Sylvia Becker-Hill's "Women's Empowerment School Podcast" is about dismantling the patriarchy and giving professional women what they need to let go of the Super-Woman-Syndrome, step into their leadership by simply being women and be successful and fulfilled in all areas of their evelutionary life without sacrifice. While showing men how to shed their patriarchal wounds, redefine..
Do you struggle to make important decisions? If you suffer from self-doubt before, during or after, you know that indecisiveness is tantamount to self-torture. So, how can we learn to trust our decisions—and receive support from the universe? The answer lies in channeling the power of commitment.
Today on Women’s Empowerment School, Sylvia is sharing the eighth chapter of her book, 12 Leadership Powers for Successful Women, ‘The Power of Commitment.’ She walks us through the six most common decision-making resistance patterns that plague women, making it difficult for us to make important decisions or causing decision-remorse once we have.
Sylvia goes on to share her definition of commitment and outline the five steps for harnessing its power to facilitate buy-in and attract resources from the universe. Listen in for insight around why honesty is key in unveiling the decision you have already made and learn how committing fully will move providence in your favor!
Why most of the decisions we make each day are subconscious
The common decision-making resistance patterns women face
Fear of failure
Fear of success
What causes us to experience decision remorse
How Sylvia defines commitment as going all-in
5 steps to gaining the power of commitment
Be honest about decision-making patterns
Get support to overcome patterns that don’t serve
Write down feelings before, during and after big decisions
Expect synchronicities in days after making commitment
Stay away from self-doubt after making decision
How commitment gives leaders energy and encourages buy-in
Why honesty is key in unveiling the decision you already made
How committing fully will move providence in your favor
We have created a working culture where there is only space for Superwomen. So, we adopt an attitude of whatever-it-takes, leveraging the patriarchal strategies of dominance to reach our goals. And in the short-term, this approach is effective at getting results. But in the long-term, it kills the joy we have for our work, it kills the connections between us, our creativity and vitality—and in some cases, it even kills us.
Today, Sylvia challenges us to explore how the patriarchy influences the strategies we use to pursue our goals. She explains how we have assumed the guise of Superwomen to cope with a corporate culture designed for men by men, adopting dominance, hustling and efforting to get things done—at the expense of our health and wellbeing.
Sylvia also weighs in on the research around the arousal threshold, describing how men and women differ in terms of motivation and why leaders need to adapt their communication style accordingly. Listen in for insight on reframing vulnerability and authenticity as the strengths that they are and learn how we can drop our capes and bring our whole selves to work!
How the patriarchy influences the strategies we use to pursue goals
How Superwomen cope with working in a culture designed for men
How suffering from Superwoman Syndrome impacts our health
The strategies of dominance, hustle + efforting to get things done
Why patriarchal strategies work short-term but aren’t sustainable
Reframing vulnerability and authenticity as the strengths they are
The differences between men and women in terms of motivation
The significance of bringing our whole selves to our work
Sylvia’s invitation to drop our capes and feel safe being ourselves
Where did your goals come from? Do they support your soul’s longing? Or were they projected onto you by an outside force? Are you realizing your full potential, independent of external expectations?
Today, Sylvia encourages us to examine our goals and determine whether they align with our true desires and values. She describes the characteristics of the patriarchal culture we are swimming in, explaining how the collective subconscious impacts our thoughts and behavior—and why the patriarchy is not sustainable in the face of current global challenges.
Sylvia goes on to share the powerful story of her own decision to say NO to goals that did not align with her soul’s longing, explaining her ambition to help other women live their full potential from the inside out. Listen in for insight on creating a true partnership between men and women and learn how to liberate yourself and make conscious choices around what goals to pursue!
