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The quirky and cute TerraNovaBoys of YouTube fame are at it again, this time giving out some sound financial advice on how to split or merge your money as a gay couple. Responding to several questions about financial advice, Wil and Adam answer questions like “How do two men with corresponding male ego’s handle money in a relationship?”
If you don’t know Wil and Adam they’re a sweet couple that have been together for about ten years and they have an opinion on just about everything. They’re adorable, totally in love, and pretty funny as they discuss everything from types of gay kisses to relationship advice. In this video, “Gay Dating Finance Advice”, Wil and Adam don’t share investment tips, but rather how they work around money in their relationship and their advice for other gay couples.
Relationship Financial Advice - YouTube
Sat up in what Wil cheekily calls their “boudoir”, Wil and Adam alternate between teasing and touching each other and spouting off little bits of financial and relationship wisdom. Using the story of their relationship Adam and Wil jointly describe how they split the bills from beginning to present, paralleling it to other possible situations, and it’s fairly sound advice. Adam and Wil are obviously a couple that does well financially and in previous videos have even stated that they save a whopping 50% of their money.
It turns out that at different times in their relationship both Wil and Adam have made substantially more than the other. So how have these two guys managed to keep it chill?
Apparently they started out slow, building trust in each other and their relationship, keeping everything separate as they got to know each other. By the second year of being together they were placing equal deposits into a joint account so they could split household bills, and it kept things fair. By year three Wil and Adam were comfortable enough to merge their money into one account and pay for everything from household bills to personal items out of it despite Wil making substantially more. Now by year ten Adam is the major breadwinner, or as he jokes, “the sugar daddy”.
Their advice to other couples? Follow their lead and keep things separate while you get to fully know each other. Just because you make good friends and like to hang out doesn’t mean that you have similar financial goals. Is he a saver while you spend everything on impulse? Take some time, a couple of years at least, and if after that time you still can’t merge your financial goals then don’t do so with your money. As Adam and Wil make clear, keeping your money together is NOT a prerequisite for a successful relationship. For them, putting all of their money together relieved the stress of separating bills and keeping things fair, plus it implied a step forward for their relationship and the level of trust that they had for each other, while for others money will mean something different and keeping it separate may keep resentment at bay if your partner is a big spender but low earner.
For couples that want to keep their money separate but make different amounts Wil has some advice about splitting bills proportionally. Using an example of someone making $100,000 a year and their partner with an income of $50,000 a year, Wil suggests a proportional splitting of bills that would see the higher income earner pay a larger share, allowing for a more equal distribution that doesn’t limit activities and invite resentment.
Gay or straight, money always has the potential to ruin a relationship, but as long as the adorable TerraNovaBoys Wil and Adam are giving out financial advice we’ll watch and hopefully learn something too!
Jim Walker, a former news anchor who worked for a variety of local Fox, NBC and CBS stations has been on a different career path as of late. The former TV news personality gave it all up and now wears many hats (and harnesses!) including that of a gay porn star and male escort.
Walker now lives in Dallas Texas but “Texas Ranger” is not one of his new positions…unless he’s playing one in a pornography film. These days Jim Walker balances his time between being a bartender at a local hot spot, personal trainer, blogger and of course model and performer. He certainly has the body for it. This muscled hunk will certainly turn some heads.
Walker was reportedly sick of the stress and inconsistencies he encountered in the TV news industry. He states, “I left the business in 2013 after my boss in Southwest Florida told me that research had shown ’people here just don’t like you…” TV news can make or break an individual very quickly. Your professional future could be determined by a single broadcast and that pressure can be too much for anyone.
Walker wasn’t always happy with management and a typical 9-to-5 work environment and while he misses the opportunity to tell stories he outlines that, “…I don’t miss is the schizophrenic management at every station that can’t decide from day to day what they want.” He continued, “As a result are constantly blaming the talent and trying to make the talent be something they aren’t.”
Overall, Jim Walker is happier and says he’s more fulfilled. “I’m much more successful in every measure than I ever was before.” says Walker. We’re somewhat surprised anytime we see a former Fox anchor start a career in the adult industry but it’s always good to see someone find a line of work more suited to them.
