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Valentine’s Day can be a nightmare. In this video, I share many tips on how to survive Valentine’s Day without losing your dignity—or your mind!

William Shakespeare said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache”. While Valentine’s Day can be wonderful day to celebrate love, it can also put undue pressure on all of us. In this video, I share tips to help you survive Valentine’s Day without letting it get you down.

How to Survive Valentine’s Day
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If you’re in a relationship…

If you’re currently dating someone or in a relationship, there’s the pressure of purchasing the perfect gift, making reservations at the most expensive restaurant, and buying just the right flowers. 

  • Hide love notes for one another.
  • Plan an exciting evening, and don’t tell him/her what the plan is. Build up the mystery and intrigue.
  • Have sex in a new place.
  • Go for a couples massage.

If you’re single…

If you’re single, Valentine’s Day can be a painful reminder that you don’t have someone special in your life. Here are 3 tips to help you get through the day.

  • Fall even more madly in love with the most important person in your life – YOU.
  • Take yourself out to that movie you’ve been wanting to see.
  • Throw a party for your single friends – a love fest.

I’m not a big fan of Valentine’s Day. It’s become a Hallmark holiday, designed to sell a ton of red roses and greeting cards, heart-shaped jewelry, and romantic movies.

So, whether you’re single or in a relationship, why wait for this special day to celebrate love? Nurture your own self-love every day. Celebrate the love you already have in your life. 

Whether you’re single or partnered, it’s the small acts of kindness and caring that matter most. Be a giver of love. Giving from the heart fills you up with so much more love and prepares you to love wholeheartedly.

How will you celebrate Valentine’s Day this year? Please share below.

P.S. If you find it difficult to find quality men, let’s get on a complimentary ½ hour Woman of Value Love Breakthrough Session. 

During the session, I’ll help you:

1. Uncover the hidden challenges sabotaging your success with men.

2. You’ll leave the session with a clear blueprint to help you find—and attract—the man of your dreams!

Apply for your breakthrough session: https://lastfirstdate.com/breakthrough

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I hear it all the time from women…where are all the good men? Dr. Dain Heer is an excellent role model for the type of man you want to date.

My podcast guest, Dr. Dain Heer, spoke about the dangers of the alpha male mentality and the return of good men. He’s a bestselling author, internationally renowned speaker, and a co-creator and leading facilitator of Access Consciousness®, a personal development modality available in more than 170 countries that has contributed to changing the lives of tens of thousands of people.

Dr. Heer draws upon his personal background and unique perspective to facilitate positive change in the world, and to empower people from every culture, country, age and social strata to create the life they truly desire.

Check out highlights below for EP343: The Dangers of the Alpha Male Mentality with Dr. Dain Heer.

So…where ARE all the good men?

Why did you write this book?

About three years ago, I was presenting at an event, and a 23-year-old guy came up to me and said, “Thank you. I had been searching for how to be true to myself in relationships. [In the media], I had only seen how to get girls. But, not how to be authentically me. Until I met you.”

I wrote Return of the Gentleman based on a series of Zoom conferences I held for men. Men told me they felt like they could be themselves again. They said, “I’m not alone”. “I can be a success by being me.”

Women wrote, “I’m starting to get the man back that I married. I’m making my partner wrong much less, because I understand him.”

What do you think today’s man is missing more than anything?

There tend to be two types of men. The stereotypical alpha male who enforces everything with force. Then there are the other men who are wondering how they’re somehow wrong for being men. They have no idea who they are. Gender roles have changed so much in the last 50 years. Men have not been allowed to show emotions. They desire to be kind to women who like them and want to have sex with them.

Men have no idea as to how to be. Women can be attracted to [alpha] men who seem to have strength, but they also are egotistical and care mostly about themselves.

The good men get put into the friend zone, as they’re not attractive to you. We want what we can’t have. We need to widen our scope of what we’re looking for. As women, you have to change our stereotype of who we’re attracted to. You want to be with good men, men who are caring, kind, contribute, and values–not judges–you.

