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When Vanellope’s arcade game is damaged, and her arcade gets WiFi, Vanellope and her friend Wreck-It Ralph go online in hopes of saving her game, but when exposed to a whole new world, Vanellope starts to wonder if she really does want to reclaim her past.


** SPOILERS AHEAD THE REST OF THE WAY **





The Adoption Connection

A scene lasting a few minutes makes light of adoption; When Vanellope’s game is unplugged, she declares that she and the other characters of her game are homeless. A married couple from other games express that they will adopt 15 of the young characters. One expresses that the children are “feral,” and another describes them as “lost lambs in need of parents.” Another expresses that parenting will be easy, since it just requires you to “give them everything they want.” A character describes the children as “lovable scamps destroying my sanity.”
 

Strong Points

The film shows that friends can stay friends, even when circumstances change, and even when friends move away. It shows that hurt feelings can be overcome. It offers an opportunity to explore how clinginess could be harmful to friendships, while also helping to understand where clinginess might come from.


Challenges

For a moment, it appears that Ralph’s clinginess has cost him his best friend. This could be hard for some sensitive young viewers.

The adoption scene is mostly played for laughs, but could be bothersome to some families.


Recommendations
Aside from some scenes that could frighten young viewers, and an adoption scene that seems a bit out of place, Ralph Breaks the Internet is a fun movie. It should be good for most kids ages 9 and up.


Questions for Discussion

How will Ralph and Vanellope stay friends even though they live far away?

How can you stay friends with people that you don’t see very often?

What video game would you like to live in?


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The furry, green hermit known as The Grinch hates the boisterous Christmas celebrations in Whoville. They rub against sore memories from his own childhood. And so, the Grinch has an idea, an awful idea – to stop Christmas from coming. Can the joy of Christmas break through the Grinch’s pained hatred of the holiday?

** SPOILERS AHEAD THE REST OF THE WAY **






The Adoption Connection

The film opens by teasing the fact that The Grinch felt upset around Christmas time, but wasn’t sure of why he felt that way. Over time, we see clips from The Grinch’s childhood. He was abandoned, alone, rejected, and lived in an orphanage. Although he dreamed of spending Christmas with loving friends, his Christmas was spent alone in an undecorated room. The pain from the letdown of that Christmas in the prisonlike orphanage has led to The Grinch’s lifelong hatred of the holiday. The love of his neighbors eventually warms his heart and helps him find the healing he needs to embrace the holiday and embrace his neighbors.
Cindy Lou Who (who in this film is quite older than two,) cares deeply about her mother. Cindy Lou’s mom is a single mom who cares for Cindy Lou and her two infant siblings, and Cindy expresses “Mom works, cares for us, and it’s not fair. She acts like it’s fine, but it’s really hard, and if anyone can fix it, it’s Santa.” I admire Cindy Lou’s empathy, but it does seem like a lot of emotional insight for a five(ish) year old. I also would want to make sure that a kid who’s been abused or neglected wouldn’t hear Cindy Lou’s words and then start to wonder if caring for them might be too big a burden for their parents to bear.


Strong Points

The film’s orphanage scenes could be hard for children, but they also offer significant insight into how a seemingly happy day or occurrence can be triggering for kids who’ve had hard experiences. The Grinch hated Christmas every year, because he was very sad on a Christmas as a child and “he feels these feelings every year.”

The film also shows how love and acceptance, and not rebuke, is what finally helped the Grinch overcome the pain of his past.

The Grinch does honestly explain to the Whos, “I stole because I thought it would fix something that happened a long time ago.” He expresses surprise when they invite him into their homes anyway. Finally, he discovers, “It wasn’t Christmas I hated; it was being alone,” and adding that Cindy Lou’s “kindness changed my life.”
 

Challenges

Although the film only spends two minutes in the orphanage, it could be quite difficult for some kids – especially those who have unresolved grief regarding childhood experiences of abuse, neglect or loss. In rhyming verse, the narrator reflects on The Grinch, who was “isolated and sad, with no home of his own, no mom, and no dad” and who “remembered Christmas where nobody cared, nobody showed.”


Recommendations

The Grinch is surprising in two ways – it could be very triggering for young kids with unresolved grief regarding familial loss, and it could be very insightful for parents of kids from hard places. For some kids, the orphanage scene will push it out of the bounds of comfort; for others, it could be a helpful tool to talk about the times when we’re sad, but don’t really know why. It's a judgment call on whether the orphanage scene will be hard for your kiddos, but I'd guess it's most likely to be hard for kids ages 9 and under.



