I can’t tell you that I have been making my bed each and every day since we got married a little over 27 years ago? Making my bed for the past 10 years first thing in the morning makes a big difference. It makes a big difference in my bedroom, my attitude and in my husband’s attitude.
Let me tell you why I make my bed each day.
Reason #1 The bedroom looks better. That is easy enough. There might be a pile of clothes in the corner but when you walk into the bedroom and see the bed made, you don’t see a room falling apart.
Reason #2 You can leave your door open when you have guest over. Our bedroom doors are the first thing to close when guest arrive. The reason is that we don’t want anyone to see how messy it is. Your door can be left open if your bed is made and know your bedroom will be fine if someone happens to get lost and end up in there.
Reason # 3 Makes my husband happy. This is the truth. A made up bed makes the hubby happy. I normally roll out of bed when his shower starts. I immediately turn and make the bed. When he get’s out of the shower he has a made up bed. I don’t know if it is because he likes the room to be organized or if it is because he wants it to be a place of refuge for him but either way, it makes him happy and I will keep doing it.
Reason #4 You sleep better when you make your bed. That is the truth. If you take time and straighten the sheets and pull them tight, fluff the pillows and get the sheets straight, you will rest better. You will climb into bed and feel comfortable. Even if you are not going to make your bed in the mornings, give this one a try even if it is right before you go to bed. You will see the difference, that I promise.
Who wants to come home to a messy bedroom?
It is a simple task, not one that takes much time but makes a huge difference in your outlook on the day. 5 minutes of your morning is all it takes. Studies have shown that people sleep better, have a better outlook during the day and desire to come home quicker if their bedroom is was clean. Who wants to come home to a messy bedroom?
Gregg and I just celebrated our 28th anniversary. That is 1460 weeks. We didn’t date every week, but we came close. In this post, I wanted to share some Hot Date Night ideas for married couples. We have to make dating a priority or the years will pass by quickly and you will lose touch with your spouse.
I think back to when we got married and the undertone that people really didn’t think we could make it. Some days, that thought would cross my mind and I would quickly dismiss and focus on what is true. What was true is I loved my husband and it was God’s plan for us to keep this unity together. So keep us unified and passionate for each other, we dated!
Here are 5 Hot date ideas that we love doing.
Hot date idea #1
We love to do a dessert date night. I don’t know if it is because we love sweets or if it is the effects that Chocolate has on your mind and feelings. But which ever it is, a dessert date night is a fun night. One of our favorite locations is the Melting Pot. You can go to the Melting Pot and have dessert only. The fondue is romantic, sexy and fun.
Hot Date Idea #2
Picnic in the park. We are so blessed in Louisville to have so many parks in our city. It is so easy to pick a park and not go back to that one for a long time because there is so many to choose from. Going to a park is a place you can block out the noise. Find a quiet part of the park, pull out the blanket and just sit. Side by side, shoulder to shoulder and talk. Enjoy the outdoors, the smells of nature and the openness to let your conversation be real and deep. It also leads to a lot of cuddles and kisses.
Hot Date Idea #3
Hot dates don’t have to be in the heat of the summer. (sorry for trying to be a little bit funny) During the dead of the winter or a rainy summer night, light up your living room. Build a fire in the fireplace or light a bunch of candles to enjoy. Pull out the blanket and have an indoor picnic or dessert. Put on a classic movie and snuggle together. We love Pretty Woman, When Harry met Sally or if I let me hubby pick, then Iron. (he would say that is a true love story)
Regardless of the Hot Date Idea that you choose, the most important thing is that you take time, plan time together, get ready for the time together and then don’t let anything get in the way of the date. (unless it is life or death).
Marriage is hot & dating your husband should be hot.
Can you share ideas that you might have tried that would be fun for all of us to hear? Leave a comment with your Hot Date Idea.
My little cotton top, a ball of energy baby boy is now grown up to be 25! Can you believe it? 25! Where did all the time go? It is so true when you hear the days are long but the years are short.
This guy entered the world with so much joy. He was the best little one and had the most laid back personality. His sister spent many hours entertaining him while he was in his bouncy seat.
