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I love clothes that inspire the inner stylist in me, you know the piece you hold up and see lots of possibilities for styling.  This summer, I’ve been loving dresses with buttons up the front since they can be worn several ways.  They can be worn as dresses, dusters, as “pants dresses” and with shorts. This type of sun dress can be worn to lunch, over a swim suit or for a casual date night.  Wearing “pants dresses” for casual meetings and lunches with friends is a great way to get extra mileage from your button up sun dresses.

Last weekend, we spent the evening at the beach and I challenged myself to wear my  dress several ways.  My favorite was with the shorts.

Another look I’ve been loving is little lace shrugs.  The other day, I wore my shrug over a maxi dress for a little extra cover, then when we went to the beach I wore it with my jean shorts.  If you are concerned about your arms, shrugs are a great way to go, and little lace ones are on trend this year, especially worn with cute braletts or longline swim tops underneath.  I love them since they allow you to wear those cute sleeveless tops and be a bit demure at the same time.  I think every girl no matter hear age, needs a good shrug.

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I’d like to introduce Chrissy from Granola and Grace If you are looking for beautiful style inspiration, with a slightly trendy twist, Chrissy is the perfect blogger to turn to. I love the way she integrates trends into her casual yet classic wardrobe. The photos are amazing; a feast for one’s eyes—definitely a beautiful blog to enjoy.

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Confession: I was once considered “obese”

After Brooke was born, I gained 50 pounds. Yes, 50. About nine months after her birth, after I’d lost my “pregnancy weight”. Most people thought I was pregnant again. I wasn’t. My doctor simply stated, “You are obese, and if you don’t go on a diet to loose this weight your body will not be able to support the extra weight.” The news was followed by a half hearted, “there’s this French diet I heard about…”. After, I sat in my car, stunned. I’d never been “over weight” let alone “obese” in my life. It was true, however, that I’d suddenly gained weight, and felt completely terrible and helpless, both physically and emotionally.

Panic Set In:

I drove to the book store and loaded up on diet plan books, cook books, exercise videos and magazines all of which served to overwhelm and confuse me. I needed a strait forward plan, something actionable and direct. After many months of trying all sorts of diets that didn’t work, I chose Weight Watchers. Over 9 months or so, I lost 25 pounds, and was generally pleased with the results, but didn’t particularly feel better health wise. I was still experiencing bloating, and lethargy because I was able to eat “anything” which included foods I was highly sensitive to, like processed foods, pasta, breads and sweets. Ultimately, I plateaued still needing to loose 20 lbs. I was always jockeying my points instead of making the lifestyle changes I really needed to loose weight long term.

I Restarted My Whole Life with One Affirmation:

Those of you who have read my “weight loss” posts before know that things turned around when I hit “rock bottom” at that Weight Watchers plateau point and became determined to get healthy and loose the last of my “extra” weight. Louise Hay, queen of affirmations and self help suggested “mirror work”.  Standing in front of the mirror, (naked) and saying “I love you” to yourself. The first time I did it, I broke into tears. I did it again and again until I could really feel it and believe it. I lost the 20 extra pounds, and my whole life changed. I approached my life, in it’s entirety from a place of love, rather than a battle of self judgement and hate.

11 Years and Counting; Not a Diet, a Lifestyle:

I decided I needed more help, so I went to a doctor who specialized in weight loss, had blood work done. (Why is getting blood work done important? I had an under active thyroid and adrenal issues I didn’t know about (this is why I plateaued on Weight Watchers. I could eat sugars and starches that fit the point system but converted to sugars in my body causing the health problems I was experiencing). My thyroid and hormonal issues affect how my body reacts to diets in general, as well as sugars and foods that convert readily to sugars such as simple carbs).  This information helped my doctor select a low carb eating plan for me. I embarked on not on a diet, but on a new lifestyle. On the low carb diet, I eat lean meats, vegetables and fruits low on the glycemic index. I don’t eat foods containing sugar, nor foods that convert to sugars (such as starchy foods certain fruits and vegetables and “white foods such as breads and pasta), which, when digested turn in to sugars. A typical meal  for me  includes two units of protein (4-6 ounces total), one unit of “healthy fat” and one unit of low glycemic fruits and/or vegetables. Others need different ratios of proteins and fats to loose weight and remain satiated.

