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Gone are the days you had to depend on your friend or your social circle to get you a date. Now, with the rise of dating apps, life has become relatively easier. However, as life moves into the virtual realm, people tend to forget more and more on how to behave or handle themselves. There is no basic etiquette book on this since most of us learn through experience, but some common rules are good to follow. And if this is your first rodeo, then you will make mistakes. But don’t worry, this dating fairy godmother has got your back.
Yes, mistakes will be made but we all learn from our experiences, so, here are 12 things you should avoid doing on Tinder:
1. Don’t leave your bio blank
Sure, it’s cool to be mysterious but it’s not helpful if you want anyone to swipe right on you. If you’re confused about what to put on your bio, just write on who you are, what you like, what you’re looking for and what you should do, and that should enough to craft a good tinder bio.
2. Don’t write your bio like you’re 14
This is pretty self-explanatory but if your profile reads like dis, then chances are, no one will be swiping right on you anytime soon. Also, curb the urge to write in mixed cases because tHAt’s nOt c00l. You just come off as juvenile and uneducated.
3. Choose the right photo
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder but the world of online dating doesn’t depend on it alone. Gym selfies are a big no-no, so are dimly lit moody pictures and too many selfies. Choose an image that is happy, sunny and has positive vibes; and honestly, more than 2 selfies make you seem narcissist, and that isn’t attractive. Upload something that shows who you are and not what you think the world wants you to be.
4. Fewer ideals, more of you
Defining your ideal partner on your bio may unintentionally make people who don’t fit your definition to the T rule themselves out. Alternatively, try to make your bio about your interests. You might be surprised by who takes your fancy, so keeping an open mind is good.
5. Avoid negativity
Following the above-mentioned point, don’t put a whole list of your pet peeves on your bio. Avoid using strong words like hate or despise; instead, put in things you like—chances are you may be swiped right more if you do so.
6. Creeping people out
We get it you’re really interested, but that doesn’t imply you go on a campaign to woo them no matter what. It’s not cool to be pursuing someone who’s not interested or send them unsolicited pictures in the middle of the day. Also, try not to put all the weird in your bio—unless someone as weird matches with you.
7. Choosing bad openers
The fate of the first date rests entirely on how you open the conversation—if you are the one to send the first message. Don’t just say “sup”, show a little bit of your personality. Demonstrate the fact that you’ve really read their profile, ask questions about their interests. And most importantly, do not be gross.
8. Not putting any effort into the conversation
Yes, yes we know Tinder is not the app for long conversations but it doesn’t imply that you have to be impolite and kill the conversation. If you reply with a “k”, “haha” or “lol”, it shows you have no enthusiasm. The interaction soon gets boring and you give off the impression that you don’t want this anymore.
9. Nagging is an absolute no-no
If you aren’t aware, the art of wooing a person that starts with mild insults (on his/her appearance mostly) is called negging. The goal is to bring the person's self-esteem down a bit by making them apprehensive, which apparently makes it easier to make your moves on them. ‘Dating gurus’ might swear by it, but you don’t want to be that person; this is not a good strategy at all and makes you seem like a complete jerk.
10. Swipe and snoop
This sounds a bit stalker-ish but in the era of social media, if you don’t do some research before the date, it’s detrimental. You can learn a lot about someone by browsing through their Instagram, Twitter or Facebook. More often than not, people don’t go for a second date if political or religious ideas don’t match. Your match won’t put all this on Tinder but they will be talking about such things on SNS, so do some snooping before that date.
11. Getting in too deep
Everyone has some sort of baggage with them; whether it’s money problems, family drama or a bad relationship. While you want to be true to yourself and share stuff with your date, it’s important to not dump it all on them on the first meeting. Plus, Tinder is known primarily as an app for people who want to hook up and have some fun. If you feel like your date doesn’t want anything more than sex, don’t start telling them your life story--he/she isn’t going to care and that will only bring you down.
12. No swiping on the weekends
This may sound surprising if you consider that Sunday nights are often the most active hours on the app and the urge to swipe while intoxicated is high on Friday nights, but experts say it is actually disadvantageous. Some say that people are attracted to singles who present themselves as having a full and happy life; sitting on their couch on a Saturday night online sends the message that they don’t have a lot happening in their lives.
