Hi, My name is Lisa and I am a Confidence, Life and Success coach based in Sydney, Australia. My passion in life is helping people really love, accept and believe in themselves. Keep up to date with all our latest news, blogs and tips.
A Confident Mindset will give you a huge advantage in life. If your mindset is confident, your actions, beliefs and expectation will follow. Feeling confident on the Inside sends a message to the world that you are important, you care how you feel and you believe in yourself.
In this weeks Amazing Coaching blog, I will share with you my 10 Top tips on How to have a Confident Mindset:
Don’t attach to your negative beliefs. Remember, they are just SPAM. Beliefs such as ‘ I am not good enough’ or ‘ I am not worthy’ are lies we choose to believe about ourselves. They are just old programming.
Negative self-talk may never disappear, but you can soothe yourself into a better-feeling place. Check out my past blog on how to soothe yourself into Confidence.
Decide today not to let old negative thought patterns hold you back any longer. Remember, every day is a brand new day. Don’t regurgitate your negative thoughts every day! We often repeat 90% of our thoughts every day so it is no surprise we just keep experiencing the same old situations and people in our life.
Acknowledge that it is normal to feel anxious or nervous — but don’t let these nerves hold you back from doing what you really want to do. Hold that hand of your fears and do it anyway!
Encourage yourself with kind words and remind yourself that you are going to be okay. Encouraging yourself boosts confidence, criticism breaks it down.
Don’t expect to be perfect first time around! Give up the need to be perfect and remind yourself you are human instead.
Always praise yourself when you take action towards building a confident mindset. Praise re-wires your neural pathways and speeds up the process of having a confidence mindset.
Treat yourself like your own best friend. Think about it, do you treat yourself like your best friend or do you treat yourself like your own worst enemy?
Have compassion with yourself. Give yourself a break. You are enough, you are good enough I promise!
Life Coaching in Sydney
Award Winning Life Coach Lisa Phillips is based in the Eastern Suburbs of Sydney. Lisa works all over the world with clients assisting them to have a confident mindset and increase confidence, self esteem and self belief. She is also the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ book.
Lisa has 20 years as a Life Coach in Sydney and her work appears regularly in the media. Lisa is also the current Confidence Expert on The Love Destination TV.
How your programming impacts your life and what you can do about it
The importance of aligning to your authentic preferences
Releasing negative habits such as people pleasing, worrying what people think etc
Getting ‘ unstuck’
Learn strategies to increase your confidence & self-belief around your goals and desire
Increasing your life purpose and gaining clarity and direction
Qualified guidance, support every step of the way
Sydney Life Coaching Packages
The Life Coaching Programs offered by Lisa Phillips include:
Career Kick Start Package
Release Negative Emotions Package
Build Confidence and Self Esteem Package
Healing from Toxic Relationships Package
Find your Life Purpose Package
The Get Back on Track in your Life Program
Find the Healthy Relationship you want Package
Mentoring and Build your Business Package
Pay as You Go Life Coaching Packages
As an award winning Life Coach with 20 years experience, pay as you go Life Coaching sessions my most popular.
The reason for this is that whatever you may be struggling with in your life, it often all comes down to your negative beliefs, programming and the flawed premises we have in life.
Therefore, this area needs to be covered off regardless of your main reason for engaging a Life Coach. If you just need help, are struggling to feel good on a regular basis, or just want a life filled with more happiness, then I recommend a tailored pay as you go package. This way, when we heal what is going on inside of you, you will automatically gain what you desire in your outer world, be in more career clarity, healthier relationships, your life purpose and more Confidence!
Most clients only require 6 hours of Life Coaching with me. This can be taken face to face, on the telephone or via online coaching.
Lisa Phillips is one of Sydney’s most experienced Life Coaches. Lisa has over 20 years experience and is also a qualified NLP Master and a qualified Counsellor.
