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Pierre Trudeau – that’s Justin’s dad to you, kid – was a busy man in 1969.
The world was a complicated place and he was just in his second year of what would become a 16-year reign as Canada’s Prime Minister. Nevertheless, he took the time to address students then and today in a letter that remained buried until this week. It was found when a Vancouver elementary school unearth a time capsule that had been untouched for 50 years.
The letter, “to the students of 1969 and of 2019,” touches on the big issues of the times – the prospect of nuclear disaster, civil rights, and breakneck technological advances, like landing on the moon. In many ways, the topics are as prevalent today as they’ve ever been. Except instead of the moon, we’re trying to colonize Mars.
Pierre Trudeau writes:
“Writing this message in a week that has seen man’s first hesitant step on the moon, I would be foolhardy to predict the conditions of life on this planet in fifty years,” wrote Justin’s dad.
“I am sure that, barring a nuclear catastrophe, the astounding progress in technology which we have experienced over the last half-century will continue and probably accelerate.”
“I only hope that it will be matched by similar progress in man’s historic struggle for freedom and justice in all parts of the world. The achievements of the students of 1969 and of their successors in working towards these goals will be their most important legacy to the students of 2019.”
Check it out:
I dread recalling what kind of idiotic flotsam we donated to the dirt in our elementary school time capsule.
That’s right, the Women’s National Basketball League is (probably) coming to Canada. The Toronto Raptors (NBA) and Toronto Blue Jays (MLB) are the other two local franchises who represent the sole Canadian outpost in their respective leagues.
While filing paperwork by no means guarantees that Toronto will be represented in the world’s most competitive women’s basketball league, there are no indications that the application will be rejected.
More challenging will be to name the as-yet-unnamed franchise. What you don’t want to do is leave such a decision in the hands of the public but, alas, that’s exactly what will happen. Of course, the last time fan voting played a major role in Canadian basketball, the Raptors were born. This is mostly to do with the fact that Jurassic Park was the most popular movie at the time. I guess Toronto’s WNBA team name, if chosen today, would be… the Toronto Spider-Men. Or, better yet, Spider-Women. Not bad, actually.
More importantly, unlike Raptors games, you’ll actually be able to afford watching professional basketball in the city.
Season and single game tickets will be very affordable, that's a promise!
The Calgary Stampede is, first and foremost, about getting unbelievably inebriated.
However, organizers of this year’s event – on now until July 14th – are being very particular about which legal sources of intoxication will be tolerated.
Translation: Guests are not allowed to smoke weed at the 2019 Calgary Stampede. Alcohol, of course, is encouraged in abundance. But what’s really peculiar is that the event will cater to tobacco smokers.
“For the comfort of all guests, smoking of tobacco, e-cigarettes or other products that produce a vapour or smoke are allowed only in designated smoking areas. Marijuana (for medical purposes or otherwise) and illegal drugs may NOT be consumed on Stampede Park property,” reads the event’s Terms of Entry.
It should be noted that those who are caught smoking marijuana won’t be fined or euthanized – like the animals bringing this pageantry to life – but will instead be asked kindly not to.
So why not just offer designated cannabis smoking areas as with tobacco? “We’re just following suit with the City of Calgary bylaws and as a public gathering place for the community and a real focus on families, we’ve decided not to apply for a special event licence,” Calgary Stampede spokesperson Jennifer Booth said.
Ah, yes, darts and moonshine – real pillars of a healthy family environment.
But ok, whatever, it’s their event and they don’t have to allow cannabis if they don’t want to. The real problem, and where it gets legal, is prohibiting the use of cannabis for medical purposes.
“Leaving the site to medicate is not always an option for people who are severely ill,” said Gordon Hayes, director of events with the Calgary Cannabis Club.
A summertime scenario: You arrive at home from the grocery store with a case of cold ones, sober, ready to fire up the ‘cue with a couple buddies. Ninety minutes later you’re ON THE WAY TO JAIL.
While it’s an unlikely scenario, Canada’s current drunk driving laws leave room for the possibility that you can be charged for intoxication while operating a vehicle despite not actually doing that at all.
The matter was brought to light by a since-deleted tweet from Justice Canada:
That means police can charge someone who was driving sober but managed to get themselves drunk within the following two hours.
