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This Pride month, Mobilizing Our Brothers Initiative’s (MOBI) MOBIfest returns for the second year of its citywide wellness festival with three days of events from Thursday, June 13, to Saturday, June 15, to celebrate contributions to the arts, entertainment and culture from queer communities of color.
Queer performers, influencers, talent, artists, designers and comics from New York City and beyond will help bring MOBIfest to life with programming taking place everywhere from Chelsea in Manhattan to Williamsburg, Brooklyn. Last year saw the inaugural MOBIfest headlined by Danity Kane’s R&B powerhouse, Dawn Richard, with a concert at Melrose Ballroom.
Dawn Richard Headlines MOBIfest 2018 / Image: MOBI
This year, another R&B heroine – Sevyn Streeter will take the reigns with a headlining performance at Music Hall of Williamsburg. MOBIfest will kick off with a VIP launch party on Thursday, June 13th followed by a queer art show and exhibition on Friday, June 14th. This is all leading up to the main show on Saturday, June 15th where MOBI’s lineup of queer talent and performers will take to the stage at Music Hall of Williamsburg for DJ sets, a mini ball segment, drag performances, a comedy show, and concert featuring Sevyn Streeter and local queer acts.
Although Pride month events attract big names and acts all over the city, MOBI aims to carve out space for the community to have a platform during their events. Local visual artists can submit their work now on MOBI’s website at “mobi-nycom/artist-call” for a chance to have their work exhibited during MOBIfest’s queer art show on Friday, June 14th. Bronx Designer and Creative Director, Jerome Lamaar is curating the art show and will hand-pick each artist alongside the MOBI team.
MOBIfest stands out among the myriad of Pride events and parties taking over New York City in June in that attendance is completely free by attending any of MOBI’s free, pre-festival wellness activations. Upcoming activations can be found below and are updated on MOBI’s website at “mobi-nyc.com/access”
Earn FREE access to MOBIfest by registering and attending any of these upcoming activations:
June 1st – Lit Fit Workout Class with Jarad Lott
June 1st – ThriveNYC Mental Health First Aid Training
June 6th – The Moth Workshop
Sevyn Streeter for MOBIfest 2019 / image credit: MOBI
MOBI is announcing acts and entertainment throughout the month, but Get Out! has a roundup of a few of the talents you can expect to see next month at MOBIfest:
– Sevyn Streeter – Sevyn Streeter has cemented herself as a rising musical sensation and will lend her talents as the MOBIfest headliner during Pride month.
– Super Bitch – Social media sensation Dremon Cooper, aka Super Bitch, has become a viral, high-heeled superhero who has worked with Fenty Beauty and is collaborating with Lee Daniels as the star of a superhero film.
– Alex English – Complex Magazine named Detroit-bred, NY-based Stand Up Comedian, Writer and Actor Alex English one of “15 Personalities that need to be on television.” English has opened for such comedians as Roy Wood, Jr, Michelle Wolf, James Adomian, Sasheer Zamata, and Sam Morril.
– Bry’Nt – Kicking off his #bryntpark tour next month in Brooklyn, Bry’Nt is a queer rapper on the rise and will return to the MOBIfest stage to perform his latest music. He has also had the privilege to perform nationally and internationally opening for artists such as DJ Class, Fantasia, Evelyn “Champagne” King, Lil’ Kim, Teairra Mari, Tweet, RuPaul, and Young MA.
MOBIfest takes NYC next month! Visit www.mobi-nyc.com and follow
@mobinyc on Instagram and Facebook for updates.
The World Health Organization reported that in 2017 almost 50% of all new HIV transmissions occurred among main partners, or people who are in relationships. There are plenty of ways that people in serodiscordant relationships can keep each other healthy, but all include having open and honest dialogue.
