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The day for a photo session has arrived, and your child is not as happy about it as you are. There are many ways to get through the hurdles children might present.
We all know that children can be unpredictable. Even when we think we know how they will respond, a child’s meltdown can present itself at the most inconvenient time. Believe it or not, this actually worries parents to the point that they might feel that coercing children into taking pictures would not be a good idea. A professional photographer such as myself, however, should know how to handle a situation like this.
What do you do?
For the short length of time that constitutes a photo session (an hour to an hour and a half), you can incentivize the children. You, as the parent, are the one who knows what each child is motivated by: one might want more computer time, another might desire additional playtime, and yet another might like the idea of shopping for a new toy. If this is what it takes, then go ahead and use an incentive for that short period of time. Think of it as a secret weapon and, most importantly, as a last resort.
If you save the “bribe” for only special occasions, your child will know you mean business. Abusing this power can lead to the formation of a bad habit for you and your child. If given a reward for good behavior becomes a frequent event, the child may then learn how to get exactly what they want whenever it is desired. In that case, the power of the bribe will not be strong or, perhaps, not even effective. However, the important part of this incentive is to keep your word. The child will never believe you if you promise a treat but never follow through on it. This balance has great potential to become a win-win: you get stunning photos and your child gets a treat! On top of that, this builds trust between you and your child.
Another recommendation that I often make is that you not mention the upcoming photo session too frequently, especially to younger children. If you do bring it up, maybe you might even characterize it as a family play date. Make it an exciting event for children. If you build it up too much, it becomes something similar to going to the dentist. They will start to feel anxiety, and dread the photo session before it even begins. Using language such as “We have to go to...” or “I have an appointment with...” may create an association between the photo session and a doctor or dentist visit. If, instead, you use language like “We get to go...” or ''We're so excited to...”, you create the idea that this so-called family play date is going to be fun and occur at a really great place!
Keep it low-key by not drawing too much attention to the plans of a photography session. I like to keep our sessions stress-free and, more importantly, I like to have fun. I want children and parents to enjoy themselves and even look forward to another such session in the following year! After all, your children are only this age once, and you can never recapture those precious years brimming with incredible moments. This timeframe will come and go so it is especially important to document your beautiful family over the course of the years.I have always wanted to have children but, as I don’t have any of my own, I feel that working with children is my calling. I have a lot of patience, and I know when I capture 'the shot'. On top of that, my experience as a top NYC Family Photographer has taught me a lot of what I know in order to get great photos and make sure that my clients enjoy these photo sessions. Having years of experience in family photography, I have seen it all, and know how to work in various situations. I make sure that family photos are fun to take and that our session will be an experience to remember.
Just as I love working with children, my partner of many years adores them! He has something about him that is, well, “silly,” which makes them laugh even when he hardly speaks a word. He is 6’4”, and, for some reason, children take to him—they probably think of him as an overgrown child! We work together to capture incredible soulful, energetic, and whimsical photographs that, when displayed on your wall, express in a thousand silent words the love shared among your family members.
Summer has officially begun, and many families have booked their photo sessions or are in the process of planning the session. Get your date on the calendar soon so that you will make sure it happens. Remember: when scheduling with us, the session will be stress-free, fun, and relaxed. It's our job to do the work, not yours! For each session there is a limited time period to capture the real personality of your child in great photographs.
So, go for it: book your session with the experienced and professional NYC family photographer, the Hamptons family photographer: Lucille Khornak.
A good life is filled with the positive things we choose to see- the vibrant energies we elect to surround ourselves with. This week, we are taking a moment to be grateful with the nationwide celebration of Thanksgiving. How do you say thanks? As my family comes together each year for dinner, we like to take turns going around the table to speak about the things we are thankful for. This brings us closer together, as it focuses all of us on happiness and thoughts of positivity.
It is nice to take our attention off all the issues and challenges we face in our lives, and to learn to be truly grateful. It is also important to remember that there is always someone less fortunate than us, who would love to be in our shoes. So, when you are with family and friends this holiday, remember to share your gratitude and give them all your love. The world will become a better place if that is the energy we choose to embrace!
