Many researchers and theorists tell us that leaders are born. Others believe that leaders are made. I believe we can all become leaders by being consistent in simple things. One thing is certain and that is that leaders ‘know the way go the way and show the way.’ However to get to that point consistency in all things is necessary. Tiny steps.. example, if you wake up at 7 am for school on Monday, don’t decide to lie in on Tuesday until 7 30 am. Be consistent in your morning routine. Interpersonal relationships: Greet others by making eye contact and a genuine smile. Don’t change your habit from one day to the next. Remain consistent. If you are having a bad day do not Allow it to change how you greet others. This is especially important in the workplace. Be poised and visible to others. Others watch your every action and listen to your words and may be inspired by them. Be loyal to the company for which you work and inspire others to work for the interest of the company. Be a family not just work colleagues. We are often told to look for a job which you enjoy doing. What about taking a job and making it a place everyone enjoys working because of you.
Bryanna (not her real name) a young woman of 17, was admitted to the Murfreesboro correctional center dejected, scared and depressed. She joined my Bible Study class, having been encouraged to do so by another inmate. Initially, five other inmates were present but three left to do other assigned chores. Bryanna and one other stayed. As I began my lesson Bryanna started weeping uncontrollably. I tried comforting her but to no avail so I took both her hands in mine and began to pray. She continued weeping. It was a heart -rending sound. She continued to weep even as I ended the prayer. It was as though her crying was peeling away layers of pain that had been buried deep within her heart.
Finally she stopped crying. The first thing she said to me is ‘ I am surprised you held my hands. No one has touched me in quite a while.” I can only imagine the depth of her loneliness. No one hugged her no comforting hand to hold. Then she told me of her life. Married, but divorced, with two young daughters, she lived with her mother. She said her mother’s words for her.. words like you are useless…you can’t do anything right… you will come to no good hurt her vey much. Added to these aberrations she says her mother is very abusive. Bryanna turned to drugs to bury her hurt and as a result her Mother filed for custody of her two daughters and put Bryanna out on the streets. Lost and frightened, she slept in alleys and train stations, stole foodstuff from side-walk Cafes and gas stations , was finally arrested and brought to the correction center. She continued to attend my class and had counseling. Six months later I ran into her at the shopping mall. She was all smiles, ran up to me and gave me a great big hug. Bryanna was back home with her mother who now had a new and positive mindset towards her daughter. Bryanna is a receptionist at a doctor’s office and has regained custody of her two daughters who were with her at the time of our meeting. We must not give up on those who find themselves in dire situations, especially our # Youth. Extend a helping hand, just listen without giving advice, and above all treat them with loving- kindness. Inspire will -power,confidence and hope. For everyone, there is hope. ‘It only takes a Moment to make a Moment.’
We have all heard this age-old cliche which we continue to propagate, but let us pause awhile and see what it really implies. When a boy bullies another, pulls down a girl’s skirt or even drinks from the milk carton in the refrigerator, is it ok? Boys will be boys. Yes? When he has a shower and leaves his clothes and towel on the bathroom floor should it be acceptable because, boys will be boys? Or when he swings the cat by its tail do we keep quiet because boys will be boys? Accepting this rhetoric only allows a boy to stereotype leading to an unconscious bias. It also prevents one from discerning underlying issues which can be harmful to the health of the boy or a danger others. Likewise, it prevents parents or other responsible adults from intervening during harmful situations. Let us as responsible adults not blindly repeat old cliches. Some are useful to know but use caution. Know the context in which they were first used. Which brings to mind the word ‘Tomboy” Is this a girl who is trying to be like a boy, or competes with boys? Perhaps she is one of the more perceptive girls rebelling against gender discrimination……. Food for thought…..,
Prevent Juvenile Delinquency,
Having ministered to #youth at the Juvenile Correction Center and jail in Murfreesboro TN. for 3 years, I learned that our youth are hurting. Many bear emotional scars and are unable to express what they feel. They experience feelings of rejection, inferiority complex,low self-esteem and lack a sense of belonging. This knowledge inspired me to aspire to find a solution to this problem. . My study and research revealed that this problem begins in early childhood, created by the words or actions of parents, guardians, teachers and peers either intentionally or unintentionally.
We can change this.
# It takes only a Moment and a few caring people to change a child’s life and subsequently, the world.
I took back my life after years of giving to and loving others even though it meant not helping myself or loving myself. If we do not love ourselves first, we cannot love others ; if we do not help ourselves first, then how can we help others?
Embrace who you are. The person who God created you to be….Beautiful, Confident, Successful.