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A year ago, I felt like I made one of the hardest decisions of my life. I ended a six year relationship with someone who I envisioned my entire life with, had a Pinterest board for our future wedding and was pretty much crushed when it was all over.

As hard as it was to close that chapter in my life, it may have been one of the best things that could have happened to me as a young adult. Not because my ex was anything awful to me, because he really wasn’t. It simply was because through the challenges of learning how to move on, I found myself, learned to love myself and grew into the person I believe I’m meant to be today.

The truth is, breakups suck. They hurt and there were many moments when I wondered if I’d ever heal but I’m here to share it does get better, all it takes is time. This is my story, how I conquered it and hopefully my experience can bring that light at the end of the tunnel for you. I’m sharing what’s helped me in hopes that after you read this, you can find your path to healing too.

Cry It All Out

You’re human! And anyone who tells you that shedding tears are any signs of weakness is either insensitive or simply ignorant. Crying is healthy, liberating and when you’re done, you’ll feel a whole lot better! Take this moment to lay out the pros and cons, accept there were amazing memories but understand why it ended. We often underestimate the power of reflection with empathy, and although it may not come easy, it’s these moments that help us grow.

Surround Yourself With Friends

See these girls up here? Or even the ones all over my IG stories, 24/7? Those are truly my best friends for life. Before I made that heart wrenching decision, I gave all my girlfriends the heads up about a choice I felt like I needed to make and simply said, “I’m really going to need your support,” because at the time it felt like a choice I didn’t think I could over come without a support system so close to me.

Being by their side as I healed enlightened me because your friends SHOULD be your damn life cheerleaders. Your friends are there to tell you all the amazing things you didn’t know about yourself, what you have to offer to the world and remind you of how amazing you truly are. That’s everything my friends did for me over countless brunch dates, brow appointments and nights in — and out! Good people are out there to help you and it’s times like these that really bring people who are meant to be in your life a lot closer.

Slowly build your own routine

It takes a breakup to sometimes realize how reliant you become of a person and I’ll admit, I was once that girl who was guilty af of this. Transparently, mornings were rough for me when the break up was all fresh. I remember wondering if this was all just a bad dream that I couldn’t wake up from. But after a month of the self pity, I realized that routine got draining, so I started looking into healthy distractions.

Across my searches I found an ad for a personal trainer agency; and developing a healthy lifestyle seemed like the perfect healthy distraction to me. A year later I’ve been super focused on my health like no other and the return of investment has been truly unreal. I adopted a new routine where I mediate daily, work out 3-4 times a week and slowly transitioned to eating super healthy thanks to my trainers and nutrition coaches!

If you’re in a slump, I’d suggest looking into doing something that makes you happy, and once you discover what that is, do lots of it! When you begin to consume a huge chunk of your time doing positive things, it brings your mind to a place of peace… or at least it did for me.

Cut all ties… ONLY, when you’re ready

Cutting all ties is probably the toughest part. Some do it right away, others do it slowly over time. I remember how many people wanted me to do it immediately, but I believe that we know when that time is “the time” for us. Keeping your ex on social media and watching their photos, or stories pop up on your feed DOES in fact make it a lot more difficult to move on, and it may potentially trigger thoughts of the past, but this is your breakup and your life. When you chose to eliminate all traces of a person, is up to you.

Date and Learn

Same with cutting all ties, you’ll know when you’re ready to get back out there. But when you do, just know there might be encounters that are awful, great and some that were good but simply weren’t meant to be. Just because you just got over a breakup, it doesn’t mean you won’t hurt again, and I think I’d be lying if I told you otherwise. Take each new encounter as an experience and be patient because this is the part where you learn what you want in your ideal partner.

I’ll Leave You With This…

Some days will be harder than others and at times it may seem like this phase of aching and reminiscing will never end, but I promise you it all does get better. And perhaps the people we are searching for to be with, are out there too searching for us, but until then I believe we need to continue working on loving ourselves enough that when that special someone comes along, we can truly love them too.