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Moving in with a significant other is a huge milestone for any couple, and may spark some unwanted stress and anxiety. Tough discussions will need to be had, and adjusting to time spent together more often than not will need to find a healthy balance. This should be an exciting moment with your partner, and knowing the right steps to ensure it goes smoothly can make all the difference. That is why we have compiled some helpful tips to ease you into cohabiting so you can enjoy this wonderful new chapter together.
Finances
Having a discussion about finances can be a difficult topic to approach, but it’s important to be upfront and honest. With rent or mortgage payments as a possibility, you will need to find a way to fairly split the cost, as well as establish a budget when looking for a new space. Understand each other's spending habits, and current financial health, as well as income, so spending can take higher or lower salaries into consideration. Especially if you plan on combining your finances and living on a shared income. You can then determine a budget that accommodates rent, weekly groceries and essentials, and other costs, so money never becomes stressful or put a strain on your relationship.
Combining Belongings
Moving in together can be a good time to sort through your belongings and donate, sell, or let go of anything you no longer need or want. Combining two households means having two of everything, so decide on which items should stay and move to your new space, and which items can go. Be sure to take your partner's feelings into consideration when it comes time to sort through the more sentimental items, and find a way to make space for the more important things. When everything is sorted, go to your local Goodwill to donate your gently used items, or have a sale to earn a little extra money to be put towards new appliances or furniture for your new shared space. Sorting through and organizing can be tedious, but make this part of the moving process fun and a way to get to know each other just a little more.
Designing Your Space
When it comes time to design your space together, there can be some arguments if you have clashing tastes. Take to sites like Pinterest and Instagram to get some inspiration, and narrow down a few designs that you both like and find a way to make them a cohesive style. Or, give each other one space to make their own, so that each of your designs are represented. Designing a home together should be fun, and you don’t have to agree on everything. Just be sure to find a balance, and communicate with your partner to come to a common design ground. Then get to work styling your new space!
Finding Alone Time
When living with your partner, it can be hard to find some time apart. It’s healthy for couples to have space from each other to explore their own interests and hobbies, and sometimes the confines of living together can limit that. Be sure to talk to your partner about your schedule and plan a routine that allows for some personal time. You can even go as far as to pick separate areas in your home to designate as your area to unwind. Create a reading nook fit with a comfy reading chair, or an at-home game lounge with a pool table, foosball, darts, and of course a gaming system to play all of your favorite video games. No matter what you choose to fill your room with, it can be your separate sanctuaries to relax and recharge, and spend a little time to yourselves in the process.
Planning for the future
Now that you share a home, planning for the future will be talk that may need to be had. Taking the less traditional route, most modern couples are moving in together before marriage. This can be the ultimate test to see if you are compatible, and it can act as a test run to work out any problem areas before saying “I do.” With marriage being the end goal for a lot of couples, there will need to be discussions surrounding future financial goals, and if the home you choose is the one you plan on staying in long term. This helps to start setting money aside for your future plans and in the decision making process when picking your living space. Try to find ways to align your home buying choices to match your future life together. That way when it comes time to buy an engagement ring of your partner's dreams, you can do so knowing you are prepared for the next exciting chapter of your lives together.
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Everyone goes through break-ups. There are bad break-ups, mutual break-ups, break-ups that fade away over time, or the kind that result in objects being thrown at each other. In fact, unless you decide to marry your very first middle-school crush, they’re simply inevitable. Even so, the aftermath never gets easier. Having the same person your arm for months or even years and then suddenly disappearing from each other’s lives (and social media!) is never exactly a smooth transition.
On one hand, you want to move on with your life. One door closes, another one opens, they say. Close that chapter and open a new one. But regardless of whether we want him back or not, it’s always nice to have him miss you…at least just a little bit, right? Maybe keep that door propped open a little bit while you find yourself again? Maybe earmark that page in the book just until you’re ready to dive into that next chapter? It’s all part of the process.
In order to help us move on just a little bit faster, below are a few way to make him miss you…
1. Keep Him Guessing
“Go stand over there next to that group of guys!” my friend commanded as she held her phone in front of her face and pulled up the camera. “Look like you’re flirting! Yeah…like move near them…”
I wobbled my way over to a line of frat bros, my brand new heels echoing on the floor, and leaned over the bar next to them. “Is this good?” I shouted through the crowd.
“Yup, got it!” she said as she joined me at the bar. “Caption: Single and ready to mingle. Wait no… Out on the prowl!”
