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Resolving legal issues quickly and fairly. Nobody wants legal troubles, but if you’ve got them, I’ve got a “ritual” for you!
It’s from my Make a Shift, Change Your LifeBook. I call it the “Plan The Party” Ritual. It is a way to shift your energy from constantly connecting to the drama and loathing of the opposing party (a downward energy spiral to nowhere) to a positive energy of completion.
Are you ready for it? Here goes. You simply plan an “It’s all over and we liked the outcome!” party. That’s right. You simply plan a REAL party.
This technique requires you to place your mindset out into the future and decide how you want to celebrate its “fair outcome” completion. You aren’t wasting time on revenge, (negative spiral again!), you simply want it resolved fairly and perhaps by a specific date.
If this was all over by your desired date and it was resolved fairly, how would you celebrate? THAT is the party you are going to throw NOW. Yep, you will most likely throw the REAL PARTY well before it gets resolved in real time, but you have started a giant energy ball rolling in the right direction instead of having it eat you up worrying and wrenching by constantly ruminating on the negative.
I have had SEVERAL clients use this ritual during circumstances that “looked hopeless,” and had it resolve to their liking WAY SOONER that it was ever supposed to according to court dates and other legal timelines.
So, is it paper plates or china? Live band or DJ? Catered or BYO? Is it a party for a big group including your attorneys or a fancy dinner with just one friend? Get those invitations out and tell everyone (or not) about how you are pre-celebrating. (I’ve seen it work both ways.) Literally do whatever you would do to celebrate your victory.
And if you EVER catch yourself milling over negative thoughts, make yourself devote twice as much time planning the party to counterbalance that backward momentum.
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It’s hibernation time! I thought I’d rip a page (literally, it starts on page 178!) right out of my own book, Make a Shift, Change Your Life to talk about sleeping tips since it seems to be a constant incoming questions these days. Hope it helps!
Many of my clients have said that I “saved their life,” both health- and relationship-wise, after they implemented the suggestions I made regarding sleep.
Some clients didn’t really even know they were not getting enough sleep until they got some quality shut-eye, they were so used to feeling sleep deprived.
The Sleep Balancer
Right up there with water and food, sleep is obviously vital for a healthy body. It is also very closely connected to relationships and relationship-building, if you’ve never connected the dots on that before.
I can’t tell you how e not getting enough sleep until they got some quality shut-eye, they were so used to feeling sleep deprived.
When I was in college, I ran so consistently sleep-deprived that I started to think of sleeping every night as a waste of time—even though I literally fell asleep walking and started hallucinating once! I was in the habit of only sleeping every third night for almost a whole semester, one time even going totally sleepless for five days (the hallucinating time mentioned above). That’s messed up! So, I’ve been there, and I know how mentally unsettling and unbalancing it can be.
Here are some signs sleep-deprived people usually show but don’t connect to lack of sleep. Can you relate to any of these?
You have trouble with spatial relationship tasks, like de-cluttering and organizing, for example.
You think or have been told by others that you have a drinking problem.
You have been told that you snore or hold your breath while you sleep, or you have been diagnosed with sleep apnea.
You fall asleep while sitting up rather quickly after sitting down or even driving.
Your mind does not want to “turn off” at night, and you find yourself having trouble falling or staying asleep.
You consistently feel anxious or like you can’t handle stress—quite often not even knowing exactly what you are anxious over.
You have poor memory, concentration, and decision-making—even risky behavior—and possibly other mental health issues.
You have depression, burnout, decreased empathy, mood swings, vision and motor skills issues, high blood pressure, weakened immune function, and the various associated medical issues that arise from immune deficiency.
Your appetite is increased. (There is clear evidence of a link between obesity and lack of sleep.)
You have multiple accidents or consider yourself clumsy.
You’ve been assigned the couch or other sleeping space by your partner, or your partner has bugged out due to your sleep deprivation issues.
Now that I probably have your attention, here are a few suggestions:
Investigate environmental and other changes that have occurred since the time you did sleep well. What are the differences in yourself, your habits, or your environment that have occurred between the time when you last slept well and now? Did you exercise more then? Did you consume less caffeine then? Did you (or a neighbor) add a wireless transmitter in your home? (If your neighbor’s Wi-Fi signal is noticed on your computer, you are in their wireless field.) Did you start charging your cell phone at night next to your bed? Did you paint the room a different color? Did you change your bedding to more synthetic materials? Did you have a baby? Do you have a pesticide service coming now that you didn’t have then? Did you start or stop taking a drug or herbs? Have you stopped a relaxing hobby or your meditation practice? Did you get divorced, and are you now sleeping alone? Did your spouse start snoring? Pinpointing the nuances that contribute to good sleep and bad sleep can potentially mean simple changes if you think this way. (All of the above and then some can be contributing factors.) Once again, work the trial and error method—make one of the following changes and see if it improves your sleep. If not, then move on to the next one.