Questions for Discussion

What made the Grinch hate Christmas? Why did he think he hated it?

What can help someone feel better when they’re sad about something from long ago?


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A powerful dark wizard, Gellert Grindelwald, intends to create a new world order which will see wizards rule over non-wizards. Grindelwald gains followers through his persuasive speeches, but he believes that for his plan to succeed, the great wizard Albus Dumbledore must be eliminated. Grindlewald cannot fight Dumbledore, but he believes that he knows a wizard who can. The forces of evil and the forces of good both pursue a disturbed teenage orphan, believing that his pre-adoption history is key to their victory.

** SPOILERS AHEAD THE REST OF THE WAY **






The Adoption Connection
Credence Barebone was violently abused by his adoptive mother, and now is free from her control. He has a magical parasite which can cause great destruction, and because of this he is feared by many, and desired by power-hungry wizards who hope to exploit him. Credence has a strong desire to know who he is. An evil mind reader advises Grindlewald to speak gently to Credence, and Grindlewald exploits his knowledge that Credence is desperate for a sense of family. It’s explained that Credence was abused by the woman who raised him, and now seeks the woman who bore him.
Credence travels to find his birth mother; he does find the woman whose name is on his adoption papers, but she affirms that she is only a servant of Credence’s parents. She embraces him; however, shortly after Credence meets her, she is murdered by one of Grindlewald’s followers.
Credence aches to know his history. Facing death, he asks someone, “Tell me my story before you end it.”


Strong Points

Newt Scamander is affirmed, “You do not seek power or popularity; you ask if a thing is right, and do it no matter the cost.”  

One character affirms that Credence’s identity is more than just his history – his history is not the only thing that defines who he is.


Challenges

An infant is murdered off-screen.

One character confesses that, when she was a young girl during a ship voyage, she became frustrated by her infant brother’s constant screaming. Hoping for a brief break, she switched her brother with another infant, intending to reverse the switch in a little while. However, while the babies were switched, the ship sunk, and the girl’s mother rescued the baby she incorrectly believed to be her own. Years later, this character blames herself for her infant brother’s death; this also complicates Credence’s questions regarding his own identity – Credence was the baby who was taken in the switch, and the girl who took him knows nothing about his previous identity.

The film has a very dark tone with several frightening scenes.

Characters refer to Credence’s pre-adoption identity as “who he really is.” One character corrects this, telling Credence that there is a difference between “who he was born” and “who he is.”

A character has sworn a vow to avenge his father by killing the child of the man who seduced his mother away from his father.

A young woman is told – and believes – that her father never loved her.


Recommendations

Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald is entertaining, but it also seems darker than most of the other films in the Harry Potter world. Adoption is profoundly woven into the story, but in a way that seems likely to be troubling, confusing, or upsetting for most young viewers touched by adoption. 
This one seems best left to adults and older teens who are mature enough to process the film’s adoption elements without embracing them as fact.


Questions for Discussion

What do you believe determines Credence’s identity?

Grindelwald says that Credence is desperate for family, and this leaves him vulnerable to 
Grindelwald; what would help Credence stay safe?

Which characters seem like the safest people that Credence could trust?


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Pete and Ellie have enjoyed their lives as a childless couple. They develop houses and have freedom that others might envy. Each believes that the other has no intention to have children, but they have not talked deeply about it. After a conversation with relatives, Ellie starts thinking about having children. Pete makes an offhanded joke; he is too old to have an infant – but if he adopted a five-year-old child it would seem like he started having children at a reasonable age. Pete gives no further thought to his joke, but Ellie begins researching adoption, and her heart is touched by the profiles of children on AdoptUSKids, a website geared towards recruiting adoptive parents for children waiting in the foster care system. Pete’s heart is also eventually touched, and Pete and Ellie begin their journey towards certification as foster-adoptive parents; they ultimately meet Lizzy, Juan and Lita at a matching event. The film follows them through a very realistic experience of the California foster and adoption system, through their certification, matching process, and placement.




The Adoption Connection
Filmmaker Sean Anders based this film on his journey through the foster-adoption system. The challenges, processes, doubts, and joys that Pete, Ellie, and the children experience are very realistic. The film captures the foster-adoption experience thoroughly without being exploitative. Pete and Ellie express the real doubts that many foster-adoptive parents experience; Lizzy, Juan and Lita encounter and present challenges that are realistic to many children in foster care. Instant Family is honest without being overanxious.





