Makeup is one of my favorite things! I love getting ready everyday. Seriously, y’all, I really enjoy painting my barn and putting my face on. But then when it comes the time of day to remove makeup…well that’s a different story!
I used to do this thing where I’d go to sleep without taking my makeup off. My young and dumb days, I guess you could call it. I’d always have breakouts and look like a raccoon with black circles. I don’t like using coconut oil to remove eye makeup. I know lots of people swear by it, but I’m not a fan. It always gets in my eyes, and then I have foggy eye syndrome. But no more!
Thanks to E-cloth, I have a way to easily remove makeup every night, TOXIN-FREE!
The best part about E-cloth is that it only needs water to be effective. I use this to wash my face and take off all my makeup, but it works especially well for eye makeup. And this product is such a bargain – only $10 from Milk-Allergy Mom and with free shipping! You wash the E-cloth out with mild soap and water after each use and then I throw it in with my towels once a week. Super simple and I absolutely love it.
After I wash my face with water and E-cloth, I give my face a quick swipe over with one of my homemade makeup remover pads. These pads are simply made with water, coconut oil, witch hazel and essential oils – whatever combination of essential oils you prefer for your face. I don’t even need to exfoliate or moisturize after using these pads!
When I use these makeup remover pads everyday, my skin looks so great!
And always remember, if you want to use oils or other healthy, more natural alternatives, you have to keep them where you can see them! Otherwise, it’s out of sight, out of mind.
What do you use to take off your makeup? Comment below and let mw know what products you use!
Makeup Remover Pads
2 tbsp water
2 tbsp fractionated coconut oil (or sweet almond)
1 tbsp witch hazel
4 drops essential oils (your choice, but I prefer Frankincense and Lavender)
20-25 cotton rounds
Shake water, coconut oil, witch hazel, and essential oils in a small jelly jar or something similar. Add cotton rounds slowly so it doesn’t overflow and round have a chance to absorb liquid. Use!
Dear Stacy…. What do your nights and evenings look like? How do you do to relax? Do you have family night every night? I get asked a lot of questions about what the average evening looks like in the Myers house. Today, I’m attempting to answer them as a share the details of our family’s evening routine.
As you may know, we are a family of six and my husband works a traditional 8-5 job. It takes him about 45 minutes for his commute each way. Since he does not see the kids before he leaves for work, our quality family time takes place during the evenings. Our family time with him lasts from about 5:45/6 to 7:30/8pm. We have about two hours every evening as a family. This includes dinner and cleanup. In other words – our time together is pretty limited.
We have to be really intentional about our family time.
Our family time looks pretty similar almost every day. We have dinner together as a family, with no screens (phone, TV, iPad, etc.) allowed. When I finish eating, I start cleaning up the things on the counter and in the sink and the children clean off the table. The children are in charge of cleaning off the table, putting the dirty napkins down the laundry chute, putting dirty dishes in the sink, and sweeping the floor, while Barry and I do the rest of the dishes and kitchen cleanup.
After dinner what we do a family Bible time.
Right now we are working thru part of our school curriculum called Answers for Kids, which is from the Answers in Genesis folks. This probably takes is about 15-20 minutes. With little tiny kids, you cannot do long lessons together as a family or you’ll lose them. Let’s be honest – because of their age, you could even lose them if it’s a short lesson! It’s a little lesson and then scripture reading. Sometimes there’s a story or object lesson to go with it.
From there our night varies by the season.
If it’s warm, we are outside from dinner time until almost time for them to go to bed. If it is chilly or rainy, we will usually go downstairs and do our evening routine. Sometimes the kids want to play a game like Hungry Hungry Hippos. Which I will admit is extremely satisfying to play. Straight up. I get really, really into that. I think that probably if Barry ever caught me on video playing I would be really embarrassed if he ever posted it online.
Sometimes we will play on the Wii, like bowling or basketball. Sometimes we’ll even watch a movie. When I was first a mom, I felt ashamed to admit that I let my kids watch TV. Even though, when I was growing up, watching TV as a family was what we did after dinner. Home Improvement, Alf, Andy Griffith or something like that. We still don’t actually have TV service, but we do have a TV where we can stream content online or watch DVDs.
I have fond memories of relaxing and watching TV as a family and I think I turned out okay.
Most people think that a family time in the evenings has to be holy or super spiritual. It doesn’t have to be something that takes lots of planning or is a set schedule. That’s not what it’s about. Your kids won’t remember all that. What your kids will remember is that every night after dinner they had family time. It’s a time when we can all just relax and enjoy one another.
