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Do you have a lack of motivation? Have you been procrastinating way too long? In this episode, I talk about how you can overcome that. It’s not by reading more inspirational quotes or just hoping that one day you wake up and have lots of motivation.
The way you gain motivation is to start and made tiny progress. By making progress, you gain a sense of achievement even if it’s baby steps. Motivation comes and go. No one has become successful and happy because they were only motivated. You can’t change yourself life on motivation alone.
I talk more about what you can do to get yourself motivated today, tomorrow, and forever.
Are you not getting the outcomes you want in life? Do you find yourself struggling? Are you in bad relationship or around people that constantly lie to you?
It’s easy to overlook the real cause of the problem. The problem isn’t a matter of luck. It’s not that you are a failure. It’s not the people around you that’s the biggest problem.
It’s that you’re attracting these into your life.
You are not the type of person yet that would have whatever it is that you want. For example, let’s say you have been trying to get a job but no company is calling you for an interview. It’s easy to get depressed about it and think you will never find a job.
But if we were to take a look at the type of person you were, we would uncover the real reasons. In your eyes, you see yourself as a failure. You compare yourself to friends who seem to have their life together. You fee depressed about that. You have no idea what it is you want to do in life. You’re angry at the world because you’re unhappy and this isn’t your fault.
You feel lonely and don’t have any friends. You are scared to talk to anyone cause you fear what they will think about you.
If you were hiring to fill a position in a company, would you hire this person? Of course you wouldn’t. Though these traits would not be asked about or mentioned on the resume or in the interview, you would be sending out this message.
You’re always sending out messages about your self without any verbal communication. Other people can sense it.
So to get what you want in life, you have to do this first.
Recently I asked readers what questions they’d like me to answer. Today it’s about finding time.
Beside school, homework, a few school competitions and, of course, my family and household stuff I also have 3 big passions: reading (learning new things), writing and dancing. I struggle with managing to give the necessary amount of time and attention to all of them, especially my hobbies. They’re all very important to me and I was thinking about 2018 as an opportunity to start a new way of life. My goals are set, I want to improve myself and what seems to be missing is time. What piece of advice would you give me?
The simple answer to this question is you have to schedule what is important to you. If you don’t schedule it, you will never consistently find the time for it.
What most people do when they want to find time for a new hobby, exercise, learn something new, or start a project is do it whenever they have the time.
The problem is that we can easily fill our day with things to do. We feel busy all day long, but if we really see what we’ve done, we can see that we’re spending a lot of time on unimportant things.
You might feel busy because you’re doing something, but you’re not getting much done each day. At least certainly not doing the things that make you happy and are important to you like reading, writing and dancing.
We make time for what is most important to us and we often don’t realize that we do.
I used to have shows that I loved to watch every week. I could have recorded them and watched it at a later time, but I wanted to watch it live cause I couldn’t wait.
If I knew the show was coming on at Thursday at 8pm, I would schedule everything else around it. I would make sure I was done with dinner. If anyone called me, I wouldn’t answer it. I wouldn’t be texting on my phone, or on my computer during this time.
I was focused on only the show for the next hour.
It was that important to me and therefore I scheduled whole week and that day to be sure I was home to watch my favorite show.
But when it comes to exercise, hobbies, personal development, or starting a business that we hope can turn into a full time business, we don’t give it this type of VIP treatment.
We treat it as an after thought even though we keep thinking about wanting to do it. Instead we place a higher priority on social media, TV, and mindlessly using the computer.
If something is important to us, we have to make time for it. Don’t just try to think about when we’ll do it each day. If we do, we’ll always find excuses to not do it or find something else to do instead.
Think about your day and what you do. I bet there are ways for you to find extra time. I know you want to spend time with family, but you could also find a balance between spending time on your hobbies and also with family.
A lot of people say they don’t have time during the day, but the average person spends 4 hours a day on their phone. They spend almost 2 hours a day on the top social media platforms like Youtube, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, and Twitter.
4 hours a day our phone is a lot. Makes me not surprised people say they feel busy all day and don’t have time to do something.
Do we need to spend 4 hours a day on our phone and 2 hours a day on social media? No we don’t, but it’s easy to with endless content and and always updating newsfeed every time they check Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and Twitter.
Imagine if you cut even just half of that time. You would free up so much time in your day to do what’s important to you.
You’re not going to miss out on anything important if you spent less time on your phone and on social media. You’ll then have more time for personal activities.
In 2018, I have spent less time using my phone and on social media especially in the mornings.
