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Tara MacIntosh by Tara Macintosh - 1w ago

In my quest to understand how to serve in this world I continually ask do I help others first or do I help create boundaries where I take care of my needs first? I wondered about the question in the context of “being nice” as we hear this so often – just be “nice”. What does that mean and how is it defined exactly?

What is “being nice”?

Nice is a word we often hear and refer to but I never really stopped to think of the what it means – at its core. The dictionary definition is pleasant, satisfactory, kind, good-natured. Satisfactory? So, to be nice is to be satisfactory? The definition of satisfactory is adequate…so if I am nice – I am adequate?

Is it really worth putting your own wishes on the back burner to be adequate? Hmmmmm.

I realize none of these actions or associations are easily changed in our minds but I always wonder about the value of being nice. I get being kind, giving to others in need or taking care of those who need help but I never fully undecredit orng nice – just to be nice. Or worse, for credit or to turn around and be un-nice at first opportunity.

As I struggle to understand if we are to live for ourselves or live for the greater good – and what the difference really means – I am trying to understand when I am supposed to stand up for myself and when I’m supposed to sacrifice my own feelings for the greater good – and be ok with it. I have come to understand this is going to take a while to unpack.

That leads me to the consistency of the act. To really lay claim to any act, I believe, you have to be consistent with it.- for everyone and everything. You have to BE it, own it, and not do it for any reason other than it IS part of you. Same reason you wear the style of clothes that you wear and the same reason you laugh the way that you do, and at the things that you do. You don’t think about these things – you are these things. To claim to be nice you have inherently be nice…not because someone told you to, or because you are gaining, but because you ARE.

When we circle back to what you do for yourself and what you do for others, I don’t think “being nice” comes into the equation. You are nice, or you aren’t. That’s that.

Where the confusion comes in for me is if being nice is part of owning your truth and acting accordingly OR acting on behalf of the greater good and perhaps going against your own personal gain. If being nice is for personal gain then that, in my opinion, changes the definition as there is now an expected outcome as a result. In my opinion that changes from “being” to “doing” – and what is that?

This is to be continued, obviously.

Until next time – decide, commit and action your dreams to love your life.

The Writing Suite is a writing focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. Contact us for any and all writing needs or questions. Follow us on social for all our updates.

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Tara MacIntosh by Tara Macintosh - 1w ago

As a writer, I often ponder many thoughts and ideas. Lately, all I can think about is the concept of perspective. What is it? What does it mean? How do we gain perspective? Isn’t everything we do tied to our experiences and our own filters on the world so how can we gain a new OR change our perspective without changing who we are?

This is what keeps me up at night.

When it comes to perspective on the world as I am often perplexed as I am constantly coming up against two very conflicting ideas on how to describe it.

First, I am told that I am important. That my ideas and my needs are non-negotiable. My opinion is the most important for me. I should accept nothing less than to be heard. MY needs are important and I don’t have to stand for anything that I don’t like. I am told to STAND UP for myself and to BE MYSELF no matter what. I am told to embrace everything that I want to be and want to achieve. Living this way will bring me to my truth and this is the winning combination that will bring me ultimate joy.

Ok, great, but then……

I am ALSO told that I need to be more compassionate, care about others and put others needs BEFORE mine. I need to be the bigger person and I need to go the extra mile and I need to let others enjoy what they like regardless of what I like. I should find happiness in bringing others joy. I should be flexible in what I offer and be more understanding of others. I need to be selfless and give to others before I consider my OWN needs. Living this way will bring me to my truth and this is the winning combination that will bring me ultimate joy.

So – what is it?

Do I become demanding and stand firm in what I want an I need or do I give effortlessly to others and derive joy from their happiness?

Hummm.

I still don’t know the answer – as a matter of fact as the events of the modern world unfold I am more conflicted than I have ever been on this subject. Each side is gaining more and more steam and attention and, to be honest, both make compelling arguments and success stories. As someone who sits on the fence, this is not helpful.