Track your sleep and see if your waking hours run consistent with the moon cycles. If so, you will probably notice less sound sleep when the moon is fuller.
Avoid caffeine and other “yang” substances like recreational drugs, alcohol, nicotine, and excessive sugar or carbs. Sleeping is connected to more yin attributes. Even simply exchanging your bedtime sweet snack (yang) to a salty one (yin) could help—get it?
Experiment by turning off all the electricity in the home before retiring to bed. You may just be reacting to your electrically “hopped-up” house. (Don’t worry, the food stays cold enough in the fridge overnight.) If your ability to sleep improves, each night turn on another breaker, and see if that particular breaker’s worth of electrical circuitry seems to negatively affect your sleep.
Keep turning on more and more breakers, or swap them around off and on systematically until you figure out which ones can be on, and in what combination, without affecting your sleep. This is a trial and error-type method for sure, but one that you can do for free and on your own. (Unfortunately, if you rent, you probably have adjacent tenant spaces that you have no control over.) I would also suggest removing the television from the room if it is still in there.
If you have control over your space, and you indeed saw considerable improvement by cutting off electricity at certain breakers (usually in your bedroom), consider hiring an electrician to install a “demand switch” for the bedroom. A demand switch gives you the ability to turn off and on the electricity to the whole room right in the room as opposed to having to go to the breaker box/circuit panel, so you have easy access to and control over the electrical fields and electromagnetic fields surrounding you at night.
If you can’t “turn your brain off” at night, try this home-remedy: soak your feet in warm water before retiring to bed. This pulls your energy downward and out of your head.
A traditional feng shui cure for temporary insomnia is to place a stone on the floor near the head of the bed to add the energy of stillness (“to sleep like a rock”) for a number of nights (9, 18, or 27).
If you always find yourself rehashing the past instead of being in the present moment, remove any mirrors that are on walls that are consistently behind you where you spend a lot of time, such as the headboard wall in your bedroom or behind your desk. It may be the case that the offending mirror is simply on the back wall of the house.
Block out noises by hanging a wind chime between your bed and the offending noise. The chime can be hung all the way out along your property line if the noise is located off of your property.
If none of these changes works, you might consider seeing a Traditional Chinese Medicine practitioner, a doctor, or a feng shui consultant (or all three!) to see if there is anything else they can see that you are missing.
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Simply moving your SAME STUFF in your house EVEN JUST A LITTLE BIT can be all you need to do to freshen up and “pull together” a room – especially if you notice that you or anyone else in the home is never compelled to use that particular room.
Case in point: My client here had a BEAUTIFUL living room space and furniture, but all the pieces were so darned far apart, it set up a condition where it felt unfriendly and unwelcoming. This space was literally the furniture-filled hallway to get to the other parts of the home. But voila! We scooted everything closer together and now, not only does it keep the attention (and vital ch’i) INSIDE the home rather than slipping out the back door, it actually provides a gathering and communicating venue in the home!
Here’s the before:
Here’s the after:
Would I love to have a carpet in there to further define the space and slow down the ch’i? Yes. Could I run a line of red across those back door frames with intention of stopping the ch’i from heading straight out – yes. But for no money and 5 minutes time, we’ve got the energy to at least want to hang out for a while as it eddies around that ottoman.
Here is the same photographer client’s office space before a teeny bit of rearranging:
And here is it with the same furniture – only choosing to use the larger solid wall created by the unsymmetrical door placement as the backing for the desk:
AAHHH…..breathing room. And you know what I always say…space = opportunity!
It’s been less than 60 days and guess what? She “fell into” the perfect beautiful new office space outside her house (7 days from stumbling into the space to working from there) AND had a very long-standing financial issue FINALLY resolve itself. She’s got traction now and is off and running towards greater success!
So, yep – feel free to go for adding items everywhere in your house if you have the space. But if you want to keep it simple, follow the examples above and simply move things around a bit and you’ll probably get some payoff too!