This week, I am sending you my gratitude, as I am so very thankful to have you in my life. Every week we receive shoutouts from our audience in the form of comments on Instagram, blog posts, and subscriber emails. Your response means a lot to me and my team, and I look forward to sharing many more memories with you.
Happy Thanksgiving from my family to yours!Love, LK
DAD - he can be your best friend, supportive and fun loving, or even someone who has simply taught you much of what you know. He is someone you look up to, someone you know who will always be there for you. He is your rock. As you mature, you want to be successful in life as a way to show your love and appreciation for him. You want him to be proud of you.
He may be the man who always there for you from helping with your homework, taking you to a football game, and making sure you saw him every day in the house as he prioritized and made sure he was home when his children were there. He could be the dad that sacrificed time with his family to make sure that they were cared for- like a selfless act of love, altruistic in nature. He may have had to sacrifice memories being made for a chance to ensure that he could provide the life he did for the people he loves.
He also may be the dad that is not your father. Not all dads are fathers. Dad could be the figure that steps in to care for a child that is not his own. Today there are so many unconventional dads – it's important to thank them and let them know that they are valued. Dads could be grandfathers or similar family members. Many grandfathers step into the role of being a dad. They become a large part of your childhood, your memories, and even your own developed wisdom. Some end up with two dads – your biological dad and your step dad, the more the merrier! Lots of moms also remarry. A person may step in to fill a new role in your life, perhaps that person offers a new perspective of what it means to be a dad. Step dads have taken on a new child, without obligation, into their lives out of love. Caring for children that are not your own is intimidating, but also courageous. Step dads choose to be a part of a new family, and without holding back, embrace a new family, and all the roles that a dad has. Big brothers are another type of dad. The big brother cares for this child out of protection, and desire to love another. Younger brothers look up to their big brothers, and often would love to be like them. These big brothers set an example, or even create a path that a younger brother may chose to follow. Today, many women are choosing to have children without a male counterpart. Kids may inevitably find dads in the lives they live. Whether it's a family friend, or an older friend of the child, this individual “dad figure” has gone out of their way to extend knowledge and advice to lost children. This individual is brave, and becomes another role model, the example the child never knew they needed. Lastly, he may even be the dad that is no longer with us. It always seems to be too soon when losing a father, but he may be guiding you and teaching you every day. If you believe that his guidance and wisdom is still evident in your life, then thank him this father's day.
These dad figures can shape the way that a child looks at the world. Having someone there to help raise you and give you advice is an important part of who you become as a person. There is a special bond between a child and their role model. As we grow to become adults, we will realize how much more that person means to us. As time passes, we realize how much dads mean to us. Some of us miss our dads dearly, and wish we had the chance to thank them. Some of us are still lucky enough to have them around, how on earth could we thank them enough?
I don't know if any of you have ever struggled with shopping for a man, however, I know I have. What do dads want?
Dads want to be proud of their children. They want to feel that the work they put into raising you has been time well spent. They not only want to help you become a solid substantial human, but knowing that they gave you the best opportunity they could is also gratifying to them.
Dads want to know that they are loved. No matter how 'macho' a man seems to be, there is a soft and kind soul underneath that outer layer. Kids know that their dad is strong, yet sometimes dad might not know that he is strong. In times of uncertainty, he looks to his family, his happiness, his home, his light in the dark. His family is all the reassurance he could ever want.
Some children are lucky enough to have their dad in their lives, others do not get to spend much time with their dads, and some may not have a dad at all. Who ever your 'dad' is, this guy is special, so give him something that communicates just that – give him a gift of love, a gift of meaning.
A visual that documents those precious moments is a priceless gift of love and and meaning to that special person. A gift certificate with premier photographer Lucille Khornak is one of love and meaning. Take beautiful family photos with a top NYC Family Photographer, and get your dad something special this year!
As most people already know, the month of March is widely recognised as a time that we set aside to celebrate the power of luck. Luck is a curious and beautiful element of life, as it is defined as “success or failure apparently brought by chance, rather than through one’s own actions.” Here at studio, we strongly believe in the power that we have to manage our experiences in life. Yes there will inevitably be ups and downs that we each must face, ultimately though, we believe that everyone of us has the power to create their own unique sense of “luck” in life.
