Many times the Holiday’s can be a huge struggle for so many of us without our loved ones with us. Understanding what our Loved ones truly want this Holiday Season is for us to keep their Love Alive. Here is my Latest Blog on this subject…Susan
Clearing out your clutter
Clearing out your clutter really has an impact on us not only in what is around us in a physical way, but on an emotional level it gives us from within. Many times, my clients ask me how do they go on without their loved ones??? They don’t know how to be, it’s very sad to see someone in so much pain. It can be very paralyzing to say the least. You feel like your arm has been amputated without the anesthetic, it’s grueling and very real all at once. Once you get past the shock that your loved one is gone then there is the vision of them everywhere in your living space. You don’t want to move anything even where your loved one last put their shoes or tossed their jacket. You want to preserve every object as they left it, because moving it represents a certain disloyalty like you have moved on.
The truth is your loved ones do want you to sort through their belongings, keep what’s precious and give away to others what you no longer need. In truth your loved ones do not want their rooms to be turned into a shrine and for you not to stay stuck or paralyzed permanently. Our loved ones want us to wear their favorite piece of jewelry or their favorite sweat shirt, feeling their everlasting presence but to clear out the clutter and start to make your life more of in the now. It’s not disrespectful to their memory to try to live your best self, to remember all of what was good. I tell my clients in order for the spirit to thrive we have to live our best self because they are always watching and truly with us. When we are falling apart or cannot function their spirit cannot thrive. We owe it to them to remember and cherish and to celebrate their life.
The holidays are coming; so do celebrate their memory being thankful for all they have represented but most of all their love that continues to live on within us, and to continue to celebrate life. Decorate your home and fill it with all of life’s richest blessings because it truly started with our loved ones that have passed. It’s up to us to continue and carry on the traditions of love and life.
There are various reasons how people react to time. For some, as people are facing their end they would give anything to have more time to stay in this world. For others, they understand their end is near, and make their peace.
Time is a funny thing, how people embrace the events that surround them is truly a personal decision. You can have an extraordinary wish to something you want to happen, and it can be the biggest misunderstanding at the same time when it does not happen.
So why exactly is TIME so important???
As I have grown older, time has taught me not to question but to trust. Trust that time truly has its own agenda, and it’s not for us to compete with. So, the next time you question the timing to things, or your patience is running thin in regards to your wishes, your hopes, and dreams, that have not materialized yet… Remember there is a plan, it comes when you are truly ready.
When you begin to lose track of the time, is when time becomes your friend. You will feel the need to explore, to be happy in the moment, and to trust in the universe that it’s all in the timing without wanting and waiting.
The true tragedy is waiting for what you want to happen, and living an unlived life in the process. As the old saying goes… “You are not too old, and it’s not too late”
There are so many people who suffer from anxiety including myself. Yes, I do as well! What I have learned throughout the years is anxiety is real, and it is constant, but what I have learned is when you are doing the best you can then you are doing your part. That’s when you have to allow yourself to give it to a higher power and let the higher power take over, without interruption, which is key.
What is the higher power? When the situation gets bigger than you, you have to trust that God truly has an agenda for each and every one of us, even in times of doubt.
It is with God’s agenda for us, that we learn to have faith. I always say the universe wants to see if we have the ability to trust and have the power to do so, and in letting go is when the universe will take over and provide us with all that is good.
When we do not have faith and trust is when we are creating a huge disruption in letting the higher power from giving us what we need. So when your anxiety gets a little over whelming, remember….. you have the power to change your course of thinking at any time.
What is being tested is not your anxiety, but your ability to trust in the higher power.
Looking back on this year it’s about reflecting and realizing what you have accomplished this year.
For some this has been a year in finding themselves with joy, getting that great job, a new birth in the family or finding love. For other’s it has been a difficult year filled with layoffs of jobs, diagnosed with illness, ending relationships or losing a loved one. What I have come to realize in my life is through a tragedy or a loss, you make a connection from within, to realize what the hidden strength you have had all along.
Tragedy puts everything into perspective and teaches us what truly is important, your spirit is awakened and puts us in a direction to where we are meant to go that earlier we wouldn’t have had the courage to do so.
2016 has been a year of connections, connecting of one’s self and where it will take us, how we apply our losses and turn them into a positive. As the old saying goes….” it’s not what’s given to us but how we handle it”.
As this year ends, for many of us this year is about conditioning us and taking us in the direction to what Is important. What I have come to learn is never taking anything for granted even the simple things, I remind myself every day to be grateful for what I do have.
As 2017 is approaching, for most of us we don’t know what lies ahead but what we do know is live within the moment, love with your heart and that love is truly stronger than hate. Every person that comes into our life is a gift or a lesson, allowing yourself to be open to what comes your way, starting everything with a positive instead of a negative. Knowing your limits and your boundaries and to give yourself a gift of loving thy self.
