My name is Jolanta, and this blog is about my life raising three little birdies – Anya, Mia and Luna. The purpose of this blog is to share my very special story – a real, honest story of being a mother and everything that comes along with it.
Ah, those golden years when your kids actually let you decide what they’re going to wear. You can dress them in anything you want. Not like they care about their appeal. But, if in 14 years from now, you want them to still love you after showing them old family photos, it’s important to dress your little ones in comfortable, durable clothes that are stylish too. There’s why I came up with a list of our favorite children’s clothing brands for your little ones. All featured items are from brands’ newest collections and are available on their websites.
Warning: This article is no way sponsored by any brand or shop in the list. No affiliated links added. Also, if you’re a fan of Minnie Mouse or Disney’s Princesses, this is not for you.
No surprise. Zara is always trendy, no matter how old you are. It’s very stylish and affordable. I love their jackets and coats. You can find a very nice and warm winter coat for less than 40€. I also love their jeggings (Anya has them all), jumpsuits, shorts, dresses… everything, except shoes. I don’t know how about bigger kids, but if your little one have just started to walk, never buy her shoes from Zara. They are super cute, I know. Unfortunately, they are not made for the first steps. I bought many pairs for Anya last summer, and she almost broke her neck because of those shoes. Now my girls wear only ugly, painfully expensive but very comfortable shoes.
You should see my excitement when I discovered Billieblush in a small boutique in Paris few weeks ago. I have never seen so beautiful tutus in my life. This brand is all about making girl’s feel like little princesses. A little bit more expensive than Zara but if you are looking for colourful, fun and bubbly outfits for your little dreamer, than Billieblush is for you. Their dresses are perfect for birthday parties. So dreamy!
Vibrant and colourful. If you think that kids should be kids, check out Molo. They are completely crazy about fun prints, strong colours and bold combinations. A year ago, my father bought Anya one of Molo’s pyjamas, and I remember how much I hated it at first. Now Molo is one of my favorite children’s clothing brands.
Mini Rodini is another fun brand that designs very fashionable eco-friendly children’s clothing in a very high quality. From what I see on Instagram, this is one of the top brands at the moment. Everyone loves it, including us. If you are a parent of twins or multiples, Mini Rodini is perfect for matched outfits. Very pricey, though.
Stella McCartney Kids
Stella Kids is for every taste. The brand is well-loved for its playful and modern styles for babies, boys and girls from newborn to 14 years old. I love their outerwear, fun dresses, babygrows and eyewear, of course. Most of items are very expensive, but you can always find something on sales or outlet shops. Check out Alexandalexa.com or Babyshop.com for nice discounts.
#1 of my all time favorite children’s clothing brands. BangBang Copenhagen prides itself on not conforming to the traditional ‘girls wear pink and boys wear blue’ ethos. Oversized jumper dresses sit next to jaunty t-shirts and slouchy structured harem pants, all adorned with Bang Bang Copenhagen’s signature quirky prints and patterns.
Today we took a plane with three under two years old babies. I’m actually on a plane right now, writing this article while everyone is sleeping. Yes, all three of them, at the same time.
Warning: This is not a “How to” article or an article about the best baby travel gear items or whatever you can find on Google.
Traveling with babies is actually easy. I mean, it’s not that hard as you might think. I believe that manage three or even five years olds is much harder than to change diapers or to push a stroller. However, everything changes when you decide to take a plane. When the guy behind us saw the amount of babies we carry, he asked to change his seat. It’s completely understandable because if you ever took a plane with small children on board, you know that it’s hard for everyone, and no earplugs can help. But not in our case.
It is not my first flight with an infant. We took a plane many times during the past year with my oldest daughter. But traveling with three under two years old children is a whole new level. You have to be prepared.
