It is with a heavy heart that I come today to say that this is my last post/video…at least for a good while. This has not been an easy decision but there is a lot going on in the Sutton home and I have been pulled in too many directions to do anything effectively.
I go in to more detail in the video below and also share my final thoughts with you. Thank you for reading and watching, I have treasured every message and comment I have received! Hope to be back soon!
3 Ways to Heal Your Gut and Cure Illnesses | My Final Video - YouTube
Every mother longs for two things: that they will be a good mother and that their baby will be happy. The one issue is that, as a new mother, every website, friend and doctor out there gives you differing views on how to achieve those two simple goals. Sleep training is one of the most controversial topics in the mothering field.
Sleep training or not, there will always be times when it is good to just fall asleep snuggling with Mommy!
From day one I determined I would let go of all preconceived ideas and do whatever research told us was best for our child.
We all enter situations with a certain bias and I would say my bias was against the general idea of “attachment-parenting”. Simply put, I’d heard that “attachment-parents” allowed the baby to nurse on demand, sleep on demand (usually co-sleeping with the parents) and be worn by their mothers wherever they went.
But as I did my research, the “attachment” side seemed to be the selfless and loving point of view. The “non-attachment” side seemed to be more selfish and just thinking of the parents.
So I decided that since I was going to be a stay-at-home mom and had a very flexible schedule, I would go wholeheartedly into it and see what happened…
The website that changed everything
For the next two weeks I made myself available to nurse every time our little Heidi seemed to indicate a desire to eat and let her sleep whenever she decided to.
I remember looking at this picture of my exhausted, puffy-eyed two week old and realizing a change was needed. That was the day we started sleep training.
But life was not the fairy tale that all the websites had promised…for me OR Heidi. My sweet baby never seemed to eat a full meal and usually started rooting every 15-20 minutes (24 hours a day!). On top of that, she was unable to sleep for more then 30 minutes unless she was on my chest which made it next to impossible for me to sleep.
Both mommy and baby were frustrated and VERY tired!
Then one day, after much research, thought and prayer, I came across THE website!
I will elaborate more into the sleep training aspect but that website is FULL of great ideas on not only sleeping but eating schedules, soothing ideas etc. Go check it out!
The sleep training system
I have said that, as a new mom, I wanted to be open to anything. But the method of sleep training that advocates letting your baby cry it out for as long as it takes (whether 15 minutes or 4 hours) was not something I was comfortable with.
Practically Perfect Baby offered a happy medium. Any type of sleep training is still not going to be easy at the beginning but I am now completely convinced it was best for Heidi (and us) in the long run.
So this is how it works:
Lay your baby down in her own crib while still awake, swaddle her (we used SwaddleMe) and lean over her reassuring her for a couple minutes.
Turn on a soother (we used Baby Einstein) or sound maker, turn off the light, close the door and leave the room.
As soon as your baby starts crying, set a timer for 15 minutes and distract yourself.
If your baby is still crying when the timer goes off, go back into the nursery. Eliminate any other causes of her crying (dirty diaper, gas etc). Set her back in her crib, soothe her for a couple minutes, leave the room and reset the timer.
Do the process no more then three time (total of 45 minutes). If your baby has still not fallen to sleep, get her up and try again at the next scheduled sleep time.
Training Heidi took just over a week. There was only three or four times that we had to go through the entire 45 minute process. Every baby is different but I believe if there is consistency, this process shouldn’t take more then a couple weeks.
The results have been extraordinary! From the time she was one month old, she has been able to soothe herself. 95% of the time I lay her down she just smiles at me, turns over and goes to sleep. Outside of the occasional nightmare or teething pain, she has never woken up in the middle of the night and needed our help getting back to sleep.
The best part is that she was always tired, frustrated and usually crying through the night before we started training. Now she is the happiest, most rested and contented baby I’ve ever had the blessing to know!
Follow your “mommy instincts”
I am a very black and white person and feel most comfortable when there is a plan laid out for me to follow. But the most important aspect of this plan is that you have to be flexible and follow your instincts.