I stick to the foods of the seasons, enjoying organic fruits and vegetables as they come into season, and building my recipes and meal plans around foods I look forward to enjoying each season. On this type of diet, I feel energized, and satiated. It’s sustainable for me because I love the foods I am eating and know they are good for me. I see the evidence both in the mirror and in how I feel.

I eat small portions, three to four small meals per day, usually ending eating by 4:30 in the afternoon.

Visualization On Steroids:

Every day, when ever I think about it, I imagine myself living an active, healthy lifestyle that includes delicious foods, enjoying life with friends and family, and getting plenty of fun exercise. I not only imagine how I look; also how I feel when I’m healthy and well rested. I imagine myself feeling amazing, full of love and joy.  Early on, as the weight melted off, I did begin to feel really great.  This visualization/feeling technique is so effective, I still use it now.

A few Middle Age Tweaks:

In the past several weeks, I have had my annual physical, and a bunch of tests. In the past several months, I’d sort of slipped off the band wagon—and gained a few pounds. Sugar, in particular made it’s way back into my diet, even though it sort of gives me a stomach ache—Roger and I began sharing deserts when we’d go out to eat. I also stopped cooking and meal planning—it seemed too overwhelming with all the other stuff we had going on in the last part of last year. I’d grab something easy like a sandwich or cheese and crackers. Once again, I stopped feeling as energetic as I had before.

In addition, in viewing my blood work, my cortisol is a problem and my hormones are out of whack…again.

Much to my surprise, my doctor put two things on the diet section of my ‘patient directions’ form. (At my doctor’s, you always leave with a written notice of what she wants you to work on between appointments) “intermittent fasting: 14/16 and low carb diet.”

Lots of people have written about intermittent fasting, and, from what I’ve seen on the internet, the myth is that you can eat what ever you want during your window and still loose weight. Because I’d heard that, I thought it was kind of a fad. But after a little research, I discovered that doctors recommend higher protein and fat diets to go along with intermittent fasting rather than having patients eat anything they want. Studies show when done properly, intermittent fasting actually improves one’s health, including reducing inflammation, and flushing out  pathogens and viruses on a cellular level. Having just been diagnosed with Epstein Barr Virus, learning that intermittent fasting helps the cells expunge viruses is a HUGE plus for me; being healthy and vibrant is what I’m personally going for.

Prior to my doctors suggestion I try intermittent fasting, I had naturally been doing a 14 hour fast; I usually eat a small snack around 4:00-4:30, and don’t eat dinner. I decided, however, after reading and learning more about it, to bump my fast up to 16 hours for a month to see what happens and how I feel. Roger and I are re-committing to our low carb diets.

In my research, I found these  YouTube videos, if you are interested in learning more about intermittent fasting and a low carb diet. I’ll be filling you in on my progress as we go along. My biggest interest, at this point in my life is living a vibrant, healthy lifestyle—who wants to live to old age if you don’t feel well or are battling disease that could be prevented by simple choices now?

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Do you have a diet plan that is working for you? Join Robin LaMonte at www.helloim50ish.com and Eugenia Hargrove @theeageofgrace (on Instagram)  in this week’s #wellnesswednesday.

I’d like to introduce you to a dear friend of mine, Eugenia Hargrove. Eugenia and I met last year when we participated in the Fierce 50. We quickly became friends and not a week goes by that Eugenia and I aren’t texting, chatting on the phone or comparing notes about fashion, blogging and life. I love her point of view—she’s stylish and smart, with a beautiful family and heart. Eugenia has been blogging for five years part-time while working full time in pharmaceutical sales.  Along with her passion for fashion, she loves practicing healthy eating, and wellness.  Her posts go up once a week on Mondays. Today she’s colllaborating with us here at #wellnesswednesday on Instagram.

#WellnessWednesday
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Five or six years ago, my mother-in-law called on a Sunday morning.  She wanted to ask my husband something, but he wasn’t home.  “Oh, is Rocky at church?” She asked.  I think she knew the answer.  Without reading much into it, I said “No, he hasn’t gone to church for several years, he is at the beach, where he spends most of his Saturday and Sunday mornings.” 

A week or so later, she called again, this time asking if she and my father in law could come for dinner.  Ignoring the fact that she was inviting herself over for dinner, I set about planning their favorite meal—Jack liked steak and potatoes and Eileen loved sweet deserts, and I figured we’d eat at the formal dining table to make it special.