I started with four bags. I thought that I would be better prepared if I take more because you can never know, you know? Diapers, food, toys, books, warm outfits, cute outfits, different hats, accessories … Fortunately, my husband payed only for one luggage. I needed to full it wisely because adding another luggage after the booking was too expensive. And you know what? The girls will survive with only one dress each. I took only the most necessary items and it’s more than enough to enjoy the holidays. Besides, we have so many bags with us, and I don’t know if it would be physically possible to carry one more.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t work for the cabin luggage. There, less is less, and more is the best. I took a huge cotton bag because it’s lightweight, practical and you can put inside more things than in a regular square luggage. There’s everything! Diapers, food, water, toys, blankets, iPad for emergency situations, tons of wipes and extra sets of clothes, both for me and the girls. Good thing is that the airline restrictions on fluids/liquids do not apply to baby formula and foods. What I always do, I prepare a bottle of formula right before take-off. I heard that feeding babies during take-off and landing can help them with the pressure changes. I don’t know if that’s true because the critical moment is not on either but at the top of decent when the aircraft first comes out of “cruising altitude” (you feel it in your ears too). What I know for sure is that it keeps them calm.
Another important thing is that you can’t take a plane with three under two years old children, even if you’re an octopus or Indian goddess. You need help! Here’s why.
To have some extra hands, we invited my parents-in-law to come with us. On a plane, to have all girls together, we sat with my husband and my mother-in-law in a three seated row. I was surprised when the cabin crew didn’t allow us to sit together. Turned out that in a three seated row, generally there are four oxygen masks. If every seat is taken you can sit with one infant, and if the parents want to keep the twins together in a row, one of the seats must be empty during the whole flight, not just for take-off and landing. That’s what happened. We have the whole row just for us (so fancy). Imagine if my mother-in-law wasn’t there? Even if one child would have her own seat, you can’t let her alone in another row.
I want to mention that in case of an emergency, you have only few seconds to get the masks on. You cannot spend time giving the baby to the back seat or wherever the third person that travels with you is seated. Sometimes the cabin crew are in a rush and don’t take time to explain the real reasons and the parents don’t get the importance of not getting the babies together. Inconvenient, I agree, but it’s safe. Unfortunately, I learned it only after posting the pictures on the social media.
… is the key. Sometimes there are moments when no iPad can help. When it happens, I always try to stay cool, even if I feel uncomfortable. How stressing out about what other people think will help to solve the problem? I’ve noticed that most of the parents get so nervous or even feel ashamed when their babies cry. Sometimes these parents even become aggressive in a way they try to calm their little ones. I don’t judge, I just think that it only worsen everything. For me, the best way to bring a smile on baby’s face is to smile yourself. Yes, I know how it sounds, but it’s definitely better than to shake her brains out.
The research clearly shows that happy, optimistic children are the product of happy, optimistic homes, regardless of genetic makeup.
Right now I put all my worries and troubles away. I’m very excited about our vacation and I share this positive feeling with the whole family. My husband and I ordered some wine not to feel any physical or emotional pressure, and we are enjoying our time together with the girls. I know that the upcoming week is going to be not an easy one, but again – it takes a positive attitude to archive positive results.
The flight is near its end, the girls are still sleeping, and you know what? We took a plane with three under two years old babies and none of them had cried even once!
You probably can’t tell by looking, but when this picture was taken I was struggling with postpartum depression and anxiety. I experienced multiple panic attacks daily, extremely low self esteem, loss of interest in everything, and every little thing set me off. I can’t tell how many things I broke by throwing them into the walls. I was so miserable! It was hard to bring myself to get out of the bed and do even the most basic tasks, like brushing my teeth, or preparing food. I felt so exhausted. At the end, I lost so much weight that I started to look anorexic. I felt completely out of control.
I was so angry and frustrated I was feeling this way because I was supposed to be the happiest person on earth. Once I wrote to my girlfriend to talk about all that shit, and before I even started, she told me that she doesn’t understand why I complain because there’s obviously nothing wrong with my life. She was right though. But I couldn’t help but feel the way I was feeling, even if I knew that I hurt my family that way.
I constantly questioned myself. Maybe I felt depressed because of a childbirth trauma? Maybe because I felt isolated? Maybe because I missed my pre-kids life? Or maybe I was just unhappy about the choices I made and with my life in general?
I was trapped in a dark cave and it felt like there’s no way out of it.
At the worst times, I imagined the worst scenarios. I remember how I called my mother and said that I can’t do it anymore. She asked me: “What’s wrong?” and I answered: “I have very bad thoughts, mom!” “Which bad thoughts?” And I said: “I imagine myself in the bath, laying dead under water.” I was so scared.
