Proverbs 31. The one passage that both inspires and overwhelms us simultaneously. The passage that drives us but can make us feel insecure and ineffective as a woman of God.
This passage and I have a conflicted history.
Ten years ago, I joined a mom’s Bible study. I was trying to parent one (very difficult) six-month old, we had just purchased a small house in a new town and I was drowning. I
As a counselor, I've worked with thousands of individuals and couples struggling with parenting. It is amazing how at the beginning of parenthood,
everything seems exciting. Babies are sweet, smell wonderful and love cuddling. But
as they grow, we realize that parenting is hard.
When your sweet adorable infant becomes a terror at age three or your
preteen screams, “I hate you,” emotion overwhelms
Control. The dreaded C
word. As Christians, intellectually we know control as a response to doubt and
fear can be problematic. We’ve all witnessed situations where someone’s need
for control destroys friendships, a marriage, or a parent-child
As someone who struggles
with this myself, I am not judging others. I understand how that need for
everything to be done just. the. way.
We were driving last week and two songs in a row mentioned
God’s promises. My 10-year-old piped up from the back, “Why are there so many
songs about promises?” Caught off-guard, I mumbled a sentence about God’s
promises being comforting as you get older and we kept driving. I realized
later how shallow my response was and how little it captured the impact God’s
promises have had on my life.
Like many people, I was shocked and saddened by Luke Perry’s
death this week. When celebrities (or anybody!) dies, we are reminded we are
not immortal. Our bodies are frail. Money doesn’t guarantee you long life. His
death from a stroke reminded me to not take my dad’s survival from a massive
stroke several years ago for granted.
Saddened by his death, I was reading an article today about
Domestic violence is a
complex issue. Few survivors of domestic violence realize how abusive their
partners will become, since many abusers can be very charming.
However, many will slowly increase control over a period of months or years, so
by the time they are physically abusive, it is difficult for their partner to
Unfortunately, there is no simple formula for predicting future
I was sharing with a friend about the marriage workbook my
husband and I are writing, and she asked me, “As social workers, do you ever
have dark times?” It gave me pause. We often share healthy ways to improve your
marriage with others, but what tools do we actually use the most?
Because let’s be honest; we have to use tools to keep our marriage strong. We have both been social workers for
Every January, we plot and plan the upcoming year. We set
goals in different areas of our lives, lose a few pounds, strive for a promotion,
train for a race, spend more time in God’s word.
All of these are important, but how often do we set a goal for our marriage?
A few weeks ago, I was out for lunch with a friend and shared my excitement about New Year’s Eve, since my husband and I often
As 2018 wraps up, I have to confess
something. This has been a desert year for me. Sure, my social media is full of
pictures of fun things I did and places I went, but behind the scenes,
confusion about my purpose and God’s will for my life has consumed me.
For the sake of authenticity, I will
bare all because I think some of you can relate.
I started out 2018 with big plans.
Fall is a beautiful time of year. You can enjoy comfortable (and flattering!) leggings, fall leaves and pumpkin-flavored everything. However, for many Americans, the cool weather and shorter days means something different. They find themselves feeling down, lethargic, or sleeping way too much. They feel apathetic about work or hopeless about life.
Seasonal affective disorder (or SAD) is a