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I was obsessed with every brush stroke, drip, and visible inconsistency.

I was staining the railings on my front porch. They’d been neglected, and I wanted them to be beautiful. But each time a new layer of stain dried, I saw more flaws. I eyed every angle of each spindle and kept going back to touch them up. The more closely I looked, the more frustrated I became.

Have you ever done that?

Have you ever looked so closely at a something in your business—with an ultra-powerful magnifying glass—that the only thing that’s visible to you are its looming imperfections?

Maybe you didn’t hit a revenue goal. Or a contract ran out. Perhaps you lost a key employee.

When things go wrong, we tend to become obsessed with it. We like to look at it from every angle. The more we look at a flaw, the more flaws we see.

After I painted for hours, I finally took a break and walked away. 

Upon my return, something magical had happened.

I saw the big picture. 

My perspective shifted.

The railings were beautiful. I was stunned. I could see that all my effort had actually paid off.

Are you missing the big picture in your business right now? Are you hyper-focused on something that’s “gone wrong” that you can’t see what’s going right? Like an amazing referral, an abundant client funnel, or your best quarter yet?

If you currently feel frustrated, take a break. A break might give you a shift in perspective. And a small shift might make all the difference between “everything is broken” and “things are working.”

Warmly,
Jennifer

P.S. If you want help shifting your perspective, make an appointment at the Life Lounge: Business Exclusive. Offload your fears and stressors, crystalize what you want, and get coached on any negative thought patterns you don’t even know you have. A small shift in perspective can make a huge difference in how you feel.

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A number of years ago, I desperately wanted a better life. I was overwhelmed and scared, fighting for survival and desperate to be happy. I had no friggin’ clue how to get there (especially when I didn’t even know where “there” was). I was anxious to get moving, take action, and ARRIVE. It couldn’t happen fast enough.

And yet…my first coach (and every coach since) always asked, How do you feel? 

She asked it a lot. I hated it.

I thought, Who cares? I’m a perfect rule follower. Tell me what to do, and I’ll do the things. I don’t care about my feelings.

I believed—from teachers, coaches, parents, and society—that the key to success was to DO things, not FEEL things. No one had ever taught me otherwise.

I was wrong.

Turns out, everything we do—both good and bad—is fueled by how we feel.

  • Kick butt and take names? You feel CONFIDENT.

  • Spin in confusion? You feel OVERWHELMED.

  • Willing to try something new? You feel OPTIMISTIC.

  • Terrible at making decisions? You feel SCARED.

  • (See what I mean?)

See what I mean?

Newsflash: 

  • Feeling “on purpose” is a learnable skill. 
  • When you feel “on purpose” you get shizzle done (like get the life and business you want).
  • Learning this skill is life-transforming.

Wha-?

It’s true. 

I know, because I’ve done the work. I’ve transformed my life and my business, and I’ve watched my clients do the same.

It’s powerful stuff.


Jennifer Hooper
Life Coach for Women Business Owners
jennifer@jennifer-hooper.com
http://jennifer-hooper.com/

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A ripple effect is “the continuing and spreading results of an event or action.”

Consider your state of mind as an “event” or “action.”

This means that the thoughts in your brain matter. Your mindset has an effect in the world: on yourself, on the people around you, and in the world at large.

What impact do you want to have with your ripple effect?

Consider the following thoughts:
  • “Everybody struggles” (lack).
  • “I LOVE what I do” (sufficiency).
  • “This weather sucks” (lack).
  • “There’s always enough for everybody” (sufficiency).
  • “Nobody appreciates me” (lack).
  • “I have everything I need” (sufficiency).

Which feels better: lack or sufficiency?

If you believe that people are out to get you, there’s never enough, and that you’re unlovable, your ripple effect is one of lack. You spread that all around you.

If you believe that everyone has what what they need, there’s enough abundance for everybody, and that love is always available, then your ripple effect is one of sufficiency. You spread that all around you.

And whatever you “send out” into the world, you “get back.”

What do you want your ripple effect to be?

You get to choose.