How would you suggest women change their attraction to ‘good men’?

If we look at what we call attraction, it’s something like looking across the room and falling for someone. The true meaning of ‘passion’ is ultimate suffering. The projections we have about attraction are killing us. It’s important to realize most of our points of view of attraction are handed down by society, our parents, how we grew up.

Write down what you find attractive in a man. Ask yourself, “What did I get from my mom, my dad, and the three most influential people in my life.” Realize whose point of view you’ve adapted.

Your truth makes you lighter. Scratch off whatever doesn’t make you lighter. Ask yourself, “If I were truly being me, what would I choose?” As you start to get clear, you find different aspects become attractive to you.

Ask yourself, “Is this true? Is this true for me? What if it weren’t true?”

Then, when you’re with men, get curious. Be in the question rather than the conclusion. How to ask the questions: “I’m really confused. Can you help me please? What did you mean by __?” This takes down the walls of judgment.


What are the signs that a good man is being his authentic self?

He likes himself. He’s not pretending to be something he’s not. He has intimacy with himself.

You have your own back. You don’t judge yourself. You know what’s true for you. And you have authentic conversations. If only one partner is authentic and has done the deeper work, they can help the other rise up to be their best self. Our partner doesn’t have to do what we’re doing.
If they’re supporting and contributing to you as you’re changing, it’s okay if they’re not on the same page. Stop judging them. Be grateful.

If you change and your partner is frustrated they can’t control you, it’s good that you’re changing, and it’s not someone you should be with, as they’re not going to create a better future with you. Most people get into a relationship with the back door open. These people are almost daring the other person to change so you can have permission to leave.

What’s one last word of advice you can give our audience so they can go on their last first date?

It boils down to loving yourself first. The five elements of intimacy are: Honoring you, trusting you, allowance of you (no right or wrong), gratitude of you (you’re a gift to yourself), and vulnerability (showing up without apology or force).

And realize this: you truly being you? You’ll be more present than anyone around. When you meet a man, one of the most seductive things is a woman who’s not judging. Then, you can see if you work together in your authenticity.

For more information on Dain’s book, Return of the Gentleman, visit: https://returnofthegentleman.com/.

Go to drdainheer.com and watch his videos and grab his free stuffhttps://drdainheer.com/.

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My podcast guest, Cathy Mines, is passionate about helping women over 50 live their best life. Such a fun show with meaningful tips. Check it out.

My podcast guest, Cathy Mines, is passionate about helping women over 50 see how life gets even better. She inspires a love-your-life attitude through yoga, meditation, and intimate speaking engagements.

Director of Wellness at Reach Yoga and the Founder of The United Hearts of Allies project. Cathy is passionately living her ‘Third Act’ and loving her life’s work in Toronto, Canada. A certified yoga instructor since 2003, a graduate of the Transformational Arts College Spiritual Psychotherapy Program and a Delegate at the Resonance Academy. Receiving a Certified Peace Ambassador Certification has been one of Cathy’s most treasured achievements in this work.

Check out highlights below for Episode #342: Enthusiasm for Life and Love After 50: The 8 Sacred Responsibilities.

How Life Gets Better For Women Over 50 What is a Sacred Responsibility? And why are there Eight?

A sacred responsibility is a highly valued moral responsibility to respond to life to increase our life force and vitality. People are tired. They’ve overextended themselves. We’re overwhelmed. Responsibility freaks people out, but I want to re-establish responsibility for our happiness. Get fired up about it.

I chose the eight responsibilities by going through my old journals. I noticed I’d been making notes on sacred responsibility for years. These are the ones that matter most to me.

The Eight Responsibilities are:

1. Self-Care

2. Rise and Shine

3. Know Yourself

4. Collaborate

5. Honor Your Intuition

6. Create and Play

7. Relax and Celebrate

8. Gratitude.

Do you have a particular starting point for people new to self-care as a sacred responsibility?

