WHAT ASOS CURVE ACTUALLY LOOKS LIKE! ME VS. MODEL | AND I GET DRESSED - YouTube
Today I posted a video on my youtube channel as the kick off to a new series called Me Vs. Model. This isn't to compare myself to a model except to say that I am different. It's not to see who wore it best but to say we are both deserving of clothes we like.
I'm sure I'm not the first human to post side by side photos of them-self and a brand image but here's why I thought it important. As both an "influencer" and a seasoned marketing person, I've had the unique experience of being a person who creates what I feel is quality content - often celebrated by media and organizations that I greatly respect all while having the marketing data and brand experience to know that I'm also not what a lot of women want to see (even when they look exactly like me).
We see a smaller model who is little in the middle with a big booty, you buy the jeans. We see an apple shaped woman at even a size 18, they are needing to mark product down because you don't shop when you see yourself.
In my video I talk a little bit about body worship and how it affects our what we put into our carts, purchase and often get it home only to hate it. Did you buy it because you like it or is this something we snagged because the model looked "hot". There are very few brands who do this - probably because it's expensive but wouldn't it be fantastic to see clothes on a variety of sizes and body types? My hope would be that the more we see ourselves reflected the more we can come to a place of self acceptance so that a mirror image of ourselves doesn't scare us way from shopping.
Shopping to fix "flaws" rather than as a creative expression of self will leave you covered but robbed of the joy that fashion can bring. Starting with a self or societal imposed "negative" is the opposite of fashion freedom.
Heads are turning left and right and people are shook at her outfit, hair in the wind and overall glorious-ness of this bad bih. You were never going to have that moment as a plus size woman until recently. Swimwear was nothing short of abysmal. I'm sure the powers that be figured that if fat women didn't even "want" cute clothing we certainly didn't care about what we look like in a swimsuit.
Make it black, use as much fabric as possible and just hide as much of her as you can, right? Enter the the powerful interwebz. Fatties screamed, yelled, stomped and the "fatkini" triumphed. Thing is, I felt like the one piece was left behind! I love a bikini as much as the next fat beaching bombshell, but sometimes I want a one piece, I just do.
My worst nightmare would be to go to the beach and be twinning with someones granny. Like, we all going to have the same black with big florals suit? Nah. Anyhoo, the plus size one piece has finally seen some upgrades and here are a few that I think totally rock.
I never feel like I have the luxury to ignore any retailer offering clothing in my size, here's what that means...
Shopping while plus size often means having to keep every option open. I've never really felt like I had the luxury to count out any retailer offering my size because the sky isn't the limit when it comes to stylish clothing in size fat.
Of course I have my favorites like Eloquii and ASOS for affordable stylish pieces with quality that I can generally count on but there are places that I rarely shop that I should look into a bit more. I'm thinking of starting a series either here or on my Youtube channel were I shop more unexpected (for me) places.
I was at Culver City Mall recently and one of the women working in the store I was in was wearing this dress. She was more of an in-betweenie so I just automatically assumed she purchased the dress somewhere with sizes not accessible to me.
After creepily staring at her for a while I finally decided to ask where she bought the dress. When she told me Forever 21 just a few stores down that same week and that there were a ton of them there, I shot out of the store I was in to go cop it!
If you want to check out my video of me trying on this dress you can check it out below. I've also rounded up nine must haves on the Forever 21 site right now. Check them out here.
PLUS SIZE SHOPPING IN A LOS ANGELES MALL | AND I GET DRESSED - YouTube
The thing strangers on the interwebs have asked most is why I decided to leave NYC and come to LA. The thing is
I've lived in Manhattan nearly my entire adult life. I left Philly at like 22 years old and never looked back. My New York story began like most peoples, I saw the city, loved the city, just had to live there, you know the one. Growing up in Philly was incredible and it will always be home because almost my entire family lives there but I quickly new I wanted to be in the hustle and bustle of the city that never sleeps.