My other friends nodded in approval. “Now just wait for him to come crawling back!”
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After a break-up, your first reaction might be to do something drastic with your appearance (new hairstyle, new wardrobe, maybe get that tattoo you always preach about when you’re drunk). You tell yourself that this new style will allow you to separate yourself from the person you were when you were with your ex. Maybe you’re not quite over him, and trying to catch his attention. Maybe you’re trying to attract your first rebound, which will definitely get his attention.
Whatever the reason may be, the decision to treat yourself to a drastic makeover may be counter-intuitive, as your ex will most likely think you’re making that change just for him. His buddy will pull up that Instagram post on his phone (the one your friend spent a half hour editing for you), posing with your fresh new highlights, surrounded by a group of guys with that painfully obvious caption, Single & ready to mingle! or Out on the prowl!, and they’ll take another swig of that beer and laugh it off. “Guess she’s still into me if she put in all this effort!” he’ll think. As long as he thinks you’re consciously making changes in your life to catch his attention, he has you right where he wants you.
Instead, if you really want to make him miss you…be yourself, and no one else. Make him have to dig to find you. Make him realize that life goes on with out him. That he was just one chapter in the bigger story—a mere thought that you’ll eventually get to after you’re done dealing with whatever else is going on in your life. Make him think he’s not on your mind. And as a result, you will be on his.
2. Kill Him With Kindness
“I just want to let you know that now we’re officially DONE. Don’t try to call me or text me or ask me to make up bc I won’t even bother answering. We are through. THROUGH! You don’t have to worry about me bothering you anymore. This is the last time you’ll be hearing from me. Have a nice life!”
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Everyone knows that break-ups are messy. They’re emotional and drawn out and tend to occupy all of your mental energy for an undetermined amount of time. Often, there are lingering feelings (at least on one end) and animosity towards the other person, regardless of what happened in the relationship to get to a point of no return. In the immediate post-break-up period, you might be tempted to try to justify your actions or correct every false accusation that he may have spit out in your arguments. You may try to change his mind about you or the situation. Or maybe you just want the last word. Whatever the reason may be, if you really want to make him miss you...resist.
There is nothing that makes someone more confident about their decision to break up with you than you begging for them to come back or beating to death every issue in the relationship until the horse is far passed rigor. The blurb above was one of the first of countless texts I received immediately after breaking up with my ex of 8+ months. I heard from him “for the last time!” about a hundred times. He wished me a nice life until he was blue in the face. And I never wanted anyone less.
Sure, I had a million things to say that would have completely contradicted everything his skewed thought process had configured in the break-up. Of course, I wanted the last word. But it’s not worth your dignity just to win the battle. Instead, respond to his manic text messages with calm and stoic answers. For example, in response to text message tantrums, I’d say something like, “Thanks for letting me know. Hope you have a nice life too.”
He would love a reason to fight with you and to somehow place himself as the victim in this whole scenario. You know someone stops caring when they stop putting in the effort of fighting it. When the buttons they used to press are no longer effective. Make him think you stopped caring, and then he’ll start missing you.
3. Don’t Drop Off the Map
“Hey, I was gonna send you this funny article, but then I remembered it was from that conversation when we were at Jon’s house, and I wasn’t sure if you wanted to remember anything from when you guys were still like…together, so I didn’t. But I’m sending it to you now since I brought it up… Sorry. Anyway, it’s funny.”
* * *
If you had been dating for a decent amount of time (even a few months), you’ve most likely developed some kind of relationship with his family and friends. Maybe you met his friends at happy hour a few times or bonded with his sister at their house. Maybe you have some mutual friends or coworkers that still inevitably appear in your life, especially on social media. If that’s the case, and if you were actually close with them at one point or another, you don’t have to change your routine to avoid them. If you want to make him miss you, don’t drop off the map.
Just like you have your army of girls, he has his own group of loyal buddies. Maybe not to the same extent as girls (although I wouldn’t be surprised), but they’re there, keeping tabs if need be, being a good bro. Even if you’re not in contact with your ex, you can still respond to a group message or comment on a picture that his sister posts. Don’t go out of your way, and don’t say anything to bring up the break-up. Let him know that you weren’t just his girlfriend. You have your own personally, your own opinions. You make your own friends.