My boyfriend gave me HIV, and I don’t know if I can forgive him. We’ve been together for almost four years, and always monogamous. Two weeks ago, I went to my doctor for a regular check-up. He drew some blood and ended up testing for HIV. I hadn’t been tested in years because of my relationship, and it came back positive. I honestly didn’t know how to respond: I’d never cheated, and I didn’t think my boyfriend had either. I was at work when I found out, immediately left and called him. I was crying and screaming at him, then he broke down and started apologizing. He went to the doctor, got tested, and found out he’s positive too. That night he broke down and told me he’d cheated a few times. I cried, told him I needed space and left the apartment to stay with a friend. I came back home a few days ago. I love him, and I want to work this out. I don’t know what to do or how to move past this. Or if maybe I should end it. I feel very hurt. – Male, Gay, 27
I’m sorry that you’re going through this. It sounds like you’re going through a lot and this was entirely unexpected. I’m not sure if you’re upset about the cheating, HIV transmission or both. So, I’m going to address both. First, HIV or not, it’s understandable that you feel lied to and hurt because he cheated. If the transmission hadn’t happened, how would you have handled this? In some of the couples work that I do, cheating has happened, and we try to focus on looking forward. What would you want to change now so that this doesn’t ruin your relationship? Does he want to be open? Would you want to be open? And if so, what is or isn’t acceptable, and how will you tell each other if either of you breaks your agreement? Second, you have to accept that you’re HIV-positive, because that isn’t going to change (at least not with modern medicine). No matter how angry you are with him, or anyone else, that’s just how it is. And again, focusing on the future, think about how you guys can work together to keep each other healthy. Current medication regimens are amazing, and you guys can have a completely normal and healthy life (together or separate). This is still new for you, so you might be in a bit of shock. I’d also recommend talking to a therapist, either alone or as a couple. Often cheating can be overcome with work. And having someone who is nonjudgmental to discuss your status with can also be helpful, because there is, unfortunately, a lot of stigma around HIV, even in NYC.
Pop singer Rilan, best known for his role as a Dalton Academy Warbler on TV’s Glee, will be in NYC this weekend to perform his new industrial pop record, “Love or Drugs.”
The song is hard and edgy yet danceable and melodic and is meant to poke fun at the contradictions of Los Angeles. Says Rilan: “Everyone in Los Angeles parades around like they’re famous and filthy rich when in reality, they’re broke, broken and looking for whatever is gonna get them through the night. They’re trying to fill the void with what they think will make them feel better in the moment, whether it’s a person or a poison.”
Rilan - Love or Drugs (Official Music Video) - YouTube
Rilan’s first NYC show will be this Thursday at Rise. He’ll then perform two shows on Friday: the first at Monster followed by Club Cummings.
“I can’t wait to play for my fellow weirdos on the east coast,” says Rilan. “We’re gonna show the cool kids how to really party!”
Born and raised in New Orleans, Louisiana, Rilan grew up in a large, close-knit, traditional, southern, catholic family. After high school, he attended college in Nashville for three months but he quickly realized he was more suited for doingrather than learning. So, with the support of his parents, he packed up his things and moved west to LA.
He imagined LA would be a place where outcast artists like him found solace and freedom to be their true selves. What he discovered was different. In Los Angeles, people aren’t who they were born to be, they’re who they think other people want them to be. He was devastated at first but has since come around.
“I have come to realize that what makes me ‘me’ is not fitting in. I’m an outsider and I’m proud of it. I make music for unpopular people like me. Theatrical, high-energy, alwaysa spectacle, and always true to who I am.”
Rilan’s assembled a star-studded team behind him including Lady Gaga’s choreographer Richy Jackson and manager Randy Jackson (American Idol).
JJ Bozeman stars as Ethan in New LGBTQ film, Snowflake
The controversial new LGBTQ film, Snowflake, will make its NYC premiere this Saturday at the Big Apple Film Festival.
Scheduled for a 6pm showing, the 117-minute film harkens back to the sense of panic half of America experienced in 2016 when the presidential election was called for Donald Trump. Written and directed by Jack Tracy — best known for his starring role in gay web series, History — Snowflake is a fictional story depicting LGBTQ characters’ fear of the future when an anti-gay politician is suddenly thrust into the White House.
Snowflake [Teaser Trailer] - YouTube
While most of the characters in Snowflake are gay, the film shows how their other identities – age, race, and their economic status – shape their individual views.
