“It was simply a chapter in my life that had closed, and the ending seemed appropriate … We were right to go our separate ways, and I know we’re both better for it — even if we can’t pinpoint exactly why.”
Try not to focus on “letting go,” but rather, just let it be. Accept the situation as it is. The breakup, the pain — all of it. This is your reality right now. Don’t resist it. Feel all that you need to feel, learn all its lessons. Let this experience teach you about people, love, relationships, life, and especially about yourself. Breakups are an incredible opportunity for self-awareness and growth in general.
The breakup is causing you pain, but don’t prolong this pain by attaching yourself to the role of “heartbroken and stuck.” See yourself as healing, as simply experiencing life. Go with the flow; let the pain flow through you and carry you through the necessary stages of grief. The more you fight it, the longer it takes. Breakups don’t need to make us bitter. Breakups can make us better. Don’t struggle to let it go, just let it be and the pain will let go of you.
Just a reminder that breaking up with someone who is toxic to your life is not a two person decision. It isn’t up to them whether you break up with them or not, don’t buy into the whole “you can’t do this to us” bullcrap. Yes, you can.
If anything reminds you of your abuse, or feels familiar to the past emotional abuse you experienced, YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO LEAVE. You are not crazy, you are not deluded, and you are not making things up in your mind–if anyone feels like what you have experienced before, you are accurately picking up on abusive qualities in the other person… just as if you know what fire feels like, because you were burned by fire in the past. If you begin to feel scorching heat while with another, please know that you are not imagining things. Tell yourself that you deserved better before, and you still deserve better now. TRUST YOUR FEELINGS AND LEAVE.
you don’t have to prove that someone is abusive in order to cut them out of your life, if they’re wasting your time and energy, draining you, making you feel miserable, putting way less effort in communicating than you are, blocking your thoughts and opinions, triggering you, making you cry, causing you pain, making you feel awful about yourself - you can cut them off with no further reason needed “I need different things in life right now” is a reason enough.
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