How distinctions allow us to discern something in a deeper way
The characteristics of the patriarchal culture we swim in
Why we aren’t aware of the impact the patriarchy has on us
Why the patriarchy is not sustainable in the face of global crises
Why inclusion in leadership teams is necessary to our survival
The impact of the status gap between men and women
When the patriarchy came to dominate world cultures
The trend to a true partnership between men and women
How the collective subconscious impacts how we think + act
How Sylvia defines the concept of EVElution
The patriarchy’s basis in fear and safety through belonging
The disconnect between external expectations and true values
Sylvia’s decision to live her full potential from the inside out
Saying NO to goals that are not aligned with our soul’s longing
Do you struggle with self-doubt? Are you worried people will find out you’re a fraud? Do you have a hard time internalizing success? If you feel incompetent and inadequate, despite ample evidence to the contrary, you have a serious case of imposter syndrome. The good news is, there is a remedy that will help you examine that negative self-talk and transform your inner critic into an inner cheerleader!
Dr. Emee Vida Estacio is a chartered psychologist, bestselling author, keynote speaker, and life and leadership coach. She earned her BA in psychology from the University of the Philippines and her master’s and PhD from City, University of London. Emee spent 10 years in academia, lecturing at Keele University in the realm of Community, Health and Positive Psychology. In 2017, she founded The PAME Code to support high-achieving professionals in overcoming imposter syndrome and unlocking their full potential. Emee is also the author of the three-book Psychology in Your Life Series: Change Your Life for Good, Imposter Syndrome Remedy and Fear is Not My Enemy.
Today, Emee joins Sylvia to share the personal struggle with self-doubt that triggered her passion to help others embrace their worth. She introduces the definition of imposter syndrome, describing the TLC technique she developed to explore your inner critic rather than fight it. Emee and Sylvia also walk us through several examples of harmful self-talk, discussing how to reframe performance-interfering thoughts to become performance-enhancing. Listen in for Emee’s insight on overcoming imposter syndrome and learn to leverage her PAME Code to pursue a purposeful, fulfilling life!
Emee’s background and education in health psychology
What triggered Emee’s passion to help people embrace their true worth
Emee’s personal struggle with self-worth after becoming a mom
Emee’s PAME Code for living a fulfilling life
How Emee defines imposter syndrome
Persistent feeling of self-doubt, incompetence + inadequacy
Despite evidence that proves otherwise
Emee’s TLC technique for exploring your inner critic
Is it TRUE?
Is it LOGICAL?
Is it CONSTRUCTIVE?
The value in working through TLC with a trusted friend, mentor or coach
Reframing performance-interfering thoughts as performance-enhancing
Emee’s caveat that structural change requires collective action
Memory is a fickle thing. You may be confident that your memory of an event is absolutely correct, yet someone else may remember the details very differently—and be just as confident that they’re right. Most of us understand that remembering is subjective, but you may be surprised to learn that your biased memory influences the reality you create! When you project your memory of a person or situation (and added judgement) on current circumstances, people respond by living up to your expectations. How does this work? Can you use this creative power to script a different outcome?
Today on Women’s Empowerment School, Sylvia is sharing the seventh chapter of her book, 12 Leadership Powers for Successful Women, ‘The Power of Projection.’ She explains why there is no such thing as an objectively stored memory, discussing the fluid nature of memory and how it changes over time.
Sylvia introduces the idea of remembering as a creative act, offering insight around how your judgement of a client or colleague based on previous experience impacts your behavior toward them—and proves your projection right when they mirror your body language! Listen in to understand the power you possess to co-create your world and learn how to script encounters so that people live up to your ideal vision.
Why there is no such thing as an objectively stored memory
The fluid nature of memory and how it changes over time
Sylvia’s insight around how remembering is a creative act
How projections turn into expectations + impact our behavior
How mirror neurons make us feel connected via mimicry
Why people always live up to our expectations of them
How to script encounters so people embody our ideal vision
Taking ownership of everything we think, feel + experience
What is the difference between an effective manager and a true leader—someone who owns the culture and delivers on the purpose of the organization? What are the characteristics of an inspiring C-suite executive of the future? And how do leaders go about creating the right environment for their team to be successful?