As such, I try to walk a delicate balance between the two. I try to both be understanding AND assert myself when there is something that I want to go after. This has been a struggle for me my entire life and I am just now starting to be able to articulate the division and understand that there are two opposing sides. For a long time thought these existed as one, which is why I was never fully satisfied, as I now believe you have to pick a side. I continue to try to figure out which gives me more joy? The jury is still out.

I often listen to those that teach tranquility, stillness and inner joy. Their teachings often say the biggest joy you can receive is to give to others. I always hear that you are far happier giving than receiving HOWEVER I also frequently hear that you should “get what you deserve” and I am entitled to go after what I need and want in life. These statements sit with me and I wonder – which direction will bring me more success, happiness and inner peace? Again, the jury is still out.

The quest to figure this out has become all-consuming. It is consuming my thoughts and my ideas. It has become such a curiosity within me that most of my quiet moments are spent contemplating this very fact and trying to come up with answers – any answers. So far I draw no parallels and have no clarity on the subject. Sad, but true.

I have to be honest – I have often felt forgotten, ignored or that I deserve more. I have been upset or frustrated when I have to give in or when what is best for me is the last consideration. I have felt joy when I got something I worked hard for. When I beat out my competition and when I was recognized for trial tasks. I have also engaged in a number of charitable ventures and felt great joy over giving back and seeing the faces of those that benefit from my donations, sacrifices, hard work or a simple gesture of kindness. I have experienced frustration and extreme satisfaction on both sides – so what is the answer?

I will continue to seek answers – and also to gather insights from a confusing culture that teaches that both giving and taking are the right way to achieve success and a joyful heart.

Until next time – decide, commit and action your dreams to love your life.

The Writing Suite is a writing-focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. Contact us for any and all writing needs or questions. Follow us on social for all our updates.

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This question often comes to mind – “How do you know when you’ve made it?”

I used to imagine what THAT moment would be like – when will I make it, what will that feel like, when will I be able to finally relax and let myself just sit back and say – yep, that’s it. I did it. There is nothing left to accomplish – good on me.

Hummm……as an entrepreneur, a writer and an admirer of all the mysteries of the world yet to be discovered, when will enough be enough? When will I hang my hat and say – that’s it, I made it. My guess is – never!

Doing so would suggest that the moment I’ve “made it” rests on one particular experience or incident. That is WAY too much pressure to put on myself. Also, it saddens me to think of having made it as a singular incident as giving one incident that much power would negate all of the other “moments” that have helped to get me where I wanted to be.

To be honest, this is such a satisfying conclusion to arrive at as it takes the pressure of that one big moment off my shoulders. It allows me to enjoy the entire journey and celebrate the small victories (or not so small – as any victory that moves you forward, or teaches you a lesson, is a GIANT victory in my books).

I have learned that I have, in essence, already made it. Sure, I’m not famous. I’m not a household name. I still have a mortgage and debt payments and I struggle to figure out how I will pay a bill on occasion, but here’s the thing – is having made it purely based on recognition and monetary gain? We are taught that it is the biggest part of the equation, however, I now chosen to believe it is not the ONLY part – far from it.

I believe I have ALREADY made it. Why? Well, I am one of the lucky ones – one of the few – that is chasing my dream. I am living a life that I designed in my head for so many years and worked SO HARD to put into place and now, day by day, it is becoming a reality before my very eyes. I am one of those lucky ones who wakes up everyday HAPPY to face the challenges that lay before me. I am excited to be able to write, to explore and to contribute to the success of my clients in some small way. I am so happy to have a handsome fiance to kiss good morning and to have a house that keeps me warm and dry – these are not things I take for granted for one second, as these too, I worked SO HARD to have as part of my life.

I often wonder what my response would be if someone asked me – when was the moment you knew you made it? As the days pass, the answer for me is becoming more and more clear. The moment, if there really has to be one, was when I DECIDED to GO FOR IT – and then every moment that came after that! It was the moment I decided my dreams were more important to me than any of the consequences that could happen as a result of taking the first steps and putting EVERYTHING I had into moving myself in the direction that I knew was right for me. That is when I made it – that was when I started living MY life.

