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Florida Church preaches pro-LGBT message to counter vandalism

After a Florida church’s roadside sign was vandalised with the words ‘gay pastor’, the church decided to set it up with LGBT images. The church spray-painted love signs around the message, along with the words ‘love always wins’. Full story on Advocate.

Brett Kavannagh accused of sexual assault

Brett Kavannagh, the Supreme Court Nominee that was to replace Justice Anthony Kennedy, has been accused of sexual assault. Dr. Christine Blassey Ford, who said that the encounter “changed her life”, has brought into contention whether he will be appointed. Kavannagh was thought to be a risk to the pro-gay rights legislation passed by Kennedy, but due to these recent claims, the likelihood of his appointment dropped. However, in a recent 11-10 vote, his appointment has been approved. Full Story on BBC.co.uk

Same-sex marriage Rejected by African Bishops

Senior African Methodists debated their official stance on homosexuality in September at a conference in Sierra Leone, only to reject acceptance. In a statement, they said: “We reaffirm our positions as traditionalists and view marriage as union between Man and Woman as clearly defined in Scripture. We remain faithfully committed to our consecration vows as Bishops of the Church to maintain the unity of the church.” Full story on One News Now

Romania to hold referendum over Family definition

Romania is to hold a referendum to either back or strike down a proposal to define families being defined strictly by the inclusion of a union between a man and a woman. This doesn’t only affect families including gay couples, but also families with single parents. Full story on Politico

First gay marriage in the Royal Family

Lord Ivar Mountbatten, 53, and the great-great-great grandson of Queen Victoria, has married his long-term partner James Coyle. The couple married in Devon at Lord Ivar’s deer park mansion, Bridwell Park, this month. Theirs is the first same-sex marriage in the British Royal Family. Full story on W Magazine

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The russet reds, golden ombres and twinkling frost-covered fronds are some of our favourite Autumnal jewels; but put the soft tint of the season’s sun into the mix, falling on a newly wed couple and you’ve got a gift of a romantic shot. Need photographic inspiration? You’ve got it: Here are 20 of our favourite same-sex wedding photos full of Autumnal amour.

Sunkissed

The Autumn’s natural sunlight gives this image of Katie and Rachelle an almost ethereal beauty.

Photographer: Dreaming Tree Studios

Fabled Forest

Contrasting shapes and colours of Peyton, Oliver and their friends against the tall pines, shedding their rusty needles.

Photographer: Mikkel Paige

Autumn Days

Christine and Julie have embraced the rustic colours of Autumn perfectly.

Photographer: M&M Photos

The Rainbow

One of those rare moments – a rainbow in a dusky, autumn sky for Sundeep and Matt.

Photographer: Paul Rodgers

Sunset Silhouette

Georgia and Daisy’s engagement silhouette in a stunning Autumn sunset.

Photographer: Ross Willsher Photography

Riverside

Shaz and Ondrej share a giggle as the leaves turn colours by the Thames at their Petersham Hotel wedding in Richmond.

Photographer: Tell Your Story

golden light

Framed in a golden light, Allie and Danya rub noses in NYC

Photographer: Mikkel Paige

vineyard valleys

Matt and Greg walk hand in hand through King Family’s Vineyards towards the Autumn landscape of a Charlotteville forest.

Photographer:  Aaron Watson Photography

Twilight Hour

Autumn twilight adds another level of romance to this shot of Neil and Russell

Photographer: Ayesha Photography

Autumn Reflection

Greg and William reflect their love by the lake in Tenny Park, Madison

Photographer: Queens & Hearts

Joy

Ben and Stephen with a shower of golden leaf confetti.

Photographer: Guy Collier Wedding Photography

Magic Carpet

A golden carpet of leaves becomes Nik and Guj’s magical wedding carpet.

Photographer: Jamie Bott Wedding Photography

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If you’re thinking about an American destination wedding, you’re going to need some insights from the experts. Wedding planning aficionado, Jason Mitchell Khan has insider knowledge of the best wedding venues in America, and although he is partial to his favourites, it’s these five incredible venues that truly get him excited. 

