Young single mom blogger dealing with subjects like Travels, Money matters & Relationships issues. My mission is to help young women on their life’s journey as a guide. I’ve made many mistakes but I’ve also accomplish a lot in my young life. Therefore if you can learn some tricks from my struggles maybe this can help you on your path to greatness.
Planning Disney as a single mother Theses are just my 5 tips that I picked up on my trip to Disney last summer. Disney was a magical experience and the next time I visit I will make sure to take my own advice. LOL Here is a quick overview of my trip. We stayed at...
Finding a good job is not always easy but when you must deal with a Bad Boss, that’s another level. I know when you’re in a financial bind you can’t be choosy. (Beggars can’t be choosers) the was never a truer saying. So many times, I wanted to quit my job but I had bills to way. Sometimes you must take the shit and smile just to pay your bills on time. But that does stop me from writing this post.
I’m the kind of person who gives myself at least one year to see if I like the company I’m working for. It takes one year to see if I really like my co-workers, the commute to work or if my boss is a dick. Story times everyone!
I was working for a company a while back where the owner’s son and the person I was working with were childhood best friends. Hence my co-worker could do no wrong. This meant that I got blamed for everything that went wrong and he would get praised for all the good thing. Can we say a really douchebag? This guy was so full of himself and since we shared an office I couldn’t ignore him.
One day he had a bitch fit and threw all the papers of the desks in our office. That’s when I knew that my time was up working with him. Can we say drama queen?
I had a bad boss who only hired her friends. All she wanted to do was shop and do her nails. She worked for her father therefore no one could say anything to her about her poor work ethics nor her lack of education. We all had to work double time to cover for her short comings.
One day I had enough and I told her I was giving her my 2 weeks’ notice. She had a conniption and said that I was ungrateful since I was a little black girl who will never find a better job. Bad Boss, pleaze? I’m a black woman and I always land on my feet!
I had a boss who had OCD (Obsessive compulsive disorder). He liked all desks in the office to be cleared of all paper work before we left in the evening . If you’ve ever worked in an office before; you know that sometimes work piles up and you can’t put anything away for fear you might forget to complete it. Well my boss wasn’t having that.
It was the busiest time of the year, therefore one evening we left some important papers on our desks. Well the next morning the front door was barricaded with our office chairs. When we pushed our way inside all the papers from our desks and all the chairs were at the door in a pile with note saying: “I don’t ever want to see papers left on the desks again nor chairs not pushed under the desks properly”.
Were we in elementary school? This man was crazy! But I didn’t say anything No; I just got to work cleaning up the mess. I stayed at that job for a year and a half since I was still going to school full time and I needed the money.
The moral of these stories is that good jobs are hard to find. But if you enter employment with the mindset to learn then you’ll gain more in the long run. Now I have a great job that I love and that I’m grateful to have it. If I had never gone through all that chaos before my current job; I wouldn’t know how to appreciate what I currently have. My one-year rule makes sure you’re not jumping from job to job on your resume. By trying a job for one year, I’m able to see if it’s the right fit for me. If it’s not I have my CV ready to find a new one.
Do you have a bad boss story? Let me know, I would love to know that I’m not alone.
How to be happy when you’re alone
Fall is just around the corner and if you’re not already booed up, you might feel a little unhappy. You want that dream life that everyone around you would envy but you don’t know how to create it when you’re alone. The secrets to a blissful life are not as complicated as you might think. Being happy is very simple, but so many of us makes it complicated.
Your life may not be perfect but by following these 5 simple steps you can find true happiness within yourself in not time.
Even if you don’t believe in a higher power, you should still have faith that everything in your life is going to work out. Someone told me once that “you pay for your good days with your bad ones” and it as stuck with me ever since. Therefore, when I’m having a bad day or I’m feeling lonely, I know that’s the price I’m paying for my good days. With a little prayer, giving talks that I’m still alive, I can go on with my day blissfully. Life will not always be simple or straight forward, understand that and get past your need to control or fix every little thing.
Have you ever realized that when you’re having money problem, every other problem just seems bigger? Problems seems more stressful and nothing is as straight forward as it should be. I’m not saying that money equals happiness. But taking care of your financial worries will equal to less stress, hence a happier life. Check out my last blog regarding organizing your finances, to help you manage your money and gain financial happiness.
When you start doubting yourself and your abilities it’s impossible for you to find happiness. If you can’t find happiness within yourself then how can you be truly happy as a person? Know that there is something and/or someone better out there for you. Stop looking at what others are achieving and focus on your own life and happiness. Don’t be that person who is always cheer for another people’s success but not celebrating their own. Believe in yourself even if you’re the only one who does.
Write it down
I’ve meet a lot of people with big dreams and plans to change their lives. But when you ask them how they are going to do it they don’t even have a clue. Write all your plans and dreams in a book that you can look at every day. Figure out what it will take to make them a reality and write them down step by step. Therefore, when you’ve achieve a step cross it out of your book. Don’t wait for someone else to make your dreams come true or to give you a shot. Take your life in your own hands and create your own opportunities.
Live like a pessimist
This is something that I learned when I was about 24 years old. Plan like a pessimist but live like an optimist. Plan for every eventuality as much as you can. I know that sounds overly dramatic, but if you have a plan A,B,C,D… for everything that can go wrong in your life, then life won’t seem so scary. Since you know that no matter what you have a plan in place just in case. Twice a year I have to readjust my plans but for the rest of the year I’m set. Some say that life never go as you plan. You won’t have to worry about life’s changes since you already have a backup plan.
These 5 tips are merely a guide to true happiness. I know that taking control of you bliss is not always as simple matter but take it step by step and I promise that your life will get a lot better. You won’t be happy all the time but at least most the time you’ll be happier that most people.