We couldn’t be happier for Jim! Follow his exploits on Twitter @jwloosecannon
A long time ago, in a high school far FAR away… Your intrepid writer Jim struggled with his sexuality. I don’t really think a 14 year old even understands what “sexual orientation” really is, but at the time, it was literally the only thing I cared about/thought about. Here’s an example: for a whole solid semester, I went through this phase where I was asexual. I was like NOPE to love. NUH-UH to being gay/straight, whatever I was. I don’t even think I really knew was asexuality was.
But I’m a hopeless romantic. By college I was finally 100% sure I was the gayest I could possibly be, and I started dating guys in earnest. Then I met THE guy. And my story continues, happily ever after.
So back to the point of this post – I overheard this conversation among some acquaintances about how one of them was currently dating a guy who identified as bi-sexual… And he was expressing some “concerns”. I couldn’t really relate… I feel like when I was dating guys, they were either “gay” or “straight”… There were no in betweens. So I went and asked a couple of friends of mine to answer some questions for me regarding what’s become a great debate: Is dating a bi-guy a good idea? What’s the difference? I’m one of the lucky guys, and have been with my partner for almost 10 years… We’re both gay and proud, and neither of us has dated another guy who was “openly” bi. I found two of my friends who have… And naturally I assaulted them with questions for this post. Since I’m obviously not going to use their real names, we’ll call them Friend 1, and Friend 2. I know, very creative.
1. Have you ever dated a bisexual guy?
Friend 1: “Yes.” Friend 2: “Yes.”
< Ok, so we’re off to a good start! >
2. Based on that experience, would you again?
Friend 1: “It depends on the person.” Friend 2: “Possibly… It’s hard to say since it was so long ago… was over ten years.”
< So THEY DID exist back then!? Where was I? Probably contemplating asexuality… >
3. What are some of the main differences between the relationships you’ve had with gay men and bisexual men?
Friend 1: “From my experience, the main difference was the way I felt about my bisexual partner from a long-term standpoint. He very consistently reminded me that he was having fun and enjoyed my company, but ultimately he wanted to end up with a girl. In the end, it just felt like he valued me less than his idealized female partner.” Friend 2: “I don’t think I’ve really noticed any differences.”
4. What turns you on about bi-sexual men?
Friend 1: “If someone is genuinely bi-sexual, I think there is something very attractive about someone can just be attracted to “people”. There is some kind of more evolved thinking or emotion they have that I think is really wonderful.” Friend 2: “The opportunity to have a threesome sometimes with the third being a female could be an idea that I could toy around with and be attracted to. Also the fact that this person has had sexual relations with a woman also turns me on.”
5. What steers you away from dating bi-sexual men?
Friend 1: “If they are insecure about their bi-sexuality… Like they are ashamed to be with a guy or they treat it like a phase and are just having fun until they find the right girl. Also, a lot of bisexuals I have met are obsessed with only meeting guys that identify as masculine. They look down on ‘fem’ gays, and aren’t into the ‘scene’. I don’t want to waste my time with someone I can’t go out dancing with.” Friend 2: “From my experience, bisexual men prefer a relationship status with one sex, and more casual sexual relationships with the other – so depending on what side of that I’m on, I may not want to continue the relationship with that person.”
6. What would be your main concern about dating a man who identifies as bi-sexual?
Friend 1: “What they are looking for. Is this just a fun little fling or do they actually want to pursue a relationship?” Friend 2: “Nothing really concerns me about dating bisexuals. Perhaps the perception of them being less faithful because there is more temptation since they like men and women?”
7. What did you learn about yourself while dating a bi-sexual man?
Friend 1: “I learned to really appreciate the things that actually made me feel insecure about being gay. I’m not the most masculine speaking… I like snowboarding, but I also like dancing super flamboyantly and getting the glitter out for special occasions. I love watching hockey, but I also love shouting “GUUURL” when I great my friends…” Friend 2: “Nothing in particular.”