Decorating…A lot of my friends are asking me how my new place is shaping up so I thought I’d share a little video I did all by myself on how I go about creating a home that reflects exactly who I am NOW (e-hem…an important word for all of you who are hanging onto the past with full grip…)
Decorating tips - YouTube
It is certainly a work still in progress, but potentially interesting nonetheless.
Remodeling can be tough. Here are a few simple tips I like to recommend when building or remodeling a home.
1. Delineate spaces with flooring changes if the furniture has to float in a room. This is also effective if you have that front and back door alignment in your house to detract from the straight shot out the back door.
2. Avoid placing mirrors behind you as they can energetically create a “hole” or an opening behind you…not good if you want to claim power and respect.
3. If something feels dead or off but you can’t figure out why, try spinning the entire arrangement on the 45 angle to the walls.
4. Got a window straight ahead when entering your bedroom door which can lead to weakened energy in the relationship? Remember, the color red activates and draws attention – use it. Make that bed catch your eye before the view does.
Just wanted to give you a few tips to keep the energy flowing in your life!
How is YOUR year looking? Are you invoking a meaningful one for yourself?
In my book Make a Shift, Change Your Life, under the “Serve Your Spirit” section, I describe what I call The Intending and Invoking Server. I wanted to clarify the difference between begging, pleading, and inviting something to come your way versus invoking it towards you as this new year begins.
The word intend comes from the root word meaning “to stretch out” and “to plan.” The word invoke comes from the root words meaning “to give voice to” or “to call.” On the other hand completely, the word invite has its roots in the phrase “to seek.”
I have found that intendingand invoking is much more powerful than inviting. Here’s how different the two might sound when intending to make the world a better place:
“I invoke the all-powerful energies to restore ecological harmony to the planet now!”
“(If you are listening), I invite all of you energies/ beings (out there somewhere) to come here right now and make the world a better place!”
The difference with invoking is in the assumption that the energies are there, “are listening,” and will by decree, complete the request. With inviting, it is as if you are not sure if there’s anyone listening at all let alone sure anything will change.
“Please heal her” is inviting, and “Be healed now!” or simply “HEAL!” is invoking, assuming that YOU WILL BE HEALED.
A more specific recipe for invoking is as follows:
Stand or sit up straight, with your feet firmly planted on the ground. (Good physiology/posture and invoking are connected.)
Tap the crown/top of your head to consciously “plug into” the universal energies.
Get a solemn and clear picture in your mind of what you are intending. Then state it in words.
With a commanding tone (as opposed to a begging or groveling one), state “I decree” or “I invoke” and then continue your intention. Avoid “inviting-type” beginnings like “I wish, I invite…”
Feel the inner physical body shifts.
Be in gratitude.
I hope this tid bit comes in handy as this new year begins!
Clutter and Overwhelm Go Hand in Hand. If you’ve got clutter in your surroundings, you’ve got overwhelm somewhere in your life – I’ll bet money on it.
You are a product of your environment. That’s just the way it is. What’s going on in your home and workplace is a direct correlation of what’s going on in your life. And, like it or not, you have to get real with your clutter to unearth your authentic self and free yourself from the debilitating feelings of overwhelm and stuckness, and feeling like there’s not enough time, etc.
Clutter and overwhelm can overtake your life if you don’t face and deal with it. So, if you are overwhelmed with too much stuff in your house, feel hopeless about ever getting to the end and having your place neat and organized, or have a general feeling of being stuck in life with no way out – just know — you CAN get rid of those feelings IF YOU DEAL WITH THE CLUTTER.
Many people were never taught how to address, store, decide, and organize things in their living and workplaces. It’s a very common problem, but if you Click Here , you can learn more about how I can help you declutter your life. You’ll also get my 5 tips to kickstart your decluttering process. Here’s #1 just to get the ball rolling:
If you are clear about who you are and what you want your future to look ultimately like, you’ll know what to keep and what to remove from your home. It sounds easy enough, but most people attempt to declutter without knowing this and end up in a decision-making paralysis — which eventually leads to quitting…that is, if they ever start. So, tip one is: BEFORE STARTING, take the time to write down who you want to be and how you want to feel once the decluttering process is finished. What new hobbies and habits do you have in THAT life that maybe are merely pipe dreams now? This document will be your guide to knowing what needs to stay in your home and what doesn’t.
This video may also help.
YOU CAN DO IT. Thoughts that it is impossible is part of the illusion that comes with having clutter – start be decluttering that thought!