It should be noted that it is highly unlikely – perhaps even illegal – for the cops to crash your BBQ and start dropping DUIs. Justice Canada clarified the intent of the law in a follow-up statement after the tweet generated significantly raised eyebrows:
“As far as the law goes, under the old laws, drivers could argue they could beat an “over 80 mg” charge if they had several drinks right before driving because the alcohol wouldn’t affect them until after they drove. The new laws cover this situation and drivers can be convicted if they have a blood alcohol concentration at or over 80 mg within 2 hours of driving.”
You may remember the intricacies of Canada’s drunk driving legislation having recently played out when a court ruled that a B.C. woman’s rights were violated when police forced her to take a breathalyzer at home two hours after driving.
With over 23 years of experience in the art of cheese making, Afrim Pristine is Canada’s premier cheese expert and owner of the Cheese Boutique.
Afrim is the only Canadian to receive a”Maitre Fromager” title, an honour awarded to those who demonstrate exceptional cheese knowledge and recognized within their community by France-based Guilde Internationale des Fromagers, an exclusive association representing more than 5,000 dairy professionals worldwide. He is among the youngest people in the world to claim this title on his resume.
Including this honour, Afrim was also the youngest Canadian recipient to the “Chevalier,” a distinction from the Confrérie des Chevaliers du Taste Fromage de France (March 2007), following an upgraded status to “Officier du Fromage” in April 2010. He was also awarded a Top 30 Under 30 award in the Food Industry by Ontario Hostelry Institute.
You don’t become one of the world’s most knowledgeable fromagers overnight. From studying with some of the world’s greatest cheesemakers like Luigi Guffanti, Stefano Sarti, Carl Schilt, Jean-Paul Morin, Afrim has also had hands-on training from his father and world’s most renowned dairy farms. Cheese runs in Afrim’s family. The Cheese Boutique, a fromagerie located in the West End, has been a family business for 48 years.
Afrim’s success has grown beyond the four walls of his business. He’s also collaborated with some of Canada’s top chefs and restaurants including Momofuku, Langdon Hall, Canoe, La Palma, Scaramouche and Piano Piano to name a few. He’s worked with chefs such as Michael Bonacini, Mark McEwan, Daniel Boulud, David Chang and Lynn Crawford. We had the chance to catch up with him to learn more about his fascinating life journey with cheese.
Tell us 3 things we don’t know about you.
I did 5 years of speech therapy at Sick Kids Hospital from the age of 7-12 because I had a bad stutter. I was mocked by my peers because of this for years – it was a tough time in my life. The therapy helped and now I speak in front of large groups of people.
I despise mayonnaise, I’m actually terrified of it.
How did it feel when you received the title of the youngest “Maitre Fromager”?
It felt pretty amazing that I accomplished this. It was an honour but an even bigger duty. I felt that I needed to prove myself even more and set bigger goals in my career.
When did you realize you wanted to be exclusively dedicated to the Cheese Boutique and all things CHEESE?
I was around 18 years old when I realized that I wanted to help my father in the business and give my all to the Cheese Boutique. This business has given me every opportunity in life, so I felt I had to pay it forward and assist my father with growing the business. I love what I do, genuinely.
What would you tell your 20 year-old-self?
I would tell myself that I don’t walk on water or cure cancer: I sell cheese and good food and I make people happy. I used to take myself WAY to seriously and could be too intense. I’ve matured over the years by realizing to not get pissed off if we run out of bufala mozzarella. It’s ok, it’s just cheese at the end of the day.
What’s your favorite cooking secret?
Use simple ingredients, cook with love and put lemon on everything.
You have several kinds of cheese names after your dogs, especially Henry; how did this idea come about?
I like to have fun and I love to combine my passions. I love cheese and I love dogs, so why not bring those both together? Life is too short.
What is on your ideal charcuterie board?
1 hard cheese, 1 goat cheese, 1 creamy cheese, 1 blue cheese, 3 different cured meats, Marcona almonds, crusty bread and pickled vegetables and I’m a happy camper.
Everything needs to come from the Cheese Boutique as well. I don’t like surprises.
What is you best recipe for success?