I mean, you don’t want to go out of your way, and you don’t want to over do it, but if his buddy happens to send you a funny article—something you would have laughed at weeks prior, when everyone was just one big happy family—then respond about the article. Don’t even mention him!
By popping up in his life through extensions of himself in a subtle and classy way, he’ll still sense your presence but without having the luxury of having you in his own life. He’ll see that you’re still around, just out of reach, and it will make him miss you.
How to make him miss you? Move on, but stay close.
Break-ups are always a complicated process. You had let down your guard and allowed someone to step into your life. Someone who you trusted and spent countless hours with. Someone that you brought around to your friends and family and shared a chunk of your best Millennial days with. It’s hard to let that person go, even if there were plenty of reasons for it to end.
If you want to make him miss you, let yourself move on. But don’t stray too far away—not until you’re completely ready to cut ties. Close the door, but don’t lock it. Start a new chapter, but not a new book. Make him miss you, and then you decide what you want.
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The short answer is…compatibility! Even though many of us know this to be true, people find themselves searching for the excitement of good chemistry. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, chemistry will make it fun but it’s your compatibility that will make it last. What you need to do is look for the compatibility and let the chemistry grow if it isn’t there right away.
There was a scientific study done where women rated men’s attractiveness based solely upon a photograph. The women would then meet the men, talk to them, and rate them again. What happened time and time again was the score would go up or down depending on if the women liked their personalities. It was concluded that women could change their score up to 4 points depending on if they enjoyed their conversations. How can you use this fact in your everyday life? When you meet a man that you are not necessarily attracted to, don’t write him off right away. Give it some time and see if their personality will make them more attractive to you.
In the video below, EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein, tells us a story about his client, Isabella. After going on a date with a man named Nick, she told Mike that she had a good time but she didn’t feel any chemistry. She thought Nick was smart and she loved talking to him but she just wasn’t attracted to him. Mike suggested that she give him another shot. After going on a bunch of dates with Nick, Isabella called Mike and told him that Nick is the sexiest man alive! She gave him a chance and boy did it pay off! The two have been together ever since and they have been happily married since 2017.
The moral of the story is that it’s ok if you don’t feel instant chemistry with a guy. If you enjoy spending time together, give the guy a shot and let the chemistry build. If the compatibility is there, that will give the relationship the solid foundation that it needs to stand the test of time. It’s ok if the chemistry isn’t there right off the bat. Give it a little time and see what happens.
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Has this ever happened to you? You go on a bunch of dates with a guy and things are going great. You enjoy talking and getting to know each other and it really feels like it could be something special. All of a sudden, without warning, BAM! No texts, no phone calls, no smoke signals…nothing! Then, almost as suddenly as he disappeared, he’s back! Where did he go? Why did he disappear like that? Was it something you did?
When men execute these types of disappearing acts, they usually don’t mean to hurt anyone. Nevertheless, it can feel very hurtful to be left behind, wondering what’s wrong. There are many reasons why this happens and there are steps that you can take to help prevent it from happening again. In fact, EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein, has come up with a 2-step process to help you handle these types of issues!
Step 1: find out why he left. Did he have a reasonable and legitimate reason?
Step 2: Come up with a plan to make sure that he doesn’t disappear on you again.
How do you do that? You need to ask him straight up if he’s going to do it again. Feel free to be direct and let him know how it made you feel when he left the way that he did. Next, you must hold him accountable for his actions by asking him what your plan should be if he should do it again.
There’s a big difference between something serious, like a family emergency, and something not so serious, like just wanting to hang out with friends. The former, which most likely will be an isolated incident, means that it was something extreme that required his full attention and focus. Let him know that you were worried and tell him that if anything like that should happen again, you would love it if he could let you know. That way, you wouldn’t get so anxious and you can be there to help if he needs you.
The latter is a completely different story. Hanging out with friends is very important but that doesn’t mean that he should just vanish without a trace. A quick text or phone call letting you know where he is would prevent a world of worry and also show you that you are important to him. When you care about someone, you have to be considerate and respectful of them. You and your feelings should be important to him and vanishing without any word shows a disregard for you and your feelings. You have to let him know how hurtful that is and you have to set that boundary. With that boundary in place, you can make sure that it won’t happen again.
Wondering if you would be a good fit for coaching with EZ Dating Coach? Book A complimentary 15 minute strategy session HERE and find out. Let's get you a high quality man that will be yours forever.
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