutique Shops: Found,
Bath is also full of independent shops and I picked up some gorgeous little cups from Found which is an original shop full of undiscovered brands. Next door is Pulteney Bridge Florist which gives you an uplifting mood boast just by walking past it. We also strolled a little outside the city centre the following day and discovered so many more pretty little stores. I want to go back to do a Calligraphy workshop at Merticulous Ink.
Cute Cup Addicts Heaven At Found
Just A Epic Florist In Bath
After posting on Instagram while we were there, I received so many messages recommending loads of other amazing places Bath has to offer to so I’ll definitely be booking another trip there this year and might even explore a little into the beautiful surrounding countryside. I forget how lucky we are in London to have such beautiful nature a stones throw away. Check out the Visit Bath website for more wellness and wellbeing things to do too.
The View From Thermae Spa Bath Rooftop
See you soon beautiful “hip and happening” feel good Bath!
Love, Lottie x
*This post in collaboration with Visit Bath. All opinions are as always honest and my own.
I’m very excited to be partnering with the stunning Mortimer House to host my Pilates and Brunch mornings kicking off on Saturday 24th February, what better way to start your weekend.
10:30-11:30am Pilates Class- £15
We will start the morning balancing your body, mind and spirit with an hour of Pilates in the vibrant penthouse-style Loft. After we settle onto our mats with some breathing and Pilates fundamentals, I’ll take you through some of my favourite Pilates exercises to feel strong, stretched and lengthened.
12-2pm Brunch on the 5th Floor- £20 (not included in class price, please pay on the day)
Following the Pilates class we will enjoy brunch on the 5th floor of Mortimer House which will be selection of salads, pastries, yogurts etc. Eggs, pancakes and warm dishes are also available to order from the menu at an extra cost. Please note drinks and service charge are not included.
The class is suitable for all levels, some of the exercises will be more advanced but modifications will be given. Please let Lottie know of any concerns/ injuries prior to the event day. Tickets are sadly non refundable, so please double check your diary before booking.
Mats are provided.
Contact firstname.lastname@example.org if you have any questions.
Sometimes I feel like I’m 26 going on 76 and I even think some 76 years olds live it up a bit more than me. I’ve never been a party animal but I’ve always loved a night out, drinking and chatting the night away in a bar and I have definitely been the last one on the dance floor numerous times but for me, nothing beats a cosy night in too. Being in bed by 9pm with a hot chocolate and a good movie or my book and by the way nothing beats doing this at new boutique hotel and spa No.15 Great Pulteney in Bath with your bestie…
This was our exact situation last Thursday night after exploring Bath for the day, more on that soon, and enjoying a meal (wine free) at the No.15 Café which also lived up to our high breakfast game expectations the next morning with delicious poached eggs and salmon on wholegrain toast.
The bar at No.15 is also known for it’s innovative cocktails which I must say were very tempting just by the look of them. One is served in a camera lens with an instant polaroid taken by the waiter of you stuck in the side- the modern day cocktail stick umbrella to say the least. We opted for hot chocolates which was served to us in martini glasses- it’s little touches like this that made the stay at No.15 such a dream.
It really was a home away from home. After leaving our rooms in ropes and enjoying a blissful hour long ila glowing radiance organic facial at the spa downstairs, I didn’t even put make up on for the evening and simply slipped on a dress to head downstairs to dinner. Everything you need under one roof. To be honest we just couldn’t wait to get back to the room; it was one of the most beautiful rooms I’ve stayed in overlooking the grand Great Pulteney street and we were lucky enough to have the sunshine streaming through the windows the next morning. I woke up early to sit and do emails on the sofa in front of the bed, eagerly awaiting a morning coffee from the Nespresso machine in the room hidden within a stunning dolls house.
From the minute we arrived at No.15 we felt completely spoilt and even one night felt like enough time to feel completely rejuvenated. With Bath town full of cute boutique shops and hip cafes serving vegan yumminess and the best coffee literally a 5 minute walk away, this was the perfect place to stay but even if you want a spa getaway and don’t even leave the hotel, you’ll get a little taste of Bath just by looking out the window.