The Skylark, NYC

A slick New York cocktail lounge with a jaw-dropping view. theskylarknyc.com

The Angel Orensanz, NYC

Built in 1849, this Gothic Revival synagogue  in theLower East Side of Manhattan is a show-stopping venue.  orensanzevents.com

Cedar Lakes Estates, NY

If you’re looking for peace and tranquility, mountains and lakes, this exquisitely located New York wedding venue is perfect. cedarlakesestate.com

Frederick Loewe Estate, Palm Springs

A private estate with amazing views over Palm Springs and the most luxurious of spaces; the Frederick Loewe Estate is ideal for intimate weddings.

Smog Shoppe, Los Angeles

One-hundred percent solar-powered, Smog Shoppe features vertical gardens, vintage furnishings and 6,500 square foot of private event space. marvimon.com/smog-shoppe

About Jason

Jason Mitchell Khan is well known within the wedding industry for good reason. He has worked for many big names including Soho House New York, where he was the Events and Banquets Manager, and Shiraz Events, where he headed up wedding planning and co-ordination. He now not only runs Jason Mitchell Kahn and Co, but is the in-house expert for Men’s Vows magazine. He has a background in playwriting and uses this in his wedding planning approach to ensure each couple’s story shines through. Discover more at jasonmitchellkahn.com

Discover Jason’s top tips for planning a destination wedding in America

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It’s often a good idea to pick a theme for your wedding;  not only can it change the whole dynamic of your wedding, but it can make it easier to plan because you have a clear brief to work towards.  US-based wedding planner, Jason Mitchell Kahn, tells us what the biggest wedding themes in America are right now…

1. Vineyards

“The farm-to-table craze is not limited to food! So many wine-loving couples are gravitating towards vineyards for their sweeping landscapes and in-house varietals.”

Image Regale Winery, California

2. Gatsby Chic

“This time period is perfect for grooms or brides who want to wear a white dinner jacket while all other guests are in black-tie. It’s also perfect for glitter and glam.”
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Image: by Ruff Media, Kaycee and Kim’s wedding, San Diego

3. Cocktail Style

“I am working with so many couples who hate the formality of a sit-down dinner or the stress of seating assignments. This format is ideal for couples who want a more relaxed approach to food service.”

Image: 21 Club, New York

4. Rooftops

“For city folks who want a bit of nature, nothing is better suited to enjoy the outdoors while keeping your event private. As an added bonus, you don’t have to pay a thing for a city skyline to be the background of your photos.”

Image: Skylark NYC, New York

5. Barns

“Nothing transports a city crowd more than a weekend in the country with mountains, mason jars and limited mobile reception.”

Image: Sylvanside Farm Barn, Virginia

About Jason

Jason Mitchell Khan is well known within the wedding industry for good reason. He has worked for many big names including Soho House New York, where he was the Events and Banquets Manager, and Shiraz Events, where he headed up wedding planning and co-ordination. He now not only runs Jason Mitchell Kahn and Co, but is the in-house expert for Men’s Vows magazine. He has a background in playwriting and uses this in his wedding planning approach to ensure each couple’s story shines through. Discover more at jasonmitchellkahn.com

View Jason’s tips for planning a destination wedding in America and his favourite USA Destination Wedding Venues.

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Want to marry in a country where mountains frame majestic glaciers and epic green forests are freckled with crystalline lakes? Then head North to Scandinavia, one of the most progressive and broadminded places on Earth and use our guide to help you choose the best place for your destination wedding in Scandinavia.

Denmark

Home to Hamlet, Hans Christian Andersen and a bustling LGBT community, Demark is a land of fairytales and palaces, and has an enviably laid-back atmosphere; it is also frequently ranked as the happiest nation on Earth and has become a popular wedding destination for couples seeking intimate, stripped back weddings. Choose from culturally diverse cities like Copenhagen and Aarhus, or somewhere closer to nature, such as Ærø, one of Demark’s 406 islands.

Sweden

Step into a country full of contrasts: from winding cobbled streets and awesome contemporary design (including the famous Ice Hotel which, yes, does host weddings) to mesmerising winter wonderlands bedecked with icicles and snow, and lush green fields, pine forests and the Stockholm archipelago of 30,000 islands, you can make memories in every corner and have wedding photos you’ll cherish forever.

