HI, I am Jessica. I'm a wife, a mom and an entrepreneur. Whether it be motivation to get fit, motivation to try something new for dinner, motivation to tackle your own DIY project or motivation to start your own at home business! I’ll be talking about a variety of topics and I hope you enjoy!
As most of you know, my son Joaquin has some developmental delays – mainly gross motor delay. A few months ago Joaquin’s physical therapist suggested some medical equipment to help get him mobile. I was all for it! The process of getting the equipment wasn’t quite as easy as I’d hoped. We found the right piece of equipment, a Rifton Pacer Gait Trainer, but got some disappointing news from our insurance. Yes, medical equipment was covered but only after we met the deductible and after that 80/20. Our high deductible was basically the price of the gait trainer! We couldn’t believe it! We’re a one-income family of 5 and Joaquin’s medical bills have been piling high, we really didn’t know what to do. Joaquin’s occupational therapist gave me a list of organizations that assist kiddos with special needs and it was all about researching and applying after that!
After looking into several nonprofits, I found one that specifically provided medical equipment to non-mobile children it was called the Wheel to Walk Foundation.. The application process was easy, I said a little prayer and mailed it off! A month after submitting we got the amazing news that he had been approved for a brand new gait trainer!!! We were over the moon!
We received his brand new lime green gait trainer a couple weeks after being approved and he’s been moving ever since!
Joaquin using his new Rifton Pacer Gait Trainer at the park for the first time!
Another trip to the park for Joaquin in his new gait trainer. This day wasn’t as successful as the first but I still managed to get a smile at the end!
Gross Motor Delay
How does this help with his gross motor delay? There’s a thing called “input” and the easiest way I can explain it is that input is movement. It’s how our body receives movement. For example, if you are turned upside down the input you are receiving lets your body know that you are upside down. Sometimes that sense isn’t working the way it should and when you’re mobility is limited you aren’t receiving that input. Input is a crucial part of a childs development and when they don’t get it, it’s hard for them to make everything work the way it should. Joaquin has been non-mobile up until very recently when he started scooting and now that he has this gait trainer he can now get that input, that movement! It’s so exciting!!
Joaquin Using His Rifton Pacer Gait Trainer - YouTube
Wheel to Walk
We really couldn’t be more grateful for the Wheel to Walk Foundation. People that dedicate their lives to helping others, it’s just….well it’s just amazing! They have followed up and celebrated his progress with us, they’ve become a part of his team and the more people cheering him on the better!
There’s a lot of things you’re mentally prepared for before bringing your precious bundle of joy into the world and mainly it’s the pain of giving birth. Yes, giving birth is no walk in the park, it hurts! I had an epidural with my first pregnancy but this time it all happened so quickly that I chose to go all natural. And yes, it really does hurt. But there are other things that happen during labor and after giving birth that you may not hear about. So here you go, what they don’t tell you about having a baby:
The bleeding afterward! Holy cow! How do I still have that much blood left?! Where is it coming from? Am I dying?
Tummy Massage. Don’t get it twisted the PAIN of the nurses “massaging” your belly afterward is enough to make you want to put that baby back in and just go through childbirth again. Ouch!!! It hurts so much! For the first two hours after giving birth, your nurse will come in and push down on your belly (every 15 minutes btw!) which will, in turn, cause a crap load of blood to gush out. I know they mean well and they have to do it but I seriously wanted to cut them.
You might go poop. Giving birth is exactly the same kind of push as going poop. Only you’re pushing a human out instead of your lunch. Just go with it. Yes, you feel like you’re going to take a big crap in front of everyone but no one cares. Luckily I didn’t poop it just felt like I was going to but at a certain point I stopped caring and just gave in to the push!
The shakes. Adrenaline can make your entire body shake afterward. It’s horrible…and completely normal. They’ll go away but they suck. I must have asked a million times if these were normal, they were so uncomfortable.
