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Life coaching is designed to help people achieve desired outcomes that they would not normally be able to do when left to their own devices. Clients are usually surprised – some times spectacularly so – when they look back on what they have been able to accomplish with the services of a good life coach.

And yet, in this hectic, demanding, confusing and difficult world we live in today, it is becoming increasingly common for life coaches to be approached by prospective clients who claim to have absolutely no idea about what they truly want from life, or even which direction to move in.

“The first step in the right direction is the step away from where you don’t want to be.”

Bill Burridge

A Coaching Case Study (continued)

Life coaches, skilled in helping clients to articulate goals and create action plans to ensure that those goals are achieved, are increasingly being called on to help clients who, despite having no idea of what they would like to accomplish, still demand a ‘quick fix’ solution to their condition!

Based on my involvement in numerous case studies that deal with similar scenarios, I have taken the opportunity to present for discussion, below, a hypothetical conversation between a life coach and a prospective client.

In doing so, it is my hope that this will offer some benefit to coaches who are regularly faced with this type of client and, perhaps more importantly, that it might give non-coaching readers an insight into what life coaching is and how coaching works.

Depending on how this is received I may follow up with Part 2 at a later stage.

In this case study, the client is assumed to be mentally and physically well and not suffering from any condition that would require prior treatment from a medical doctor, counsellor or psychologist.

I have differentiated between life coach and client by emboldening the coach’s words and indenting the client’s responses.

What would you ideally like to achieve through life coaching?

I need help. My life is directionless and I feel so demotivated.

I’m sorry to hear that … but the great news is that by committing to life coaching you will bring about a real transformation in how you think and feel. Does that sound good to you?

Yes, but I guess it depends on what you mean by ‘committing’. I don’t have a lot of money or spare time so I was hoping one session with you might be enough. I just need you to point me in the right direction.

May I ask you how long you have been feeling the way you described?

Oh, it must be getting on for nearly eighteen months now.

I see. Given that these feelings have been developing for well over a year, do you think it is realistic to turn things around in just one session with me?

Well, I suppose you have a point. But as I said, I just need some guidance and advice from you to help me get direction. I was hoping this session with you would help.

I’m sure it will, but I need you to know that, as a life coach, I am not here to advise you on what to do or to point you in a particular direction.

But I thought that was your job?

Well, think about it this way. If I advised you to do X,Y and Z that would be advice based on my frame of reference about life, derived from all the learnings, experiences and events I have been exposed to. What is important is getting to understand your unique frame of reference and then tailoring a solution and a way forward that fits best with that.

But I am so uncertain right now that I feel I need someone else to give me direction.

I want you to understand that you are the only one with the knowledge of what is the right direction for you. I also want you to rest assured that, deep down at some level, you DO know what that is.

Then why do I feel so confused about what is the right way forward for me?

You may be surprised to find that this is more common than you think. In today’s world, we are all bombarded with the many demands of the external world we live in. Our conscious minds are so consumed by what it is we should do and what we think we ought to do to meet the expectations of others, that we lose our connection with our own inner beings that know what it is we truly want for ourselves.

I can relate to what you say about all the demands and expectations. When I think about it I get scared and down. Can you guide me towards a happier place?

No, but I can do even better than that. I can guide you to guide yourself towards a happier and more fulfilling life. Does that make sense?

Yes but how, when I am so confused that I have no idea which way to turn?

By introducing you to you various concepts, tools and techniques that will help you connect with your inner being. You will begin to understand why you are where you are, what it is you really want for yourself and what changes you will need to make to bring about that desired future.

That sounds great but it sounds like a long process.

You know what? Some people spend their entire lives chasing happiness and fulfilment without really ever achieving their aim. All I would ask of you is to invest three to four months of your time in the life coaching process. If at any stage you feel you are not making progress, you can opt out. How does that sound?

I’m sorry if I sound impatient and even a little sceptical. I suppose I am just desperate to get my life back on track again asap.

I completely understand. You deserve that and a lot more. Please believe me when I tell you that you will get what you want, provided that you remain totally committed to the end goal and the process and that you do the work required along the way.

Oh, oh, you’re making it sound like I’m in for some hard work! That’s the last thing I need right now given my motivation levels.