Finland

Imagine getting married beneath the Northern Lights, sleeping in a glass igloo and or cruising around Finland’s archipelago – the largest in the world. You can meet the big man himself, Father Christmas, ride on a sleigh pulled by reindeer or drive your own huskie-pulled sled. Because Finland is one of Scandinavia’s best kept secrets, a place like no other where seeing really is believing.

Iceland

The stunning natural beauty of Iceland is something to behold. Waterfalls, hot springs and epic landscapes await, along with sleepy volcanoes, mountains and lava fields. Split into eight geographical regions, you’ll also find forests and farmlands, fjords and geothermal wonders. It is also touted as being one of Europe’s most dynamic gastronomic destinations. And if all that isn’t enough, it’s also the birthplace of Bjork.

Norway

More progressive than many countries Norway has not only legalised gay marriage, it’s been sanctioned by its Church. Marry in an architecturally immaculate building in Oslo or travel to one of its breathtaking mountain ranges, Viking fjords, or beaches and say your vows with a view to remember. If you’re lucky, you might even get to see the Northern Lights.

Image Sources

Denmark:
Two grooms via Gay Marriage In Denmark
Wedding table via Ceci New York on Pinterest
Valdemars Slot, Svendborg, via Classic Wedding Location
Venue via Julie Sorup on Pinterest

Sweden

Northern Lights outside Ice Hotel
Couple in Ice Hotel via Out of Office
Two Grooms via David Delval Photography NEED PERMISSION
Venue via Pinterest

Finland
Ice Church via the Travel Bee
Huskies via Husky Co
Kakslauttanen Igloo Hotel
Rake Hall, Klausk Hotel

Iceland
Two Grooms via Wedding Iceland on Twitter
Church at Hotel Budir
Horses via Inspired by Iceland
Rock arch via Iceland Wedding Planner

Norway
Colourful houses, Bergen via Pssmidi Pål S. Schaathun on Wikimedia Commons
Venue via Eventum.no on Pinterest
Seascape by Ximonic (Simo Räsänen) via  Wikimedia Commons
Two grooms via Jon Kitchen on Pinterest

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There’s nowhere in the world quite like the United States. Mountains, deserts, snow-dappled forests, sunny beaches – it really does have it all. And with the language barrier posing no problems, it’s no surprise that it’s such a popular choice for a destination wedding. American wedding planner Jason Mitchell Kahn, shares his advice on how to plan a wedding in the US of A.

“This country is diverse in so many ways, so the options are truly unlimited for any couple wanting to wed here. You can marry in classic ballrooms, historic churches, on city rooftops, desert estates, and even on top of a mountain.

“The cost, of course, varies greatly depending on location; and with the Supreme Court ruling in 2015, the rights of same-sex couples seeking marriage became legal in every state.”

Jason, who is predominantly based in New York, has recently started living part-time in California. “Both are phenomenal places for the best of the best in terms of cutting-edge catering, top-notch service and brand new venues opening all the time.”

Who to Hire
“Being knowledgeable about variables like individual State labour laws can save money and stress.”
It’s always tempting to hire a wedding planner from the country you live in, but unless they have experienced planners in the US, will they really have the contacts and inside knowledge a US wedding planner has? It’s unlikely.

“There is tremendous value to the relationships we develop with local vendors” Jason says “in addition to the knowledge we have about the specific region of the wedding. From individual State labour laws to how public transportation is affected on the weekends, being knowledgeable about variables like these that can really affect a wedding and can save money and stress.”

Is America Welcoming?

America has, like any other country, far more conservative areas which are less accepting of same-sex marriage than others – and you can’t always categorise by State.“Technically they all are supposed to be accepting in regards to the legality of marriage” says Jason “but sadly we see discrimination in pockets all over the country. It’s difficult to qualify this on the State level.

“While New York City and the surrounding areas are extremely liberal and accepting, you can visit a more rural part of the state and witness extreme homophobia. Similarly a State like Texas is known as a very conservative one, but cities like Austin and Houston have large gay and gay-friendly populations.”

Where to Marry

Of course, America is incredibly diverse as to what you can do with a wedding, but what area is the most, at least in terms of wedding types? “In my view, California has the most diversity as to the types of places” says Jason “and the ability to use most of the them year round, but it’s also one of our largest States.”