Her expertise is regularly featured in the Media. As the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach‘ book, Lisa provides leading edge expertise on how to build your inner confidence, self belief and self esteem.
Are you always pointing the blame finger? Do you end up blaming everyone else for all the issues in your life? Is it always someone else’s FAULT?
This may not be the news you were waiting to hear but YOU alone are responsible for what is happening in your life right now!
Take a minute to read that again and let the words to really sink in.
You are the Only Person who is Responsible for Your Life.
Yes, I do mean what I say, YOU alone are responsible, not your parents, your partner, your boss or your kids!
In all situations in life, you have the power and the choice to react in a way that serves you. Or you have the choice to point the blame finger at someone else.
Ok, there may be some forces which are clearly out of your control but even then, it is 100% up to you how you react. The truth is, as humans, we often get into the bad habit of pointing the blame finger at circumstances or other people for our own unhappiness.
We Give Our Power Away when we Blame Others
We give our power away when we complain to our friends (or anyone who listens) about how other people stop us from being happy or how much misery they cause us. We point the blame finger at our partners for unhappy relationships . We say it is our parents fault that we have no confidence. We blame our lives for being too busy or our boss for not recognising the hard work we do.
Every time we point the blame finger at other people, we give away our power . More importantly, we fail to take responsibility for our own wellbeing, confidence and happiness.
Be Honest with Yourself
Be honest with yourself – will blaming other people change things? Have you just got in the habit of giving away your power rather than doing something about it? Does pointing the blame finger really help the situation? NO! In blaming others, all you are doing is setting yourself up for more misery and keeping yourself stuck in old patterns.
In truth, consistently pointing the blame finger often becomes an excuse for not taking action or resolving the situation ourselves.
So this week, if something is not working in your life, reclaim your power and take responsibility for your own life.
You Always Have a Choice
In every situation in life, we always have three choices:
Change it or
Walk away from it!
For example, if you don’t enjoy your job or feel you are not earning enough money, take responsibility and do something about it. Speak with your boss or update your CV and go out job searching! If you are not happy in your relationship, speak to your partner and if you are still unhappy – let them go and move on!
An Exercise to Take Responsibility for Your Life
Try this exercise:
• Where in your life are you laying blame?
• Who have you given your power to in this situation?
• What are the consequences of laying blame in this situation?
• What specifically do you need to do to take responsibility in this situation right now?
So the next time you find yourself pointing the blame at someone , take back your power and ask yourself what you can do to take responsibility!
Last year, I made an appearance on ‘The Today Show’ sharing my tips on Boosting Self Esteem. Research was showing that 3 out of 5 people in Australian struggle with Low Self Esteem. In addition, Australian ranked number 11 of nations reporting the lowest self esteem. You can watch the TV appearance on my Media Page.
Finally, 67% of Women in Australian believe the media sets an unrealistic standard of beauty which in turn, impacts their self esteem.
The Statistics Do Not surprise me!
Sadly, this did not surprise me at all. As an award winning Confidence Expert with over 20 years experience, low levels of self esteem can impact every area of our life including career, relationships, friendships or financial situation.
If your self esteem is lacking, then how you ‘show up in the world’, your reactions, your ability to take care of yourself and your overall happiness and wellbeing may be negatively impacted.
Here are a few of my Top Tips to Boost Self Esteem:
1) Every morning, look in the mirror and affirm ‘ I am willing to learn to love myself‘. The more difficult you find this, the more important it is for you to take the time to boost your self esteem.
2) Buy yourself a journal and write down at least 20 achievements you have completed in your life. Remember, these don’t have to be huge things, just things you are proud of yourself for completing! Take a few minutes to read your list every day and add to it every day if possible. Every time you read this, you will boost your self esteem. Make sure you also FEEL the achievements, don’t just rush them in your head.
3) When you are in the shower / bath, spend 1 minute thanking your body for what it does for you. Even if you are not very Body Confident, thank your body for doing what it does. Thank your legs for giving you the ability to walk and thank your eyes for allowing you to see the world.