Do you remember the last time you had a major winning streak in life? Perhaps it was an incredible day, week, or year when things just seemed to get better with each passing moment and the experiences of everyday life felt surreal. Sometimes life can be so good that it feels like a dream, and I find it so interesting how often we are so quick to credit luck for our success in life! I mean, take a look at some of the common phrases we use during these times:
“I guess I just got lucky!”
“I gotta thank my lucky stars!”
“All I can say is, I’m so lucky to be here!”
“This is my good luck charm. I take it with me everywhere!”
We hear these sentiments expressed all the time, and with the meteoric rise in web-based communities and social media throughout the last decade or so, the truth of how success is really built can easily be buried and lost. The truth is, sometimes we mistakenly credit “luck” for a number of outcomes in our lives, whether they be to our liking or to our dismay. We chalk our achievements up to chance, and almost immediately forget all the hard work, the focus and commitment that our success demanded of us.
For those of you who may be unaware, when I first went out into the Hamptons to open up the Lucille Khornak Photography and Art Gallery, I was met with some very challenging odds. I encountered a few people who saw my vision and believed it would not work, however, I remained focused on my goals. I was so focused and determined, that even after I was approved for a very prominent commercial space, I bumped into the owner of the space I originally fell in love with, set a meeting later that day, and got approved for that space as well. In the end, I successfully opened two beautiful galleries, one of which will be opening for its eleventh year of business this summer across the street from The Candy Kitchen in Bridgehampton. Now, some might think it was lucky that I bumped into the landlord that day, however, I will tell you that it was destined. Whenever you are pursuing a goal, you must remind yourself that you are worthy of achieving your dreams! I can confidently say that I was successful because I remained focused and sure of my worth, so much so that when the opportunity for success arrived, I was ready to lean into what was already mine.
So now, it is time for you to take control over the successes of your own life. At this point, you might be wondering how this level of confidence can be achieved. Some of you may even be feeling lost as to how this topic is even related to photography. Well, special for you, I’ve got the answers- and yes, it requires photography!
I always say that the power of photography is the ability to document who you really are. The reason this statement is so important (besides the fact that it is undeniably true), is because as we grow from day to day, it is virtually impossible to document the full story of a moment in time based solely on our memory. We literally need a visual reminder to help us piece together each chapter of life with the next. So when you are up, you use photography to reinforce your positive energy. When you are down, photography (especially in the walls of your home) helps you to internalize feelings of love and happiness, and it gives your self-esteem the extra boost it needs to conquer the day.
At the end of the day, photography is one of the greatest talents ever discovered in mankind. I personally have managed a successful photography business for more than 30 years, working with some of the world’s most successful individuals and families. Each of them must understand and be willing to embrace this simple truth that: quality photography is more than just luxury, it is essential to building a full, positive and balanced life for yourself and your family. Research has proven time and again, the correlation between the display of family photos in the home, and its positive impact on our sense of confidence. This confidence in turn produces success in our health, our relationships, and our careers! I hope you are encouraged to document the special moments of your life going forward, and I hope to hear about how photography has changed your life for the better!! Drop us a line in the comments below to join the discussion, or send an email to email@example.com to book your next session.
Have you ever been the person to interrupt someone else by saying, “I don’t mean to interrupt, but…”? Chances are, you followed an impulse, and here at studio we’ve learned that sometimes following your impulse can be a good thing! There have been many writings published in attempts to disprove this theory, but we took the time to analyze scientific studies on when and why it might be a good idea to let your immediate will be your guide, and to consider how that can help you appear more confident in your photos.
At the start of our research, we discovered the work of Scott Dickman, who “proposed two subdimensions of impulsivity, dysfunctional (DI) and functional (FI). He defines the latter as the tendency for rapid, goal-oriented decision-making characterized by well calculated risks.” (Europe PMC 2012) This was encouraging news to us, because at Lucille Khornak Photography, we often receive queries from prospective clients who want to know when it is best to book a photo shoot. Well chances are, if you are interested in booking a shoot, then your overall goal is most likely to capture special moments to be shared with family and friends for years to come. This is why we always recommend booking your shoot now rather than later, because we understand the importance of documenting each precious moment of life, and we’ve made it our mission to preserve your legacy by producing prints of you and your family in fine art quality.
