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So, finally I finished my book. It only took a year. Good things come to those that wait. It took a little longer than expected life as I was working, parenting, blogging etc.

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The hard work and patience paid off. The first draught is completed and now I’m working on getting it edited, proofread, designed etc….

Why Did I write the book?

I wrote the book to give back. It’s important to share what I learned on my fertility journey other couples in the same situation. We made a lot of changes to our lives for the IVF treatment to work. Learning about these changes could help infertile couples to have a family.

The book is also a chance for me to give back financially. 100% of the profits form book sales will go back into fertility research.

How will the book be formatted?

The first section of the book is about the first two failed treatments. The second part of the story is about the changes that I made before the final successful IVF treatment. The third part of the book is interviews with the World’s leading fertility experts. I’m am interviewing experts in the different fields of fertility (nutrition, egg health, acupuncture) and I will share what I learn. If anyone knows any fertility experts or fertility influencers that I could interview please drop me a message below.

I am looking for funding

I’ve also launched a Kickstarter funding campaign that is in the process of being reviewed. It should be approved in the next three days. I want to raise €10,000 to get the ball rolling with the next steps; proofreading, editing, design, PR, marketing etc. I’m pretty sure I’m going to self publish but I’m not 100% sure what’s the best route. Any advice would be greatly appreciated?

Book Launch – PS this is not my book but just me holding a book.

Expect me to be bombarding you in the next few weeks and months with information about Kickstarter campaign. You will also here a lot from the World’s leading fertility experts and influencers as I gear up for the launch. The Kickstarter campaign will run until National Infertility Awareness Week 22-28 April 2018. https://infertilityawareness.org/

Seeking Sponsors

Maybe a fertility centre or drug company would be interested in sponsoring the project. If you have any suggestions then let me know.

If you’re interested in my story and hearing more about the campaign please sign up for my email below. Thanks.

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Screaming Child On The Plane.

The viral video of the poor child screaming on the plane has been doing the rounds. It is every parents worst nightmare. I’ve  travelled many times with our twins over the last 15 months and it’s always been stressful.

While I have never had an incident as bad as this, I have had a brief brush with baby air rage. I had a similar experience with my 6 month old son who screamed the plane down for the 20 minute landing. Luckily, I was surrounded a compassionate elderly group of German ladies that felt my pain.

It was my own fault that Max cried as I did not give him a pacifier or bottle for landing to relieve the pressure in his little ears. That was one of the most stressful 20 minutes of my life but I survived. The mother in the video must have felt terrible to endure such stress for a long haul flight

In this video the child is dealing with issues that we are unaware of, it may be psychological or it could be physical. Either way, to judge the parents and the child based on him reacting to being confined in a tight space for a long period of time is not right.

There needs to be more understanding and sympathy in these situations. Yes, it’s inconvenient for the other passengers but the poor family are suffering considerably more. In this situation all you want to do is get off the plane.

The video is hard to watch for parents. It’s even harder to read some of the vitriolic comments. Some said that the parents and child should be beaten. Others said the parents should be arrested. There are some other nasty comments that I won’t give any air time because they are so distasteful.  

Do not judge people unless you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. It’s very difficult to travel with children especially if the child has special needs. Next time you’re on a flight and a child is crying try to be a bit more compassionate.

Don’t prejudge the child or his parents, you don’t know how difficult their life has been. Maybe the child is claustrophobic, maybe his grandparents just died, maybe his father just went to prison, maybe he has autism, maybe he suffered a traumatic brain injury, maybe his mother suffers from depression or a degenerative disease….. You just don’t know and you can’t just judge based on what you see in this small window of time.

People need to be sympathetic and understanding for all parents and children passengers. Raising children is a very tough job and travelling with them is one of the most stressful times for any parent. Next time you see some family suffering don’t take a video offer to help.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hv1aczlrMsk

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Being a working parent is extremely stressful. Particularly if you have a high-pressure job. It feels like you never have a moment to yourself and you don’t get much time to recuperate. To strike a good work life balance takes discipline and a lot of hard work.

To Achieve A Good Work-Life Balance Then You Can’t stress too much

Here are 12 tips to help working parents strike a good work-life balance

1.Don’t stress too much

This is easier said than done. Having so much on your plate can cause you to worry and stress out. Stressing out is counterproductive. To be a great parent you have to do your best to eliminate as much stress from your life as possible. If you try your best, work hard and have time for your family then you are doing a good job.

There are thousands of free resources online on how to deal with stress. Get more exercise, sleep well and eat a good diet are some simple things that you can do to help you cope with stress. It is hard work but you need to do whatever it takes for you to be in the best state for your family.

2.Don’t expect perfection

Everybody has problems and imperfections. Do not expect to be perfect and learn to accept things the way they are. You can always strive to be better but never compare yourself to other people. It is not possible to achieve perfection in everything that you do. Chasing perfection will leave you feeling unfulfilled.

3.Make time For Yourself

As a working parent, it can fell that you have no time for yourself. You tell yourself that there is not enough time to do what you want to do. There is enough time you just need to manage your time better. One of the best things that you can do with your time is to make time for yourself. Take time to read, workout or catch up on some sleep. A simple hour to yourself every day will make all the difference to your well being.