Strong drive + strong work ethic + surrounding yourself with talent + forward thinking = success
Do you have a wine region or grape you are into these days?
I love anything from Burgundy (white or red), and also Brunello. I think champagne is overrated.
What are some upcoming exciting projects on the horizon?
To make the Cheese Boutique the best it can be. I’d also like to work on more off-site caterings, and perhaps a second cookbook. I’d also consider opening up a food bar and cooking studio. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
Keep your eyes out for Afrim’s first cookbook “For the Love of Cheese” that will hit shelves in October 2018.
One minute, what might have began as a mutual swipe right has evolved into something more – countless dates, that warm sensation muddling your mind with serotonin-infused infatuation, the mounting realization that you can (happily) tolerate another human for many consecutive nights at a time. You meet each other’s friends, you leave a toothbrush at their place and you even delete all dating apps off your phone – you have officially entered the realm of early-relationship bliss.
Of course, eventually the ‘honeymoon phase’ will naturally run its course, and while that’s not to say everything unravels, it can often be a turbulent adjustment within new relationships. Suddenly, you may realize that this person who could do no wrong a few months ago, actually possesses the capacity to annoy you (imagine that!). You may realize that you make the bed in the morning, and your partner often doesn’t bother. You may even notice that they like to talk (constantly) during movies or – dare I say it – during your weekly viewing of GOT. Maybe they’re a loud chewer, maybe they snore, or perhaps they frequently forget to text back during the day – or hell, maybe it’s you that’s guilty of these things.
The point is, as I’m sure anyone who’s ever been in love (or watched a rom-com) knows that it can be a complicated experience. There is simply no easy equation or formula that can be applied to the continuous marriage of two lives and personalities. And whether we admit it or not, we are (often) inherently stubborn creatures ruled, in part, by habits and tendencies we might not even recognize in ourselves, that can quietly undermine those intimate attachments we form over time.
Over the past few years, I’ve made something of a name for myself writing on topics of dating and sex. I was the happily, notoriously single woman forging a career for herself in the city, going on dates but not necessarily finding something (or rather, someone) that stuck. That is until I did. And now, almost a year into a new relationship, I find myself on the other side of the coin. My penchant and predisposition for commentary on modern dating culture and sexuality have evolved to include a newly rejuvenated understanding of love, and what it takes to cultivate it long-term. My partner and I are very different people, in many respects, and despite the strong connection and intimacy we share, there are countless times where we may as well be speaking entirely different languages.
Love languages, that is.
“What’s your love language?” I asked him one night in bed a few months ago, only to be met with a resounding blank stare. “What do you mean?” he countered, and I launched into an enthusiastic breakdown of the 5 Love Languages, formerly popularized by author Gary Chapman.
The thing is, when I asked that question, I already had an idea of the answer. I am all words of affirmation (shocking, a writer who likes words) and acts of service, while my partner is decidedly physical touch. But, what does that all mean? What are these love languages, and do they really matter?
Unsurprisingly, the success of long-term relationships can often be whittled down to a shared ability (and willingness) to communicate effectively. Simply put, the longevity of love is never innate or guaranteed. It will always be put to the test. Stress, disagreements, emotional barriers and general set-backs are inevitable truisms of life –, especially in the romantic sense. Ultimately, a couple’s ability to face these moments head-on, with open dialogue and a willingness to meet their partner half way and find actionable compromise or solutions, is where the ‘magic’ happens (if you want to call it that). Of course, much of learning how to communicate effectively ties back to our ability to recognize what our partner needs and how they communicate, in order to bridge the gap, so to speak. This is where those love languages come into play.
As humans, we all express and experience love in different ways. These ways – or rather – languages, are vital to our lives and happiness within the relationships we keep. Oftentimes, we naturally show love the way we wish to receive it, and what makes you feel loved isn’t necessarily the same for your partner. Taking the time to understand your ways of expressing love, as well as your partner’s, will allow you to forge new paths of communication and love each other in the way you both need. So, let’s get down to it… what are these five languages, and what do they say about you?
1. Words of Affirmation
To be clear, those who have ‘words of affirmation’ as their primary love language don’t just want to be assaulted with a daily barrage of compliments. It goes much deeper than that. These individuals need to hear their partner say “I love you”, or use words to express sincere feelings of appreciation, approval and closeness. Those verbal or written sentiments and assurances you share with them carry a great deal of weight and have the potential to build them up (or tear them down).