Ha, ha, don’t worry, your motivation level is something we’ll be working on together! Right now, may I ask you to take a minute or two to share one or two major achievements or highlights in your life to date?

Yes, well, I do remember how proud I was when I was awarded my degree in sociology.

That’s an amazing achievement. Now, did you have to put any hard work in to achieve that?

Yes, of course, three years of hard graft!

What else are you proud of?

Two years ago my partner and I celebrated 10 years of marriage. We treated ourselves to an unforgettable tropical island holiday. It felt so good!

How wonderful for you both! Did it take much effort to get to that point?

Oh, for sure, marriage is great but it needs a real commitment to make it work.

Yes, indeed. Thinking about the two achievements you mentioned and the work and commitment you had to put in, would you say you felt highly motivated at the time?

Oh yes, of course … but that was then. Now things are different.

What is different, exactly?

Well, I felt really passionate about getting a degree as neither of my parents had achieved that. I have also always felt passionate about maintaining a loving and committed marriage. Unfortunately, today, I struggle to feel any real passion and excitement for my career.

Am I hearing you correctly that your level of motivation is linked to how passionate you feel about what you are working towards and right now you are lacking that passion in your work?

Yes, you got that spot on. I just don’t know where my career is going or whether it is the right career for me. I feel flat!

Right! But would you agree that when you feel inspired or passionate about something that you feel is really worth achieving in life, you find it easy, even exciting, to put in the necessary work and commitment?

Yes, I guess that’s very true.

Great! Well, that’s all I’m asking for from you. You’ve already demonstrated that you have what it takes. Oh, and by the way, coaching is not all hard work. We’re going to have loads of fun along the way.

Fun?

Oh, definitely! Life is meant to be fun and life coaching is no different. You and I will work hard but we’ll play hard too. I can assure you, we’ll have plenty of laughs along the way.

Really? It just seems ages since I had any fun. Look, I’m quite keen to give this a try. I just don’t know if I can afford to pay for the number of sessions you are suggesting.

Forgive me if this sounds a little dramatic but what if you had a life threatening disease and I told you I could cure you. Would you find the money to pay my fees?

Of course, what a question!

Well, if you look at where you are right now, I would describe you as having a life threatening condition. Your ability to live a happy, fulfilled and meaningful life is threatened by the fact that you are stuck and don’t know what to do, not so?

When you put it like that, I have to agree with you. So, apart from my commitment to the necessary fees, time and work you described, what else do I need to bring to our sessions?

I’m glad you asked that. You’ll need to bring an open mind. You see, you’re going to learn a LOT about yourself, what drives your day to day actions and behaviours, why you believe what you do, what you truly value in life, how surprisingly hard you can be on yourself, why you relate to others the way you do and why they relate to you the way they do.

Gosh, that’s a lot to take in. I hope there is no brainwashing involved!

Oh my goodness, please put that idea out of your head right now.

With life coaching you, the client, are always in complete control. You see, my role is essentially one of a facilitator. I’ll hold the mirror up to you but only you can decide what you like about what you see and what you want to change. My job will be to show you some tools to help you make those changes and then I’ll hold you to account in taking the actions you agree that you need to take.

It seems, that if what you say is to be believed, I should expect to be a very different person at the end of all this.

Actually, you’ll be exactly the same wonderful person I’m looking at right now. The difference is that you will be a great deal more self aware. You will understand yourself a lot better, you will know exactly what you want from life and you will be equipped and motivated to go after exactly that.

So, I will have found the direction I need?

More than that, you will have had time to think deeply about – and hopefully come to discover – your true purpose in life.

Wow, that sounds exciting … but frankly it feels like a thousand miles away from where I am right now!

Well, you know what they say … the journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step. And I’m so proud of you for taking that first step and coming to see me today! Now, are you ready to stride out on the rest of this fascinating journey with me?

OK, I’m feeling quite nervous but at the same time excited. I haven’t felt this way for quite some time.

I’m so pleased. Come on now, let’s get this show on the road!

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This week’s post is a little different, in the hope of inspiring your interaction and self reflection.

I’ve come up with fifty simple statements that I invite you to either agree or disagree with.

