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I always get complimented on how cool I am under pressure. For years, people have commented on how well behaved my boys are and how I’m doing well to be a single mom. I must admit my first 3 years were NOT like that. Mama, I had to change my mindset and shift my life. Read on to find out how I did it and how you can, too.

Becoming a single mom does a number on your psyche. It just does. On one hand, you’re trying to be brave and run a household, your life, everyone else’s … and on the other you’re falling apart on the inside. I call it “healing and dealing.” So, how do you go from hot mess to in control? Easy. You must choose to. Read my 5 ways to shift your mindset and change your life as a single mom.

Step 1: Face reality
Hiding seems like a strategy. It is not. What really helps you shift and change your life for the better… sooner is putting things into proper perspective So, I was still “in love” with my kids dad I’d say about a hood 1-1.5 years after we broke ip. In some dorm. So, I made allowances for him hoping he’d be there for his kids, and hoping somehow I could forgive the big half of  crap between us and have a family. (Ask how glad I am NONE of that happened). But, the point is I wasn’t facing reality. I can dream all I want about somebody being good to me or I can watch the fruit. Watch the fruit sis. Then behave accordingly.

Step 2: Build Your Faith
It’s in times like these I’m so glad I have my faith. God brought me a mighty long way and I share that love and forgiveness as often as I can. So, how are you building your faith? I have the utmost respect for all mothers, but I know this mo help thing has given me new appreciation for my tribe. 

Step 3: Get Empowered

I have a phrase where I tell women once they get mad enough to win their lives will change. As I look back it was that tenacity that caused me to make it. Find your fire mama. I started to read more and attend events when I shifted to believing in me. You must so the same. Whatever it takes, pour into you and build you up.  Your babies need a strong leader and God picked you for the job. Rise up!

Step 4: Take Back Your Power

For a while, I believed the lies about me being used goods and no man would want a woman with kids. You better know that is not true. No matter what you’ve been told, you deserve to be happy, healthy, whole, and healed. That’s my system and it is what I had to focus on to take my power back. 

Step 5: Get Mad Enough to WIN
There will be no winning without two sides going against each other. In this case it could be you and your ex, but I’m really speaking to you and your beliefs about what you can do on your own as the leader of your family. Are you tired of losing and are you mad enough to win? This new way of life as a single mom requires focus, love, discipline, etc. How bad do you want to shift and succeed?

I tell people that ask me how I do it all that I had to remove the people and things taking up space in my life, clogging my free time to make room for what matters. You have to go on your journey toward healing and achieving your new goals to figure out what stays and what goes. 

Make these mindset shifts, and you’ll be UNSTOPPABLE. 

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This is the life most of us do not dream about. However, good-hearted, faithful, hard-working, and fabulous women just like you have become single moms, risen above the stigma, raised amazing babies, and lived their best lives. So, breathe, mama. You are going to be okay.

Below, I want to list 7 tips and really the 7 strategies I know have set myself and many others up to WIN at this new and often scary way of life. Through my journey, I’ve learned to embrace my singleness, see the good in it, and go after my dreams while I parented my two now almost grown boys. For 16 years, I’ve given my all to them while also giving to me. Sure, people told me like they will tell you yo focus only on the kids. No ma’am. Where would that leave me when they grow up?  Like my 28 year old is not trying to live with me. I’ve counseled so many moms who’ve stopped living in the name of parenting and in the process don’t know who THEY are. You can do BOTH. I believe I learned a lot, so I can teach you. You can thrive, too. Read on for 7 things you must do first when you become a single mother.

My 7 tips to skip the stress, decrease the worry, and boss up as a single mother.

1. Breathe in. Breathe out.

Don’t try to process it all at once. I know you will ignore me and do it anyway. But no amount of figuring it out will change the fact that it is you and your babies now. Breathe. You’ve got this!

It will be good some days and you’ll feel strong. Then, others, you’ll want to curl up and cry. Do it, get it out of you. Your babies need a leader and by golly it’s you!

2. Make sure the kids are okay

You can be dealing with so much that we forget that the kids need more than food and a roof. They need you. This is where you work on your healing and theirs. This will take time. Be honest. Let them know you are there for them but also need dome grace.