*Spoilers ahead throughout the rest of the review*


Strong Points

Instant Family accurately, compassionately and optimistically captures the foster-adoption experience. It will resonate with many that have adopted from foster care, and will be helpful for those considering adoption from foster care.
Although Lizzy, Juan and Lita – and Pete and Ellie – all have mixed feelings at times about the placement, they work through their motivations, feelings and doubts responsibly, and ultimately finalize their adoption.

Instant Family provides a lighthearted opportunity to explore and challenge several of the misconceptions that people have about adoption; the film explores peoples’ fear of adopting teenagers, unrealistic expectations of adopted children, fear of openness with a child’s birth family. It also challenges the unfortunate connection that some people make between pet adoption and the adoption of children. It explores questions of identity (Pete and Ellie temporarily feel as though they’re “babysitting someone else’s kid.”) They stand up against the insensitive comments made by their extended family. They don’t give up when their kids are resistant to bonding. This has the potential to be such a helpful film. The agency that Pete and Ellie go through is the real-life agency most closely connected to defining the Seven Core Issues in Adoption (Grief, Loss, Rejection, Guilt, Identity, Intimacy, Control). The film is very theoretically sound and healthy in its approach to adoption.


Challenges

When Pete and Ellie express their doubts and fears, they appear to consider sending Lizzy, Juan and Lita back. Other prospective adoptive parents talk insensitively about their expectations of the children they hope to adopt. These are realistic conversations, but would likely be triggering to children and pre-teens touched by adoption, as well as some teenagers.   


Recommendations

As a long-time foster-adoption social worker, I love Instant Family. I don’t recommend it for kids; I think there’s a lot of material that could be triggering for children touched by adoption because it’s so real – but for adoptive parents or people considering adoption, this is a perfect opportunity to explore many of the real-life aspects of foster care adoption. It’s funny and entertaining, and has the potential to help prospective adoptive parents be more thoughtful and better-prepared. Because of this, it can have a positive impact on kids waiting to be adopted. Instant Family has Adoption at the Movies’ strong recommendation.


Questions for Discussion

How did Pete and Ellie end up with three kids? What challenges did this bring, and how did they overcome the challenges?

How helpful was the support group for Pete and Ellie? How do you think the support group impacted their parenting?

Which do you think would have been the hardest moment for Pete and Ellie? How did they remain committed to their kids?

What growth did Pete and Ellie need within themselves to be able to be the parents that their children needed?

How does Lizzy feel about her birthmother Brenda? How can Pete and Ellie best honor that moving forward?

What moment most touched your heart?


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Christopher Robin last left the Hundred Acre Woods as a preteenager; although he knew that his life would require him to move on from his cherished memories there with Pooh and his other friends, he promised that he would never forget them. Decades later, Christopher is a manager of a luggage company; he feels the pressure of knowing that he may have to lay off several of his staff if he cannot find a way to reduce costs, and feeling the pinch of this pressure, he decides not to accompany his wife and young daughter on a vacation. His family is hurt by his absence, feeling that he consistently puts work in front of them. Still, he sends them off to the cottage he knew as a child while he stays home alone – and he would have stayed home alone, had not a friend from his past come to visit. Pooh has discovered that all of his friends are missing, and he has come to ask Christopher for help finding them. Christopher intends to take Pooh back to the Hundred Acre Woods, and he must determine how he will prioritize the competing demands on his time.  

** SPOILERS AHEAD THE REST OF THE WAY **


 

The Adoption Connection

There is no mention of adoption in the film. Some of the film does center on Christopher’s unavailability to his daughter, which could be particularly sad for kids who have experienced neglect. 

Some could interpret Christopher as developing into a father figure for Pooh and the other friends from the Hundred Acre Wood.

Christopher was forced to mature quickly when his father died. A young Christopher is told, “You’re the man of the house now.”


Strong Points

Christopher Robin struck me as a very endearing film. I think the live-action-ish stuffed animals reminded me of the feel of Ernest and Celestine, another favorite.

By the end of the film, Christopher has understood the importance of family. That realization also helps him have insight into the work problem he is facing, but his work success is almost incidental – the true victory is that he tells his daughter that nothing is more important to him than she is.

The value of recreation and relaxation, even for grown-ups, can be conveyed by a very wise statement, “Doing nothing often leads to the very best something.” Christopher’s wife challenges him to focus on the present, instead of putting all of his efforts into a future life; she reminds him, “Your life is happening now.”