We need to begin with caring for ourselves and looking within. Begin to honor what you already do. For example, when you brush your teeth and wash your face, take 5 minutes. If we take that time, and look in the mirror to appreciate ourself, this will start our day with reverence. Honor your breathing. This gently builds resilience. When your people need you, you have cultivated a way to hold your energy so you will be there when they need you.

What is ‘create and play’ to you? Can you share a way for us to create and play without spending a lot of time or money?

If something sparks you, follow the spark. If a good song comes on, wiggle a little bit, even if no one else is dancing or singing along. Begin to see play everywhere you go. You can sing along with the music in the car. There’s a sensuality in play that I love. It’s connected to our bodies and our senses. Pleasures fill up our energy. This increases our vitality and longevity.

How do you apply sacred responsibility in relationships?

Getting to know yourself again after 50 is one of the strongest things we can do for ourselves. This will guide and influence all your relationships. If we like to laugh and dance, people know what’s going to happen when they’re around us. Remember what makes you happy. Present that memory into our relationships. Show up on dates as your authentic self. That will quickly separate those that pick you up and light you up from those that don’t get you.

Don’t dim your light for anyone anymore.

Cathy Mines

What’s your mission for women over 50?

I love helping women over 50 get to know themselves and get to know who they are now. In my book, I have a daily statement, “Today, I open myself fully to living a sacred life. “

Do what you love, get to know what makes you happy, and walk towards that. Cultivate joy.

Cathy Mines

What’s your advice for women over 50 who want to go on their last first date?

To go on your last first date, you don’t need an end-game. Enjoy the moment. Enjoy the conversations. Be excited about each date. Set aside the anxiety about meeting men. Treat each interaction like it’s the best place you want to be and the best person you want to be with in the moment.

You can find Cathy at reachyogalifestyle.ca. Sign up for a document with exercises from her book so you can live into the 8 sacred responsibilities.

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What keeps you from finding (and keeping) love? My guest, Darlene Corbett, helps people in getting unstuck so they can fall madly in love. Listen in!

My podcast guest, Darlene Corbett, is a Professional Speaker, Author and Licensed Therapist/Coach. Her expertise is helping people get “Unstuck.” She is a high-content speaker with an engaging style. Audiences leave with much enthusiasm and the tools to begin the process of getting unstuck.

Darlene has been in the people business for over thirty years. She has been quoted in Knox News, Bustle, and Best Life and has written many blogs which can be found on DarleneCorbett.com, LinkedIn, and Sixty and Me. Her book, Stop Depriving The World of You, was published by Sound Wisdom in November of last year.

Check out highlights below for episode #341: Getting Unstuck and Overcoming Obstacles in Dating.

Getting Unstuck and Overcoming Obstacles in Dating What do you think is the biggest obstacle in the world of dating?

Everyone is capable of getting unstuck. There are many obstacles along the way, but we have to try to overcome it. Lack of trust and giving up are the two big ones.

People have a hard time being authentic. Trust is an issue, because there’s a lot of deception in the dating world. You can be cautious and examine, but don’t give up. It’s also important to be flexible and compromise.

How realistic are people as they navigate the world of dating?

Some people have expectations and criteria that are unrealistic, like finding someone with all the same activities you like. You can have different interests, which brings a richness to the relationship. Also, attraction can be an issue. What do you have to lose by going out for a cup of coffee?

The most important thing is how they treat you as a human being.

Can you share an exercise to help people in getting unstuck?

Focus your attention to try and change how you see the world, using the word UNSTUCK.

U: is for your uniqueness and gifts.

N: is for the new, not the past (which is over), but now and the future.

S: is for your strengths. Focus on your inner strengths.

T: is for makes you tenacious?

U: is for your uniqueness again.

C: is for what makes you creative.

K: is for knowledge.

Keep these in mind. Practice them. You can look in the mirror and state your uniqueness over and over.

Do you think it’s easier for men more than women to navigate the dating world?

It’s a challenge for both. Many think it’s easier for men. I think the problem is many men want a younger woman. But, that’s shifting. Cut the texting and talk on the phone.

[2:28: Listen to a story of hope about a woman over 70 who found love online.]