I write about healing a broken heart in my first book. Check it out here. I believe it will bless you.

3. Make a plan

Yep, sit down, dry those eyes, and resolve to make it sister! You can do this but not flying by the seat of your pants. You need a system and you need it now. Look  at how you are running your life. Even if you’ve had  smooth life before this, trust me, you need to plan on kinks so you can balance and pivot and survive. I hate to tell you this but sometimes we are a mess, the kids are a mess, and life gets messy. That’s okay. Do number 1 as often as you need and plan on winning. I’ve created a life plan to help you out. Grab it here! 

4. Look at the money and get it right

Yes, I put money as number 4. That doesn’t mean it isn’t important. It’s just that your mindset in this season is everything. Focus. Then, get the money right. Here is my life plan tips pdf to help you get you and your finances organized.

5. Set up a schedule to keep you and the kids organized

Your ability to maintain your sanity depends on how organized you are. Now, I don’t just mean the house. I mean knowing what is coming in and what is going out.

6. Live

If I could make this number 1 in terms of importance, I would. I’ve seen women dig in and parent and look up snd life has passed them by. Be sure to enjoy your life. Yes, even now in this season. Real talk: I was that woman. It took me 3 years to let go and live. Once I saw my anger and was only hurting me, I moved on. But it took time and I wish I could get those years back.

7. Shift Your Thinking

Your first feeling will be “LAWD, woe is me”, How did this happen, anger, bitterness, heartache, disbelief, etc. You will experience a mix of these really. That’s okay. Feel them. Grieve the loss. Do what you must. And then get yourself up and parent. Get yourself up and raise those babies. Get yourself up and heal. Love again. Dream again. You deserve better, so how will you get it? You must shift from losing to WINNING. I’ll show you how.

Need to chat with an expert who knows EXACTLY where you are? Click here (calendly.com/KaywandaLamb/consult). I’m rooting for you mama! Rise up! 

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 Oh, I can see it so clearly. I was young, fabulous, and full of dreams. Those few years of young adulthood without kids when my money was mine and I did what I wanted were glorious. Can you picture your good ole days, sis? Errrrr! That’s over.

News Flash: If you are going to thrive and not just survive, you’ve got to break some single life habits. No worries. I’m here to help.

If you can grasp these 5 tips which can be temporary until you balance out what is what, you’ll feel better and actually survive this new life. I know it ain’t right. I know you didn’t plan this. I know you have a million feels going on but stay with me. Retail therapy is not gonna fix this. The way you win mama is to THRIVE anyway.Read on for what I wish I knew when I started out where you are now.

1. You can’t keep eating out daily

I just lived it up single. Outback Steakhouse with friends. That was my stuff. This was almost 20 years ago so we were glad to    every Friday spending money. If I had said 1 weekend a month and bought stock with the rest, I’d be on my yacht right now. Think about it. 20 years of investing in good and bad seasons. (Where is the duh emoji when you need it?) But I learned, and I want to help you not be me Mama, put those coins to good use.

2. You need to save something every week

Speaking of my hint at investing, you need to save something weekly. One dollar adds up. I wrote a post on different things you can do to save. Read it here.

When I finally grasped that I could save something small and still pay my bills, baby! And don’t let me follow Dave Ramsey (daveramsey.com)  (which I did/do) and pay off some debt and get an emergency fund started. Sis, all of this is possible. You must see differently and do accordingly. Save your change and it will add up.

3. You cannot buy on sight right now.

Tame that inner spender. A budget is your friend. I buy seasonally, and I shop sales. Now, I buy quality things that last me instead of going lowest price for 1 season of wear. We gotta use our coins wisely sis. But quality on sale and take care of it. Mix and match your old pieces. Follow my friends Leah Frazier (inspirenstyle.com) and Leah the Creative (thriftbossshop.com) for some fashion tips.

4. Say NO.

Your single friends love you but don’t have your responsibility. Can I tell you how rich I would be had I known and done this when I started out? Say No sis! You are now thinking of you and your family. If you get child support or not, we both know that doesn’t cover all you have to pay for, so live wisely. Covet those coins and stack them.

Ask yourself, “Is this the highest and best use of my money right now?” Some things are good but not at the moment. No is a whole sentence. They understand. Or will when they see you winning! Be honest and let them help you.

