Many mainstream media voices - from newspaper columnists to social media commentators - seem to have stepped up a gear over recent months in their attempts to make vile transphobia acceptable, questioning the right of trans people to even exist. This isn't something that is open for debate. And giving the green light to these messages has devastating real-world consequences for trans people
"Just keep having lots of sex with your husband!", the doctor told me in a bright voice. This was her advice when I went to see her to talk about wanting to get pregnant. What was especially irritating about her instruction - besides the obvious fact that for many women, "lots of sex" isn't enough to impregnate them - is that I have a wife, not a husband.
Belatedly now I'm speaking out, fortunately from a better place in life. I'm married to a really understanding guy. I run my own business and I'm positive about my gender identity and sexual expression. When I was a girl I had no inspirational stories to read that helped me understand who I was.
"You never forget your first"- I think is true for most LGBTQ people. Not first loves, but coming out - to a parent, best friend or sibling, perhaps. It's something many of us remember quite vividly in fact, if tales from friends and total strangers are anything to go by. These are, after all, moments that will go on to shape our experiences of the world, our relationships and ourselves.
Being in the closet at work equates to huge amounts of attention and energy being spent to avoid being outed, which can negatively affect performance. To get the best of our teams, they need to be able to be their whole, genuine selves. Thus, employers should be creating workplaces where they are happy to be so.