You never know if the next person you meet is going to be the one.

Darlene Corbett

Find Darlene at darlenecorbett.com and read her blogs on getting unstuck.

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Women often misunderstand men. My podcast guest, Jordan Gray, shared ways for women to emotionally connect with men. So much depth and wisdom shared!

My podcast guest, Jordan Gray, is a #1 Amazon best-selling author, blogger, and sex and relationship coach with a decade of practice behind him. His work has been featured in The Huffington Post, The New York Times, Psychology Today, Business Insider, Forbes, and countless other publications around the globe. He has made it his life’s mission to make thriving relationships attainable to everyone.

Check out highlights below for episode #338: Jordan Gray on How to Emotionally Connect With Men.

Listen to/download the episode below. Or click here for the direct link to the show.

What’s your backstory? Why did you get into the field of relationships, love, and sex?

I had a lot of pain tied to the theme of relationships at a young age. I found myself obsessing over what makes a healthy relationship. I read books on sex, intimacy, and parenting from seven- to eight-years-old onwards. My bedroom had hundreds of books.

I had a significant breakup at 19-20 years-old. I was in film school, drawn to creative mediums. I realized there were no books in my room on lighting and cinematography and so many on relationships. I started my coaching practice 6 years ago.

What are the top three fears people have that keep them from a thriving relationship?
  1. Integrating, loving, and accepting the full range of the emotional spectrum. For men it’s sadness, grief, and tenderness. For women, it’s anger. Women are socialized to be highly agreeable.
  2. Sexual dysfunction. Inability to orgasm, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation in men. People are more in their heads, less connected to their bodies.
  3. There are no good ones left. People believe all the quality partners are snatched up. I missed the boat.

How do you coach men to work through difficult emotions?

It starts with their internal relationship. Why accept sadness if I believe all women will reject my sadness? They’re projections, but also based on past experiences. I tell them, it’s not your job to get from zero percent belief to 100% belief. They have to be healed in relationship. Be willing to soften your position/self-judgment and let go of it. Maybe there are some women who can accept my tough emotions.

Stop the mental masturbation and deploy the courage to have those things be received by other people. Show your sadness to a partner or friend. See that there are more people who accept you for those tender gifts. With positive feedback, it builds your confidence.

Why are men’s groups so important?

I think all groups are valuable. Spending time in a safe container is so healing. Everyone is starving for connection, and it’s a healing balm. Why men’s groups? The male suicide rate is very high. I am chipping away at it with my life’s work. The lone work mentality is: life is suffering, it’s all on your shoulders. So much pressure that’s impossible to navigate on our own.

We need other people to survive and thrive. We require others to support us. I’ve been in a group every Tuesday for three years. We talk about everything that’s on our minds. We had two guys who came to a meeting and told us they’d be fathers for the first time. Hearing their internal dialogue is instructive to us all.

There are men going through depression, angry fathers, men with repressed anger and swallowed anger. These men start to trust and cultivate relationships and learn human connection. It’s beautiful. It’s so easy for me to imagine these groups chipping away at the high divorce rate, suicide rate, and so much more.

How are men misunderstood? What do women need to know?

Take a man at his word. Deborah Tannen talks about how men often speak in message and women speak in meta message. Believe him when he says you look great. Don’t chop away at the tree of his words too much. If he feels his woman doesn’t trust him, that chips away at the relationships.

Trust is earned and cultivated over time. Keep him sharp and honest, but give him the benefit of the doubt as often as you can. Don’t assume the worst.

Can men be ‘nice’ and sexy? If so, what’s the secret?

Having a spine or not is a much bigger factor than someone’s capacity to be nice. If you say you’re a nice guy, but you’re really a passive liar, it’s not nice. It’s manipulating someone’s perception of you. You can’t trust their yes or their no.

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Learn more about Jordan Gray here.

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Have you ever caught yourself falling for potential? You meet someone online, you think he could be the one, and you can’t wait to meet. And then…

Has this ever happened to you?