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Happy Valentine’s to all my readers! As a part two of our Valentine’s Day collab, my good friend and amazing love coach is back for some advice for those of you who are in a relationship! Melanie dives deeper on things to know in a relationship while giving some awesome insight on growing the love you have for your significant other. Read on to learn more!

In a relationship? Here’s a few things to know

So you got yourself boo’d up this Valentine’s day…and maybe looking for some insight how to make it the most magical one, yet?…look no further! Whether you’re newly in love or been with your person forevs- V-day is a good reminder on showing our loved ones what they mean to us!

For those that have been ‘taken’ for a while…

This V day learn how to make it feel like the beginning, again and again…forever & always! One thing for sure, no matter how long you’ve been with your person, there’s a certain magic to the beginning of any relationship. There’s always this pivotal moment where “we can’t sleep, can’t eat…” AKA ‘the high of falling in love’, out of pure joy for our new relationship.

Valentine’s day is purrrfect for sparking that feeling. How? Well, despite the flowers, candies and lingerie – the ignition of the spark, isn’t in any of that! The gifting is AMAZEEEE; but it’s the feeling of giving and receiving that actually is of importance. So before you run out and buy a box of Lindor’s on your way home to your sweetie, try and take a moment to reflect on the beginning.

What was the first thing you gave to your person that truly sparked magic in your partner? Connect with your heartspace and consider what made it pure magic. Bringing an element of the beginning to the now will ignite that ‘spark’. Without getting too science-y…when we activate the feeling when thinking of a memory, our brains can’t tell the difference if it’s actually happening or not. If you meditated on a memory, you’ll know what I mean. All the tingles, sensations and good vibes surround you in that moment. Therefore, by reactivating the feeling with a special meaning, it’s kinda like reliving it over again. So finding what really sparks pure love for your partner and vice versa can bring TRUE RE-connection into celebrating this V-day! WHAAAA? How lucky would you be to really fall in love with your partner over and over again? By thinking and re-enacting? Yep, just like a 6 year old with a wild imagination pretending to be a pirate, you too can pretend and experience it again. If you feel the spark has fizzled…I encourage you to give this one a go.

ANDDDDD the best love advice I ever received…

A married couple of over 40 years shared, “give without expectation and learn appreciation”. Sometimes, (especially women…hey, I am fully guilty of this too, ladies) expect a lot from their guys and we set the bar HIGH!  Men however, despite what we believe are very simple creatures. They are logic and no nonsense. We always try to make 50 shades of grey to their words and behaviour into a hiding meaning, but TBH they usually say/do what they mean. Because of this we may throw a tantrum because he got cardinals instead of roses because they were red and had to make a pit stop at Loblaws …this was likely the first flower he saw. (Logic ladies, he needed bread milk & flowers -all in one stop…he just saved time, to get to you quicker! AWWW how thoughtful).  If you made a stink about it and you’ve been together a while, he’ll know never to do THAT again! But men WANT to make us happy, they want to do things to ‘conquer’ our love. Your job is to receive with open arms and appreciation! After all, the thought truly is the valuable part of the gift.

Another piece of advice is to just allow and not worry about the receiving. In fact, I would focus on how to treat your partner too! Remind yourself what you love about your guy and focus on putting a smile on his face! Give without expectation. Don’t expect a reaction, don’t expect a better gift from him… just find joy in giving. The key to his heart isn’t the gift at all. It’s how you hold yourself, your values, your standards…and your happiness! I love love (this is why I do this!) and I LOVE being in love, staying in love and GIVING. It excites me and this is why I became a coach. In fact, an ex told me my passion for giving was actually what drew him to me most! This is a day where you can truly give and receive without pressure. Life brings enough of responsibilities in relationships, doesn’t it? So overall just allow, have fun and count the blessings in having your partner to spend this special day with. 