Why?

Because I think you may find it a very useful tool to promote self reflection, an essential ingredient in the growth and development process – and something we could all benefit from doing more of!

I’ll share more of my thoughts on this after the exercise. For now I invite you to take a separate sheet of paper and write the numbers 1 – 50 down the page. For each of the statements below, simply decide whether you agree or disagree and then write either A (agree) or D (disagree) next to the corresponding number on your sheet.

Don’t dwell on each statement. Read it once, choose your answer immediately as it comes into your head and move on to the next one. This exercise shouldn’t take you more than a few minutes.

“Self reflection is a humbling process. It’s essential to find out why you think, say and do certain things … then better yourself.”

– April Maroshick

Self Reflection – The 50 Statement Test (continued)

1. You frequently find yourself saying “life is hard”.

2. You are a great believer in celebrating success.

3. You are adept at justifying and assigning blame when things go wrong.

4. You believe that we are all unique and yet all connected.

5. You find the thought of being alone with nature boring.

6. You tend to take a real interest in people you talk to.

7. You spend a lot of time caught up in the past.

8. You don’t easily judge others without making an effort to understand their points of view.

9. You believe that quality of life depends on the ‘luck of the draw’.

10. You regard yourself as a relatively selfless individual.

11. You believe in the saying ‘an eye for an eye’.

12. You are good at asking questions that make others open up to you.

13. The thought of substantial change makes you quite fearful.

14. You are very comfortable with your own company.

15. You tend to judge other people by your own standards.

16. You are a curious and open minded person.

17. You can be very self critical.

18. You are a great believer in the power of the mind.

19. You harbour a number of regrets and/or grudges.

20. You judge people on their actions, not on their words.

21. You believe that, in this world, dishonesty pays.

22. You believe that people create their own realities.

23. You can ‘sum people up’ just minutes after meeting them.

24. You readily enjoy and embrace diversity.

25. You prefer to do most of the talking when in company.

26. You have a fascination with what makes people tick.

27. You love having a stable routine.

28. You derive great joy from seeing other people being inspired.

29. You rarely think about the scale and wondrousness of the universe.

30. You are a good listener.

31. You don’t feel happy unless you are busy.

32. You are really good at honouring commitments to others.

33. You believe life is a game in which you have to try to win more than you lose.

34. The process of change is a subject that really interests you.

35. You are a born sceptic.

36. You are someone who can be relied on to do what they say they will do.

37. Your happiness is dependent on what you own.

38. You are generally very respectful of other people.

39. When you come up against a problem you tend to put off dealing with it.

40. You believe in the saying “If something isn’t growing it is dying”.

41.You judge yourself based on what others say to you and about you.

42. You are deeply concerned about protecting the environment.

43. You lack tolerance for people whose views differ greatly from yours.

44. You have a feeling that there is a great deal more to life than we realise.

45. You worry a great deal about the future.

46. You care a lot about ensuring you communicate clearly and unambiguously.

47. You believe the purpose of life is to feather your own nest.

48. You rarely harbour feelings of jealousy or envy.

49. You set very tough standards for yourself.

50. You really trust your intuition.

Have you finished?

Well done.

Now, consider each of the statements above that carries an even number  (2, 4, 6, etc.) count how many you have agreed with. Give yourself four points for each one.

Now consider each of the statements that carries an odd number (1,3,5, etc.). Count how many you have agreed with and assign four points to each of these.

Next, take the total score for the even numbered agrees and deduct the total score from the odd numbered agrees.

The highest score you could achieve is +100 and the lowest -100.

Is your final score positive or negative? How positive or how negative?

Let me assure you that this is not some form of scientific profiling method and your score on this shouldn’t necessarily be interpreted as either ‘good’ or ‘bad’. It is intended rather for your own self reflection.

These statements are all derived from various aspects of our life coach training programme.

Generally speaking, the higher you score on this the more likely you are to make a wonderful life coach helping people achieve their goals and dreams. Alternatively, the higher you score, the more likely you are to respond well to receiving life coaching.

A low score doesn’t necessarily preclude you from considering life coaching as a career or from being coached effectively but it does mean you can expect to experience a greater degree of adjustment and change through exposure to the training or life coaching.