I think we are confused when it comes to this question, and I was too for many years, but now I get it. I get it.

Until next time – decide, commit and action your dreams to love your life.

The Writing Suite is a writing focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. Contact us for any and all writing needs or questions. Follow us on social for all our updates.

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Tara MacIntosh by Tara Macintosh - 1w ago

We all EXPERIENCE language differently – this may sound strange as we all communicate with the same words BUT do you ever notice that when you talk to someone they often interpret your message differently than you intended? This happens more often then we realize and it is all because of the EXPERIENCE of language.

When we learn the meaning of words, there is always a preconceived message that accompanies that word depending on our experience. Think of words like marriage, education and diet. People experience and react to these words very differently depending on who, when and how they were taught the context of these words. Let’s take money for example – there are generally two ways to think about money. The first is that money comes easily and if you need it, you’ll find it. The second is that money is the root of evil – there is never enough and it is a constant source of pain. The way you interpret the word MONEY, and your direct association to it is based on your experience of that word in the real world. Your intended meaning of the words you are speaking are obvious to you but not necessarily to the person you are communicating with. Having this awareness will make you more reflective and deliberate in the words you choose to communicate with, especially in business.

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When we speak, we are not only using words but their associated meanings that shape our message. This happens without our knowledge as we rarely stop to think about how we interpret language based on our experience with words. Once we are aware of this distinction, it can help to unpack words and realize that there are several meanings to everyday, ordinary speech.

Let’s take the word SUCCESS. In my early 20’s success meant wealth, status and climbing some sort of ladder. What I thought success would do for me is open doors and provide funds to have my then big 3 – 3 vacations, 6 figures and designer everything. As I was having a conversation with my than boyfriend we were discussing his definition of success which included his big 3 – happiness, helping others and working in the arts.

I was stunned.

His list didn’t include ANYTHING financial or material. NOTHING. This was the moment that I truly realized your experience of language shapes each persons meaning of language. Our experience of language was too far apart for us to ever be able to completely understand each other.

Years later, his experience and understanding of the word success still sticks with me. Now I seek to understand others experiences rather than assuming we are all coming from the same place.

Understanding your own experience with language and how you can identify miscommunication and be more flexible in your own explanations. It will make your communication infinitely more rewarding. The things you will learn will astound and (hopefully) delight you – it is like learning a whole new language!

Take inventory of your own experience with language when it comes to your important messages and ensure you are projecting the message you intended.

The Writing Suite is a writing focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. We offer workshops and consultation services to explore your specific client base and the language that works for you. Contact www.thewriringsuite.com for writing and workshop details. Follow us under The Writing Suite on FB, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn for daily updates.

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Having one year under my belt, now, allows me to be standing just outside the new kids club. I have managed business and clients through 4 seasons and more importantly, I now have a platform to manage my own expectations.

I started out with the idea of being a writer – what a magical brilliant idea! I am in love with the idea of being a writer, and I hope I always will be. What I love the most about it is the ability to morph, and morph I have, believe me.

This year as I begin to set out goals and expectations what I am seeking is the ability to define my business clearly and honestly. The trouble with this is that I want to stay open to opportunity so defining my business will create close opportunities elsewhere. And you know what, that is ok. It is ok but it is still a hard idea to wrap my head around. The one thing I have to trust as I being to narrow my gap is my gut. To date, it has never lead me astray.

What is so cool about building your business is how one idea, or one experience, leads into the next and how eventually – months later I mean – you start to understand how events are beginning to connect. It is almost impossible, if not impossible, to articulate what you are until you have had a chance to live it. When you finally see little strands of one idea connecting to another idea and how they could start to be one thing that is part of a bigger thing – you feel like ….how did I miss this?? And, quite frankly, a little relieved that you are seeing how your ideas are slowly coming together.