For those looking for a proposal on Vday

I do have clients that are eager to get next level with their person and sometimes they are disappointed because they’re looking for tactics or magic communication tools for a quick result. The truth is, I work opposite of that in my coaching. My advice for getting anything in any relationship is very simple. Let’s go back to you. The basics. Why do you want this from your partner? What is the worst if it doesn’t happen? Was this a standard you had when you met them? We’re you open in your communication with them? 

Sh*t gets deep reaaallll quick….but one underlying theme is we uncover that the ‘thing’ they’re trying to get isn’t truly what is going to bring them ultimate fulfillment. Without going into too much (as each individual is different) one big KEY is whatever it is you want, you have to feel and KNOW you are worthy of it. And if so, then you can trust it will happen. If you knew your value and you weren’t getting your needs met, then you are the ONLY person in that relationship that can change it.

I offer one-on-one love coaching for singles, couples & those in the dating world. If you want to work with me, feel free to visit http://www.liveloveyours.com/

With Love,

XO Mel

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If you really think about it, our pillows are the closest thing our faces and hair get pressed against every night. When the hair experts around me started speaking of the benefits of investing in a silk pillow case, I was intrigued and didn’t want to fall into a fad because if I was going to make this a part of my routine it was going to be with purpose. It was then that I knew I had to start doing my homework!

After being gifted silk pillow cases by @thatnaplifezzz and completing a ton of research, I learned all the perks that well, made it worth it for me to keep a part of my bedtime routine! Read on to learn why opting for a silk pillow case may benefit you and why it’s much more than a simple luxury.

This Fabric Maintains Hydration

Silk is a super fabric. While many other materials such as cotton absorb lots of the skincare we apply onto our face and good natural oils, silk naturally fights against that. Here’s how I see it: you spend all that money on your evening skin care routine, why let it go to waste?

It’s A Cleaner Option

Did you know that silk has properties that naturally fight against dust, fungus and mold? This was news to me! It’s nice to know this is quite the clean material, also while knowing that this fights against different types of allergens too.

It Protects Your Hair

I always thought bed head was cute because I’m a fan of textured, messy looking hair, but turns out it’s not v good for the locks. With a silk pillow case, you’re lowering the risk of knots and tangled while helping avoid split ends and breakage.

Long Term, It Fights Against Wrinkles

Silk has this gorgeous texture that your face can glide on. Anything else unfortunately isn’t as forgiving for our skin. When we wake up with those textured lines on our faces from pillows, that may seem like no harm but over time can lead to fine lines and wrinkles.

It makes sense to me! We should always be gentle with our skin starting with the pressures we use to apply on our products, to the things we press it against.

Looking to add this gorgeous luxury into your bedtime routine? Check out @thatnaplifezzz to pick up yours for a happy price point today!

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A year ago, I felt like I made one of the hardest decisions of my life. I ended a six year relationship with someone who I envisioned my entire life with, had a Pinterest board for our future wedding and was pretty much crushed when it was all over.

As hard as it was to close that chapter in my life, it may have been one of the best things that could have happened to me as a young adult. Not because my ex was anything awful to me, because he really wasn’t. It simply was because through the challenges of learning how to move on, I found myself, learned to love myself and grew into the person I believe I’m meant to be today.

The truth is, breakups suck. They hurt and there were many moments when I wondered if I’d ever heal but I’m here to share it does get better, all it takes is time. This is my story, how I conquered it and hopefully my experience can bring that light at the end of the tunnel for you. I’m sharing what’s helped me in hopes that after you read this, you can find your path to healing too.

Cry It All Out

You’re human! And anyone who tells you that shedding tears are any signs of weakness is either insensitive or simply ignorant. Crying is healthy, liberating and when you’re done, you’ll feel a whole lot better! Take this moment to lay out the pros and cons, accept there were amazing memories but understand why it ended. We often underestimate the power of reflection with empathy, and although it may not come easy, it’s these moments that help us grow.