My hope is that this exercise has left you with some food for thought!

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Life can seem terribly complex at times, to the point where many ask the question: “What is all this really about?”

In that classic novel, ‘The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy‘ a supercomputer, called Deep Thought, was charged with finding the answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe and everything.

After running a vast number of calculations for a period of 7.5 million years, it produced the answer – 42!

“Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is.”

– Mandy Hale

KISS your way to happiness (continued) Extremely simple

Computers are, of course, devoid of emotion, so perhaps Deep Thought was expressing, in it’s computeristic way, that the answer – to what appears to us humans to be a thoroughly intricate issue – is really extremely simple.

Indeed, some would argue that the whole point of life is to experience maximum happiness, or in other words joy, pleasure, contentedness, satisfaction and well-being.

Living a purpose driven life requires time

At New Insights, we equip our trainee life coaches to help others to come to terms with their purpose in life because we believe that living a purpose driven life is the only sustainable way to experience happiness.

But finding and living one’s life purpose is, at least for most people, the outcome of a personal process of transformation and not something that happens from one day to the next.

Happiness on a day-to-day basis

So, throughout the coaching process, we impart the importance of learning to allow oneself to experience happiness on a day-to-day basis.

You may be thinking: “Why allow oneself? Surely happiness is the outcome of getting what we want and that takes dedication and hard work?”

Our capacity to manufacture happiness: a revealing TED talk

At this point, let me refer you to a fascinating TED talk called ‘The surprising science of happiness’ by Dan Gilbert.

In it, Gilbert references the role of the prefrontal cortex in our brains in helping us to simulate experiences in our minds before we have them in real life. He cites the example of liver and onion flavoured ice cream – most of us have absolutely no desire to try it because of our ability to simulate the experience of tasting it in our minds!

But the results of extensive research has shown that our mind simulators are inclined to make us believe that different outcomes are a lot more different than, in fact, they really are.

To illustrate this, Gilbert asks his audience to contemplate two different futures brought on by different experiences and then, through mind simulation, choose which one they believe would result in them being happier.

Experience one is winning the US lottery and experience two is becoming paraplegic.

Nervous laughter rings out from the audience as they think the answer is all too painfully obvious … but then he references real data for people who have had such experiences only to show that a year after the experience, lottery winners and paraplegics report almost exactly the same levels of happiness.

If you’re interested, look up the video for more detail, but the essence of Gilbert’s message is that we tend to spend time and effort chasing experiences and outcomes that we think will make us happy, whereas it so happens that those are far less reliable predictors of happiness than we think.

Or, in other words …

Whether we believe it or not, we all have the capacity to ‘manufacture’ our own happiness, no matter the experiences we have or the situations that we find ourselves in !

Fifty Things Thant Make Me Happy

Let’s bet back to New Insights life coaching.

There are numerous exercises in our coaching programme that encourage clients to ‘manufacture’ their own happiness. One that I particularly like is called ‘Fifty Things That Make Me Happy’.

Note the wording ‘make me happy’ as opposed to ‘will make me happy’.

The elegance of this exercise is that it moves clients from living in a state where they constantly strive for happiness to a state where they recognise the happiness that exists in their lives every day.

The KISS principle

In creating the list of fifty things, the trick is to Keep It Straightforward and Simple (KISS).

Surprisingly perhaps, it is the simple and most natural things that are best at promoting our happiness.

Here’s a few examples:

  • Getting into a cosy bed on a cold night
  • Hugging my partner / a dear friend
  • The unconditional love I get from my pets
  • That first cup of coffee in the morning
  • Watching a beautiful sunset/sunrise
  • Strolling in the park
  • Listening to my favourite music
  • The smell of breakfast cooking
  • The feeling of sand between my toes on the beach

Why don’t you try this exercise for yourself?

Coming up with fifty things may sound like a lot until you start … and then my guess is you’ll start wondering what to leave out!

Associating happiness with the present

Getting used to associating happiness with your present day-to-day life, rather than some imagined future, is, I believe, the secret to developing a ‘happiness mindset’.

I wish you happy days!

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Do you suffer from a nagging doubts about your own ability to achieve the life you really want?

