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Ladies: Have you ever felt disrespected or unheard in your relationship? Maybe he does things that you don’t like or maybe he isn’t showing you the kindness and respect that you deserve. This doesn’t mean that he is a bad person or that he doesn’t care about you. Your man might just need a little more guidance. He simply might not know how to make you happy and he might need you to tell him specifically what to do. Break it down for him by telling him what you need and be sure to explain why It’s important to you.
You have to set the standards in your relationship and your man has to rise to meet them. If he is treating your right, let him know. He will love knowing that he made you happy! If he just isn’t delivering, you have to hold him accountable. If you don’t, he will probably continue with the same behavior and he won’t give you what you need to feel safe, secure, and loved in your relationship.
Men also need clear boundaries for what is and what is not acceptable. This is also important to make sure that you are comfortable and happy. Be sure to specify exactly what your boundaries are in all aspects of your relationship. This can be anything from telling him what you are ready for sexually to discussing what you need on an emotional level. Don't be afraid to tell him exactly how you feel and make sure that you never do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Men actually find these limits to be very sexy and exciting and you should feel free to move at a pace that feels right for you.
If you need more from your man, let him know. Don’t be afraid to speak up. If It’s a good relationship, he cares about you and he wants to make you happy. A little guidance can go a long way! Give your man a roadmap to your happiness and you will both have a wonderful journey together.
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We all feed off of each other’s energies. I’m sure you’ve felt it many times before. If you are spending time with someone who is happy and excited, it lifts your spirits and before you know it, you’re happy and excited, too. That person has wonderful energy and it makes you happy to be around them.
If you let happiness and excitement shine through in your conversations, you’ll see how it positively impacts the people around you, too. There are many ways to do this in the dating world. For example, if you are on a date with a guy and he asks you what you do for a living, be confident and enthusiastically tell him about your job. You can also spread joy by telling him how happy you are to be on a date with him or by complimenting the place or activity. He will feel great knowing that he's making you happy and your positive energy will be absolutely irresistible to him.
You can carry this positivity with you and incorporate it into all aspects of your life. You will find that when you that put good energy out there, you get lots of good energy back in return. That being said, no one is happy all the time. We all have bad days and we all have challenges that we need to overcome. Don’t be inauthentic or feel like you have to hide any struggles that you are facing. Venting and sharing things with others is very important for your health and well-being, as well as your relationships. It will help you get through difficult times and it will strengthen your bonds with the people who are there for you. Don’t bottle anything up or feel like you have to be fake. Whenever possible, try to see the good in things and let joy radiate from within. This won’t only draw men to you, it will set you on a path to true inner peace.
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Online dating has brought countless couples together but it has also brought many people a lot of frustration. Why do some women seem to have better luck than others when it comes to meeting the right guy online? Get ready because I’m going to teach you the secret that will help you take control of you online dating life and find the guy for you!
Here’s how to start: If you aren't already on OkCupid, you should definitely sign up! They have created an algorithm designed specifically to help you find your match. To begin, head over to OkCupid and fill out the match algorithm questions. Men will be given a match percentage between 0-100% based on your responses. Men that have a score above 90% are guaranteed to have qualities that will be compatible with you. In fact, research shows that 85% of the men that have a 90% or higher match percentage with you will be men that you can really connect with.
Your next step will be reaching out to these high-scoring men. This is another big issue! Women need to send more messages! Women are sending an average of 2-4 messages per week when they should be sending closer to 50 messages. Don’t let that high number overwhelm or intimidate you. I’m going to walk you through it! Your message can say something along the lines of, “Hi! I hope you’re doing well. How is your week going? Let me know when you get a free moment if you’d like to great a drink sometime”. If you are not the type of person that is ready to go on a date right away, when he responds you can say, “I’m so glad you want to grab a drink! Let’s chat on the phone for 10 minutes and when we’re done, we’ll set up the date”. Letting him know that your conversation will be a short 10 minutes will help to alleviate any stress or anxiety over all of the unknowns that a first conversation can bring. He will love that it won’t seem overwhelming or like a lot of work.
Once you send out your 50 of so messages, you should receive around 12 responses. Look through them and pick 1 or 2 men that you feel could be a great fit for you and go on 6-8 dates with them. During these dates, they will show you if they are right for you. Either way, you should be able to have a nice time and enjoy the experience of dating good men.