I know lots of people are super busy with sports, boy/girl scouts, church, youth group, and other activities that take you outside of the home. And I get that. But even 1 to 2 nights a week with dedicated family time after dinner will make a huge difference.
Try it out!
I promise it isn’t complicated! If it’s not simple and easy, I won’t consistently do it…and I bet you won’t either. You’re making memories without spending money or lots of time planning. And keep in mind that it won’t be perfect. Babies still cry, toddlers still throw tantrum… It is still real life! But it is worth it to consistently make memories together as a family.
If you try it and becomes a thing for you, please reach out and tell me. I would love to hear what works for your family. I get lots of ideas from y’all, so please share any thoughts you have.
I have told our family’s debt free story before, but it’s been requested a lot lately. And I have to admit, in recent years, I’ve almost been resistant to share. I guess it’s because I’m worried that people will think I am bragging or I am trying to point fingers at other people for the choices they make. I promise I am not trying to do either of those!
I’m just telling where we’ve come from, where we are now, and how we got there.
We’ll call this the new and improved version – but it’s really the same old story a lot of you have probably already heard. And this may come as a shock, but we weren’t born into wealthy families and we didn’t get here by chance or luck. No, our family is debt-free thanks to hard work and dedication.
I was raised by very frugal parents who always followed a budget.
Barry got a lot of his frugality and budgeting education from his aunt who is way in to Dave Ramsey. We both graduated from college without debt. My parents had saved for years to be able to help pay my way thru college and, with the help of some academic scholarships, I graduated debt-free. Barry worked his tail off all of his college years, at multiple jobs – and with work plus a bit of scholarships, he was also able to pay for his schooling, books, etc., and graduate with no debt.
Barry and I have been on a budget since the day we got married.
We actually took the Dave Ramsey course before we got married. We went on our honeymoon with our cash envelopes. But before we got married, we made a really stupid mistake. Since we had our college degrees, we thought we needed to go do something fancy that told everybody, “Hey. Look at me! I have a degree!” So…we bought a Mercedes. And we didn’t pay cash for it. We didn’t have the money to pay for it, but by golly, we had a Mercedes.
This was a turning point for us.
There was a point after we purchased the crazy Mercedes that we realized it wasn’t a good idea and that a debt-free life was for us. We knew what we had done in financing that car was a mistake. Even though we had the head knowledge that debt was not a good thing, it was almost like we had to find out for ourselves how NOT good it really was – we had to experience it. I had some savings from when we first got married, and Barry had some from working as well. To make a long story there short(er), we scraped together all we could to pay the car off as quickly as possible, and from there, we committed to never have another car payment – and we’ve stayed true to our word. We don’t drive fancy cars, but they’re paid for.
When we first got married, we purchased a brand new “to-be-built” townhouse.
And the construction process from start to finish ended up taking almost a year! While we were waiting for it to be built, we lived in an apartment that Barry’s parents had attached to their house. Thankfully, we were able to save up some money during this time. We lived in a townhouse in Bristol, Tennessee, for 8 years and overall, it was a good choice for us. We learned a lot during our time there.
We learned the we definitely didn’t (and still don’t) want to live in the city.
Now, if you’re from the actual “city” – like Chicago or Atlanta, you are probably laughing right now because Bristol, Tennessee, is hardly the city. But for us, the townhouse community in the middle of “city” was not our jam. After we had been there for 7 years, we had about $23k left on our townhouse mortgage. It was then we started to feel extremely burdened by our home debt. We decided that we didn’t want to carry that mortgage load any more and wanted to become 100% debt free.
In 8 months, we paid off the remaining $23k of our home mortgage.
We didn’t magically find $23k in the couch cushions to pay our mortgage off. We worked HARD. We sold everything that we could think of. Barry worked his regular job, as well as any extra side jobs he could. I worked hard to cut expenses, and I had started teaching classes and blogging at that time. We literally put every single penny that we possibly could toward whittling away that debt.
We paid it off and we haven’t gone back.
We used the proceeds from the sale of our townhouse, along with some additional savings, to buy our current home with cash. Our house is not huge. Our bedrooms are small. The house is older, but we’ve made it ours by remodeling, decorating, and doing things that make it our HOME.
There are lots of sacrifices that we’ve made to get to the point where we can say we are debt free. But we’re okay with that. The freedom of not having debt payments each month is worth it because it’s unlike any other thing I’ve ever known.
What we did was not supernatural; we had the Lord’s help!