Sidebar: Sometimes you will want to live and splurge. Go head girl if you got it! But remember, not at the expense of your family, tent, or peace of mind.

5. Know what you’re doing before you do it

You must create a roadmap for your life. It looks different now than you planned, do spend some time resetting your goals, assessing where you are, and utilizing your resources to build. In order to use your coins wisely, you must be aware of your total picture. Don’t avoid it. Face it! Check out the life plan I created for amazing single moms like you.

Well, I’m keeping it real as a mom who’s been broke, hungry, and almost homeless a couple of times. Crap happens. It’s life. Following these tips will help you avoid some pitfalls that got me. But I bounced back though. You will, too. Keep your head up and keep pushing. And if you want to know how to level up your coins, I got you covered right here. Download my FREE ebook “9 Ways to Save Money as a Single Mom.” And share it sis! Sharing is caring darling. And I want us all to WIN!

Did you enjoy today’s post? What do you think about the tips above? Have you tried some of these? Sound off in the comments. Let’s chat!

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I used to think vision boards were for crafty, visual people. I’m not crafty honey, but I do learn visually. So 3 years ago,  I decided to give it a try. Now, I’ve always dreamed of what I wanted and worked more or less toward it. So, I’m not saying it allowed me to see. What it did was allow me to see “it” every day. So, I’m encouraging you to create a visual reminder of your goals, dreams, and heart’s desires that you will set before God and work toward over the next year. It changed my life, and I believe it will change yours. Here are my “7 reasons you should make a vision board as a single mom.”

7 reasons you should make a vision board as a single mom It will help you focus on your future

There is absolutely nothing more powerful than envisioning your future. Once you do it, your mind moves you toward your goal. When I listen to Tony Robbins’ story of how he decided he’d never be poor again, he is telling us that he first dreamed of being rich and his actions followed. Listen, I’ve heard him talk about being hungry for Thanksgiving and knowing within himself he’d never allow himself to be there again. What happened? He got intentional. He dared to dream and to do the work. He also feeds people every year as a way to give back and help others who are where he once was. (Listen, giving will change your life.) There is so much power in setting your intention to focus on your future. Question is “Are you listening?”

If thousands of people are telling you to create a vision board, create it sis. If nothing else is gained, you will develop focus. And with laser focus comes goals. What do we do with goals? Around here, we crush em! Woo!

It will encourage you in your current season

Knowing you have better coming somewhere down the line encourages you to try harder. When I create my vision boards every year, I have no idea if the dreams will come true but I am encouraged to push for them ALL year-long when I see that board hanging on my wall day in and day out. So it is with you. Write your vision and let it inspire you to succeed.

It will help you actually implement your goals

It’s not magic, but it sure seems like it. Every year what I write down comes true. Some call it attraction. I call it Bible. In fact, Habakkuk 2:2 says “write the vision and make it plain so that she who reads it may run with it.” Listen, that makes me want to shout. By simply creating the vision or writing it down, you help you implement.

I always create a word for the year. Read this for inspiration.

You will become more focused, organized, and excited

The trade-off to spending hours cutting and pasting, writing and envisioning is the focus, organization, and excitement this activity builds in you. I wish I could stop speaking the power of vision, but I can’t. So, if you’ve lost your vision, create a board. This will help you focus on what it is you say you want and the rest will come.

They are fun to make

Let me keep it real, mama. They’re FUN! I have so much fun hosting vision board parties. (Okay, I only host one per year, and it’s happening this weekend in Dallas on January 21st). I have so much fun because one of my gifts is encouragement. I get to encourage single moms to dream again, to focus, to choose their big scary thing and put it down on paper challenging the universe to mess with their dream. I GET TO HELP MAMAS relax, refresh, and reset! Woo! There is no feeling like when I host this annual vision board party. It’s like no other because I know how important it is for us to be whole, so we can parent our babies. Therefore, I have to provide a transformational experience that is fun and one you’ll never forget.

Let’s write your vision so you can run with it!