Make sure you check back next week for my 24-hour guide to Bath blog post. I’m so eager to go back.
It was dark grey and rainy when I looked out my window at 7:30am this morning on apparently the “most depressing day of the year.” My bedroom floor however had a pop of pink colour and petal print from the Joules activewear I’d laid out the last night before and nothing was going to stop me from heading out for a run to start my birthday week feeling fresh. You see my birthday always falls on the third week of January when the odds are slightly against us all when it comes to feeling on top form but this year has felt slightly different…
Yes we are all craving proper sunshine and my Instagram feed is full of throw back pictures from last Summer’s tanned skin, blue sky days but is it me or are we embracing the new year a little more this year and kicking January’s butt? By the time I was at the park this morning at 8am and the sun was just up; there were runners, dog walkers, PT sessions happening and everyone seemed in good spirits despite the definite chance of a downpour anytime soon.
We don’t have to give in to the January blues; we can embrace our famous gloomy British season at the same time as looking forward to brighter days. So aside from my birthday I thought I’d share the little things I love about the most depressing time of the year.
More Acceptance Of Self Care
Oh how wonderful it is that self-care is now high on most of our priority lists. By self-care I don’t mean abandoning your commitments and getting a facial rather than going to an important meeting; I mean listening to yourself and what you need to take care of you in order to feel your best for all the wonderful activities and people in your life. Maybe that’s taking a long bath and reading your book rather than going to a dinner party on the other side of town, a Sunday afternoon walk come rain or shine over turning on your laptop or saying no thank you to booze and takeaways. There’s no pressure for us to burn the candle at both ends in January, everyone is taking care of themselves and I love it!
It’s A Long Month
It’s absolutely fine to take it slow in January and February; there is no rush to smash life! I take my runs slow; my workouts with care; I take long evenings in and I don’t over commit myself to events, work and socializing. I like that the month is long and seems to drag a little because it gives me time to get my wheels in gear. This doesn’t mean I stop! I keep moving, I stay active, I stay ambitious, I just feel like I’m gearing up and easing into what the year may bring.
My Morning Routine
I love a winter’s morning, it stays dark till about 8am and there’s something about my alarm going off at 6am (2 hours before that) that feels a little mysterious. Okay hear me out, my morning routine consists of making my lemon, turmeric and manuka honey tea, a big bowl of warming porridge then jumping back into bed and watching Piers Morgan interrogate someone on GMB. I might read a few pages of my book and write in my journal before rolling my mat out or getting my trainers on for a 30-minute run/workout. When it’s dark I feel like it’s my time before the world wakes up and emails start pinging in. During the Summer, it’s bright from 6am which I also love but it means I sometimes don’t feel as rested and calm in the mornings.
Planning The Year
I love to plan and January is most definitely the month to do it. My retreats for the year are in the diary, I plan my holidays and city breaks, I like to think about what fitness challenges I might do that year. I’m thinking I’d like to do my first half marathon this year, take on the Princes Trusts 90 mile Palace to Palace cycle and get more adventurous with hikes, kayaking and surfing again as I dipped my toe into these activities last year. January becomes such an exciting month when it’s filled with researching and booking some lovely things for the year ahead.
So if you’re still not convinced this is the season to embrace and you’d much rather sink into a Netflix pit of doom then get outside and exercise, I’ll be writing about what personally motivates me to get my trainers on and my top tips to brighten up a particularly grey day on the Joules Journal soon.
*This blog post is in collaboration with Joules to help support the launch of their new activewear. Thank you to Joules for sponsoring this post and supporting me as a blogger so that I can continue to write and share my wellness and lifestyle journey. All opinions are always my own and I genuinely love this collection.