The evening started on a high note, Jack and Eileen loved the meal.   As we sat talking after, Eileen started on my husband for not going to church.  She explained that she was afraid that we wouldn’t go to heaven and that she and Jack had not missed a day of church in their entire marriage—over sixty years.  (Now that’s a lot of church going.)  She  went on to say that since my husband had converted to Protestantism she was  concerned about our prospects in the after life.  Now we weren’t going to church at all, and something had to be done about it immediately.  We were on the highway to hell.

I’m normally pretty quiet about religious discussions; they never lead anywhere good, but that night, I spoke up. I asked Eileen about her spiritual activities outside of church.  She had none.  I asked her about charity, or bible reading on her own.  She explained that she did none of those things, that attending church was the only ask God had of us, one hour each week preferably at a Catholic Church; that was all that was needed to for us to go to heaven. 

As we talked I shared that while we were not going to church regularly, we did spend lots of time in prayer, meditation and gave of our  time in the community volunteering.  I shared that each morning I spend time reading inspirational materials, and tried to bringing what I was learning into my daily life.  As I was speaking, it struck me that  we were coming from two completely different points of view.  Laid out before me was an image of my mother-in-law as a young woman, post World War 2, in the front yard of her family home—a vast difference to the image that came forward of me, graduating high school in 1977, after the Vietnam war.  

I realized that we’d grown up worlds apart.  I’d been raised Protestant, she, Catholic. Eileen worked briefly until she married and never worked outside of the home again; she’d had her hands full keeping house and raising six kids.  I had a full corporate career before starting my own business so I could spend more time raising our only child.  As that fact dawned on me, I realized that there was no reason for me to continue defending our not going to church, because we saw our spiritual lives were vastly different as well.  And I knew that it was completely ok.

I also realized that even though my husband and I had been married for over twenty years, we visited with his parents three or four times a year.  Lots and lots of life and living went on in both of our lives, that neither side knew about.  In fact, I realized, we really barely knew each other at all when I really thought about it.  We’d never been alone together, we’d never had a heart to heart talk. Through the years we’d gone through the motions of being “family” but otherwise never really connected.  We had a sense of each other, images and impressions we pieced together, but we really didn’t “know” each other…in fact, we rarely completely know even those in our very own homes.

In realizing the argument made no sense, I just stopped.  I thanked her sincerely for her concern, and told her we’d think about what she’d said.  I told her it meant a lot that she cared about our going to heaven and that she wanted us to be with them in the after-life.

As I left the conversation, I felt as if a lightning bolt had hit.   I had learned an important life lesson:  even when we think we know people, we really don’t.  Because of that, it makes little sense to defend our beliefs and actions.  Through that conversation, I learned to pay attention, not only to what was being said, but also to try to figure out where the other person was actually coming from.  Have you ever had an experience like that, where you suddenly “got” where the other person was coming from and there was no point arguing even though you didn’t agree with their beliefs?  Let me know in the comments section below.  

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Hey there my friends!  Isn’t summer just the best?  If you live up north, I am in total envy about now, it’s 90+ degrees with 90+ percent humidity here!  What I wouldn’t give right now to be up north in maybe 76 degree weather and no humidity!  Which got me thinking about the Perfect summer wardrobe—what I’m pulling from my own closet and what I have on my wish list right now.

Here goes!

This summer’s “it” swimsuit:  I’ve been a one piece girl for quite some time now, and I’m loving bright colors and patters as well as some of the vintage styles out there.  

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Sun dresses: wrap and faux rap dresses are all the rage this season, and great for all figure types.  They give that perfect hourglass look, are great for layering a t-shirt underneath and some can even be worn as a duster.  Maxis and middies are also every bit as popular as short dresses, so there’s plenty to choose from.  I’m all about dresses for summer.  So cool, finished and effortless.

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Vintage inspired small “granny” prints are lots of fun, and are also very versatile,  they can be worn just about anywhere, day or evening. Slip dresses started to emerge as a favorite last year and are still super popular this year as well.  If you don’t like bra straps showing, purchase a pretty bralette or layer a simple T-shirt beneath.

Denim is Hot!

You’ll stay cool in a cute denim skirt or shorts, and if you like to cover your legs, look for interesting crops or ruffled details to give your summer denim a modern twist.