8. What did you learn about the bisexual community while dating a bi-sexual man?
Friend 1: “I think society is very hard on bi-sexual people… Both the straight and gay communities want to make bisexuals pick a side it seems, which is really unfortunate because bisexual people really do get to experience a full spectrum of sexuality. We should embrace and learn from them rather than trying to ‘catch’ them.” Friend 2: “Bisexual people are possibly in a harder place to be ‘accepted’ by society because most people don’t understand the idea of liking both sexes. Perhaps this makes it harder for people to really identify themselves or be ok with it. In fact, I believe that there are more bi-sexual people out there than we know… Based on the Kinsey Scale, if you’re not a 0 or a 6 then you’re technically a bi-sexual person.”
< For those of you who need a refresher the Kinsey scale, also called the Heterosexual–Homosexual Rating Scale, is used in research to describe a person’s sexual orientation based on their experience or response at a given time. The scale typically ranges from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to 6, meaning exclusively homosexual. Thanks Google! >
9. Do you believe that those who identify as bisexual are predisposed to infidelity?
Friend 1: “No, that’s a ridiculous proposal. I think that is a huge stigma that bisexual woman face however. Bisexual men are stigmatized as being confused and bisexual women get stigmatized as being slutty. The whole notion is absolutely absurd… Your sexuality is not mutually exclusive to your promiscuity.” Friend 2: “I figure this to be true because there is more temptation.”
10. The inability to choose a gender-specific sexual orientation indicates a potentially larger, deep-rooted issue. Is this person indecisive? Unable to commit? If a man can’t commit to a sexually based gender role, how can I expect him to commit to me?
I asked the guys what they thought of this concern… It was something I read somewhere and thought it might be interesting to get some opinions about it…
Friend 1: “This questions is the problem. The fact that we consider it a problem that people can’t “choose”. There is no choosing… If you are bisexual it means you love people, not gender. In a time when transgender issues are on the rise, it seems all the better that more people be more open and self reflective of their own sexuality and be ok with where they rest on the spectrum, and where others do too. There is no choosing… It’s a spectrum, and we all fall on it somewhere. The question, I think, is actually quite offensive and insensitive. The deep-rooted issue isn’t with bisexuals, it’s in those who think bisexuals need to pick a side… Fuck those people.” Friend 2: “I do relate to it, but not entirely… A relationship is based on the trust you feel with the person, and that may also allow for an open relationship. Therefore, the idea that I was completely decide against having a relationship with a bisexual person does not apply because it really depends on the two people and what their situation is.”
What are some of your thoughts on this guys? We love hearing from you! Share your comments below or tell us on Twitter @AllMaleDating
Being gay and falling in love with a straight guy is like, the most punishing thing you can do to yourself. “Oh but Jim, I can’t help who I love…” Well, you can damn well try! Maybe I’m being a little sassy about this, but come on. He. Is. Not. For. You. We’ll examine this in greater detail and provide a little extra perspective thanks to a couple of notable gay YouTubers.
If you’re getting signals from a straight guy, it could be one of two things:
They are interested in you, but are closeted/bi-curious/bi-sexual/ashamed.
You are misreading the signs.
Why do we put ourselves in these awful situations? In my own personal experience… Yes, I’ve had “feelings” for a straight guy. Basically, I didn’t like who I was. I didn’t want to be gay. His straightness attracted me… How little sense this all makes, am I right? Looking back, I feel lucky that this guy wasn’t a close friend of mine… He was just another face in the crowd… In a crowd I saw everyday (high school *puke*). It was easy to creepily watch him from a distance, and therefore, it was easy to avoid him.
Now, if you end up falling in love with a straight “friend” – well, that’s a completely different barrel of monkeys. What do you do? Confess? Withdraw? First of all, if you’re confident that your friend can handle the news that your feelings have taken a turn for the emotional, it’s perfectly fine to confess them. Hopefully, he’ll be flattered, even if he can’t return your feelings. On the other hand, if you have any inkling at all that your friend isn’t ready to hear what you have to say, it’s probably better to keep it to yourself.