4.Have a morning routine

If you win the morning, you win the day. Having a morning routine is one of the best ways of striking an amazing work-life balance. It takes discipline and early bedtimes but it’s worth it. Try to schedule an hour every morning to workout, meditate, read and look at your goals. A simple morning routine will help you achieve more balance in your life.

5.Have a bedtime routine

To have a good morning routine you need a good bedtime routine. Make sure that you get enough sleep and turn off your screens an hour before you go to bed. Read a good book instead of interrupting your brain with blue light from your phone. A recent Harvard Study explains how blue light can be detrimental to your overall health. A good nighttime routine will make getting up much easier.

6.Get enough sleep

Sleep could be the most important part of a good work-life balance. You need to get between 7.5 and 9 hours sleep per night. Everybody is different and occasionally we can get by on less sleep but a good deep sleep helps you perform better. Getting enough sleep is like therapy and it will make your whole life easier.

6.Eat well

When you become a parent it is easy to become lazy and fall into a trap of eating unhealthily. Being overweight and having an unhealthy diet negatively impacts your energy levels. If you want balance in your life you need a good level of energy. Nutrition plays a major role in energy levels so you need to eat well.

7.Excercise

Exercise combined with good sleep and a healthy diet is key to living a balanced life. If you are strong physically then you are strong mentally. Being physically and mentally sharp helps you to work hard and enjoy time with your family. A good exercise routine is hard to keep up but it will help you deal with the stress of trying to maintain a good work-life balance.

8.Practice gratitude

If you spend time actively being grateful for what you have your worries will disappear. When you wake up every morning and go to bed each evening write down three things that you are grateful for. This simple practice will help change your outlook on life. Focusing on gratitude is one of the keys to living in the moment and appreciating what you have. Try the five-minute journal to get your gratitude journey started.

9.Schedule your day

There are lots of things that you need to do to maintain a good work-life balance. To fit so much into your day you will need to strictly schedule what you need to do. A life of discipline means a life of freedom. Schedule each hour and don’t forget to schedule a time to relax and have fun.

10.Make time for your kids

Make sure that you are not working too much. Your kids are the most important thing in your life. Don’t work so much that you are not there for them. All that they need is your time. Make sure that you spend at least two hours of quality time with them every single weekday. On the weekend you need to spend as much time with them as possible.

11.Make time for your partner

You and your partner created your family. If you really want to have balanced life then you need to have a happy relationship. This means that you need to make time for the love of your life. Simple things like having a meal together every day or a monthly date night make all the difference

12.Have goals

To be happy you need to be working towards something. Write down a goal that you want to achieve and work towards it every day. This simple direction in life gives you something to wake up for every morning. If you wake up energised then you will find it easier to live a balanced life.

Thanks for taking the time to read these tips. It is not easy to attain a good work life balance but it is not impossible. It takes hard work and discipline. If you are willing to make sacrifices then you can live a happy and balanced life. Do you have any other tips on how to achieve a work-life balance? I would love to hear from you in the comments below

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This is an excerpt from a chapter from my upcoming book. If you are going through IVF or know somebody that is then please let them know about my upcoming book. After being through so much and learning a lot about IVF treatment, I felt it was time to give back. My book “How To Beat Infertility” is a guide through the lessons and changes to have successful IVF treatment. 100% of the sales from the book will go into fertility research and to help other couples have a family.

How does it feel to get the dreaded Infertility Diagnosis? How my wife and I found out I am infertile.

The chances of you having children are one in a million. You might as well stop trying naturally” said the world’s grumpiest fertility doctor to my wife and I. It was September 2014, and we had just visited a fertility clinic in Berlin to find out why Olivia wasn’t preggers yet. Frequent fornication during my wife’s fertile days had proved fruitless so we decided to see a fertility specialist. After multiple tests, we were insensitively greeted with the worst news of our lives. I was infertile.

“What an absolute weapon”, I thought. Not only can I not have children naturally but this grumpy German cow has just told us to stop having sex. Just because she wasn’t getting any action, doesn’t mean that the rest of the world has to be celibate, I thought.  I am not surprised that nobody was willing to have sex with her, she had a face like a pit bull licking piss off a nettle.

I somehow found humour in this dreary troglodytes delivery of such bad news but that was short lived as my wife understandably broke down into a ball of tears.

For someone that always dreamed of having children, being told you are infertile is like being told you have cancer. The next two years of our lives were the most challenging but ultimately rewarding of our lives. According to a World Health Organisation Infertility Study – 12% of couples have difficulties having children. Here is the WHO definition of infertility:

  • Infertility is “a disease of the reproductive system defined by the failure to achieve a clinical pregnancy after 12 months or more of regular unprotected sexual intercourse.”
  • “Infertility is the inability of a sexually active, non-contracepting couple to achieve pregnancy in one year. The male partner can be evaluated for infertility or subfertility using a variety of clinical interventions, and also from a laboratory evaluation of semen.”

We were one of the unlucky couples that make up that statistic. Luckily enough, I can still have sex and have sex drive contrary to the unsolicited advice that the German Ogre gave me.