Wishing all of you an abundance of love, health, happiness and positive thoughts throughout this new year.
The gift of giving is never more appreciated than during the holidays. The feeling of warmth Christmas gives us is so special, it’s a shame that people only feel this once a year. How do we make it last all year long? Our parents and society teach us to go to school, get good grades, specialize in a career, save our money, find a mate, have a family, buy a house and occasionally donate to a charity. But what does it mean to make the most of what we have every day? It’s nice to have a bank account and watch it grow, but there are so many other ways to make the most of what we have each and every day.
I have seen so many people posting on social media that there are people that are alone or don’t have enough to eat, but what have you done personally to make a difference? How do you extend the gift of giving in your life? If there is someone who is alone and can’t get out, have you taken the time to go to them? Have you picked up the phone, or buy a family presents that they cannot afford? Christmas reminds us of these simple acts of kindness, but what about each and every day?
Make Gift of Giving A New Year’s Resolution
As the New Year has approached and resolutions are being made, people are going to start to incorporate these resolutions in their daily lives, but when you incorporate what you DO want, also give up what no longer serves you well.
When you do this it becomes so much easier and so much more positive comes your way, which in turn makes it easier to do the right thing for others as well. When you give in the right direction, the right gifts come back to you on so many levels, and that is how we make use of what we have for all the right reasons.
So the next time you have an idea of how to better this world…GIVE
Wishing all of you abundance of blessings throughout 2016!
The awakening that I speak of comes from my visit Last week at a community pool. As I was waiting in line to go in, I noticed there was a man checking all people’s purses and beach bags like you were at a security checkpoint at the airport. As I observed everything, at that moment for me everything was put into perspective.
Not only was there a baggage check but it was a reality check for me, something so simple and so pure like taking your children to a pool, to swim and play freely now becomes tarnished with suspicion. I am not against what this man was doing given the nature of what is going on with our world, but at the same time it was an awakening for me to see what a world our children now live in. What our world has become, the suspicion, the possible danger, the fear of everyday activities has now become compromised.
Having faith can sometimes be challenging and as I have always had my faith in times of trouble and despair, I find myself clinging onto it even more so.
Meditate as often as you can to ground yourself, go out, get in touch with nature look to the higher power to guide you and to protect you. Keep your loved ones close, take nothing for granted, love and be grateful for life’s simple pleasures, remembering to be grateful saying thank you for being here, and to experience the moment.
The choice is, allowing yourself to become bitter by all what’s going on in the world or we can have faith and pray for direction and strength that we so desperately need.
Trying to make sense of all the lives being lost, and maybe we never will, but the true test is not what is dealt to us, but how we choose to handle it. I have come to realize that love truly conquers all in every situation. The most powerful weapons are not the guns or the explosives or even the prejudice, it’s that love is more powerful than hate.
Embracing the courage to change comes to mind especially at this time of year. I hope everyone enjoyed their summer, and yes, it’s hard to believe we are already into the fall season. From a child I always loved the change in seasons. It has always brought new opportunities for us to embrace another change. Yet, when there is change how do we find our courage and strength to embrace life’s every day challenges?
The one thing I learned long ago is change does not have to be hard. It’s all in how we embrace the courage to change for the challenges the universe puts in our direction. The hard part becomes when the change is difficult and we have no practice in that area in how to handle these circumstances, we panic and go into anxiety mode.
Embrace the Courage to Change
What we need to realize about change, good or bad, is the secret in how to handle it. We need to pay attention and not micro-manage every aspect of the change. There is something to be said for going with the flow, to embrace an openness instead of an uneasiness, which sets the pace for what comes next.
When we try not to control but to listen to our divine messages is when we are being led to the next chapter. Again, the secret is to let it happen. When you do this you will see how much the courage the change actually comes through and your hidden strength starts to take over.
Remember change is necessary for one’s soul growth; when you resist you are not progressing!
Signs from Spirit are all around us as our loved ones send us messages to let us know they have made it to the other side. I had a dear friend who was diagnosed with lung cancer. She was a client who turned into a dear friend. From the day I met Jennifer, she became personal to me. Her spirit, her beauty always transcended beyond words but most important I would come to know her inner strength, and what she had put into others that will be forever etched in my heart.
The month of February has always been a hard month for me because I have experienced a lot of loss. Jennifer fought the hard fight through the end. I had gotten the call from her mother who informed me that Jen was near her end and that she had reached hospice care. Her family made arrangements for Jen to leave the hospital and to be taken home where she could pass away comfortably.
Every day her sweet mother kept me informed on Jen and I always kept her and her family in my prayers. On February 19th I had such a hectic schedule at my office seeing clients. My last client came at 5 o’clock. As I was conducting my session with my client I saw a man stepping forward, a grandfather type. I started to describe this male spirit in detail. My client was so happy she jumped up with excitement and said, “That’s my grandfather! Oh I was hoping he would come through!” I proceeded with relaying the message, then the next spirit came through. This time I saw a woman in a jogging outfit with bright pink jogging shoes and she is running with sheer happiness and such strength.