You will enjoy the soothing and creative side of planning your future

Let’s just say NO KIDS ALLOWED. Listen Linda, I love my boys, but I need mommy time to think and be a woman. So, do you! You have to allow your vision time to breathe, you have to give it legs, and you need time to plot this God-given vision. So, your creative side needs to have no limits. And when we have our kids, we’re focused on their needs aka limited attention span and no time to focus on mama. Tsk. Tsk. Tsk! This day will be all about you.

It sets your intention for the year

There is nothing … and I mean nothing like knowing where you are going. You must set your intention for the year.  “Oh, I’ll just wing it!” NO! Set your intention. Plan where you will focus your energy and tell life where you want to go. Soon you’ll look up and be there. I dare you. Create your vision and write me at year’s end with how it worked for you.

I’m late posting this, but if you’re in the Dallas area, don’t miss this opportunity to create your vision to rock your life. If you don’t live here or read this too late, cheer up. Get your supplies and craft your vision. As long as you make a plan for your life, you cannot go wrong. You simply have to sit down and write the vision and make it plain. Happy New Year! It’s time to wake up, rise up, and level up.

Do you create a yearly vision? Have you seen progress? Will you create a vision board this year? Comment and let us know!

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Being a single parent is a tough job. Being a single parent and a guy has got to be harder. But this single dad makes it look easy. Ladies, this one is for the fellas. Of course, read on and watch on. Jay Jackson is about to blow your mind and show you just how you can chase your dreams and raise your babies. Hint: organization and me time is key.

Listen, we get into it all: parenting, dream chasing, and dating again. Woo! You’re gonna like this one fellas.

The Successful Single Dad Interview with Jay Jackson - YouTube

Well, what do you think? Would you add something else to what we discussed that you believe has caused you to be a successful single dad? Looking forward to hearing from you. Please share with men who could use this encouragement and information on how to become a successful single dad. Also, check Jay out at MrJayJackson.com.

One thing is for sure, practice does make perfect. Getting in their and parenting day in and day out is the only way to get better. But, as you know, we can decrease our learning curve by seeking out experts who have been there and by sharing what we know with others. I pray this has blessed you, and I wish you much success.

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For the poor and middle class, interest is quite frankly the devil’s pitchfork, right?! But for those who are into wealth building, there’s this thing called compound interest that can make the difference between how their assets are acquired and where their great-great-great-grandchildren attend college. The wealthy use interest in a way that builds their assets, not deplete them. That’s, in my opinion, the greatest difference. We’ll talk more about that later, but for the purpose of this article, we’re interested in interest as it relates to credit cards.
When I decided to begin my personal journey of biting the bullet and holding myself fully responsible for building my family’s wealth, first through improving my own financial literacy, I determined early on that I would pretty consistently enroll in financial literacy and wealth building courses/trainings. One of the courses that has had the greatest impact on my personal asset building journey has been the M.O.S.E.S. Movement Training Course. During one of the trainings, William R. Patterson, talked about the use of credit. He mentioned how the wealthy only use credit when using cash or funds directly from a checking account would cost them more money. Let me give you an example of this.
I’m sure many of us have rented cars for trips or when your main transportation breaks down. If you use a debit card versus a credit card, the rental company puts a hold on your debit card that is beyond the rental amount. As someone who used to work for a renal car company, I know that the holds can vary from $150 to well over $500 per rental. If you’re traveling on a strict budget, that held money may be your gas or meal money. Even worse, you may find yourself in a position where you weren’t expecting the hold, your children are looking at you with excitement about the trip, and you end up accepting the hold and causing your account to be overdrawn; because, well, you have to eat…right?
While wealthy people don’t have to deal with the potential of their accounts being overdrawn, this is so; because they are meticulous about where they place their money and how they spend it. This equates to having complete control over their funds. So, if there is the possibility that they will be charged more or more of their funds will become forcibly held from them for a period of time, they use their credit cards for those instances. Once they’ve returned from their trips or finished their rentals (well within 30 days), they pay off the borrowed amount and prevent any interest charges. You see how that works? They manipulate the credit to their own advantages. Perhaps manipulate seems too strong of a word. Let’s say, they make the credit work for them versus allowing it to hurt them. They borrow the money to prevent losing money, then they quickly repay the borrowed money to the credit card company before being charged interest. In this equation, the credit card company has their money back, no third parties got more money than they had rights to, and the borrower wasn’t charged any interest. Everyone is happy. But let’s be clear, doing this requires the borrower to already have the cash to pay for the charges they’re putting on their credit cards. They’re not using the cards to pay for something they could not afford with cash, if cash was an acceptable option that wouldn’t cost them more money to use. They call this responsible borrowing. We discussed this a little in the article What To Teach My Children About Credit.
Just think, if everyone who has credit cards practiced this, the credit card companies would go out of business, because they wouldn’t make any money from lending; and hotels, rental companies,…etc. would have to drop these holding fees, because there simply wouldn’t be an alternative to debit or cash.
The challenge is, practicing responsible borrowing requires discipline and meticulous money management. Many of us get a large sum of money (perhaps in a tax refund) and we’re so entertained by the relief of having more than we’d previously had, that we relish in the feeling of carefree spending by not keeping close watch of how much and when we’re spending. This goes on until our cards are rejected or we’re hit with an overdraft fee that brings that carefree spending to a screeching halt. Our children see all of this. And if we teach them better habits by improving upon our own spending and money management, they’ll be in a position where they don’t have to unlearn the poor habits, because all they’ll know is the good habits. Additionally, if they learn these habits and how money works, now (presumably far earlier than teenage-hood), by the time they go away to college or graduate from high school, they’ll know how to properly use credit cards and do so to their own advantage.
So, instead of just telling our children to be careful with credit cards or to stay away from getting a bunch of cards when they go off to college, like I was told, let’s provide them with greater mass of how and why this is so important, beyond just the concept of getting into huge credit card debt.
What are your thoughts? Leave your comment below and use the #RaisingBlackMillionaires hashtag to comment on social. If you missed the last article, here it is Our Children’s Roles In Legacy Maintenance.
Bestselling Author, Speaker & Podcast Host
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The Reality of Our Wealth Gap