It is true that no one knows your baby better then you do. Heidi has a whiny “I don’t want to go to sleep cry” and she has a terrified “I just had a nightmare” cry. Sleep training or not, there is obviously no time I would ignore the nightmare cry.
Teething also was a learning opportunity. By that time, I knew that she had thoroughly learned to soothe herself. So when she randomly started having a tough time sleeping I knew it was related to teething. For about a month we threw the rules out the window and followed mommy’s gut.
Listen to your baby. Think about what she is going through. Remember your goals.
My goal with sleep training was to teach my daughter to soothe herself so that she could get a better nights sleep and develop a good habit.
My goal is not to discourage my child from asking for help when she is in pain or scared. So being flexible and listening to what your baby is trying to communicate is very important.
The biggest thing I kept reminding myself during that week of training was that I am teaching my daughter a habit that will benefit her for the rest of her life.
When babies learn to walk, they fall down. When a child learns to ride a bike, they will probably skin their knee. Sometimes learning is hard but if it benefits our child, as her parent, that is what I am here for.
So tell me your thoughts? Any positive or negative experiences with either attachment parenting or sleep training?
Check out my video on this topic here:
Gentle Sleep Training | How to Teach Your Baby to Sleep - YouTube
Last week I gave you the low down on digestibility and phytic acid. I laid out the absolute importance of preparing your beans, nuts, and grains properly in order to make them truly healthy for you family.
But I left you hanging…because I hopefully convinced you that the preparing needed to be done but I didn’t actually tell you how to do it! So that is what we are going to cover today!
Check out the video below to watch me do a bulk preparation day:
How to Soak and Sprout Beans, Nuts, and Grains | Healthy Eating Guide Part 4 - YouTube
Does this topic seem a bit boring? Give me a minute to convince you that taking the time to prepare your beans, nuts and grains makes all the difference to your health.
There are so many facts and figures that we could delve into on this topic but I want to keep it basic. Our main goal in soaking and/or sprouting is to improve digestibility and eliminate phytic acid.
The basics that we need to know is that God created a outer barrier on these particular food groups to keep their minerals and nutrients inside until the time that they are needed. For instance, a seed or a bean is designed to keep up their barrier until they are planted and start to grow because they need all of their nutrients at that point.
The barrier is not a bad thing, rather it is an important protection, built in by God, that is absolutely necessary for plants all around us to grow. We just need to keep that in mind as we try to consume them.
Another issue we encounter in these food groups is phytic acid. This substance is basically a mineral magnet. As we digest something with phytic acid the minerals that we currently have in our system attach to it and get taken out of our bodies. It is not ironic that in this society of high grain consumption there is also a high level of mineral deficiency.
Needless to say, soaking and/or sprouting beans, grains, and nuts eliminates both of these issues!
Check out this video to learn more:
Why to Soak and Sprout Beans, Nuts, and Grains | Healthy Eating Guide Part 3 - YouTube
Can you take one of the most healing liquids on the planet and turn it into a candy that your toddlers will enjoy???
Yes, you can!
But let me preface this with a word of honesty…I can not guarantee that every child will love this recipe as much as my children do. I firmly believe that a child’s taste buds start off as a blank slate and are completely moldable by what their parents choose to expose them too.
Thankfully, we learned about eating truly healthy food when my children were VERY young and because of that, they have been exposed to a lot less sweets and processed foods than many others. They have also been raised on food flavored with bone broth. We also introduced this “treat” when we were in the midst of a very strict healing diet called the GAPS diet. So I’m sure that all played a part in their response to this new dish.
But all that being said, my children were born with no special adaptability in the taste bud region so I’m sure, with time and patience, your child’s taste buds can be molded to the point of considering this treasure chest of nutrients to be a delightful treat as well.
I took a basic ginger gummy recipe and step by step transformed it into what it is today. In the following video I will show you the different adjustments you can make to find what step your child currently enjoys and then let you gradually add more nutritious ingredients later.
