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It is such a blessing to call myself a Mom Entrepreneur. I am a mom to three boys, Jonas 12, Gavin 9 and Obadiah 3. My Husband Rob and I have been married for 15 years. As a young adult I dreamed of being a stay at home mom and through photography I have been able to have the best of both worlds. My love for photography started in high school and I haven’t put the camera down since then. Five years ago I turned my passion into a business. I love being able to capture life’s sweetest moments. The older I get the more I realize it is so very important to document yourself and family. My goals as a photographer is to celebrate love, cherish young families and celebrate the wisdom and confidence that comes with aging.
To break away and breath I like to get out of town! Whether it’s going for a hike, the beach for the day or camping for the weekend. It is so important for me to get out of my day-to-day world and regroup. Getting out of town reminds me of how big this world is therefore helping me to focus on the big picture.
Funny story– My toddler is at the brutally honest stage. We were out eating dinner and a man with a long white beard sits and the table next to ours. My toddler says loudly, “Why is that Mr. Dwarf here”. We laughed so hard it was hard to tell him to stop as repeated his question.
I am a mom of 3 great kids, twin daughters who are turning 14 and starting high school, and a son who is turning 12 and going into 7th grade. I have been married for 17 years. I have a fulltime job as a Site Director of an Early Intervention program for kids 18 mos to three years with developmental delays. For the past 5 years, I have also been an Independent Consultant with Thirty-One Gifts. I absolutely love my “fun job” as it provides me with much needed girl time and an incredibly supportive sisterhood. And the additional income is great too! I love being my own Boss!
When I have free time, I enjoy reading and going to the movies. A good mani/pedi helps too! My kids and I also enjoy going to Starbucks and Yogurtland.
A funny story, well in my family there is always something going on! On our vacation to Balboa Island this year, my kids were walking along the beach looking for seashells. They stepped into what they thought was a shallow hole in the sand, and one by one they sand down to there knees! Who knew Balboa had “quicksand!”
I’d like to share my story by first thanking my mother for being the role model that she is. She came to this country at the age of 15 and she had to fend for herself, as she had no one to do so for her. I have a very brave and strong mother and thanks to the struggles we went through, I became the strong, independent and loving mother, wife and friend you see today. I decided to go into Human Resources, because I wanted to be a voice for that undervalued worker and make a difference and empower others.
However, 20 years later Arbonne found me. Three years ago, I was battling Graves Disease, working 60 plus hours a week, and hardly saw my little girl, Katherine and my husband. I knew something had to change as I could not see myself working for someone else the rest of my life. However, never in a million years had I dreamt that I would trade in my profession for network marketing!!!
Arbonne is a blessing in my life. It brought me back to my family, and has allowed me to live out my purpose in making a difference in other people’s life’s. Thanks to Arbonne, my Graves Disease is in remission, I was taken off my medication, my husband’s GI issues are gone, my daughter’s eczema is under control and as a bonus, my husband and I look younger!
Now that my family and I can spend quality time together, we enjoy going out on road trips that involve being in touch with Mother Nature. It helps with bringing us back in balance with our busy lives and really appreciating us and the gifts God has given us.
Though, I have to share that on our last road trip from the Grand Canyon to Havasu, we hit a hailstorm while driving and it was hilarious. I was stressing out and in panic mode… “stop the car and pull over!!!” Katherine, my 8 year old daughter was so excited and ecstatic to see hail, “OMG… this is the coolest thing!” while my husband just laughed and kept asking me to calm down and take the blanket off my head!
One way I like to break away and breathe is by practicing Raj Yoga meditation, energy healing, mature walks and volunteering for foundations such as: www.teambossyboitd.com
Please feel free to visit my Health, Wellness and Beauty business website at: www.angelamerchain.arbonne.com to learn more about Arbonne, this 37th Swiss Heritage and Vegan Certified brand.
My daughter recently asked me, “What’s your favorite thing to do?” There was no immediate answer forth-coming. After a minute of introspection, my answer: work.
I have no spare time. I utilize every minute of time I have to be productive in some manner. I don’t read fiction, I don’t hang out all day and do nothing. I work. I learn. I absorb. I design.
