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Hi Ladies,
One of the most common questions I get from women is: "Where are the good single men?" These women don't just want any man, of course. But they want a cute guy who they have a connection with. They want to be in a relationship where there's a spark and where the relationship flows. They want to be loved and cherished by a good man. 
It can seem like a tall order, for sure.
But men are everywhere. The good ones may be harder to find, but they're there. I tell ladies to do everything they can. Singles oriented events, as well as online dating sites are sure bets. If you're single and committed to finding a committed partner, you may have to make this search for Mr. Right  a full-time job (or at least a side job).
Ask friends to set you up. Get into matchmaking databases. Mingle as much as possible. Go to events where you will be in the swim of things. Attend events where men go, like the car show in NYC. 
You still have time to get there. It runs through this weekend and it's raining men for sure. Just go go go. He's out there. The world is abundant. You'll find him. Just keep at it. xoxo, Karenna 
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Today I would love to hear from you!

Post below, or email me at karennaalexander@gmail.com and let it all out. 

I am doing market research so I can create blogs and courses to target the problems facing my clients and fans.

Are you tired of getting stood up on coffee dates, like this beautiful lady? Are you not getting any dates at all? Are the men out there unappealing? 
Or are you getting great guys, but losing them just as fast? 
Or is it something else? 

The more I know about what your needs are, the more I can write blogs to help, and create courses to target exactly what you need. 

​Looking forward to hearing from you! 
xoxo, 
Karenna ​
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There are clothing items men love on women and this particular item is one of them.
Camisoles!
This blog was inspired by a client who said her husband LOVED the camis I picked out for her. 
I sent her lace ones, a leopard one and a variety of other styles. 
I will share links below to a variety of styles that can work for you too.
(Note, this blog is time sensitive in that these links won't work forever, as stores will be updating their inventory. If you need more links, feel free to email me, karennaalexander@gmail.com)
The beautiful thing about camis is they work year round. In colder months, wear a cardigan. 
They also work with jeans or a dressier bottom. They are extremely versatile and super sexy! 
Whether you are single and looking for a man or in a serious relationship or marriage, dressing hot will keep your man drooling.

Here’s a leopard cami from Bloomingdales. This would work great with black leather pants and heels.
https://bit.ly/2YggG9Q

This cami works in pretty much every color shown, just make sure it works with your coloring. 
https://bit.ly/2USezqN

A basic black one with a little lace is always sexy: 
https://bit.ly/2umFsYe

For an extra special night, when you want a little sparkle:
https://bit.ly/2HEseyJ

Here’s another sexy sequin number (less pricey than the one above): 
https://bit.ly/2TtTdyq

Here’s a very cute lace trim cami. All colors shown are great!
https://bit.ly/2TUF0zr

Would love to hear how your man reacts when you wear one of these items! 
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GUEST POST:  Here is a post written by fellow dating coach, Ashley Phillips, who has great tips for how to overcome those blocks and fears so you can find true love. 

