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I wanted to share my story of how much my relationship has changed since I began following your advice! It will be of great benefit for ladies to see how I managed to turn a situation around, that at first seemed seems so hopeless.
Starting from month 5 into our relationship till April of 2018, the way my boyfriend behaved with me was truly appalling. He didn’t reciprocate affections, he had a wandering eye, and he was very cold to my feelings and acted like he didn’t care about me at all.
He had told me that he preferred for us not to live together and that he was happy with us both having separate apartments away from each other.
He was basically living the life of a bachelor but would but would get upset when I would attempt to have my own life outside of him. I would do so much for him; I would cook for him, clean his house and tend to his “back issues”. Although he was treating me so badly I stayed with this man because I truly loved him and thought he would change. I’d been married once, and he had been married twice before. We found each other as friends after our previous relationships ended.
I started following your channel earlier this in 2018. I made sure to watch every single video as soon as you would put up, because I was really was drawn to you for the simple fact that you reiterated how important a woman’s value is and how she should never accept and tolerate being treated like a doormat. That’s exactly how I was feeling in my relationship. So I made sure to follow all of your advice to the T!!
In April 2018, my boyfriend made a comment that I would have normally ignored and moved on from; He told me good luck with my next boyfriend after arguing with me over something trivial. I immediately thought of you! I told him “very well”, grabbed my purse and car keys, softly said goodbye and left. As I entered my car, I removed him from all my social media, I blocked him on my phone and email, and completely deleted his number. When I got home, I put all our digital photos in a photo vault so I couldn’t see them. I told myself I was too valuable a woman to be spoken to in such a disrespectful manner, and I was not going to be treated like a doormat any longer. I called up some friends that night and told them I was officially single and we should go out to celebrate. I went out every night for the next 4 days having a great time with my friends, family, and just by myself. I didn’t give him a second thought.
He had attempted to contact me through Snapchat, which I had forgotten I had, and told me it was odd for him not to hear from me. Then he asked if I knew where his crockpot was, as if nothing happened! I ignored him and went on another two days living my new single life. Finally after 8 full days, I decided to check my blocked messages. There I found so many texts from him saying how much he missed me, apologising to me for being a jerk, and how much he loved me. I smiled, laughed and cried. I decided to respond. I told him the reason why he hadn’t heard from me is because I was tired of the way he had been behaving and treating me and he gave me the ammunition to move on and find another. I told him I’d been having a great time finding myself and enjoying every second of it. He explained to me that he saw a picture of me on a jet ski with another man and it hurt him to the core because he felt he had lost me already.
I had agreed to meet up with him in person and my reason was because I wanted to give him closure. I think this comment truly terrified him. He broke down, and eventually so did I. I was finally able to tell him exactly how I’d been feeling for the last three and a half years. I told him that I felt like he had wasted my precious time, stringing me along when I could have used that time to meet a man who truly appreciated me and committed himself to me and wanted to start a family. He felt very remorseful and cried. He said he didn’t know how much I wanted a family and that he did too. I had never seen him cry. This was in April 2018. Since then, he’s pleaded for me to move in, which I am doing now. He says he’s in love with me every day; he makes sure to message or calls me every day, to call me beautiful and tell me that he loves me. He made us Facebook official and has been boasting about me on his social media, bragging about me to his friends & family (and I’ve already met them all) He’s also booked future trips for us together. He wants to add me to his accounts and insurance policies and to do a domestic partnership registration. I am suspicious that I might even get a proposal soon. Just a gut feeling!
I still have a slight wall up in case he reverts back but, so far, I’ve been happier than I’ve ever been! He even tells me he’s thankful that I gave him another chance and never wants to lose me again.
Thank you Greta! You have helped me see my true worth and value. You gave me the courage to stand up for myself and walk away with no tears and no regrets. You gave me the strength to block out the negativity and garbage from my life. I now know my value. I am a high value strong minded woman. He now sees this too and apologises to me every time he steps out of line. All because you have made me believe in myself and what I deserve as a high value woman!
I am so happy to inform you that I’m engaged! The credit for this beautiful moment goes to you, Greta Bereisaite our beautiful coach and the high value Facebook group moderators. I would love to share my journey from being a total doormat to transitioning into a woman whose boyfriend now respects her completely.