We believe that the Lord honors our desire to be debt-free. He honors our desire to owe no man any debt except to love one another (see Romans 13:8). We believe that! But hear me when I say that we do without a lot of things that most people don’t do without. We learned that having no debt is worth not having things other people have.
We don’t buy new cars. We don’t have many of the latest gadgets or take fancy vacations. When we take a vacation, it’s usually go visit friends or we have people come here and visit us. We’re willing to make the sacrifices today so we can enjoy the benefits tomorrow. We plan to bring Barry home full time to work on Humorous Homemaking and Living Lighthearted Oils one day soon. That “retirement” would never be possible if we didn’t live how we do. We plan to travel a lot more, and are already making some of those plans. We plan to enjoy the fruits of our efforts…but all of that is only possible because we committed to get out of debt and save our money for those future plans.
My point is this: You may have to do without for a little while so you can have what you want later.
I can’t say enough good things about Dave Ramsey and his Financial Peace University. And I suggest that everyone goes thru the course and then sticks with it. Once you have the kit, you can go thru it as many times as you’d like – I’ve done it 4 or 5 times! Like Dave says, “If you will live like no one else now, later you can live (and give) like no one else.” We are just now getting to the place where we are starting to taste the reality of living and giving like no one else.
You might think that the only people who are debt-free were born with a silver spoon in their mouth or worked at a really amazing job. This is a myth! Did y’all know Dave Ramsey wasn’t always a millionaire? He filed bankruptcy and came literally from NOTHING to where he is now! For us, it was hard and painful at times, but it was definitely worth the sacrifice.
If you have more questions about budgeting, becoming debt-free, or Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University, Barry (often referred to as the husband) is our resident “expert”. He regularly provides financial coaching, and is more than happy to answer your questions. Or you can also check out his book From Debtor to Better for some details on debt and how to get out of it.
Before I share my word for this year, let me just be real with you for a minute. I don’t know that I have ever actually made a New Year’s Resolution. To be honest, I always kind of thought they were stupid. But then as all the chatter around resolutions has shifted to this “word for the year” thing, I was intrigued. I figured, well everyone else is doing it, why not me? No, I’m kidding. Y’all know me well enough to know that I didn’t do it because it was popular. I just decided a word for the year was something I could benefit from doing! It is good to set a “theme” for your year to give you something to reference and see how you’re doing, just like it is good to set goals so you can measure how well you’re doing on something you want to accomplish.
My word for 2017 was NO.
It actually played out very differently than I thought it would. I chose this word because I thought it would help me say no to what everyone else was doing and say yes to what was best for my family. Instead of saying yes to everything I was asked to do, I would make the choice that was best for my family. But I learned to say no to a whole lot of things, focusing my time, energy and attention on the things that mattered most instead. It isn’t easy – because I hate feeling like I am letting people down! But I’m still learning this practice and definitely thankful I chose the word NO.
My word for 2018 kind of happened almost by accident.
In 2017, I created a vision board to help me focus on the dreams and goals I set for my Young Living business. Throughout 2017, that vision board served as a reminder of what I was striving for. When December 2017 came around, I realized that my word for the new year had been in the center of my vision board all along!
There are several reasons why I chose believe as my word for 2018. The first is because of one of my favorite new testament passages, “Lord, I believe; help thou my unbelief.” In 2018, I want to work more on my spiritual walk. A lot of times, my doubt is bigger than my belief. It’s part of our sinful nature. I want to remind myself daily that Jesus loves me, has big plans for me, and that I am enough because He loves me.
Another reason I chose this word is because I have a hard time dreaming.
Not the “while you’re sleeping” kind…I’m good at that. I struggle thinking about something that seems too good to be true or a goal that is too lofty – that’s something I’m trying to be better about! I’m a very literal person and tend to be glass half-empty instead of glass half-full. In order to keep myself from being disappointed, I try to keep myself from dreaming at all. But I’ve gotta work on that. I need to believe.
In 2018, I want to BELIEVE that good things can – and will – happen.
I believe that my team and I can have dreams and work towards them. I believe that 2018 will be an even better year than 2017. I believe that I will be a better person in 2018 because of my prayers asking God to help my unbelief. Despite my failings already this year, this week, and even today – I still believe all these things.
I journaled Mark 9:24 in my Bible Journal and I look back and reflect on it regularly. I have my vision board in a place I can see it OFTEN. You need to make your word and your goals visible! If your goals are something you get reminded of often, you can be more intentional! And this year, I’m going to be more intention about daily putting effort into believing.