I feel like everyone has their own little London; their fave spots for brunch, for pizza, a secret banana bread find, a cute spot to read in a park, a fave salsa class. I was inspired to write this blog post towards the end of last year when out with some blogger girls and we was chatting about all our fave places in London and I realised that I hadn’t even heard or been to some of them. London is just full to the brim with incredible hang outs, foodie places, studios and everyone has their faves. So I thought I’d dedicate a little post to share the love of mine and some of my fave blogger gals. From a Swedish Bakery in Covent Garden to a stunning palace in South East London perfect for a picnic to a place you can get your shellac manicure and watch a the latest blockbuster; you’ll get an insight into our London…
Cinnamon buns, homemade food away from home and a beautiful Palace for a picnic and a good chat…
So of course, one of my fave spots I’m sharing, isn’t even a Londoney place. But isn’t that what London does so well? I actually walked past Bageriet for years before going in and it’s now one of mine and my boyfriends fave places to hang out and have fika. It’s also a place I can practice my Swedish and everyone that works their is Swedish. They freshly bake bread and cakes every day and you can get a real taste of some of the traditional biscuits and bakes. I recommend Nötkakor (almond flavoured biscuit with hazelnuts) and of course Kanelbuller (cardamom dough rolled together with cinnamon filling.)
A seasonal sustainable cafe all about people, brunching, homemade food and you can shop- nestled in the heart of Blackheath.
40 Tranquil Vale, Blackheath, SE3 0BD
I’m a south east London girl and one of my favourite places to spend a Sunday is Blackheath, right infront of Greenwich park this cute little village homes Hand Made Food. A cafe which when you walk into, you just want to stay forever, eating homemade quiche, drinking tea and lusting over what cake to take home. Their shelves are packed with products like jam, chocolate and cheese from the best small-scale and independent suppliers.
I feel like I step back in time whenever I visit Eltham Palace; they have the incredible Palace to wander around and art deco markets on regularly but I simply love to just come and sit in the gardens and chat away any worries. There’s something really peaceful and magical about this moated manor.
It’s all about the coffee and giving a little back.
84b Lamb’s Conduit Street, London, WC1N 3LR
They teach coffee skills to young offenders. “Our coffee tastes this good because it’s made by people who try harder. The young offenders who we work with to craft each batch know their coffee: we trained them up in roasting, brewing and barista skills. They try harder because they know, on the outside, they’ll have to be better than a barista without a record.The result is a finely crafted cup of coffee that raises the bar for everyone.”
Natalie says the coffee is amazing some of the best she has ever tasted, they use oat milk and almond milk (always a winner) and they also do matcha and chai lattes if coffee isn’t your thang. It has a very scandi style with lots of plants and simple modern decor and it’s Natalie’s favourite coffee shop discovery this year. This is definitely a hidden gem of hers and she hasn’t even taken me there yet! I can’t wait to go.
We all know you can get avocado on toast on every corner in London nowadays but Venetia says the freshly baked sourdough bread at The Tin Shed is next level and the generous portion of chilli and basil avocado is simply delicious. Rest assured, the coffee is wonderful too.
So I did have to read this one twice when Venetia sent it over and I’m very intrigued to experience this myself. Long walks amongst the tombstones? Explain Venetia? “Yes I know, very morbid of me, but being amongst the dead makes me grateful to be alive… yeah I’m not doing anything to dispel the weird thing am I.” I did have a little look online and this cemetery does look pretty epic.
She’s a girl after my own heart here, I love this place too. It’s Tara’s favourite brunch place, a cosy little nook tucked away in the leafy streets of Barnsby. Tara loves the banana bread which I also would trek across London just to have.
And a place that encompasses brunch, lunch, coffee, cocktails, cinema (and a beauty salon and a barbers!) How have I not been here yet?! Tara loves Barber & Parlour for everything from eating, working and socialising. The cinema seats look good enough to sleep in too!
So excited to be teaching my Pilates class again at the Hip & Healthy Pop Up store on Saturday 3rd February 9-10am.
I will teach an open-level class which will put all the muscles in your body to work for a workout that is as strengthening as it is fun! The low impact class is ideal for anyone wanting to improve their alignment, get a stronger core and start the weekend off right!
Saturday 3rd February 9AM-10AM
HIP & HEALTHY POP UP STORE 77 ELIZABETH STREET, LONDON, SW1W 9PJ
I’m teaching at The Hoxton’s Fresh + Fit Fest. The hotel is bringing some of the buzziest names in fitness, best classes and trainers, most covetable activewear brands, and tastiest healthy goods together for one of the most talked-about fitness festivals of the year. An all-day drop in event that’s open to everyone.