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White is always a favorite, try a pair of white wide leg crops or super sleek skinny jeans.  I’ve been rolling my white denim above the ankle bone to give them a little more interest this summer.  I’ve also been loving the all white trend, it’s so romantic and summery.

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Wild Card:

This is the year of the wide leg stripped pant, rompers jump suits and leopard.  I have to say, I’m not feeling leopard right now, maybe a little later in the season.  It seems like I’ve just gotten all my favorite whites and brights out after a winter of beiges and brown tones.  But my reticence shouldn’t stop you if it’s a look you love.

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Accessories:

Tassel Earrings in bright colors are still the rage as well as barrel hoops in gold and other finishes.  

Round straw crossbody bags, and totes are a must.

What have you been loving this season?

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Julie from This Main Line Life, a blog about Julie’s life and casual dressing is this week’s featured blogger. I love checking out her gentle posts and comfortable, yet pulled together look. I hope you’ll check her out!

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When Brooke was little, I was all about healthy, from scratch cooking and eating.  I spent hours planning meals and choosing only the very best organic ingredients I could find.  My former husband was quite particular about his meals, and, over time, the work I put into continuously upping my culinary game, and hitting home runs every night no matter what else I had to do in a day became onerous.  Ok…not just onerous, exhausting.  When I left my marriage I was ready for a change and a lessening of my work load.  

After our split, I still cooked some, but I could never really get the rhythm back.  Brooke wasn’t home as much and Roger and I have different tastes in food and diets.    And, to be perfectly frank, I didn’t want to spend as much time cooking and planning. I’d been “on” for twenty years, cooking, cleaning, raising a child and working full time.  I needed a break, a little self indulgent nurturing, someone else to pick up the load for a while.  Only there wasn’t really anyone else to cook for me, but me, so that was a thing.

So, over the past year or so, I’ve been making the simplest of meals, usually sandwiches, soups, cheese, crackers and fruits—perhaps an egg or two. Or eating out.  In short, I was on for anything that didn’t require lots of thought or preparation. 

So, yesterday I got a bit of a wake up call.  I’d gone in to the doctor regarding the outcome of my brain mapping test (I’ll be talking about brain mapping in an upcoming post) and I also had a letter from my mother’s doctor saying she tested positive for the RAD51D variant making her at high risk for overran cancer.  My grandmother, and her mother had both died of ovarian cancer as well as my grandfather’s sister.  Thursday, I get the test myself, and I will know whether or not I am positive later this month.  

In addition, my brain mapping results came back a little less than stellar.  I’d had the test because I’d been experiencing anxiety—which has been going on for the past twenty years, with some ups and downs.  I thought I was doing pretty well with it, but we discovered that, according to the tests, I need to make some further changes to improve brain health.  The mapping showed a high level of anxiety and even some depression.  I don’t feel depressed, for the record.  The doctor wondered if there might be some inflammation from the prolonged anxiety I’ve experienced.  The doctor also expressed concern about my brain’s vascular health and asked if any of my relatives had vascular dementia.  (My father’s mother developed dementia  in her later life, and, thats the last thing I want to saddle Brooke with.)

What does this have to do with anything?  Well, it’s #wellnesswednesday, for one thing, and for another, these revelations hit me a bit hard; I’m not invincible, for one thing.  And, may be now I should take on diet and self care not because it’s something I do for my family, but for my personal health and wellbeing.  I don’t think it’s too late to reverse things or at least improve my life, and, after receiving the news yesterday I was a bit emotional but also resolved.  I’ve let my self nurturing slip over the past months, and have been fighting to get it back.  It’s time to make time for me in a healthier way-not in a lazy passive way like I have been—laying back feels pretty good after all, but it doesn’t really do us good if we do it all the time. 

Roger and I have talked about bringing healthy meals back into our lives, continuing to up our fitness game and working toward spending more quality time together, rather than my working all the time.  I guess I also have some research to do. 

I’ve come home with supplements to improve brain health—I know not all of you are into supplementation, if nothing else, I feel like I’m doing something to move the needle a little.  It is something I think is important and since part of self nurturing is doing “you” to the best of your ability, that’s what I’m doing.

So, to add to my regimen, is Co-Q 10, Turmeric, Pro-biotic and Omega-3’s. Also on my list is getting back into my yoga and meditation in the mornings as well as ensuring I stick with my low carb diet and add to that intermittent fasting. 