Jennifer Hooper
Life Coach for Women Business Owners
jennifer@jennifer-hooper.com
http://jennifer-hooper.com/

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Last week I met with an incredible 30-something ball-juggling ninja.

On the outside, she “had it all.” She was married with two kids, was a key player in a family-operated business, and had a side hustle as a real estate agent. She knew how to dot all the “i’s” and cross all the “t’s.” She took care of everyone and everything all around her.

She had everything she’d ever strived for…

…and found herself pretty miserable. 

The overwhelm on her face and in her voice was palpable.

She had an incredible amount of chatter in her head. Maybe some of it sounds familiar to you:

  • There’s soooooo much to do.
  • I should be home with my kids.
  • I should be working.
  • My employees need me.
  • My husband and I aren’t connecting.
  • I have to take care of everything.
  • My kids think I’m boring.
  • I have to carry on the family business.
  • My husband doesn’t do much.

Many of my clients start out feeling overwhelmed like her. They have so much to focus on that they don’t even know where to start or what to focus on at all. The chatter—oh the chatter—never stops. It keeps them so stuck they can’t even see better options.

All they really know was that figuring the answers on their own isn’t working. 

We get started. 

Together, we start chipping away at their confusion and creating a plan. We develop clarity, a direction, and a roadmap. The process looks like this:

  1. Create a vision.
    We set the GPS. What do you want that you don’t currently have (in your life, your relationships, at work, with your employees, and in how you show up in the world)? Over time, you learn how to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

  2. Prioritize.
    What’s REALLY important on your “to do” list? What can you delegate? Say “no” to? Drop altogether? We use this question as a lens: “Does this get you closer or further away from your vision?”

  3. Examine (and replace) the chatter.
    Is your current inner dialog serving you? What stories can you drop? Where can you think differently? Let’s work on strategies to rid yourself of your current mind drama.

  4. Rinse and repeat.
    Your visions change, your priorities shift, and you create new and different mind drama. As we continue to work together, you check-in and revise your visions, priorities, and chatter. The more often you practice “rinsing and repeating,” the better you get at it!

As my clients and I work together over time, they begin to transform. They start to feel calm. In control. Capable. 

How do I know? Because I had TWO clients tell me just this week that their frenzy has dissipated. Their urgency and overwhelm have gone away. They feel relaxed and in control. (Wha-?!?!)

What they have is available to you too. 

​​All you have to do is be willing to ask for it.


Jennifer Hooper
Life Coach for Women Entrepreneurs
jennifer@jennifer-hooper.com
http://jennifer-hooper.com/

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Last week I jam-packed my schedule. I mean, it was fully booked every day—all day—from morning to night with back-to-back meetings, long “to do” lists, networking events, and coaching calls. 

As a result, I felt overwhelmed and exhausted. My brain found it hard to transition from one thing to another. I was serious, and I felt grouchy. It wasn’t pretty.

This week, I’m remembering there’s a better way.

It’s the difference between DO-ing and BE-ing.

I’ll give you an example. Let’s say you want to grow your business.

DO-ing looks like this:

  • Read/write emails
  • Call prospects
  • Revise website
  • Go to meetings
  • Create memes
  • Post on social media
  • Say “yes” to everybody

BE-ing looks like this:

Imagine you’re the future version of yourself (you’ve already grown your business). Tap into how she thinks. Ask her what you need to do today get to where she already is. Listen, and follow her advice. BE her when you plan and take action. Her wisdom is available to you right now. She has all the answers.

So what does my future self look like? She has a waiting list of clients. She helps people everywhere she goes. She’s decisive, relaxed, and happy. She’s grown her own business leaps and bounds, and she’s helped countless other women do the same. She doesn’t worry, over-schedule, or allow herself to get overwhelmed.

As I’ve tapped into my future self over and over this week, here’s how things are different. She been driving me to:

  • Cross off what doesn’t really matter.
  • Prioritize the rest (tackling the most important stuff first).
  • Take breaks for lunches and walks.
  • Create space for new ideas to come in.
  • End my day at a reasonable hour.
  • Enjoy the people in my life.