Head on over for my 45 minute Pilates class. It’s a low impact, open-level class for those wanting to improve alignment and get a stronger core. Start the weekend right with this this full body, mindful focused workout at The Hoxton, Holborn.
The Hoxton, Holborn, 199-206 High Holborn, London, WC1V 7BD
Hey guys, happy belated new year. It always takes me a few days to adjust to the new year. New Year’s Day is a bit write off for me and I always feel slightly weird; like I should feel different just because it’s a new year. Really it’s only the day after the 31st December. Plus the over consumption of alcohol the night before doesn’t help that feeling of blurgh (more on that later.) I don’t think I’ve ever really done a new years resolutions blog post and I didn’t actually think I’d even make any this year but I’ve been thinking a lot this first week in January, uh oh! A little reflective perhaps but more about what would really make a difference to my life, to me. There’s a lot of self help material around this time of year which I’m all for dipping in and out of for inspiration but it sometimes takes us a little off track. Oh that girl on Instagram is going to meditate for every day in 2018 I better do that too or your best friend has signed up to do a new hardcore gym and convinced you to join her, but are these resolutions the best for you…
I tend to re-evaluate my health and wellness goals and habits on a week by week basis as I adapt and change throughout the year so I wanted to go bolder this year with three specific resolutions. The first one is health and mental health related but it’s a pretty big one, giving up alcohol has been something that I knew I’d get to one day but my excuse to not commit to that decision was always the thought that I’m in my twenties I should be having fun and out and drinking; there’s weddings, birthdays and holidays and so much that I’d be missing out on and I’d be “boring” if I didn’t drink.
If you change the way you look at the things, the things you look at change.
But recently and perhaps when I think about it a lot longer, alcohol and me combined is not pretty. Alcohol affects everyone differently and sometimes a glass or two of wine has a positive care free effect but often alcohol has really negative effects on my mental health. I also suffer from extreme PMS which is even more enhanced if I’ve been drinking more that month. So that 1/2 a bottle of wine that I had to switch off or unwind with might feel like a self loving thing at the time but then comes the anxiety, the fogginess, the tears. After New Year, it was like a flick switched. I thought to myself, what’s the most loving thing you do for yourself this year. Take away the one thing that, excuse my french, f***’s things up.
They were speaking about it on Lorraine this week (one of my guilty pleasures.) Cambridge University did research and showed that DNA gets damaged sometimes permanently from alcohol even for people who just drink moderately. I did a month experiment back in July and did feel so much better for it. We know the damage that alcohol does. It’s about doing what’s best for you. That horrible feeling after drinking too much. Is it worth it? I’m seeing it as the most loving thing I can do for myself, I’m excited for it. I’m excited for all the benefits that may come like better quality sleep, improved concentration, more energy, less cravings, my liver and every other organ in my body will be better, digestion will be better, mood swings will be less, my skin won’t feel dry. Hopefully my PMS will improve.
So number 1 is: self loving decision to give up alcohol.
I’ve got myself some Seedlip, the worlds first distilled non alcohol spirits and my favourite fever tree tonic to have around my birthday time which is 16th January. I also hear of people drinking kombucha as a nice alternative to processo and beer. I’d love to know if you guys have any non alcohol drink ideas? Are any of you doing dry January or already don’t drink at all? I’d love to know how you feel and what you notice health wise and socially etc?
The other evening I flicked on the W channel (random I know) but a new series was on called The Davina Hour, I’m a huge fan of Davina and love everything she does. I think every week she’s going to be discussing different topics of interest with a group of people. This week it was “is our pursuit for perfection making us unhappy?’ and the guests as well as Davina gave some really honest insights into there own struggles with body image, they also touched on tech addiction, stress, mental health and relationships. Definitely find it on catch up if you can.