If so, please rest assured that you’re not alone.

My involvement with life coaching has helped me appreciate that most of us grossly underestimate our ability to live the life of our dreams.

We aren’t born with a lack of self belief. In fact, as you’ve no doubt noticed, most young kids believe anything is possible!

We unwittingly allow it to be imposed upon us, often – ironically – by those with our best interests at heart.

“Never bend your head. Hold it high. Look the world right in the eye!”

– Helen Keller

Self Belief, the secret to a meaningful life (continued) One big power trip

You only have to read the newspapers or watch the news and it will become clear that life, for some people, and groups of people, is one big power trip.

For those who struggle with the idea that there is natural abundance in the universe – and one look at the inequality and suffering that exists on earth is enough to convince many – achieving a position of power can easily become an obsession.

An opportunity to manipulate and control

Positions of power, for those who pay lip service to moral and ethical values, offer an opportunity to manipulate and control the actions and behaviours of others in order to feed their unscrupulous hunger for money and status.

By sharing the spoils of power with with other shamelessly self-centred and pliable individuals they can quickly expand and entrench their powerbase until it becomes self perpetuating.

The world, both past and present, is replete with examples of this wherever you care to look – in politics, religion, the corporate world and even in professional sport.

What has this got to do with self belief?

Well, the last thing that greedy people in power need or want, is people who stand up to them and publicly expose their duplicity and self interested motives.

Shut down criticism

So they will go to increasing lengths to shut down criticism and ‘discipline’ those who question them or the movement that they represent.

They will invoke powerful yet disingenuous means to validate the need for such action, such as ‘the interests of our people’, the ‘will of the Creator’, ‘shareholder profits’ or ‘national pride’ for example.

The cancer spreads

In a world where corruption and dictatorship is seen to pay dividends, the cancer spreads – in an insidious trickle down effect – to people in lower order positions of power such as local politicians, religious and community leaders, business leaders and managers, heads of sporting bodies and even school principals and governing bodies.

Disempowering and demeaning

This has a thoroughly disempowering and demeaning effect on the vast majority of us ordinary people, who are honest and with good intentions but without positions of power.

We have to live and survive as best we can in a world where the dice are loaded against us by small but disproportionately strong bands of conniving and manipulative power trippers.

Negative impact on self belief

This causes frustration and confusion and has a severely negative impact on self belief, or our belief in our ability to be, do and have anything we want in life.

As a direct consequence, we lose our child-like ability to envision what is possible and instead of imagining, visualising and creating, we go into our shells and resort to coping.

It is not my intention to cast a pall of gloom over your day. I simply wanted to bring into your conscious awareness how, if we don’t take active measures to prevent it, the world around us will slowly sap our self belief.

The secret to living a meaningful and fulfilling life

Self belief and creative thinking is in short supply. But it is undoubtedly the secret to living a meaningful and fulfilling life.

That’s something I have come to appreciate after many years of experience in the life coaching industry.

How to catapult your self belief

The good news is that, through life coaching, you can catapult your self belief to levels you didn’t know existed.

Transformational life coaching – such as that incorporated into the New Insights life coaching system, builds self belief by exposing individuals to their inner power and their ability to replace restrictive beliefs and thought patterns with empowering and liberating beliefs centred around possibility.

Abundance mentality

Life coaching helps people to connect with their innate gifts and talents and to think out of the box about how they might use such talents to benefit the world.

It promotes a refreshing ‘win-win’ abundance mentality and an approach to life based on the importance of taking personal responsibility and allowing others to live their best lives unrestricted by one’s own actions and behaviours.

Career for the 21st century

It is truly a career for the 21st century – one that is needed more than ever in today’s world.

Perhaps it’s time we introduced life coaching in our schools in an effort to develop and ’future-proof’ the self belief of our children!

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“I am useless at writing exams. I fail every time I sit an exam. I always have to rewrite. It always happens. This is not a belief so much as an established fact. What can I do?”

Life coaches are specially trained with tools and techniques to help their clients dismantle limiting beliefs, or beliefs that disempower them or don’t serve their interests.

And yet, here was a trainee life coach whose own belief was clearly so ingrained that – tools and techniques notwithstanding – she was unable to see any prospect of shifting it!