I can’t explain why.
I still struggle with guilt for the way I behaved. But postpartum depression was real, and I couldn’t just snap out of it. You just can’t wake up and be “normal”, no matter how hard you try. One woman said that for her it was like she was watching herself react badly to every day situations, without the ability to stop herself. I felt exactly the same way. It was like I was outside of my body looking in.
I don’t know if this is over or not. There are still bad days when I break down crying. But now my mental health is the top priority. Even if that means to bring the girls to their grandparents on weekends, to hire a nanny, or to ask my husband to come home earlier when I feel like I’m losing control. I can’t be the mother I want to be. My family needs me healthy and happy.
Postpartum depression is scary and it can feel like a never – ending battle, but you can get through it. Recognizing that you’re struggling is the first step toward getting better and feeling like yourself again. Remember, that there’s someone in your life that needs you!
I’ve mentioned recently on my Instagram page that I’m trying to get back in my pre-baby shape, and make some healthy lifestyle changes. I have been introduced to different supplements and products, and today I will be talking to you about SkinnyMint TeaTox.
In case you still haven’t heard of SkinnyMint (only possible if you’re not on any social networks), it’s a two-step natural tea program that helps achieve the best natural cleansing, energy boosting and detoxifying effects. The teatox itself lasts 28 days, and consists of two different teas – one for mornings, and one for nights.
You see, as a mother of three I don’t have much time to take care of myself and this seemed so easy to accomplish, so I decided to give it a go. My goal wasn’t to lose weight. I simply wanted to clean my body from pollution and my “10 cups of coffee a day” lifestyle. And I must say I was surprised by the results!
The Morning Boost tea contains different ingredients with awakening purposes, to kickstart your day, such as green tea, nettle leaves and guarana seeds (try it with almond milk, yumm). It also helps boost your metabolism and curbs your appetite and is also packed to brim with antioxidants so it’s super good for your skin too. Drinking it every morning motivated me to exercise more and make healthier food choices. I had also cut out coffee (okey, almost!), so it was the perfect morning fix for me. One teabag contains 62 mg caffeine, compared to a regular cup of coffee which contains 90 mg.
The Night Cleanse tea is a uniquely formulated herbal blend that is designed to naturally cleanse the body. It contains ingredients such as ginger root and lemongrass, and is caffeine free, so it is perfect to take in the evening. It has the strongest cleansing purposes, so I only took it once every alternate night when I was off to bed. Just after the first day (or night), I woke up to a visibly flatten belly and my body didn’t feel bloated anymore.
*In the latest survey, 83% of SkinnyMint customers agreed the Night Cleanse flushed them out, with 91% saying they felt less bloated.
After one week I saw the positive effect on my face – it seemed to be more toned and less tired. It really helped me to balance my lifestyle, aided healthy eating and archived an overall sense of well-being. That’s all I needed – a little motivation to start over after being pregnant for almost two years in a row.
Overall, I’m very satisfied with the results of this Teatox program. I would never, ever suggest you it if I wouldn’t! Thanks SkinnyMint for having me! If you ask me, would I re-purchase a few months later? Definitely.
1) “A goal without a plan is just a wish.” Write down your goals (i.e. feel more energized, enjoy a salad instead of a burger or fit into that black dress). It will help you stay motivated;
2) Never focus on weight! Your well-being is much more important.
3) Create an amazing playlist to workout to;
4) Start with small steps – 1 minute of planking and 20 crunches right after is a perfect combination to start your routine;
5) “Fall in love with taking care of yourself!”
6) Walk more. Take the stairs instead of the escalator, get off the train or bus one stop earlier. These can make a significant contribution to the 30 minutes of exercise we all need every day;
7) Start each meal with a glass of water. You’ll stay hydrated and feel fuller instantly which can help you from overeating;
8) Cut down wheat, sugar, processed food, dairy and alcohol;
9) Get at least 7 hours of sleep. Sleep boosts your metabolism and since your body builds muscle while you snooze, getting some quality zzz’s equals better muscle tone;
10) “Strive for progress, not perfection,” and “be stronger than your excuses!”