It’s a beautiful Sunday morning and my family of six is nestled together in our church pew, listening intently as the pastor brings a good word from the pulpit. No more than five seconds pass and I look over to see my 3 year old has drawn a mural on the cover the hymnal and my 5 year old has torn his bulletin into about 800 tiny pieces. While I’m distracted by this, my one year old in my lap manages to tap her snack bowl in just the right spot to baptize the women in the row in front of us with a shower of Cheerios. Yep…church is hard right now.
Can I just say that again? Church is hard!!
We have been at our current church for about 3 years. We’re Reformed Presbyterian (PCA) and we were searching for something pretty specific. We wanted a church where the children were welcome with the family and stayed during the entire church service. I realize some people don’t like that, but this is very important to me and Barry – a necessity.
We want our kids to be with us on Sunday mornings.
Why? Because we want them to experience Sunday morning worship with us from birth to adulthood. We want them to become familiar with the order of church service, to learn how to sit quietly and reverently, to listen to the pastor speak from the pulpit, to experience communion, baptisms and watch new families join the church. We don’t want our family to be separated during the church service. That doesn’t mean this is the only way, but this is the choice we made.
Because we have made this choice to worship together, church is hard right now. Ridiculously hard.
Every Sunday, I have to give myself a pep talk to go. Because 9 times out of 10, I don’t want to go! But between Barry and me, we always make the decision and go – even though we know church is going to be hard. It’s hard to teach them to be quiet and sit still. But we believe it’s a very important lesson for them to learn.
That may mean sometimes, when church is over, I have no idea what the message was about and I don’t always know what is going on. I am trying to keep my kids from throwing a Bible up into pew number 8 or pulling each other’s hair, y’all – I can’t always do that AND follow along with the sermon! But, even though church is hard FOR ME – I know my kids are listening, learning and growing. I have to do it – even when it’s hard.
Besides the fact that church is hard, some Sundays, it might even be embarrassing! Like the aforementioned Cheerio baptism. But we have to suck it up and go anyway! I promise there are some Sundays when I just don’t want to go to church. Does that mean I stay home? No! All the parents out there who are worshiping together as a family on Sunday mornings are right there in the trenches with you! Even if our churches are 500 miles apart, I’m fighting this Sunday battle with you in spirit!
Keep going – even though church is hard.
Don’t give up the habit of meeting together and being in church as a family. It’s important to go – even if you may think it’s not worth it. Even though you don’t think your kids are listening or paying attention, a few days, weeks, or years down the road you will see the fruit of those long Sundays. The word has been planted.
Disclaimer: This is not a shaming session for parents who handle church differently, nor am I asking for advice on how to make Sundays easier. This is just meant to be an encouragement to those of you that might be struggling and wondering if it’s all worth it. I am right there with you. Don’t give up.
As homemakers, whether we work inside the home or outside the home, the work-life balance struggle is real. It’s something that y’all ask about quite often. For years, I struggled to find that balance, I have read books, listened to podcasts, and done research online. I was trying to determine if am I giving enough to my family, my work, my friends, my church, my neighbors and my community, and myself, personally?
And you know what? I always ended feeling defeated. I felt like I was bashing my head against the wall. Like a total, complete, utter failure.
What even is work/life balance?
For the longest time, I always felt like I was aiming for this goal where I needed to be in a perfect place where my kids, husband, business – where everyone and everything got exactly what they needed from me. But I never felt like I hit that mark. I always felt like I was coming up short.
It was like there was a target with a red dot in the center that I was trying to hit. And there have been times where I would think… I’ve done it – I’be finally achieved a work/life balance! But I really hadn’t. What I found is that whenever I finally got to a spot where I thought I had work-life balance, there was an area in my life that had no balance. Even worse, there were people, places, and things I was giving nothing to at all.
In the past few years, I have come to realize that maybe there is no such thing as achieving a work-life balance.
For a while, I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. I saw all these other authors, bloggers, podcasters, etc. who seemed to have perfect marriages, happy kids and amazing work-life balance, while I couldn’t get my act together. I felt like since I wasn’t having success in everything I touched, that something was wrong with me or my business.
So… I quit it all and walked away.
For over 6 months, I completely quit. I walked away from the online community because I felt like such a failure. It was a nice break, but it wasn’t the right thing for me to do. I wasn’t a failure. I was just aiming for something that isn’t possible. #truthbomb
Instead of trying to achieve a work-life balance, I think we need to understand that there are seasons of life. We can’t always do it all perfectly! Instead, it would be better if we aimed to juggle and focus on one thing at a time, instead of balance it all. I am trying to do that with my life.
I’m learning to juggle and focus on one area at a time, instead of aiming to balance it all.