The costs

What you spend on your destination wedding in the US depends on your venue and what you want to include in your wedding and reception detailing.

“My job as a wedding planner is to learn each couple’s priorities” Jason says “and it’s what I would encourage anyone getting married to do. For some it’s the food, others the music, venue or date. I’m currently working with a furniture-obsessed groom, so for him it’s having designer chairs.

“A couple needs to assess what’s most important to them. When it comes to decor, I often think it’s better to prioritise lighting over flowers, as it has a bigger impact. I think stationery is an easy place to save, as other than the couple getting married and maybe their parents, most guests dispose of their invitation and menus.”

Which State you marry in, can also affect your budget.

“This depends more on the city, but I’d say New York, California, Massachusetts, Hawaii, Texas and Colorado are the States with some of the most expensive events; but they all have very cost-effective areas, too.

“States that more commonly have less expensive weddings are Alabama, Arkansas, Mississippi and West Virginia.”

View the Top 5 Wedding Themes in America About Jason

Jason Mitchell Khan is well known within the wedding industry for good reason. He has worked for many big names including Soho House New York, where he was the Events and Banquets Manager, and Shiraz Events, where he headed up wedding planning and co-ordination. He now not only runs Jason Mitchell Kahn and Co, but is the in-house expert for Men’s Vows magazine. He has a background in playwriting and uses this in his wedding planning approach to ensure each couple’s story shines through. Discover more at jasonmitchellkahn.com

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Snow-capped mountains, postcard perfect beaches and historic cities filled with art and sculpture from some of the world’s greatest artists, Spain-based wedding planner Natalia Oritz, shares her favourite Spanish destination wedding venues.

Beach Weddings Venues in Spain

Spain has incredible white sandy beaches, and the beautiful blue sea provides a gorgeous backdrop for your wedding photographs.

1. Boo Restaurant & Beach Club is an exclusive restaurant located on the beach of Nova Mar Bella, in Barcelona, Catalonia.

2. Restaurant next to the beach in Arenys de Mar in Barcelona, and a delicious seafood banquet in the restaurant next to the beach.

3. Miramar la Ribera located on the shore of the Mar Menor and with a view of the sea. It has capacity for 200 diners.

Mountain Weddings Venues in Spain

If you are seeking a Spanish wedding venue with spectacular views with unforgettable surroundings, try these.

1. Finca Comassema estate is an exclusive venue in the beautiful Sierra de Tramuntana in Mallorca, with exclusive views of the valley and a capacity for 400 people.

2. Hotel Consolación –  located in one of the most beautiful and undiscovered regions of Spain; the Matarraña.

3. La Baronia – Surrounded by woods and nature, La Baronia enjoys excellent views over the village of Sant Feliu de Codina and the Vallès Oriental.

Castle Weddings Venues in Spain

Feel like royalty surrounded by epic ancient architecture in a country that loves to party: marry in a Spanish castillo.

1. Palace of Aldovea – is a luxurious XVIII century palace just 25 km from the Madrid, in Finca Aldovea de San Fernando de Henares.

2. Castle of Vinelas was designed to be a fortress palace, built in the XVII century and belonged at different times to Spanish monarchs and aristocrats.

3. Spectacular XIII century Catalan house has a capacity of up to 200 guests and has accommodation for 26 people.

Villa Weddings Venues in Spain

Perfect for more intimate, personal weddings, Spanish villas can be one of the more affordable destination wedding options that still offer plenty of room and some stunning views.

1. Mas Torroella is an exclusive Catalan estate from the XIV century, renovated with the greatest luxury and preserving its original charm to celebrate unforgettable events.

2. Casa del Mar, a paradise being built originally in the fourteenth century as a rural farmhouse.

3. Casa Manuel is a typical house on the island of Formentera, located in the countryside, with capacity for 14 people.

About Natalia

Natalia has been planning weddings in Spain for eight years. Born in Russia, she moved to Spain in 2005 and has given magazine interviews all over the world, and was a guest speaker at an international wedding conference Italy’s Lake Como in 2016. Discover how she can help you plan youra destination wedding in Spain by getting in touch with her direct at nataliaortizevents.com

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Spain is a great place to get married. With its balmy weather, its culinary richness, its amazing variety of wedding venues and landscapes, it’s difficult to go wrong. Even better, it has a thriving and embracing LGBT community. Wedding planner Natalia Oritz, gives us the lowdown on planning a destination wedding in Spain.

