My name is Florence Olufemi-Ojo. A lot of people also know me as Itunu, which is my Nigerian name. I am Nigerian by birth but I’ve been practically raised in Ireland. So for me Ireland is home. Welcome to mouldedinsideout : Lifestyle, Culture, Beauty &Travel Blog.
You guys should know me by now, I love reflecting and the majority of my blog posts have been inspired by conversations I have had or by people I have met or by events I have attended. I am a reflective person and I cannot seem to help myself. Shared in this post about some of the negatives of being over reflective (overthinking). On a more positive note though, this is what Mouldedinsideout is partly about- reflection and looking for ways to become a better person.
Today’s post was inspired by a phone call I got recently from a friend of mine. We worked together in the music scene with my Discovery family but when I decided to take my Blog serious and I was on the search for a web designer, I was shocked to be introduced to him because I had no idea that was his specialty – web design and being a creative consultant. See, this is why you should always treat people with respect because you’ll never know when you’ll need them! For a long time after discussing prices for a good design, I have been avoiding this guy… fast forward 22 months, I finally decide to talk about collaborations and negotiations.
As I talked, the first thing he spoke to me about was the importance of investment. According to him sowing a seed into your own life is important to reap great results. On a personal level in the last couple of months, I have invested time into making myself a better person. I took a break from a lot of things mentally and I have seen the benefits even in my relationship. While you can invest time into yourself, money is a major factor that we will need to be invested in ourselves at all stage in our lives. I spoke about the importance of saving in this post. So essentially, in this context the phone call was about investing money into my blog. Other ways I have invested into myself finally includes my education which may also be relevant to you. For others, it could be diet which we all know is expensive!!
If you want to see change, you have to stop doing the same thing, try something new – learn something new. If you recognise that you have a talent, or gift and you need help taking that gift to the next level you will need to invest into it. I do not share much of my musical side here on the blog, but I cannot even start to share how much time and money I have invested into my voice and musical experience. Am I where I want to be? …erm nope! But one day we will get there.
To end on an even more positive note, I want to let you know that you are doing an amazing job!
Do not give up, you might feel nobody notices it, but they do, keep working hard and one day it will pay off. Don’t stop until you are proud
I would like to apologise for not posting in this section of the blog since a month. It was not intentional but I am inspired to write again because of a blogger friend- Moj in Touch. I am inspired by her work ethic and today’s post is inspired by one of her ‘weekly Monday Motivation’ post. I have been Blogging for almost two years now and proud is the least of myself when I realize that I have only missed two weeks of not sharing a post. In the short time that I have blogged, I have seen a lot of people claim to be a lot of things they are not. I am glad Moj In Touch could relate, as she talked about the ‘fake it till you make it syndrome’ where a lot of people portray a perfect lifestyle, it’s all about their perfect houses, perfect relationships, perfect lives, I mean everything is just perfect. I mean I heard of an online figure who claims to be a size 10 online but is actually a size 14 like wow! But today’s topic is about the perfect relationship- the relationship goals.
I am not even going to lie, I have been fooled and carried away with social media relationships until a friend of min who seemed to have a perfect relationship. She admit some harsh truths about her relationship after she broke up with him. I was so sad knowing that there were times I had wished for my own ‘perfect’ relationship too! A lot of times as women and men even, we feel incomplete without a significant other. We admire what others portray to us and we start to fall into a trap without thinking about what works for us; what our purpose is, who we are or if we are even ready to be in a relationship. Relationships I have learnt are hard work, it takes a lot of effort. It is a matter of finding the person who is worth fighting for. In order to be fulfilled in a relationship you need to be healthy, confident and grounded in yourself. When you have these three things, you will know what you bring to the table, what you expect of the other and how you will complement each other in every aspect of your life- physically, spiritually and financially.
I want to keep this real short but before getting distracted by relationship goals, be patient, love yourself because that way you can love another person. Focus on your journey, embrace the growth process, enjoy your singleness and treat yourself like the queen that you are. You are most beautiful when you are confident and grounded in yourself
I hope this hit home for someone let me know if you want me to talk about dating and relationships. I am not an expert, but we could all do with some learning and growing right?