Take advantage of the algorithm and trust that it will help you to find someone that you are compatible with. Allow it to remove the stress of online dating by showing you which men you are more likely to hit it off with. Use this helpful technology to weed through the low-quality men, enjoy going on dates with high-quality men, and find the right guy for you!
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EZ Dating Coach | Make Dating Simple by Your Ez Dating Coach, Mike Goldstei.. - 1M ago
The answer is YES! Of course, you are! We all have insecurities and get down on ourselves sometimes. The fear that you aren’t attractive enough can really hold you back. I’m here to tell you that you absolutely are attractive enough to find love. I have proof! Are you ready for this?
Let’s get into some science and learn about the physiology of men and women. You’ve probably heard that men are very visual. This is because men have 25% more receptors going from their eyes to their brain than women do. Interesting, right? Don’t let this fact intimidate you! It’s a great thing and we’ll talk about why, later.
If you found that fact interesting, you’re going to love this… There was a scientific study done where women looked at photos of men and rated their physically attractiveness on a scale from 1-10. After rating the men, the women met with them and were asked to rate their attractiveness again. If the man had a great personality, his score went way up. A kind and charming man that was initially rated a 4 could now be an 8! Conversely, a man that she didn’t hit it off with could go from a 4 to a 0! This teaches us that a man’s personality can really make him more or less attractive to a woman.
Now check this out… when they flipped the study and did the same test on men, women’s personalities had a smaller effect on their ratings. If he really liked her personality, her score could go up 1 point and if he really didn’t like her personality, it could drop down 1 point. This teaches us that men need to be attracted to a woman right off the bat. Women can grow to be attracted to a man while men need to feel it right away.
Don’t let this make you nervous, ladies. Men are attracted to a lot of things. Like I said early, men are very visual. They love your face, your hair, your smile, your confidence, your style… Plus, there is a lid for every pot! There is someone out there for everyone! Be confident and proud of who you are and let your beauty shine!
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Woah, that is a freaking loaded question! Well I am going to unwrap this one for you and attempt to make this as EZ as possible.
Because I hate when things are difficult and hate when things are confusing. So wish me luck, this isn't a battle, this one is a war.
(I just started watching GOT from the beginning)
Alright, anyway.
So, first off, what are some "Rules?"
I grabbed these from "The Rules: Time Test Secrets for Capturing The Heart of Mr. Right" by Ellen Fein
Examples:
Don't Meet him halfway or go dutch on a dateDon't open up too fastDon't call him and rarely return his callsDon't expect a man to change or try to change him
So first disclaimer, this is just a small sampling of hundreds or maybe even thousands of rules in this book.
So hopefully you had some of the same reactions I had when reading this...
My biggest one was to:
"Don't call him and rarely return his calls"
I am cool with not calling him. I like to let a man chase. But, I am mortified by the advice of rarely returning his calls.
Let's unpack that from a man's perspective.
I call a woman I am interested in. I leave her a message requesting a call back. She doesn't call me back. My thought is simple, she is not interested.
NEXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!
Men want to chase, but they are NOTTTTTTTTTTTT going to chase women who cannot be caught!!!!!!!!
So what should you do? Don't be the first one reaching out, but respond to the poor guy (assuming you are interested in him or he is going to disappear thinking you are not interested).
Oh Boy, I just realized what I did!
I said, "That Rule is bad! But do this rule!"
Which I guess brings me to the answer to the original question: Do you need rules or simply to have fun with the guy?
Well, I think if you are a person with a the goal of - (Get a Life Partner)
Well you need a game plan. If you want to make rules, well rock and roll - HAVE THEM!
But, don't make them black and white for the ones that don't need to be.
For example: If it means the world to you, not to have sex until you are in a committed relationship. THEN HOLD STRONG TO THAT ONE.
But in regards to the rule: Don't Meet him halfway or go dutch on a date
Maybe...
If a guy suggests meeting for a drink 30 minutes away from him and it is also 30 minutes away for you and he seems like a good guy. Well freaking GO!!!!!!!!!
What are you crazy? Who turns down a 1st date with a promising person because you are both driving the same distance?
Now, IF HE LIKES YOU AFTER THE 1ST DATE. DON'T BE SURPRISED WHEN THE 2ND DATE IS CLOSER TO YOUR HOUSE.
But, you never would have gotten there if you didn't show up for the first date.
Men, fall in love using their eyes. Assuming this is an online date and the guy is desirable, he is not going to be excited about traveling 75-95% of the distance to your house for a first meet and greet. (He doesn't know if he is into yet so he doesn't want to invest in you yet.)