We have been dating for 2 years and initially he was the one who was chasing and pursuing me. however gradually over time this began to fade and his calls and texts diminished. There even came a point where he had begun to avoid my calls and texts. Due to this change in behaviour I became scared of losing him and began chasing him mercilessly. Whilst all this was happening I realised that he had begun communicating more with his ex girlfriend. I got so insecure that I started to stalk both of them, and it reached a point where I also asked him to either choose me or her. He replied that he is not yet sure with whom he would like to stay and despite all this I still clung onto him. I allowed him to take his time to choose between me or her. When I look back at this, I cannot believe i was such a low value woman!!
Eventually a day came when his disrespectful behaviour had reached such a point that he told me that I can leave the relationship if I wanted to, because I kept on nagging him due to feeling constantly threatened by his ex-girlfriend. By this time I had invested a lot of emotions and time into the relationship and my behaviour was that of a total doormat, therefore I had no courage to leave him.
However the final straw came when he insulted me to an extreme level, all due to my behaviour and I naturally had to stop contacting, him to save whatever was left of my self-respect. I stepped back and went into no contact with him, even though at the time I wasn’t aware of you and your advice, it felt like the right thing to do at the time.
As a result of the breakup I fell into a depression, eventually I decided I would try and find a solution to my problem. I began searching the internet and on YouTube, I finally found your videos, Greta. I watched them all hungrily and asked you as many questions as I could. There is even a Youtube link to my story and situation at the time.
After this I joined Your High Value Women Facebook Group and my story began to change for the better. During your live on Facebook I asked you about my situation and you said that I am behaving like a complete doormat and I needed to change my behaviour into that of a High Value Woman so that the same man who is treating me like his servant would treat me like a Queen instead.
After this consultation I began posting regularly on the Facebook group wall and was aided by the High Value Women moderators of the group, who held my hand and brought me out from the miserable condition I was in.
Gradually I started to behave more the way that you teach us to behave, Greta. I recognised and learnt not to make mistakes and to improve on my own personal behaviour. I made major changes in my thought process, my mindset, my communication skills and most importantly I remained patient, waiting for the good days to come. Once again he said he was confused as to whom he would date me or his ex-girlfriend. This time I wished him good luck in his life and said I’m happy for you and that he can have a good life ahead. After I said this Dang! He began to chase me like hell! He had noticed the progress in me and started wondering if I was the same woman. He began talking to me in a very polite manner and started to ask me what it was that made me so cool and calm.
What I didn’t know is that he reads Robert Greene books and he is coached too! I never knew this until I became High Value myself and he told me, but I what I never told him is that I have my own army too, who follows such a strong logical leader like you Greta!
Gradually he started respecting me more and more and began treating me completely differently than before. The ex-girlfriend went out the window. He started treating me like a Queen, just as you said he would and the now even calls me a “queen” when he texts me.
I turned my relationship around 180 degrees all because of you!
Some rules I always followed were:
1. I TRUSTED IN GRETA’S TEACHINGS WITHOUT ANY DOUBT
2. WHENEVER THE MODERATORS TOLD ME NOT TO DO SOMETHING, OR TO BEHAVE IN A PARTICULAR WAY, I DID THAT BLINDLY, NO IFS AND NO BUTS
3. I STAYED IN THE PAINFUL SITUATION WITH PATIENCE ALWAYS BELIEVING THAT THE SAME MAN CAN TREAT ONE WOMAN LIKE A DOORMAT AND ANOTHER LIKE A TOTAL QUEEN
4. I TOOK TOTAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY MISTAKES
5. I NEVER MISSED A SINGLE LIVE OR VIDEO THAT GRETA MADE AND I TRIED TO BE THE BEST STUDENT TO HER AND THE MODERATORS
So, ladies, a final message to you, before blaming a man and calling him names, look deep within yourselves. Look at the mistakes that we are making as women. Instead of leaning back into our own energy we lean forward and make a huge mess. Trying to change a man doesn’t help, improving ourselves helps. I won because of Greta’s teachings and my moderators who showed me the correct path, I know you can too!