4) Affirm to yourself every day ‘ My self esteem is growing every day’ Do this while you are waiting for a bus / lift or doing the dishes / washing. Feel how nice it would be to have high self esteem in your body. Every time you can find the feeling in your body, you are re-wiring you head and heart to be a person with great confidence and self esteem.
5) Write a list of 20 things which make you happy. Focus on your own personal happiness preferences. Once your list is complete, make a commitment to do at least one of the things each day. This could be as simple as having coffee with a friend, or a relaxing in a nice hot bath.
Boosting Your Self Esteem is a Journey
The truth is, we were all born with good self esteem. However, it is our old programming thoughts and dominant emotions that can prevent us from experiencing it in every area of our life. Remember, every body deserves to feel good about themselves. Building self esteem is a journey so choose one or two of the above tips in take the time to boost your self esteem.
Are you a people pleaser? In this weeks blog I am going to share with you my top tips to release people pleasing behaviours.
People Pleasing Behaviour
It is the goal of a people-pleaser t to keep everyone around them happy — often at their own expense. They may turn themselves inside out in order to please others, often doing things they really don’t want to do. They usually end up saying yes or agreeing to do something when they really want to say no. They will tell you that everything is fine even if they are bubbling with resentment on the inside.
You can Stop being a People Pleaser
If you recognize yourself as a people-pleaser, acknowledge that you can do something about it. All is not lost I promise! It does take a little bit of courage, but the people pleasing habit that can be changed with support, focus and some gentle soothing of your fears.
Many people-pleasers are expert peacekeepers and always want to be seen as a ‘nice person’, living their life according to other people’s expectations, rather than their own.
The People Pleaser Habit
This people-pleasing habit often stems from a deep belief that we need to look after other people’s happiness and wellbeing at all costs and a deep fear of what may happen if we don’t.
Often, people with the ‘disease to please’ were brought up in families who avoided conflict and as a result, they picked up programming such as ‘You shouldn’t upset anyone,’ or ‘You must always be a nice person.’ They may also have been raised in a family environment where they believed it was there responsibility to keep family members and people around them happy. This is commonly seen where children are brought up in abusive and toxic families and may learn from a young age that in order to avoid conflict, it is safer for them to keep others happy.
Here are my tips to How to Release People Pleasing Behaviours
• If you worry about being judged by other people, remind yourself that it is extremely likely that people are not even thinking about you. this is just your own mind creating this story and illusion.
• Try to keep things in context. people will always think what they want to think anyway — so, does it really matter in the big scheme of life? Isn’t it more healthy to think what you think?
• Learn to approve of yourself rather than always seeking approval from other people. What is more important: what others think of you or what you think about yourself?
• Take small steps to honour and accommodate yourself, rather than always accommodating other people.
• Remember that you always have a choice to say ‘no’. Just because someone asks for your help, you don’t always have to say ‘yes’. Look at saying ‘no’ and declining other people’s requests as good self-care for you.
• Get clear on your own priorities in life. What is important to you? How do you wish to spend your time? Remember, you have the right to decide what to do, who to spend time with and to fulfil your own needs.
• Don’t scare yourself worrying about other people’s reactions. Just because you have said ‘no’ to someone, it doesn’t mean the fallout will be terrible. Learn to soothe yourself through your fears and acknowledge that other people’s reactions are rarely as bad as you think they might be.
If you are interested in Life Coaching sessions, it is really important to do some research and find the right Life Coach for you. In this weeks blog, I share my tips on How to Find a Life Coach.
Choosing the Right Life Coach for You.
Most Professional Life Coaches specialise in a particular genre. For example, there are career coaches, Business coaches, Life Style Coaches, Executive Coaches, Law of Attraction Coaches and Confidence Coaches. Then, there is the more general Life Coach who would cover more non specific areas such as Goal Setting etc.