This post may come as unexpected but it has been on my mind for a while. Once I started my Masters Programme in UCD, I made a decision to engage in a healthy lifestyle even though I knew the masters would be full on. I was never a big fan of the Gym but fast forward six months , I actually miss it when I don’t go (well, sometimes!).
Success in the gym is very gradual and being consistent made me realise the value of doing things that is right consistently. The benefits of going to the Gym consistently in Uni reduced my coffee intake, I was more alert in class and I started to see physical results in my body. The Gym has also helped me to step out of my comfort zone and aim better. Below I will share some life lessons I have learnt from going to the Gym.
Dedication beats motivation
Developing a weekly routine and being dedicated to go to the Gym at least three times a week helped me in other areas of my life. I had to wake up at 6:00am so I wouldn’t be late for 9:00am lecture. I had no motivation but when I became dedicated to maintaining a certain standard for my body, all of a sudden there was motivation.
Threshold for discomfort is increased
I read an article which stated ‘Pain builds mental and physical toughness the way few other experiences can’ and I could relate. My sister would push me so hard in the Gym and this made me tougher. Experiencing the pains and discomfort the next day made me happy knowing I had done something right the day before. It is the same with some things that happen in our lives, we go through pain, hurts and tough times but we become better when we learn from our mistakes. I also went on a training session with a friend and as we set the timer and did squats, jumping jacks, burpees. She saw how much pain I was in but she would tell me to focus on the results instead of the process.
The Gym has contributed to my sense of self-improvement. I have learnt to try different equipment’s, I lift, learn, grow and repeat the process. I have also learnt to go at my own pace which is sometimes not the best because my mind could convince me that I have done enough and that is why I like going to the Gym with those who would push me to go harder.
This literally summarises my current mind set, surround myself with people who will push me to be a better version of myself.
Okay, so this is something I am still struggling with at the Gym. You know that saying if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. During my research on this topic, one thing a lot of the guys were saying is – when you don’t have tight structure or a plan, then you risk wasting time or being ineffective at the Gym. In order to perform at a high level, you need a proper plan
The gym helps you to recognise where you are improving and or being stagnant! The idea is to keep improving in anything we are dedicated to in life.
Thank you so much for staying till the end, let me know what life lessons you have learnt in the Gym
See you soon,
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Happy New Month, I was really enthusiastic about having the post out on the very first day of the month but so many things came up and I was not able to get round to it. In today’s post, I will be sharing the highlights of last month because honestly, May was an amazing month for me. I can safely say it was the best month so far in the year! Okay so lets get into it, I will be sharing my top 5 highlights.
Irish Time- I was called for a photoshoot to meet the Minister of State for the Diaspora and International Development -Ciaran Cannon T.D and to partner with Martin Doyle at Irishtimesnews . The News Paper has partnered with Irish Aid on an African- themed writing competition. It was such an honour to be a part of it and thank you for the love shown guys!
Abbey Theater- I was involved in a drama production with my choir DGC and the Abbey Theatre for the ‘Abbey 5×5 project’., The idea of this project is to showcase more minorities who are excluded in Irish media and theatre work in Ireland. We spent a week practicing and by the end of the week which was the first of June- Friday we performed what we had come up with. It was such an amazing opportunity to explore other talents and gifts that I had. I learnt a lot about myself and others especially in the sensitive topic of Direct Provision. I would love to share more about my experience throughout the week, if you are interested let me know in the comment section so I can do a separate post!
Prettylittlething- Prettylittlething saw my post on ‘5 ways to make the most of your summer’ and from this we collaborated together for their summer shop campaign. This for me was such an exciting opportunity for both myself and the blog because I was happy to share another side of myself to you guys and the feedback has been great. Thank you so much for the continuous support!
Friends and Family- A lot of special people in my life celebrated their birthday and if you follow me long enough, you know I am all about celebrating and appreciating people who have been placed in our lives for different yet specific reasons. I was also a lot more present mentally in May, I took more time to engage with myself and gave time to people that mattered most.