Local knowledge

When planning a destination wedding, there’s always the temptation to hire an English wedding planner, for ease more than anything else – it cuts out the long-distance Skype calls and instead allows you to meet face-to-face. But, as Natalia explains, it’s not always a good idea because they lack the local knowledge of an on-the-ground planner:

“Hiring an experienced wedding planner who lives and works in the country you want to marry is important. They will have so much more local knowledge than a planner based in a different country. They’ll know the best vendors, the best venues, how to negotiate local deals and how to get you the most for your money.”

They will also know which regions are more accepting of LGBT couples than others, which is crucial when you’re planning a gay destination wedding.

“In Spain, Barcelona and Madrid are probably the two most LGBT welcoming cities. Madrid has one of the largest Pride parades in Europe.”

Costs and Logistics

Transportation can be expensive in Spain, and Natalia suggests trying to save on costs by hosting your wedding and reception at the same venue. “Hotels, castles and estates are good options for this,” she explains. “They often offer all-inclusive wedding packages that factor in everything you need for your big day.”

Know The Seasons

Summer (June – August) is always the most popular season for wedding, but for some couples and their guests, the hot Spanish climate can be too much. Consider whether you’d rather marry in the heat, the warm or the cold. Spring (mid March-May) in Spain tends to be warm, and nights cool; Autumn (September-November) is cooler with a chance of rain; and Winter (December – mid March) can be cold and dry unless you choose the Canary Islands, which remain warm.

Choosing Your Location

Spain’s landscapes are vast and varied. “If you want to play on a winter theme, the North of Spain has beautiful mountains which are often covered in snow during the winter. And in summer, you have the pick of the bunch – beaches, countryside, cities, you just need to find your favourite!
“Couples often choose a city wedding because they are easier for guests to access; those planning a destination wedding in Spain often go for locations that are less than an hour from an airport. But a city venue can limit your space – if you want something with more space to roam, head to a Spanish castle or villa in the country.”

Spanish Styling

According to Natalia, the hottest wedding trends in Spain are:

  1. Watercolour wedding invitations
  2. Natural headpieces, shoes and colourful veils for brides
  3. Outdoor ceremonies and banquets

View Natalia’s selection of the best wedding venues in Spain for LGBT+ couples.

About Natalia

Natalia has been planning weddings in Spain for eight years. Born in Russia, she moved to Spain in 2005 and has given magazine interviews all over the world, and was a guest speaker at an international wedding conference Italy’s Lake Como in 2016. Discover how she can help you plan youra destination wedding in Spain by getting in touch with her direct at nataliaortizevents.com

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Dry mouth, sweaty palms, butterflies in your stomach; not the typical romantic reactions you would associate with a wedding. But the thought of standing up to speak in front of a large audience – especially one that consists of the people who know and love you the most in the world – is a terrifying prospect for the majority of us. Alys Metcalf, specialist coach at Great Speech Writing, shares her seven top tips for overcoming nerves before giving your wedding speech…

1. Be prepared
Take a leaf out of the Scout’s book for this one: a week or so before your speech, think through all the possibilities of what could go awry and find solutions to prevent the worst. For example, if you’re worried you might forget your words, have a joke up your sleeve ready to get a few laughs and give you time to get back on track. By taking the element of chance away, you’ll feel more confident from the get go.

2. Practise
This cannot be overemphasised: practise really does make perfect. Read your speech aloud several times (perhaps even in front of a friend who can give you some pointers) so that you’re familiar with the material. If you feel secure with what you’re saying, the words will flow more naturally and you’ll be far less nervous on the day.

3. Visualise the speech
Positive visualisations can help you bring the speech of your dreams into reality. Have a clear picture in your mind of how you want to deliver your speech. What hand gestures are you using? How often are you pausing? How do you feel when you’ve finished the speech? Imagine yourself being confident and you’ll slowly start to feel it too.