I was raised to be the best at whatever I set out to be, whether ditch digger or book designer. I’m not the best, yet. Being the best is never a solid thing. And truth be told, I don’t strive to be the best of the best, but I do strive to be my best. I do strive to ensure that the client’s design is the best it can be for its market and its budget — two ends that are often at odds.
And I have to say that when a client challenges my design concept, when a client says, “Well, let me see what the people in my group think,” my eye twitches a little. This is the client saying, “I don’t trust you, and I don’t trust my own judgment either.” Studies have proven that your general audience knows nothing about good design. It sounds crazy, I know, but don’t shoot the messenger.
When I see those threads on FB that ask, “Which design do you like better?” I have to literally force myself to keep scrolling. Because I know what I will find there: horrible, terrible, very bad advice. For some reason, everyone fancies themselves a designer these days.
Four years ago, I was guilty, too. So I get it. We have these images in our head that are perfect and beautiful and balanced and modern. But unless you know how to finesse the software, set your kerning, use the right tool for the right job, and have a good eye for design, you are not a graphic designer. Being a graphic designer goes way beyond just having a good concept. There are multiple layers of technical madness that have to be sifted through in order to arrive at a great, useable design.
If you believe in your product enough to hire a graphic designer, then trust her to do what you paid her to do. One of the top themes found in #designerproblem memes is the overbearing client. The one who basically dictates what she wants you to do. (Move this over .1”. Now make this bigger. Set this transparency a little lower.) Don’t be that client. I’m not saying there isn’t value in the client’s feedback. I am a huge proponent of “teamwork makes the dream work.” But I don’t like to be micro-managed. It defeats the purpose. And it stifles my creative zen and makes me want to refund the client her money.
Good graphic design is a balancing act. Every letter, not to mention whole words, can change the look, feel, and balance of the design. It is in your best interest to keep the amount of text to a minimum and let the design do the rest of the work. The purpose of a design is to get them to click through. You don’t have to cram the whole story onto the front cover, magazine ad, or bulletin board.
The “before” ad is one my client designed himself. Previously, he had done both the book cover and the ad for his book. He was paying a lot of money to run the ad in a very popular Christian magazine. However, the magazine ad rep told him that his ad was not any good and he needed to revise it.
He hired me to do both a new cover design and a new ad, which was accepted without requests for revisions by the magazine ad rep.
A good graphic designer knows way more than just how to select a font. A seasoned designer keeps her finger on the pulse of current design trends and understands the necessary white balance to text to elements ratio. She also knows which fonts are made fun of on the design scene. (Whatever you do, if you want to be taken seriously, stay away from Comic Sans, Papyrus, and Bleeding Cowboy.)
When you hire a designer, understand that she has to protect her portfolio and her reputation. She has graphic design rules of the trade she has to abide by in order to be taken seriously in her profession. If you’re not ready to trust your designer, then do not hire one. Click on over to canva.com, and design your little heart out. Who knows? You may be the next up-and-coming designer. We all had to start somewhere.
I knew nothing, zip, zero, zilch about graphic design when I started. But I knew that I could learn it if I put my mind to it. And I’m still learning.
As a graphic designer, my personal goal is to get outside the box so my client’s cover stands out just enough while still staying within the design constraints set forth by the selected genre. This can sometimes require the client to be brave, especially if she is a timid person by nature. When your cover is on an Amazon shelf next to 10 other books, is it going to be the most eye-catching (in a good way)? Or are you going to play it safe and have a cover that blends in?
One of my current clients was very wary of the cover I came up with for her book, Walk This Way. So I put together a graphic and sent it over to her. I went to Amazon and searched for books in her genre, which is Bible studies for up through middle school. The book is actually for an adult instructor, though.
Her comments when I first showed her the book, “OH, that is different….is it too dark?”
Here are her comments after she saw the mockup: “I showed it to my husband. Both of us agree it stands out great.” and “[My husband] says when looking at all the covers together, the others say, ‘I’m for kids’ but this cover looks more ‘middle-schooly’ which is interesting because the spread for the book is k-6. I don’t want teachers to have the idea my lessons are for preschoolers.”
She also got feedback from another professional in her niche: “As a former graphic designer and owner of a print shop who still constantly evaluates anything and everything that’s printed, the black with the gold letters is what I liked the most! It really stands out. Most books today have a white background and are boring. This one is not!”