For reasons unbeknownst to me, my swimmers aren’t that good at swimming. They should really be called floaters and not swimmers. They can doggy paddle(a little)  but they are a far cry from multiple Olympic gold medalist Michael Phelps. If you have ever seen Sperm whales sleep then you might get a better understanding of the problem that lies deep within my testicles.

With my first sperm test, I discovered that I had multiple unexplained issues with my sperm. The quantity was fine it was the morphology and motility that was the issue.

Click Here for the definition of sperm morphology

Click Here for a definition of sperm motility

Infertility Diagnosis

After my infertility diagnosis, I was really embarrassed by the results and took the news badly. For no apparent reason, I was infertile and there was nothing that I could do. I was devastated and so was Olivia.

Here are the parameters for Healthy Sperm – Infertility Diagnosis
Semen Analysis Parameter Normal Values
Volume 1.5 ml or more
pH > or equal to 7.2
Sperm concentration 15,000,000/ml or more
Total motility 40% or more
Progressive motility 32% or more
Morphology 4% or more normal forms (Strict criteria)
Vitality 58% or more live
White blood cells Less than 1,000,000/ml

After the infertility diagnosis, I was given the breakdown of my sperm quality. The motility concentration was around 5%. This was much below the average value of 40%. Motility is the ability of the sperm to move forward and reach the egg for fertilisation. With such a low percentage, the chances of a natural pregnancy are very slim. The next issue that I had was with the morphology. Morphology is the shape of the sperm. There should be about 4% normal rate of sperm. My results were miserably less than 1%.

Infertility Diagnosis

Over the next two years, I visited many fertility specialists and my results fluctuated greatly. I gave five sperm samples over the two years of fertility treatment. Sometimes the results were the same and sometimes they were a little bit better. For my final sperm test before our third IVF treatment, I saw drastic improvements. My motility was almost 20% and the morphology was 2%. I know that this is still below average but it was an improvement. We went through three heartbreaking IVF treatments. Two were massive failures and one was a rip-roaring success. For our third and final IVF treatment, I made a lot of positive changes to my life. You can read about the changes I made here.  I feel that these changes were the reason for the successful IVF treatment.

I will never forget the day when I got the news that I was infertile. It was the 6th of September 2014 and my brother John was visiting from Dublin. It was a beautiful sunny day, so we decided to cycle out to a lake called Tegeler See in the North West of Berlin.

It was midweek and the sun was splitting the stones and my brother and I  pretty much had the lake to ourselves. We were swimming in the lakes clear water, not too far from the shore. I could hear my phone began ringing from the bank. There was no way that I could swim back in, dry my hands and answer the phone on time, so I let the phone ring out. It rang again, and then I realised that it must be important.

I swam back to the beach and saw two missed calls from my Olivia on the display. I called her back and she answered immediately. She was crying down the phone and I couldn’t really understand what she was saying. Eventually, she cleared her throat and explained the bad news that she had received. It looked like I was infertile and we would have to go back to the fertility clinic for more tests.

A dark cloud metaphorically blocked out what was an otherwise sunny day. My body went numb and time seemed to stand still for a couple of minutes. I remember looking at my brother lying on his beach towel and my mind being blank. He was unaware of our situation and I told him that we were trying to have family and it looked like I was infertile. He consoled me and I tried to block out the bad news and enjoy the day with my brother. It wasn’t until he flew back to Ireland the next day that the bad news really sunk in.

Initially, I took it very badly. My first reaction was to give up smoking. The nicotine withdrawals combined with the bad news sent my body into shock. In a matter of days, I got serious flu that lasted for a week. I ended up bedridden and seriously depressed. I barely left our apartment and I couldn’t hide the feeling of inadequacy and shame. Men are put on this earth to reproduce and have a family. It was at that very low moment that I realised how much I wanted a family

After a week of hell and feeling sorry for myself I knew that it was time to get my shit together and do everything in my power to have a family. We decided that we would try IVF three times and if that did not work then we would adopt. I had already hit rock bottom and planned for the worst-case scenario. That was a life without my own children and going down an alternate route. There are thousands of children that need a home. Whether it be a foster child or adopted child I would not stop until we had a family. It became my focus and I wouldn’t rest until I could provide that for my wife.

First things first, we decided that we would give IVF a try. With male factor infertility, ICSI is the prefered method of assisted reproduction.

Thanks for reading. If you like what you read then Sign up for a notification for when the book will be published below.

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This is an excerpt from a chapter from my upcoming book. If you are going through IVF or know somebody that is then please let them know about my upcoming book. After being through so much and learning a lot about IVF treatment, I felt it was time to give back. My book “How To Beat Infertility” is a guide through the lessons and changes to have successful IVF treatment. 100% of the sales from the book will go into fertility research and to help other couples have a family.

How does it feel to get the dreaded Infertility Diagnosis? How my wife and I found out I am infertile.

The chances of you having children are one in a million. You might as well stop trying naturally” said the world’s grumpiest fertility doctor to my wife and I. It was September 2014, and we had just visited a fertility clinic in Berlin to find out why Olivia wasn’t preggers yet. Frequent fornication during my wife’s fertile days had proved fruitless so we decided to see a fertility specialist. After multiple tests, we were insensitively greeted with the worst news of our lives. I was infertile.

