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“Stoning the Prophets” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

The official policy was that if a prophet prophesied and it turned out not to be true, they were to be stoned.

The unofficial policy is that if a prophet prophesies and it turns out to be true, they will be stoned.

Because the ones who wrote the laws didn’t expect the truth to be turned on themselves.

Speaking truth to power has never been a safe enterprise.

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“Love in Confusing Times” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

LOVE IN CONFUSING TIMES

This is another post addressing the distressing issue of deconstructing while married.

Yes, all these posts can apply to any relationships.

But I’m particularly addressing marriage because I see a lot of marriages suffer when deconstruction hits one or both partners.

I want to help marriages survive this… if they should and if they can.

I’m talking about when one or both start questioning their beliefs,
or feel like they are losing their faith,
and experience their relationship to the church undergo change,
it affects the marriage.

Once you were on the same page.
Now you wonder if you’re even in the same book.
Or library!

When Lisa and I got married many years ago, we thought we really knew each other.

Whoa, were we in for a big surprise!
Because, slowly but surely a vast and horizonless vista opened up before us,
inviting us into a never-ending exploration of each other.
But, this was like a leisurely float down a lazy river in a nice canoe.

Then deconstruction hit.
Me.
Her.
Then us.

This felt like the floor disappeared from beneath our feet,
hurling us deep down into a fathomless ravine.

But that’s where we rediscovered,
rekindled,
and renewed our love for one another.

It was the climax where the most significant theme of our love story was to really get to know each other,
learn more about each other,
and fall more deeply in love with each other.

Yes, we were walking through the valley of the shadows.
But we were doing it together.

We would do it again.
And probably will.

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“I Dare You to Post It!” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Many years ago after I first was in the ministry, I found a spiritual director who was a Catholic nun. 

Of course, all this was kept secret because it would have been seriously frowned upon by the church and denomination I was serving.

One time when I met with her, she asked me what I was afraid of. 
I said I was afraid of becoming a heretic.
She said, “So, what if you do?”

First, I was afraid of being rejected by God.
Second, I was afraid of being rejected by God’s people.

Basically, she said don’t worry about the first, but the second is bound to happen. 

I may not experience outright rejection from the church. 
But I will certainly experience opposition, correction, and ridicule if I choose to be authentic.
All my spiritual heroes experienced the same thing. 
So why shouldn’t I? 
Especially if I wanted to emulate them.

Have you experienced that moment just before expressing yourself honestly and authentically?

You feel the risk.
You are aware of the possible consequences.
You count the cost.

But if you dare to be yourself, you dare to pay the price.

Am I right?

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“Belief Post-Belief” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

I’ve noticed… with myself and others… that people who go through the deconstruction have a difficult time with the word “belief”.

“Are you still a believer?” they’re asked.

“Um,” they answer.

“Do you believe in God?” they’re asked.

“Well…,” they answer.

People who deconstruct are no longer satisfied with yes or no questions and refuse to conform to black and white answers.

I’ve decided this is okay.

When you listen to the wisest people who have lived and live among us, they are just as frustratingly slippery with their answers.

Because deconstruction pulls us beyond dualism into a more paradoxical wisdom.

And a healthy wisdom accepts, embraces, and assimilates all that’s gone before. All that I was and am and will be is included into the whole of who I am. 

This is the explanation behind this cartoon. 

I recently explained it this way:

I used to be inside a cup of belief. But now what I know fills the sea! I do not throw away that cup of water I used to believe. Rather, it gets subsumed into the sea. The sea embraces it all. I do not reject it. It gets absorbed into all that I am. All that we are. All that is.

(If you understand what I’m talking about and are feeling lonely, please join the rest of us at TheLastingSupper.com … I’ll personally welcome you!)

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“Backsliding or Growing?” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

I remember when I first read James Fowler’s book, “Stages of Faith”. It shattered my fears of going off track or even backsliding. Instead, it helped me to frame the most anguishing periods of my spirituality as potential progress.

I happily discovered that doubts and questions are a crucial part of a healthy spiritual life.

It was the same joy I experienced when I took my first personality test in preparation for ordination into the ministry. To discover that my personality wasn’t weird but legit was so liberating!

When I concluded spiritual valleys are necessary, my old concepts of spiritual growth changed.

I used to think of spiritual growth as linear. But I question that because it implies that you move along a line and leave the past behind you… forgotten, unappreciated, and unintegrated.

Then I used to think of it as stages. But I question this too because it communicates that those at a higher stage are better than those beneath them. We can even despise our own earlier stages and reject these important developmental chapters of our stories.

Now I think of growth as spatial. We expand to include more without rejecting our former selves. We grow outward while subsuming all that went before. This universal perspective helps us to integrate all of ourselves and encourages us to love all people who all share the same space we do.

Perhaps some people think you’re backsliding.

Maybe you even wonder if you’re backsliding.

I hope now you might be able to see that you are perhaps actually growing!

(We talk all about this stuff in TheLastingSupper.com … Why don’t you join us there?)

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“Hear My Voice” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

It should be obvious to us all by now that bible-believing Christians can be some of the cruelest people on the planet.

Believing in your interpretation of the letter of the law can lead you as far away as possible from the spirit of it.

All our beliefs and behaviors must withstand the test of love.

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“Entry” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

This cartoon gets shared tons of times all over social media.

So I thought I’d share it again with you today.

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“Deathbed Confession” cartoon by nakedpastor David Hayward

Having been a pastor for so many years, I have had the sacred honor of being with many people as they were dying.

Almost every single one of them had regrets.

The biggest regret that people have at the end of life is this (and this is confirmed by research):

Many assume they regret things they’ve done.

No! Rather, they regret not doing things.

I want to make sure that I don’t regret not exploring the personal and spiritual growth available to me.

This entails asking questions, being open to changing my mind, and becoming more universal in my love.

I take my own advice: don’t wait until it’s too late.

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