I’ve always been a bit of perfectness, not necessarily with things like tidiness and home organisation to my dismay but with myself. Sometimes the way I can talk to myself in my head if things aren’t, in my opinion, perfect is super unhealthy. Making a mistake is unacceptable, feeling and looking unfit is unacceptable, losing my temper is unacceptable. I have this idea in my head that I must always show up and be the best I can be and I do think it comes a little from childhood and my dance background. I was a straight A student, I was always the slim one because of ballet school and was always the lovely well behaved child that my parents were so proud of on parents night. The only thing about achieving lets say “gold stars” from a young age is that you start to expect that of yourself and as soon as you don’t, it feels like you’ve let not just yourself but everyone down.
The first and in some peoples opinion probably quite silly and trivial step I’ve started to make to overcome this idea is to not wand my hair all the time. What the? Well when I let my hair dry naturally it’s really dead straight, quite limp and definitely doesn’t look “done”. I’d never turn up to a meeting without doing something to it and wouldn’t dream of going on a night out without making it wavy it or even getting a blow dry. My hair is now so damaged from heat and I care more about that now then anything so I said to myself, Lottie you need to go on a night out with your natural straight hair girl. The funny thing is I got so many compliments from my best friends, who were like your hair looks so nice just natural like that. Another light switch moment, making my hair wavy and bouncy was only my own idea of what perfection is. It was pressure that I was putting on myself, no one else even cares!
I still have high standards of myself and I value that side of me, it’s kind of stuck in me more than anything, it’s why it’s taken me all day to write this blog post rather than an hour. It’s in my bones to want to do and look well and feel well but the pressure is going to be off and I’m going to let go that little A star girl inside that maybe just wants to be liked not just by others but by herself.
Number 2: To let go of my own idea of what perfection is.
I’m a worrier. It’s not been as bad as I’ve got older but I remember being little and worrying so much if my mum was a little late home or I’d worry if I didn’t have enough time to do my homework etc. With worrying comes overthinking and getting oneself in a little bit of a muddle. I can let my imagination run wild and my mind can make up such ridiculous out of proportion stories that it keeps me up at night. I’ve had some let downs in my twenties which have caused me to have trust issues in all relationships in my life not just romantically and there’s one quote which sums up how I’m getting over this, “are you in your mind or are you in your body?”. Most of the time we are in our mind, if you actually visualise yourself getting out of your head and down into your gut you feel it, you know the truth. You feel in your body whether to trust or not trust and I’m going to take this concept into decisions I make this year in all areas but also when I’m overthinking something. Get out of that thinking mind.
Number 3: To listen to my gut more than my head.
So here’s to a tee total, unperfect, going with my gut 2018!
I was honoured to be asked my one of my favourite jewellery brands, Daisy London, to be one of the ambassadors for their new healing stones collection. I represent the Rose Quartz pendant which is the crystal of unconditional love and has a subtle pink complexion. I absolutely love it and have been wearing it every day. To have a healing stone that is said to carry a soft, feminine energy of compassion and tenderness around my neck daily is really special and reminds me to always choose love over fear. I got together with the Daisy girls at Farmacy in Notting Hill for a morning of teas, coffee, avocado on toast, pancakes and to talk all things crystals…
Farmacy have a private dining room which was beautifully decorated with plants, candles and crystals. We had a little bit of everything on the menu because everything is so so good but my favourites there are the classic avocado on sourdough, the activated porridge and the rawnola. It was a breakfast table of dreams. I’ve yet to go for dinner but I’ve heard it’s amazing too.
It was really interesting listening to Crystal healer and Reiki master Reeya Avani talk about all the different crystals and what they are good for. It’s like a whole other world. I’ve had some experience with crystals before and really enjoyed a crystal meditation I did recently however I simply enjoy their beauty and their power and especially that of the Rose Quartz. The relationships in my life are so important to me and I’ve always been someone who loves wholeheartedly and I definitely wear my heart on my sleeve. The Rose Quartz is the perfect stone for me because it reminds to keep those bonds in my life strong and to never lose that side of me that I love. I’ve always believed that no matter what life throws at you, heart break, betrayal, pain; you should never allow it to make you hard. The world needs more kindness, more softness and more love.
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