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There's always this anticipated rivalry or hostility towards Daughter in-laws from their Mother in-laws. Young girls are already expecting to have a vicious Mother in-law and are supposedly being groomed for war by their mothers, Aunts and already married friends. This is so very common in Nigerian societies. Nollywood did a great job of fueling that fear, every mother in-law is bad, every one of them thought no girl is good enough for their son. Unfortunately, quite a number of those stories are true. 
   Coco was mostly groomed to be a good caring wife. She's a very sensitive, level headed human and is never ready for a fight even with those who offend her. So, naturally she did not anticipate any trouble. Never thought for once what her Mother in-law would be like. She only imagined what her husband would be like. And so, when she met the Mother of her boyfriend who later became her husband, She thought she was cool, funny. She also noticed that they were very close. Naturally that would be a problem for many girls but she knew she could not take the place of a mother in her sons life and she was more than happy to just be his wife and not try to be his Mother.
   When it was time for them to get married, it was his mother who set the ball rolling " so dear when can we meet your people, my son loves you and I know you love him". She actively helped in planning the wedding with the rest of the family. Despite the very different cultural backgrounds of the two families everything went perfectly well. 
    Being a military wife herself she could always relate to what Coco was feeling or going through. Coco could tell her anything. They slept on the same bed, sometimes went grocery shopping together. Coco treated her just the way she would treat her own mother. And she treated her just the way she would treat her own daughter. Anytime they had little issues. Coco reminded herself that she had more annoying fights with her mum anyway. She stuck with her through the pregnancy and birth of their kids, even holding Cocos hands in the labour room, shouting push with the doctors when her husband couldn't make it back home from an important Military course. She was the one who bathed the babies for weeks. Taught Coco so many things about motherhood. 
     More importantly, she never took her sons side whenever he was wrong. She cautioned and scolded him immediately making him promise to behave. Coco and her Mother In-law always planned things behind the young soldiers back. And laughed hysterically whenever the plan worked. Cocos Mother in-law was her Ally. So, contrary to what is the norm in Nigerian marriages and many other places. Not all Mother in-laws are problematic. Coco never once prayed for a good Mother in-law. Maybe God looked down and said this gentle woman does not need any trouble or maybe she was just lucky.
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