“What an absolute weapon”, I thought. Not only can I not have children naturally but this grumpy German cow has just told us to stop having sex. Just because she wasn’t getting any action, doesn’t mean that the rest of the world has to be celibate, I thought.  I am not surprised that nobody was willing to have sex with her, she had a face like a pit bull licking piss off a nettle.

I somehow found humour in this dreary troglodytes delivery of such bad news but that was short lived as my wife understandably broke down into a ball of tears.

For someone that always dreamed of having children, being told you are infertile is like being told you have cancer. The next two years of our lives were the most challenging but ultimately rewarding of our lives. According to a World Health Organisation Infertility Study – 12% of couples have difficulties having children. Here is the WHO definition of infertility:

  • Infertility is “a disease of the reproductive system defined by the failure to achieve a clinical pregnancy after 12 months or more of regular unprotected sexual intercourse.”
  • “Infertility is the inability of a sexually active, non-contracepting couple to achieve pregnancy in one year. The male partner can be evaluated for infertility or subfertility using a variety of clinical interventions, and also from a laboratory evaluation of semen.”

We were one of the unlucky couples that make up that statistic. Luckily enough, I can still have sex and have sex drive contrary to the unsolicited advice that the German Ogre gave me.

For reasons unbeknownst to me, my swimmers aren’t that good at swimming. They should really be called floaters and not swimmers. They can doggy paddle(a little)  but they are a far cry from multiple Olympic gold medalist Michael Phelps. If you have ever seen Sperm whales sleep then you might get a better understanding of the problem that lies deep within my testicles.

With my first sperm test, I discovered that I had multiple unexplained issues with my sperm. The quantity was fine it was the morphology and motility that was the issue.

Click Here for the definition of sperm morphology

Click Here for a definition of sperm motility

Infertility Diagnosis

After my infertility diagnosis, I was really embarrassed by the results and took the news badly. For no apparent reason, I was infertile and there was nothing that I could do. I was devastated and so was Olivia.

Here are the parameters for Healthy Sperm – Infertility Diagnosis
Semen Analysis Parameter Normal Values
Volume 1.5 ml or more
pH > or equal to 7.2
Sperm concentration 15,000,000/ml or more
Total motility 40% or more
Progressive motility 32% or more
Morphology 4% or more normal forms (Strict criteria)
Vitality 58% or more live
White blood cells Less than 1,000,000/ml

After the infertility diagnosis, I was given the breakdown of my sperm quality. The motility concentration was around 5%. This was much below the average value of 40%. Motility is the ability of the sperm to move forward and reach the egg for fertilisation. With such a low percentage, the chances of a natural pregnancy are very slim. The next issue that I had was with the morphology. Morphology is the shape of the sperm. There should be about 4% normal rate of sperm. My results were miserably less than 1%.

Infertility Diagnosis

Over the next two years, I visited many fertility specialists and my results fluctuated greatly. I gave five sperm samples over the two years of fertility treatment. Sometimes the results were the same and sometimes they were a little bit better. For my final sperm test before our third IVF treatment, I saw drastic improvements. My motility was almost 20% and the morphology was 2%. I know that this is still below average but it was an improvement. We went through three heartbreaking IVF treatments. Two were massive failures and one was a rip-roaring success. For our third and final IVF treatment, I made a lot of positive changes to my life. You can read about the changes I made here.  I feel that these changes were the reason for the successful IVF treatment.

I will never forget the day when I got the news that I was infertile. It was the 6th of September 2014 and my brother John was visiting from Dublin. It was a beautiful sunny day, so we decided to cycle out to a lake called Tegeler See in the North West of Berlin.

It was midweek and the sun was splitting the stones and my brother and I  pretty much had the lake to ourselves. We were swimming in the lakes clear water, not too far from the shore. I could hear my phone began ringing from the bank. There was no way that I could swim back in, dry my hands and answer the phone on time, so I let the phone ring out. It rang again, and then I realised that it must be important.

I swam back to the beach and saw two missed calls from my Olivia on the display. I called her back and she answered immediately. She was crying down the phone and I couldn’t really understand what she was saying. Eventually, she cleared her throat and explained the bad news that she had received. It looked like I was infertile and we would have to go back to the fertility clinic for more tests.

A dark cloud metaphorically blocked out what was an otherwise sunny day. My body went numb and time seemed to stand still for a couple of minutes. I remember looking at my brother lying on his beach towel and my mind being blank. He was unaware of our situation and I told him that we were trying to have family and it looked like I was infertile. He consoled me and I tried to block out the bad news and enjoy the day with my brother. It wasn’t until he flew back to Ireland the next day that the bad news really sunk in.

Initially, I took it very badly. My first reaction was to give up smoking. The nicotine withdrawals combined with the bad news sent my body into shock. In a matter of days, I got serious flu that lasted for a week. I ended up bedridden and seriously depressed. I barely left our apartment and I couldn’t hide the feeling of inadequacy and shame. Men are put on this earth to reproduce and have a family. It was at that very low moment that I realised how much I wanted a family

After a week of hell and feeling sorry for myself I knew that it was time to get my shit together and do everything in my power to have a family. We decided that we would try IVF three times and if that did not work then we would adopt. I had already hit rock bottom and planned for the worst-case scenario. That was a life without my own children and going down an alternate route. There are thousands of children that need a home. Whether it be a foster child or adopted child I would not stop until we had a family. It became my focus and I wouldn’t rest until I could provide that for my wife.