I’ve got a bit of research to do about intermittent fasting.  I know that there are many who swear by it, and I’ve naturally gravitated to a light early dinner;  (I get up at 5:00 a.m. and eat brunch around 10:30/11:00 and usually eat my dinner (which is a very light meal, almost a snack, actually at round 4:00).  So I’ll be sharing this journey and I hope you will join me.           

I’ve been struggling to maintain my morning routine—well, it’s time to get back on track.  This morning I made sure that the table was set and pretty, and my gratitude journal was waiting.  I also got my yoga in and I do feel a little better and a little more self- pampered.  

Have you had a recent wake up call?  If so, what are you doing for self care?  I’ll be sharing more of what I’m learning here on Wellness Wednesday, and I guess I’ll be sharing some of the decisions looming on the horizon.  Let’s work together to stay healthy, shall we?  

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The other night, Brooke came to me with a concern.  Well, more than a concern.  She’s angry and struggling to get over some issues related to her father’s family.  After her father’s death, her uncles did some unspeakably horrible things she’s had to deal with in addition to the death of her father.  Because she’s legally an adult, my ability to step in to protect her was limited.  Faced with the option of pursuing them legally, she chose, instead to simply sever ties.  In their minds, they did nothing wrong, it was she who was the wrong doer, and thus they were entitled to take certain matters into their own hands.

Brooke’s father had an odd relationship with his brothers; the talk was always about their being best of friends, but behind the scenes were wrenching stories of bullying and abuse.  As a result, my former husband limited our interaction with them to a few family gatherings a year.  After his mother died a few years ago, and his father’s health was deteriorating rapidly, he wanted to see if things would be more comfortable and reached out to spend more time with them.  When he was diagnosed with cancer, apparently the brothers became much closer.  When he was diagnosed, my husband spoke to me and our investment advisor about his wishes, which were made in writing.  I never dreamt we’d ever really use the wills we’d written, but alas, we did and boy am I glad we had them, after seeing what happened.  Knowing the brothers had a propensity to be highly insensitive, their behavior toward my daughter and his estate weren’t entirely a surprise to me.

Brooke is angry, and I don’t blame her. I was angry too, but somewhere along the line, something has shifted in me.  And I wanted to be able to articulate the shift to Brooke but I really couldn’t figure out what it was exactly; I’m usually the grudge holder, the one who can’t forgive and move on.  While I wouldn’t say I’ve “forgiven” them I will say I’ve accepted the fact that they are the way they are, and what they did, even though it was wrong on so many levels.   The bottom line is that we can’t change it and taking them to court would only prolong the agony and not achieve really substantive  results.  As I prayed about helping Brooke with her anger, the word that kept bubbling up was acceptance.

When we are hurt by another’s actions, our first reaction is anger.  Anger is important, it tells us something is wrong.  We deal with our anger in different ways, (some of which are less than constructive) but anger is  supposed to let us know to protect ourselves.  To take notice, pay attention and possibly take action.  

There are layers to forgiveness; I think it’s a  process,  just like grief.  After anger comes wanting justice and retribution. We want others to know what happened, we want justice, we want to make sure it doesn’t happen again, we want things to be made “right”. (That’s why true apologies come with the words “I am deeply sorry, and I want to make things right. I’ll do what ever it takes.”)

In time, we start to notice that the situation is moving further and further into the past, that there is nothing we can do about the past.  Sometimes, we want to hang on, not to forget…I know I hold on to remind myself not to become complacent; to remain vigilant.  

As I dance closer to forgiveness, I am loath to let go of transgressions…and each time I am brought to forgiveness I am taught a little more.  I’ve inched my way to acceptance, at this point.  There was a time I could not have gotten to acceptance, to be perfectly honest, so I know I’m making slow progress.

Brooke and I have an idealistic streak; people, especially when it comes to family and close friends.  They aren’t supposed to do those horrible things to us. They aren’t supposed to be selfish, hurtful or deceitful.  They aren’t supposed to lie or steal. They are supposed to have our best interests at heart, but we all know this isn’t always the case, and, to move on and heal, we have to accept people where they are.  It’s the only way.  

As I’ve prayed to learn about forgiveness (and to be able to do it) so many times. This time around, a video showed up in my Facebook feed “How to Forgive Assholes”. (Please forgive the language; the video really hit home to me as one who struggles to forgive).   