You’re dating online, and you spot a man who seems amazing! He’s handsome, he’s read all the right books, and he also likes the Grateful Dead and hiking! He seems like he could be the perfect match. You exchange a few messages, chat briefly, and the first date is set. “What if I’m about to meet my future husband?” you nervously think as he’s about to enter the restaurant.

And then, you lock eyes. Wait, could that possibly be the same guy? He has less hair than his pictures, and he’s at least four inches shorter. He walks over to give you a hug, and you feel…nothing. You can barely connect in person. The energy is way off. What happened? He looked so promising before you met. And now, you’re disappointed. The date ends, and it’s hard to muster up the energy to go back online and search again.

It’s so easy to fall for a man’s potential. But, it’s important to stop living in fantasy land if you don’t want to lose your sanity. Here’s how to be more realistic and less disappointed in your search for love…

3 Ways to Stop Falling for Potential
  1. Slow down. Be patient and observe as you get to know a man.
  2. Watch for must-haves and red flags right away.
  3. Instant connection is rare. Remember that anyone can SEEM amazing in a profile, through text, or social media. Anyone can say all the right things and sweet talk you. 

BUT…

Words mean nothing without follow through and consistent action. The ONLY THING that actually counts is how a man SHOWS UP.

Actions + Consistent Behavior always reveals the truth!

Watch the video to learn more, and hear my story about falling for potential.
The Cure for Falling for Potential - YouTube

Have you ever fallen for potential? I want to hear your story. Please comment below!

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Dating in the 21st century…it’s confusing! How do you find a life partner in the age of hooking up and hanging out? Watch this video to find out.

What exactly IS dating in the 21st century? With the introduction of the casual dating/hook-up culture, many of us are confused about what dating means anymore. In this video, I discuss the solution for the confusing state of dating in the 21st century.

The Confusing State of Dating in the 21st Century
How to Define Dating in the 21st Century - YouTube

How do we even define dating today? Dating can be so many things, depending on who you ask; going out, hanging out, hooking up, ‘being’ with someone, ‘seeing’ each other, Netflix and chill, and friends with benefits, to name just a few.

With the introduction of casual dating and the hook-up culture, most of us are confused about what dating truly means.

THE SOLUTION TO DATING CONFUSION

Decide on YOUR definition of dating, and stick to it. Here’s one of my favorites from Wikipedia:

Dating is a form of human courtship consisting of social activities done by two persons with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a spouse.

Let’s look at the 4 key words in the Wikipedia definition:

– Courtship: It’s still an important phase of dating.

– Activities: That means going OUT, not Netflix and chill on a first or second ‘date’.  

– Assessing: You need to establish your must-haves and deal breakers BEFORE you date in order to know if you even want to go on a first date with them.

– Spouse: While your goal may not be marriage, if you’re looking for a serious relationship with a life partner, assess their suitability as a candidate for that partner.  Don’t keep dating if his goal is ‘hang out and hook up indefinitely.

Watch the video to learn more. And please post a comment about YOUR definition of dating in the 21st century.

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Dysfunctional family parties? Single during the holidays? Here are great tips for how to survive the holidays, no matter what! —

Christy Whitman is a celebrity coach and a leading expert on the application and practice of the universal laws that govern every act of manifestation. An entertaining and sought-after public speaker and the author of 5 books, two of which became New York Times bestsellers, Christy has helped tens of thousands of women and men around the world to understand, harness, and deliberately direct universal forces such as attraction, polarity, alignment and momentum to more effortlessly manifest their personal and professional desires.

Highlights below for episode #337: Christy Whitman On How to Survive the Holiday.

How to Survive Holiday Parties (And Your Dysfunctional Family)

What do you need to ask yourself before you attend Holiday parties?

We need to get in the habit of asking ourselves what we want. Set an intention and visualize what you want beforehand. Ask yourself: What do I want? Why do I want it? How do I want to feel?

Pre-pave what you do want to happen. This gets us off what we don’t want. And it focuses on what we do want.

How do we get through Holiday Parties when we’re made to feel inadequate or competitive with others?

