I'm a 31 year old Army Wife, married to my amazing husband, Kyle for 9 years. I'm a mama to Emersyn, runner, volunteer and lover of all things Disney. This blog is my diary and I blog about everything
from marriage, family, running, our infertility struggles, pregnancy, and our crazy adventures with the Army.
As of Saturday afternoon our family is back together!
Let me back up to Friday. That morning Kyle finally graduated from the Command and General Staff College. His hard work over the last year was finally recognized and it was finally time to head out of Kansas for good. At first I was a little bummed that E and I weren't going to be there for graduation but then I looked around our house and realized how happy I was that we were already settled.
Kyle left as soon as graduation ended. He drove until late that night and it made for a relatively short day on Saturday. He finally arrived home at about 2pm. I had him call me when he was 30 minutes away so I could be prepared. As soon as E saw his car pull in the driveway she freaked out! She ran outside yelling Daddy and her world was complete.
It feels so good having him home! We enjoyed a low key evening of pizza and relaxing. It was the best.
We were up pretty early yesterday morning which was fine by us. I made a quick breakfast and we decided to head off to Wilmington. It has always been one of our favorite places and it was the perfect day trip.
We walked by the water, browsed the shops at Cotton Exchange, and had lunch at our favorite little place called The Scoop.
We were able to FaceTime with family to celebrate the respective wonderful fathers in our lives. Technology is an amazing thing!
The rest of the day was spent hanging up pictures, going on a walk, and just enjoying time together. Kyle has a few days off before starting his new job which is nice. It feels so good having our little family back together.
I have been doing my best lately to keep myself and E busy. Thankfully, she is pretty easy to entertain haha.
Last week I happened across a fun splash pad not too far from our house and E absolutely loved it! I can already tell that we will be spending a lot of time there.
Over the weekend I signed up for another race but this one was in Raleigh. It was in a beautiful area but the course was a little difficult especially when pushing a stroller. It was a narrow paved trail and it proved a bit difficult weaving around people but we had fun!
After we got home it was time to get some chores done, one of them was mowing the lawn. I don't mind doing it, but man it's a lot of work. I put E in her carrier and snapped this photo, she was too cute not to. We got it done but she wasn't impressed.
Right after we got here I ordered E a pool for the backyard. Oh my she loves it! It's nice to just fill it up and let her have a blast.
I finally had the chance to check out my new SLAM location! I went to my first class on Monday and it was amazing! I can already tell that I'm really going to enjoy this group. Everyone was so welcoming and it's a lot smaller than Leavenworth but that's not a bad thing at all. E enjoyed meeting new people as well (she was not interested in taking a picture but more interest in the playground haha). The splash pad that we went to last week is at the same park where SLAM meets, happy accident!
We only have a few days left until Kyle graduates and makes his way to North Carolina, to say we are excited is an understatement! Just a few more days to keep busy!
Buying a home is a giant responsibility! However, buying a home utilizing a Power of Attorney is an even bigger responsibility and one that involves a few more steps.
When Kyle and I decided to purchase a home at our new duty station, we had to make a big decision pretty quickly. We had to decide if E and I would make the move ahead of Kyle or would we wait and travel together. Now this might not seem like a big decision but to us it was. This decision determined whether or not I would be signing the papers with a Power of Attorney or if we would be signing together. We ultimately decided that E and I would go ahead of time and close on the house prior to Kyle's graduation. We were provided the Power of Attorney by the closing office all Kyle had to do was get it notarized. I sent a copy to the closing assistant and brought the original with me.
Yay, Power of Attorney! Ha! Not only was this going to give me carpal tunnel but it was a process that had some moving pieces particularly on the morning of closing.
One thing that had to be done on the day of closing is an Alive and Well statement. This is done by the individual that is not at the closing in person. For Kyle, he had to call into the attorney's office that morning and state that he had not rescinded the POA, he was not coached in any way, and that he was indeed alive and well.