Thank you again Greta for all your love and support
The One Thing That Scares Men Away More Than Anything …
By Renee Slansky
Here’s running. Again. Only this time you are scratching your head wondering what the heck went wrong?
Everything started off so well, he seemed interested and made an effort, the first, the second date went really well. But now he’s pulled back, gone cold and distant and you just know that it’s not going to end as you had hoped.
Instantly you start to dissect everything right down to the text conversations, his actions and the last few dates. It just doesn’t make sense, you are a high value, strong, independent woman who knows her worth …so why then did he pull back?
You were honest and laid everything on the table about what you wanted and needed, you help planned the date and offered lots of suggestions and reached out to him because you don’t play games …but now he’s running. Why?
This is a scenario that I see played over again and again. Strong, confident women who know their worth still struggling with attracting a man that wants to stay.
And before we start blaming the men, there is one thing I will say. Men want to commit. They want to be with a woman who knows her worth and independence. So why then does the two not add up.
You see there are several things that make men run, but there is one thing above all of them that will make them pull back and no longer invest in you, and that is simply that he doesn’t feel good about himself around you.
Let me explain; men just like women, seek to find and be with someone that they can not only have a connection with, but also walk away feeling like life is better with that person in their life. The woman they eventually commit to is the woman that makes them feel that who they are is not only enough but enhanced.
And if you are a high value woman, chances are you are looking for a man with similar standards; a leader and someone who has direction and living a purposeful life. Or in what some may call an Alpha male.
In most cases these types of men we are attracted to are men who are only going to recognise if the woman is the right one by how he feels about himself when he is with her, not purely by just how much he likes or loves her.
Men are hunting for their teammate, and if the woman he is dating doesn’t make him feel like he is the best version of himself with her …then his instincts will kick in and he will pull back.
So how then can we be THAT woman? The one that sends him into overdrive and makes him crazy to claim you as his one and only?
Well here are a few quick ways:
Allow him to lead
Being a strong woman is an amazing attribute to a relationship, however it can also be our Achilles heel. This is because naturally we try to take the lead instead of allowing the man to do it. Men want to know that they are in charge, that they are able to lead the date and be the man.
One of the key things to remember when dating is to embrace your feminine energy more, so that he feels he can step into his masculine. The right man wants to do the organising, leading, chasing and protecting , so give him an opportunity to do that by stepping back.
Ask for his help
A simple way to make a man feel good about himself when he is with you is by asking his opinion or help on something. Instantly he will want to go into hero and serving mode, because his aim is to prove that you need him. Men need to be needed, women need to be loved…see the difference there?
Come across as nurturing
Even if you are a high powered boss babe, you can still come across as a nurturing female simply through your actions, tone of voice and body language. A man’s first love is his mother who by default is nurturing him. This isn’t about turning into his mother, but instead triggering the instinct in him to feel loved when he is with you.
Use words of affirmation
One of the easiest ways to a man’s heart and self-evaluation when he is with you, is simply by using words of praise. He wants to know that who he is, is appreciated, needed, wanted and enough when he is with you. If you criticise, compete or don’t affirm his positive actions he does for you, then there is no way he will stick around.
Ladies going on a date isn’t just about communicating what you want, it’s also about understanding what men NEED in order to want to take things further with you.
And a lot of the time the reason why even the good ones get scared away is because we self-sabotage our chances before we have even had a chance to communicate how wonderful we are.
Renee Slansky is an Australian dating and relationship coach, speaker, author and founder of Australia’s number 1 dating blog www.thedatingdirectory.co . Her heart for people to experience fulfilling and healthy relationships has seen her feature on some of the largest online publications and dating sites in the world including The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, eHarmony, Plenty of Fish and Badoo. As a dating guru, Renee can be seen and heard on the TV and radio regularly and hosts her own online TV channel.
Her teachings are all about offering practical advice, support and solutions to real life issues in love. Think of her as your modern day Fairy Godmother!
So you just met this hot guy who just moved in across the street, he obviously likes you and has even asked you on a date this Friday. You really like this one, and so does your mom who would take anyone in provided he isn’t Tommy your ex. Even your dad who seldom displays any interest in your dating life seems to really like this accidental crush of yours. At the moment, everything is going great, except you really want to keep this one, this time.