I used to wake up and then immediately get on Facebook, check my e-mail and read the news. That’s how I’d spend the first hour of my day. This is what most people do. The last thing they see before sleeping is their phone. The first thing they do is check their phone.
By checking social media and e-mail, I immediately shift my attention to what everyone else is doing in their life.
How does that help me? How does that improve me? It doesn’t at all. All it does is waste my time and attention on something that I can do later in the day.
It can wait.
(For anyone reading this, try that out. Don’t check social media or e-mail for at least the first hour in the morning and I guarantee if you do this you’ll feel much better each day.)
My e-mails are from companies telling me to see what they’re selling. It’s from newsletters that want me to read their new article. It also has problems that need my attention.
Dealing with other people’s problems is not how I want to be starting my day.
I got lazy with my mornings in 2017 so to start 2018, I wanted to improve my morning routine.
Now I don’t check social media, e-mail or read the news for at least the first hour after I wake up. Sometimes it’ll be two hours before I even open Facebook.
Did I miss out on anything by waiting two hours? Nope. Did I feel better by using the time for myself instead? 100% yes.
I like to use the morning as the time to improve myself. I’m protective about this time and this is why I choose to wake up earlier. This is not time to start texting friends or read whatever messages are waiting for me on Facebook messenger.
I like to use this time to do what’s important to do and focus on personal development. It’s a great way to start the day because I’m in control during that time.
I enjoy reading but I know if I didn’t decide each day when I would do reading, I wouldn’t do it. I prefer reading in the morning as part of my morning routine. I like to do that because it’s when I know I can get uninterrupted quiet time in the first hour of the morning before my wife is awake and before I start my day.
I would suggest doing your writing and reading as part of your morning routine. That might require you to wake up earlier but you’ll feel much better the rest of the day when you start your day doing what you want.
If it’s important to you, you have to make time for it.
Another reason the morning is best is because that’s when we’re the most creative and focused. We have more mental energy. It’s much harder to focus and be creative after a long day of school or work.
As for dancing, you also need to figure out when in your day you will do it. Schedule it as part of your day just like you have a schedule for classes at school. You may not be able to do it every day but if you dance a few times a week, I think you’ll still find enjoyment from that.
So you have to make the time for what is important to you. If you can do it the same time each day it’s better because you don’t have to think about when you’ll do it.
I don’t have to think when I’ll read. I know I read after I get a glass of hot water with a squeeze of lemon, go to my office, and write three things I’m thankful for and three positive moments from the past 24 hours.
You can’t just try to squeeze your hobbies into day. That’s what people normally do but they feel like they never have any free time. I bet if you analyzed your day you’ll be able to find ways to make more free time. There’s a lot you do in the day that can eliminated or reduced like time on your phone, social media or watching TV.
Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. Some people seem like they’re able to achieve so much in the same amount of time. It’s because they prioritize and do what’s most important to them. They say no to what they don’t have time for.
Saying no is just as important. You can’t do it all if you always say yes. Sometimes you have to say no to invitations to just hang out with friends, or no to school activities, or no to weekend plans.
I get e-mails asking for time to talk on Skype. I hate being the bad guy but I have to say no. The time I have during my day to focus on work is important. I can only do so much and therefore have to decline those conversations.
Then after work, I focus my time with my wife and seeing my nieces whenever I can. That is important to me.
I also have to say no to projects that I want to work on because I have to prioritize what’s most important right now. I don’t have the time or mental energy to do everything I want to do. I would spread myself too thin.
So determine where you want to focus your attention and then also determine the amount of time you will spend on each. Setting a time limit is important. For you it could be 30 minutes each day for reading and 30 minutes for writing. When you dance, you will do it for 1 hour.
If dancing reading, writing and dancing are important, you have to show how important they are to you by scheduling it into your week and day.
Otherwise they are just dreams that float around in your mind forever waiting for the right time to start when you have more free time.
Let’s say you have an ideas for a business. You’re working at a job that doesn’t fulfill you and you want to create something that will give you more freedom in life and make money from it. You want to be successful.
One of the problem a lot of people in that position have is deciding which idea to pursue. It can be so overwhelming that they don’t choose at all.
If you search for ways to make money online or what kind of business to start, the ideas are endless.
You might have a handful of ideas in mind but your fear of making the wrong choice or fear of failure has paralyzed you.
In this episode, I talk you through it to get you to understand that there is no wrong choice. Yes that is true.
I share my experience with making choices and how even I’m thankful for my biggest failures in life.