Since we were also utilizing the VA loan, an additional Alive and Well statement had to be provided to our loan officer by Kyle's boss. This was to ensure that Kyle was not AWOL and in good standing with the military. This email had to be sent on the morning of closing. Not the day before and not the day after.
Talk about stress for me as I was waiting for confirmation that both statements had been received by their respective recipients. Both statements were received and we were free to move forward with the closing that morning.
Next up was a whole lot of signing haha! There is a very specific way you must sign when using a POA. Each state will vary on how they prefer to have it done but for us it was "XXXX by XXXXX, his attorney in fact" and when initially it was "XXX by XXX, AIF". You also have to sign the names exactly as they are written. If you aren't use to signing your name with a middle initial or full middle name it can mess things up and cause new documents to have to be printed.
Once I got comfortable, it was smooth sailing and closing only took about 45 minutes from start to finish. I joked that Kyle owed me big time for taking on this responsibility haha.
To be honest, it was an easy process but just a lot of little things to get done. If you are ever in a position where you are debating utilizing a POA for purchase a home, do it! It is easy and for us it eliminated a lot of unknowns.
On June 21st, Kyle and I will celebrate 10 years of marriage. It feels surreal writing that because it really does not feel like it has been that long.
Let's face it, marriage is hard! It is also one of the most amazing and joyous experiences but it's hard.
For those that don't know our backstory, here goes. Kyle and I originally met when we were in middle school. He was that geeky kid in our history that just wouldn't leave me alone. I thought he was sweet but that was it. We stayed friends and tried to date in high school, that failed because we went to different schools and neither of us could drive. Fast forward to early 2008, he had a broken engagement and I had just gotten divorced in late 2007. We "dated", I put that in parentheses because it was long distance thanks to the Army and well, it was quick.
Once we reconnected I think we both knew we had something special and only 3 months after we started dating we got married. Throw in a cross country move to North Carolina and you've got yourself a whirlwind.
I think when you're dating it is much easier to throw in the towel when things get hard. For us having gotten married so quickly we had to really work for it. It wasn't easy. We were both learning each others quirks and figuring out who we were as a couple. We were two very similar people, hello stubbornness haha. I look back on those hard times now and I am so thankful for them. They shaped us and showed us the type of relationship that we wanted to have. Every relationship has their trials and tribulations, that's completely normal. For us, we have the added element of the military. It has made for some challenging times and honestly times for me when I've asked myself, "is this worth it?!". However, every single time I have the same answer, "yes, it is so worth it".
We have learned so much over the last 10 years. We have learned that we are each others biggest cheerleaders, no one can infuriate us they way each other does, no one makes us laugh the way each other does, and that at the end of the day there is no one else we would rather go through life with. I look at Kyle everyday and I'm reminded just how lucky I am. I am lucky to have someone that I look forward to sharing everyday with. Sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly times. Are there days when we look at each other and roll our eyes, haha yes! It's normal.
Now, we are raising this little person together. We get to teach her all of the lessons that we have learned about life and relationships. Hopefully, we don't screw her up too bad haha.
So to my husband on this momentous milestone, thank you! Thank you for making everyday of the last 10 years an adventure and for being the one I am so proud to call mine. I love you.
I feel like I can finally breathe now that my house is not full of boxes haha! I have entirely unpacked and set up the house and it feels great. Honestly, I could not have done it without my Dad. He has been such a HUGE help. However, now my garage looks horrendous but that will change on Friday when the boxes are picked up. I do have some pictures that need to be hung up but that's easy.
Of course when it comes to military (well any move really) there is a potential for things to get dinged and damaged. We were extremely lucky and had no major issues except one. A few pieces on our dining room table were broken and it causes a stability issue. We had discussed buying a new table eventually so this just expedited that process. We already settled a claim and got what we asked for so that's a win.
There is a Rooms to Go here in town and I picked out this beauty! I can't wait for it to arrive next week. We also purchased two bar height chairs for our island in the kitchen.