The most frustrating part of this process is the wait. You simply have to live through some experiences and wait for the magic to reveal itself to you. In my experience, it can’t be forced BECAUSE it won’t be authentic. The reason you have to wait is in part that the people you meet and the conversations you have will fuel these connections. It is only in time that you will start to see how connections relate to you. It is by talking to others – and talking about yourself – that you start to see how helping one is related to helping another…….and then the ah-ha moment happens!

Trust me – it is worth the wait.

It feels at first like you are in one lane and then switching to another lane and then another but really what you are doing is weaving one idea into the next and you just don’t know the outcome yet. The best thing to do is to enjoy the journey and to pay attention to the wisdom that each experience offers so that you can gather what you need from each experience – and you won’t know what you need until suddenly the lightbulb goes off. We spend a lot of time planning for the future but one of the best gifts you can give yourself, as an entrepreneur, is to be in the now. I have always been a fan of enjoying where you are now for all the planning in the world may not lead you to what your future pace promised to deliver. The future, to me, is the biggest mystery and one that is far beyond my control so I let it be and let it fuel itself while I sit in the now and take in everything I can.

The ordinary is quite remarkable if we let it be.

Until next time – dream, experience and love your life.

The Writing Suite is a writing-focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. Contact us for any and all writing needs or questions. Follow us on social for all our updates.

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As 2018 approaches, I can’t help but breathe a sigh of relief. I made it through my first year of business!!!!!

When I started out in Jan 2017 I had no idea how the year would unfold. As I sit in my office reflecting on the events of the past year, I am happy to report that I am beyond pleased with the way the year presented itself.

As I close off my last blog of 2017 I will review the most important lessons I learned in my first year as a Writer and Entrepreneur:

1. Read
As a Writer, I had to keep reading. The more I read the better writer I became and the more I stretched my imagination – oh so important.

2. Socialize
Entrepreneurship is lonely. It just is. As exciting as it was to be living my dream I was isolated and had to work every part of my business solo. To fight this loneliness make sure you plan social days out and see people who make you laugh ….have some fun or you will grow to resent the isolation

3. Network
I know to some this is a dirty word but for me, networking was imperative for meeting people in my situation and was a great way to expand my business. A tip: you may have to visit a few different networking groups before you find out which groups work for you – this is totally normal. Eventually, you will find a group that makes you feel comfortable and you will look forward to getting together with them on a regular basis.

4. Learn to go with the flow
When you start your business you will encounter moments that will throw you off and you will be offered opportunities that are out of your comfort zone. Embrace both of these things – I did and it was the best thing I did! Make sure you explore all kinds of different opportunities – especially as a writer – variety is key to avoid being stale or boring. Keep life interesting by finding inspiration through new experiences and meeting new people.

5. Don’t give up
My first year had I had some dark moments thinking, “how the hell can I ever make this work” – it happens to EVERYONE. I learned to stick with my path regardless of roadblocks. Give yourself at least one year to see what you can make out of your business and every single day do something that moves you forward. This is so important to keep you on a schedule and to keep you motivated to move forward. Some of these tasks were boring BUT they served to move me forward and in these early stages I really needed that.

6. Celebrate yourself
When you hit a milestone or a goal – celebrate yourself. It may be taking yourself out for lunch (as I often did) or taking a moment out of your day to have a coffee and reflect on a job well done. The idea is to mark the occasions that were challenging or that made you really feel like you were making progress and succeeding. Taking time to celebrate will go a LONG way in creating excitement around your business short term success and long term goals.

7. Set Goals
I had a series of goals – both big and small so that I could see and feel my progress. My advice in year 1 is to create small goals that are achievable so you don’t get lost in the long term goals. I would post up the long term goals on my wall so that I would read them every day to remind myself where I am going. I would also have a series of smaller achievable goals that would motivate me daily. Lastly, I had a to-do checklist that would help me feel accomplished weekly.