Pat Foley is the CEO of Lufthansa Technik Puerto Rico, a company that provides state-of-the-art aircraft overhauls in the Americas. At Pat’s 215,000 square-foot facility, planes are inspected, repaired and tested by his staff of 400 who perform base maintenance on A319, A320 and A321 aircraft for different airlines. Pat assumed his first leadership role with Lufthansa as the Production Manager of a maintenance bay 18 years ago, and since then, he has served the company as the COO of Lufthansa Technik Budapest and Head of Production at the Puerto Rico facility—before becoming its Chief Executive Officer.
Today, Pat sits down with Sylvia to offer his take on the unique culture and beauty of the island of Puerto Rico and explain the base maintenance work they do at the Lufthansa facility there. He describes the role of a CEO, sharing his personal journey from competent manager to effective leader. Pat explores the evolution of business over the past 30 years, discussing how he adapted to key trends and the personal development work he did to grow as a leader. Listen in for Pat’s practical advice for executives and learn how Hurricane Maria brought out the best in both Lufthansa Group and the people of Puerto Rico.
Pat’s take on the unique culture and beauty of Puerto Rico
The aircraft base maintenance work of Lufthansa Technik
Pat’s insight around the role of a CEO
Develop strategy, deliver on purpose
Own culture of organization
How Pat divides his day between operations and business strategy
Pat’s personal journey as an ambitious leader with Lufthansa
How Pat emulated the characteristics of leaders he admired
Pat’s view of what sets a leader apart from a manager
Positive and optimistic
Listen (nonverbal cues)
Emotional at right time
The major trends in business and leadership in the past 30 years
Rise of social responsibility
Role of technology
Shift to collaborative model
How a coaching course helped Pat accept and forgive himself
How Pat let go of the gremlin that says ‘you’re not good enough’
Pat’s practical advice for leaders
Separate work and home
Take work seriously, not self
Leverage sport as outlet
Sufficient time to rest
Pat’s experience living through the devastation of Hurricane Maria
How the employees of Lufthansa Technik worked to rebuild the facility
Pat’s admiration of the way his team responded to the hurricane
How Lufthansa Group was able to send 90 tons of aid in five days
Do you ever feel like the Ugly Duckling? Like something is off about the environment you’re working in? What if we could create inclusive workplaces where everyone felt like a Swan most of the time? Where we could use our intuition AND manage a spreadsheet? Where everyone felt safe enough to speak up?
Kristin Engvig is the founder and CEO of the WINConference, a globally recognized network and resource for women working internationally. A prominent thought leader in the evolution of the female leadership journey, Kristin created WIN to inspire women worldwide in becoming agents of possibility and to bring a more feminine, global and sustainable vision into the workplace and the world at large.
On the inaugural episode of Women’s Empowerment School, Kristin sits down with Sylvia to share the origin story of WIN and explain how the principles of inclusiveness and choice inspired her to start the organization. Kristin discusses the art of creating a world through the WINConference, the criteria for its partners and corporate sponsors, and the depth of relationships cultivated at the event. She also offers insight on maintaining a state of mindfulness and managing energy effectively in the midst of a busy, global lifestyle. Listen in for Kristin’s take on the evolution of companies as women AND men wake up to the urgency of a world that values generosity, caring and empathy—and learn how to fight for a world that works for everyone!
Kristin’s aim to inspire women in becoming ‘agents of possibility’
The pivotal moment when Kristin understood the power of choice
How feeling like ‘the Ugly Duckling’ inspired Kristin to create WIN
Kristin’s insight on fighting for a world that works for everyone
Kristin’s holistic approach to curating a world at the WINConference
Kristin’s take on the current trends toward diversity and inclusion
Why Kristin advocates for an empathetic approach to business
How WINConference sponsors demonstrate a commitment to sustainability
The depth of relationships created at the WINConference
How Kristin’s profound dedication to purpose energizes her
How Kristin manages her energy in the midst of extensive travel
Kristin’s insight on living in a state of mindfulness
How companies are evolving as more women are empowered
The value of meeting as physical beings in a common space
The urgency around making space for generosity, caring and empathy
For the last 7,000 years, power has been reserved for men. And though cultural norms are changing, many women continue to resist power, viewing it as an ugly or destructive force. How can we better understand our personal power paradigm? How can we step into our power without allowing it to corrupt our character? How can we learn to embrace power and feel safe doing so?