I have watched him grow over the years and grow into one of the finest gentlemen I know. yes, I am biased but it is true I tell you. Since I already sound like a proud momma, can I just bend your ear just a little longer and tell you 25 reasons why I love this boy of mine?
25 Reasons I love my birthday boy
Just to set the standard…. He is an amazing cook!
He is kind to strangers
He has a heart that expands to make room for others
Here is one to make you jealous…. He takes his mom out on lunch dates.
He loves to work with his hands and not be idle.
Values family relationships.
He can communicate his opinions with passion and clarity.
He loves shoes and that is a trait he learned from his Granny.
He thinks like his daddy. Very strategic.
He is fearless and is protective.
He respectfully challenges my views and helps me think through tradition vs truth.
Stay with me… 1/2 way there
He would give his last possession to a stranger if there was a need.
He is SO realistic. This sometimes is annoying but I am glad someone is realistic in our family.
He strives to be fair to all.
His peers testify of his true friendship.
He is a dreamer.
Amazing with little children. This one melts my heart.
He is strong and meek all wrapped up in one.
Able to always lose his wallet or keys at our house but never anywhere else. Love the fact that he is still like a little kid.
Is the most responsible guy but when it comes to locking his keys in the car while it is running still makes me laugh.
The best gift giver around. He thinks out each gift and searches high and low for the perfect one.
Determined to see a task to the finish line. Amazed at how he has persevered through school and keeping focused on the goal.
Takes time to answer my calls when I call and chat with me over just little things. Except for this week! Pick up your phone young man!!
This one I prayed for the past 25 years and will still continue to pray.
He is a man of integrity.
Birthday boy, you are a joy to our lives and we are so thankful we became your parents 25 years, 9 months, 2 weeks and 1 day ago. You are your momma’s buddy and your dad’s, bub. We are so proud to be called your Mom & Dad.
What to do when your kids go away from the Faith they were taught
I am probably writing this and at one point each of you probably have had either a panic attach thinking about this or lived through your children trying to figure out their faith. I honestly can say, I don’t have an answer that fits all situations and also I am still walking through this with our children. So, please don’t think this article will be an “Oh Yeah” moment. It is going to hopefully be one that encourages you and challenges your thinking.
Encouragement for the Weary Parent
I have two children, both in their mid to late twenties. I am so thankful for the fruit I am starting to see in their lives and them working out their faith. I have had many evenings & mornings where I find myself praying for them. Praying and begging God to give me confidence that my children are followers of Christ. I know for me, I wanted to see mountain top experiences with my children but it seems like we spend more time climbing the mountain and usually on the rocky side. Let me share with you some encouragement that has helped me be a better mom and follower of Christ.
Encouragement, not a solution
Prayer: Simple word, hard to commit to. Are you a fixer? I am. I try to fix everything. I have had to learn I can’t fix my children’s relationship with the Father. All I can do is talk Christ and communicate with Him my heart. Commit to pray for your children.
Pray for them. Be sure you are praying for their walk with Christ to be authentic and not what you think their walk should be like.
You are not their Holy Spirit: This was a “coming to Jesus moment” when I finally released my children to Christ. I think I heard my husband over 100 times telling me that I was a helicopter mom. I tried to make my children’s lives comfortable, easier, and problem free. I was so wrong.
You can’t be your children’s Holy Spirit. You have to train up your children and teach them God’s commands then let the Holy Spirit be in control of their lives. It is a huge release when you finally take that step and trust God to be the one to direct your children.
Model your faith, don’t preach it. Deuteronomy 6: 4-9 teaches us to Love the Lord Your God with all your heart, mind and strength. It tells us to love Him alone. This will overflow to your children. They will see the joy you have, the faith you have and the peace you have. Also they will see that overflow into service to others. This is probably the biggest encouragement I can give you is to Love God will all you have. Live out your faith by your actions and then use words if necessary.
Hopefully these encouragements will be ones that help make navigating through your children trying to define their faith easier and comforting. When our kids walk away from the faith they were taught doesn’t mean they are not believers, it possibly just could be they don’t express their faith the same as you.