Pink Gym Shoes a Sign from Spirit
I am only seeing the back of this woman as I described what she was doing to my client. I knew this woman was in her late thirties or early forties. She was letting me know she passed from cancer and she was free. She was happy and she ran fast into the light to let her know she was okay. My client replied, “There is no one that fits that description that I know.” I kept asking, “Is it a friend? Someone perhaps your mother or your family knew?” She answered, “No. I’m sorry I don’t know this person.” I apologized but kept seeing the back of this person. I continued on with her reading which was a beautiful one for her. I said my goodbyes, picked up my belongings and headed to my car.
I had played back my voicemails and a dear friend had left a message stating that Jennifer had passed. I started to cry, and all of a sudden Jen appeared to me and said, “It took you long enough! It was me! I tried to show you I made it to the other side. I remember when you said, when you see the light run to it, and I did. I am whole again and I can run again.” Jennifer was a marathon runner and when she got sick she no longer could run. The reading I was giving for my client turned out to be a gift for me; divine spirit is priceless. What Jennifer gave me was truly the peace and validation and the gift I will always be grateful for.
When I went to her wake I was greeted by her two beautiful daughters who truly take after their mother. I told them about their mother coming through and told them what she said about the pink gym shoes. They smiled and were overjoyed. They told me they had their mom dressed in a jogging suit and she was wearing pink gym shoes in the casket. Wow!
Jen is not here in a physical sense but her spirit lives on and is always here looking after all of us. We must always remember when our loved ones pass they do show us signs. It can be in dreams, we can hear a favorite song, a smell, find feathers or find coins. These signs come when we need or miss them the most so tune into the signs from Spirit that are all around you; they are there. I am so grateful for the gift that has been bestowed on me and will be eternally grateful to be the messenger each and every day. I learn every day through my clients and the divine spirit. I take nothing for granted and I am grateful for everything.
Happiness is a question that comes into focus as the Holidays draw near. As I look around and think back to my own obstacles, I have come to realize that life truly is a choice of how we live it.
You can choose how you want to feel, you can choose to be happy, but you can also choose to be honest with yourself. I know sometimes you can say it’s easier said than done, but how you deal with emotions is up to you. What I have come to realize myself is regrets and worrying are really such a waste of time and good energy.
Focus on Happiness, Not Regrets
There are so many people I have encountered while they are on their death bed and have realized if only there was more time. They came to the realization they had the power and the choice the whole time.
Don’t let years go by and then realize what you didn’t allow yourself, because in truth sometimes when we realize what and how we should have approached things, it is too late.
Losing a loved one comes as a great loss, but in truth what our loved ones really want for us is happiness and to create a grand life for ourselves. They want us to be the best person we can possibly be, which in turn brings happiness and peace to their spirit which allows their soul to have peace and self-growth as well. So this holiday turn your lost faith into renewed hope!
Wishing you all many blessings for a wonderful, connected, and spiritual Holiday Season & New Year
Have you filled your life with givers or takers? Throughout my life I’ve always believed in treating people with kindness and support in their time of need, and all around lending a helping hand unconditionally. But as time goes by, I’ve often noticed and wondered why is it so hard for people to do the same in return? To be there for you? Support you? Wish you well unconditionally?
Why is it so hard for some people to go out of their way for others especially when people have gone out of their way time and time again for them? My husband always says, “Shake the dead leaves off the tree.” He couldn’t be more right. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize it’s more than people who are there for you vs. people who are not.
Givers or Takers? Creating Balance in Relationships
Life is about balance and everything we do should incorporate balance. That goes for all relationships, whether it’s a spouse, children, brother, sister, friend, mother, father or boss.
It’s important to evaluate whether our relationships are with givers or takers. Whatever we put into a relationship we need to be taking away just as much. If we don’t, the relationship will falter. It may take two months, or twenty years. But if the relationship does not incorporate true balance, the relationship in time will fail causing the person who is always giving unconditionally to come up emotionally bankrupt.
So keep in mind when someone who has always been there for you, to show them the same gesture in return.
So, are you a giver or a taker? When you question the balance of the relationship you need to ask yourself, “Is this the relationship you want to continue? To put forth the effort?” Sometimes the best thing you can do is to disconnect from the people who do not put forth the effort in return. When you shrug off the takers is when good actually comes through to you unconditionally. The real balance then starts to emerge.
I dedicate this article to my husband, a man who for me, has taught me so much in the way of true balance. He has offered respect for my happiness and has taught me mutual kindness, support and always well wishes. I continue to show him the same mutual respect and kindness. This is truly what it’s all about.