From the video, I realized that when someone hurts us, there is a “linking” that takes place between ourselves and the person who has hurt us (especially when you hold a grudge: you cant stop thinking about them and what they did).   The only way to break the link is to forgive.  To let it go, to stop carrying it, to put it out of your mind for once and for all.  In forgiving, we are protecting our own light, otherwise, we become filled with anger, fear and hate, just like our perpetrator.  To let it go, we release all of that.  All that anger, all of everything related to the situation.  That doesn’t mean we let the person back into our lives, it means to wreak more havoc, it means we accept them and let their act move into our past where it belongs.  The more we dredge it up, the more it hurts us.

I thought of the bullies I’ve known in my life.  They are all people who have been hurt or damaged in some way or at some point in their lives.  I thought about anger, retribution, and all the things we want to do when we are hurt, and of course the video is right, when we go down those roads, we become like the person who hurt us.  They say forgiveness is something we do for ourselves.  The video reinforces that, but more from the angle of stopping a cycle of violence, rather than just something that will just make us feel better.  (I guess I couldn’t get my head completely around forgiving “just for me” —even though it made sense, I just couldn’t seem to bring myself to do it.  And thus, I’ve spent years torturing myself.  When you look at it that way, it’s a lot easier to look for ways to let the transgression go from inside of ourselves, doesn’t it?

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Giving this new way of thinking about forgiveness a shot; I’d love to hear how you think about or handle forgiveness.  I know for some it isn’t as difficult as it is for me.  I’ve linked the video in case you are interested in seeing it too.  

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You know, I don’t think of myself as a fashion rule breaker. I wear what I like. I take the time to figure out whether I fancy a given style, and whether I think it suits me. If it does, I wear it. If it doesn’t, I don’t.  A few years ago, out of the blue came that article that circulated, “50 Things You Should Never Wear After 50”. The list included high heels, short skirts, swim wear, tight pants, showing cleavage…the list went on and on.  A few months ago someone wrote an article stating that women over 50 should not wear jeans. To say women in my tribe were incensed was an understatement. One of my friends made a video with 100 stylish women over the age of 50 wearing jeans, some upwards of 70 in age all looking amazing!

Here’s a round up of some of my infractions, I tried out a $10 tube top, which, by the way was also a crop top.  I figured that if I felt uncomfortable in it, I could always give it to my daughter.  I liked it styled with my Tahari skirt.  I’ve also worn a couple of rompers; the one above is really versatile, I wore it with the tube top, and as a swim suit cover up.  And finally, my recent denim skirt and graphic T; look broke several rules, the high platforms, short skirt, and the fact that I’d owned denim skirts before, when I was twenty. There’s a new new trend in town: Style Over Age. The way I see it, if the style suits you, wear it. AT ANY AGE.  Have a little fun, live a little.  My friends and I are, and we’ve got photos to prove it! Here are my fellow Rule Breakers. or, Ladies who chose Great Style Over Age.

Eugenia from www.theageofgrace.com

First Up: Eugenia from www.theageofgrace.com. Eugenia is rocking the pattern on pattern trend. Oh and check out the red cat eye sunnies! Trends in general were always considered the domain of the young. Not any more. Eugenia’s style is a blend of trendy and elegant, which I love. I hope you’ll stop by Eugenia’s page and check out this most elegant rule breaker.

Lori and Julie from www.fashiontrendsandfriends.com

The Girls from Fashion Trends and Friends wore SHORTS. Oh yes they did! Both Lori and Julie are over 50 and they’ve still got it going on. As I’ve said before when I’ve featured them, they are so much fun, and I love that they are always trying new things.  If you don’t follow Fashion Trends and Friends, you have to!

Robin from www.helloIm50ish.com

Next up, we have Robin, who today is asking whether we can still wear a two piece. I’ve not worn one in public since Brooke was born, but that’s just me! You’ll have to stop by Robin’s (www.helloim50ish.com) page to see what her conclusion is.

Hilda from www.overthehilda.com

And last,  our lovely Hilda who made the decision take the risk and wear a bikini to celebrate her 60th. She rocked it.  She and her husband took a lovely trip to celebrate.  We’ve featured Hilda and GG before; but if you haven’t stopped by to check out Hilda’s blog, you’ve got to see what they are up to.  They travel, take care of their grans, and Hilda enjoys fashion and shopping as much as I do.