If narrowing down your idea has been tough, this episode is for you!
It’s time to shake things up in your life. If you’ve not made the progress you’ve been hoping, then it’s time to revisit what you’re doing.
What you may need to do is to start doing different things.
If you think about it this way, what you’ve been doing has gotten you to this point right now. That includes your thoughts, habits, beliefs, choices, and actions.
If you’re not where you want to be right now, you’ve got to change what you’ve been doing up to this point. You can’t keep doing the same thing and expect different results.
At the start of 2018, I realized that I didn’t achieve the goals I wanted in 2017. I had a good year financially, but it was no where near the big number I set for myself. I knew that if I wanted to reach my financial goals in 2018, I had to do things differently. I couldn’t keep doing what I had been doing last year.
I’ve gotten back into a better morning routine. I’m learning about self hypnosis to reprogram my mind. Self hypnosis is something I’ve never done before. I didn’t believe much in it because I had a belief on what I thought hypnosis was. I’ve learned now that the belief is false and am enjoying learning more about it so that I can unlock more of my mind.
In this episode, I talk more about this topic. I hope that you’ll start to look at what you’ve been doing and think about what you can do different to get different results in your life.
Since social media is such a big part of our lives, but if not taken care of it can get out of control. It’s like trying to grow a beautiful garden. When you start, it’s a clean slate. You plant some flowers, but over time weeds get in there. If you don’t spend time pulling the weeds, they will take over your garden. Soon it’ll be a garden full of weeds.
If you’re like me, your social media has some weeds that needs to get pulled. I’m talking about people, pages, companies, and anything that has a negative effect on you when you see it.
In this episode, I talk more about how to do that and I hope by the end of the episode you’re ready to clean up your social media. You’ll be glad you did.
Happy New Year! It’s my first time saying that on the podcast. It’s been awhile since I’ve published an episode but I’m looking forward to getting back into podcasting and giving you valuable content to make 2018 your best year.
I’ve talked about morning routines before and how it’s important not only to start your day right but to also give yourself and opportunity to learn and grow as a person.
I’ve been doing a morning routine since 2010, but I’ll go through phases where I stick to it and where I kinda do it. In 2017, I definitely found myself getting lazy with my morning routine. I could tell it was affecting me and the results I was getting.
So to start 2018, I wanted to hit the reset button on my morning routine and start with the basics again. I let cracks and leaks get into my morning routine, like checking social media first thing in the morning.
In this first episode of 2018, I talk about my morning routine now, and how you can get started on your own morning routine.
I truly believe if you’ve never done any morning routine that by being consistent with a simple morning routine you will see huge changes in your life.
Recently I sent an e-mail to Get Busy Living subscribers asking what questions I could answer for them to help them with anything they’re struggling with. I got a bigger response than I expected and got great questions that I know many more people are struggling with.
So I’m going to get to al the questions. Some will be in one article by itself, others will be together, and some I’ll answer privately if I feel that is best.
I left out names to provide anonymity and also made any changes to spelling or grammar if needed.
Today’s question is one that is very common and that’s why I want to answer it first. This is the biggest problem I read about and I know the feeling because I went through this in my life.
How to feel ‘unstuck’ in life? I want to make various changes (job, relationships, own self) but I just don’t know where to even start to begin living the best life I can/could.
This is the most popular question I get so thank you for asking.
My advice is from my own experience. I know what that feeling is like. I know the unhappiness and frustration to feel stuck. I will share what helped me finally get unstuck in life.
I hope you’re at a point where you’re willing to do whatever it takes. That means trying new things. That means getting out of your comfort zone. That means doing things differently. That also means having an open mind to take in advice from different sources then trying it for yourself.
There’s nothing worse than someone thinking they know it all and being stubborn. If they did, then why are they stuck in life or running into the same problem over and over again?
Let me be honest about something. Change is hard. I get it. It’s not comfortable. It’s not easy and that’s why many people never live a fulfilling life. They live an average life full of regret. Because it’s hard, you’re going to want to give up a lot. There will be times when you wonder if it’s all worth the effort. I know I did. After thinking about it, I realized that I would be so upset with myself I didn’t keep trying. I was doing the right things, but not seeing results yet. But I believed in the process and the journey.
To get unstuck in life, you must posses one important belief, motto, attitude, or mindset. Whatever you want to call it. Without this, nothing else I tell you will matter.