A lot of things can turn a man off, especially in times when you are trying “desperately” to get him to like you. While turn offs are based mostly on the personal preferences of the man involved, there are some inaccurate generalizations by the female population which the majority of men abhor. Some of which I will discuss in detail as you move forward:
Now, this is number one for a reason, and I assure you there is not an atom of bias in placing this irritating habit in the top spot. While you might be able to get into a relationship with a habit like this, in the majority of cases, you end up alone after the elastic limit of your m
an has been reached. In all my years, as a human being, I have never met two men who put up with a nagging woman till the very end. Regardless of how tolerant he is, at some point, he’s going to try to avoid you, and it’s a downward spiral from then on. This doesn’t mean no one likes you if you are a chronic nagger, but to keep your man, you need to make efforts to show that you are not all about the nagging life. I can assure you, he knows you are making an effort, he just might not say it.
Playing candy crush on your mobile while talking:
This turns off not only a man, it turns off friends, acquaintances, Doctors, you name it. Perhaps you may think, he doesn’t notice you playing or chatting away on your cell phone while he’s trying to have a decent conversation with you. What you do not realize is that a larger percentage of human communication is nonverbal, and as such he notices the very moment your mind wanders off his boring gist about his mother’s incredible culinary skills. Perhaps that explains why he never called you after that first date. Whenever you are in a meeting, formal or informal put your phone on silent and keep it away, jeez!!! you humans are confused creatures I tell you confused.
Being a thot
Shocking right? well no, if all you can bring to the table is a vagina, then how are you better than the 3.7 billion women in the world? Ok, let’s say you have some mad acrobatic capabilities in bed and maybe you’re a goddess in the dominant role? Imagine the number 3.7 billion in contention, all having been born with similar capabilities. You need to bring something else to the table, you need to bring your smartness, you need to be intellectually sound, learn to play an instrument, sing a song, perform a surgery, join the army, ride a horse. Just don’t bring only a vagina to the table lest the fate of the man who put all his eggs in one basket befalls you.
The truth is that most men can smell a lie a mile away especially as most of them are incredible liars themselves, so quit trying to be who you are not. Stop trying to put up a facade just to impress a man. it shows a serious lack of self-worth and can be irritating, especially to the gentle, classical music listening, abs popping, muscle bobbling, handsome looking, 6 figures having a guy you may have been seeing in your dreams since the 6th grade. A caveat, however, is that being yourself and doing dumb stuff are divided by a very thin line. Being yourself doesn’t directly translating to screwing all the boys in your office because “yourself likes the D”. Being yourself means taking corrections and presenting a better you than yesterday.
5. Defending him physically
Now this one is confusing even for guys, but it sure holds true. Ever tried beating up your brother’s bully, especially your elder brother? Well, he didn’t display any signs of happiness, did he? Here’s why. Men are groomed to be providers and protectors, if you are protecting him from stuff he’s supposed to be protecting you from (mostly physical aggression), he’s going to feel bad, I guarantee it. It’s a weird wiring in the head of men, but it holds true. So even if you have a black belt in jujitsu, contain yourself until a time when it is absolutely necessary to kick ass, sensei says ***bows**
Usually, happy relationships start like this. A guy meets a girl. The girl is going for her goals and ambitions. She has a loving circle of family and friends. She loves and enjoys her life. The guy is smitten by her! He thinks wow! What a happy, independent and incredible woman! Let me find out more!
He starts pursuing her, he sweeps her off her feet. The girl is a bit unavailable, she’s interested but has her priorities straight. However, he keeps going for her and doesn’t take no for the answer. He keeps taking her out, he is fun to be with. He acts like a total gent being caring, nice, protective, charming, generous etc…Eventually, she falls for him. I mean who wouldn’t a total prince charming right?
However, a few months later this is what happens.
The girl is so smitten by him that she nearly get’s addicted to him. She lets go of her priorities. She starts to cancel on her family and friends in order to spend more time with him. As he is just so much fun! She starts to please him in every single way she can. As she just wants him to like her more. She is scared to express her opinion if it doesn’t match with his. As she is scared that he may not like that.