Unless it becomes too painful to be around your friend, it’s a better idea not to withdraw from the friendship. The fasted way for suspicion to arise is by suddenly never wanting to be around him. He’s going to immediately wonder what the problem is… which is going to hard for you to answer. If things become too difficult, then it’s definitely time to come clean whether he’s ready to hear it or not. Prepare yourself for all possible outcomes… The negative ones are going to hurt, but at least you’ll be prepared for them right? Don’t forget, your emotional health comes first.
I Keep Falling In Love With Straight Guys - YouTube
If you find that you’re developing feelings for the straight guys all the time, maybe it’s time to consider avoiding them? This is hurting you in the long-run… You’ll never be able to have authentic relationships with these guys, and thinking otherwise is pure fantasy.Create boundaries for yourself if you need to. Don’t let your feelings get to the point where you are in emotional pain more often than you aren’t. Consistently falling in love with straight men can also indicate a potentially larger, deep-rooted issue. Do you feel unworthy of love? Are you ashamed of being gay? Do you tend to attract unavailable men, or men who treat you poorly? If so, it’s time to break the cycle and start loving yourself.
On October 21st, “King Cobra” is set to be released and has already generated controversy and interest. The film already premiered at this year’s Tribeca Film Festival and now the rest of us can enjoy it. “King Cobra” is a drama that focuses in on the world of gay porn. It follows an inexperienced and naive male character (Garrett Clayton) who’s determined to make it big. After assuming the alter ego, Brent Corrigan we see what happens when warring porn producers fight over this emerging star.
King Cobra - Official Trailer I HD I IFC Midnight - YouTube
King Cobra is actually based on true events. The movie is set in 2006 and also features James Franco and Christian Slater. Its a rare glimpse into the darker side of pornography but the focus on gay porn is what grabbed our attention.
Check this flick out for yourself. King Cobra is set to release on October 21st. Is it a good date movie? That depends on your date but we’d say yes.
Let’s be honest… Anyone who has just come out of the closet is dealing operating from a heightened emotional space. Life as they knew it, for themselves and those of significance in their life, just got dumped into the proverbial blender and it’s spinning at high power. This doesn’t mean they aren’t capable of pursuing a serious relationship… It simply means they’ve got a lot on their minds (rightly so…) and that navigating the dating world might not be their top priority. Regardless of where they are in the emotional spectrum, don’t disregard newly out gay men immediately. Sometimes, the ooey-gooey, messy stuff is the best part, and can start you both on the adventure of a life-time. Never say never!
5 Pros of Dating Someone Who Just Came Out
They aren’t totally jaded by the gay dating scene yet.
If they were once married before coming out, they’re probably more relationship oriented.
They’re hungry for the gay life and probably open to a lot of new experiences – in and out of the bedroom.
Their quest for living an authentic life can be very inspiring to be around.
They’re highly committed to being fully in their new life, which in turn translates into being fully in their dating life.
5 Cons of Dating Someone Newly Out
Emotionally, they may not ready to be in a relationship even though their heart and groin tell them otherwise.
If they come from a heterosexual marriage, they have ex-spouse baggage they’re packing.
Their kid-in-a-candy-store mentality may get in the way of them being able to commit to anyone serious, including you.
It’s possible they’re still trying to figure out who they are, and they want you to be their gay mentor disguised as the man they’re dating.
You may find yourself in a love triangle between them and their ex-spouse. Just because they aren’t sexually attracted to them anymore doesn’t mean they don’t still care about them.
Anytime someone is coming out of a life changing experience, it’s important to check-in with your own personal values and determine how much of someone else’s personal journey you’re ready to take on. To be completely honest, you don’t have to take on any more than you’re capable of, and that includes taking on the newly out of the closet guy. Now, it he’s hot, loaded, got a great sense of humour, can talk deeply, be vulnerable, laugh when he feels like crying, and rocks the mattress, then by all means grab him and don’t screw it up!
How can you do?
First of all, take one step at a time… Big life adjustments take time, and they may not feel 100% comfortable with being gay yet which is perfectly ok, and understandable.