8. Take Time Off
As a new Entrepreneur, you will want to work ALL THE TIME. Since it is just you doing everything and simultaneously drumming up more business there will never be a shortage of things to do BUT to stay sane you have to take a break. Take a hike without your phone, take one day where you don’t have any commitments and have a coffee on the back deck, ultimately taking weekend get-a-way (if financially feasible) is the best medicine as it gives you a minute out to appreciate your progress and to actually miss your business. It also lets you come up with new ideas when you take your head out of the weeds and take a look at the bigger picture.

Taking the first step into this world is the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself. Once there, allowing yourself to succeed and fail as you learn and grow is imperative to long term success. This journey into Entrepreneurship has no beginning or end. It is a continuous circle that leads you around and around alternating through joy and sorrow. I have learned that letting go of expectations and allowing life to unfold as it does has been the most valuable lesson and the one that has provided the most peace as I move through my first year. I strive in year two to let go even more and allow life to lead the way instead of what “should” taking top bill. Why not – it is often so much more interesting!

Happy New Year all, and the most prosperous of 2018 to you as well.

Until next time – dream, experience and love your life.

The Writing Suite is a writing focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. Contact us for any and all writing needs or questions. Follow us on social for all our updates.

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Sooooo – as we start our businesses we are all excited, somewhat organized and definitely ready to get going. Day 1 happens, day 2 happens and before we know it we are a couple months in.

This is when those teeny tiny little thoughts start to creep in:

How can I be doing this?
How will I ever make this work?
Who will pay me for my services/products?
Am I qualified to do this?

This type of thinking has come to be known as the fraud syndrome. At some point we all have a moment of panic where we feel like we are not qualified to run a business and start to think …. how did I ever imagine I could make a living selling my services/products? Am I crazy?

Don’t panic.

When this happened to me I started to wonder if I should go and look for a job, you know, just in case. Should I get a part-time job? I wasn’t making the money I used to make (and this is totally normal!) so, should I work somewhere else until my business is making as much money as I want it to make? And, it isn’t just about money – I also had negative thoughts about how bold I was to think that I could run a successful business and that I could survive without a steady paycheque. Me? How could I make this actually happen?

After a day or two of questions and doubt, I DECIDED to snap myself out of it. That is exactly what you have to do – DECIDE. Everything in life is a choice. If you choose to let these words get to you then you will eventually go out and get another job. The worst part about that is the brave first steps you took towards building your dream will be lost.

I made a promise to myself when I first started that I would not even look at the job boards, on any sites, for at least one year. If I had let doubt dominate my thoughts, then soon enough I would have been catering to its little whispers. Instead, I kept moving forward. Every day I would do one thing that helped me feel like I was building a business that had value and strength.

You see, I started out strong when I first started my business – this is partly because I had amazing clients that took a chance on me right from day one and I was new to everything, so, everything was overwhelming and took me a while to accomplish. At about the six-month mark there were some changes with my clients and I was struggling. I was almost out of the funds I set aside to use for my business, I was struggling to make all the bills work without going into any savings. I didn’t know where my next job was going come from, or if any of my current clients would change course AND I didn’t give up. I kept my promise of staying away from any job boards, and after 3 months I was growing again. I had more opportunities coming my way than I could have anticipated.

The more entrepreneurs I meet, and work with, I realize this is a very familiar story. We all go through months of up and months of down – and that, in essence, is what we signed up for. The uncertainty fuels me and the never-knowing-what-is-around-the-corner gets my blood pumping even faster – for you never know what opportunities are waiting for you.

Every day I get up and I am grateful that I have the opportunity to write for a living, or do work that involves the power that language. I believe what I am doing is helping individuals motivate themselves towards their dreams – that is enough for me to continue to move forward. The more I stick with what I love, the more I feel like I am REALLY living. I am not waiting for something else to come along….I am loving every minute, every struggle, every choice (good and bad) because I DECIDED to make it and I can DECIDE to change it.

Be kind to yourself allowing the natural ups and downs of life and business to happen. When it is right you will attract the right energy and, you will have everything you need all around you.

Until next time – decide, commit and action your dreams to love your life.

The Writing Suite is a writing-focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. Contact us for any and all writing needs or questions. Follow us on social for all our updates.