We also decided to get new couches as well. Our current couch is a sectional and that can prove to be tricky when moving from different houses. I browsed through the store and chose this set.
I am in love with the color! We also got 2 end tables, coffee table, and 2 lamps. We have stuck with brown tones for so long that it will be nice to brighten everything up. Do you buy new stuff when you move? We normally don't but for some reason we felt it very necessary this time around.
I was able to sneak away on Saturday morning to run my first race here in NC! It was held at the Airborne and Special Operations Museum. It was a great event, despite a few hills and the humidity haha. It felt good to start my racing here and I'm looking forward to many more races! I will also get to check out my new SLAM location this week, yay!
I really feel like we have hit the ground running since we arrived in NC to include scheduling doctor appointments for E. We have to get her a referral to a new cardiologist. Hopefully that process goes smoothly.
My Dad leaves this week and it will be time to get back into a routine. It will be nice to have normalcy again in preparation of Kyle arriving. I do however foresee a lot of afternoons spent in our new backyard.
Greetings from our new home in North Carolina!!! Sorry for the radio silence on the blog, but it's been nice to focus on all of this.
We closed on our new home a few days ago and we are knee deep in the unpacking process! It's just me, E, and my Dad here right now but we have already been able to accomplish a lot. E is loving her new home! As of last night I have a fully functioning kitchen and that is always the biggest chore.
My goal is to be completely unpacked by tomorrow so we will see if I can make that happen!
Hope you all have a great weekend and I hope to be back next week with regular posts.
One of the things I have been dreading about this move was saying goodbye to my SLAM Leavenworth family. Well, today I have to do just that. I would have never thought that this group would change my life in the ways that it has. Not only has it enriched me so much as an athlete and changed me but it has provided me with friendships that will last a lifetime.
I remember coming to SLAM late last July at the insistence of my friend, Lauren. I was absolutely terrified. I had never been to an organized fitness class and I had no idea what to expect. I was intrigued though, because I could bring E with me and I didn't have to throw her into daycare. Before here I had never heard of Stroller Strong Moms. I went in completely blind. However, it wasn't what I thought it would be. It was far better. I was instantly welcomed into this community of women and encouraged every step of the way.
SLAM is exactly what I never thought I needed. I have found that in order for me to support and nurture those around me, I have to do the same for myself. Having that hour for me in the morning with other like minded people has been life changing.
Not only did they embrace me but they embraced my family. Welcoming E and Kyle into the family was icing on the cake. I know these workouts make an impact when Kyle is sore the next day and raves to everyone at how butt kicking they are.
I realized through the HIIT workouts that I was so much stronger than I thought, but that I had so much that I could work on to improve and get better. I had no idea how important core workouts were when it comes to running. Solely because of SLAM I was able to over 10 minutes off of my run times for every distance (5k, 10k, and half). I knew that I had made the right choice by joining. Also having the option of Track workouts as well as Yoga is so beneficial. You also can never go wrong with themed classes haha.
What I never expected were the friendships. These women are incredible and at a moments notice they are willing to drop everything to help each other out. To pick up kids, make meals, pick up slack when needed, be a shoulder to cry on, and someone to have a drink with. It is going to be hard to keep my emotions in check during class this morning because at the end of that hour, it will be all she wrote for me here. I will never forget this group of remarkable women and I know that they are friends for life.
There are 11 SLAM affiliate locations around the country and I highly recommend it! Please check it out if you have one in your area. Stroller Strong Moms will change your life. I am lucky that I will get to join another location when I arrive in NC and I'm looking forward to making lasting friendships there as well. However, I will be sad about saying goodbye to this incredible family I've been a part of for the last 10 months.
Earlier this week, E and I decided to join friends for the first day of Strawberry picking at a local farm. I knew this was the perfect activity for E, as she is pretty much obsessed with strawberries. It was such a beautiful yet hot day for it. It's safe to say that she really enjoyed herself, I think she ate more strawberries than made it in the basket. Whoops haha.