For the poor and middle class, interest is quite frankly the devil’s pitchfork, right?! But for those who are into wealth building, there’s this thing called compound interest that can make the difference between how their assets are acquired and where their great-great-great-grandchildren attend college. The wealthy use interest in a way that builds their assets, not deplete them. That’s, in my opinion, the greatest difference. We’ll talk more about that later, but for the purpose of this article, we’re interested in interest as it relates to credit cards.

When I decided to begin my personal journey of biting the bullet and holding myself fully responsible for building my family’s wealth, first through improving my own financial literacy, I determined early on that I would pretty consistently enroll in financial literacy and wealth building courses/trainings. One of the courses that has had the greatest impact on my personal asset building journey has been the M.O.S.E.S. Movement Training Course. During one of the trainings, William R. Patterson, talked about the use of credit. He mentioned how the wealthy only use credit when using cash or funds directly from a checking account would cost them more money. Let me give you an example of this.

Why How You Use Credit Matters

I’m sure many of us have rented cars for trips or when your main transportation breaks down. If you use a debit card versus a credit card, the rental company puts a hold on your debit card that is beyond the rental amount. As someone who used to work for a renal car company, I know that the holds can vary from $150 to well over $500 per rental. If you’re traveling on a strict budget, that held money may be your gas or meal money. Even worse, you may find yourself in a position where you weren’t expecting the hold, your children are looking at you with excitement about the trip, and you end up accepting the hold and causing your account to be overdrawn; because, well, you have to eat…right?

While wealthy people don’t have to deal with the potential of their accounts being overdrawn, this is so; because they are meticulous about where they place their money and how they spend it. This equates to having complete control over their funds. So, if there is the possibility that they will be charged more or more of their funds will become forcibly held from them for a period of time, they use their credit cards for those instances. Once they’ve returned from their trips or finished their rentals (well within 30 days), they pay off the borrowed amount and prevent any interest charges. You see how that works? They manipulate the credit to their own advantages. Perhaps manipulate seems too strong of a word. Let’s say, they make the credit work for them versus allowing it to hurt them. They borrow the money to prevent losing money, then they quickly repay the borrowed money to the credit card company before being charged interest. In this equation, the credit card company has their money back, no third parties got more money than they had rights to, and the borrower wasn’t charged any interest. Everyone is happy. But let’s be clear, doing this requires the borrower to already have the cash to pay for the charges they’re putting on their credit cards. They’re not using the cards to pay for something they could not afford with cash, if cash was an acceptable option that wouldn’t cost them more money to use. They call this responsible borrowing. We discussed this a little in the article What To Teach My Children About Credit.