If you’ve been reading any of our blog posts over the course of the last year, or if you’ve ever enlisted the services of Lucille Khornak Photography, then you know for yourself that we believe wholeheartedly in the power of positivity. We believe that “positivity begins right at home,” but more specifically, we believe it starts inside of you. (Smith 2018) Once you unleash the true power of positivity, you begin to see some of the greatest possibilities in your life, and you move forward in that knowledge with gratitude, grace, and confidence. Once you acquire these traits, the way you photograph begins to change, and the quality of your life’s overall story is elevated.
Take a look at the above photo. This portrait is one of my more popular ones taken out in the Hamptons, and its grainy quality reflects its timelessness although it was in fact taken many years ago. As of this writing, the boy pictured here in his sweet mother’s embrace has just now entered adulthood, and he will always have this positive memory of love, as it was put on display for him to see while he was growing up. I had the pleasure of running into the mother -who looks exactly the same today as she did when she looked into the lens for that iconic photograph- not too long ago in Bridgehampton near the gallery. We caught up on regular things, such as family, friends, and pursuits of passion, and she mentioned how she is often stopped on the streets to be lauded as “that woman from the Lucille Khornak photograph.” What an amazing and positive effect. It wasn’t long before she had impulsively said to me that she would like to book another session soon, and I felt like that moment was particularly special, because it is my life’s passion to document people’s stories of love, of beauty, and of positivity.
The impulse of that mother to make the request to book another session came from a place of knowledge and strength. Given that she is aware of how important it is to capture the important moments of life on a regular basis, she (like many of my clients) expressed her desire to be photographed while keeping in mind that her goal is to receive beautiful prints that tell her story. She also understands that the risk of skipping or passing on a session is that she and her children would miss the opportunity to see the life that she lived, or the love and positivity they had shared as a family. By definition, this impulse can be described as “functional impulsivity,” where rational decisions can be made quickly to produce lasting effects of positivity in one’s life or in the lives of others.
Founder of behavioraleconomics.com and Chief Science Officer at Syntoniq, Alain Samson, states; “Important outcomes in our lives are often determined by the balance between functional and dysfunctional impulsivity.” (Samson 2014) Balance is extremely important! I strongly recommend for you to surround yourself and your children with positive energy, and photos that bring thoughts of joy and the fondest of memories. This way, when the inevitable feelings of impulse creep up in our lives, they produce positive results! We’ve seen it back by science, that the mind of positivity lives in a world of positivity- give yourself a chance to truly live your best life, to make even the most whimsical of choices with grace and confidence! After all, the way you are is the way you photograph as a person, all the other tips are accessories to the look.
Photography is more than just a snapshot of what you’ve done, or who you were with. The real power of photography is to tell of who you are. For that reason, if ever you should feel the urge to book a photo session with me, follow that impulse. Every photo is treated with white glove service, to highlight the truest and most beautiful qualities of who you are. You are going to love the way look- that’s an LKG (a Lucille Khornak Guarantee).
You may have heard it said before, that in order to love others, you first must love yourself. Well, I am happy to report that this is true! Now I know how selfish it may sound, however, I promise you it is the best way to maximise the experience of love in the relationships of your life. I absolutely love the way Ruby Fremon expressed her thoughts on the matter in an article written for Wanderlust. Ruby suggests that it is impossible to “give love to others if you don’t have that love within.” How many times have you felt like you were spent when it came to sharing love with others? You have to learn to give yourself the love you need first, so that you will be able accept love from others as well as to give love away.
Last year, we published an article entitled, “Love Yourself,” and we introduced an exercise that was quite helpful for many of our readers. The exercise called for the use of positive affirmations, saying things like “I am beautiful, I am intelligent, I am loved.” Positive affirmations are so powerful because they require so little of your time at the start of your day, yet they yield incredible results to better your day and ultimately your entire life. Now, of course this exercise has been around for many years, however, in the busyness of our day to day lives it can be easy to skip this very crucial moment with ourselves before we step into the outside world. When we forget to have these moments, we often tend to think very little of it, or we tell ourselves that we’ll just “try again tomorrow.” While the idea that we can try again tomorrow is created with good intent, the effects of forgetting to love yourself and consciously activate the positive energy within you by way of something even as simple as citing a positive affirmation can be seen in nearly every encounter you face each day.