The teatox is 28 day program, and therefore not something you should drink every day all year around. Take at least one month’s break from the powerful Night Cleanse before starting your next teatox. Also, you can’t take it when breastfeeding or whilst pregnant. One you’ve delivered your bundle of joy and have finished breastfeeding, the teatox is a good way to kick start a healthier lifestyle.
There’s not one day when I don’t receive a million questions about how do I cope with three kids under 18 months old. Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? But in fact, it’s not that bad! I know that some moms are loosing their minds with just one child, and that’s completely understandable. What about me? I’m too lazy to go insane. Yes, I’m a lazy mom, and I love it!
It all started on the day our twin girls Mia and Luna were born. I had a very complicated delivery and I couldn’t leave the bed for days. I let my boyfriend take care of them during the day and night. He was feeding, changing and bathing babies while I recovered. By the day we left the hospital I was so get used to comfort, that I promise, I didn’t want to leave. I knew that outside of the hospital there’s a chaos waiting for me.
And that’s what happened. The first weeks were so exhausting! All I wanted was to get a sleep, and so I did. For those who ask me about our sleeping routine, we don’t have one. We don’t have any routine at all. If I’m tired, I put my kids to sleep, and luckily for me, they sleep. The only thing I really think about is how to make Anya sleep just after I feed the twins, because then we all are quiet for at least three – four hours. That is perfectly enough for a nap. And that’s my magic sleep routine! Meals? If I want to eat, I prepare a meal and share it with Anya. I don’t want to spend my only free time in the kitchen, cooking those organic baby meals, that every ecological alpha-mom is so proud of. I’m too lazy for that. That’s why I always try to find a way to combine my own needs with my kids’ needs. And not like a have a choice.
I always say that taking care of newborn twins is easy. What is hard is a toddler. Demanding, attention seeking toddler who needs to be watched out every single second. I was not able to relax and enjoy my little babies, and I’m still not. I can’t do anything but to look for Anya. Today I left the twins in one room with Anya for 30 seconds, and when I came back, she was sitting on Luna’s face. Hopefully, it was just for 30 seconds. And such moments happen every day. Many times a day. So if you’re searching for rotten tomatoes to throw at me, think what she could do while I cook gluten free – vegan cookies.
I’ve learned to let things go and stop to worry too much. Imagine if every time something goes wrong, I become mad. I would probably write this article from a madhouse. I’m not an alpha-mom who’s house is shiny and babies always clean. And I don’t want to be one, I don’t need it. We don’t need it!
What I want to say, is that I can’t make my kids happy if I’m constantly tired or stressed out. That’s why it’s important for me to be a little bit lazy sometimes. I never force my toddler to take a nap at 3 pm just because she should, and I never feed babies at exact hours, just because it’s written on a formula box. I don’t follow the rules, and I think this is what makes my kids and all my family happy.
I can see it in Mia’s and Luna’s happy faces, I feel it when Anya falls asleep holding me tightly, or when my boyfriend sneaks out from the office to bring me croissants . The way we do just seems so right. So maybe not having any routine is a good thing?
Being a lazy mom doesn’t make me a good mom, but for sure it makes our life easier, and that’s all we need right now.
You don’t need to be an experienced parent to know that baby clothes are very expensive. Some stuff that my girls are wearing is more expensive than half of the items in my own closet. And all those pretty dresses, skirts and blouses end up outgrown before you get your money’s worth.
Stocking your little one’s closet with secondhand clothes is one of the easiest ways to save money, just like selling them. Most of my girls’ clothes had been put on probably twice. Some still have a price tag on.
I’m going to try to sell the best of what they have, including some premature clothes that are usually very expensive and hard to find. All items are in the perfect condition. Clothes that are stained or a little bit broken will be given to the charity. So take a look and maybe you will find something for your little one. If you do, please contact me via email: email@example.com or drop a comment and I’ll reach out to you!
Our twins Mia and Luna were born near a month premature at 2.7 kgs (5.9 lbs) (Read their birth story here). On the second day of life during a physical examination, our babies’ physician heard a ‘murmur’ in Luna’s heart. She was diagnosed with a Ventricular Septal Defect (VSD). My heart is carrying a heavy burden since.
What a VSD is?