This is just a small round up of “Rule Breakers” in the 50 plus community, or should I say women who have chosen Style Over Age. Be sure to check out their blogs to see how they’ve incorporated the Style Over Age trend.   I plan to run this theme again in the future, so if you have a Style Over Age look and would like to be featured, please leave a comment below!

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With July 4th just a week away, Robin (www.helloim50ish.com) and I have challenged each other to come up with a healthy recipe  for July 4th.  My plan was turkey burgers in lettuce wraps, but when I got to the market, my favorite turkey burgers were sold out—and no, I didn’t plan to make the burgers from scratch!  I wanted something easy that we could grill out with the minimum of fuss.  That’s how I roll now!  Healthy and easy.

Luckily, in the vegetable area I spied some beautiful portabella mushrooms, so I decided to make Portabella Caprise over greens.  The Portabellas are easy to assemble and can be broiled or grilled, so the meal isn’t dependent on a sunny day—that was always a “thing” for the 4th of July—it was either beautiful and sunny or a torrential down pour, and if you planned to cook out, well, you know…

I generally follow a low carb diet, so if I eat a higher carb meal, I do so earlier in the day (breakfast or lunch) so I can burn off excess carbohydrates.  When I’m looking for something substantial in the vegi family, I turn to portabellas, and have several delicious recipies for them.  While many actually serve portabellas as burgers in buns, I serve mine over greens or in lettuce wraps as I avoid breads and starches.  The other up side of portabellas is they are quick to cook and super easy.  

This recipe is so simple:

Clean large portabella mushroom caps

Olive oil

Sliced tomato

Basil chiffonade

Fresh mozzarella

Brush the mushroom caps with a little garlic infused olive oil

Add a slice of tomato

Place in toaster oven or regular oven at 350 for 10 minutes 

Add basil to taste

Cover with mozzarella

Cook until mozzarella bubbles 

Serve over mixed greens

Dress with balsamic vinagarette (I used Stonewall Kitchens fig and balsamic vinaigrette)

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I don’t know what possessed me, but I found myself in one of those rabbit holes just now, where I started in one place on Facebook and ended in another:

I trolled my “old” life, the one before Sharing A Journey; the one where I had a “serious” career, went to meetings and did “important” stuff. I was married and lived in a house just down the street from my daughter’s school. In the afternoons after school, my daughter’s friends and their moms stopped by. We moms drank wine and chatted while the kids played. I always had something good going in a crock pot or on the grill. I loved cooking, decorating and hosting get togethers large and small.

Through the magic of the internet, I could see how far old clients from my consulting practice had gone with plans we’d made when I worked with them as a business consultant. I checked on what happened to some of the boards on which I served and what some of my colleagues were up to.

I even checked out my old house. The new owners cut down the tree in front and real estate sales photos show a completely remodeled kitchen—a much needed improvement we had considered but due to the tenuousness of our marriage, and our divorce, we didn’t get around to it. I’m glad they did; it looks amazing.

Just seeing the photos brought back memories of bringing Brooke home from the hospital when she was born, hosting loud neighborhood parties, and all the cleaning and cooking I did. Who was that woman? I wonder.

That whole chapter of my life wrapped up neatly in June of 2014. Our divorce was well underway, and my daughter and I moved into our new girl pad near her new school and friends. We were both looking forward to change.

I awoke in my new home, twenty minutes from my old home, a world away from where I had come. After years of parenting, and working on marriage and career and all sorts of highs and lows, I lay in the softness of my bed, looking out the big window watching the trees, taking particular notice of the quiet. There was no more tension in the air, no deadlines to meet, no business meetings to attend, no little one to look after.

While months had gone into the planning of the divorce and move, it was still a shock—we’d been married for 25 years, and while we had been talking about separating for quite some time, it had never really seemed real. In any event, now we were in our own homes pursuing our own interests living our own separate lives.  Talk about a surprise. I never thought I’d be a middle aged divorcee raising a teenaged daughter on her own.  Here are a few things about middle age that surprised me.

1. Life remains full of surprises:

The thing that surprises me most about middle age is how much change occurs, seemingly all at once. For some couples, the middle years bring a closer bond, for others, like me, it meant parting ways. And that parting changed everything else in our lives.