DO-ing feels busy. BE-ing feels juicy.

DO-ing keeps creates constant motion. BE-ing creates clarity.

DO-ing gets stuff done, meaningful or not. BE-ing guides you to do exactly the right things.

As I’m DO-ing less—and BE-ing more—my days are simpler, and they have a gentle flow to them. I’m getting more done with less effort. I’m not working nearly as hard. Best of all, I’m getting closer and closer to the woman I’m going to be. 

It feels amazing.


Jennifer Hooper
Life Coach for Women Entrepreneurs
jennifer@jennifer-hooper.com
http://jennifer-hooper.com/

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Sometimes it feels like the sky is falling. Like, things happen outside of us that we don’t see coming. That unexpected bill, a hurtful comment, or a plan that falls through.

At first, it feels like we have no control in the situation. We feel powerless, as if life is being done “to” us rather than believing that we can take the reigns and guide ourselves to the outcome we want. 

I’ve learned to “catch” myself in these situations and remind myself that Nothing has gone wrong (the sky isn’t ACTUALLY falling).

I’ll give you some examples:

  • I didn’t accomplish a business goal I set out for April. 

    REMINDER: “Nothing has gone wrong. I’ll just keep working on it (instead of giving up). Every time I do, I learn something new, and that gets me closer.”

  • A good friend recently ended a friendship with me. It stung. I got a lump in my belly. 

    REMINDER: “Nothing has gone wrong; we simply believe different things. I can choose to keep honoring and holding space for this person. Maybe it won’t be forever.” 

  • I recently talked to someone about growing her business. She—and it—are poised for so much growth. I could SEE it. I could FEEL it. I got excited for her (REALLY excited)! But ultimately, she decided she to focus her attention elsewhereI felt bummed.

    REMINDER: “Nothing has gone wrong; she gets to decide when she’s ready. Feeling bummed doesn’t serve her.”

In the past, any one of these scenarios would have sent me into a tailspin. I would have felt flawed or broken. I’d be convinced I had no control. I’d have worried, fret, and spun around in mind drama for days (which, by the way, takes a ton of time and energy).

Now I decide what I want to think on purpose—quickly and decisively—and move on. I use my time and energy on more productive things than worrying. It feels sooooo much better than feeling like a victim.

Nah, the sky’s not falling. It never is. 

As my own coach recently pointed out: “The sky’s the limit!”

Ahhh…what a wonderful way to think about the sky.


Jennifer Hooper
Life Coach for Women Entrepreneurs
jennifer@jennifer-hooper.com
http://jennifer-hooper.com/


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When it comes to growing a business (or managing your life), you can either create exactly what you want or you can “wait and see” what happens. 

There’s no wrong answer.

Although personally, I LOVE being deliberate. Because I LOVE getting what I want. 

Here are a few things that I’ve wanted:

  • I wanted to re-own a house that lost in my divorce. Got it.
  • I wanted my daughters to turn out to be amazing humans. Nailed it.
  • I wanted to be a coach and work from home. Doing it.
  • I wanted a relationship that was fun, easy, active, loving, and transparent. Have it.

Every single thing I wanted started with a VISION. 

Because once you’re clear about what you want and where you’re going, THEN you can get to work on getting them.

Last week I spent four hours with a client. We took a “deep dive” into her business. I asked lots of questions. We got clear on the terrain and foundation. 

We created a VISION.

The vision will remind her of where she’s going, no matter how her journey unfolds.

Here’s what will happen:
 Her business will grow.
 She will grow.
 She’ll step into a new version of herself that she never thought possible.


BOOYA and goosebumps.

Jennifer Hooper
Life Coach for Women Entrepreneurs

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When it comes to making decisions, people typically fall into one of two buckets:

Bucket #1: Those who MAKE decisions.

Bucket #2: Those who THINK ABOUT making decisions.

The people in Bucket #1 get shit done. They don’t waste time second-guessing. They take action, even if it turns out to be the wrong action. And if it IS wrong, they shrug their shoulders, squeeze out a lesson, and try something different. In the long run, they succeed, but mostly because they’ve failed along the way.