And here is how the cover plays into the interior design of the book:
Most of my clients are first-time authors, and “not trusting the professional” is a common theme I deal with. I know in my own life, I have had to let go of the reins, too. I used to drive my husband crazy with questions that sounded like, “Shouldn’t you do it this way?” This would then result in statements from him that sounded like, “Just do it yourself if you think you don’t know what I’m doing.” And so I would. And I would fail, lol. Through that failure, I learned to trust the professional. I don’t always understand why he makes the decisions he makes. But he does. That’s the joy of working with a professional: I don’t HAVE to know why! I just have to trust the professional.
If I’m blessed, then the professional I’ve hired WILL force me to think outside the box. And that’s a good thing, because that’s where growth happens.
Deciding to get organized is a major commitment that involves time, energy, and sometimes money. It is also one of the best decisions you can make if clutter and disorganization are causing you to feel stress, anxiety, and that general feeling of never having enough time. Let’s face it, life gets busy with kids, work, and a household to maintain and it can feel overwhelming at times. The entire process of de-cluttering and organizing any space is all about finding things when you need them, creating a home that you enjoy being in, and having a workspace that promotes productivity. When your space works, you have more time to spend with family, to work on your business, and to have more fun.
Organization does not have to happen all at once and you do not have to organize your entire home before you see and feel the changes. Small changes can definitely make a big difference. Organize a small space first and then move on to larger spaces as you begin to feel comfortable with the process. You can also start by trying a new organizing strategy or system each month. Organization is not a one size fits all. What works for one person may not work for another, so choose strategies, systems, or products that you feel will work for you and your family. The key to staying organized is to let go of habits that cause clutter and disorganization and to develop new habits that will prevent clutter and disorganization from happening again.
The important thing to remember is that organization does not mean you have to aim for perfection. Aiming for “good enough” instead of “perfect” will save you time and stress. You will know you are organized when you see less clutter, you feel less stress, and you have more time to spend with family and friends.
For more information or for a free phone consultation, call Diana Carlos at
(562) 833-4577. www.uniquelyenhancedspaces.com
Diana Carlos is a professional organizer and owner of Uniquely Enhanced Spaces. Diana helps busy families organize their homes and home-based business owners create organized workspaces.
Diana Carlos is a professional organizer and owner of Uniquely Enhanced Spaces. For over 5 years, Diana has helped busy families de-clutter and organize their homes and home-based business owners create productive workspaces. As a business owner with a busy family life, she understands the chaos of daily life and has a passion for helping others eliminate the stress that comes with clutter and disorganization.
Her website, Uniquely Enhanced Spaces, was created out of a passion for teaching and organizing. We help individuals and families eliminate the clutter from their homes and add organization to their daily lives.
My name is Suzanne Johnson, I have been married 15 years to my husband David. We have a son,
Jacob, who is 8 years old. Three years ago, I had to make a big decision to stay home or change my
career due to health reasons. For me going to work was not an obligation, it was fun. I enjoyed going to
work. It was an opportunity to help customers achieve their financial goals through available banking
solutions. After having over 25 years in banking, it was a difficult decision to make. Even though my
decision was based on my health, it was difficult to accept. It took a lot of personal sacrifice but
eventually the adjustment finally took place.
As a result of missing my daily interaction with customers, I decided to become self-employed. Both of
my businesses were carefully selected to fully utilize my people skills, excellent customer service, and
My first business is a micro-franchise with Rodan + Fields. They are the famous doctors who created
PROACTIV. Rodan + Fields have developed the #1 Multi-Med Therapy skin care in North America.
My second business is being an independent contractor for Central Payment. My goal is to provide
financial solutions to business owners by reducing cost, increasing sales and cash flow through credit
card processing. I provide a free cost analysis, free equipment on qualified business needs, equipment
financing and I guarantee the lowest pricing.
I enjoy helping all my customers achieve their personal goals and pride myself in providing the best
customer service while working together with two companies as an independent consultant that value
ethics, hard work and encourage family time.
How do you choose to break away & breathe, in other words take a break during your busy schedule?
After leaving Corporate America taking a breather was something I had to learn to do. Presently, I
enjoy spending quality time with my family. I now have time to go to sporting events and attend our
Share with us a funny moment with your family.