He, however, starts to slowly lose interest in her…Why?
When a woman starts acting like this…Another word for it is – as a doormat
Because this is not what he fell for! A man is not looking for a pleaser or someone that he can walk all over. Or take for granted. He is looking for a woman with a personality. A woman who can stand on her own two feet, who has an opinion, knows how to make herself happy. Knows what she wants and goes for it! And this was the girl that he originally fell for… He fell for a Woman of High Value and once she changed into a Doormat… Guess what he is not happy and he is losing interest fast.
Now, what will it take to fix this?!
It will take going back to remembering your value, your worth. It will take putting your dignity and not the man first! It will take controling your emotions and getting your life back!
Now the problem happens…when a man is used to walking all over a woman and taking her for granted. Having her under his thumb and acting whichever way he pleases. To fix it takes a huge amount of PATIENCE, DISCIPLINE and SELF CONTROL. However, it is possible and in many cases worth it!
A Guest post reflecting on her friend’s relationship after she has been coached by me:
Should You Give Your All In A Relationship?
Hello ladies! I have an ongoing story that I would like to share with you.
A very good friend of mine has been in a relationship for the past 3 years. I know all of her ex’s and why her relationships didn’t work out before. She is now in a what she calls a „happy and healthy relationship“. Sadly in many cases, girls get blinded by love in their relationships. And don’t even notice how they start acting like doormats. They don’t notice how they put their partner first and neglect themselves.
So, back to the story… I see her regularly and for past three years have seen how she is throwing away all of her dreams and values. She is almost finished with University and is not thinking about where she is gonna work afterward, because she is- quote „going to depend on my boyfriend because he knows what best for me“. …Ladies you and only YOU know whats best for you. Because you know yourself best! Don’t let your man wrap you around his little finger and make you the puppet that he wants you to be. She always wanted to get married and then have children. This was very important to her. Now she just wants to have children and sees marriage as just a piece of paper. Sadly all of these views are not her views but her boyfriend’s views. She has lost or better say thrown away her opinion and values. Probably not even knowingly. She is so manipulated that she does not even see her mistakes. Love makes us blind!
Story to be continued…
But for now ladies, please do not forget your goals, your life values and important people in your life. Stay true to yourself! Be who you want to be! Reach your goals and ambitions! Your love should be supportive of this and not try to change who you are or how you see the world. If you don’t respect yourself your partner won’t either, and such relationships are sadly bound to doom.
Her relationship was completely broken, the guy was mean, disrespectful, taking her totally for granted. She was asking for my help and even I said to her Hun your relationship is so bad I really think it would be easier if you would leave him. She said: Greta I can’t leave him, I heard you are really good at this stuff(this was 2.5 years ago before I officially started my dating coach business) I will do anything you tell me to do I love him so much I can’t let him go. And I said ok, I can’t make you leave him so let’s try!
I was on her case every day, guiding her every step and telling her what she is doing wrong that he has lost interest in her. She was arguing with me but still listening and doing as I told her too. 1 week later of my guidance he sent her a picture message. She said to me: Greta that is so weird last time I had a picture message from him was 6 months ago. I said it’s a sign it’s working .. just keep listening to me.. 2 weeks later he sent her a message saying: ‘Do you still love me?’
I said it to her: You see!! it’s working! Perfect!
Free months later she had the best relationship of her life, he started to value, respect her, appreciate and adore her. Six months later he proposed to her. When she showed me the ring It inspired me to start this business. My point is if you know what you have done wrong in the relationship, so he lost the interest and attraction for you. And if you are willing to work hard on yourself to change those things within yourself .. Then if the guy still has an attraction or love left for you, you can make any relationship blossom! It doesn’t matter it is your ex or someone new.
Ps: People will treat you how you let them treat you, if you will behave as a doormat he will treat you as one. And if you behave as High Value he will treat you as one. Therefore how he treats you depends completely on you. Until I stepped in this girl was behaving as a doormat in her relationship and her man was taking her completely for granted. When I coached her to be High Value he started to treat her like a Queen!
Ladies the power of the relationship is in your hands be smart, do whats best for you and bring out the best in your man. So he starts to value, cherish, respect, love and adore you!