You have to take 100% responsibility for everything your life. That means the good and the bad. You have to stop complaining, blaming and pointing fingers. When you feel stuck, you also feel that this isn’t your fault. I know because that’s how I used to be. Nothing was my fault. How could it be when I followed everything I should do in life?
There’s one quote that I read that was a wake up call. I can’t remember who said it but it goes something like this.
If you don’t want the next five years of your life to be like the last five, you can’t keep doing the same old shit.
Do you want the next five years of your life to look like the last five? I know you don’t. Then what you’ve been doing has to change. You have to understand that. You can’t keep pointing the blame at people, feeling sorry for yourself, and spending 6 hours a night watching TV.
What has to change is you and much of your life.
I was 32 at the time when I read that quote. I had felt stuck for the majority of my 20’s. I always thought my 20’s would be a great decade. A time when I would discover my passion, work hard, make lots of money, buy a house and car. In my 30’s, I would get married and start a family.
It didn’t turn out like that. I was stuck in a restaurant job I hated. What was worse was that I had no idea what I wanted to do. I couldn’t quit my job because I had a mortgage, bills, and car payment to take care of. So I was stuck and I hated myself for being in that position with no way out.
So at 32, when I hit my rock bottom driving home from work one night, I wrote a letter to myself and wrote I was willing to do whatever it took because I didn’t want to keep waking up and going to sleep unhappy for the rest of my life.
I wanted to create the life of my dreams.
Of course I didn’t want the next five years of my life to be like the last five. I understood that I couldn’t keep doing what I was doing. I could not be the same person and expect my life to change the way I wanted. Old habits had to go. I had to starting building a new version of myself.
I thought to myself, “What I have been doing has gotten me to my lowest point in life. If I start doing the opposite of everything I have been doing, then I would be at the highest point in my life. Right?”
I know it sounds simple, but it made me understand that I needed a new approach. I wasn’t going to literally do the opposite of everything I was doing, but I understood the idea of having to do new and different things in my life.
If some expert said to jump ten times on one leg every morning while saying “I’m going to have a great day”, I would have tried it. I seriously was open to trying new ways of doing things if that was going to help me.
I knew I had to change a lot about myself if I wanted to get different results.
This was the second big discovery. Before in my 20’s my goal was to be happy. In order for me to feel happy, I wanted to find a new career. When I gave up trying to find a new career, I got interested in making money online.
Money was my key to happiness. That’s all I cared about.
If I could just make money online in anyway that allowed me to quit my job, I would be happy. Everything else would be amazing. I would have more confidence. I would fall in love. I would have more time to take care of myself and be more healthy.
I was so focused on getting the results I wanted (money) because I felt that would make me happy. That approach didn’t work cause I turned 30 years old and was more lost and confused in my life than when I turned 20.
Now I’m going to share what helped me finally change my life. It took me many years of feeling stuck and doing it the wrong way. So I hope my experience can help anyone who’s reading this.
To begin living the best life you can, you have to start with yourself. That is the only thing you can control right now. You can’t control when you’ll get into a new relationship nor can you control when you’ll get a new job.
But you can control what you do and what you think. That’s where I began and so should you.
I learned that I have to be happy first if I wanted to get the results I wanted in life. If I would have read that in my 20’s, I would have ignored it cause that’s wrong.
As a society, we’ve always been trying to achieve a goal in order to be happy in life. If we could make more money, have a new job, get married, or start a profitable business, then we would be happy.
I had been doing it all backwards. I finally understood that’s why I couldn’t achieve success.
When I say happy, don’t think it’s ignoring your problems and walking around with a smile on your face all day long. It’s about changing how you see the world through your habits, your attitude, your thoughts, and your actions.
The day after I hit my rock bottom and wrote a letter to myself, I began this new chapter in my life with a new mindset. I still had the same horrible job. I still had to go to it. I still hated driving to work and being there for even one minute. That part of my life wasn’t going to be changing any time soon unfortuatnely.
I started reading personal development books again to learn what successful people do.
I had never done a morning routine before, but I was willing to try something new. One part of the morning routine was to write in a gratitude journal. I had always read the benefits of a gratitude journal.
Even in my 20’s when I read personal development books thinking that reading books would without action would instantly change my life, I had read that I should be thankful. I thought that was stupid. How can I be thankful? I hated my life. What could I be thankful for? I had nothing that I could think of that I was thankful for. Instead I could go on and on about what I hated and what I wish I had in my life.
Now I was at a point in my life where I was open to trying new things. As you can see, I began doing a lot of things I hadn’t done before. I needed to if I wanted to get different results in my life.