2. Cherish each moment, it does go by so very fast:

I must share the tender matter of my daughter growing up right before my eyes. It seems like I just turned around and she is moving on. All of the school projects, playing dress up on the back porch, sleepovers and watching cartoons sped by in fast motion. That’s the second surprise of middle age: how fast it’s all gone by.

3. 50 actually is beginning to seem young!:

The third surprise is that 50 is starting to seem “young”. I know that seems really odd, but when I consider my grand parents, who seemed positively ancient, yet were in their 50’s and 60’s I recognize that it’s just the face and body that has changed, and while we continue to mature, grow and learn, there is something ageless that keeps drawing us forward into the current moment.  I’m almost 60 now, and frankly, I’m shocked.

4. I still love a cute outfit!

Loving what you love never changes, it just gets deeper and more profound.  I find myself appreciating life more, especially the little things.

5.  We actually have some skills and what better time than middle age to let them shine:

So I’m almost 60 and started completely over, including the building of this blog.  I had no idea how to blog, or how to do the tech stuff, but I’ve figured out and so can you.  By middle age, we’ve assembled some pretty mad skills and we need to let them shine.  It feels amazing.  The more I do, the more I see that we were meant to share our skills no matter what our age.

So I’ve spilled the beans here, what about you?  What surprises have you discovered in these middle years?  Let us know in the comments below.  We all learn from each other and I can’t wait to hear what you have to say.

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Do you ever check out a list of current fashion trends and think, “Wow, super cute, but I could never wear that.”  Truth be told, few trends please everyone and certainly trends that feature, say one’s midriff, or some other body part that you feel uncomfortable highlighting, well, we know that isn’t at all fun—and that’s what trends are supposed to be: fun.

Here are a few trends I’ve been following that are super fun and can be enjoyed and will  flatter everyone.

Sunnies.  Anyone and everyone can find their perfect pair of sunglasses.  I always check out the sale area for cute sunglasses.  This year, embellished sunglasses are all the rage, as are oversized rounded glasses, oh and the small sunglasses—which I personally don’t like, but they may just suit you to a “T”.  I have a whole drawer full of fun sunglasses-they are this Florida girl’s “third piece” most of the summer long.

Windbreakers—you know those light weight nylon jackets we all had for camp when we were kids?  Yep, those.  I’m down for the trend because it rains daily during the summer here in sunny Florida, and they can easily be folded or rolled and put in your purse, they look good on most figure types, plus they are super light weight and look great with summer’s casual outfits.

Gold pendants.  I’ve been wearing fine gold necklaces and pendants for the past couple of years—I got tired of big heavy statement necklaces—especially for the summer.  I just don’t like anything heavy on a hot day, but a little delicate necklace can be just what this fashionista ordered and, again anyone can wear one and you probably have a bunch of them looking for some love in your jewelry box.

Interesting sleeves.  Puffy sleeves, and lantern sleeves are all the rage this year, and bell sleeves are still on trend from last year.  I’m loving the emphasis on light airy puffy sleeves, but if you don’t want the extra fluff, check out lantern sleeves, they are fitted to the elbow before fluffing out.  And of course big bell sleeves are light and airy perfect for people who like arm coverage but want to keep it light and breezy—though as one of my readers said, “When I wear bell sleeves, they always mange to get in my soup!”  I guess I’m going to avoid eating a lot of soup this summer because I love my bell sleeve top!

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5.  Platform sandles and chunky track shoes. Anyone looking for fashionable and comfortable shoes should be happy with this trend!  No further explaination needed.  

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6.  Tube style hoop earrings.  I’ve been changing my signature thin 2” hoops up for .5 and 1” tube style hoops.  I didn’t have to purchase them, they were already in my hoop collection, they are a classic and you probably already have a pair too! But if you don’t you can get a pair here.

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What are your favorite trends this summer?  I love hearing what inspires you—and I love learning new things.

Friday Feature

One of the first bloggers I met when things started getting going here at Sharing A Journey was Jodie from J. Touch of Style. She, Cheryl Tucker and I were the first members of the Forever Fierce admin team.

Jodie is the kindest most friendly blogger in our tribe, which is evidenced in her thoughtful comments to fellow bloggers and readers—as well as  her beautiful family, her mother, step-mother and husband who are best of friends and central to her blog.

Jodie loves thrifting, travel and blogging, which includes styling herself, her mother and step-mom and occassionaly her husband as well.  I hope you will stop by and check Jodie out.

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