Today, Sylvia is helping us explore our personal power paradigm. She explains how a paradigm is influenced both by culture as well as our past experiences, walking us through a series of questions to explore how we perceived power as children and fully understand our initial positive or negative feelings toward it.
Sylvia then guides us through an assessment of how we experience power now, challenging us to compare our current understanding of power with that of early childhood. She addresses why many women continue to resist power and shares a practical exercise for feeling safe as we step into our power. Listen in for the neuroscientific research around power and empathy and learn how we can grow in our power—without losing compassion for others!
How a paradigm is influenced by culture + past experiences
The definition of power as the ability to produce an effect
How to uncover your personal power paradigm
How did you perceive power as a child?
Of the adults in your family, who had more power?
How did you discern who had more power?
How did power look? How did it sound?
Did power have a positive or negative connotation?
Assessing how you experience power NOW
How is power distributed at work?
How do you sense power inside yourself?
How do you behave when you feel powerful? Powerless?
Does power have a positive or negative connotation?
The neuroscientific research around power and empathy
Why women need to feel safe stepping into our power
How to counterbalance the negative effects of gaining power
It’s difficult enough to make progress toward our vision when we come up against challenging, unforeseen circumstances. But what about the situations where we get in our own way? How do we identify what aspect of ourselves is behind the disruption? And how do we ultimately protect ourselves from such self-sabotage?
Today, Sylvia is explaining how self-sabotage keeps us from honoring our commitments, describing the challenge around managing energy in circumstances beyond our control. She discusses how to identify the self in self-sabotage, making the distinction among the conscious and subconscious mind, the mature self and the inner child, and the higher self and the ego.
Sylvia also shares her top 5 strategies for making yourself self-sabotage-proof, exploring how a lack of clarity, motivation and alignment breed self-sabotage. Listen in to understand the role of a strong foundation in avoiding self-sabotage and learn why shared values are crucial in building a supportive team!
How self-sabotage keeps us from making progress to our vision
How to accept 100% responsibility + maintain healthy control
How to identify the self in self-sabotage
Conscious vs. subconscious mind
Mature self vs. inner child
Higher self vs. ego
The 5 areas that breed self-sabotage
Lack of clarity
Lack of motivation
Lack of alignment
Lack of foundation
Lack of support
Why attitude and shared values are crucial in building a team
Easter is an ideal time to feed your soul with the message of hope and abundance. To let go of what’s gotten in your way and remind yourself of the ambitions you may have abandoned. To reexamine the big goals you are pursuing and breathe new life into your dreams.
Today, Sylvia is sharing the history of Easter, explaining why and how the date was chosen by the church. She discusses the springtime Pagan festivals celebrating the end of darkness and scarcity and honoring the goddess Ostara, an image of the power to give birth to new life.
Sylvia goes on to explore the egg as a symbol of the sun and the hope of new life as well as the rabbit as a sign of renewal and abundance. Listen in for Sylvia’s challenge around breathing new life into your big goals and learn how to drop an outdated mindset and pursue your forgotten dreams!
The history of the Easter celebration and how the date was chosen
The Pagan festivals that celebrated the end of darkness + scarcity
How the goddess Ostara represents fertility and new life
How eggs serve as a symbol of hope and new life in the world
Why the church integrated Pagan festivals into Christian rituals
The rabbit’s role in representing new life, hope and abundance
Sylvia’s challenge around breathing new life into your goals
Dropping an outdated mindset to pursue your forgotten dreams