This brings me to the end of my post, thank you so much for keeping up with me!I hope you can also relate to my excitement throughout the post. I pray this month is better for all of us, filled with fun, peace and blessings.
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Happy new month, I hope we are all having a great month so far. May was such an exciting month for me but I will share about the highlights of the month in my next post. I went live on Instagram on Wednesday and the response I got prompted me to share this post first before talking about my highlights from last month. I am excited about today’s blog post because it is something totally different from what I do but it is inspired by suggestions I have been receiving from a lot of you to start a YouTube channel! First of all, I reply by saying ‘never’, because I don’t see myself starting a YouTube channel at least not for now! However, there was a challenged I stumbled upon from some of my favourite YouTubers and I felt it was not only fun, but it would also give me the opportunity to showcase another side of myself to you guys. The challenge is called ‘Google Picked My Make Up look’. Now without further ado, let’s get into today’s post.
So what exactly is the challenge? Basically you go on google and type in your initials. For example mine is F.O -Florence Olufemi-Ojo and then you type the word ‘look’, it should read ‘ F.O look’, then you hit the search button on Google and click into ‘images’ and you see a lot of different pictures. Majority of the YouTubers that I watched literally went with the first picture but I followed Patricia Bright’s style and scrolled for the images that attracted me most. The first image seemed too dark for this season and I just was not feeling the whole picture so I scrolled down and found another image down below which caught my attention.
If you have been following my Blog for a while, I am sure it is of no surprise to you why this image caught my attention. The quote was beautiful as it is true and I could relate to it, the scenery in the picture reminded me of my trip to Dun Laoghaire in my previous post and I also felt it gave a positive and summery vibe!
Okay, so to create this look, I went to NYX and purchased my first proper Eyeshadow Palette, I picked up a pigmented Blue Shimmer Eye Shadow too and a couple of other products that would help me achieve the look I was going for. I really wanted to step up the game a little you know lol and that’s why I particularly like this challenge because it creates space for you to be creative based on an inspiration from an image.
This is the finished look guys , let me know in the comment section down below what you think!
Nikkie Tutorials started the challenge, I saw Patricia Bright’s look and also watched Dimmeh Umeh and Carli Bybel’s, which prompted me to attempt the challenge. If you do try this challenge out yourself let me know how it goes by tagging me on Instagram or sending me messages. I would love to see us having fun creating different looks together!
I am really excited about today’s post. I have started building a momentum for this year’s summer holiday here on the Blog. I shared a post suggesting 5 ways to make the most out of your summer and one of the points I suggested was learning a new skill. I have decided to improve my photography skills. This includes capturing moments and editing images. I believe we are living in an era where imagery is an efficient means to pass message to people. Hence, my desire to do so in the most imaginative way possible. Quick disclaimer before we move on* this post is a collaboration with Prettylittlething for their holiday shop campaign.
I wanted clothes that would make me feel like I was on holidays despite still being in Dublin. I did my research on Ireland’s most beautiful beaches and came to a decision. Dun Laoghaire Pier is a suburban seaside town, although some people say it is not a beach but it is such a beautiful spot with so much to do. Myself and a blogger friend Te-Styles planned to captures beautiful pictures but we ended up doing more than we expected. We spent the whole day at Dun Laoghaire Pier then went on a walk, talked, laughed and captured lots of pictures (there is also a cruise tour available, though we did not have time to get on this). The weather was amazing, thank God! I really enjoyed connecting with nature. My feet and skin felt the warmth of the sun and I must say I felt like I was on a holiday.
After the Dún Laoighaoire trip I think going on a trip around Ireland’s scenery will be fun and exciting. While this sounds like a great idea, finding the time would be the challenge but I will definitely be visiting more beaches while I plan my next summer holiday away.