Therefore, before engaging a Life Coach, do some research to ensure that they have the relevant experience and qualifications to match the particular area you need assistance with.
Life Coaching is not Regulated in Australia
The Life Coaching Industry is not regulated in Australia. What this means is that anyone can set themselves up as Life Coach! Due to this, when you are looking to find a Life Coach, it is even more important that you do your research on the following:
The Amount of time they have been in Business. Please do not underestimate the importance of this! A less experienced Coach may need to work with you for 20 sessions. However, someone like myself who has over 20 years experiences, averages 6 sessions per client. That is because I have 20 years experience and can assist my clients quickly due to my expertise.
What Courses and qualifications have they completed. These days, anyone can become a Professional Life Coaching expert by completing a weekend course. However, this does not mean they have the expertise that is required! You may find they may just read from a pre-prepared script or have a certain course to follow. Therefore, in finding a Life Coach, it is important to find someone who tailors their session towards your unique needs, not someone who makes you fit the knowledge they learned on a weekend Life Coaching course. Look for a Life Coach who has completed accredited Life Coach Training such as a Cert IV in Life Coaching or a Diploma in Workplace Coaching. Look for Life Coaches who are ICF Accredited.
Who do they work with? Who are their clients? The client base of a Life Coach tells you a lot about their experience and expertise.
Where do you want your Life Coaching sessions to take place?
Before you do your research on finding a Life Coach, make a decision how you want to be coached. In the past, the majority of my Sydney Life Coach sessions used to take place face to face in my office. However, times have changed and now I do the majority of my coaching online.
Everybody is different so make sure you choose the right person who can fit in with your lifestyle. If you are based in Sydney, you may want a local Life Coach. However, opening yourself up to Life Coaching Online enables you to be a little more picky in your selection!
Make sure you Speak to a selection of Life Coaches first
Many professional coaches offer a Free introductory session to new clients. This gives both the Coach and the coachee an opportunity to get to know each other. Finding the right coach for you is a personal decision. I always ask my clients to follow their own gut instinct. Don’t feel pressure to sign up or agree to coaching sessions before taking to your coach.
Life Coach Sydney, Lisa Phillips
Lisa Phillips is an award winning Life Coach, Career Coach and Confidence Coach. She founded, Amazing Coaching n 2ooo. You can find out more about Lisa in her ‘ Meet Our Life’ Coach page.
Lisa has been coaching for over 20 years and is a fully accredited Life Coach. She is also the author of ‘The Confidence Coach‘ book. Lisa Phillips also regularly shares her expertise as a Sydney Life Coach in the Australian Media.
It is really common to feel nervous about speaking up during workplace meetings. In this weeks blog, I will share my tips on how you an learn to speak up with confidence during meetings.
The fact is, some people are simply more introverted and prefer to listen carefully instead of joining in. ( This is me). That is perfectly fine and I always encourage people be true to their personal preferences. However, but what can you do when you desperately wish to play a more active role in meetings, get more involved and speak your mind with confidence and ease? What if you feel your inability to confidently speak up in meetings is having an impact on your career success?
Many people are hesitant about speaking up during meetings because they fear they may say the wrong thing and be judged negatively by the people around them. Many also stay quiet through the fear that they have little to contribute or that people won’t agree with what they have to say.
Amanda lacked confidence in her career. She had recently attended a team meeting where her manager asked the team to come up with a solution to a problem they were experiencing. Even though Amanda felt she had the perfect solution, she didn’t say a word because she was worried that people would laugh at her idea. A few minutes later, another member of her team spoke up and suggested the very same thing that Amanda had been thinking about, and everyone was really impressed.
As a result, Amanda felt really annoyed and frustrated at herself for keeping quiet and not having the confidence to share what had been her prized answer all along.