Surround Yourself With Friends

See these girls up here? Or even the ones all over my IG stories, 24/7? Those are truly my best friends for life. Before I made that heart wrenching decision, I gave all my girlfriends the heads up about a choice I felt like I needed to make and simply said, “I’m really going to need your support,” because at the time it felt like a choice I didn’t think I could over come without a support system so close to me.

Being by their side as I healed enlightened me because your friends SHOULD be your damn life cheerleaders. Your friends are there to tell you all the amazing things you didn’t know about yourself, what you have to offer to the world and remind you of how amazing you truly are. That’s everything my friends did for me over countless brunch dates, brow appointments and nights in — and out! Good people are out there to help you and it’s times like these that really bring people who are meant to be in your life a lot closer.

Slowly build your own routine

It takes a breakup to sometimes realize how reliant you become of a person and I’ll admit, I was once that girl who was guilty af of this. Transparently, mornings were rough for me when the break up was all fresh. I remember wondering if this was all just a bad dream that I couldn’t wake up from. But after a month of the self pity, I realized that routine got draining, so I started looking into healthy distractions.

Across my searches I found an ad for a personal trainer agency; and developing a healthy lifestyle seemed like the perfect healthy distraction to me. A year later I’ve been super focused on my health like no other and the return of investment has been truly unreal. I adopted a new routine where I mediate daily, work out 3-4 times a week and slowly transitioned to eating super healthy thanks to my trainers and nutrition coaches!

If you’re in a slump, I’d suggest looking into doing something that makes you happy, and once you discover what that is, do lots of it! When you begin to consume a huge chunk of your time doing positive things, it brings your mind to a place of peace… or at least it did for me.

Cut all ties… ONLY, when you’re ready

Cutting all ties is probably the toughest part. Some do it right away, others do it slowly over time. I remember how many people wanted me to do it immediately, but I believe that we know when that time is “the time” for us. Keeping your ex on social media and watching their photos, or stories pop up on your feed DOES in fact make it a lot more difficult to move on, and it may potentially trigger thoughts of the past, but this is your breakup and your life. When you chose to eliminate all traces of a person, is up to you.

Date and Learn

Same with cutting all ties, you’ll know when you’re ready to get back out there. But when you do, just know there might be encounters that are awful, great and some that were good but simply weren’t meant to be. Just because you just got over a breakup, it doesn’t mean you won’t hurt again, and I think I’d be lying if I told you otherwise. Take each new encounter as an experience and be patient because this is the part where you learn what you want in your ideal partner.

I’ll Leave You With This…

Some days will be harder than others and at times it may seem like this phase of aching and reminiscing will never end, but I promise you it all does get better. And perhaps the people we are searching for to be with, are out there too searching for us, but until then I believe we need to continue working on loving ourselves enough that when that special someone comes along, we can truly love them too.

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My countdown to the warmer days has already started, but as I wait for Mr. sun to come back and grace us with his tan and warmth, I have a few products that have been helping me combat the look and texture of dry or dull winter skin.

Glow is my signature makeup technique as a makeup artist, so I’ve rounded up a few of my current picks that I use  find ways to maintain a summer glowy complexion no matter the season!

Summer Fridays Jet Lag Mask

It’s a mask I can’t escape from seeing on my feed, and it’s for a good reason! This potent hydrating mask offering amazing instant hydration for all skin types. While fighting against dryness, it offers an instant cooling effect. I love bringing this with me while I’m traveling or on the go as it can also be served as a multi-functional product ex: under eye mask, hydrating face primer, etc!

Jergens Firming Tanning Lotion

It’s a beauty cult favourite! This lotion is the perfect way to achieve sun kissed skin in the most low maintenance way possible! It’s transfer proof and it doesn’t develop into an orange tan finish which is why this guy is a re-buy all year round!

Becca Backlit Primer

Becca Sunlit Bronzer

The shade, Ipanema Sun is in my makeup bag but select one that gives your skin tone its best bronzy glow.

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Whether we like it or not, the count down of the hot summer days are numbered as the cooler days nearly approaching!

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