My dad, a gruff biker dude who has a way with words, once said: “Don’t half ass it. If you are going to do it, use your whole damn ass!” Of course, everyone in the room broke out into a wild laughter.  It was funny to hear but the insight was ingenious: if you are going to do something put your whole self into it.  This funny saying stuck with me so well that I turned it into an affirmation I’ve used in 2017 and 2018: “I whole ass everything, with joy.” It’s a good affirmation because it is relevant and sticks with me—there is emotion behind it.  I utilized this affirmation with my dating life. 
In 2017 I decided, after a torturous relationship, to do the Rules 100% to the letter. I decided it would be like a religion to me because I was sick of either being hurt or spinning my wheels. A journal-junkie by nature, I took out my trusty Moleskine and pen and noted EVERY rule I’ve broken with this last relationship. I was ruthless.  I wanted it to really sink in that my “half assing” the Rules led to a preventable pain-fest. I needed to FEEL it in my bones.  Why did I feel so compelled to break so many rules? Why was I not, as my dad would say, using my “whole ass?” 
Answer: fear. 
I told myself that I had an abundance mindset and that I didn’t care if I was single or not but I kept making excuses and breaking rules. Turns out I, deep down, still had lingering fear that this was as good as it gets and that I don’t deserve more. That The Rules only worked for other girls, not me.  That I would be alone if I was super strict.  
Because it was hard for me to realize this I went with more subversive tactics over the years: sabotaging by being picky, breaking little rules, or throwing them out completely due to reason X, Y, or Z.  I was making my fears come true—I was getting crumby dating outcomes because I thought I deserved crumby dating outcomes. Of course, because I thought I deserved it I acted like it and men picked up on it. Yikes! 
So, how do you wade through the subconscious muck to fix the issue? 
I’ve developed the Three “Is” system for overcoming blocks to “whole-assing” dating. 
  1. Insight: realize you are still clinging to a mindset that isn’t working
Do you sabotage your dating efforts? Do you end up rejecting every guy who has dated you in the past few months? Are you unwilling to do some rules? Do you low-key resent men? Do you “vent” about bad dating scenarios constantly? Are you unwilling to take a risk on outfits or hairstyles? If any of these is a “yes” it may be time to inspect your efforts.  You are not “whole-assing” it. You are certainly not doing it with joy! 
Write down your last few dating experiences and every rule you broke. Be ruthless. Even if it is that you didn’t brush your hair on a first date or have unflattering pictures on your Facebook. Leave nothing out. I know it is painful but this step is crucial.
Overcoming the block of fear can be pretty epic.  However, it can be done! It starts with confronting your worst fears.  
  1. Intrigue: Follow your fear-story and get curious about the ending.
Ask yourself: what is the worst that can happen if I go all in with The Rules? 
I suggest writing your answer down in your journal so you can track your progress.  Really go into detail about your deepest fears regarding The Rules. Are you afraid that if you are too strict you’ll weed out every man in existence? That it is only for thinner/younger/taller/shorter/older women? That there are no good men left out there so you’ll just waste your time and be single forever?
For example: I was afraid that if I did The Rules too strictly I will face a never-ending series of rejections and men making fun of me because I had no right to act like I deserved that treatment. I feared that the series of rejections would be painful and I’d just be tortured endlessly until I was alone and miserable. 
When I took a hard look at my fear it dawned on me that the worst thing that could happen was that I ended up single.  Maybe a bunch of strangers making rude comments or not texting back was bad but I really didn’t care that much.  Turns out my worst fear was being single—yet I was single at the time and doing just fine. My actual worst fear was ending up with a terror of man and that didn’t even factor into my Rules compliance.  The fear suddenly dropped and I was able to allow myself to take more risks.  Remember: you are strong and have been through a lot worse. You can survive your worst-case scenario. 
  1. Inspiration: Drop your fear-story for a Rules-y inspiration story
After I dropped my fear-story I needed to adopt a different story.  
I highly suggest the use of affirmations to build up your new Rules story. Affirmations can subtly change your thinking so that eventually you replace old thought patterns with better thought patterns.  I used Rules-oriented affirmations every morning for two years and it was really helpful.  I found myself saying it to myself in dressing room mirrors when trying on a daring black skirt hand-picked by Karenna! It works! 
I also suggest you take one area of The Rules you’ve been holding back on: online dating, wearing hotter clothing, or not texting back and take massive inspirational action in a Rules-direction.  If you have been rejecting every guy who asks you out on three dates you may challenge yourself to date every (safe) guy who asks you out within three messages. Barring safety red-flags, go no matter what.  Force yourself to enjoy the occasion.  That doesn’t mean fall in love, be his best friend, or date him again. Just go and enjoy connecting with another human being.  
Just pick one area and face your fears.
Things are scary until you do them and then they are not. 
Traveling alone to Europe is scary until you do it and survive. Starting graduate school was scary for me until about a semester in when I realized I survived. Trying a new exercise can be daunting until it isn’t. 
Taking action can change your life.  Want proof? Here is how my 3-steps ended:
I chronically fell off the map with many guys who asked me out within three messages.  I decided that I was going to say “yes” to any guy who asked me out respectfully within three messages no matter what.  Also, I decided to be a complete babe (carefree and sweet) and totally Rules-y so that I could enjoy myself no matter what happened. 
I agreed to a drink date with a guy who had one old picture on his profile and wrote me a novel the first two messages. He asked me out in the second and third messages. At first he asked me for lunch on a weekday (no, I’m busy) and then weekend.  I was weary because he had one old picture and wrote novels for messages. I decided to “whole-ass” it and go. I wore a fitted knee-length black tank dress under a fitted denim jacket and knee-high boots with hoop earrings and a big gold watch. I was going all-in so I decided to look like I was all-in for a casual drink-date. 
I went, had a good time though he seemed shy and nervous, and thought he’d never message me again.  It was a great time but he seemed really uncomfortable (turns out it was nerves).  He asked me out again the next day. I was hesitant but went.
I’m glad I did because I ended up marrying him. 

If you'd like to try out some well-tested affirmations that will help you go all in with dating sign up for Ashley’s mailing list and receive a free pdf. 

www.drashleyphillips.com/affirmations
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Ladies, join my Hot Stuff training coming up two weeks from today.

The training starts Sunday March 24 and goes through Tuesday, March 26.

As you know, dating is an inner and outer game, but for purposes of this FREE training, we will focus on the outer game. 

After all, for a man to fall in love with your insides, he needs to be attracted to your outsides. This is the basis for a romantic courtship to develop.

You don't need to be present live, everything will be saved in the Facebook group, where you will be able to ask questions throughout the training. 

Email karennaalexander@gmail.com or look for the Facebook group, called "Hot Stuff," that is run by me, and request to join.

