DUDE I don’t want to say that your parents are awful, but they sound absolutely AWFUL and totally un-supportive. I can totally see how telling them would be a bad idea. I highly suggest that you reach out to advisers at NEDA for help, because I’m by no means a medical professional. I do empathize with you though
My basic advice here is that what you’re feeling is totally normal. It’s difficult and miserable, but it’s normal. Be sure to share you thoughts and experiences with your doctor, therapist, and/or dietitian, and keep fighting the good fight.
This is a really good question. I’ve watched my friends struggle with this with me, and I’ve struggled with this over my friends. The best thing to do, in my experience, is to come to him and say, “Hey, I’m concerned about you, because xyz. Is everything okay? How can I help?”
If he doesn’t want help, that’s on him, and it might mean you need to separate yourself from him for a bit.
I’m crossing my fingers for you. I know how hard this is. Hang in there.
The Maudsley method is basically parents moderating EVERYTHING the patient eats, drinks, and does. It works for small children, but for teenagers and adults, it’s horrible, because why would they listen to anything their parent says when 1) the eating disorder is louder, and 2) the parents may be a large contributing factor to ED behaviors in the first place?
It’s basically parents saying “just take a bite” over and fucking over. When my parents tried Maudsley, I ended up throwing my plate on the floor threatening my dad with a fork. Looking back, it was kind of a hilarious moment, but definitely not so much at the time. We abandoned Maudsley shortly after and I went inpatient.
Honestly, if Maudsley is necessary, residential is also necessary, and is usually the better option.
Dude I am so sorry, Maudsley is the absolute WORST. It doesn’t fucking work with families unless they’re dealing with small children. It sucks so much that you’re going through this right now.
I will tell you though, that your doctors aren’t lying to you. It’s kind of their job to tell the truth. Remember, BMI charts are horrendously false, and say absolutely nothing about your actual health.
I know it’s hard right now, but keep pushing through. Explain to your doctors how ineffective Maudsley is, and see if they have an alternative.
Again, I’m so sorry this is happening. I really hope it gets better soon. Hang in there