The thing about never sleeping is that it can grow old. Not for everyone but it did for me. I came to the city and grinded! A 20 something year old Vice President at my former PR agency to going out on my own and landing work on campaigns that I couldn't have imagined. Starting my blog and switching gears which in a lot of ways felt like starting over in my 30's but here we are and I'm loving every second of it.
I met friends that I call family, lived in some really cool apartments, shared so much love - and loss. It's funny, someone left a comment on a recent post on Instagram where I asked everyone to share their assumptions about me - they said "You moved to California to run away from something or someone." and the truth is that I wasn't running away from someone, I was running toward myself.
New York was good to me. It's a city that can eat you alive and I'm so incredibly proud of what I was able to accomplish and the woman that I became there. But I want more than grind and hustle. I want to get back to me. Mentally, spiritually and physically. It felt like the right time. I'm secure in who I am and my capabilities but also still flexible and want to grow.
California for me has always represented more of the grown up life I've wanted. It's still a city but I have access to nature. The quality of life is so much higher than Manhattan and hello, sunshine...eternal sunshine!
I'm really excited to share more of my LA life with you all. I've started a Peace & Palm Trees (yup, that's what I'm hear for!) playlist on my youtube channel. I hope you'll take a second to check it out. More to come.
Social media has been known to trigger and make people feel less than that's why
I follow accounts that not only attract me aesthetically but that inspire and feed my creative soul. Cool, beautiful, bad ass people who spread messages of inclusion, positivity, self worth, human rights, true feminism and all around good vibes.
I met Kaguya on a modeling job for Universal Standard and not only is she gorgeous but she's ballsy and cool af. Her account is unabashed body positive, sex positive and just lovely to look at.
Nnenna is based in Norway but her style reminds me of this delicious mix of what I imagine 1960's Harlem might of been like with a dash of London cool. Endless outfit inspo!
Enam is the fat queen teen age Kellie needed. I'm so grateful to be that for some but she's one of those people I look at and see my body, my round face, my complexion and seeing her beauty helps me see mine. Her style is slick and her swag is slicker.
Outside of mother Pat McGrath, I'm not sure I've ever wanted a makeup artist to do my make up more that Celine. The YSL beauty ambassador is everything. Forward, creative, an artist. It's the cool girl anti youtube tutorial style makeup of my dreams. No fluttery lashes, artful smears and glow. I die.
Raw Melanin is black gold. It's post after post of inspired black images, beautiful, strong and magnificently curated. My only wish is that a few more fat bodies where included in the magic.
Erika is the voice of a generation. She makes us look at ourselves and think about our words, choices and actions all while dressed really cool, without being preachy and she loves house plants and popcorn. Come on queen!
Jacque Jordao is bold and intriguing and beautiful and the kind of girl you see online and wish you were friends. She's mastered the art of body positive images and she blows my mind.
Finding cute plus size work clothes is hard but pushing past fat phobia in the work place is harder
If I'm going to be honest I don't think I've ever worked in a safe space. We know how deeply sexism and racism are embedded into the work place but there are rules. Rules that protect and can even somewhat deter bad behavior. POC and women of course have to deal with vile micro aggressions but fat phobia and fat shaming are allowed. Like really allowed.
Even though I've always worked in creative environments/agencies being fat would always leave me cringing at the crazy offensive crap people from intern to CEO would spout. The crazy thing is these things where never said about me (not to my face anyway) but that they are even being said would leave me quietly ready to trip someone and wishing they'd chip a tooth.
Everything from fat jokes when they skipped a workout, self deprecating comments about how what the eat for lunch would magically make them fat, liking certain foods meant "I'm such a fat girl today" to the pure and simple fact that many men don't at all know how to relate to women they don't want to sleep with or consider "sexy". Thin women often disregard fat women as not "sexy enough" to "be on their level".
They might make assumptions about you. You're lazy, not capable... I've had a boss who would literally have me create ideas, do the work and then not invite me to a pitch meeting because he was trying to through "lookers" at the client. It's gross and it's wrong.
The size of your body doesn't at all affect your worth as a person or as an employee. Not finding someone sexy is not a reason to hold them back and there are fat, brilliant, beauty women kicking ass and taking names in every industry.