Ok! Let’s briefly talk about my outfits -my favourite is the two piece set. I absolutely love the bright colours! Red is a colour that always seems to find a way into my heart. I cannot tell you how many red clothes I own. I am glad, I choose the chain beach kimono paired with the chain beach flares in the colour red. It is a bit on the long side but I am a 5.3 so this is a typical issue I face with clothes in general especially bottom wears. But this flared trousers paired with heels would work just fine anywhere other than the beach and I feel the same with the kimono.
I also love how effortless this white bardot shift dress makes me look! White is a colour I shy away from but every time I wear it, I ask myself why because it gives off a stylish appearance. Just as the colour red, white clothing makes you stand out which is a perfect motive for the summer and the clean look!
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In this post, I will be sharing with you a bit about what my thought processes has been recently. My thoughts is constantly being directed towards finding purpose, being successful and how to become a better person. It is probably because I am getting older or at least that is how I feel. I have always heard that your early 20s is the time when you try to figure out who you are. If you are the kind of person who always needs guidance when you feel stuck in life then reading positive quotes and motivational messages are great as they are a form of reinforcement.
A person that inspires me at the moment is Chimamanda Adichie. I have read some of her books and I appreciate what she stands for. She is a phenomenal woman. I was gutted when I found out she was in Dublin because I missed her appearance. I have also been listening to series by Michael Todd’ on Youtube, and most recently Bishop TD Jakes has shared some points that I feel might inspire some of you and I decided to share it.
Success can cause strain; when you win it strains you. If you were not close to what you are trying to achieve, you would not be stressed. Stress is an indicator, it benefits you, it’s a favour, it lets you know you are at your limits. Stress does not mean you cannot do it, it simply means you have to change something- you have to change the structure or strategy in which you do things. Stress means you have to reboot or recalibrate your strategy for what’s about to happen in your life.
The moment you are exposed to something great, you drop something lighter. You will never know what you can do until you throw yourself into it. Ultimately, you become what you say to yourself. Don’t look at situations as issues because they will become a stop sign.
Relationships are your greatest resource! it is not guaranteed that the person you like or feel comfortable with, share the same believe and values as you would be the one to help you. Therefore, be careful how you treat people because God places different people in your life at various seasons to bless you.
God gives you an opportunity, what you do with it is your gift to him!
I could keep going on but I think I will stop here. I hope you guys enjoyed getting into my headspace! You can watch more of the message by Bishop TD Jakes here.
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My friend (turned sister) got married last month and although I would have invited myself to the wedding if she did not invite me (inside joke) being asked to be one of her bridesmaid was such an honour. I asked on my IG story and a lot of you said they would like me to share this post on my experience as a bridesmaid. I will not be able to give every detail on the wedding because this post will be too long. However, I will share about the highlight of the experience and about choosing the right bridesmaid.
Most girls have planned their wedding day since they were young ,this is not the case for me! I firmly believe that when the time comes, I will plan it. However, being a part of Funke’s wedding changed my perspective on this because I witnessed the magic that can happen when you have a vision, go for it and the satisfaction you get when that vision become a reality. Funke wanted an intimate wedding, both her and her partner planned this and that was exactly what happened. Funke is a simple girl and very much westernised, she invited 40 guest to her wedding. If you are African reading this, I know what’s going through your mind already. It just not common for a African to pull off a wedding strictly by invitation and have 40 guests. I never even knew it was possible and I did not believe her until the actual day but honesty guys; I have never been to a more beautiful wedding. Witnessing this was so important to me because I have been to many weddings both for close friends and for professional purpose as I sang with my choir. Funke was surrounded by people that meant the most to her, she was comfortable, the vibe was calm and loving. After being a part of such an experience, this is definitely a rough guide to what my day will be like.
Choosing your bridesmaid.
As a bride, it is important that your bridesmaids are made up of people who mean the most to you and have good intensions for you. While there is no set rule in place, it is advisable to have the same amount of bridesmaid as grooms men (this can be hard if your partner does not have a lot of friends). Bridesmaids have a role! I want to stress this point because I have been to weddings where the bridesmaid don’t seem to have a clue of their role and as a result add more stress as opposed to making the day as stress free as possible.