“The only limits you have are the limits you believe.”

– Dr Wayne Dyer

How to reframe and thereby dismantle your limiting beliefs (continued) Read with empathy

I read the post with a great deal of empathy. It’s hard to think of anyone who hasn’t at some stage in their life believed, with great conviction that:
“I am useless at ABC.”

I’m pretty certain that nearly all of us have or have had an ‘ABC’ that we regard as a serious achilles heel, or ‘weakness’, as we have no doubt been conditioned to refer to it.

Weakness, or ?

Before I share some ideas on how to deal with deeply ingrained limiting beliefs, let me come back to that unfortunate but common term, ‘weakness’.

It’s a term that we humans have readily embraced to describe areas of lesser capability, as opposed to areas of greater capability that we like to call ‘strengths’. But it is also a term that carries a lot of baggage and one that can sometimes be psychologically quite damaging.

Every human being is different and yet, as a common species, we share pretty much the same capabilities. For example, we all have the capability to think and reason. It’s just that in some, that capability is more developed than in others.

Likewise, we all have the capability to move our bodies to a musical rhythm. Some, however are more adept at this skill than others.

That doesn’t mean my inability to dance like Fred Astaire makes dancing a ‘weakness’ of mine. It’s just not a capability that is well developed in me.

Developed and developmental capabilities

I think you get where I am going with this. We all have what I would call developed capabilities and less developed or ‘developmental’ capabilities.

Developed capabilities can arise thanks to natural talent or sheer hard work or – in most cases – a bit of both. Developmental capabilities are not weaknesses, they are simply capabilities that don’t come that naturally and/or those that we have not chosen to work hard enough at.

Let’s get back to the subject of limiting beliefs.

I’d like to start with a story from some time ago in my corporate life.

The limiting belief and the pig

For a great many years, I would happily tell anyone who would listen how utterly hopeless I was at drawing or artwork.

Then, one day, I found myself attending a leadership skills workshop with about a dozen other people. Believe it or not, one of the exercises involved having to draw a pig, of all things. And there was a prize attached!

I completely forget the rationale for the exercise now, but that matters not.

My first thought was to throw in the towel and own up to the instructor that I had absolutely no clue how to draw anything, never mind a pig.

But my ego reined me in … this was a leadership skills workshop after all!

So I grabbed an unlikely form of assistance from my briefcase – a ruler – and set about crafting what was a very geometric, industrial looking, pointy pig!

My efforts and the resulting (truly whacky) ‘pig’ won me the prize of a box of chocolates.

Sweet!

A welcome realisation

Far sweeter, though, was the later realisation that I was, perhaps, not so totally useless when it came to drawing. It was simply more of a challenge for me than for most others … and I could rise to that challenge by leaning on a steady hand and what I had learnt in engineering design 101!

Hopefully, my story offers a neat segue back into the topic of dismantling limiting beliefs by reframing or ‘reinventing’ them.

Subtle reframing

As I explained on The Forum to the lady with the limiting belief about her ability to write exams, a great way to start the dismantling process is to simply and subtly reframe one’s belief.

By adapting one’s thinking from: “I am useless at writing exams” to something a touch more accommodating like: “I find writing exams challenging,” you immediately open the door to possibility. An irredeemable weakness is suddenly reframed as a capability development challenge.

And, as we all know, humans are particularly good at rising to challenges!

Self fulfilling prophecy

A disempowering conviction like: “I am useless at writing exams” is more often than not a self fulfilling prophecy.

Such a mindset leads to negative expectations, which bring about self defeating behaviour with a resultant poor outcome that simply serves to reinforce the negative belief!

However, the belief “I find writing exams challenging,” though only subtly different, encourages the subconscious mind to search for ways to overcome the challenge – like seeking out advice, techniques and support to improve or develop one’s exam writing ability.

A few chinks to start the dismantling process

Ultimately, as I found with my pig, all it takes is a modest improvement or a small ‘win’ to create a few chinks in a limiting belief – that you once thought was a fact of life – for the dismantling process to start!

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Life coaching is becoming increasingly popular as a part– or full time career, as people appreciate the double benefits of having a truly flexible career that can adapt to one’s lifestyle AND one in which the primary aim is to be a catalyst for positive and constructive change in the world.