We get to decide how we want to feel in our bodies. When you don’t want to go to a party and it’s a ‘no’, stick with the ‘no’. If you grew up in a family where you did what was needed to make others happy, it’s a practice to get comfortable inside yourself [saying no and setting boundaries].

Our emotions are guiding us to what feels good or not. Most women take care of others first. We need to give from the saucer, not the cup. When we matter, we have excess to give others. There might be some disappointment from others, and that’s okay.

You say there are five steps to having a great experience during the holidays. Can you share those with us?
  1. Accept others. If you’re going to a party, accept everyone for who they are. Waste no energy on trying to change someone or judging.
  2. Appreciate and acknowledge the wisdom you gather from the interaction. Even if the experience wasn’t positive, people are a reflection of what’s going on inside us. If we have an emotional reaction, acknowledge the wisdom of the emotions inside you. Use it to learn more about yourself. Accept them for where they are. You’re having an emotional reaction inside of you.
  3. Send out waves of appreciation for what others are teaching you about yourself. Resentments bind us to people more than love does. The negativity will hold you back.
  4. Process the emotions. If this is a person you no longer choose to see again, get on with the busy-ness of life. There’s no need to have a conversation and blame or enlighten them about what doesn’t work about them. Not everyone deserves a backstage pass to your life. If this is someone you’re related to, the conversation you have with them is with acceptance, allowing the learning, appreciate them.
  5. Accept yourself and others. Allow others to be on their path. Allow yourself to be on your path.

What advice do you have for people who feel they’re lonely and lacking love during the holidays?

It’s up to us to focus on what we DO have. What’s right and good in our lives? What are you content with? No life is perfect. If you stay stuck in the limitations and feel you’re missing something, you have the ability to give that emotion to yourself. When you do, you feel you’re already having it. It begins to attract in what you want. Watch what you say, think, processing. Don’t let your circumstances feed your loneliness, sadness, and fear. Know you’re the creator of how you do want to feel. That’s when things begin to change.

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My podcast guest, Angela Lenhardt, used her intuition to manifest great love. Learn how to use your intuition to attract in the love you deserve. —

Angela Lenhardt is a spiritual teacher and author of best-selling books, A Charmed Journey: An Inspired Guide to Personal Transformation and Trigger the Wonder Horse.

She is a sought after intuitive life consultant. Her clients include celebrities, entrepreneurs, CEO’s and hiring managers for her intuitive insights and healing abilities. She enjoys working with individuals and organizations of all kinds around the country. Angela utilizes her intuitive gifts to provide her clients with clarity on how to successfully maneuver through obstacles and guidance on how to avoid future pitfalls that may directly impact their life.

Join me now for episode #336: Angela Lenhardt on How to Use Your Intuition to Find Love

How to Use Your Intuition to Find True Love Listen to/download this episode below or by clicking here. How would you define intuition?

It’s your inner wisdom. It’s also a body sensation. It’s the universal wisdom pointing you in the right direction, to your soul’s growth and personal development.

Hone in on that voice and follow it, despite not knowing what the end result will be.

How can you use your intuition to find true love?

Your intuition is always pointing you in the direction of personal development and growth. When you accept yourself as a spiritual being having a human experience and embrace all of who you are, become integrated between body, mind and spirit. That’s when you can put your best foot forward and create a divine partnership.

Soulmates tend to represent hardships, tears and chaos.

When we have total acceptance, we can find the love outside that’s a mirror of where you are. I have experienced it, and it’s amazing.

Your intuition guides you to your next area of growth, which might be a difficult relationship for you to learn from.

Can you speak about the connection between intuition and breaking up?

Tune into your body’s wisdom. I was in a relationship that was good, but not something that would last a long time. It was fun, but I knew it was short lived. I went to visit him, and it was a great weekend, but the night before I was supposed to come back to Colorado, my eyes got so heavy, I practically needed toothpicks to open. My ability to communicate was almost non-existent! I intuitively knew I was guided to pack all my belongings, because I was not going to come back again.