BUT, if he is attracted to you and you have good conversation on a first date...Watch out 2nd date he will put some effort in and starting INVESTING IN YOU.
But don't expect investment until he gets to meet you.
Now, what is the EZ outcome of this whole thing.
If a rule makes sense FOR YOU. Use it. If it doesn't make sense for you, THROW IT OUT!
But most importantly access what kind of person you want to be. If you want to be known as reliable, consistent, attainable, then return phone calls.
If you want to be seen as this busy, fantastic, maybe unattainable prize, that is going to require a lot of work then do that.
I am not saying either way is wrong, but the latter will end up in less dates and MAY end up with folks that are more persistent. (Or have less shame, which in my personal opinion is a sexy quality)
Bottom line: You are smart, use what works for you and throw out what doesn't. But, always have fun. A man having fun will deal with some of your boundaries/rules but if he isn't having fun he will be gone very quickly.
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EZ Dating Coach | Make Dating Simple by Mike Goldstein - Your Ez Dating Coa.. - 1M ago
I know you come to my advice because I usually stick to the data, the numbers, and then tell you what to do based on my findings. Well, there is something I realized. You can have all the data and the top strategy in the world but if you are not in a happy place you are going to mess the whole thing up. (Contrary to the picture above, no science in this article, just some good old fasion common sense, my life experience, and some FREAKING FUNNNNNN!)
LET'S GET INTO IT!
So today I want to discuss a VERY EZ switch to make you happier.
So here is what I want you to do.
I want you to wake up, come up with 5 gratitudes. AKA - 5 things you are thankful for. For example: I am thankful I can walk, I am thankful I have shelter, I am thankful I have clothes, I am thankful I have a job where I can wake up whenever I want, I am thankful I get to help people fall in love. (This list could go on for a long time if I wanted to keep writing and if you wanted to keep reading)
But, I think you get the point so we will move on.
Next, I want you to jump out of bed and do a 5 minute workout. Maybe you do a few air squats, maybe a few sit ups, perhaps a few pushups. The key is, the first time you do this. Make it easy, just something to get the blood flowing. (It is only 5 minutes)
For me, I always wake up cold and certainly not wanting to leave bed. I usually scroll my phone for a bit. This is wildly unproductive and makes me angry that I lost that time forever.
However, once I started doing my 5 minute works out I realized a few things.
1 - It warmed me up
2 - It got me excited to start the day.
3 - It made me not scroll
Then, I want you to go about your day.
Finally, at the end of the day. I want you to think about 3 awesome things you accomplished today. For example, today I am pumped I wrote this blog article. I made an awesome breakfast which was delish! I did a good job swimming laps.
Boom! That's what I am talking about.
What I have found is it is impossible for my brain to go into a negative spot when I start realizing how lucky I am to have all the things I have in my life. It makes me realize how much massive abundance I have and how very fortunate I am.
I hope you realize the same. Oh, and one more thing. There is no wrong answers here and don't be afraid to have your accomplishments feel small. They aren't small, they are fantastic and beautiful, they are simply the descriptor you decide to give them.
My making breakfast example for some will sound like part of any routine and simple. But for ME, it isn't. One of my goals is to improve my energy levels and overall health. Some folks just grab a pop tart and call it breakfast. Shoot, at one point in my life I did that.
But today I cooked vegetables, eggs, and washed/prepared fruit. I am eating a breakfast fit for a champion and thus it is what I accomplished for the day. I am moving my health goals forward.
Anyway, enough of defending my accomplishments... The point of this is to make you comfortable to say ANYTHING that you want. There is nothing too small, too big, too foolish. If it is good for you, then rock and roll, make it your accomplishment.
It is good enough for me and I got your back!
Anyway, we could all used a little more happiness in our lives. Anytime you are down, start listing what you are thankful for and see if you can't start changing your attitude ASAP.
Well friends, this article just came to an end.
I love all of you.
Now go find your happiness!
What are you still reading for.
GO, ONWARD, TO HAPPINESS!!!!! FULL SPEED...
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I filmed this video with a chipped tooth. I felt embarrassed and silly but I thought that it was important to be vulnerable and confident. I wanted to show you how important these traits are, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. Studies show that the number one sexiest thing for both men and women is…CONFIDENCE! When you are vulnerable with someone, you are showing them that you are confident enough to open up.