At the center of the film is Ethan (played by JJ Bozeman), a young Filipino gay man whose fear of the new administration’s threatened rollbacks on gay civil rights hits a fever pitch. Ethan’s increasing panic ultimately causes friction with his boyfriend and friends, including Ryan (played by Jack Tracy), a white Wall Street executive; Owen, a black man that believes that racism lies at the heart of the shocking election, and Paul, an older gay friend who lived through the AIDS crisis.
Screen capture from Snowflake
“I really wanted to capture that dread that so many people felt the day after the 2016 election,” explains Tracy. “We’ve become almost numb to the outrageous fraud and corruption of the Trump administration. It’s now normalized. I wanted to capture the emotional spiral that I and so many other Americans felt in the days following Trump’s election.”
“I hope that when viewers watch Snowflake, those feelings resurface, and fuel the fire to get a massive turnout in 2020 that gets our current president the hell out of office.”
In the heart of Pence country lies a gay oasis that needs to be on everyone’s list of places to visit. Bloomington, Indiana is one of the most welcoming and gay-friendly small cities I have ever traveled to, partially due to Indiana University and the LGBT initiatives they have implemented over the past few decades. This coupled with a bohemian lifestyle among residents makes it a great destination to visit for a weekend getaway.
One of the coolest attractions in the city is the Tibetan Mongolian Buddhist Cultural Center. I would never have known that Bloomington was home to such a rich Tibetan culture but as I would soon discover, the city is extremely diverse in its cultural offerings, especially when it comes to culinary establishments. Downtown is rich in its offering of international restaurants. From Thai to Indian to Burmese cuisine, there is something for everyone.
Upon entering the grounds of the Cultural Center, one is instantly transported to a foreign land. Tibetan Stupas, a Choekor Pagoda and The Kumbum Chamtse Ling Monastery welcome guests as they wander the beautifully manicured property. While there, take the time to meditate and learn about the Buddhist culture.
To continue your tour of Tibet, head to Little Tibet, a restaurant located on 4th Street in Downtown Bloomington. I recommend trying the Tibetan Cha tea, Mo Mo (pan fried dumplings) and Temo Sha Tsel, stir-fried vegetables in a garlic sauce served with jasmine rice. Tibetan cuisine is slightly reminiscent of Thai cuisine.
After dinner, check in to The Graduate Hotel, a fairly new property located in the heart of the city, easily in walking distance to most places of interest. The college-themed décor of the hotel is a bit different and takes some time to get used to – especially if you graduated from college in the early part of the decade – but the hotel chain is catering towards university students and their families, so it works for their target audience. That being said, my room was incredible and featured a huge dining room, living area, walk-in shower and a king size bed that I didn’t want to move from each morning.
The first stop on my trip of LGBT Bloomington was the Rainbow Bakery. Don’t expect any fancy lattes here. Instead, order a drip coffee and one of their delectable doughnuts. I opted for the maple bacon doughnut and it was as delicious as it sounds. The bakery staff is welcoming, and establishment is one of the favorite morning destinations among locals.
The city of Bloomington has enacted a Nondiscrimination Policy which provides all citizens equal opportunity for education, employment, access to public accommodations and housing. This policy is on top of Indiana University’s policy, making Bloomington a very welcoming and safe place for LGBT people to live, work and study.
Not too far from campus is the Bloomington Salt Cave. It’s not actually a cave, but it is the perfect place to unwind. A session includes a relaxing 45-minute stay in a room made up of Himalayan rock salt. The therapy is a proactive way to achieve overall health and wellness through the use of negative ions. Eastern Europeans have been using dry salt therapy for generations and there are now therapeutic salt caves all over the world.
Bloomington is also home to The Kinsey Institute for Sex Research. Named for Dr. Alfred Kinsey, the Institute had two primary goals: to continue the team’s research on human sexual behavior; and to administer research resources, including research materials, a library, case histories, and other related materials. Drs. Alfred Kinsey, Wardell Pomeroy, and Clyde Martin developed the Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale—more commonly known as “The Kinsey Scale,” which showed people did not fit into exclusive heterosexual or homosexual categories. Guests can visit The Kinsey Institute Collections, which encompass print materials, film and video, fine art, artifacts, and photography collected from six continents and spanning more than 2,000 years of human history.
