Speaker & Public Speaking Coach. I'm one of the public speaking coaches in Central Oregon. If you are looking for help with public speaking and wondering how to find a good public speaking coach, I'm happy to talk with you on the phone. I help people to deliver memorable speeches
You know, more than anybody else, what you are truly capable of. Yes it’s a journey to close your performance gaps but it’s one that I’m asking you to take a stand for. That’s self-leadership.
Between my violin career and my speaking career, I’ve made hundreds of videos. There’s nothing more confronting than seeing yourself on video!
I’ve put a lot of videos out there of me in my B & C-Game knowing that sometimes imperfect action is better than no action. I put those videos out there knowing that I’ve said “yes” to the A-Game journey.
Last week, I put together an A-Game video (it’s my demo). I felt very emotional as I was making it. I knew in my bones it was going to be an important video. I felt vulnerable about exposing my inner secret publicly on video: what I know I’m truly capable of.
The growing pains were worth it.
So if you do find yourself in your C, D, or F-Game, take a look at how you are leading yourself.
Are you leading yourself or avoiding the journey?
Are you taking imperfect action as part of the journey?
Are others starting to see what you’ve know all along: what you are truly capable of?
Pipe dreams are a window into what you are truly capable of. They are a vision, a feeling, and an inner dialog of potential waiting to happen. Without us honoring them and taking action, that potential lies dormant. A character in a fiction book I read found it cruel to not water the houseplants. That idea has certainly made me conscientious! You? Are you going to honor your pipe dreams by watering them or poo poo them?
I was doing a journal writing exercise earlier today and the prompt was to write about enthusiasm. With regards to enthusiasm, I discovered that it’s very easy and natural for me to feel incredibly enthusiastic about other people’s pipe dreams. It’s so easy to see the potential of their pipe dreams because you’re not in their head experiencing all of their limiting beliefs!
I asked myself if I could feel unbridled enthusiasm for my own pipe dreams in an authentic way without forcing. That’s my current #challengeaccepted. Will you join me?
I’ll be honest, my default pattern is to play life in my B-Game. You? Isn’t it easier that way? Maybe it’s a relief to coast at work because your personal life is stressful… Maybe you coast in your personal life because work has been so stressful… Maybe you choose your B-Game because it matches your salary…
My default B-Game story comes from my childhood. Okay I’ll be dating myself here but the truth is that when I was in K-12, it didn’t matter how well I did in school. I could always marry someone with money! My brother on the other hand was held to a much higher standard! I was a B student by choice. I had my own standard so I did the minimum to keep up the 3.0 GPA. Why bother to be an A student?
After decades in the performing arts, I know now that I have to be in my A-Game! But it never happens without the preliminary moan. That said, I’m always grateful afterwards when I’ve put in my A-Game effort.
What’s the story that you tell yourself that keeps a lid on your potential?
I was 16 years old when I auditioned to get into the Philadelphia Youth Orchestra. In addition to being an awkward teenager, my heart was racing and and hands were all sweaty. While I was in the warm-up room taking my violin out of it’s case, the violin slipped right out of my hands and crashed onto the tile floor! The good news is that the violin didn’t break. The bad news is that I was completely shaken up and I did a terrible job at my audition.
The fear of experiencing embarrassment at my auditions became what defined me over the next decade. Because I hadn’t yet defined what my A-Game is, that performance fail loomed BIGGER and took over. Once I could define my A-Game, I could make it BIGGER than my performance fails and stand in my power! This is why I’m so passionate about helping people to own their A-Game!
How can your A-Game play a bigger role in your life?
In this video, I talk about how performance and leadership are interwoven into one.
Attaining high performance starts with the self leadership. Once you’ve gained mastery and expertise, your high levels of performance become influential, whether or not you are trying to be influential. The question is, what will you do with your influence?
A week before a very important speaking engagement, I went out to a networking event. My friends who know me well told me how animated, lit up and engaging I was. They felt energized just hanging out with me.
The truth? I wasn’t really feeling well. I had a long term stressful situation with my Mom’s declining health and it had taken it’s toll on me. I realized that what must be working for me was my preparation for my upcoming speaking engagement and how I would start every day practicing my elocution exercises.
There’s something quite unexpectedly good about practicing your pronunciation with a bunch of tongue twisters and honestly, you won’t believe me until you try it.
Your challenge is to read these out loudevery day for at least one week and notice how it shows up when you least expect it to! I know that you’re going to notice a difference with how you own your A-Game!
How to Own Your A-Game by Letting it Roll Right Off Your Tongue - YouTube
If you heard a violinist perform without heart, you would describe them as not being engaged, not showing up as a leader, and in need of some serious performance improvement.
In this DisruptHR talk, as a retired concert violinist I will show you how to “get into” your work like a musician “gets into” the music. You’ll define how you engage, lead and perform at your peak and then activate that in your heart where the electromagnetic field is 60 times greater than the brain.
Like an individual employee, an individual musician in an orchestra is limited but the collective creates outstanding results when everyone is engaged, leading and performing at their best. How can businesses experience off the chart results if each individual got out of their head and into their heart?