Our third annual gala, the “Grateful Gathering”, New Life’s primary fundraising event, is set for Friday, November 2, at The Junior League of Houston. Guests will gather for an elegant evening including a delightful dinner, silent and live auctions and an inspiring program based on our theme “Unmasking the Beauty of Adoption”. Our goal is to bring a deeper understanding to our guests about the beauty of adoption from the heart of the birth parent who has made some difficult and painful decisions to make that adoption possible. Proceeds from this event are critical to our ongoing effort to provide support, hope, and choice to women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy.
Every day is filled with the unexpected. We make our to-do lists. We wake up expecting our day to go as we planned. But it doesn’t, because interruptions that we never saw coming invade our lives and usher in the unexpected.
For some of us, the unexpected is a pregnancy. For others, it is the heart-breaking news of infertility. Fear, shame, and loss permeate the hearts of both of these circumstances.
We must remember that our unexpected is never unexpected to God. We might wish we could go around a situation, under it, over it or be delivered from it. Sometimes God’s plan is for us to go through it- because that is what is best for us. We never walk alone.
Jesus always walks with us through our disappointment. Through our heartaches. Through our unexpected. He restores our wonder. He leads us to something better. He is the one who helps us remember that although it is happening to us, it doesn’t mean it is about us. He wants us to know that disappointment is a place we pass through, never a place we stay.
Moving through whatever we are facing isn’t merely about surviving until it’s over. Through unexpected circumstances in life- both bad and good- we have the opportunity to trust God. He’s called us to a life full of joys and sorrow, battles and celebrations, success and failures. God wants us to learn how to accept every unexpected event as an invitation to trust Jesus and His word, to expect His goodness all the way through.
Trusting Him is a process. It’s the ongoing journey called life! It’s a cycle we repeat daily, hourly, minute to minute, that leads to growth. Each time we go through the cycle, we grow, we’re stronger, more mature. Every single one of my experiences, both expected and unexpected, is never wasted in God. He has used them in my life to prepare me and give purpose to my future. What is God teaching you right now in the unexpected?
“Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in for us, making prayer out of… our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.” Romans 8: 26-28 (The Message)
Musings and excerpts taken from Unexpected: Leave Fear Behind, Move Forward in Faith, Embrace the Adventure by Christine Caine
“Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.” Ephesians 3:20
After four years of pain and disappointment through our battle with infertility, we were finally broken enough to accept His plan for our lives. Why did we have to watch in agony as friends and family all grew their families on their own timeline? We may never know the full extent to His plan, but we now know that he was leading us down a path of adoption (not once, but three times!), forcing us to trust in Him for His plan which has turned out to be infinitely better than my mind could have imagined. Once we were still enough to listen, he clearly guided us to New Life and years of sorrow were erased as we held our dear baby boy, taking him home on Mother’s Day! With each adoption, God has illustrated His intentionality by giving us clear signs that He has chosen each of our boys specifically for us. “…you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!”…we are children of God, and if children, heirs also, heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ…” Romans 8:14-17
It is hard to comprehend the strength the women on staff at New Life Adoptions have – to be able to handle our roller coaster of emotions as adoptive parents while at the same time consoling a heartbroken young woman who has just experienced one of the hardest and most painful events of her life. Observing how they handle the adoption experience is both encouraging as we witness their true Biblical servanthood and humbling as we think about how insignificant most of our daily activities are as compared to the life-changing kingdom work that these women are doing on a daily basis.
As we delight in the joy of our three boys, I often think about how different their life might be as we go through the smallest of daily activities. At meal times I wonder if they would have gone hungry that night. At bath time my thoughts drift to whether or not they would be clean or clothed. As I ponder how drastically different their lives might be, I am reminded of my earthly and eternal blessings through an adoption by my heavenly Father, all which have been given to me by His grace and through no works of my own doing.
When this journey began I never imagined such a diverse family, but I know that God chose each one of our boys for us. It is impossible for anyone not to notice how unique our family is, but it is a blessing to be presented with opportunities to share our story. Onlookers are quick to comment how lucky our boys are to have been adopted into our family, but they’ve got it all wrong – these same people could never imagine how desperate my heart was for Matthew, Luke and David or comprehend how much more of a blessing they are to me than I am to them.