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Relationship RX - 10 Habits to Give Up. Habit 5:Being Plugged Into Your Phone - YouTube

If you’re plugged into your phone and it is creating a divide between you and your partner, it is a habit you need to break. Watch the video for three tips on how to begin the process of limiting the disruption phone use is causing in your relationship.
 
And be sure to subscribe to our YouTube Channel for the entire series. Remember you can always call me for additional support in reaching these habit changing goals (239) 821-0066.

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Relationship RX - 10 Habits to Give Up. Habit 4: Digging Up the Past - YouTube

When you’re talking to your partner and you bring up something they did or said in the past that hurt you, it is called digging up the past. It is okay to bring these things up, but when you do it too often or for too long after the event it becomes unhealthy. Watch the video to learn more about how to break this habit.
 
And be sure to subscribe to our YouTube Channel for the entire series. Remember you can always call me for additional support in reaching these habit changing goals (239) 821-0066.

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Relationship RX - 10 Habits to Give Up. Habit 3: Making Your Partner Wrong - YouTube

 
Making your partner wrong is a relationship habit that can cause a great deal of stress. It is often a battle about who is right, and it can be about things that have no right or wrong answer. This is a disconnecting behavior where you are actually pushing the one you love away. It drains our energy and leads to a lot of resentment in relationships.
 
Make a conscious decision to give this habit up to relieve relationship stress. Watch the four-step exercise above to help you get there.
 
And be sure to subscribe to our YouTube Channel for the entire series. Remember you can always call me for additional support in reaching these habit changing goals (239) 821-0066.

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The great philosopher Marcu Aurelius said, “You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” His point was that focusing on things you cannot control causes you great suffering. So here are the things you should focus on:
 

  • The way you perceive the world.
  • The way you treat others.
  • How you act.

 
Make these choices each day, with each interaction and relieve yourself of a great deal of stress.
 
Read the original story at Pick the Brain.

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Relationship RX Habit 2: People Pleasing - YouTube

People pleasing is a common habit in relationships. It can add internal stress and stress to your relationship in the form of resentment.
 
Two steps for eliminating this habit:

  • Find the belief you have about people pleasing that is causing you to have those behaviors. “I can’t let anyone down, I can’t disappoint someone.” And replace that belief with the truth. “I am doing the best I can and it is okay to take care of me some of the time.”
  • Pick the behavior you want to have, such as saying “yes” to yourself sometimes.
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    Watch the video for the four tips to creating a game plan for success in changing your people pleasing habits. And be sure to subscribe to our YouTube Channel for the entire series.
    Remember you can always call me for additional support in reaching these habit changing goals (239) 821-0066.
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Resilience requires you to recharge so that you can endure.
 
There is a correlation between lack of recovery and health and safety problems. Whether your sleep is disrupted by thoughts of work, or you are constantly watching your phone, the continuous cognitive arousal is counterproductive to the increased productivity you think you’re accomplishing.
 
Rest is not the same as recovery.
 
Resting in bed while thinking about work leaves you exhausted still.
 
Start by strategically stopping. Don’t have lunch at your desk. Spend time out of the office with friends, not talking or thinking about work. Use all of your paid time off. And find times where recovery can be accomplished (such as travel time on a plane).
 
Read the original story here.

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Relationship RX - 10 Habits To Give Up. Habit 1: Mind Reading - YouTube

Mind reading is a common habit in relationships. It adds stress to your relationship and internally. Not only that, it gets you less of what you want in the relationship because you’re not saying what you want.
 
Two steps for eliminating this habit: 1. Let go of the internal belief that your partner should know what you want. 2. Consciously make a decision to change the behavior so you can begin communicating what you want.

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Sometimes, achieving a new goal, gaining a new skill, or creating a new habit can be overwhelming. Where do you start? How do you fit it into your busy day?
 
Try using micro-habits to help you get started. A micro-habit is just a baby step in the direction of your goal.
 
Micro-habits work because they take that monumental accomplishment or new habit and break it down into bite-sized chunks that you can’t make excuses for not doing. For example, if your goal is to get control of your stress at work, a first step may be to take three slow, deep, focused breaths every day when you first sit down at your desk and before you fire up the computer. By working the new habit into a current routine (ie: sitting at your desk) you are reminded of the habit, making the task easy to remember and develop into a new habit.
 
The tactic works for learning a new skill, breaking an old habit, or improving any area of your life. What will you use micro-habits to accomplish?
 
For more on how to use micro-habits to accomplish your professional and personal goals, check out the original story at CNBC.

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Are you struggling with uncertainty about something in your life that’s out of your control? Does your mind get stuck in the trap of worry…waiting on a verdict, a medical diagnosis, a big sale, someone’s behavior, an upcoming conversation, etc? I have found the following two-step strategy to be most helpful:

1. Choose Acceptance: Intentionally, choose to stop resisting/stressing/obsessing about what’s out of your control and accept the facts as they are, even if they are not what you want. It’s a choice.

For many people, it becomes a habit to obsess and stress. And although habits are hard to change, we can change most any habit. Resisting may lead to procrastination, physical symptoms, internal conflict, external conflict, negativity, and anxiety all of which are unhelpful. Don’t resist the truth of the way things are, especially when you can’t change those things.

2. Refocus: Choose to refocus on what is in your control. Focus on what you are grateful for and things you CAN do in the face of the uncertainty. Refocusing can be a challenge, but stressing/obsessing over something you cannot do anything about is worse in the long run.

Did you know? Our brains naturally WANT certainty. We want to know what will happen next as part of our basic instinctual survival skills. We naturally seek a solution to problems. So it can feel unnatural and even wrong to choose to accept uncertainty. But it is not. Choosing to break out of the old way (obsessing) will feel uncomfortable, but is worth the effort for changing your habitual reaction to life events.

Contact me today if you need further help in managing uncertainty or managing the stress of an ever-changing life.

Email me today at suemcdonaldms@gmail.com or call me directly at 239-821-0066

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Sue offers coaching that is especially relevant to women and families going through big transitions and life changes. In her interview with Family First Legal Group, she discusses hot issues such as single parenting, divorce, relationship difficulties, co-parenting and other stressful areas in life where her coaching can help identify actionable behavior changes to improve happiness and help you reach your goals.
 

Listen to the Interview here:

http://suemcdonaldlifecoach.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Sue-McDonald-Interview-2016.12.21-14.42.16.mp3
 
Resources:

Family First Newsletter Featuring Sue McDonald

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