Just think, if everyone who has credit cards practiced this, the credit card companies would go out of business, because they wouldn’t make any money from lending; and hotels, rental companies,…etc. would have to drop these holding fees, because there simply wouldn’t be an alternative to debit or cash.

How to Use Credit Better to Teach Your Children

The challenge is, practicing responsible borrowing requires discipline and meticulous money management. Many of us get a large sum of money (perhaps in a tax refund) and we’re so entertained by the relief of having more than we’d previously had, that we relish in the feeling of carefree spending by not keeping close watch of how much and when we’re spending. This goes on until our cards are rejected or we’re hit with an overdraft fee that brings that carefree spending to a screeching halt. Our children see all of this. And if we teach them better habits by improving upon our own spending and money management, they’ll be in a position where they don’t have to unlearn the poor habits, because all they’ll know is the good habits. Additionally, if they learn these habits and how money works, now (presumably far earlier than teenage-hood), by the time they go away to college or graduate from high school, they’ll know how to properly use credit cards and do so to their own advantage.

So, instead of just telling our children to be careful with credit cards or to stay away from getting a bunch of cards when they go off to college, like I was told, let’s provide them with greater mass of how and why this is so important, beyond just the concept of getting into huge credit card debt.

What are your thoughts? Leave your comment below and use the #RaisingBlackMillionaires hashtag to comment on social. If you missed the last article, here it is Our Children’s Roles In Legacy Maintenance.

Thiah Veona Muhammad

Bestselling Author, Speaker & Podcast Host

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Wow! I remember my first date after my kids’ dad, and it was terrible. The guy was super tall and ginormous. And let’s be honest, I’m pretty tall. So for me to be intimidated is tough. But I was. He was very blunt and somehow a friend of mine thought we’d be the perfect match and hooked us up. Let’s just say we had the one date. I was like “Thank you so much, but no thank you.” It wasn’t his height or size even though I was having a hissy fit trine to figure out how to reach up high enough to hug him bye. Lol! I’m almost 6 feet so again, he was a giant. 

What I learned was that just because someone is single doesn’t mean they’re lonely and just because you have a single friend, and I have a single friend they don’t need to meet each other. Okay! 

So, like many of you, I muddled through the years dating here and there and raising babies. I, too, had the “there are no good men” conversation and then I had some great relationships. What did I learn? That people are people. And that we all have certain types. We need to know what we like, what we want and don’t want and that will make dating go a lot smoother. Enter my dating challenge.

Enter anytime 5 day dating confidence challenge for single moms

Woo! I’m so excited to offer this because I know at the top of our lists as single moms is having someone to do life with. I’ve been coaching moms and loving it, so I thought it would be great to help more women get to the place of their own happy and teach them how to let love in. You’ve probably noticed my brunches I’ve had this year promoting the same thing and so let’s get you on the road to good love. 

Join the 5 day Good Love Challenge right here. I promise you’ll find that love isn’t as hard to get to as you think and even learn a thing or too about what you really want in a mate.

See you inside the challenge! And remember, you can be a great mom, chase your dreams, and make room for good love. I do!

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I live in an apartment with two teen boys. They constantly eat up all the food, have 3 tvs on at once, and forget to turn the lights off. EVERY day! Oh the joys of being a kid! That’s why I’m super geeked to use Hive Home products. They will save me on energy bills because let’s face it, kids are not bothered one bit by “Turn off the lights.” If you feel my pain and are looking for convenience, read on as I share how I am lighting up my life with Hive.

What are Hive Home Products

Hive Home sent me this package of amazingness to try, and I’m already in love. It came with a Hive Active Thermostat, two Hive Window or Door Sensors, two Hive Active Lights, and a Hive Hub. It’s a set of smart devices that work together to help me do less and with less hassle. Each of these work together wirelessly to monitor usage, entry and exit, and to turn things off if your forget or schedule whenever you want.

Once you connect the hub to your router, magic happens. You see everything inside the app or on your computer screen. The items are well made, modern sleek. I like that they are not obtrusive and actually blend into my decor.