My favorite what to get dressed for work in my fat and yep sexy bod is a modern/trendy blazer, blouse and really cool pants. I'm happy to have set up my life so that I can go to meetings in track pants or a ball gown but when I do need to tap into corporate Kellie - she usually looks like this. xo
Lavender is a seriously happy color, check out the rest
Most of the country is freezing - oh hey L.A., we're bitter lolz. Even though we load up on coats and cozy clothes at the top of fall, I always find myself needing a refresh around this time because I get bored of things quickly or I'm waiting for something awesome to go on sale. Either way, it's a great time for a little mid season shopping. I rounded up 11 epic faux fur plus size coats that will brighten your winter wardrobe.
I wore this suit over the New Year holiday and featured it in this haul video!
This blue velvet dream was almost immediately sold out and so many of you were gutted. I had to let you know it's back! There's the coolest tiny pleats that give the illusion of corduroy and the fit is impeccable. I generally have a hard time with Eloquii's fit because things are very much cut for hour glass bodies. Pants nip way in at the waist, shoulders are narrow leaving me to size up in just about everything. I do it because the style of the clothes is often exactly what I'm looking for and the quality is top notch.
I did size up in this suit and I'm glad because of the length but if you aren't as tall as me (5'10) or are more narrow on the top you should be good with your normal size. This suit looks amazing with a blouse, a teeshirt, just about anything honestly. I'm so glad it's back because it's def a keeper!
Valentine's Day is sooner than you think but should we give a f*ck?
I'll admit, I'm a romantic. Shower me with attention, affection, gifts (big or small), all the ooey gooey teens in love nonsense. I'm here for it all. Valentine's Day has always been weird for me. I always felt single or in a relationship with dudes who were legit terrible at it or with someone who didn't really see it as important.
It sucked. But instead of feeling all angsty or anxiety ridden about what it won't be I think this year I'm going to make it what I want to be. Be vocal in my desires, use my voice - crazy how that's hard in some spaces and so easy in others.
I'm also inspired to have some cool Gal'entine moments. Especially since I love my friends so much I should probably just marry one of them anyway. Any takers? While I figure out my life and what the hell I want from the most forced romantic day of the year, I'll be dancing around in red dresses waiting to be swept off my feet. Shop my red dress picks in the photos above. You can snag the red wrap dress I'm wearing here!
Now that it's freezing, my skin is in full revolt and here's what I'm doing about it!
I've had to update my skincare routine. It's like one day you're walking around in the world living your best life, glowing and then you look dull, dry and sad all overnight. A few OD blasts of my old school radiator heating, a week or two of icy temps and my radiance has all but dried up!
So, I went through my beauty arsenal and to dig up a few favorites and some new to me magical elixirs to create a regimen that restored my hydration.
Paula's Choice Cleansing Oil is great for removing my makeup without stripping my skin like makeup remover wipes. It's a great first cleanse for a full face of makeup or a morning cleanse when my skin has just absorbed my nighttime lotions and potions.
Boscia Sake Hydrating Brightening Essence is my tried and true. I used it and taken it away several times just trying to prove to myself how magical it is. You might think this extra step isn't necessary but I can firmly say, I see the difference of how my other products work when I don't layer this on first. It's the like ultimate skincare primer. Prepping my skin for serums.
Youth to the People Hyaluronic is a cut me and I will bleed it type of product. This is a holy grail because not only is it one of the ultimate anti aging potions but it's also incredibly hydrating and plays well with other serums.
OleHenriksen Truth Serum a vitamin C serum that not only brightens and helps firm the skin it's also an excellent pre moisturizer serum that helps hold in hydration. I've found it also helps with texture. PS it smells really good!
Laneige Water Sleeping Mask will blow your mind. First of all the entire Laneige brand is quickly becoming a favorite. The sleeping mask is bomb because it doesn't just sit on your skin to end up on your pillow case. It absorbs pretty quickly, is lightweight but highly effective. I wake up looking more "alive" and well rested no matter how I actually slept because of this mask.
What are you using to help keep your skin looking hydrated these days?