Recently, my son has taken a liking for Michael Jackson. He has a game that challenges you with dance
moves from Michael Jackson’s music videos. Our son Jacob challenged both my husband and I to dance.
We both enjoy his music. So, we thought this was an easy challenge. Yes, it was fun. We danced and
laughed. I could not believe that I had developed 2 left feet and my husband was out of breath.
Needless to say, we had a great time even though we could only complete 1 song and it was the slowest
song on the game.
Back to school is here and with that comes those hectic school mornings! You know the drill: get everyone ready, breakfast served, lunches packed and everyone out the door on time. Bonus points if you are half presentable. Double bonus points if you rolled out of bed early enough to exercise before the kids wake up. The morning usually sets the tone for the day and those chaotic mornings can leave you feeling deflated. It is important that we take care of yourselves as well during the school year. Here are six fashion and fitness tips to help out the busy Mom- even when a school morning is nothing but mayhem!
Plan It Out
On Sundays while putting away laundry pick out what you want to wear for the week. Grab a few pieces that you want to wear, like a favorite top or dress. If time allows, pick out a few complete outfits (or all!) for the week. Designate a small area in your closet to set aside the clothes you have selected. A small rack hook or clothes organizer work perfect for this task! If you are feeling really ambitious, do the same for your kids’ outfits. Spending a few minutes at the end of the weekend to pick outfits for the week saves crucial time on school mornings!
Pencil You In
With the kids back in school there will be homework, after-school activities, school functions, sport events, fundraisers, and everything else that happens when school is not in session. Life is busier more than ever! Of course your kids are a priority, but making sure your health should be one too. Consider the time you set aside for your exercise as a really important meeting that you cannot afford to miss! In some ways this is absolutely true. Take a look at your schedule, a find a time that works best for your day and physically pencil in your fitness plans. Maybe it is while your son is at soccer practice or maybe it is first thing in the morning. Display the time slot on a calendar the whole family can see and/or have it on your phone with pop-up event reminder. Schedule that Me-eting and make sure you show up for it!
Get Some Essential Layering Pieces
An utility vest, a fitted blazer, a light jacket and an oversized cardigan are great staples to have in your fall wardrobe. Why? Layering pieces are not only functional for the cooler mornings but will make your outfit feel polished! They work well with your favorite tee and a variety of bottoms. Mix with your favorite jeans, a great pair of black ankle pants, beloved leggings or even a cotton dress for an endless combination of outfits. Look trendy by adding a utility vest over your favorite long sleeve tee and leggings combo. Add insta-style by throwing a light weight jacket over a maxi dress! With just a few great layering pieces you can achieve effortless style fast. We could all use a little bit of that on a busy school morning!
Keep a backup plan on how to squeeze in a little exercise for days that do not go as scheduled. Pop in a ten minute fitness DVD, do some squats and pushups while waiting for dance practice to end, take a quick walk at lunch, or run through some relaxing yoga poses before bed. Even if the workout is not what you intended for the day, any bit of exercise is going to be better than none. You’ll feel better that you didn’t totally bail on you fitness goals!
Keep Basics on Hand
Inevitably, there will be some mornings that involves a crises that needs attention like running out of a favorite lunch snack, forgetting a homework assignment or over sleeping. Keep a few makeup staples in your purse or bag for mornings like this! Apply a volumizing mascara to intensify eyes. Swipe on some finishing powder to absorb any oil. Dap on a favorite high sheen lip gloss to brighten your smile. Keep these basic makeup products accessible for application while idle at a stop light or in the parking lot before walking into the office. The makeup might be minimalist but it targets three key players (eyes, oil control and smile) and is just the right amount to keep you feeling confident!
More Burn, Less Time
Without a doubt, interval training is the most efficient way to exercise. When you interval train you scorch more calories than you would at a steady pace. Your body actually continues to burn calories after the workout is finished! The other great benefit to interval training is the length of a workout. Interval training should not last longer than thirty minutes and some really high-intensity workouts are only four minutes long! The theory is to push yourself to work hard for short time bursts with little recovery to maximize calorie burn, muscle gain and boost endurance. For a busy Mom, interval training is where it’s at! Do a quick internet search and give one a go. You will love targeting all the body parts and getting that cardio effect all while saving yourself time in the morning!