So, how can you be vulnerable in your relationship? Don’t be afraid to let him in and tell him how you feel. This can be anything from sharing your fears and anxieties about the future to talking about something difficult that you went through in the past. This will help you really connect and bond and talking about these types of things will also help you to move passed them. Your vulnerability will draw your man to you and really opening up will bring you closer than ever.
Now that you know how to be vulnerable, let’s talk about how to be confident? Speak your mind and tell your man what you want. Confidence is not only sexy, when you are able to come right out and say what you need, you are more likely to get it. Your man will love that he doesn’t have to guess what will make you happy. You told him what you need, he can help you get it, and then he will feel great knowing that he made you happy. It’s a win-win!
Being vulnerable can feel really scary but once you get passed those initial feelings, you will see how many benefits it has. It allows you to let your partner in and really bond and connect with them. It can also help you resolve an issue or find closure. If you aren’t a naturally confident person, the idea of being confident may feel a bit intimidating. You can do it! Once you do, you’ll see how great it is! Your man will find it so sexy, attractive, and refreshing! He will know exactly what he can do to make you happy and that will make him feel great! Feeling sexy and attractive will make you feel great, too! Being confident will also help you get what you need. You will be surprised with all of the wonderful changes that can occur when you are vulnerable enough to let people in and confident enough to stand up for your own happiness.
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Meeting men during the different phases of your life can vary from being incredible easy to rather difficult. However, at most phases of your life, you are looking for quality over quantity which can certainly be a very daunting task.
But, let me show you how to do it for folks 21-75.
Step 1
In my humble opinion I think the first step is defining what a QUALITY guy looks like for you. I would accomplish this by making a list of every possibly quality you want in a man. Next, I would shrink the list to your top 5 qualities. Now, moving forward you will only pursue men that have your top 5. After a first date, you will look at your list and if the guy has your 5, you will agree to a 2nd date, if he doesn't have your 5, then he won't' qualify for a 2nd date. Easy peezy right!?
Step 2
Now that you have a quality man defined, it is time to figure out how you want to meet this guy. As far as I can tell there is almost an unlimited way to meet men. Some examples: Grocery shopping, ice skating, workout classes, online dating, through friends, religious organizations, meetup groups, Brazilian jui jitsui, running groups, travel groups, and the list goes on for some time. Which one of these methods excites you?
If the list is daunting and you don't know what to do, let me put you into 1 of 2 categories.
Category
1 - Introverted or Just Prefer to Meet Men In the Comfort of Your Home
2 - Extroverted and Prefer to Meet Guys In Person
If you are category 1. I would highly suggest rocking online dating. If you are going to do online dating, I would suggest doing it my way. My was is the most efficient and successful strategy in the country. If this is interesting to you, buckle up, because I am going to rock your world with this.
If you don't want to do online dating, no big deal. Shoot down to my ideas for category 2 folks.
But, if you want to do online dating, HERE WE GO!
Okay, first off. If you are going to do anything, you should do it in the most efficient manner possible. Time is wildly valuable and if you are inefficient than you are wasting your valuable time. That is why I researched and eventually built the most efficient system possible.
Now, to be efficient you need to have a competitive advantage. A competitive advantage will come by doing something that most people are not doing. The activity I am speaking about is mass messaging from a traditional online dating site. For example, if you create a match account and start messaging men.
Most women either DO NOT message men or message a few a month. These metrics are way too low. In order to have a competitive advantage, you need to message at least 50 men in a week.
You are probably thinking, "Mike, how is this efficient? I am going to find 50 guys I am interested by spending a ton of time and then I am going to have think of a great message to send to them. This is crazy time consuming."
You would be 100% right if you did it that way. My suggestion is to copy and paste a message to the first 50 guys that look decent.
Then, when the guys reply to your message research their profiles, photos, messages, and determine which guys makes sense for you.
Why does this work?
What I have found is that when you send 50 messages, on average 12 men will be interested in you. From that 12, I want you to select 1 to go on a date with that week.
Now imagine, if you had 12 guys that wanted to date you every single week and your job was to simply pick 1. Don't you think that 1 date each week would be pretty good?
Oh baby, yes, it will be a great date! Using this system my clients only need to meet 6-8 guys to find someone they like.
Pretty awesome right?
We call that 50-12-1. In my opinion it is the only way to do online dating. It gives you more options and allows you to pick out quality men quickly.
Now, sometimes 50 doesn't produce 12. In that case send 100, 150, or even 200. If you can't get 12 from 200 then either your pictures, profile, or location you live is really hurting you. You may want to look into fixing one or all of those.