Indiana University also boasts an active LGBTQ+ Alumni Association, who’s goal is to improve the quality of life for LGBTQ+ students, faculty, staff, and alumni of IU on all eight campuses of the university. The organization sponsors educational activities, provides information on activities and events of interest to the IU LGBTQ+ community and award grants to deserving LGBTQ+ students and student organizations.
If you need a break from your culture and history tour of Bloomington, head to Cardinal Spirits, a local distillery and creator of Pride Vodka. While there, order one of their delicious hamburgers, which were cooked to perfection and quite filling. You won’t leave hungry!
In the mood for a drag show? Head to The Back Door, the city’s only official gay bar. I say ‘official’ because many bars in the city are LGBT friendly and some locals mentioned a few others, but The Back Door is the only bar that bills itself as a gay establishment. While there, I had front row seats at their RuPaul’s Drag Race-inspired competition, where they appointed Bloomington’s next drag superstar.
Bloomington is located about an hour outside of Indianapolis, so if you are visiting from the east or west coast, it would probably be easiest to fly in to Indy and rent a car. I love exploring small LGBT-friendly towns and cities and Bloomington definitely didn’t disappoint. It’s surely one of the blue dots in Indiana.
The SVTV (Strong Voices Television) Network is bringing “Stud Model Project: The Series” to network television. The first show of its kind in the history of television, “Stud Model Project: The Series” starts streaming on May 16th, 2019, and this is one show you DO NOT want to miss!! A new reality competition searching for America’s sexiest LGBTQ Stud model.
“Stud Model Project: The Series” disrupts the labels and gender norms within the LGBTQ community. The mission of the series is to break barriers, and deconstruct the labels placed on the dominants within the LGBTQ community. Not only will you watch some of the sexiest stud models from around the country wearing the hottest fashions, as part of this groundbreaking reality show the cast of incredible models will share stories and reflect on their identities. A competition with self-reflection, advocacy, table talk and camaraderie, bringing meaningful moments that will educate and inspire viewers.
From its diverse cast members including deaf contestant Dre Hollingsworth out of Los Angeles, its advocacy and product features (including pairing up with Atlanta non-profit Lost & Found during the shows featured challenges and featuring the infamous titty tape), diversity is truly one of the best aspects of the show.
In addition, stud model project the series brings its first non-binary contestant Morgan, with preferred pronouns of them, they, they’re, which the network learned non-binary means not identifying as either masculine or feminine.
There’s more to this series than just a handsome face.
“Stud Model Project: The Series” creator Teresa Morcho came up with the concept of Stud Model Project years ago when looking for sexy, yet fashionable images of African American studs online for club promotion. Not finding the online images and representation she was seeking, Morcho started her book “Stud Model Project”, now on Volume 3, which highlights an array of diverse, dominant models not represented by agencies in the world of fashion.
Underneath all of the advocacy and mission, “Stud Model Project: The Series” is a modeling competition. The 7 contestants must compete against each other in rigorous activities to become the “Stud Model Project: The Series” Season 1 Winner!
Season One of Stud Model Project: The Series debuts May 16that 9 p.m. (ET) on the SVTV Network, both on the web and on your television through Roku, Apple TV, Google Chromecast and Amazon Fire TV . Subscribe to The SVTV Network by visiting www.svtvnetwork.com and have access to a ground breaking television network featuring LGBTQ series, movies, documentaries, music, podcasts, news and more for only $5.99 a month.
Watch the promotional trailer for “Stud Model Project: The Series” here:
Stud Model Project the Series | New Promo Alert! - YouTube
Sometimes we lose our partners to other people, sometimes to porn. Deciding what you want more can be tricky, and you can’t usually always have it all.