First things first, we decided that we would give IVF a try. With male factor infertility, ICSI is the prefered method of assisted reproduction.

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29 Irish Girl Names.

Are you looking for Irish baby girl name? Look no further. Here are the most popular Irish girl names in 2018.

Irish Girl Names in 2018 The List of the 29 Most Popular Irish Girl Names in 2018
Position Name Origin Meaning Famous People With The Same Name
1 Emily Emily is derived from the Roman name Aemilia. Striving, industrious or eager Emily Dickinson, Emily Blunt, Emily Brontë
2 Grace It is inspired by Grace and is derived from the Latin name gratia Goodness and generosity Grace Kelly, Grace Jones, Grace O’Malley
3 Ava Form the Latin word “avis” which means bird. Life or living one Ava Gardner, Ava Astor, Ava Lowle Willing
4 Lucy Lucy is the female version of the Latin male name Lucius Light, born at dawn or shiny Lucy Liu, Lucille Ball, Lucy Stone
5 Sophie Sophie comes from the Greek name Sofia Wisdom or skill Sophia Loren, Sophia Bush, Sophie Dee
6 Amelia The English language equivalent of the Germanic name Amalia Industrious and fertility Amelia Earhart, Amelia Vega, Amelia Wagner
7 Emma It is derived from the Germanic name Ermen Whole or universal Emma Watson, Emma Stone, Emma Thompson
8 Mia Of Latin origin, it is a shorter version of Maria Mine or wished for child Mia Farrow, Mia Hamm, Mia Rose
9 Hannah It is derived from the Hebrew name hannāh Gracious, full of grace, mercy Hannah Brown, Hannah Miller, Hannah Spearritt
10 Lily Lily is an English baby name It means flower and is a symbol of innocence, purity and beauty. Lily Allen, Lilly Collins, Lily Tomlin
11 Ella in Greek mythology Ella was the daughter of Athamas and Nephele. It is also a version of the Germanic name Alia Light, beautiful fairy woman and all Ella Henderson, Ella Fitzgerald, Ella Eyre
12 Saoirse Saoirse is an Irish Gaelic female name. It means freedom Saoirse Ronan
13 Olivia An English name that is derived from the Latin oliva “olive” Noble and Loving Olivia Newton-John, Olivia Holt, Olvia Wilde
14 Kate Is an Irish name that is the shortened version of Kathleen Pure and clear Kate Moss, Kate Beckinsale, Kate Winslet
15 Aoife It is the Irish Gaelic version of Eve or Eva Warrior Princess Aoife Macmurrogh, Aoife Mullholland, Aoife Walsh
16 Sarah Sarah is originally a Hebrew name Happy or princess Sarah Jessica Parker, Sarah Michelle Geller, Sarah Palin
17 Chloe Derived from the Greek name Khloē Blooming or Young Greenshot Chloë Grace Moretz , Chloë Sevigny, Chloe Bridges
18 Anna Anna is the Latin version of the Greek name “Ἅννα” Favour, Grace or beautiful Anna Kournikova, Anna Kendrick, Anna Paquin
19 Caoimhe Caoimhe is an Irish Gaelic name Gentle, precious, beautiful Caoimhe Butterly
20 Ellie Short for the Hebrew name Eleanor God or light Ellie Goulding, Ellie Bamber, Ellie Mecham
21 Katie Is an Irish name that is the shortened version of Kathleen Pure and clear Katie Holmes, Kate Bosworth, Kate Beckinsale,
22 Sophia Sophie comes from the Greek name Sofia Wisdom or skill Sophia Bush, Sophia Smith, Sophia Loren
23 Holly  It is taken from the name of the Holly tree It is derived from the old English word Holegn – to prick Holley Rubinsky, Holly Michelle Gilliam, Holly Hunter
24 Fiadh The name relates to an ancient word for wild Wild or dear Fulacht Fiadh*
25 Lauren Female version of the name Laurence Form the place of the Laurel leaves, fierce Lauran Cohan, Lauren Bacall, Lauren Graham
26 Zoe Originally a Greek name Life Zoe Saldana, Zoë Kravitz , Zoe Ball
27 Molly Originally a Hebrew name Bitter in Hebrew Molly Meldrum, Molly McGrath, Molly Kiely
28 Isabelle A Spanish variant of Elisabeth Devoted to God, God of plenty Isabelle Adjani, Isabelle Huppert, Isabelle Fuhrman
29 Robyn Originally a Germanic name Shining, Bright, Famed Robyn Adele Anderson, Robyn Lawley, Robyn Lively,

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The Manduca V Ergobaby are the cream of the crop when it comes to baby carriers. If you are reading this then you are undecided about which carrier is better for you and your baby.

The Manduca is designed with typical high-end German engineering and the Ergobaby is a typically high-quality American baby product.

To be honest there is not much difference in these two baby carriers. They are both comfortable and elegantly designed and come big price tag. This is a short review that details my experience of using both products for over a year. They are both amazing products and you will not be disappointed with either. This Manduca V Ergobaby comparison will help you find out which baby carrier is for you.