As part of my morning, I would write down ten things I was thankful for. Simple things like having a bed to sleep in, having clean water to drink, having a paycheck even though I didn’t like my job, and being able to walk. We take these things for granted and overlook them and instead focus on what we wish we had in life.
How this helps is that is starts shifting your mind to look for what’s good in life instead of what’s bad. It’s training your mind to see differently.
Another change I made was my health. I’m not suggesting that you need to completely change what you eat and join a gym. Even moderate activity a few times a week has physical and mental benefits. Something like a walk is all you need or any activity that gets your heart rate up and that you enjoy.
I decided to challenge myself to get healthy.
Since I graduated high school, I had always been up and down in terms of my health. I’d go months being in great shape and eating healthy and then many months eating junk food and not exercising.
In October 2011 when I hit rock bottom, I was in horrible shape. Who’s motivated to exercise and eat healthy when life sucks? I certainly wasn’t. I would eat to feel better. During my lunch break, I would go and get fast food, then come back and take a nap before starting the dinner shift. I would eat dinner often after 9pm when it slowed down. When I came home, I would sit in front of my computer with the TV on. I stay up till 1-2am. I woke up 9-10am and would be on the computer or watching TV until I had to drag myself to work again and repeat my day.
My clothes started feel more tight. I had less energy. I just felt crappy every day. So turning my health around was important to me. I knew what it was like to be physical fit. I felt great. I had more confidence and more energy.
Exercise plays in an important part in creating a more positive mind. A more positive mind allows us to get the results that we want in life because we start to see opportunities and answers that we’re seeking.
I did something crazy though. I signed up for a half marathon despite never running that distance. I knew if my plan was to just go to the gym, I would lose interest. I needed something tangible to work towards. A half marathon was a long distance but doable in my mind. I thought if I could run 13.1 miles without stopping then I would be in great physical shape. I followed a free training program I found online. My first week of running was difficult of course. As the weeks progress, I got stronger and my endurance improved.
I also found the more I did it, the easier it was to do. I was training in October, November and December. The coldest months in Florida. Waking up from my warm bed and going running in the cold mornings did not sound fun.
Once I got momentum going by sticking to my training, it was easy to get out of bed. I didn’t have to think about it. I didn’t come up with excuses why not go run. I actually looked forward to it.
Besides just exercising, I changed what I ate. Six days a week I would eat reasonably. No fried foods, no sweet, smaller portions, not too much processed foods. Even on my lunch break from work when I ate out, I would eat Chipotle often cause it was easy to get something healthy. Every Sunday was my cheat day. That was the day I would indulge in every craving I had. I would eat anything I wanted from morning till night. By the end of the day, I would be so full and look forward to the next day when I wouldn’t be eating so much. Doing that helped me stick with the other six days.
Three months after I began I completed my first half marathon. I remember the feeling when I was done. I had done something I never thought was possible. I felt like I could do anything now. I had so much confidence because I started as a beginner. I lost about 15 pounds in the process and physically and mentally felt great. I ended up doing another half marathon just two months later because it was fun.
My biggest goal in life that would make me happy wasn’t to lose 15 pounds, run a half marathon, have more energy during the day, or feel more confident. It was to make money online so I could quit my job. If you noticed I didn’t mention yet about my plans to do so. The old me would have immediately gone online to research the next money making opportunity. That’s what I did before and that’s why I ended up trying ways that seemed too good to be true. I got sucked into courses where I was promised it was easy to make money. These marketers know exactly what to say and what buttons to push to get us to buy.
All the ways I had tried to make money were not interesting to me. I was just interested in making money as soon as possible. When I tried for a month and saw little or no results, I would give up. I lacked patience. This happened over and over again. Since the ways to make money were not interesting, I had no motivation to keep trying.
I said this time I knew I needed to do things differently if I wanted different results. This is why I didn’t jump into whatever money making opportunity came my way. I knew that strategy hadn’t worked for me. This time I focused on improving myself first.
I had to become the type of person that would get results in life, achieve my goals, and be a successful entrepreneur online.
I changed my habits. I read books. In the car instead of just listening to the radio, I listened to personal development CDs I borrowed from the library. I had a morning routine. I practice gratitude. I sold my Xbox video game system so I wouldn’t waste time playing video games. I watched less TV.
I was online researching ideas. I came across people who were making money online and reading their articles. I began listening to podcasts.
All these changes better prepared me when I decided to start this blog in January 2011 and the same month start development on my first iPhone app called Photo 365. As a person, I was better prepared to handle the rollercoaster ride I was about to embark.