See you ladies there! 
And don't forget: Heels, hoops, long hair, don’t leave home without them.
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Single ladies, don't give up! I have exciting engagement news for you all!
My client Mariah - who is a member of my private coaching group called "It Girls of the World,"- just got engaged to a great guy!
They met about one year ago!
She wants all you ladies to know it's possible for you too!!
You just need the right tools and the right strategy, and it will happen.
“The best part is that he is loving and caring all the time. I am so happy! Thank you so much Karenna! I’m grateful every day for that group...I hope you know how much impact you have on people’s lives!”
He liked her from the first time he saw her, and made the first move.
She began working with me a few months after meeting him. There were all sorts of situations that she needed help navigating. "I found Karenna and she helped me so much during the next dating stages."
Throughout their courtship, it was clear to me this guy truly loved her. He consistently asked her out for every weekend, introduced her to his family, planned special occasions in advance, and bought her romantic gifts all the time.
She also did her part, respecting the differences between men and women, acting feminine and being her higher self.  She also paced the relationship, which is difficult to do, but when a woman does this, she can create life-changing results. 
After about one year, he took her ring shopping and now they are planning a wedding!
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Biggest Challenge For Today's Modern Women Isn't What You Think - YouTube
Hi ladies!
All you smart successful single ladies out there who are succeeding in every area of your life, except your love life, you will want to listen to this video.
Those aggressive tendencies that are crucial to propelling you forward in your career are hurting you in your romantic life. But not in the way you think.
Take a listen, above, and tell me what you think. 
And remember, mugs matter! 
This is dating after all. 
If you want to hear me talk about this topic live, I’ll be back on Star 99.9 with Anna & Raven Monday at 8:40 a.m. giving Anna and Raven tips about online dating profile photos.
Tune in below.
http://www.star999.com/?fbclid=IwAR2_8OTznZFxuZCYm27coDI8zsY5vKyRcS6YrA4fr81fXo-lHgTvVRGWzKY
To learn more about how I can help you get off that hamster wheel and find lasting love, here are the different ways you can work with me: https://www.karennaalexander.com/coaching.html
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Ladies, keep on going, even in the face of adversity. 
Client Ashley Philips had just broken up with a guy, and it would have been easy to give up, or take a super long break from dating.
But she pressed on, and kept at it.
Ashley is OK with me using her name, as she is a dating coach now herself.
She joined my “It Girls of the World” group around the time of the breakup and met her husband a few months later on Tinder. “I was getting over a guy and did some serious inner and outer work and got myself out there,” said Phillips. “I was super strict at first...," she said. "I can't thank Karenna enough, she's amazing and inspiring.” 
We agree! @karennaalexandergets the guys! - The Rules Book testimonial. 
Their courtship was romantic, like a fairytale, and they got married in December. 
Morale of this story, ladies, is never give up, even in the face of a bad break-up. Even when you don't feel like getting out there. Take actions even before you feel like it, because you may never feel like it. 
So get out there, whether it's online or offline (preferably both). Even if you don't feel like attending a singles-oriented event, just go. You will feel better for getting out there, mingling with others who are single.  You may learn about a new venue or a new dating app. Or you may make a friend who makes the journey to find Mr. Right more fun.
No matter where you are coming from, you can still have that fairy tale. I see it happen each and every day! 
The world is abundant and your Mr. Right is just around the corner. 
xoxo, 
Karenna 
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Facebook is called Fakebook for a reason

As a dating coach, I often dissect celebrity and other high profile relationships, as a way to help women spot healthy courtships and marriages.

This is often helpful because it shows women real life examples of what they are aspiring toward. 

Women are looking for role models, and looking to aspire to be something better - to be more confident, a better girlfriend or a more attractive dater, or happy or stylish or all of the above.

Role models help people achieve their goals faster, and it's simply more fun.

The problem that can arise is when you start focusing too much on the role models and obsessing about how badly you want their life, or simply allowing this person to make you feel bad about yourself because you feel like you are coming up so short compared to them.

Remember this, when it comes to the world of the Internet and the outer world, we are often comparing our insides to someone else’s outsides. And that is just not a fair comparison. It’s not fair to compare yourself to someone’s carefully crafted outer image. It’s just not fair and hurtful.

I’m all for role models, because they can help inspire you and make you a better person. They can give you goals to strive for. Good role models can inject you with excitement that makes you more motivated to work toward your goal.

HOWEVER, be careful to not let any of this bring you down. Because you have no idea what is going on underneath. Your role model may appear to have it all, yet it may be all an outer show. She or he may be showcasing for the world.

Two suicides earlier this year in the NYC celebrity world had me thinking about this a great deal.

Kate Spade seemed to have it all on the surface - a successful handbag line in NYC, a marriage to a best friend, a daughter, all the trappings of a wealthy NYC life - yet she was still very unhappy and committed suicide this week.

Celebrity chief Anthony Bourdain died this week as well of suicide. He seems to have the career - filled with food travel and culture - and NYC lifestyle that many would envy. Yet he clearly had his demons.

So moral of the story is that it’s OK to have idols and role models. It’s OK to aspire to something better, grander, and to have and want to achieve certain goals. But try to never let other people’s perceived success make you feel bad. Use it to inspire and motivate you, but don't let it get you down! 

You are more successful in many ways than you can imagine.
xoxo 
Karenna
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