As Mothers our days are spent tending to the needs of others and it is easy to let our needs slide. Back to school is a busy time but it is still crucial to make time for yourselves. Setting aside a few minutes to plan an outfit, scheduling exercise like a meeting you cannot miss, and having a few trusty back up plans for those crazy days will only ensure a more peaceful mind for us Mamas. Give one or all of these tips a try and find a few that will work for you and your family!
Jen Pilchak is a thirty something wife and mother with a very serious love for online shopping and fitness DVDs. She is your typical midwest suburban busy gal balancing marriage, motherhood and a career like the rest of us. After the birth of her daughter, Jen envisioned a space to express style and share attainable fitness goals.
Her blog, Style in Shape, empowers women to feel great about themselves without sacrificing too time and money. Come celebrate the clearance rack victories and concurred ten minute ab routines with Jen!
Portrait of beautiful mother working on laptop at home while her cute daughter sitting next to her on sofa and using mobile phone.
ends with “I wish I could do it as well as ‘Sally Homemaker’ does it.” But I think it’s so important to remember that balance truly looks different for everyone. What may work for your biz bestie and her family may not be the balance that you need for yours.
Even just the word “balance” seems to add an unnecessary pressure on us to picture some mystical land far, far away where EVERYTHING is perfect and working like a well oiled machine. It may sound amazing, but this idealistic world is just that- an idea.
So, can’t we all have our own ideas about what balance looks like for ourselves? I think so! And though I think we should all embrace our own journeys and accept that everyone operates differently, I still believe in learning and being inspired by our communities and other like-minded mamas. That’s why, I pulled together some of my favorite people to see what they consider balance… and maybe even a time when they didn’t have it at all… because hey, we are all human, right?
Meet our panel of mama entrepreneurs, who have been finding balance in their lives… no matter what that looks like for them! Veronica Armstrong, the shop owner and business strategist, behind Gabriella’s Designs is a mom, wife and “maker and lover of science fiction and board games”, creating adorable, custom outfits for little ladies. Julia Slike, creative director and business coach for her company, Julia Slike & Co has been a “souloprenuer” for 11 years now and has a passion for bright colors, high energy and enjoying life. Ardelia Lee runs her copy writing and content strategy business, Ardelia Lee Strategies, while having a love for science fiction and fantasy books. The strategist mama behind Mother Like a Boss, Kendra Hennessy, is a homemaker extraordinaire and Gilmore Girl enthusiast! And finally, Jen Baggett, a certified coach, runs her business Catchlight Consulting, LLC. while having a love for all things creative, especially photography and birthday parties for her girls.
What does balance look like for you, in your life and business? VS: Balance means flexibility. You aren’t exactly in control of your time with little ones around, so setting a strict schedule doesn’t happen. However, if I can flexibly take my day and spent a good portion focused on my home and my daughter, then I feel less guilty if I take some time to focus on business for a chunk of time too. JS: My husband and I are both self-employed and work A LOT! We have a cabin that we “escape” to on the weekends as soon as he gets off work on Saturdays. We have no cable, just movies and we’re not supposed to be on electronics there. The weeks are pretty crazy but that’s when we unwind as a family. AL: For me, having a balanced work life means that I get my work tasks done for the day and I get my house tasks done for the day. It’s not always a 50/50 split, where I have 2 work tasks and 2 house tasks. Sometimes I have 4 work tasks and let my house slide for a day or two, then I’ll take some time away from work to circle back and take care of my house and spend extra time with my kids. KH: I don’t view balance as everything being equal. Instead, I think of my work life balance like feet walking. You can’t walk with your feet being equal at all times. In order to get ahead, you have to put more weight on one side and then switch. That is exactly how I run my house and business. Sometimes, one side needs more weight to help move me forward. JB: For me, balance is prioritization and knowing when to say no. When I started really looking at what was important and putting those things first, it made it much easier to say no to the things that weren’t as important. My life gets really out of balance when I say “yes” to everything.
Obviously, if balance is different for everyone, then how they keep the balance in their lives is sure to differ as well.