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The goal I celebrate today is the result of endless hours of networking, years and years of writing, endless hours of turmoil, a path of consecutive decisions that lead me to various places and people, a fierce inner determination, a never-give-up attitude, a leap of faith, taking a chance on myself, trusting in others, trusting in myself, having the courage to put myself out there, the highest of highs, the lowest of lows and, finally, a decision to take action and commit to a dream. What I celebrate today is all of these things – all together in one big giant loveable mess that brought me right to this very moment, this very spot with this giant smile on my face.

I have a tradition that today, I had the pleasure to part take in once again. Today I sent in 2 chapters of my book for publication in early 2018. I WILL be a published author in a compilation book that will be sold around the world. This moment, my friends, is definitely worthy of taking a moment out of my day to just sit and soak it in.

There is a place I go when I have completed a big step in my writing career – or should I say, what I deem to be a big step in my writing career. I sit in this place, sipping a glass of wine to reflect on all the hard work and sacrifice that brought me to that very moment.

The truth is, this moment is not the only moment that I celebrate. I have learned that if I only anticipate the end of the journey, I miss out on all the parts in between. Each step, each small milestone is just as valuable as it gets you to the next, and the next, and the next. Each step holds its own special place in the chain and it offers lessons and moments to celebrate along the way. If we only focus on the end game – once we get there – it is often disappointing. One moment can’t hold the weight of a lifetime of building. One moment can’t give the joy of a journey of trials and triumphs. One single moment is the result of many others and the beginning of many more – nothing more, nothing less. To hang a lifetime of hopes on one single moment will always be a little anti-climatic leaving you disappointed and wanting more.

As an entrepreneur, this lesson carries through to all aspects of running a business. In my first year, I can tell you that everything grew quickly and happened at lightening speed – partly because I had no road map to follow and therefore the consequences of my decisions created new twists and turns that always brought me to new and foreign places.

I have goals – big goals – and goals that I will meet one day I am sure of that. What I am careful not to lose sight of is the fact that the goals that I label and give names to are not stand alone goals. They are part of a much bigger wheel that has been turning for a while already and will continue to turn long after that goal is met. Reaching one goal is the result of many smaller goals and achievements that came together in exactly the way they were supposed to – nothing more, nothing less.

If I have learned anything it is that the whole entirely of your experiences are worth celebrating. Any event that requires a little courage, a little fight, a little determination is worth celebrating all on it own. Any decision made that pushes limits, that takes you out of your comfort zone, that begins with a big inhale, that scares the crap out of you, that has an unknown outcome, that requires a leap of faith, that leaves you standing all by yourself, that requires risk, that makes your heart beat a little bit faster, that gives you insane joy to imagine and that is met with resistance……here’s a little secret …..that’s the good stuff!!

These events – big, small or anywhere in between deserve to be celebrated and recognized for their contribution to the end result. They all get their curtain call as the entire company takes its collective bow.

Until next time – dream, experience and love your life.

The Writing Suite is a writing focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. Contact us for any and all writing needs or questions. Follow us on social for all our updates.

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This question often comes to mind – “How do you know when you’ve made it?”

I used to imagine what THAT moment would be like – when will I make it, what will that feel like, when will I be able to finally relax and let myself just sit back and say – yep, that’s it. I did it. There is nothing left to accomplish – good on me.

Hummm……as an entrepreneur, a writer and an admirer of all the mysteries of the world yet to be discovered, when will enough be enough? When will I hang my hat and say – that’s it, I made it. My guess is – never!

Doing so would suggest that the moment I’ve “made it” rests on one particular experience or incident. That is WAY too much pressure to put on myself. Also, it saddens me to think of having made it as a singular incident as giving one incident that much power would negate all of the other “moments” that have helped to get me where I wanted to be.

To be honest, this is such a satisfying conclusion to arrive at as it takes the pressure of that one big moment off my shoulders. It allows me to enjoy the entire journey and celebrate the small victories (or not so small – as any victory that moves you forward, or teaches you a lesson, is a GIANT victory in my books).