Never discourage! Maybe your partner is unsure about whether to label himself gay, bisexual etc… Sexuality is often fluid anyways, right?
Be patient with the process while also stressing the importance of being honest to loved ones, and most importantly, to themselves.
There are many cities around the world that welcome and embrace the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community. These cities have, in fact, improved and grown economically by attracting one of the most powerful and important social groups of the 21st century. I could take a lot of time and talk about the different Pride parades you could experience, but I’d like to take you on a different journey, and talk about some of the other experiences you can have at these various destinations. The list is long, but hopefully, educational! Happy reading, and happy traveling my friends.
Köln, Germany (pronounced, and often spelled, “Cologne”)
Cologne is the gay capital of Germany, with 1 in 10 people attracted to their own sex. The residents here are down to earth, a bit cheeky, chatty and open-minded, with a positive outlook on life. For the LGBT traveller, there’s lots to see and do – depending on when you visit of course.
If you’re looking for paradise on Earth, you’ve found it. This bathhouse is one of the most beautiful in all of Europe and the best thing is… It’s BOYS ONLY! Enjoy a different adventure every single evening, including fetish nights, Finnish sauna nights, and foam parties. Entry is only about 20 euros, which gets you pretty much everything you need to enjoy yourself. Skivvies optional.
Being Germany’s largest gay club, the “Station” is a popular destination for all the pretty boys in town. It’s well known for its weekly events, including the weekly naked party… Don’t forget, you’re in Europe – so you’re going to see a lot of crazy stuff!
Head to Bruno’s for all your soft, and hardcore needs. Specializing in men’s wear, and men’s accessories, the knowledgeable staff here won’t steer you wrong. Even though there are several similar shops in Cologne’s downtown area, Bruno’s is the only place where you can shop for toys and apparel at the same time. Trust me, it’s worth the trip.
Hallelujah! Let’s head to Church – Street, that is. Toronto’s Church-Wellesley Gay Village is world famous for its terrific night-life, inclusive community center, and fabulous restaurants. Toronto is actually one of the few cities that has two gay villages. The Gay Village at Church and Wellesley has everything a gay traveler could need or want: bookstores, LGBT-owned accommodation, queer theater, and gay bars catering to all flavours and tastes. The Queer West Village is edgier, with funky restaurants and a number of queer-ish mixed bars. As you can plainly see, Toronto has a lot to offer you and your group of wanderers.
Toronto’s clothing optional oasis! Take the Hanlan’s Point ferry out of Toronto at the foot of Bay Street at Queen’s Quay, then walk about 15 minutes up the paved path. This nude beach can then be reached by taking one of the wooden paths through the brush out to the coast.
Out on the Street
Three floors of gay shopping! Out on the Street offers everything from clothing to sex toys and fetish wear for both men and women.
Buddies in Bad Times Theatre
This is a professional theatre company dedicated to the development and presentation of queer theatre. Over the past 30-something years, it has evolved from a small production company into the largest facility based queer theatre company in the world.
A huge gay scene, fabulous sandy beaches, and stunning historical sights make Barcelona one of Europe’s most popular gay destinations. The “gay” area is called L’Eixample (pronounced L’eye-sham-play) and is north-west of the center of town. The gay Barcelona scene is lively and there’s plenty of variety. It has everything you’d expect from a major city’s gay scene, but with the added bonus of bronzed Spanish hunks all over the place. Yum.
Mar Bella Beach
Whilst known as Barcelona’s only nudist beach, Mar Bella attracts as many gay sunbathers who prefer to keep that tackle undercover as those who are happy to let it all hang out – so there’s no pressure either way—though, if I’m being honest, I really hate getting tan lines…
Barcelona definitely doesn’t have any gay bar shortages, but Nightbarcelona (formerly known as “Nightberry”) is a popular cruise bar with video screens featuring movies to get you and your friends in the mood to use the dark rooms and private cabins in the back. There are regular special events and cheap drinks to enjoy with a clientele of all ages.
