I’ve been putting off working on my home and making invalid excuses as to why I’m not ready to move forward with revamping any room.
This is the year I stop making excuses and start working on making these rooms feel and look like we actually live here.
Our current office space consists of two desks, and bare walls. It’ a very uninspiring place to work. As a creative, I need a space that inspires LOL.
I’m making it my mission to completely finish the space by end of April and, I’m giving myself a strict budget, which I will unveil once the project is over…. Oooooh suspense!
My friends and family have dubbed me the queen of slaying for less, and I couldn’t agree more! Wether it be travel, apparel, home or whatever it is, I will always find the less expensive way to get there without compromising quality.
One of the things I plan on accomplishing with this space is sharing some of those “slay for less” skills with you.
So first up, my home office.
Budget is set. Holding off on sharing because I want you to see that often times you can make things happen for way less than you think. I will have receipts too LOL
I’ve been away putting in work LOL – for the past week or so working on the transition from this website to a new one, and baby…. it’s been fun and annoying at the same time.
The excitement of ushering in something new is the fun part… The intricacies of building a website that represents the message I want to convey while giving the users an easy and clear site to navigate is the annoying part. Alas such is life!
Still working on it and you will be notified once it goes LIVE , I also had to remind myself of “progression over perfection” – I can’t be preaching to you and not take my own advice.
So I will continue to work on it and share here until further notice.
There’s undoubtedly a lesson to be learned here for me… This is how God deals with me LBVS.
If you follow my Instagram account and Facebook Page, you’ve noticed that I recently changed my username from Milk N Honee to Charlotte A Betts.
I’ve been toying with this idea for a few months, those of you who I shard this with know… I finally gave in and made the change.
Milk and Honee served me well as a username, but I’ve evolved a great deal since the inception of this blog in 2012, and my interests have changed as well.
I enjoy writing, I also enjoy sharing in the areas of personal style, home, food, travel and doing so in a way that is unique to me… hence the name change.
I launched HoneeComb Creatives in September of 2018 and I’ve been updating my portfolio there. Hit a sister up for all your aesthetically creative needs… I got you ;)
I want to start by addressing the #instagramblackout; March 13th 2019, that day that will forever be etched in social media history LOL.
It reminded me of the northeast blackout in 2003. Not sure how familiar some of you are with that incident, but I lived in Ontario at the time, when a widespread power outage crippled much the Northeast and parts of Canada. What we thought would last a few hours, lasted two days! Two days in the middle of August heat! People were trying to make sense of the situation. I, being extremely dramatic at the time, thought that it was the end of the world. LOL
So why did the #instagramblackout feel similar? Well… For one, no one knew what was going on! I was out here refreshing, updating and hard resetting my phone trying to understand why IG wouldn’t let my business page be great! Only to later find out that both ( the northeast blackout and social media outage) were due to a software bug.
Though I was unable to access my accounts , my productivity levels were at an all time high, which led me to write this post.
I consider myself to be disciplined to a certain extent but some days are harder than others and that’s okay, as long as you don’t stay there.
If you’ve ever had days where lack of discipline more than you’d like, I’ve got some tips that have helped me.
Go to bed early and wake up early –
Rest is an act of self care and let me tell you that it’s worked wonders for me. I try to go to bed as early as 930PM no later than 10PM- I need to sleep in order to function properly . I’m usually up by 430AM. By 8am my kids and myself are ready and we’re out the door by 8:15AM- I truly believe that rest helps me to be productive.
Minimize the time spent on social media-
Y’all! Social Media can be a distraction for me. Like for real! So I set a time limit for my daily intake! I will post and revisit my post ( usually at the end of my day) to get back to comments and so forth. If you’re concerned about posting constantly, there are APPS out there that will post for you. Found one that works.
Keep your phone in another room.
I’ve started to do this and it’s proven to be quite beneficial. When I have deadlines to meet, I will keep my phone in another room in order to be productive. And by another room, I mean in my bedroom upstairs while I work downstairs. I always cut off notifications from my MAC so that messages/ FaceTime/ Calls don’t come through my computer.
Write things down.