Perhaps you are wondering right now, “Well what if I forget this tomorrow?” or “Is there a way to automate positive thoughts when I wake up or before I leave the house in the morning?” These are great questions and if one them was on your mind, then you are in the right place! As I have mentioned many times before, the way you view life in general can be greatly impacted by the way you furnish your home. Of course it is a pleasure to dress your living space with the luxurious designs of Hans Hopfer or Jean Paul Gaultier, however, what I am talking about is much different from a sofa or a lamp. What I am speaking of is an element that makes your house a home, and we all know that a home is incomplete without a bit of heart and soul.
Research has proven that when you dress your walls with quality portraits of family and friends expressing positive energy and love towards each other, you automatically increase your opportunity to experience and embrace happiness in life because in the moment that you see these beautifully familiar images, you subconsciously take in the energy depicted. I also recommend investing in portraits of yourself to hang on your walls. As a photographer who started her career as a model, I know all too well how it feels to be so critical of yourself that it can sometimes be difficult to see the beautiful person you are. Having a beautiful portrait of yourself that can be seen everyday can help boost your energy and sense of self-confidence.
If you ever get halfway through the day and you wonder why you feel exhausted or want to cut your day short, think back to how you got up in the morning and the energy you used to start your day. Are you excited when you start your day? What is your morning routine, and how does your home setup contribute to feelings of confidence and positivity in your daily life? Wall design is a must for my clients, and many of them regularly update the portraits featured on their walls, because positive energy produces positive energy, and when you place images of love and positivity in your home, you increase feelings of happiness and love within yourself, which you can then share with the world!
I hope this article has served some sort of inspiration for you today. Let me know how what your thoughts are on positive energy and happiness in your home, and give me call so we can schedule your next photo session today! Snap you soon*
I love the month of February, because it is a time where we make a little extra space to show just how much we appreciate the ones we love most. Whether it be with a special meal, a date, or with diamonds, this time of year is known as the best opportunity to go beyond the usual and remind our closest loved ones exactly what they mean to us. Michael and I have been together for 19 years, and to this day we have never been happier. That’s why this week I wanted to share something special with you. I call it the ‘Lover’s Guide to Happiness.’
When you fall in love, there are only so many words that you can use to try to explain how you feel until you concede to the fact that words simply do not have the power to capture the essence of true love. As much as I would like to say that it is as a photographer that I am qualified to make this judgement, the truth is that anyone who is connected with their truest feelings should understand that if you really want someone to experience your love, you have got to show it to them. Last week when we talked about how to spread love, we focused mostly on the big picture, and we talked about making the world a better place. This week as we discuss how to show love, we will be looking much closer (in the fine print if you will) at how love can be used to build a lasting happiness, especially for all of the lovers out there.
Somewhat recently, I came across this beautiful quote, “True love is when you value your lover's happiness more than yours, and make their happiness your first priority.” Although, the source is anonymous, I can honestly say that I have discovered these words to be invariably true in my life with my incredible partner, Michael. Whether it be preparing a nice meal, or returning from a long trip with a special souvenir because you know it will make them smile, the added effort you make to increase your partner’s happiness really goes a long way. Another effect of true love is that it also helps in building trust, as lovers tend to connect in a space of happiness only when they feel valued, appreciated, and safe. Another author wrote about it this way:
“Safe to love, and safe to trust,
How lovely to hear you say
That these two things are an absolute must
Whilst all else fades to gray.
No fear, or sorrow was built to last
The light has made me see
With you, this life is and deep and vast
And rich, and filled with glee.”
–Kensington Brentworth (excerpt)
So now, after all is said and done, what is the ultimate way to show the love you share? Well, to the woman reading this article from the edge of her seat, you are absolutely right- the answer is photography (sorry husbands, maybe next time)!! As I have said several times before, photography is the power to document the truth of who we really are. Just imagine decades from now, when you and your children are gone and it is your great great great grandchildren who discover your Bespoke Books, all filled with precious memories that document the love shared between you and your partner during this lifetime. Where words fail, photography has the power to tell the story of a moment in time, and to bring those same feelings from that moment into the hearts of its viewers. How much greater would it be to reinforce those feelings of love in the very lovers who were photographed?! If you want to give your lover a timeless gift that will always remind them of your love, gift them a professional photography session this year.