Little notes, thoughtful messages and open, heartfelt conversations go a long way, in this case. These individuals are also more likely to be communicative in nature, and continued verbal connection and affirmations will help to ‘fill up their cup’ throughout the relationship. In my case, I am a strong communicator and inherently open and straightforward, but that also means I want to talk through, well… everything.
2. Quality Time
In this case, watching Netflix together (or sitting across from the dinner table, glued to your phone) won’t quite cut it. This love language is all about giving your partner your undivided attention. No TV, no buzzing Instagram notifications or distractions… it’s about truly honing in on each other and your connection (whether through conversation, a shared activity, creating something together etc.). In this sense, love is communicated not passively, but assertively through direct interaction and connection – shut out the rest of the world, pause and treat your time together as a precious commodity.
3. Receiving Gifts
This person loves the thoughtfulness and effort that goes into a gift. No, this isn’t a fancy term for a ‘sugar-baby’ relationship or the blueprint for a materialistic romance, these individuals simply feel that actions speak louder than words. Picking the right gift, one that truly resonates and feels special, shows that their partner understands them and invested effort into expressing their love. It’s not about the cost or value of the gift, it’s a symbol of thought “they were thinking about me’, “they remembered me”, “that was so thoughtful”. For many, this an incredibly important and meaningful expression of love, and they will likely hold onto these gifts as an intimate reminder of your connection.
4. Acts of Service
Similar to the ideology behind receiving gifts, those who speak this love language seek out the opportunity to ease the burden of responsibility placed on those they love. In simpler terms, they will go out of their way to help their partner by relieving daily stress, positively contributing to their life in some way, or just making them feel good (and supported). This could include helping out with chores (without being asked), breakfast in bed, packing a lunch, offering to help with work or an assignment. These individuals want to be your ‘ride to die’ so to speak, your ultimate support system, and love providing (and receiving) thoughtful acts of service to those they love. In this case, speaking to affections isn’t enough – they crave a partner who takes the time to get things done that helps to lighten their burdens and positively impact their daily life.
5. Physical Touch
Let the PDA begin. Those who speak the language of ‘physical touch’ thrive on physical connection with their partner. From holding hands to hugs, affectionate contact and displays, a massage or a kiss, these individuals want their partner to be intentional in the way that they express their love physically. This is a rather direct way of communicating love and can speak volumes to many partners. Even simple touches will help to ‘fill up their cup’ so to speak, allowing them to feel content, appreciated, loved and reassured. These partners may struggle with affirming their affections vocally, preferring instead to express their affection through touch.
It is also important to not push these individuals away when they are attempting to make physical contact (of course, this is speaking to a healthy, non-oppressive relationship). If they are reaching for you or trying to establish a physical connection, they likely feel that they need that reinforcement and affection at that moment.
Toronto, home of the only Canadian basketball team in the NBA, has often been considered less-than-hot spot for free agent players.
You would think that winning an NBA championship earlier this month would improve on that reputation.
Alas, that is not so – according to former Raptors Lou Williams, anyway.
Williams recently spoke on a podcast about his time in Toronto, a one-year stint four seasons ago in which he was a fan-favourite and took home Sixth Man of the Year honours. It started off on a positive note: “Toronto’s a dope organization,” Williams said.
He then went on to say what’s pretty much been said of Toronto since the franchise was founded almost 30 years ago, despite having one of the biggest markets in the league, not to mention unparalleled organizational stability and competence. “I don’t think they’ll ever sign free agents up there. The problem they’re going to have is trying to keep guys there,” said Williams. “By the fourth or fifth month into the season, you’re just like damn man, I wanna go home.”
And why is that? Buckle up.
Here are 5 reasons why Lou Williams thinks playing in Canada is a nightmare:
1. You feel like you’re playing overseas
2. Little shit you don’t think of, like the channels on your TV
3. Your phone bill
4. You gotta get a f*cking Canadian bank account
5. If you have kids, you’re raising your kids in Canada
If all that doesn’t have you wishing for a life in Cleveland…
It should be noted that Lou Williams is currently a member of the Los Angeles Clippers, a team highly touted to challenge the Raptors in signing Raptors free agent Kawhi Leonard this summer.
