“I don’t pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me. Love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person. Love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of. Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”
“I thought you had taken everything with you when you left,
I thought you stole all the pieces of me I’d never get back
I’ve realized now that the parts of me you took
were the pieces I didn’t need, the parts I outgrew
and who I am now, without you and the remnants of what once was
is a stronger soul, with a wiser heart
who no longer needs you.”
“I was in a relationship for most of my teenage years. He wasn’t a bad guy, but I think long relationships can be toxic when you’re that young. That’s the age when you’re supposed to be figuring yourself out. And that can be hard if you’re completely focused on another person. I was always more worried about ‘us’ than I was worried about myself. I’d make decisions just to maximize our time together: the places I worked, the classes I chose, the friends I spent time with. Recently I looked through my high school photos, and I don’t have a single picture when I’m not with him. And, I don’t know… it feels like some of those memories should have been mine alone.”
There is just no excuse anymore. You cannot entertain certain kinds of people, places, and experiences without feeling the taint of their mediocrity. It’s simply not true that every human soul that you have incarnated with has the potential to be better and do better. Sometimes, people can’t be helped, they can’t be guided, and they can’t be transformed. Sometimes, they’re basic and that’s simply the end of it. That’s where they’ll stay, and if you know what’s good for you, you’ll find a way to accept this and leave them there to continue your journey of self development and self actualization. These people can and will, most unconsciously, taint you with their baseness, their negligence, their selfish and desperate antics for validation. It can’t be transmuted. You have to help yourself, and leave them sitting there in their own obsessive and repulsive self-absorption, their careless and clumsy interaction with the world around them and the people in it. It isn’t worth it, and it is no pious achievement to be the one to stand by them hoping for more. Self love and self respect have to be more important to you. They have to take center stage if you really want to heal and learn and grow and show reverence to the Divine for your life. Whether it’s family, lover, friend, or even enemy, these kinds of noxious people are parasites, they are the worst kind of infection, and if left to fester too long, they become cancerous growths, eating you alive from the inside out. You can’t pity them and can’t pity what you had with them. You can’t afford to be fooled by any of their lengthy speeches or hollow declarations. Free yourself from guilt-induced family obligations. Free yourself from sickeningly symbiotic, energy-draining “love” relationships. Free yourself from duplicitous “friends” and the superficial, artificial bonding that is the main theme in these kinds of cheap relationships. Free yourself from worthless enemies; it’s too much of a compliment to declare some of these scum your enemies. You deserve better allies and better opponents. No more time can be wasted; I feel this truth on a deep level today. No more. The baby steps and the coddling are soon going to become scarce, not because the Divine has given up on you but because it’s time to ride the bicycle without training wheels, it’s time for you to do this without having to be pushed all the way. How bad do you really want it? How devoted are you to shedding your old skin? Are you still doing any of this because you see the true importance of divine intimacy and alchemical transformation of the soul, or are you using the guise of self love and self development to justify and defend and protect against a past that has haunted you; an old insecurity, an old disappointment, an old vendetta? If you are truly no longer who you once were, then prove it. The days of defense against a past that no longer defines you is over. It’s time to surrender fully to the power and blessing of soul evolution. Give much gratitude for being chosen to rise out of the cesspool of insecurity and unconsciousness and shed that skin completely. It’s time.
Relationships are wonderful and can become an important part of your life! But they are NOT your whole life and they certainly do not determine your worth. If you’ve had bad ones or have never even been in one, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. You are more than your relationships!!!