When you juggle you focus on the one thing that is most important at that specific time. And you focus on doing it well! That means you give 100% to one area at a time, instead of spreading yourself too thin. When I am focused on my business and I am giving that my full attention, my landscaping is majorly suffering. Right now, I am only growing rocks, grass and potted plants of dirt. But that’s okay because I am doing well with my business. Maybe you’re leading some big project with a specific deadline. You’ve been cooking super easy meals, you’re tired and you haven’t been giving 100% to your husband. But that’s okay – for a season!
There are times when I need to focus 100% on my children. For example, if I am potty training, teaching them new chores or important concepts in homeschool, I have to let go of some other things in my life for a bit. Y’all, when your kids need your full attention, business, house cleaning, and even quality of cooking and meals, might suffer a bit. But that’s okay!
I used to let this type of thing bother me. But now I don’t.
There is no perfect work-life balance. I need to give 100% of myself to the tasks that need my attention during each specific season. Don’t let yourself feel like a failure for not being able to do it all! I don’t think I every met ANYONE who actually can do it all. I just want to encourage you today… whatever it is you need to focus on doing right now; do that thing to the best of your ability.
Dear Stacy… How in the world do you get so much done?
I get asked this ALL the time. And I promise you I do NOT do it all. Which means this is something I need to talk to y’all more about! If you think I’m going to tell you how I do it all, you’re reading the wrong blog. Today, I’m sharing how to chose what to bomb.
Don’t worry, we’re not destroying anything… in case you’re wondering about that.
But the idea of how to chose what to bomb comes from this awesome little book by Jon Acuff called Finish. If you haven’t read anything by him, you need to hop on the train! I honestly haven’t read anything of his that isn’t amazing.
I’ve heard him speak and I’ve taken several of his classes. And his first book, Stuff Christians Like, is so funny that you will probably pee in your pants. So if you’re looking for a good pee-in-the-pants laugh…you’ll definitely want to check it out.
But anyway, Finish is actually a follow-up to his book, Start. Jon says most people don’t have a problem starting things. It’s relatively easy to set a goal or try something new, but the problem comes because people don’t actually follow through. This book teaches about what you need to do after you determine your goals and priorities to ensure you can reach them and finish what you start. It’s an awesome read. One thing that he says that’s been a total game-changer and mind-shifter for me…
You have to choose what to bomb.
What does he mean when he says you have to choose what to bomb? Simply put, you cannot do it all! Jon tells a story about the thing he’s chosen to bomb – which just happens to be yard work. He says initially it was a hard thing to admit because it made him feel less manly. But he decided to let it go and hire someone to take care of it. He chose to give it up because other things in his life were more important.
I’m a type A, get-it-done person. I don’t like to ask for help. I want to do it all.
And if I don’t get it all done, I immediately feel like a failure. I’ve had to do a lot of mind shift changes in the last 6 months. It’s only been recently that I’ve learned to ask for help. It’s only been recently that I’ve learned that it’s okay if (and when!) I don’t get everything done that I’d like to accomplish in a day.
I’m a list-maker and I hate when I don’t finish everything that’s on my list. I’ve had to learn that it’s okay if I don’t get my list finished and I don’t get around to everything I wanted to. And we often think others are getting more done than we are.
We have the tendency to look at our friends, neighbors, etc. and compare ourselves to what we see. Whether it’s friends who have their home all completed decorated for fall by September 1st or people who get up every morning at 4:30 am to workout and have muscles on muscles.
Imagine if I always tried to heap everything on my plate I saw everyone else doing!
I’d have to craft and have the perfect yard, and my curtains inside coordinate with the decorations outside. I’d have a van will all the sports stickers driving to all the activities. I’d be making five-course meals from scratch every night with a spotless floor after my children are schooled. And of course, I’d look perfect with my six-pack abs because I’d get up at 4:30 every morning to work out while doing my devotions and solving world hunger. If I tried to do all that, I’d be dead!
What did I choose to bomb?
I don’t do picture-taking, sewing, scrapbooking, or crafts. I shop on Etsy. I buy from the people who do the crafts. I am not going to craft. I could learn to craft if I wanted to, but I don’t want to.
I asked for help on Humorous Homemaking. I actually have an awesome virtual assistant, Julie, who helps me. I chose to bomb some parts of my Humorous Homemaking stuff so I could focus on new material and content for y’all.
I use to be a stickler for a clean house. But I have had to chose to bomb having a spotless house with no dust and no dirt on the floor. Now, there is dirt and dust and toys. Instead of stressing out about this, I chose to bomb having a perfectly clean house all the time. It’s not as important as other things to us right now.