Pro’s and Cons – Manduca V Ergobaby Manduca Pros and Cons Manduca Baby Pros and Cons Manduca Pros & Cons Ergobaby Pros and Cons Ergobaby Pros and Cons Ergobaby Pros and Cons Ergobaby V Manduca Features Manduca Features Manduca Baby Carrier Features
  • All materials are 100% organic cotton
  • Comes in an array of colours
  • Produced in the EU
  • It won the 2016 German design award
  • It can be used in multiple positions – chest, hip and back.
  • It has its own special back extension
  • It has an ergonomic hip belt
  • It can be used by shot or tall parents
  • It can be used from 3.5 KG  – 20KG
  • It can be hand washed at 30 degrees
  • Holds baby in natural M position
Ergobaby 360 Omni Features Ergobaby Omni 360 Carrier Features
  • Useable from week 1-36 months
  • Crossable straps give a personalised git
  • Ergonomic forward facing position
  • It’s adjustable for newborns and toddlers
  • Extra back comfort with lumbar support
  • Has a detachable pouch
  • Weight 7-45lbs
  • Machine washable
  • Mothers can breastfeed while carrying their baby
  • Has a sun hood
  • Holds baby in natural M position
Manduca V ErgoBaby Comparision

Scantily Dad Verdict

It was a really tough call but there could only be one winner. The winner is the Ergobaby. I used both carriers with my twins from the third month and it is hard to say a bad word about either product. They are both very comfortable and easy to take on and off. Both carriers are very sturdy and offer great support for both you and your baby.

The Manduca carrier is an elegant piece of German design and is made from 100% organic material. Normally this would have sealed the deal for me as I try to use organic products for my children.

The Ergobaby is not made from 100% organic material but it is slightly easier to clip on and off than the Manduca. This makes all the difference when you are getting your baby ready to leave the house.

The straps on the Ergobaby are also slightly more padded and therefore a little more comfortable than the Manduca.

Baby carriers are perfect for going shopping quickly. Your hands are free and it makes the whole experience much easier. With the Ergobaby you have a small pouch to store your wallet which is very convenient.

The Ergobaby is also machine washable. Any baby product that is washable gets a bonus point in my book.

Ergobaby Omni 360 Carrier Wins

To conclude, the Manduca baby carrier is an amazing product but is just pipped at the finish line by the slightly more comfortable and practical Ergobaby. There is not much in it really. I would give the Ergoabby 95/100 and the Manduca 90/100. The Ergobaby wins but not by much.

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Being a dad is a lot of work. Being a dad of twins is the most labour intensive job in the World. It is up there with being a brain surgeon or rocket scientist in terms of actual hours worked.

Father’s of twins usually work “part-time(40 hours per week)”on their “full time” job. The rest of their time, around 120 hours per week, is spent cleaning up shit/puke, feeding and trying to stop their home being destroyed by a Twinado.

If you are reading this then it is probably too late to be saved. Your wife has had or will soon have twins and your life will essentially be over for a fifth of a century.

3 Scary Truths For Every Father of Twins 1.Your Social Life Is A Fleeting Memory

Do you remember when you used to love painting the town red? When you were foot lose and fancy-free and lived for Friday night? When the banterous Boys nights were unlimited and your life was so much fun? When you have twins those nights will become a distant memory.

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Your memories of a social life will be filed in the memory cabinet beside kissing girls in teenage discos. You remember the good times but the memories seem like hazey fantasies.

Men need to get together and blow off testosterone saturated steam. It’s part of being a red-blooded male. The second you get the news that your wife will have twins your inner social animal is tamed. It’s not an instant process, but rather more gradual, like balding. First, you notice a light patch in the mirror and then within a year or two you look like Pierre Luigi Colina. Insert image.

Social balding is the same. First, you miss a friend’s party. Then two years later on Friday night at 8 pm, you are bathing your twins sniffling to yourself about how you have let yourself go. Your twins have broken you and you fear to leave your house after dark.

2.Bein a Father of Twins Costs The Same Travelling the World for 33 Years father of twins

Becoming a father of twins is like having a 22-year-old Russian Model wife that did not marry you for your looks. All that they want is your money. Nothing else really matters. Twins are insatiable and always need something bought for them. Not only do they demand every drop of emotional attention that you can forgo, but they need all of your money too.

One child could cost you up to €400,000 during their childhood. Multiply this by two and you could buy yourself a nice big house or travel the World comfortably for 33 Years.

3.Twins Use The Same Torture Techniques as Terrorists and Tyrants. father of twins

The Navy seals go through something known as “Hell Week“. They have to run over 200 miles and workout for 20 hours per day. The icing on the cake is that they do this with only 4 hours sleep for 5 days. How does that sound to you? Hard as hell, right?

What have tyrant governments and terrorist organizations twins got in common?

They all use sleep deprivation as a form of torture – James Doherty

Well, those little navy seals have it easy compared to Twin Dads. Try being sleep deprived for 156 painstaking weeks as opposed to 5 measly days. Dads of twins would make perfect spies. You could send a father of twins to North Korea as a spy and have no fear of him giving in if he was tortured. He has undergone torture for years on end and never gave in.