I’m 58, and my partner is almost 30 years younger than me. We’ve been together for six years and have always been open. Three months ago I met someone wonderful on Grindr; we instantly clicked, and I’ve fallen in love. I told my partner, and he responded negatively, saying that if I don’t break it off with this other guy, that he’s going to leave me. I’ve never been happier in my life, but I don’t want to lose my husband. What can I do? – Male, Gay, 58
You have to make a choice, and unfortunately, I can’t tell you what to do or what is going to make you the happiest in the long run. Part of being in a relationship, whether it is open or not, is the commitment that you make to the other person(s). That doesn’t mean that you have to stay in the relationship no matter what, come hell or high water, but you did make a promise, and now you’ve broken that promise. It happens, and you have to decide what you want to do about it. You’re 58; haven’t you learned that constantly chasing the next best thing doesn’t lead anywhere?
There is a 10-year age difference between my boyfriend and me; I’m younger and have a much higher sex drive. I’ve noticed over the last six months to a year that our sex life has really slowed down. I asked him about it, and he said that he hasn’t been working out as much and feels really out of shape. I guess I get that, but then I was using his iPad, and he’s been watching porn multiple times a week. Apparently, he’d rather look at a screen then have sex with me. How can I get him to put down the porn and pick me up? – Male, Gay, 24
Congrats on having this conversation with him; communication is always good. In general, it’s true that guys’ sex drives go down with age, but it seems like you’re totally unsatisfied with your current sex life, and that’s not good. I don’t think porn is to blame here, though; a lot of guys watch porn and still have regular sex with their partner(s). There are a few things I’d recommend. First, watch porn with him. Talk about the different types you like, what you enjoy about them, and make that part of your sex life together. Second, you can also masturbate with each other while you watch, totally hot, and could get the ball rolling into other things. Third, if he really doesn’t want to increase your sex together and you want to stay with him, talk to him about opening up the relationship or how you can increase your sexual satisfaction.
I was dog-sitting Penny, Jack’s dachshund, when I got a text from Jack himself: “I’ve got baby fever.”
My immediate thought was, “You should probably go see your doctor.” Not that I’ve never had baby fever myself—my mother would love nothing more than having a grandchild. (And since I’m an only child, I’m her Obi-Wan Kenobi.) Not to mention I get dog fever just about every time I go outside and see some well-to-do gay couple walking their proud show poodle. (Then I remember how much easier it is to have a cat—sure, you have to clean their shit out of a box, but at least you don’t have to take them outside three times a day.)
“If you married your boyfriend when I told you to, you’d be ready to have a baby,” I text instead. He and his boyfriend have been together practically the full length of our friendship, but he hasn’t proposed yet. Sometimes I have to remind myself that not everyone is as obsessed with marriage as I am.
“I want a more relaxing job first,” he responded. Penny started jumping all over me, as if she knew I was texting her daddy. I decided to take her on a walk through Central Park.
Strolling through the park, ready to pick up shit at any moment, I thought about the reality of Jack having a kid. I never thought about it seriously: Our lives seem complicated as is. Then again, a lot of the kids I went to high school with already have children—I often think about what would have happened if I didn’t move to New York, if I stayed in Iowa. Would I have a family by now?
I always used to envision I would. I got engaged at 19, and the plan was to move to Minnesota when I graduated college. At 29 years old, I definitely expected to have at least one kid, if not two. Then again, I also expected to have several books published by now—life has a way of going in its own direction, not necessarily the direction you intended.
At 22, I made the choice to move to New York City and try the starving artist life. I might not be starving anymore, but I definitely don’t make enough money to raise a kid—and while Jack does, he doesn’t have the time.
After bagging a shit way too big to be believed it came out of Penny, I wondered how people found the balance. How does one juggle raising a kid, maintaining a relationship and working? Not to mention, if it’s a “pays-the-bills” job, how to you additionally juggle pursuing your dreams?
Do I have to pick and choose, or is there a way to have it all? (And will I still be able to afford designer clothes? Both for myself and my child?)
I took Penny home, deciding that maybe James and I should get a dog first. I went on eBay and typed in “Designer Dog Collars.”