Just as with any career that involves such important and potentially life changing work, it is primarily the quality, comprehensiveness and ease of application of the training, that will ultimately determine how successful the practitioner is.

Sadly, that fact appears to have been lost on some people.

“There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.”

– Beverly Sills

Life coaching: Why quality training is essential (continued) Evolving questions

I’ve been involved in this industry for nearly twelve years now and am always taken aback by how quickly the dynamics have changed.

When I started New Insights Africa in 2007, our marketing efforts were almost entirely focused on trying to answer the question: “What is life coaching and why might it interest me?” Fast forward to today and the dominant question is “Why should I choose to train with New Insights?”

Of course, this has been the dominant question in the UK for a lot longer as the rise in importance of life coaching began some years earlier there.

Confusing array of courses

The life coaching industry is not government regulated in either country, or for that matter, most other countries. As a consequence, the rapid development in public interest in life coaching has quickly been matched by a confusing array of ‘training courses’ of wildly varying quality.

Not what they are cracked up to be

Unfortunately, many of these are just not what they are cracked up to be.

Less scrupulous operators, who look for an easy entry into the market and the chance to skim off a little of the cream before moving on to the next big thing, will take advantage of some impressive sounding but often rather dubious niche product or service, trumpeting it as the latest ‘essential toolkit’ for life coaches.

Others will throw together short courses that offer an inexpensive, ‘quick fix’ solution to members of the public who place higher value on gaining a certificate than on the inherent quality and rigour of the certification process.

Soon disillusioned

The end result of all this is that many people, lured by the excitement of a potential new career helping others, soon become disillusioned as they realise, soon after completion of their training, that they are simply not equipped with the confidence, skill or practical experience to put their new found knowledge to practice in a business of their own.

Life experience is not enough

At the other end of the scale there are many well intending, but sadly naive people out there who believe that life experience alone qualifies them to print the words ‘life coach’ on a business card.

Just the other day, I spoke with a gentleman who told me he was not convinced of the need for specialist training in life coaching.

“You see, I’ve done so much in my life. I’ve been through the school of hard knocks. I’ve been here and there and I’ve done this and that and I always find that people gravitate to me to seek out my wisdom and advice. It all just comes naturally.”

He sounded a little taken aback when I explained to him that he should perhaps consider taking up mentoring rather than coaching. The primary role of a coach is not to offer ‘wisdom’ or ‘advice’ but rather to empower people to uncover and follow their own inner wisdom and advice – a different skill altogether!

Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that life experience is an obstacle to being a great life coach. To the contrary. It is just that life experience without proper life coach training can result in one’s efforts being misdirected.

Best of both worlds

Of course, a well trained life coach who has extensive life experience offers the best of both worlds.

However, if I were forced to choose between being coached by a comprehensively trained person without a lot of life experience and an untrained person with lots of life experience, I would choose the former every time.

More skill than many may appreciate

The true business of life coaching involves a lot more skill than many may appreciate. There are numerous concepts, tools, techniques and exercises that need to be mastered.

As I was constantly reminded in corporate life, many leaders and others in high places seem conditioned to undervalue the so called ‘soft skills’, such as the ability to work with, understand and motivate people.

That mentality is, I think, slowly but steadily changing … but until it does, it can be intensely frustrating for those of us who appreciate that this skill actually lies at the very heart of any successful business, organisation or relationship.

Don’t compromise on training!

The nub of my message today, for anyone who is considering becoming a life coach (or hiring a life coach, for that matter) is that you underestimate the extent and quality of the training that is required at your peril.

Becoming a life coach, and acting in service to other people and humanity in general, is an admirable aspiration and one that can lead to an amazingly fulfilling and wonderfully rewarding career … but only if you invest in doing it properly without taking short cuts.

Please – don’t compromise on your training!

This is the official Blog for New Insights Life Coach Training. Find out more about life coaching and becoming a life coach here:

SA/Africa: https://www.life-coach-training-sa.com

UK/Europe: https://www.life-coach-training-uk.com

The post Life Coaching: Why Quality Training is Essential appeared first on Life Coaching Insights.

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