Try these tips to Speak Confidently during Meetings
Remind yourself that you have the job you are in because your employer believes you are valuable, have expert skills and something to contribute.
create a mindset of safety and ask yourself what really is the worst that could happen.
Value your ideas. Remind yourself that you are a valuable person and are just as likely as anyone else to come up with good ideas.
If you sit in meetings worrying about speaking up, you will just find it harder to enter a discussion. try taking back your power and choosing to be one of the first people to speak within ten minutes of the opening of the meeting. start by just agreeing with another person, or discussing something that happened in the past. this will help build up your confidence muscle and release any fears that people are judging you. •
Don’t censor yourself. If an idea comes up in your head, don’t let it sit around attracting self-doubt. Bite the bullet and speak up. the more you do this, the more confident you will feel in entering into any discussion. Don’t forget to praise yourself afterwards.
Award winning Confidence expert and author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ book Lisa Phillips offers a wide range of Life Coaching courses in Sydney or online. Lisa also offers online 1 hour Life Coaching workshops. These short but effective workshops cover popular topics such as :
Lisa doesn’t tie anyone into long courses of Life Coaching. ( Why? Lisa has 20 years experience so you won’t need it!) However, she does offer her clients packages of up to 10 Life Coaching sessions. Clients are also welcome to just have ad hoc sessions or purchase a short featured package. However, when purchasing a package of Life Coaching sessions, this enables you to make sure that the positive changes that take place during the Life sessions, are embedded within you for Life!
To be honest, many changes that take place during my Life Coaching sessions are instant. However, in order to break any old addictions to past thinking patterns, beliefs and unwanted behaviours, it is important to gain positive momentum. This ensures that changes are not just embedded in your thoughts, but also in your heart and body as well. I call this alignment.
Have you ever started to change but then just gave up?
Haven’t we all! This is generally because our new behaviours have not had time to fully align into our lives. The fact is, old patterns and behaviours literally have a ‘ familiar chemical’ attached to them. Therefore, even when we want to change, we often get dragged back into old familiar ways of doing things as we are literally addicted to familiar chemicals and old ways of doing things.
Purchasing a Coaching package however, ensures that you are supported through the process of letting go of old behaviours and embedding new positive behaviours into the head, heart and body.
Life Coaching Packages ensure Momentum!
When you purchase a Life Coaching package, Lisa recommends that you have 3 sessions in the first month. This will ensure full alignment and integration of positive changes. After this, the remainder of the Life Coach Course can be taken can be taken every two weeks.
Why not contact Award winning Sydney Life Coach Lisa Phillips today? I promise it will be the most amazing transformational experience of your Life!
Would you consider an online Life Coach, Career Coach or Confidence Coach?
When I first trained to be a Life Coach over 20 years ago, all of my Sydney Life Coaching sessions were carried out face to face. Therefore, in order to complete my Life Coaching Courses in Sydney, clients either used to come to my office or I would travel to meet them at Corporate office and workplaces in the local area.
Life Coaching Online
Forward 20 years, and the majority of my Life Coaching sessions are all carried out online. This could be via Skype. FB Messenger, Face time or even WhatsApp!
The fact remains, Life Coaching online is just as effective as face to face coaching. It is also perfect for busy people who work long hours, those who travel a lot and of course, those based around the world that are looking for an expert coach outside of their local area. The fact is, with online coaching, you get to choose the perfect Life Coach for you.
My Style as an Life Coach Online
The truth is , my style doesn’t change whether I am in the room with you, or we are having an online coaching session. The coaching session, and the fabulous results remain exactly the same.
I have actually had quite a few clients who prefer not to even have the video on! They prefer phone coaching as they feel they can really open up and be vulnerable. The truth is, it really doesn’t matter – as long as it works for you.
I have to be honest, being an online Life Coach has also become my favourite! I have become a real specialist in this area. Hey, I even get to coach when I am working as a Guest speaker on Cruise ships! Being available to coach online also gives me greater flexibility with my clients as I also offer online life coaching outside of normal working hours and also weekends.