Christopher does get in touch with his imagination, and comes through as a great friend to Pooh and the others in the Hundred Acre Woods.

Pooh is perpetually accepting of Christopher; he is perfectly understanding and good-natured.

Pooh confides to Christopher that he has been lost, but Christopher responds, “But I found you, didn’t I?”

Christopher’s friends learn about his daughter, Madeline, and ask him if a Madeline is more important than all of the papers he worries about for work. He acknowledges that she is.

Madeline confides in Christopher that she doesn’t want to be sent away to boarding school, and he agrees that she never has to leave.


Challenges

Christopher seems to have forgotten his dear friends in the Hundred Acre Woods, even though he promised that he never would forget them. Christopher acknowledges that he “let Pooh go” the same way that an employer lays off employees. He yells at Pooh, and then Pooh walks off, saying that Christopher “should let me go – for efficiency.” This could be difficult for children who fear that they may be forgotten by their first families. Christopher does shortly reconcile with Pooh. These children could also be saddened by Christopher’s daughter longing to know her father, and wondering when he would be home – and even when he comes home, he is largely unattuned to her.

Some children could have a hard time watching a scene where it’s implied that Christopher’s father 
dies.


Recommendations

Christopher Robin is an endearing film with a worthwhile message. It isn’t scary, although there are some moments that could be particularly sad for young viewers if they come too close to the child’s own history. Parents should consider how their children’s experience of neglect and parental loss might interplay with the film; for general audiences it seems suitable to all ages, but most likely to appeal to adults and kids ages 11 and up.
 

Questions for Discussion

How in touch are you with your own childhood? What are some of your favorite childhood memories?

What are (or were) some of your favorite childhood games? Toys? Stuffed animals?

How can you prioritize “today”?

Do your children feel that they’re more important than your job and your possessions? If not, how could you communicate that to them in a way they’ll understand?


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Robin, Beast Boy, Cyborg, Raven, and Starfire are collectively the Teen Titans. They belong to the superhero universe, but they’re more sidekicks than heroes – something that the superheroes often rub in.  The Teen Titans confront a villain, but become distracted in explaining their identities, allowing the villain to escape. The Teen Titans want to legitimize their status as superheroes, and decide that they need to have a movie made about them; in order to do this, they are willing to travel through time to ensure that no other superheroes exist – when this doesn’t work out, they decide instead that they need to have an arch-nemesis. Thankfully (?) one arises in Slade. The Titans must work to stop Slade’s intention of brainwashing the world.



 The Adoption Connection

There is no real adoption connection in the plot of the story; however, there are some scenes that could surprise viewers. Most notably, Batman’s origins are briefly shown. Batman became a hero due to his parents being murdered in a dark alley. In an attempt to stop Batman from becoming a superhero, the Teen Titans travel back in time and direct Batman’s parents away from that alley; they live, but Bruce Wayne never becomes Batman. When the Titans realize that this has caused the present-day world to be overrun by villains, they travel back in time again, and this time, shove Batman’s parents off-camera into a dark alley, where we hear the gunshots that kill them. The Teen Titans also cause another aquatic superhero to die, but later go back again and correct it.

In a scene that seems very disjointed from the rest of the film, at the very end of the movie, Robin pops on screen and says, “Kids, ask your parents where babies come from.” And then the credits roll.

The time-travel scenes could lead some kids to think about how their lives would have been different had the tragedies that shaped their life – and perhaps necessitated their adoptions – been avoided.


Strong Points

When Robin is discouraged, his friends try to cheer him up by helping him see that he truly is a hero. The film does capture the value of friends.


Challenges

In addition to the more significant challenges which are covered in the “adoption connection” section, the film has a lot of toilet humor. Batman’s parents being forcibly shoved into the alley where they are murdered is probably the most concerning scene; Robin’s film-ending quip, “Kids, ask your parents where babies come from” could also be somewhat bracing or complicated for some adoptive families if they are unprepared. It’s an important discussion to have, but it’s one that requires some thought, and Robin’s hurried play-it-for-a-laugh comment isn’t probably the right bridge into this conversation.