My Review of Hive Home Products

This is a sponsored post, and I am ecstatic to be able to share how I use these products. One, I work from home a lot and the lighting in my apartment is very warm. My cabinets are that deep cherry almost black and so that hurts the lighting. As a blogger, I have a lighting kit, but just one light has changed everything. I will have to do video later for you to see. I am impressed and relieved.

I do a lot of my work at night when the house is quiet and the boys are fed and taken care of. But, I have to deal with harsh lighting. Not with Hive. This is amazing to me.

Besides coming with sensors, having great lighting, and even turning on and off with the active plug, I can control it all from my iPhone or computer. Hallelujah! I mean how cool is that! So, I’ve literally been playing with dimming the light and opening and closing the door to see it register. So, you say, how is this helping me? Well, as a single mom, you do it all. This will help you alleviate some of those steps you’ve had to make. Don’t you hate when you’re all in bed and you think “Did I turn the lights off?” Yeah, me too. This will help ensure it’s done right from your comfy bed. Yasss!

As a matter of fact, I’m sitting in my bed enjoying my good Hive Home lighting and thinking where have these products been my whole life. So, I just started using them today. I’ll share if and how my electricity changes and how usage impacts my life i.e. saves my relationship with my kids because I scream less, saves me time because I can do everything from my phone, or just plain ole helps me do less. Good or bad, I’ll be sharing. But honey right now, I’m going to turn my lights off all fancy using my cell phone and watch the last two episodes of The Carmichael Show in peace and quiet.

Learn more about Hive here. I’m looking forward to making coffee by connecting the Hive Active Plug to my coffeemaker, waking up and grabbing a cup. And remember, you deserve to enjoy life right along with your babies.

#Doitanyway #Letsgetliving

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Sharing my heart and this full-circle moment to inspire you to start. I’m reminiscing on #weekendstartupschool hosted by Paul C. Brunson and Ella Rucke. Wow! In just a few years, I had my mentors on a panel? Look what 2.5 years brings! Look at God! That’s me in the background far right in the pic, excited and hopeful.

Weekend Startup School March 2015

I had an idea in 2014 when I met Paul Carrick Brunson and Ella Rucker. I wanted to somehow help single moms chase their dreams, parent better, and thrive. How I would do that I had no idea. I left this event full of excitement and ready to test and fail and test and fail until I found my niche. Today, coaching, writing books, speaking and hosting events is what that first idea has become.

Thanks to them launching their dream to mentor entrepreneurs like me, I’m seeing my vision become reality. I’m in amazement because I remember telling Paul, “One day, I’ll speak with you.” Listen, DC was a dream come true. It was spectacular in its on way. It was simple, elegant, refreshing, and transformational. Women are still talking. I am satisfied that I did what I came to do.

When you talk about dreams, there’s never a guarantee that we will achieve them. Last weekend I touched it, and I thank my God for it. A dream to change the course of women’s lives with a message of hope and a little #doitanyway has become a #levelup brunch designed to do just that.

I made the best friends at Paul and Ella’s event in 2015. They understand my grind and my passion. They each are forming positive changes in their industries and in the lives of those they serve.

Don’t you tell me that dreams + action don’t work. Don’t tell me that God won’t do it! I am a dream walking. And guess what? So are you! You just have to spark the fire that is already inside of you. Is bringing a dream to fruition hard? Yes. There will be bumps in the road. But you must keep going and chase your dreams.

Brunch and Love, DC July 22, 2017

Enjoying the journey. Learning. Living. Loving. Creating. Moving toward it.

Chasing your dreams is beautiful.

Chasing Your Dreams is Transformational.

Chasing your dreams is worth it.

The pics above are moms who invested in themselves, in me, and in the panelists. What transpired was nothing short of amazing. We ate, we shared, we bonded, we grew, and we all got what we came for. No matter what you face right now, push toward your dreams. I’m a witness that starting small beats not starting at all. Pick up your dream and dust it off. Because around here, we #doitanyway

There’s a Part 2 to this because there are more pics and certainly more to share. But, I wanted to ignite you today to pick up that thing God has told you to do.

#westartup meets #brunchandlovedc and it was explosive

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