What’s your “secret sauce” to keeping that balance? VA: Activities and accountability. My daughter is at an age now, almost 4, where I literally tell her to stop my work time. If she watches x amount of TV, she then tells me and I can stop working. It’s hard to say no to your child when they’re ready for you to play again and be present. I also like to find ways to balance them both together in the day with activities. She can play Play Dough or paint while I crank out some work and we both feel productive because we can chat about what we are doing and still be effective. JS: Our Cabin or we’d never stop working! AL: Being aware of how much time I’m spending where. I’ve started using Toggl to track my work time, and it’s really helped me understand where my time is going. KH: An excellent support system. If you don’t have one, I urge you to find one through groups, either online or in person. My family, my husband and my biz besties are what make balancing everything so much easier. JB: Constantly revisiting what is and is not important to me. It helps me keep focus on what is really important and keeps me on the right path. I am always asking myself why I am doing what I am doing. Is it something for me and my family, or am I doing it just to keep up with someone else or to keep up appearances.
And sometimes, because we’re all just doing our best in this crazy thing called life… we get thrown off balance.
Listen, we’re all human… tell us about a time that you DIDN’T HAVE BALANCE: VA: When my daughter came to me, begging me to put my phone down and stop working. I’m sad to admit it’s happened more than once, but it’s the biggest rude awakening I have needed at times. JS: Ummm… every day! AL: The end of 2016 was brutal for me. I was waking up at 5 a.m. and going to sleep at 11 p.m. I worked 4 or 5-hour days in addition to taking care of my girls full time, and I wasn’t seeing a great return on my effort. I was grouchy, negative, and tired all the time. My husband got tired of it (and of how much I was working) pretty quickly. KH: When I was shifting to my new business (the model that it is now.) I put a LOT of time and effort into it and looking back, I don’t think I put as much energy and effort into my family for those months. I also focused on many of the “wrong” things, a mistake a learned from. JB: At the beginning of last year I was SO out of balance. I was pouring everything I had into my job and everything else was suffering, I was eating bad, not exercising, and totally not present for my kids, husband or my friends. I was also starting a 6-month long training program and I felt like I was always behind in that as well. I was so crazy at work that I let it seep into all of my life.
But we pick ourselves up, brush ourselves off and get back on track, because- hey! We’re mamas and that’s what we do!
How did you get back into the swing of things after that!? VA: That’s when I started telling her that she could help Mommy do her work (doing activities in my office with me, helping pack orders etc.) or she can do a special activity like watch a movie and then come tell me when it’s done so I can stop working. Giving her some partnership in it has been so huge for our relationship while I build my business and have her home. JS: I found that sticking to the appointments in my planner (I have an hourly one) help me keep on track. For instance, this week I have just 16 hours “free” between 7am-7pm all the other hours are booked. I have to be diligent where I spend my time. If I only have 1 hour to get work done I can’t be farting around on Facebook! AL: It was a combination of experiencing a mindset shift and taking 2 weeks away from my business. My mindset shift gave me the confidence and professionalism I had lacked before, and my time away gave me some important perspective. I realized that self-care and taking some time to rest was incredibly important to ensuring I did my best work. KH: I took some time away from the business (just a few days) and really put an action plan in place. When was I going to work? When was I going to spend time with my kids and husband? When would I take time for me? Also outsourcing and hiring a nighttime babysitter a night or two a week helped a lot! I was able to get focused work done easily. AL: I asked for help and I started to re-prioritize. I worked with my coach to make sure I knew what was most important to me so I could choose what worked for me. I also realized I was putting pressure on myself to do everything and do it perfectly. That realization helped tremendously as it helped me let go of trying to do EVERYTHING!
Wow! I knew balance was different for everyone, but I truly love seeing it explained from so many different points of view. When we give ourselves permission to find “balance” in our own way, our lives suddenly seem easier… better. We breathe a little easier, we find a rhythm that works for us and we enjoy both our work and home lives that much more. Balance may be different for every working mama… but the feeling of knowing we have found it? That feels amazing to all of us!
As a multi-passionate mom, do you feel like overwhelm is a normal state of being? You are definitely not alone. Not only are you constantly doing for others and feeling like it’s hard to keep up with your never ending to-do list, you likely often forget about self-care and the importance of meeting your own needs. Does that sound about right?
To help you regain focus of what’s most important to you and let go of what’s not, I’m offering 7 steps for overcoming overwhelm. These can be used any time you are feeling off balance.