Alright, let's move on. Online dating is not for everyone.
So Category 2 folks that want to meet men in person, let's have some fun and get you out there.
How fun is this going to be?
First, pick something you enjoy doing OR better yet picking some activity you want to learn and that you are not good at yet.
Now you are probably thinking, "why something I am not good at?"
Great question my friend! When you are doing the activity and struggling you can turn to the nice guy next to you and ask him for help. While he helps you, perhaps you start to build a connection, or at the very least you can give him appreciation for his help and make him feel needed by you. (Men gravitate towards women that make them feel needed)
Okay, nice work. So there you have it. You got 2 massive categories on how you can meet men. Feel free to pick the category you enjoy most or if you are a switch hitter, start meeting men in both categories.
Alright beautiful lady, you got all the tools to make it happen. Go out there and get it done!
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As a man, I can speak to this topic on a personal level! Get ready! It’s story time!
My fiancé and I were heading to my cousin Ross’ wedding when we decided to stop to get something to eat. My fiancé suggested that we get some Greek food and we found an awesome sounding Greek restaurant online. Everything was going great until I got a little lost. I began feeling really overwhelmed when she tried to help me figure out which way to go. Then, when she then tried to have a conversation about something else, I totally lost it! STOP! I can only do one thing at a time! I was trying to figure out how to get to the restaurant. Stressed out, I raised my voice at her. I felt awful for losing my cool and hurting her feelings.
Many men have this limitation. We can only do one thing at a time. This is difficult for women to understand because they have ten times more receptors between the left and right hemispheres of their brains. This makes them far superior in the multitasking department.
There are some things that women can do to help men with these limitations. You can do your best to understand and accept that he needs to do on one thing at a time. Allow him to focus on completing the task at hand. Step back and give him some time to get things done. Once he finishes whatever he is working on, you can move onto something else. This will help him to feel accepted and at ease, he won’t feel overwhelmed or frustrated, and he will feel great once he completes the task. Men love solving problems and getting things done. If he can devote all of his focus to one thing at a time, he can get a lot more done than if he tried to do a lot of things at once and became overwhelmed.
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EZ Dating Coach | Make Dating Simple by Your Ez Dating Coach, Mike Goldstei.. - 3M ago
Has this ever happened to you? Your relationship seems to be going great and then BAM… your boyfriend disappears. You were probably left feeling hurt and confused and maybe even angry. You also might have blamed yourself. I am here to tell you that you are not to blame and you can and will get past these negative feelings.
This is the most important lesson that I can teach you: No one can make you feel anything. Yes, someone’s words or actions can bring on negative feelings but you have the power to turn it all around. Every day, you have to wake up and to decide how you feel. You have to tell yourself that yes, that person hurt you but if they are capable of doing that to you, you don’t want them in your life anyway. You have to move forward with positivity and invite positive people into your life.
I know all too well that this is easier said than done. The secret is that you have to fake it until you make it! How do you do that? When someone asks you how you’re doing, tell them that you are fantastic, amazing, or phenomenal! Even if I am feeling down or in a bad mood, if I use one of these happy adjectives and put on a happy face, I start feeling better. I bet you will, too! Give it a shot! It’s amazing what a positive outlook can do!
For the record, there are tons of reasons why a man might disappear and most of these reasons have nothing to do with their partner. Maybe he is not ready for a commitment… Maybe things just don’t feel right… Maybe he is panicking and can’t handle confrontation… Maybe he doesn’t think he’s good enough for you…Whatever his reasoning might be, if he chooses to vanish without coming to you and telling you what’s going on, he is not the one for you. He did not end the relationship in the right way but that relationship was meant to come to an end so you can find someone who would never disappear on you.
Keep in mind that there is a big difference between a man needing space and a man completely up and vanishing. Space is actually really healthy and helpful for men. When they are under stress, they need that time to decompress and clear their mind. If you see your man seeking out time alone, be supportive and let him know that you are there for him if he wants some company later.
When something brings you down, you can lift yourself up, even if you’re just pretending to be ok at first. Remember that there is always a reason why people do the things that they do. If he disappeared, that’s on him. Now, you are free to find someone who will stay by your side no matter what. Do your best to stay positive and it will get easier and easier.
The fake it until you make it method doesn’t work for everyone all the time. If you are feeling depressed, please know that you are not alone. I encourage you to reach out to loved ones and seek help from a professional.
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