We bomb extracurricular activities. I have a van, but I am the opposite of a van mom. We don’t do sports or dance or tumbling or homeschool co-ops. We just don’t do it. It doesn’t mean it’s bad! We just don’t have the time or the desire right now to be hopping back and forth between those types of activities. We just can’t make the time for it!
Time to choose what to bomb!
What can you let go of? Maybe you need to let go of yard or house work. Maybe you need to ask your mom for help. Or find someone to watch your kids every once in awhile? Or hire a house cleaner? Or give up your scrapbook or crafting time for awhile.
And you know what? It’s lonely living there because nobody likes you! You don’t like yourself! Nobody wants to be around you because you’re a maniac! You don’t have to do it all! I wish I had learned earlier that it was okay to pick things in my life to bomb and not worry about it. I wish I had known that I could choose to bomb and not feel guilty about.
We’re happy where we are! We’ve finally been able to let go of things and say, you know what? That’s not important! If you’re running around and always feel tired and if you’re overwhelmed and just keep heaping more and more on your plate, you are going to break eventually – no one is meant to carry that much weight! No one can live that way for long.
What can you let go of?
Nobody else can choose for you – it’s your life. You decide what you can give up. Then you can more fully pour in to the things that ARE important to you and your family. When you are stretched so thin that you are a maniac, then nothing is getting the good side of you. Bombing is showing yourself grace!
Go forth and chose what to bomb – and bomb it well!
Some of you follow me on Instagram, where I always share our dinners each night and our weekly meal plan on Fridays. Y’all have noticed that our family has cut way back on our meat consumption, and I’ve been getting a lot of questions and comments about it. Everyone is curious – why did we cut back on meat?
About 8 years ago, we started down our path of healthy living.
We started too fast at first. At first, I wanted to do it ALL. Homemade sourdough bread, fermented foods, buy and make everything organic. I wanted to cook everything from scratch. I didn’t want to use any chemicals or anything toxic anywhere in the house. And as you might imagine, I very quickly hit burn out SO bad. I burned out so bad, that I did a 180 and started to go back to buying processed food, eating out a whole lot more, and as a result, we didn’t feel good.
That’s why I always encourage people to go slow.
When you decide you want to eat a healthier diet or live a healthier lifestyle – you have to go slow. Burnout is a real thing! I have been there and it’s no fun. That’s where good, better, best comes in. This idea not only works with food, but with everything in life. Just make one healthy, lasting change at a time. And that’s just what our family did. We tried to make one healthier choice at a time. And y’all this was something that wasn’t overwhelming.
Making one small healthy change at a time was something that I could do.
One of these steps has been to go a little bit more organic. A lot of the organic labeling is questionable. I’m not even sure about it, y’all! And I know I might get some pushback on this because I told y’all to eat poorganic. I haven’t changed my tune; I will always stand by that! I truly believe one of the best ways to eat healthy is to cook from scratch with the best ingredients you can afford. If you don’t know where to start in your healthy eating journey, the best change you can make in your home is to focus on cooking more items from scratch instead of buying processed foods.
You are what you eat eats too.
I’m reading In Defense of Food, by Michael Pollan. It’s not my usual choice in book because it’s a little science-y. But there are several things in this book that have really hit home with us. The one thing that really stuck out with us is Michael Pollan’s idea that you are what you eat eats too.This means that the diet of the animals we eat matters! The food that cows, chickens, pigs, etc. eat has a huge impact on the nutritional quality, and healthfulness, of the meat, milk, or eggs that we consume.
To set the record straight, just because we cut back on meat, doesn’t mean we don’t like meat.
I don’t want to be a vegan or vegetarian. I love bacon and cheese too much. Can I get a witness? But feeding 6 people high quality, organic meat every day is very expensive. I want to be able to buy higher quality produce and dairy. And right now, I can’t afford to buy both high quality produce/dairy and high quality meat. Since my husband is a hunter, we are blessed with the venison meat he is able to provide our family in the fall. Since I don’t have enough venison to supply us for the whole year (and high quality meat is SO expensive!), I make meal choices that do not revolve around meat.
We cut back on meat each week by limiting our menu to 3 meals with meat a week. It’s good for the budget and it’s better for us. We have to eat more fruits and vegetables when the meat takes its leave from the plate. But seriously y’all – we haven’t missed it at all! In fact, one of my children is not interested in meat at all and he’s super happy with this change.