Back to School
Save Money by Simplifying your routine
You ask me how a routine can help you save money? I am a real example of how you can waste money by not being on a routine when your kids are in school. I look back when my kids were in school and I see a big difference in our household when I was running a more simplified routine. I could also tell a difference in our cash flow when I compared the weeks.
Here are ways that I found help save our money by me just making our routine simple
1. Making lunches the night before: Plan ahead and make the lunches the night before. If you don’t, you might not have any control of your time the next morning and you will have to dish out money to have your kids eat lunch at school. It has been a few years since my kids ate lunch at school but it was $3 when they were in grade school. If it is $3 a day, that is $15 a week and $60 a month. That is a lot of money especially if you have multiple kids in school.
2. Menu plan for your breakfast and evening meals: I know how hard it is to get to and from all the events that you do as a family and eat at home. Menu plan around your calendar. Pick meals to cook that will not stress you out. You might need to cook a large meal on the weekend and have left overs one night during the week or if you know you will be getting home around 7:30 p.m. choose a sandwich and soup night. If you pick up fast food for a family of 4 twice a week, you could spend $20 each time which would be $40 a week and $160 a month. Wow. That is just on meals that you really don’t enjoy and not that healthy for your family.
Planning ahead = Saving money
3. Fill out forms and permission slips the night before. This might not seem like something that will cost you money if you don’t fill out the forms on time but believe me it cost. It will cost you gas and time to run up to the school to take the forms to your child because you don’t want them to miss out of an event or field trip. This is the ultimate to “the things we do for our kids”. If you work, you might even have to clock out and lose work time to go run something to their school. This is a cost that is hidden and never really thought about.
All three of these I have done and done over and over. I have learned by my mistakes. Hope this is just a memory jogger to the veteran school moms and a little bit of wisdom to the new school mom.
Over at Gentle Homemaking, I shared an easy breakfast casserole recipe that we do when we are in a hurry. I love it because you don’t have to let it sit over night and it doesn’t take to long to make. This recipe is too good to not share with you guys as well.
We love having guest in our home. Sometimes we have guest that stay at our home on the spur of the moment. When this happens, you need to have breakfast for them for the morning. I have learned over the years not to stress out over this detail. If you make you guest feel welcomed they will love anything that you fix for them. Even when I am in a hurry, this easy breakfast casserole is great for guest.
Easy Breakfast Casserole
If your house is like mine, it seems like a revolving door a lot of times, in which I love. So with knowing that any given evening I might have a guest staying with us, I have started keeping certain ingredients in my freezer for this fast and easy breakfast casserole.
Here is what you need:
7-8 large eggs ( I use egg whites as well if I don’t have that many eggs on hand)
8 slices of white bread. (I keep a loaf of bread in the freezer just for this recipe)
2 cups of chopped ham ( I keep this in the freezer as well just for this recipe)
2 cups of shredded cheese (I keep this in the freezer just for this recipe)
1/2 of milk
Salt & Pepper to taste
Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Oil 9 x 13 casserole dish with non stick cooking spray.
Take the frozen bread and cut the crust off each piece. They cut into cubes. Place into casserole dish. Place in microwave for 45 seconds to get warm and soft. This will help with the quick absorption of liquids.
Whip the eggs and egg whites together and season with salt and pepper. Add the milk and stir.
Spread the 2 cups of ham over the bread cubes and follow with the 2 cups of cheese.
Pour egg mixture over the bread cubes.
Cover with foil and bake for 30 minutes. Uncover to check. You will see firmness in the center. If still “wet”, leave in for another few minutes, checking every 5 minutes.
Place under broiler for a couple of minutes to brown the top.
Serve with a wonderful cup of coffee and juice
This recipe can also be put together the night before and place in the refrigerator to be cooked the next morning.
Summer is here and families are planning trips before the kids head back to school. Traveling with kids is great times but planning has to take place to make the trip memorable and successful. I can remember when my kids were little, we would plan our yearly trip to the beach and I would start weeks in advance planning. Planning the travel, the place to stay, the activities as well as what to wear on a daily bases. I think I might have went a little overboard in this area. We had daily schedules. Over the years I have relaxed but there are many tips that I followed then that I still do today.