What works for me is writing down what I have to do the next day the night before or the morning of. I’ve stopped buying planners, because I don’t use them at the exception of the Productivity planner. I typically write everything that comes to my mind for the day ( in no specific order) and cross them off as they get completed.
All in all, I believe that discipline in whatever area of our lives comes down to how bad we want to achieve something. Whether it be healthy eating, or stronger work ethics, or spending time with God. The choice is ours, we will only reap what we sow!
The last few weeks have consisted of me stepping back from the blog to really consider what I wanted to use my platform for. I’ve always wanted to use this space to inspire, share and encourage, but somewhere along the line I became uninspired.
The last three weeks I found myself in what I like to call a prolonged “ writers block” lol.
I felt like I couldn’t come up with anything interesting enough to write or share, when in actuality I was over analyzing every single thing which in turn caused me to be stagnant.
It’s been said that perfection is the enemy of progression and though I’ve heard it before, nothing puts things into perspective until you experience it.
This will sound extremely cliché, but I will say it anyway, if you’re striving for perfection, you’re doing yourself the greatest disservice.
Move forward with your ideas, take baby steps and everything will fall into place! And I’ve decided to do just that!
If you find yourself stuck and looking for a sign, consider this post to be it.
in other news, can we talk about this plaid jacket from F21. I plan on wearing it every day.
Let me preface this post by wishing you a happy new year.
I hope this year is everything you hope for it to be, and pray that God’s grace and mercy follow you all the days of your life.
One of the things I set to do every year is make time to read a few books. I didn’t do much reading last year, which was unfortunate. I had all the intention in the world but blamed it on not having time to do it… When in fact it was that I lacked discipline to make time… We’re keeping it real in 2019!
I’ve come to realize that as my priorities shift and my time is allocated to different areas, I must find ways to do the things I enjoy.
Sadly, sitting on the couch with a blanket, reading a book may not be an option right now; because my 3 year old believes that my sole responsibility it to entertain her.
However, what I can do, is listen to books.
Listening to books is (in my opinion) the best thing since sliced bread for a number of reasons; The best one being the ability to connect your audio book to any bluetooth device and let that thing play while you do other things.
A multitasker’s dream.
That said, I’m sharing 3 titles I plan on reading , listening to within the first half of this year.
Title: The 5 love languages of children by Gary Chapman –
About The Book : #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages® has helped millions of couples learn the secret to building a love that lasts. Now discover how to speak your child’s love language in a way that he or she understands. Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell help you:
Discover your child’s love language
Assist your child in successful learning
Use the love languages to correct and discipline more effectively
Build a foundation of unconditional love for your child
Plus: Find dozens of tips for practical ways to speak your child’s love language.
Discover your child’s primary language—then speak it—and you will be well on your way to a stronger relationship with your flourishing child.he
Why I chose the book: A few years back, I forced my husband to take the The 5 Love Language Quiz LOL. The results were spot on! It helped me better understand his love language and him mine. It’s done great things for our marriage and I’d like to believe that the children’s edition may give me some insight on understanding my daughters’ love language.
2. Title: Poverty, Riches and Wealth by Kris Vallotton
About The Book: With refreshing honesty, humor, and keen insight, bestselling author and pastor Kris Vallotton mines the Scriptures in an eye-opening study of what the Bible really says about money, poverty, riches, and wealth. And what he finds is sure to shake up what you thought you knew–including these surprising truths:
· Jesus was not poor and homeless
· Heaven is described in the language of wealth
· Poverty is a mindset that holds us back from true wealth
· You determine your wealth based on how much, and how well, you love yourself
· God wants all his children to be wealthy, though not everyone should be rich
Kingdom prosperity begins from the inside out. When you learn to cultivate a mindset of abundance, no matter your circumstances, you will begin to experience the wealth of heaven in every area of your life.
Why I Chose The book: The details of Kingdom prosperity are one that I’ve always found interest in, I hope this book is good… I’ll keep you posted.