It’s all because I stopped doing the same old things and expecting different results. I stopped wanting and hoping for a better life. I took action towards that and I started in the area of my life where I could control first.
So to start to live the best life you can don’t focus first on external goals like finding a job, finding love, or making more money as the key to improving your life and happiness.
Start focusing on what you can control. Start focusing on you. See what you’re feeding your mind. That includes what you read, watch, or listen to on a daily basis. Get out of your comfort zone. Learn new skills or improve existing skills you have.
Take a look at the five people you spend the most time with. Are they the type of people you want to end up like? If not, then you need to distance yourself and find new friends. You can do that through local classes or finding activities through Meetup.com.
Get new habits into your life and get rid of bad ones. Rememeber you have to start doing different things if you want to get different results.
The change you want in your life is up to you. You can’t depend on someone coming into your life to change it. No one is going to do it for you. No one is going to save you. It’s up to you and I’ve shared what helped me.
You can start with your health. That’s something you can control. Find an activity you enjoy doing. I like running cause it’s easy. I don’t need a membership or fancy equipment. If you hate running, don’t run. Just go for a brisk walk. Listen to a podcast while you walk. There’s hundreds of ways to get exercise so find what is best for you.
I’ve given you a lot of advice based on my experience. I don’t want you to leave overwhelmed so I’m going to tell you where you should start if you had to just pick one thing. Start with a morning routine. Work on creating your own morning routine which includes gratitude, reading, mediation, some movement, and alone time. Your morning routine is your time. Don’t check e-mail or social media. That can wait till later in the day.
I wish there was a shortcut to success and happiness. For many years, I wanted it to be easy. I hoped so many times that I would wake up feeling like a new man with unlimited motivation and an idea for a business that I could start. I wanted change to happen quickly because I could not stand the life I had. That made me not have patience and also give up on ways to make money online when I wasn’t seeing success quickly.
What you don’t need are top ten life hacks or five ways you can instantly be happy now.
What you have to imagine is that this moment is the new chapter in your life. Forget about the past. Forget about mistakes and regrets. That’s all in the past and nothing can be done about it. Start focusing on each day you’re living. What can you do today to change just a tiny bit?
Creating the type of life you want isn’t going to happen overnight. It’s not going to happen in a week or even a month, but I guarantee that in the next 12 months you can make huge changes in your life. You can achieve more than you imagined in just 12 months. I can say that confidently because I did.
You have to take 100% responsibility for your life first. The only person that is going to change your life is the one you see in the mirror every day. You have to stop making excuses and blaming everyone and everything around you.
I’ve given you my best advice on how to start. It’s up to you to decide what your next move will be. Will it be going back to your old life, old ways, and ignoring everything you just read? Or are you willing to do whatever it takes, try new things, have an open mind, and take it one day at a time?
We just thinking that if we achieve or change something about us that we’ll finally be happy. It’ll feel like the weight of the world is lifted off our shoulders. Once we reach that goal then we will start to exercise, eat healthy, spend more time with friends and family and travel.
Chasing happiness is usually ends in disappointment.
We also must understand that if we aren’t happy in the first place, it’s more difficult to have the energy, drive, and focus to put in the work towards reaching our goal.
If I’m feeling lazy and sorry for myself, then how will that affect my output? It’ll make a huge difference. I won’t be as effective. I won’t be able to see the solutions I’m looking for.
In today’s episode I talk about why it’s more important to focus on the journey towards our goals and how finding happiness is more important if we want to reach our goals.
When I started this podcast, there were already so many self help podcasts. When I started my blog, there were already so many self help blogs.
That didn’t matter to me because I wanted to start a podcast and a blog. I wanted a way to connect with people all around the world. I wanted to share my life experiences, my message, and my advice to anyone who needed it.
In the years since I’ve started, I’ve been able to do that despite so many others doing what I’m doing and who do it better than me.
There’s always going to be people who know more than you and have more experience than you. That doesn’t mean there isn’t room for you. There is room for you to do what you want.
Think about all the burger restaurants now. There’s not only so many different fast food burger places, but now there are so many burger restaurants that serve grass fed organic burgers.
There’s room for all of them because each has their own personality that will attract their ideal customers.
That’s what I’ve focused on with the podcast and blog. Just focusing on attracting people that could use some inspiration, advice, and help to get unstuck in life.
I’m not trying to appeal to everyone. Just trying to help who I can and to me that’s good enough.