4. Drink lots (of water!)
Drinking water before you get up to speak will ensure you don’t get a dry throat. Have a glass of water nearby to you during the speech, in case you need to take a sip. At all costs, do not get drunk beforehand! It may feel like the easy way to get through it, but it won’t seem so sensible afterwards.

5. Focus on your breathing
While you’re readying yourself to speak, take a few deep breaths (in and out, in and out). Focus on being in control of your breathing; seeming out of breath during your speech will immediately signal to the audience that you’re nervous. Instead, breathing steadily will make you appear completely confident and you’ll be able to enjoy the speech much more.

6. Manage the shakes
Paste your speech onto card and rest it somewhere you can see it. Holding a shaky piece of paper will put you off and you’ll spend more time worrying about whether the audience can see your shaky hands than you will focusing on delivering a brilliant speech.

7. Connect with your audience
The common advice when it comes to public speaking nerves is to picture your audience naked. Instead, keep reminding yourself that the audience are on your side. They don’t want to see you fail, they are there to celebrate the happiest day of your life. Make eye contact with them and smile. You’ll instantly feel more relaxed when you see them smiling back at you.

Need help

Great Speech Writing offer one-to-one coaching sessions to ensure that you’re at the very top of your game when it comes to delivering your wedding speech. If you would like to book a coaching session with Alys, visit the Great Speech Writing website or call their office on 020 8245 8999.

Image Credit: Emir Hasham Photography

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Dry mouth, sweaty palms, butterflies in your stomach; not the typical romantic reactions you would associate with a wedding. But the thought of standing up to speak in front of a large audience – especially one that consists of the people who know and love you the most in the world – is a terrifying prospect for the majority of us. Alys Metcalf, specialist coach at Great Speech Writing, shares her seven top tips for overcoming nerves before giving your wedding speech…

1. Be prepared
Take a leaf out of the Scout’s book for this one: a week or so before your speech, think through all the possibilities of what could go awry and find solutions to prevent the worst. For example, if you’re worried you might forget your words, have a joke up your sleeve ready to get a few laughs and give you time to get back on track. By taking the element of chance away, you’ll feel more confident from the get go.

2. Practise
This cannot be overemphasised: practise really does make perfect. Read your speech aloud several times (perhaps even in front of a friend who can give you some pointers) so that you’re familiar with the material. If you feel secure with what you’re saying, the words will flow more naturally and you’ll be far less nervous on the day.

3. Visualise the speech
Positive visualisations can help you bring the speech of your dreams into reality. Have a clear picture in your mind of how you want to deliver your speech. What hand gestures are you using? How often are you pausing? How do you feel when you’ve finished the speech? Imagine yourself being confident and you’ll slowly start to feel it too.

4. Drink lots (of water!)
Drinking water before you get up to speak will ensure you don’t get a dry throat. Have a glass of water nearby to you during the speech, in case you need to take a sip. At all costs, do not get drunk beforehand! It may feel like the easy way to get through it, but it won’t seem so sensible afterwards.

5. Focus on your breathing
While you’re readying yourself to speak, take a few deep breaths (in and out, in and out). Focus on being in control of your breathing; seeming out of breath during your speech will immediately signal to the audience that you’re nervous. Instead, breathing steadily will make you appear completely confident and you’ll be able to enjoy the speech much more.

6. Manage the shakes
Paste your speech onto card and rest it somewhere you can see it. Holding a shaky piece of paper will put you off and you’ll spend more time worrying about whether the audience can see your shaky hands than you will focusing on delivering a brilliant speech.

7. Connect with your audience
The common advice when it comes to public speaking nerves is to picture your audience naked. Instead, keep reminding yourself that the audience are on your side. They don’t want to see you fail, they are there to celebrate the happiest day of your life. Make eye contact with them and smile. You’ll instantly feel more relaxed when you see them smiling back at you.

Need help

Great Speech Writing offer one-to-one coaching sessions to ensure that you’re at the very top of your game when it comes to delivering your wedding speech. If you would like to book a coaching session with Alys, visit the Great Speech Writing website or call their office on 020 8245 8999.

Image Credit: Emir Hasham Photography

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