To Conclude

If you are going to become a father of twins your life will become FUBAR – Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition. You will have no social life, be broke and live a life of ongoing torture. If you are already a twin dad then you know the score in the sad dad club. For those that don’t have twins, we will see you in 18 years, if we survive.

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Your life has changed and you’ve taken up the most important role that you will ever have. You have become a father. Whether you wanted to become a dad or not doesn’t matter. You are now responsible for your child’s well being and it is time to up your game.

Don’t strive to be a father but set your aim on being the best dad that you can be. This will take a lot of sacrifices and hard work but it your child’s life is worth it. This post will help fathers to learn how to be a great dad

How To Be A Great Dad? Try These 11 Habits. 1.Don’t worry How To Be A Great Dad – Don’t Worry

If you are a new father then do not worry, you are not alone. For tens of thousands of years, billions of men have gone through the footsteps of fatherhood and raised amazing children. You are living proof of this evolution. Being a father feels unfamiliar at the outset but if you put in the work you will soon find your feet.

2.Be Patient With Your Children How To Be A Great Dad – Be Patient with your children

Being a dad will test your patience. You will have to deal with new experiences like sleepless nights, teething and temper tantrums. These are part of growing up and you have to be tolerant of your children.

Patience is one of the greatest virtues that you can bestow on your child. The best way to teach your child patience is by being patient yourself.

3.Do Night Feeds How To Be A Great Dad – Do The Night Feeds

When your baby is a newborn your wife/girlfriend will be under massive pressure. This is accentuated by the sleep deprivation that comes from night feeds. You can start by doing alternating night feeding shifts to ease the load.

Britains leading expert in sleep science Dr Jim Horne says that women need more sleep than men. Helping with night feeds will make your partner’s get more sleep which will make your life easier.

4.Change Your Babies Nappies How To Be A Great Dad – Change Your Babies Diaper

The day’s of mothers being the only ones doing parenting duties is gone. To be a great dad you have to roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty. It is a thankless job that your baby will never appreciate but it comes with the territory of being a dad.

5.To Be A Great Dad You Must Be There For Your Wife How To Be A Great Dad –
Make your wife croissants and coffee in bed.

Your relationship came first and is the cornerstone of your family. You have to do everything in your power to protect your wife. Help her around the house, cheer her up when she is down and listen to her attentively when she speaks.

Compromising and catering to her needs will help your relationship. A happy relationship creates a stable home for your children.

6. Become The Best Provider You Can Be How To Be A Great Dad – Become The Best Provide You Can Be

When you become a father your whole outlook on life changes. You are now a provider for your family. There needs to be enough food on the table and all their basic physiological needs are taken care of.

You children also need to feel safe and secure at home and feel the love from their parents. To be a great dad, you will need to work harder to provide a prosperous future for your children.

7.Make Time For Your Children How To Be A Great Dad – Make Time To Hang Out

Being a father and working full time makes time for your children very precious. You need to strictly manage this precious commodity and make sure you have enough time for your children.

There are 168 hours in a week. You need to spend at least 20-30 hours with your children. For example, every evening from 5.30-8.30, Saturday from 8-1 and all day Sunday are family time. Time with your children is the most important thing you can give them.

8.Read To Your Children How To Be A Great Dad – Read To Your Children

Reading is one of the best things that you can do for your children. It is easy to do but it is also easy not to do. The benefits of reading are massive for both you and your child.

The easiest way to incorporate reading into your child’s life is by setting a bedtime sleeping routineReading to your child will become a habit and it will help you on your way to being a great dad.

9.Sing To Your Children How To Be A Great Dad – Sing To Your Children.

Along with reading, singing is a great way to bond with your child. Singing has numerous benefits including improved literacy and emotional intelligence for children. It is a really fun way to educate your child and teach them something that will last a lifetime.

10.Be Affectionate With Your Children

Modern fathers are not scared to be affectionate with their children. Children crave affection and touch from their fathers. This form of bonding establishes a trust that is associated with happiness in later life. Don’t worry what the World thinks about displays of affection. Being affectionate with your child will help your child to be happy and healthy. Being affectionate is part of being a great dad.

Thanks for reading. Are there any other ways to be a great dad that I have left out?

If you can think of any then let me know in the comments below.

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https://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-news/do-women-need-more-sleep-men

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2013/09/30/5-benefits-of-reading-for-kids_n_4018741.html

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Being a parent is the most important thing that you will ever do. It is also the hardest thing that you will ever do as there is so much expected from you on many levels. Babies put a lot of pressure on your relationship and you can never switch off. To make life easier you need a partner to help you when things get tough. To make sure you have a strong relationship you need to work hard on babyproofing your marriage.

Babyproofing Your Marriage Here is a list of ways to babyproof your marriage: 1.Don’t bicker over small things

When you have a baby it is normal to have disagreements. Your life has been turned upside down and your rhythm is out of sync with sleep deprivation. You will often find yourself bickering over small things which do not really matter. Take a step back and look at the situation. If the disagreement is pointless then stop and make up.

2.Resolve issues quickly.

If you do bicker and argue then you should solve issues as quickly as possible. Do not let things turn into something bigger that will cause you more stress. You have enough pressure in your life with a baby so fights with your spouse should be resolved as quickly as possible.

