Biz and Theresa are back together again and wonder why we feel like vending machines. Maybe it's because we spend all day being the giver and taker-away of all good things. A child will relentlessly ask for stuff and we have to say "no" so many times a day, then occasionally we say "yes" because we're tired of saying "no!" Then saying "yes" opens many new terrible doors (When! Now? Now? Now?) and the "yes" just feeds this fire. It perpetuates the idea that we are the providers and they should keep constantly asking for things because sometimes we'll say "yes." And now the machine has eaten my dollar! GIVE ME MY NUTTER BUTTERS! Plus Biz shares some science, Theresa is all signed up for camp and we welcome back Lisa Kenney of Gender Spectrum to talk about the importance of incorporating gender inclusive materials into schools’ existing puberty and health education curricula.
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Biz and Theresa ponder the hardest question we have faced yet, “So, you are stranded on a desert island and you can only bring things your kids like. What do you bring?” Who will prove the greater survivor!? Plus Biz is probably having a wonderful time, Theresa can’t even have "me" time at 4am and we talk to Meenal Patel about her children’s book Priya Dreams of Marigolds and Masala.
Biz and Theresa are packing our bags for Camp Mom! Camp Mom…an exciting opportunity to save money and spend quality time with your children! It's as easy as staying up after the kids go to bed and outlining a syllabus of science, art, and movement activities that children of any age and any interest level will totally be into. Don’t forget meals! Be it Mom, Dad, a sitter, a grandparent or the dog next door, the counselor is in and doesn’t want talking after lights out. Plus Biz gets parenting tips and Theresa has a reminder.
Biz and Theresa explore the pros and cons of our kids sharing good news with each other. “I know you got a goody bag at the party but how about you don’t tell your brother?” “I am so proud of you for your hard work on your project. You deserved the prize you got. Don’t tell your brother!” How do we find the balance of celebrating good news with our kids while avoiding the jealousy and greed that often follow? Plus Biz tells it like it is, Theresa isn’t going to pack a snack and we talk to trans and queer artist Noah Grigni, illustrator of Theresa’s new book It Feels Good To Be Yourself.
Biz and Theresa unpack their emotional baggage around actual packing. When did going on a three day trip turn into packing for an expedition to the Amazon? The amount of stuff we absolutely need to bring with us weighs heavy on the soul, not to mention the airplane baggage limit. Plus Biz returns from the Midwest, Theresa fills her mind, and we talk to Jessica Love about her new picture book, Julián is a Mermaid.
Biz and Theresa wonder what is up with pirates? Real pirates are known for theft and murder, but every other kid has a pirate costume. (And, let's face it, they're adorable.) From swordplay to walking the plank...I guess we're all culturally cool with our kids admiring and identifying with this one particular violent and morally-corrupt lifestyle. LOL! But yeah honestly we're fine with it, guys. Getting a group of kids to yell "ARRRRRRGH!" never gets old. Plus, Biz kisses camp goodbye, Theresa masters the morning, and we talk to Angela Garbes about her new book Like a Mother, A Feminist Journey Through the Science and Culture of Pregnancy.
Biz and Theresa explore the complicated nature of receiving gifts from our children, from edible treats to physical affection to artistic renderings. How do we celebrate these occasionally misguided and even off-putting but nonetheless heartfelt gifts without sacrificing...oh, I don't know, our human dignity? HA! Are we really required to eat the thing that the 4 year old is calling "pancakes?" Plus, Biz feels like a fair ride, Theresa is ready for stuff to start getting easier, and we talk with Alissa Quart, author of SQUEEZED: Why Our Families Can’t Afford America.
Biz and Theresa explore our desire to prove to others that we’re doing enough as parents. Regardless of what we’re going through with our kids, when someone tries to be helpful by saying, “Have you tried...xyz?” it can leave us feeling like all our efforts are invisible. So...that’s a thing! Plus, Biz wonders “Who those people are?,” Theresa has been shocked, and we speak with author Rumaan Alam about his new novel That Kind Of Mother.
Biz and Theresa wonder what "nagging" really is. Do we just want to keep our kids happy and comfortable or is “nagging” just another word used to belittle women? We know that developmentally kids need help remembering what they need, from keeping hands clean to dressing for the weather to staying safe. But at what point do we need to let go and hope they learn on their own from experiencing discomfort? Hint: NEVER! Plus Biz has a Bad Reputation, Theresa accepts some stuff, and we talk to Kate Rope about the importance of mental health as part of more traditional things to expect when you are expecting in her new book Strong As A Mother.
Renée Colvert from the hit MaxFun podcast Can I Pet Your Dog? joins Biz to discuss the question, "Will having dogs prepare me for being a parent?" Is this question insulting, laughable, or does it actually hold some elements of truth? Maybe a little of all three! Plus, Biz discovers a new level of hell and Tugboat is in the house!