I have learned that I have, in essence, already made it. Sure, I’m not famous. I’m not a household name. I still have a mortgage and debt payments and I struggle to figure out how I will pay a bill on occasion, but here’s the thing – is having made it purely based on recognition and monetary gain? We are taught that it is the biggest part of the equation, however, I now chosen to believe it is not the ONLY part – far from it.

I believe I have ALREADY made it. Why? Well, I am one of the lucky ones – one of the few – that is chasing my dream. I am living a life that I designed in my head for so many years and worked SO HARD to put into place and now, day by day, it is becoming a reality before my very eyes. I am one of those lucky ones who wakes up everyday HAPPY to face the challenges that lay before me. I am excited to be able to write, to explore and to contribute to the success of my clients in some small way. I am so happy to have a handsome fiance to kiss good morning and to have a house that keeps me warm and dry – these are not things I take for granted for one second, as these too, I worked SO HARD to have as part of my life.

I often wonder what my response would be if someone asked me – when was the moment you knew you made it? As the days pass, the answer for me is becoming more and more clear. The moment, if there really has to be one, was when I DECIDED to GO FOR IT – and then every moment that came after that! It was the moment I decided my dreams were more important to me than any of the consequences that could happen as a result of taking the first steps and putting EVERYTHING I had into moving myself in the direction that I knew was right for me. That is when I made it – that was when I started living MY life.

I think we are confused when it comes to this question, and I was too for many years, but now I get it. I get it.

Until next time – decide, commit and action your dreams to love your life.

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Tara MacIntosh by Tara Macintosh - 1M ago

We all EXPERIENCE language differently – this may sound strange as we all communicate with the same words BUT do you ever notice that when you talk to someone they often interpret your message differently than you intended? This happens more often then we realize and it is all because of the EXPERIENCE of language.

When we learn the meaning of words, there is always a preconceived message that accompanies that word depending on our experience. Think of words like marriage, education and diet. People experience and react to these words very differently depending on who, when and how they were taught the context of these words. Let’s take money for example – there are generally two ways to think about money. The first is that money comes easily and if you need it, you’ll find it. The second is that money is the root of evil – there is never enough and it is a constant source of pain. The way you interpret the word MONEY, and your direct association to it is based on your experience of that word in the real world. Your intended meaning of the words you are speaking are obvious to you but not necessarily to the person you are communicating with. Having this awareness will make you more reflective and deliberate in the words you choose to communicate with, especially in business.

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When we speak, we are not only using words but their associated meanings that shape our message. This happens without our knowledge as we rarely stop to think about how we interpret language based on our experience with words. Once we are aware of this distinction, it can help to unpack words and realize that there are several meanings to everyday, ordinary speech.

Let’s take the word SUCCESS. In my early 20’s success meant wealth, status and climbing some sort of ladder. What I thought success would do for me is open doors and provide funds to have my then big 3 – 3 vacations, 6 figures and designer everything. As I was having a conversation with my than boyfriend we were discussing his definition of success which included his big 3 – happiness, helping others and working in the arts.

I was stunned.

His list didn’t include ANYTHING financial or material. NOTHING. This was the moment that I truly realized your experience of language shapes each persons meaning of language. Our experience of language was too far apart for us to ever be able to completely understand each other.

Years later, his experience and understanding of the word success still sticks with me. Now I seek to understand others experiences rather than assuming we are all coming from the same place.

Understanding your own experience with language and how you can identify miscommunication and be more flexible in your own explanations. It will make your communication infinitely more rewarding. The things you will learn will astound and (hopefully) delight you – it is like learning a whole new language!

Take inventory of your own experience with language when it comes to your important messages and ensure you are projecting the message you intended.

The Writing Suite is a writing focused company dedicated to creating compelling content to engage and encourage your customers. We offer workshops and consultation services to explore your specific client base and the language that works for you. Contact www.thewriringsuite.com for writing and workshop details. Follow us under The Writing Suite on FB, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn for daily updates.

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