Barry and I did a Whole 30 recently which was very focused on fruits, vegetables, and meats. Barry and I were always hungry! Barry said, “For as much meat as we’re eating, I didn’t expect to be this hungry!” We feel like we are less hungry when we eat fresh, whole grains, and vegetables. Our society focuses so much on protein and we’re conditioned to think protein means meat. But y’all there are so many other great sources, including fresh grains!
Where do I get my meatless meal ideas?
First, let me just say that I could browse Pinterest for hours because there are literally thousands of recipes, tips, and ideas for how to cut back on meat. It’s a great place to start looking for meatless meal ideas! But if you want to start someplace a little less overwhelming, I also really enjoy the recipes over at Budget Bytes. There are a ton of great meatless meal options that are also super affordable. They don’t require a ton of expensive vegan ingredients. My whole family loves her Easy Southwest Mac and Cheese and Black Bean Nachos! I’ve also found lot of great recipes on 100 Days of Real Food, Dashing Dish, and Oh She Glows.
Set goals and start slow!
If you decide you want to cut back on meat, you may be wondering where to start? Think about what your long-term goals are for your family’s health and nutrition. Then start making plans for how to get there. Our ultimate goal is to be able to buy as much as we can from the farmer’s market: meat, produce, and dairy. That is the goal, but we just aren’t there right now. But if you always aim for best, you’re going to drive yourself crazy, girl! Which means right now, I am aiming for better. Maybe for you this means that instead of meat every night of the week, throw in one meatless meal a week. Start slow. Don’t burn out.
Let me know if you have any thoughts or tips on how to cut back on meat consumption. And feel free to share your favorite meatless meal ideas in the comments!
If you’ve been a follower for a while or have known Barry and me for a long time, then you know that we are very transparent. We are always open and honest with y’all. Even though for some reason talking about money is taboo, Barry and I don’t think that makes any sense, as long as we’re talking about it in the right spirit. In today’s post, we’re going to get into the details specifically about the Young Living business, because that’s where we’re spending a lot of time lately and we love it. For you, it may be something else – I get it. I still think you’ll find some value even if you find Young Living isn’t for you, so don’t move on just yet.
My husband and I are independent distributors of Young Living essential oils and when we originally purchased oils, we said we weren’t going to do the whole business thing. But that was not God’s plan! We found ourselves going down a path that we didn’t anticipate and we have been so very blessed that God’s plans were (and still are) bigger than our own.
Now, by law, whenever I talk about the business side of Young Living, I have to share the income disclosure. You’re going to see some really big numbers and it may shock or surprise you. People get uncomfortable talking about money, especially big numbers, but money is not evil, y’all. The Bible doesn’t say money is the root of all evil, it says the love of money is the root of all evil. In the hands of good people, money can do amazing things! In order to give more, you have to make more!
Who could you bless with more income?
Family, friends, missionaries? You can’t bless more people financially without more money. We are working hard for the money we’re earning; it’s not a get rich quick scheme. Anything that promises to be a fast-track to financial success…well…RUN AWAY! What we have today didn’t happen overnight. It has taken consistent work and effort. Most people would love to be able to make more money doing what they love. And that is what this has become for Barry and me.
What would you do if you found ourselves making a LOT of extra each month?
A “LOT of extra” is going to be different for each person, but put a number in your head. What would you do if you had that much EXTRA every single month? Dream big. In our case, we would give to a couple specific needs that we see. There are some people whose debts we would like to pay off. We’d like to be able to more actively support our friends in their missionary work. Especially as a homeschooling family, we would love to take our kids places they could learn more about science and history. We’d like to take a nice vacation (no joke – we’ve not been on a true family vacation since 2007 – BEFORE our kids were born). We’d just love to see a need and be able to stroke a check right away to meet it. Wouldn’t that be amazing!?
That’s why I decided to come right out and talk about Young Living.
Most people will say that you shouldn’t talk about the business side of Young Living before you talk about the oils. If y’all have been around any amount of time, you know that I am passionate about the oils. They have truly changed the life of my entire family. But just to be clear…when you become a wholesale member of Young Living and buy the starter kit, it doesn’t mean that you have to pursue the business side of things. But with that starter kit, you have the possibility – the privilege – to turn it into a business, if you’d like too.
I’ve realized that my Young Living business is a place where I thrive.
I’ve been very surprised how naturally the business side of Young Living comes to me. It fills a need that I didn’t know I had: to be part of a group of women who have the same goal of their family’s overall health and wellness in mind. It wasn’t even on our radar but it just fell into my lap! Maybe you’re like me and said, I can’t do this as a business because I’m an introvert. I get it – that was me! But because this is something I am passionate about, it doesn’t feel uncomfortable to share with others. It wasn’t until after I taught my first class, that I really learned that I loved it and it was something I was good at.