I think this is probably the biggest part of making your traveling so much easier. Prepare for your trip. Don’t wait until the night before to start packing and getting everyone ready. Use the week before to gather and pack . Here is a quick list of what I do before a trip.
Put together a travel folder. In this folder I put our travel itinerary such as airline tickets, cruise tickets, etc. I also put our passports and any other official documents that is needed. Confirmations of hotels, condos & prepaid activities. This puts everything in one place.
Make a packing list for each person in your family and place it on the refrigerator or somewhere that everyone will see the list and possibly help you gather the items needed to be packed.
Put suitcases all in one room. I use an extra bedroom or the laundry room. Have them available to start packing throughout the week. When clothes are washed, then fold and put in suitcase. I keep them all together, that way I can see if I need to share space with another or if I can combine two into one.
Night before the trip
The night before I make sure my folder is complete and I have all the documents we need to travel. I place this folder in my purse or carry on bag. That way it is with me and not packed in a suitcase. Before I head off to bed, here is a few tips that I do the night before traveling.
Layout everyone’s travel clothes. This makes the morning easier and it ensures that no one will be digging into the already packed suitcases.
Make sure each child has a back pack packed with activities to do while traveling as well as a snacks. If flying, I always pack an extra change of clothes in the backpacks as well.
Have your toiletry bag laid out to where it will be easy to put the last minute toothbrushes, shavers, etc in it to pack in your suitcase.
Vacation day is here! I think I get so excited each time I wake up and it is time for us to head out of town. Still today, when it is usually just Gregg and I heading out of town together, I get excited. Over the years, I have relaxed and I have not stressed as much about the schedules once we got on vacation. But let me share a couple of bits of wisdom that I have learned over the 28 years of marriage.
Vacation starts as soon as the house door is shut and locked. If you want ice cream on the way to the airport, why not, you are on vacation. Don’t wait until you arrive at the destination to start relaxing.
The goal is to connect and reconnect to your family when on vacation. Don’t be the one to stress everyone out. Enjoy life together and remember you are not on a schedule. You are on a journey to make memories together with your family.
If you have forgot something, don’t panic. There is always a store that will have what you need, or UPS can deliver it. There is very few items that a doctor, delivery service or Walmart can’t help you get anywhere in this world.
The biggest tip I have is, enjoy your family. Make memories that they will talk about for days and it is not about the amount of money that you spend on your trip but the amount of laughs and time you have with each other.
For more tips, Janell at Saving you Dinero wrote a blog post several years ago about how she travels with her young children. It is really good, Click here to read her article.
Summer is here. Is the words I’m bored already coming out of their mouths? With this economy, many families are looking to do activities that are FREE or inexpensive while doing a staycation or even when they are traveling to their vacation. Even the families that are traveling for vacation are taking time this year to look at activities that are available in that location that would be FREE or cheap to do. Here is a few suggestions on what your family can do this summer that hopefully will not put a big dent in the budget.
Free Events to enjoy
Home Depot Kids Workshops. Home Depot offers how to clinics for kids the first Saturday of each month. The kids get to create a great project and get a free Home Depot orange apron. Click here for more details.
Bass Pro Shops Family Fun: Your children can enjoy activities such as the shooting range, s’morse cookout, the laser gallery and so much more. You can visit their site here to get more details and find the nearest Bass Pro Shop to you.
Apple camps: Does your kid love computers? Apple is doing summer workshops for kids ages 8-12. Apple has several workshops, Movie workshop, music workshop, photo workshop and presentation workshop. Click here to find out more and register.
Kid’s bowling: Kids bowl for free is a program that allows kids to bowl two games a day at selected bowling alleys for free. Click here to see the nearest center.
Fee Free Weekends at our National Parks: Our national parks are giving a Fee Free Weekend once each month. Click here for more information.
These are just a few suggestions that you can do with your child this summer. Take advantage of these great activities and enjoy your time with the family.