Online Life Coaching is so easy!
As an expat myself, who has worked and lived in over 20 countries, I know that life can get busy. I also know visiting a Life Coach can take out a chunk of your day especially if you are having to travel miles to see them. Using an online coach allows you to sit with a cuppa in your hand without even to get in the car or use public transport. You can sit in your lounge, bedroom, hotel room or we can even chat when you are out for a walk! You could even fit in your online Life Coaching session when you are taking a break from work over lunch.
International Life Coaching
I have worked with clients all over Australia, Europe, Dubai, Norway, the UK, USA, NZ, Kuwait and Canada.
One of the main positives of choosing an online coach is you get to choose the right coach for you. You have a bigger group of coaches to choose from, so you can choose the coach who has the perfect experience and qualifications for you. This is much better than having a small ‘ pond’ of Life Coaches to select from your local area.
Yes – I still do Face to Face Coaching!
There are still some clients who prefer to be coached face to face. That is perfectly fine and I still offer face to face coaching.
Why not drop me an for a no obligation chat? I also offer a free 15 minute session to all new online Life Coaching clients so they can make sure that they are comfortable with online coaching and of course, to make sure that I am the right Life Coach for them. Please also check out my testimonials from a wide range of happy customers here!
International Life Coach Lisa Phillips
Lisa has been coaching for over 20 years. She is the founder of www.amazingcoaching.com.au. Lisa also specialises in Confidence Coaching and she is the author of ‘ The Confidence Coach’ book. She also offers a wide range of online Life Coaching Training Courses. Lisa’s work features regularly on TV, Radio and a wide range of business and lifestyle publications. She has also won several awards for her work as a Life Coach. Lisa also offers online career coaching, interview coaching and business coaching.
If you have a leak you call a plumber, or if your car won’t start you call a mechanic. But who do you call when your life is not working out as planned or your emotions could do with a service?
I find it crazy that we spend hundreds of dollars on our cars, holidays and even shoes but we won’t spend money on our own inner happiness and wellbeing! In addition, many of us will struggle with negative emotions, fears and reoccurring problems for years rather than doing ourselves a life changing favour and reaching out for help and support.
Here are 5 ways a Life Coach can help you:
Well…what I mean is here are 5 ways that I can help you!
I am an expert in identifying patterns which may be keeping you stuck, frustrated or unhappy etc etc! These are often ‘ lightbulb’ moments for many of my Sydney Life Coaching clients as they finally realise why they are feeling like they do. There is no judgement here – it just means once we identify a pattern, I share my 20 years experience with you to make sure you move into more healthier behaviours which are aligned with the true authentic you.
I will keep you accountable to embed your new changes – making sure we gain ‘ positive momentum‘ so new behaviours and habits are embedded easily!
I will help you identify what beliefs, thoughts, programming and self talk is currently creating the life you are living. We can then look at what needs to be done for you to ‘ bridge the gap from where you are, to where you really want to be’
I will help you free yourself of old unconscious patterns, stress, need for approval, worrying, lack of self esteem and confidence. I will also make sure you feel good about yourself so your life flows downstream! This means feeling deserving, good enough, important and worthy. ( This is when all the magic like the law of attraction kicks in!)
I can help you solve any issues or problems you are currently encountering in your life in just one or two sessions.
There is more….
The fact is, there are not just 5 ways a Life Coach can help you – there are literally thousands of ways! Remember, each one of us is unique and come with our own set of programming, patterns, problems and issues. However, I will lift you by believing in you. This belief will come through in the positive, possibility-oriented, future-focused questions that I will ask.
Just imagine how good it would feel to approach all your challenges from a place of confidence, satisfaction and self-approval? Just imagine how good it will feel to wake up each morning knowing that you are happy and contented with where you are in life and eager for more?
Don’t just take my word for it – read some of my coaching testimonialshere.