Honestly, I was avoiding this topic all this time. I even told my husband not to tell me the name of it, not to stress myself even more. From Google (I promise, I was searching just a proper definition), VSD is a hole in the wall separating the two lower chambers of the heart. Normally, the left side of the heart only pumps blood to the body, and the heart’s right side only pumps blood to lungs. In a child with VSD, blood can travel across the hole from the left pumping chamber (left ventricle) to the right pumping chamber (right ventricle) and out into the lung arteries. If the VSD is large, the extra blood being pumped into the lung arteries makes the heart and lungs work harder and the lungs can become congested. (www.heart.org)
What are the symptoms of a ventricular septal defect?
A VSD permits extra blood to pass from the left ventricle through to the right side of the heart, and the right ventricle and lungs become overworked as a result. The larger the opening, the greater the amount of blood that passes through and overloads the right ventricle and lungs. Symptoms that Luna has include rapid and heavy breathing, fatigue and tiring while feeding. Probably we wouldn’t even notice these symptoms if her twin sister Mia wouldn’t grow more rapidly. They were born with completely identical weight and now, at almost three months they have a 600g (1.3 lbs) big difference.
One week ago we went to the pediatric cardiology department at Hôpital Necker in Paris for the pre-op appointment for Luna’s surgery. It was focused on the echocardiogram (ultrasound of the heart), blood tests and the most important- we met the surgeon who will do an open heart surgery to our baby. He explained what would happen during surgery as well as the risks. We were told that this surgery is an ‘easy’ one. On a scale from 1 to 11, it’s 5. I thought about writing about the details of the surgery but it may be disturbing for some of you.
The synopsis is that it’s an open heart surgery to repair a large hole in the heart. Her heart will be stopped and a machine will function as her heart and lungs. That what terrifies me the most as a mother. Even a talk with one of the best surgeons in Europe couldn’t comfort me and relieve my pain. Although I was assured that Luna will be in highly capable hands, the fact that a scalpel will touch my baby girl’s chest and her tiny heart will be stopped is breaking my heart in pieces. I’m angry. I’m terrified.
I have no idea how I will survive the day of the surgery. Why my baby? Why us? I won’t even be able to hold her in my arms after this nightmare will be finished. She will be all alone, drugged and hooked up to multiple tubes, drains, and machines. But I have no doubt she will be fine. As our cardiologist said: “You’re strong, but she is stronger,” and I truly believe in that. This will be the biggest battle in her, no, in our lives. I believe in her. Maybe one day she will be proud of her scar. Me, I will. I’m so proud of my tiny fighter. No doubts, she will be victorious!
I’m asking you for support. We need it more than ever. If you have experienced this in your family, please share your experience with us. Maybe there’s something we should know. Thank you!
In the past year I’ve learned about babies not less than pediatricians in their first years of studies. Raising them is challenging, but it’s also fun. Trust me, I know – I have three on my hands. And even if I don’t have a master degree in parenting, there are things that I know for sure. Here’s what I have learned about babies.
1. Babies are not so fragile as we think. You won’t break her arms trying to put on a t-shirt.
2. It’s true – they grow up way too quickly.
3. Enjoy every “trick” they do. You can never know when it will be their last performance.
4. Silence is golden… unless you have a toddler. In that case silence is very, very suspicious.
5. Their nails are sharp, but teeth are sharper.
6. Speaking of nails, they grow at an alarmingly fast rate.
7. One day you wake up and realize that everything in your house has a potential danger for your baby. Actually, it’s not that bad.
8. I’ve asked the question, “What’s in your mouth?” more times in the past year than in my entire life.
9. The dishwasher is one of the most entertaining baby toys on the planet. Especially the knifes in it.
10. Speaking of toys, babies completely don’t care about fancy wooden or handmade toys. Garbage and everything dangerous is more fun.
11. Baby wipes… I have no idea how I ever lived my life without a stash of baby wipes on hand.
12. It’s important to let them be independent even at so early age. This way they can learn to play by themselves, and you can have more time to enjoy your morning coffee.
13. Babies are masters in manipulation. Don’t let them fool you.
14. There’s a difference between “I’m hurt” and “I want to think I’m hurt” cries.
15. Sometimes they may cry for no reason. Actually, most of times there is one, you just have to learn to read their cries.