Recommendation

Teen Titans Go To The Movies was silly, and funny at points, but seems to be geared towards a fairly young demographic. Lots of kids in the theater laughed during toilet jokes, including one scene that had also been featured in the trailer which centered around a very lengthy bout of flatulent sounds. I think it is the youth of the demographic that concerns me for audiences touched by adoption or parental loss, mostly because of the scene involving Batman’s parents. The Teen Titans are almost cavalier in shoving Batman’s parents to their death, and although in the context of the movie they’re setting the world right, it could be surprising and painful for kids who have lost – or who have fears of losing – their parents. The fact that gunshots are heard signifying their murder could also be hard for some young viewers, especially those who have experienced violence. It’s possible that these scenes won’t be triggering to your kids, but I feel they’re risky. Because of them, at least for families touched by adoption, foster care, or trauma, it feels like a safer bet to leave this one to kids 13 and up.


Questions for Discussion

What changes in his thinking did Robin need to make in order to become content?

Given a choice, do you think Superman and Batman would choose to erase the traumas that they experienced?

Who was your favorite of the Teen Titans?

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Decades ago, Janet van Dyne shrunk to sub-molecular size to disable a nuclear weapon. She was trapped in the quantum realm. Hank Pym believed that Janet died, and raised their daughter, Hope, as a single parent. When Ant-Man has a dream about Janet, Hank and Hope begin to believe that Janet may be alive. Hope assumes her mother’s former superhero identity as the Wasp, and along with the conscripted services of Ant-Man, she and her father try to save Janet. Meanwhile, Ant-Man is on house arrest for previous acts of heroism which nonetheless violated a law, and his efforts to save Janet jeopardize his otherwise-soon-coming release. The technology that they hope to use to save Janet would also bring healing to Ava, who tries to steal it; it is also pursued by others who value it for the price it would bring. The heroes must try to accomplish the impossible while being challenged by multiple adversaries.  

** SPOILERS AHEAD THE REST OF THE WAY **




The Adoption Connection

Ant-Man enjoys spending time with his daughter, and she is excited for when they’ll be able to spend time together outside of his home, once his house arrest is completed. Ant-Man tries to maintain a positive relationship with his daughter’s mother and her new boyfriend.

Hank and Hope try to rescue Janet’s mother after believing her to be permanently lost throughout all of Hope’s life. When Hope was young, she was taught that her mother “saved countless lives knowing that [the cost of it would be] that she’d be gone forever.”

Ava’s parents died tragically.
 

Strong Points

Ava is assisted in her survival efforts by a scientist, but he puts limits on the tactics she can use in her attempt to survive; she intends to kidnap a young girl, but the scientist says he will stop helping her if she does that.

Janet understands Ava’s pain, and shows her compassion.


Challenges

Some aspects of the story could be frightening or sad for younger children or children who have lost parents.

Several characters unexpectedly disintegrate.


Recommendations

Ant-Man and the Wasp is engaging. Some scenes, and themes of parental loss and parents in danger of arrest, could be hard for some viewers, but it seems likely to be fine for – and most appealing to – kids ages 11 and up.


Questions for Discussion

What right does Ava have to try to get the technology she needs to survive? Are there limits on what she should be allowed to do in her efforts?

How do you think Hope felt when she was told that her mother went away forever to save other people?

When Ant-Man told his daughter that he doesn’t know how to help The Wasp without hurting his daughter, what did he mean? Why did his daughter tell him to help The Wasp?

What do you think  it would be like to go sub-atomic?


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(Spoilers ahead)

As a young boy in Tunisia, Fekri Kram was saved by a French tourist who prevented a shopkeeper from cutting off Fekri’s hand after Fekri had stolen bread. The tourist then followed Fekri home – and his life changed for the worst. Fekri’s mother sold him to the tourist in hopes of giving him a better life, but the life he experienced was horrific. Fekri was sexually abused and physically brutalized by the woman, and he came near death before he was finally rescued from her. Even in foster care, Fekri’s life was difficult; a suicide attempt led him to a residential treatment center, where after nearly a decade, he found healing, and was finally able to forgive his mother.



In this powerfully-narrated, animated documentary short (10-minute) film from Yasmin Mistry, Fekri shares his story. Foster and adoption agencies could consider incorporating this film as part of their training curriculum, and, for people considering becoming foster or adoptive parents, Fekri’s vulnerable sharing of his own life experiences can be simultaneously heartbreaking and inspiring. This one is recommended for adults.

As you watch it, imagine what life experiences your kids may have had. How can you help them feel safe talking to you about them? How might their life experiences show up in their behaviors? What would be the most helpful parental responses in situations where a child’s troubling behavior is reflective of the abuse they’ve previously experienced?


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