Tired? Too Bad! You’re not getting any rest after your baby is born. You’ll get your one hour of skin to skin time but even that is interrupted by the nurses coming in and out asking questions, pushing your stomach (again, ouch!!) and asking you to fill out paperwork. Then another nurse comes in and starts messing with your baby, hopefully, you have a partner there to keep baby company while your nurses come in to push your belly some more, make you pee and ask you a million questions. Even after all of that, just TRY to sleep. Not only do you have a newborn that has needs but you’re hooked up to an IV that will wake you up for whatever reason and your nurses will be in and out checking your blood (by this time the pushing on your stomach should hurt a lot less) and your babies vitals will need to be checked often. Just know, you aren’t getting ANY rest!
Cramps! Omg! Make it stop I thought the hard part was over after I pushed this little human out? No? I still have hours and hours of cramps and contractions from the Pitocin drip that is helping my uterus go back to its original size?! Well yes, I want my uterus to shrink back down but momma deserves a break don’t ya think? Omg.
But don’t worry all of you soon to be mama’s this too shall pass. I wrote the above just hours after giving birth to my precious baby girl and I’m glad I did because had I waited I wouldn’t have been able to remember most of this! Here I am 7 weeks later and reading this brings back a flood of memories. When I look back at having my princess the things I remember most are my husband exclaiming with such happiness “she has dimples” as they laid my baby girl on my chest for the first time, I remember her nursing for the first time and I remember how tiny she looked in her car seat as we brought her home. But all of the pain, all of the discomfort, the lack of sleep….sure, now that I read about it all over I can recall that I went through all of it but it’s all just vague memories. So yes, be prepared, you’re going to have a hell of a time after you have you your baby but through it all just keep in mind….those aren’t the things you’ll remember.
As you may have guessed I’m pretty tired right now and things are getting very awkward. Dilated to 5 and baby girl is extra low which is really no fun at all. On top of things being physically hard, I’ve also been really hard on myself this last week or so, more than I usually am. I’m in full nesting mode without the ability to actual “nest” my house is cluttered and unorganized and things are just too bulky for me to move around. It’s frustrating. I want to do it all, I want it all done yesterday and I just can’t. Plain and simple, I can’t. In this type of situation I would normally just call my mom and she’d have everything taken care of in a matter of minutes, but my mom decided to skip town for a couple weeks (how dare she right?). So here I am completely sore as if I went horseback riding for a week straight, nonstop heartburn, can’t sleep, peeing constantly and my house is a mess!!! It’s driving me insane! My mom comes back tomorrow so I know there is light at the end of the tunnel, if I can just keep this baby in for a couple more days my mom will have the house ready and I’ll feel so much better about bringing her home!
Today is my hubby’s first day off in a while and he’s taking full advantage of the sunshine and has been in and out of the house. Normally I’d be annoyed because uhmm hello wanna hang out with me at all?! But not today. Today he’s taking Daddy Duty seriously and has had the little man with him all day!
Working outside with Daddy!
So hooray, that means I can get things done right? I want to clean, I want to organize everything but 1. Hubby is watching to make sure I don’t do any of that and 2. I’m just too tired! So what to do with this free time? Well, I made myself comfy on the couch and I started to read.
The Belly & The Book – Gracey Not Perfection
Grace, Not Perfection: Embracing Simplicity, Celebrating Joy was supposed to be my March book in my Year of Books but I just wasn’t into reading my original February choice so I chose to switch them up. I’m so glad I did. From the moment I opened the book, I knew that this was a book for me. I’m still reading it so this is not a review but I want to share how much it has already started to impact my life. From the get go the guilt of not having it all together started to melt away, I started realizing how silly I’ve been this past week. I mean, I’m about to have a baby and here I am concerned with the dishes! I want everything to be absolutely perfect when I bring baby girl home but what’s perfect? Is perfect a clean organized house or is perfect a home full of love and excitement? “Grace not Perfection” makes so many great points and has plenty of exercises to really get you thinking about your standards of perfection, how to simplify and allow yourself some GRACE. I’m already half way through and I can’t wait to finish…and read it again! This is the first time I’ve been this excited about a book in a very long time and I couldn’t have picked a better time to start reading this!