This award winning sauna is popular with the more mature crowd, as well as the bear community and men who may have a little more to hang on to (holla!). No one feels left out at this beautiful, state of the art bath-house. Prices for drinks and snacks are very reasonable as well.
Tel Aviv, Israel
Surprised? Me too! I had no idea Israel was so LGBT friendly. Apparently, Israel is the most gay friendly nation in the Middle East. There are over 18,000 gay and lesbian households in Israel, and over 3,000 children are raised by two fathers or two mothers. Tel Aviv has the second fastest growing gay family population in the world, with hundreds of workshops and conventions that take place in the city, as well as dozens of professionals specializing in the needs of LGBTQ families in Israel.
BoYling @ Chich Beach
Welcome to the quintessential gay summer dance party in Tel Aviv taking place from April through to October, with live Dj’s, sexy guys, cool drinks, upbeat music, and a wonderful breeze. The party is held every Saturday night at the Cabina bar at Chich Beach (also known as “Gordon” beach”. The party starts BoYling at 10pm.
Sauna Tel Aviv
Since opening in May, 2015, Sauna Tel Aviv has become the most popular gay sauna in the city. It boasts world class facilities, featuring a jacuzzi, wet and dry saunas, dark rooms, hot and cold showers, a large bar, smoking area, dance floor, and 21 private cubicles.
Pink House TLV
Looking for a good, reasonably priced place to stay in Tel Aviv? Pink House is an urban gay B&B located in one of Tel Aviv’s most exciting neighborhoods, and just a 10 minute taxi ride away from the Hilton Gay Beach. All 6 rooms have air conditioning, flat screen TV, DVD player, and free WiFi. A continental breakfast is available at the cafe next door.
New Orleans, USA
How can I explain how insanely queer this city is? I’ll try my best… Breaking down roles, re-creating identities, writing our own stories, and celebrating the uniqueness of our culture is ingrained in the essence of New Orleans. The city is incredibly diverse; the culture of the city grows out of African and Caribbean, French creole, German, and Spanish influences. There’s a thriving young queer and trans population, and the African-American LGBT community may be one of the largest in the U.S.
Krewe de Vieux
Krewe de Vieux is a hypersexualized, satirical parade through the French Quarter; it’s definitely the most overtly queer event of the season, taking place two weeks before Mardi Gras.
If you’re looking to dance till the sun comes up in New Orleans, Oz is the place to go. The dance floor is open to the second story, leaving the balcony around most of it to check out the boys from above. Don’t be fooled, Oz’s music does in fact turn down and gives way to some of the best shows on Bourbon Street.
Burgundy Bed & Breakfast
Gay-owned and operated, and only a 20 minute walk to the French quarter! 90% of the architecture is original, as well as the beautiful interior – appealing to the interior designer in all of us.
A very important note about safety in New Orleans: While I wouldn’t want to deter you from visiting this gorgeous city, New Orleans is notorious for crime. If visiting, please do not wander off alone. Travel in groups, be aware of your surroundings, and don’t get too intoxicated to find your way home.
A very important note for our transgender and gender non-conforming friends: Bathrooms can be an issue in New Orleans. Take a friend with you for safety.
Comment below or follow us on Twitter @AllMaleDating and let us know about your good (or bad!) travel experiences!
When we think about the common questions straight men usually ask gay men many of us either spiral into a PTSD session or roll our eyes. Usually the best case scenario involves a question that’s part adorable, part ignorant and part funny. Worst case scenario, our “straight” friends will ask something straight out offensive either on purpose or not.
BuzzFeedYellow presents a fun video that features common questions straight men have for gay men.
Questions Straight Men Have For Gay Men - YouTube
Common questions include; Have you ever watched straight porn? AND How Many buttholes have you seen? (come on guys…everyone has a butthole)
Have you been asked a truly strange question about your sexuality? Share your experiences in the comments or tell us on Twitter @AllMaleDating
Walter Cole (b. 1930) was a closeted gay man living in Portland, Oregon. He had spent his twenties serving in the military, after which he moved to southeast Portland with his wife and two children. After his stint in the military, he opened up a coffeehouse near PSU called Caffé Espresso, which he later relocated and expanded to include a jazz club called Studio A.