3. Book Title: (Un)Qualified: How God Uses Broken People to do big things
About The Book: Who you think you are is not as important as who God says you are…
This is a book about understanding your identity in light of who God is. It’s a book about coming to terms with the good, the bad, and the unmentionable in your life and learning to let God use you. It’s about charging into the gap between your present and your hopes and meeting God there. After all, God can’t bless who you pretend to be. But he longs to bless who you really are; a flawed and broken person. Good thing for us that God is in the business of using broken people to do big things.
Why I Chose the Book: Two words: Steven Furtick. Google him.
An actual depiction of me after having completed all three books, relishing in the knowledge I’ve acquired!
I’m interested in knowing what’s on your 2019 reading list! Share below!
Until next time!
“Reading is essential for those who seek to rise above the ordinary.” – Jim Rohn
There’s something about the year coming to an end that causes many of us to reflect over the past few months and I’m no different.
2018 has been one of the greatest years for me in terms of spiritual growth! I’ve learned things about myself, some good, some not so good but all were very necessary for growth.
As my husband often says, many of our life lessons are meant to encourage others. So today, I’m sharing 5 of the many things I’ve learned these past months, hoping that it will encourage you to do a little self reflection as it did for me.
5 things you should (strongly) consider doing before the new year.
1. Spiritual EKG
For those of you unfamiliar with the term, an EKG ( electrocardiogram) measures your heart’s electrical activity. It’s a test that can measure many aspects, from how fast the heart beats to how well its chambers conduct electrical and so forth.
While at church a few weeks ago, our pastor used the above term ( spiritual EKG) inviting the congregation to check the spiritual condition of our hearts. Everything we do, say, think is a direct reflection of our heart, and sometimes it’s not pretty. Don’t let the year end without taking your heart’s inventory.
2. Say it out loud
I truly believe in the power of Biblical affirmations. What we say we become! Last month a dear friend of mine shared a few with me and because sharing is caring, im sharing them with you too! Click here!
3. Write it down!
Mark Murphy CEO of Leadership IQ recently wrote an article for Forbes stating: “ Vividly describing your goals in written form is strongly associated with goal success, and people who very vividly describe or picture their goals are anywhere from 1.2 to 1.4 times more likely to successfully accomplish their goals.
Oh and if you’re wondering where the wisdom behind writing things down came from, It was first written in Habakkuk 2:2 .
I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve let my feelings get the best of me this year.
Though we live in a society that encourages us to make decisions based on our emotions doing so is not the wisest thing to do. Seek wisdom, not feelings.
Get an accountability partner! Accountability partner(s) will keep you on your toes and ensure that you get things done! They will give you the extra push many of us need. This article here outlines great ways to find one.
That’s all I’ve got for now!
Would love to hear some of the things you plan on doing before year end!
Had anyone told me years ago that I would meet the man of my dreams online ( backplanet.com) – marry him, move to Chicago from Ottawa, Ontario have two babies and buy a house, I would be looking at you like…
But that’s exactly what happened!
I moved to Chicago in 2007 and it was everything I didn’t expect!
I had no friends in the city, no job, and my days consisted of sitting home waiting on my husband to come home from work! So to curb my boredom I did what I love to do… I wrote!
I created a blog which initially was called Char’s Real Talk and later named it Styles by Char in 2009 –
It was then I crossed path with Antoinette Arnold at a Christian Siriano event. Antoinette is a force to be reckoned with, not only does she own Authentic Noise, she is a beauty and fashion PR connoisseur.
11 years later here we are joining forces to bring Chicago a workshop brunch (complete with mimosas) featuring some of the city’s dopest women as panelists.
Our mission? To equip you with the tools you need to start a business and secrets to getting your fashion/beauty brand the exposure it deserves.
We may be in the last quarter of the year, but don’t let it stress you, join us along with Style Maven/ Fashion Writer BeBe Jones, Beauty Writer at Essence Magazine Samantha Callender, Emmy Nominated TV producer Melissa Perez, myself and Antoinette along with other attendees for this intimate event.
13 years ago, moving to Chicago, marrying the man of my dreams and connecting with wonderful women wasn’t something I even imagined.
You just never know what’s in store for you, this is why I encourage you to come hang with us December 1st and get ready to kick off 2019 with the tools needed to bring your business to the forefront by connecting with ladies who have skin in the game and are ready to share it with you.