Check out the video here:
Bone Broth Gummies!! | Healthy Toddler Snack - YouTube
So we are moving on to part two of our healthy eating guide. If you missed the intro and part one, check them out first.
We now understand the importance of changing our diet to one of healthy, healing foods and we have begun the process of transforming our pantries, refrigerators, and freezers. I have also given you a lot of information on what foods to look for and how to fit them into your budget.
But now you probably have a very pressing question on your mind…”what do I make with all of these healthy ingredients??”
That question is what I will answer today!
I have four main resources to offer you in order to get you on the path to developing your family’s personal healthy recipe collection. I can not just hand you a clean food cookbook because you will have to form your own collection based on your family’s heal needs and taste buds. But these resources will give you a big push in the right direction.
Check out the video below:
Top 4 Healthy Recipe Resources | Healthy Eating Guide Part 2 - YouTube
As I began researching how to eat healthy three years ago, one of the most overwhelming things I could think of was just how many things I needed to replace in my refrigerator and pantry before my home would rise to a standard that could be considered healthy.
The second most overwhelming thought, and one that quickly followed the first, was trying to figure out what to replace my pantry’s current contents with…what qualified as truly healthy? What food would heal my family? And how could I do it on our tight budget??
Ok…I had A LOT of overwhelming questions!
That is what we are going to be talking about today…hopefully getting you to a less overwhelming place than I was for a long time.
We are going to talk about how to start the process, what to look for at the grocery store, and how to prioritize for any budget.
So let’s get started!
Check out the video below:
A Step-By-Step Guide to Stocking a Healthy Kitchen | Healthy Eating Guide Part 1 - YouTube
I am so excited to introduce a new series today! Over the past couple of months, I have been hearing from several of you that my content has been overwhelming and perhaps leaving you more confused than helped on your road to health.
So we are going back to the drawing board and starting this journey at the very beginning.
It has been a while since I started all of this research to learn how to be healthy and I think that it is sometimes difficult for me to remember what I needed back then so that I can also give that to you.
But wherever you are in your health journey, my goal is to give clear, step-by-step methods of how to get from where you are to are to a place of true health. All that I ask is that you talk to me and let me know what I’m missing or what questions you have as we go!
In this introduction today we are stepping back and reminding ourselves why we should be so motivated to put in the work it will take to transform our diets and our health. I couldn’t be more excited to start this with you!
Check out the video here:
Why and How to Eat Healthy | Introduction to Healthy Eating Guide - YouTube
Over the past two years that I have spent writing on this blog and now posting videos on YouTube, there have been soooo many changes in The Pursuit of Homemaking’s direction and focus. This has been because my direction and focus as a wife and mom has changed as I have continued to learn and grow.
I believe the time has come to pinpoint what my brand is all about! To take my vision and passion and hone it down so that my message is clear. There is so much I want to share and today’s video is just me taking a moment to share with you where The Pursuit of Homemaking is going and how you can be involved!
As always, the biggest message I want to get across is that I am here and would love to talk about any homemaker struggles/questions/thoughts that you have!
Introducing: The Pursuit of Homemaking BRAND! | My heart and my vision - YouTube
Before I took off the months of November and December, I had a couple of videos already waiting in the queue that I have been able to post during these first couple weeks of January. So the video I am releasing with this post is really the first one I made after my holiday break.
During that break I was reading and researching my heart out because, although we had made a lot of headway in our journey to health and our progress in resolving our health issues, I could tell there were still some missing pieces.
There is so much information and so many details that I look forward to sharing with you in the future, but for today, I just wanted to take a moment to share some thoughts that I have been pondering these past couple months and some revelations that our family has had.
I hope you enjoy! And I would love to hear your thoughts!
Being Your Own Doctor | Finding Health in Today's Culture - YouTube
(fyi: I agree with this review when it talks about the fact that Netflix seemed to try to paint these chronically ill patients as though it is all in their head. But if you can look past that false narrative, it is still a very eye-opening documentary)