3.Don’t hold grudges

After an argument, it can be difficult to let go despite having resolved the issue. This unhealthy for your family. Holding a grudge will cause you more harm than good.

4.Don’t keep score

Keeping score is very unhealthy for you and your family. It can be tempting to keep track of all the things that you have done but avoid this at all costs. Keeping score means that you are on different teams and playing against each other. You are on the same team and you need to communicate if you need help.

Babyproofing Your Marriage – Don’t Keep Score. 5.Talk

Humans are social creatures and conversation is key to baby proofing your marriage. If you are having any problems, fears or doubts then discuss them without the fear of judgement. Talking openly is the best way to resolve any issues you are having.

6.Admit when you are wrong.

This can be hard for both men and women. It takes a lot of courage and bravery to admit that something was your fault. To baby proof your marriage you have to admit you were wrong. This will help you to resolve issues quicker.

7.Don’t compare your life to anyone else

Social media has a negative impact on many relationships. People compare a small window of peoples lives that they see on social media and get a false impression of how they live. Social media envy is a real thing and comparing yourself to other families is not a realistic way of rating your life. Compare yourself to yourself yesterday or last year. You have control over your own life and if you are improving as a spouse and parent then you are doing a good job.

8.Make time for dates

Really making time for your marriage is one of the hardest parts of babyproofing your marriage. Your days are consumed by your new family and you feel that you have no time. You need to make time, at least once per month, for date night. You will be surprised how much spark a date will put back into your relationship.

Babyproofing Your Marriage – Make Time For Dates 9.Have fun

Parenting and marriage do not have to be dull. Make it fun. Ensure that every day you do something fun with your spouse and children. Play games, sing songs or watch a nice movie together. Spending time having fun with your babies is one of the best ways to babyproof your marriage.

Babyproofing Your Marriage – Have Fun Whatever Way You Can. 10.Do things as a family

At least once per week, go out and do something together. Cherish the time that you get to spend together as a family. Every Sunday, do something nice like go for a walk, go to the Zoo or enjoy a nice meal together. Turn off your smartphone and be 100% present with your loved ones.

11.Practice gratitude

Keep a gratitude journal and write down the things that you are grateful for. At the top of that list should be your family. Really take time to think about them and how lucky you are to have them. Do this every morning when you wake up every morning when you go to bed. This will help you to realise just how lucky you are.

Babyproofing Your Marriage – Be Grateful For What You Have. 12.Get enough sleep

Sleep deprivation is a big issue for all parents. To really combat this you have to force yourself to get to bed earlier and nap whenever you can. There are times when this is impossible but trying to sleep as well as possible will help you to babyproof your marriage. When you are well rested you are less likely to fight and you can make better decisions.

13.Put things in perspective

Your children will not be babies forever. This is just a short phase in your life that you will have to learn how to manage. Enjoy the time, however stressful it is. You will look back on it in the future as the most beautiful time of your life.

14.You are not alone

Despite sometimes feeling alone you are not alone. You are in this together as a team. For your family to be happy you need to ask for help when you need it. It is okay to rely on your partner for support.

Babyproofing Your Marriage – Show the Love 15.Realise that men and women are different

It can be hard for men and women to be objective and realise how different we are. Sometimes we try to understand why our partner is acting in a different way and we can’t figure it out. Don’t try to understand it, just accept it as it is.

16.Keep a journal

We are all imperfect in our own way and that is what makes us all unique. Sometimes our actions or behaviour can upset our spouse and we need to take note of this. Realising that our actions upset another person and doing something about it shows that you love and respect your partner. If your spouse says that you doing something bad then write it down and take time to work on it. Doing this will help you to understand what upsets your spouse and will help you to change your behaviour. Such foresight and compromise will stop fights before they even start.

17.Don’t forget to laugh

Laughing is an important part of life. Make sure that you laugh and joke with your wife and your kids. Laughing is good for your soul and sharing funny moments together is a great way to baby proof your marriage.

Babyproofing Your Marriage – Don’t forget To Laugh 18.Turn off your phone

When you are spending quality time with each other you need to do it without the constant interruption of your smartphone. When you go out for dinner or are spending any quality time together then do it without the intrusive notifications of your phone. This will help you to be present and live in the moment.

Babyproofing Your Marriage – Turn Off Your Phone 19.Give each other breaks

Being a parent is tough work and you need to spend some time away from your family. Men need male bonding and women need a girls night out to relieve the stress. Make sure that you make time for yourself away from your family.

20.Have Sex

After you have a baby, sex is often the furthest thing from your mind. You are stressed, sleep deprived and under pressure. Not the ideal conditions for passion. Making time for intimacy is one of the greatest ways to bond with the love of your life. Regular sex will help you to baby proof your marriage.

Babyproofing Your Marriage – Don’t forget your sex life A summary of babyproofing your marriage

To baby proof your marriage you need to be more understanding, have more fun and communicate better. Sounds easy, right? Well, it’s not. It is really hard. Why do you think the rate of divorce is so high? The reason marriages crumble under the pressure is that people do not work hard enough on it. A great marriage/relationship does not just happen, it takes hard work. Consistent hard work over a very long period of time.

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