Some of you want to make money doing what you love, BUT you’re not interested in the health side of Young Living oils…yet.
Business growth and a love of the oils goes hand in hand. While some start out all focused on business, that’s rarely the case. Most just use them and find they naturally want to tell people about them because they work. It’s pretty simple, and you’d be surprised how many people just see you using a product and start asking questions about it. Plus, your kids won’t be able to keep their mouths shut! Mine tell people about oils all the time. And it’s pretty darn cute.
Let’s get down to the nitty gritty: what is required to earn a check from Young Living?
I’ll explain using the example of my friend Penny. Penny signed up under my link. When she signed up, since I was eligible for bonuses, I earned $25 as a cash bonus, as well as 25% of the amount of her purchase. I’ll also earn 25% commission on all her purchases during the first three months she is a member. In order to earn all that, I have to spend $50 each month myself. There is no penalty if I don’t spend that much – I just won’t earn any commissions.
After the first 3 months, a different kind of commission structure kicks in, called unilevel commissions. To earn these types of commissions, I have to spend $100 per month, but it makes me eligible for any/all commissions from any person who has ever signed with me or under my team members. Basically, if you’re spending $100 per month on Young Living products, you’re eligible for any/all bonuses and commissions from anyone who has signed with you or will sign with you in the future. It gets a little more complicated than that, but that’s the gist of it.
You may think that spending $100 is a lot. But think about it. I’m not just buying oils. I’m also buying toothpaste, shampoo, soap, cleaning products – there are so many great Young Living products that fit in our clean living lifestyle. It isn’t a big deal to make that commitment since I’m buying things I’m going to use – and not just oils.
Why does Young Living require you to spend money to earn commissions?
So you’ll use the products regularly! They want you to love the oils and to understand their benefits, know how to use them properly, and be able to talk intelligently about the oils to other people! If you’re going to make money in this business, you need to know the products and have an appreciation for what you’re selling. If you don’t love the product, why would you try to convince others to buy it?!
One other thing that’s probably useful to share here. You are NOT a reseller – you don’t keep any inventory or have to fill people’s orders. This isn’t one of those deals. You don’t end up with a garage full of stuff you have to try and sell. That’s NOT how this works. People order their own stuff from Young Living – you provide the support and help them learn about the products.
What do I do on a regular basis for my business?
First and foremost, I teach classes. Usually, I try to do at least 4 classes a month, both online and in person. I do LOTS of team mailings full of encouragement, prayers and scripture, research, notes, samples, rank up gifts. Living Lighthearted Oils is a branch of Humorous Homemaking. Everyone who signs up under me is allowed to join! I also do a lot of team support one-on-one by email, text message, Facebook messaging – if they need me and reach out to me, I am there for them! Shipping questions, oily questions, venting about their children misbehaving, whatever.
I also have a business group where I provide all the resources for someone who wants to do the business side of Young Living: graphics, PowerPoint presentations, guides, etc. This group is separate from the regular group because a lot of people who buy oils don’t want to do the business side and so it keeps things simpler for everybody.
I don’t care if you’re young or old, single or married, have a house full of littles or are newly retired – I am confident that Young Living Oils can be life-changing for everyone. All you have to do is what I always say, “get off your blessed assurance and do something“.
Do I have a target market?
Figuring out who your target market is an important part of your business! My target market is overwhelmed moms who just want to do good, healthy things for their family,but don’t know where to start. Maybe you would like to targeting pet lovers. I know Penny wants to help busy women who have trouble sleeping. Maybe you want to reach athletes or nursing students. We all have individual groups of people we spend time with that we can share the amazing benefits of Young Living oils with.
How much money do you put back into the business?
Until you reach some basic milestones in the business, “they” say that you should be putting all your money back into the business, sending books, oils and other supplies to your team. However, I think how much you put back into the business depends on you, your budget, your needs and your goals. I am making a good paycheck from Young Living, but I’m also still putting a significant amount back into the business because we’re trying to grow the business at a pace we’ve set. It is right for us.
I want to see everyone blessed by this opportunity to make money doing what you love! If you decide that you want to join my team, you will get access to my homemaking course for free. You’ll have my support every single day. I will provide all the resources you need to start your business. Whatever it is you need, I will try to provide! If you know someone who would benefit from this post, I would love for you to share it.
If you have questions that I haven’t answered yet, you may want to check out my Top 10 FAQ about Young Living. Or just so I can give you all the information you need.