Urban Dictionary defines a ‘spoiler’ as “when someone reveals a previously unknown aspect of something which you likely would have rather learned on your own.”
We live in a time where people live-tweet on their favourite television shows and Instagram about the latest hit movies, all the while talking openly about cliffhangers and shocking twists. It can be challenging to keep from spilling the beans.
Many questions come to mind about this phenomenon of oversharing, among them: Is it okay to give away spoilers, or should you let people find out for themselves? What is the appropriate amount of time to wait before speaking openly about the latest movie or hit TV show episode? Is it the responsibility of those who have not yet watched to avoid these conversations or should everyone just be more mindful about offering their opinions when they haven’t been asked for them?
With today’s on-demand services and streaming platforms, entire seasons of shows can be dropped overnight, much to the delight of dedicated viewers everywhere. However, this also opens the gate and promotes the release – intentional or not – of spoilers more than ever before.
Below are tips on how to avoid being criticized as an unsporting spoiler.
Blatantly Yell, “SPOILER ALERT!” Before Tweeting, Talking, Texting or THINKING About a Show or Movie.
Contrary to what some may think, there is a world outside of television. Whatever the reason, people may not have the time to watch an episode or movie as soon as it is released; it may take a day or two to catch up. We get it, new developments and shocking twists are exciting, but it is essential to practice kindness towards your fellow viewers and give a heads up – “spoiler alert!” – before potentially ruining something that they were looking forward to experiencing themselves.
Wait AT LEAST One Full Week Following the Airing of an Episode or Movie Release to Freely Discuss it in Public.
We live in a world where an entire season of a show can be released simultaneously (for example, Orange is the New Black or Black Mirror). While some may be able to sit back and binge watch, others may have responsibilities that conflict with their ability to keep super up-to-date on their favourite shows. It should be just plain good manners to wait at least a week before discussing these matters in a public.
Always Ask Someone Whether or Not They Have Seen a Movie/Episode Before Discussing It.
Asking someone’s viewing status before entering a discussion of a movie or TV show is the most effective method to avoid unwanted spoilers. If the person you are speaking with is caught up, then, by all means, feel free to debate fan theories, predictions, etc. Just make sure that everyone else within earshot is also caught up so you don’t inadvertently ruin it for them.
Quoting a Show is the Same as Spoiling It.
You can use all the excuses you want; including “I didn’t say who said it!” and “Trust me. I didn’t ruin anything!”
Quotes from a show are major contributors to plot development. We want to be surprised. Stop quoting!
Knowledge of the Book is Not an Excuse to Spoil a Movie or Show.
Saying “it happened in the book!” does not entitle you to ruin things for everyone else. If you do accidentally spoil something that you did not intend to, take the adult high road and apologize instead of criticizing someone for not reading the novel. Even though people did not read the book, it does not mean that they cannot enjoy the movie or TV show based on it.
Historical Fact is Not a Spoiler.
If you are unaware that 330,000 French, British, Belgian and Dutch soldiers were safely evacuated from the beaches of Dunkirk, that is your bad. You have had 79 years to learn that and figure it out. Fact is fact and although movies and shows sometimes alter storylines to fit a specific plot, historical events that have actually happened are free game.
Keep Common Sense Alive
The concept surrounding spoiler alerts is self-explanatory. It is as simple as practising common sense. If something has been released recently and is widely known to be popular or highly anticipated, do not discuss any major plot points or twists until people have had a reasonable amount of time to see it for themselves.
Keep in mind that outside factors such as jobs, family, social responsibilities, etc. may impact one’s ability to watch an episode or movie as soon as it is released.
To my fellow introverts who relish nights spent at home on the couch, cuddled up in sweatpants and blankets with your cat and avoiding contact with other humans, we must appreciate that most people have commitments in the outside world.
It is understandable to be excited and invested in a particular TV show or movie franchise, and also desire to talk about it. However, it is important to be aware of others when participating in such discussions and be empathetic to those who may not have watched a particular episode or movie or share your enthusiasm.
Most of us would never intentionally spoil something for someone else. If you do – spoiler alert – you’re a jerk!