The year was 1967. He had since purchased a tavern in northeast Portland called Demas, which would eventually become Darcelle XV Showplace. One Halloween night would change the course of Walter Cole’s life forever.
It all started in his friend Roxy Neuhardt’s apartment. The pair were dressing for a Halloween costume party that would take place at the hotel where Roxy worked as a dancer. He convinced Walter to go in drag, and had invited him over before the party to put the finishing touches on his friend’s outfit. Over the course of two hours, Roxy carefully and skilfully painted the face of his companion, who was—at the time—still in the closet. As Roxy finished up Walter’s makeup and helped him into his dress, neither of them fully realized the massive personal change that was about to take place for Walter Cole. He was 37.
By 1969, he had developed the “Darcelle” persona (naming her after the B-list French actress and stripper Denise Darcel) and had come out as gay. He left his wife and began a relationship with Roxy Neuhardt, though he remained legally married. He continued to have a relationship with his children as well; it was strained but remained intact.
During the 1970s, the club became a popular destination for drag performers. Darcelle XV Showplace has been host to the longest-running drag show on the West Coast, and in 2011 a reporter called Darcelle the “unofficial welcome wagon” to Portland.
Darcelle’s personality was completely different from Walter’s; she could do anything on that stage and totally get away with it. Walter, conversely, was a careful and occasionally timid man.
“Darcelle is glitz, glamor, and comedy—overdressed, over-jeweled, and with hair way bigger than it should be.”
—Walter Cole, VICE Magazine interview 2016
Over four decades later, Walter is still gracing the stage and kicking ass as the oldest female impersonator in the country. In 2010, Darcelle served as grand marshal of the Portland Rose Festival’s Starlight Parade and received the city’s Spirit of Portland Award. That same year, his memoir, entitled Just Call Me Darcelle, hit shelves. His collaborator for the book, Sharon Knorr, also served as director of Cole’s 2010 one-person show of the same name.
He is still with Roxy, over 45 years after that fateful Halloween in 1967.
Have you been to Portland to check out Darcelle’s show? Comment below or tweet us at @allmaledating
You probably have read many do’s and don’ts about gay dating tips. Here a some very simple rules to live by. Keeping everything simple is the way to go. You want to get to know the person and see if there is potential for a second date. Just remember to try and relax and be yourself!
Before The Date
Take a moment to reflect on what you want in your life and stick to your values and goals. Just because you are super attracted to him doesn’t mean its going to work out and, conversely, not being attracted to him doesn’t mean it won’t work, either. If you are looking to settle down and he is interested in an open relationship, it will not work! Move on!
Stay away from giving your date a nickname or labeling. Even though we loooove labeling everything (admit it), it is best to just stay away from it.
Make sure not to advertise the details of your first date on any social media platforms, especially Facebook. You want to enjoy your evening together and not have friends randomly show up!
Speaking of Facebook, stay away from it altogether. Do not add him to your friends list until you know you guys click. Imagine this: You friend him on Facebook before you even meet, then after the date goes horrible you get to read all of his posts about how bad it went. Or worse, come home to find that he’s already unfriended you— OUCH!
Turn off your phone. It is extremely distracting and very rude to check your phone especially during a meal, and especially on a first date. If you want to make a good impression make sure you pay attention to what your date is saying. You don’t want your dating app to be going off while on the date, so put your phone away. Awkward!
After The Date
Again: keep it simple! Try and figure out if he is interested in a second date. Just ask and see what he says. If there is any hesitation, just don’t take any offence. You never know what could be going on in their lives; this could be the first time back into the dating world after a bad breakup, and they just realized they are not ready that day. If you keep your cool they may call you a few months later when they are ready! You never know.
If they are interested, then just remember to stick to your values and goals you set out for yourself earlier. I know it sounds super cheesy and very after-school-special, but always be true to you – at the end of the day, your happiness is what’s most important, and compromising yourself for another person will only hurt both of you in the end.