I always enjoy the opportunity to work with couples who wish to display this intimate level of love. Often times when a camera is present, a you might feel a bit nervous when it comes to being affectionate with your partner, however, I will normally offer verbal prompts and encouragement to bring out the lovers’ connection during a session. It is very important to document the most special love you share, and to display this story of love in a beautiful way. I know I feel privileged to have someone special in my life, and I do my best to express my gratitude day in and day out. What are some of your most favourite moments with your partner? When is the last time you booked a session for just the two of you? Share an interesting love story of your own in the comments below!
It was a beautiful fall day in New York City when I found myself walking down the busy streets of midtown. The gentle breeze whisked through my blonde hair, and I thought, “something’s missing.” I was admittedly enjoying a pretty good day, however, there are some days where you just get the feeling that having a friend with you would make the experience to seem a bit more complete.
That’s when I found him.
He was innocently seated by the window of one of those international supermarkets, and I remember an instant connection the moment I laid eyes on him. Sure, he’s not “perfect” in every way- he’s taken a few falls here and there, and seen his share of bad days- but he is just the friend I needed in this season. What’s his name you ask? It’s Perry. Perry the Pumpkin.
Much like myself, Perry is a creative soul. Sometimes when I go to set him down, he starts to roll around! He has a crack in stem, but we like to say it’s the only way he can let out his love for the world. He is also very generous. He really identifies with the orange coloured personality we talked about last January, because he is very energetic, and strives to be all he can be in life.
That’s all! Shoutout to Perry the Pumpkin for being an awesome friend, and bringing some new energy to studio this season!!
One of the reasons we tend to admire children so much is because we value the purity of their hearts. Everyone comes into this word knowing only love, and we constantly learn from the environments we are in. As adults, we feel responsible -as we should- for making sure our children know how to stay positive in the face of adversity and maintain strength in good relationships, and we want only the best for them because they are the future. The thing I love most about children is their energy. Children are unequalled when it comes to being ENERGETIC. They are the first to tell you how they feel, what they like, and what they want in this life. We try and teach them to be honest, because we understand that there is power in truth, and ultimately we hope they will help make the world a better place. Sometimes, modifying the ‘grown-up’ way of thinking, and adopting a childlike spirit is just the thing we need to allow love to flow more freely through us and into the world around us.
Think of your neighbor
Have you ever welcomed (or been welcomed by) someone to the neighborhood you live in? Many traditions include baked goods, fancy refreshments, and special cards, all in the spirit of love and goodwill. Three years later, what is your relationship like with that person, couple, or family? Are you stopping in to check on them when you haven’t seen each other in a while? Are you still inviting them to your house parties and sending them your annual Holiday Cards? It is important to bond with those in your community, as it helps to alleviate the stress of feeling alone, and promotes positive energy in your environment. Quick Tip: Invite your neighbor to be a part of your next photography session- it might be the most special gift they receive this year!
Think of the World
When you interact with others, what is the energy you use? Last year we talked about building love for yourself by way of positive affirmations- can you guess what the natural next step is? Use those same affirmations on others!! There is very real power in the words we speak, and as much as I believe in using that power, I must admit that there is an even greater tool we have access to today to help spread the experience of love across the entire world.
If you guessed photography, you win. If you invest in professional photography, everyone wins!
Photography has the power to evoke feelings as wondrous and strange as ever imaginable. How powerful then would it be to surround yourself with images of love? Filling your home and office with visions of love causes you, and everyone who enters that space, to be constantly reminded of what it feels like to know the warm feeling that love brings. When your children look through custom made photo albums of their grandparents’ love story, when your guests see fine art prints of your loved ones hung on the walls of your home, and when your subordinates witness the powerful frame of a loving family unit, that’s when even without words love is being spread. Photography is the ultimate way to spread love.
Each moment of life can be special, and fine art photography is the greatest way to preserve a memory and share that feeling for lifetimes to come. What are some of your favorite moments you were fortunate enough to have documented as a photograph? How did it inspire the feeling of love inside? Post your comments in the box below!