What are some ways to connect with your intuition?

I practice meditation twice a day. It’s important to clear the mind chatter and create space in our mind for wisdom to arrive. It’s hard to hear with all the ‘to-do’s’ in your mind.

1. Slow down to hear what your body is saying.
2. Ask for guidance. In the morning, I say, “God, show me how I can be of service today.”
3. The more you listen and honor it, the stronger it gets. It pulls you to specific situations and people.
4. Do things that feed your creativity and imagination.

When I was a little girl, I visualized the relationship I have today. My intuition guided me to a restaurant and a specific table. He walked in and asked me a question. I recognized him, even though I never met him before.

He has the same name as my ex-husband. Our mothers have the same first name. It’s almost uncanny how much we have in common.

You can use your intuition to get into or out of relationships. It’s your guiding light. If you choose to honor that intuitive wisdom, it becomes crystal clear what direction you want to go in.

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My podcast guest, Dr. Lynn Marie Morski, talks about the stages of recovering from a breakup. Check out highlights and the replay here. —

My podcast guest, Lynn Marie Morski, MD, Esq. joined me to discuss the most critical stage in recovering from a breakup. She is a physician, attorney, speaker, author, and…lifelong quitter. As the founder of Quitting By Design, Lynn Marie is on a mission to help people carve out a successful life through strategic quitting. Since her first big quit at the age of 21, Lynn Marie discovered the power of quitting to inform your life’s true purpose and path and her new book, “Quitting by Design,” teaches readers how to maximize the benefits and minimize the challenges associated with major life changes.

Check out highlights below for episode #335: Why Confronting Your Fears is the Most Critical Stage of a Breakup

The Most Critical Stage in Recovering From a Breakup Download/listen below or by clicking here.

Why is confronting your fears the most critical stage of a breakup?

Fear is probably what keeps people from a breakup in the first place. Many stay in relationships because they haven’t yet overcome their fears.

5 Stages in Confronting your fears

Stage 1: Decide whether or not there’s something to quit. This goes for anything you need to quit (a relationship, poor eating habits, a job). Ask yourself, “What is out of alignment?”

Stage 2: Narrow it down to what part of the issue is not working. For example, if you and your significant other are always fighting about the mess in your home, do you need to quit the relationship or hire a cleaner?

Stage 3: Overcome your fears. Identify what your fears are. Are you afraid of being alone? Afraid of what people will say? What others think of you has zero bearing on our life.

Stage 4: Logistics. Prepare for the outcome after you quit, such as where to live and how to manage your finances.

Stage 5: Enacting. This is where you actually quit.

What’s the difference between quitting a relationship and giving up?

Strategic quitting is a thoroughly well-thought out process. Giving up is quitting when the going gets tough.

In strategic quitting, you don’t just walk out. You plan, especially if you live together. Take the other person into consideration. Think about finances. Have an amicable breakup.

Why do so many people settle?

People settle in relationships for different reasons. Some feel if they want kids, they’re running out of time. Or they’re lonely. Or they have a financial need.

Your body doesn’t lie. Pay attention to your intuition.

Why is timing so important when ending a relationship?

If you’re in a relationship and things get hard, don’t just give up. I was in a relationship for four months and it lost its luster. I got irritable and had back pain. He was sad because I was so irritable. I stayed because I thought it was just past the honeymoon stage, and I should try and work through the bumps. But, the relationship wasn’t working, and I had to leave. There’s no ‘should’. If it’s not working, it’s not working.

Final words for our audience…

If you’re in a relationship that isn’t working for you, staying is costing you the opportunity to go on your last first date. You have a finite amount of time and energy. Free yourself so the right opportunity comes along.

Learn more about Lynn Marie Morski  here. Check out her podcast, follow her on social media, and buy her book.

Please take a moment to rate and review our show on iTunes here. Thank you!

Schedule your complimentary 1/2 hour Love Breakthrough Session to learn how coaching with Sandy can help you finally attract in the love you desire and deserve. https://lastfirstdate.com/breakthrough

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