The maid of honour is generally the bride’s right hand both before and on the day of the wedding. This person needs to possess specific skills – communication, organisation, planning and qualities – approachable, friendly, humble patient, tolerant and loving because otherwise you will end of losing more friends before your big day. Her duties include planning the bridal shower , helping the bride select her gown and help with sorting out invitations. I initially thought this role had to be given to your best friend but after the wedding I spoke to Stella who was Funke’s maid of honour and we spoke about how important the role is and making sure it is someone who can deliver with the rights sets of skills and qualities. Your ‘best-friend’ may not have these skills and qualities! The other bridesmaid should be available to provide support and assistance both to the bride and the maid of honour. They should also be willing to cooperate especially since they are there to make your day, this should not be an issue. However, as we are all humans, there will always be a conflict of interest which is okay and expected, having a small amount of might help with this.
Money- This might sound negative but you need people who are finically stable and can afford to spend money with you towards your big day. Of course, there will be exceptional situations but if you have the right people, they will be happy to spend money to make the day a success, I found it so easy to spend money because I love Funke and I know she would do the same for me. I do not think I need to say more on this but being bridesmaid is not just a fairy-tale role. It will cost you as you can imagine. There is expenses on transportation, the dress, make- up, hair and if you have an extra friend/ bride the list could go on so be prepared but always remember to remain true to yourself and be open to discuss this with the bride.
Prayer- This for me is so important, as a bride you want your bridesmaid to be prayerful! They should be able in whatever way they know how to keep the day in prayer and pray for success. I kept this day in prayer especially once Funke told me she would love me to sing. My prayer game was even stronger! Singing at my sister’s wedding was a huge honour but also a huge commitment. I had never sang on my own at a wedding so I prayed about it and that everything should go well on the day. I sang two songs – All my life by KC and JOJO and The Vow by Timi Dakolo which was the winning song. Funke cried which for me made my day. No I don’t want the bride crying but I am happy she was able to relate to the lyrics.
This brings me to the end of my post guys, let me know if you enjoyed this. I certainly enjoyed putting it together for you. Thank you for staying till the end!
May this month bring blessings and joy in every area of our lives. I asked you guys for suggestions on a new blog post and the most popular was beauty tips for the summer. I decided to do a skin care routine as a beauty tip.
When you get your skin care routine right, over time you will start to notice your skin feels softer and smoother. You will also notice a radiant glow and achieve a more refreshed appearance. I have tried different skin care products before but there is something different about LUSH products. I love that it is homemade and fresh , for those of you who like DIY products, this means you can make some of these products yourself!
*The pictures above were taken the first time I went to the LUSH store on Grafton Street ( based in Ireland). That same day, I went home with some samples to try them out. This gave me time to choose the right product for my skin.
Magnaminty Facial Mask– This mask contains peppermint oil which leaves tingly minty feeling on your skin which is great as it promotes blood cell stimulation underneath the skin. The mask also contains honey making it to be thick in consistency. Honey is also great as an anti-bacterial property. On a plus side, the mask does not dry or harden my skin because of the honey present in it.
Movis Facial Soap– This soap is made with wholemeal bread with an extra coconut and sunflower oil which leaves the skin feeling soft. It also contains wheatgerm oil which is great to keep the skin moisturised and organic cocoa butter that softens the skin.
Breathe of Fresh Air– This toner water contains a rose, a mineral-rich carrageenan seaweed extract which all contributes to a balanced skin tone. You only need a small amount of this product, it is the final step of my skin care routine. Once I apply the Magnaminty Facial Mask and leave it on for 10 minutes (I only do this once a week), wash my face with the Movis Facial Soap-(everyday), I then get my cotton pad and apply the toner. It literally gives me the most refreshing feeling.
Fun Fact* The pH of tap water is bad for your skin, it is advisable to use a toner after you wash your face.
This brings me to the end of today’s post guys. Developing a healthy and consistent skin care routine is not easy, especially if you have a busy lifestyle that requires you to get up early and come back home late. But the benefits are great which makes it all worthwhile. For those of you who already have a skin care routine, let me know what products you use.
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