1. Get clear on what you want and what’s most important– When you aren’t clear on what’s most important to you, it’s easy to fall into the trap of doing what everyone else wants for you. Their agenda runs your life. When you are clear on your values and priorities and you are honoring them, it’s more difficult to be swayed into a direction you don’t want to go. Take a stand for what’s important to you. Everything else is secondary.
2. Have a clear vision of what you are creating and where you are headed– When you have the big picture in mind, it’s easier to stay on track with where you are headed. It’s also easier to know what to say yes and no to when you are clear about how it fits into the bigger picture. You can create a vision for your business, your life, your family, the holidays, and any other area of your life that is important to you.
3. Say NO to what’s not in alignment with where you are headed– When you have a clear vision and you are honoring your values, it’s much easier to know what is a yes and what is a no. The challenging part can be saying no, even when you know it’s what’s best. Do you feel bad when you should say no to someone so you say yes even though you don’t really want to? What is that costing you? Your precious time, your health, your sanity, connection to loved ones? Do yourself a favor and learn to be less of a people-pleaser and take a stand for your precious time and energy and what you truly want to be spending them on.
4. Focus on one thing at a time– When you are met with multiple obligations, activities, or choices it can feel overwhelming. Choose one thing at a time to focus on and complete, if possible. In the moment, release everything else and do one thing at a time. Multi-tasking can be necessary at times, however, it is not helpful when it causes overwhelm. Choose the most important task to focus on first. Once the first thing has resolution, move on to the next, knowing it will all work out eventually. Here’s the key and probably the most challenging thing to do: Release the need to control and conquer it all. Feeling the need to control causes unnecessary suffering. It doesn’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to do it all. Doing one thing at a time will get it all taken care of in due time and will give you some sanity.
5. Get support & delegate– Look at what you are currently doing and see how much of it you want to be doing. If it is something you don’t love, takes a lot of your time, or is something someone else can do better or more efficiently, then delegate it or let it go completely. Even if you have to pay someone to help you, what does that free you up to do? Is it worth it? Only do the things that bring you joy, are in alignment with your values, or are moving you toward your end goal. Let go of the rest and don’t feel bad about it.
6. Make self-care a priority– Self-care is not selfish, it’s necessary. When you put your well-being as a priority you are more able to take care of others and fulfill what is most important to you. Constantly giving and doing keeps you in a state of depletion and from there you have little to give. As a result, resentment, anger, sadness. lack of patience, and more continue to grow and dominate your being. That is not who you are at the core. Take care of yourself so that you feel more connected to your true self and have more to give to the people and things that matter most.
7. Change your view– Overwhelm is a state of mind. Perhaps you are looking at the situation in a way that causes stress and anxiety. How could you look at your situation differently so that it supports you rather than drains you? For example, consider this scenario…Imagine riding in an airplane and looking out the window from the pilot’s seat, then from first class, and finally from coach. What do you imagine would be different in each experience? The perceived experience will be different for each place depending on what you are focusing on, right? Certain conditions are more conducive to relaxation, yet what you think about will determine how you actually experience the situation. What is your current focus and how might you take a different view? What can you let go of so that you can allow something better?
It can be fun to “try on” different points of view. Some ways of learning to think outside your current viewpoint are to ask yourself, “How would my child see this?”, “What would this experience be like if I were on vacation?”, “How would my pet handle this?”, etc. Allow yourself to get outside the box and see what you can come up with. Make it a fun experience and allow yourself to choose a new perspective that is more supportive of where you want to be.
Bonus Step: If you utilize these 7 tips and still find yourself in overwhelm, then just breathe and keep repeating until you feel more calm. This too shall pass.
I encourage you to create a self-care plan that will support you in being present and enjoying the moment. Perhaps you can even use this plan throughout the year to help you actually feel good while you do the important work you are here to do.
Justine Arian, CPCC is a women’s empowerment coach who specializes in supporting women to realize their deep desire to make a difference in the world and be a good mom without sacrificing one for the other.
Justine helps women achieve more confidence & courage, work-life balance, inner peace, self-expression, greater impact and fulfillment of life purpose. She works privately with clients, facilitate coaching groups, lead a coaching club community, offer workshops, live events and speaking.
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