16. Everything you eat is theirs. Don’t even bother with separate plates.
17. According to babies, body creams and everything that is in tubes are the most delicious delicacy.
18. You immediately regret it after yelling at your child.
19. The word “bittersweet” was created to describe the feelings that parents have when their baby turns one.
20. Photos are great. Videos are even better.
21. Sometimes cartoons are your best friends. Pre-kids we used to judge parents who let their kids watch cartoons while out to eat. I apologize for this.
22. Strangers like to touch your babies. Learn to say no before your child wakes up with a random disease. True story!
23. Speaking of the word “no”, babies like to test their limits after hearing it. Have you heard of “Never say no to Panda”? Watch the videos on YouTube and you will understand what I’m talking about.
24. Time with baby number two flies faster than with baby number one.
25. Almost every baby has a special toy they can’t sleep without. As soon as you discover which one it is, run to the shop to buy a duplicate.
26. Babies LOVE to hide important things, especially in a trash bin. This is the reason why I only use speaker to talk on phone.
27. Burps… I should write a separate article.
28. It’s better to let a baby press the elevator button first.
29. Putting your baby down for a nap makes the doorbell ring.
30. Don’t count your chickens before they hatch. Just when I think “I’ve got this,” my kids prove me so wrong. “Hey, mama! You thought you potty-trained me and you already posted about it on Facebook? Bahahahaha!“
31. Sleep solves everything. For everyone.
32. Babies can’t talk, but they can communicate. It’s important to learn to understand their language of babbles and signs.
33. Good routine is the key.
34. Not a random lady in a grocery store, not your parents, and not even Google knows your babies better than you do.
35. I’ve learned that I actually know very little about parenting, but to my kids it’s not that’s important.
You all might have heard of Daniel Wellington watches. This Swedish brand, which aims to provide minimalist and elegant timepieces, has quickly become a leading watch brand, that has kickstarted the minimalist watch trend. Though I’m not a fashion blogger and I’m far from everything fashion related, I wanted to share with you my experience with this brand.
I will be honest with you, I’ve never really been into accessories. Firstly, I have no idea how to wear them, and secondly, I find them very uncomfortable. The only ones I wear is the earrings that my father offered me for my 18th birthday and the necklace that I received as a present when my first girl was born. And watches? They were the very least of my concern when it came to accessories.
That is, till I started spotting Daniel Wellington all over the Internet. I’m sure you’ve probably also been seeing those watches on Instagram. It’s hard to find a blogger or Instagrammer who doesn’t already own a Daniel Wellington watch. Well, it’s simply because Daniel Wellington doesn’t pay for traditional advertising, instead the brand is working with thousands of bloggers, celebrities, and other “influencers” worldwide giving them watches for free. That’s how I got mine, though I’m not a celebrity.
I was very excited when Daniel Wellington agreed to collaborate with me. I’ve chosen, in my opinion, one of the most elegant timepieces – the Classic Black Sheffield 36mm watch from Classic Black collection. The brand now has several different collections with a variety of different straps and watch faces, but I thought that this Rose Gold faced watch with a black leather strap would be of more use in my wardrobe. However, the straps are available separately as well, so you can even purchase multiple straps along and keep changing them. Awesome, isn’t it?
The brand also offers accessories to make your watch look even more sophisticated. I’ve chosen the Classic Cuff Rose Gold. My suggestion – choose the large one because the small one is designed for a really small wrist.
As you can see, the Classic Black is very clean and elegant in design, and you can wear it with casual outfits, and also with more formal ones. I’ve been wearing it for a while now and it’s really a timeless piece that stays in tip-top shape even after all the time that I’ve been wearing it. Besides, it’s very lightweight and comfortable to wear. And the best part – it’s very affordable! So come and get yours now:
They offer FREE shipping worldwide.
From now until June 15th you can save 15% OFF the total price of Daniel Wellington watches by using the code: THREELITTLEBIRDS. It’s very simple – just enter the code when you buy your chosen watch.
The most difficult part of this whole process will be deciding which one to get (I’m talking from my own experience).
DISCLAIMER: I received a sample for free from Daniel Wellington in return for an honest review. As always, I only recommend and write about brands that I personally use or believe in.