All she wanted to do was eat them haha.
She was happy as a clam in those strawberry fields.
So thankful that my friend snapped these photos of us picking them together.
My partner in crime. <3
It had already been a good day because I got a message from our realtor that the appliances had been installed in the house and everything looks beautiful. She said the rest of the repairs had been made and now we just wait to close. Which is happening in 6 days! Holy cow that came quickly. This process has been so smooth and I couldn't be more grateful.
Now the plan is to just enjoy our last few days here with Kyle. We won't see him again until June 16th, so E is getting all the snuggles she can. My Dad arrives tomorrow and on Sunday we begin the trek east. These 11 months have flown by!
Over the last few days we have been doing our best to check off things on our list of things to do here. I think we were pretty successful this past weekend.
On Friday, Kyle was home early so we decided to finally check out the Carousel Museum in Leavenworth. I've heard awesome things about it. It has a vintage carousel that goes up to 13 miles per hour! That's insane to me. It was only $1.50/person and E loved it!
Afterwards we walked down to a local bakery called Sis' Sweets to indulge in some very delicious treats. It was so worth it!
Saturday morning we were up bright and early for the Flash Dash 5k in North Kansas City. This race was created in honor of a gentleman named Brandon Russell who passed away after running the Rock the Parkway Half Marathon last year. It was an amazing event. A ton of people turned out and even though it was a bit rainy, it cleared up for the start. It was also my last race here with my friend, Lauren.
Earlier this week I booked us a tour at the Roasterie in the city. It's one of the few facilities that air roasts their coffee beans. It's such a unique place and I'm so glad we were able to check this popular place off of our list. E even looked adorable in her hairnet haha.
The rest of the night was low key since we had another race on Sunday morning.
We headed off to Parkville for the Christmas in May 5k. This was officially mine and E's last race in the midwest (for now) and it was crazy haha. It poured rain the whole time!!! It was still a lot of fun though as a few of my SLAM sisters were running as well. We were soaked by the end but I'm glad we stuck it out and still did it.
We ended the weekend with a BBQ at a friend's house. It was a winner of a weekend to me!
We have a few more days to check off more on my list so hopefully we can make that happen. I hope you all had a great weekend!
Over the last few months you have all read about the preparations and planning of our upcoming move. While the logistics of it have been relatively easy one thing that has not been easy are the emotions of it. When you move as much as we do you experience an array of emotions. There is the initial excitement of moving to a new place (or for us a place that we called home for 4 years), the stress of finding a place to live, and then the sadness of saying goodbye to the people and place you've called home for whatever length of time.
For us the worst time period is after everything is packed up and right before leaving. Since last week, Kyle and I both have been in this weird state of emotional limbo. For me, saying goodbye to my amazing tribe of friends is going to be really difficult. It's also the first place that E had friends, her little group is the best. On one hand, I am really sad to leave. On the other, I'm ready to just rip the band-aid off and go. E and I are also leaving 2 1/2 weeks before Kyle, so there is that added stress. I've been through deployments but this is the longest E will have gone without him (I know that she will experience deployments/TDYs but this is new for her).
I have tried so hard to not disconnect myself from my friends here but I feel like that is my safety mechanism and my way of dealing with leaving. It's hard, because I know that come next week I will be an emotional wreck. I am doing my best to make the most of the time that I have left here, but part of me wishes it was the 27th already. It is such a weird emotional space to be in. I am thankful that most of my friends understand this and often times feel the same way so they don't take it personal.
I'm fairly certain that after I leave next week, I will feel better. Also, I will remind myself that I will still stay in contact with all of my friends from here and that it's possible that we will be stationed together again in the future. Or even get together with our families for a fun vacation. I've even discussed coming back next year for a few fun events.
It's going to be hard to say goodbye but I'm ready. I'm ready to move forward and embark on this new adventure.
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