People in Bucket #2 stay stuck. They WANT to make decisions, but they’re too afraid. They let their minds spin. What happens if I make a mistake? What will people think? What if I can’t do it? These people feel overwhelmed and believe there’s never enough time (mostly because they’re spending so much time THINKING instead of DOING).

I know, because I used to be Bucket #2 person.

About a year ago, I DECIDED I wanted to be a Bucket #1 person.

I’ve been practicing making decisions.

I’m getting good at it.

Even if I get it wrong.

The funny thing is, being indecisive used to feel like a warm, cozy, safe blanket. Now it feels like an itchy and scratchy burlap bag.

Being decisive feels warm and cozy now.

Which bucket do you want to fall in?

Bucket #1 or Bucket #2?

Jennifer Hooper
Life Coach for Women Entrepreneurs

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When it comes to making decisions, people typically fall into one of two buckets:

Bucket #1: Those who MAKE decisions.

Bucket #2: Those who THINK ABOUT making decisions.

The people in Bucket #1 get shit done. They don’t waste time second-guessing. They take action, even if it turns out to be the wrong action. And if it IS wrong, they shrug their shoulders, squeeze out a lesson, and try something different. In the long run, they succeed, but mostly because they’ve failed along the way.

People in Bucket #2 stay stuck. They WANT to make decisions, but they’re too afraid. They let their minds spin. What happens if I make a mistake? What will people think? What if I can’t do it? These people feel overwhelmed and believe there’s never enough time (mostly because they’re spending so much time THINKING instead of DOING).

I know, because I used to be Bucket #2 person.

About a year ago, I DECIDED I wanted to be a Bucket #1 person.

I’ve been practicing making decisions.

I’m getting good at it.

Even if I get it wrong.

The funny thing is, being indecisive used to feel like a warm, cozy, safe blanket. Now it feels like an itchy and scratchy burlap bag.

Being decisive feels warm and cozy now.

Which bucket do you want to fall in?

Bucket #1 or Bucket #2?

Jennifer Hooper
Life Coach for Women Entrepreneurs

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Have you ever tuned into what your body is trying to tell you? I mean, REALLY tuned in?

I’m working on building this muscle.

Deep down—at an intuitive level—I know that my body holds profound wisdom. But since I’ve never been taught how to listen to it (hardly anyone ever is), I’ve had to figure out its language on my own. It’s like landing in France and trying to learn French without a guide, guidebook, or French lesson.

I certainly haven’t nailed my body’s language…but I’m getting more proficient.

I remember a particular experience that I still remember vividly. Years ago—before I had a backup camera—I was backing out of a parking space at the grocery store. I looked over both shoulders to see if anything was behind me or coming close. All clear. I eased out of the space, holding my attention to the lane I was directly pulling into.

In an instant, all the hairs on the back of my neck stood up and I instinctively slammed on my brakes. As I turned my head back in the other direction, I saw a car careening in my direction. I was floored…somehow, at an energetic level, my body gave me a clear signal. If I hadn’t stopped, I definitely would have collided into the car.

That’s not my only experience.

Over time, I’ve learned that when something resonates or rings true with me, I feel a sensation that runs down both my arms simultaneously, almost like a shiver but buzzier. When I feel a boulder in my gut, I now know that my subconscious is panicking about something (rational or not)…usually related to a fear of the unknown. It won’t go away until I figure out the root cause. I’m currently trying to figure out what a tightness in my chest means; it seems to shift around a bit.

I believe that body sensations are signals from our souls. They warn us, cheer us on, and nudge us to turn in a different direction when something’s not quite right.

But most of the time, we ignore, dismiss, or push them away.

So we never get to know what our soul is trying to say.

It’s challenging to learn your own body’s language. Like parenting, it doesn’t come with a guidebook. Besides, your body speaks differently to you than mine speaks to me; comparing notes is almost a moot point.

But at the very least, maybe we could pay better attention.

Do you know what your body trying to tell you?

Do you trust it?

Are you even listening at all?

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