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If you were giving your best advice to someone who had their whole life in front of them, what would you say? The following represents some of the best advice I can give about life.

My Best Advice — Ever
  1. Own your life! If you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see, don’t blame the mirror.
  2. Make the investment. There’s only one investment that will never go down — an investment in yourself.
  3. Make good choices. You have the freedom to choose, but you’re not free from the consequences of those choices.
  4. Be careful what you wish for. Success doesn’t always guarantee happiness.
  5. Keep good company. You determine the people you spend your time with. Choose wisely.
  6. Know the true meaning of success. It’s not what you have, but who you are that counts.
  7. Be realistic. It takes many years to become an overnight success.
  8. Focus on the important stuff. Checking items off a list doesn’t determine progress; focusing on your priorities is what counts.
  9. Make the commitment. You don’t get what you want; you get what you deserve.
  10. Leave your comfort zone. If you don’t try, you forfeit the opportunity.
  11. Stop procrastinating. Those who begin things, but never complete them, accomplish nothing.
  12. Set your mind to it. Your mindset matters more than you think. Ability determines if you can; attitude determines if you will.
  13. Invest your resources wisely. Saying “no” to one idea enables you to say “yes” to another.
  14. Remain positive. “I can’t” and “I don’t want to” produce the same results.
  15. Take baby steps. Incremental progress leads to long-lasting results. Focus on inches and you’ll win by a mile.
  16. Set high standards. If you’re not proud, you’re not done.
  17. Build win-win relationships. Winning doesn’t have to be at someone’s expense.
  18. Keep your promises. Every time you give your word, you’re putting your honor on the line.
  19. Don’t blame. Learn. ​Excuses can be habit forming.
  20. Learn from experience. Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.
  21. Show some grit. Determination is habit forming; so is quitting.
  22. Start doing more by doing less. Subtracting from your list of priorities is as important as adding to it.
  23. Learn to delegate. Although the costs of not delegating may be invisible, the price that you pay is real.
  24. Stop whining. Self-pity is like a disease…the condition worsens with neglect.
  25. You’re only limited by your beliefs. If you believe you can’t, you won’t.
More of My Best Advice
  1. Plan for a rainy day. Don’t wait for a fire to locate the exit.
  2. Raise the bar. When you tolerate mediocrity, you get more of it.
  3. Make your priorities a priority. Don’t try to please others so much that you lose sight of your own needs.
  4. Think before you act. Don’t do anything that you may regret one day.
  5. Love, trust, honor, respect. It’s so easy to lose sight of the things that you can’t see.
  6. Be grateful. Don’t take things for granted. As the saying goes, “Appreciate what you have before it becomes what you had.”
  7. Forgive yourself. Mistakes don’t make you a failure, but beating yourself up makes you feel like one.
  8. Be your own person. Think for yourself rather than following the herd off a cliff.
  9. Check your ego at the door. Those who serve arrogance as their main course will eat humble pie for dessert.
  10. Reject complacency. It’s easier to maintain momentum than to rebuild it once it is lost.
  11. Be practical. You can’t control the uncontrollable, but you can control the way you respond to those situations.
  12. Learn the meaning of enough. Set your sights on what you have rather than what you don’t 
  13. Live within your means.When you run out of money, stop buying.
  14. Be generous. You don’t have to be rich to give; your gift can be as simple as a smile.
  15. Let it go. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, nor does it mean approving of, what someone did. It just means that you’re letting go of the anger toward that person.
  16. Make every moment matter. Moments, rather than possessions, are the true treasures of life. Material possessions get old and wear out. Memories last forever.
  17. Raise good kids. Behind every good kid are parents who understand the importance of raising them that way.
  18. Live with honor. Knowing what’s right isn’t as important as doing what’s right.
  19. Lead by example. You’re a role model. Act like one.
  20. Remain true to your values. If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.
  21. Remain grounded. Never lose sight of the garden you grew in.
  22. Live for a cause greater than yourself. You may not have the control to lengthen your life, but you can do much to deepen it.
  23. Do good and be good. Karma is like a boomerang. I hope you have many happy returns.
  24. Make a difference. You may not be able to change the world, but you can change the world around you.
  25. Listen to your conscience. You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.
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Additional Reading:
Promise Yourself
50 Things Money Can’t Buy
The Best Graduation Speech…Never Given
Moral Character Matters

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Do you have a big head? Could you be labeled an egotist, a show-off, a blowhard, a big talker, an arrogant snob, a know-it-all? If your ego can’t fit through the door, it may be hurting you in ways you’ve never imagined. The following list provides 36 signs that indicate your ego might be out of control. Do you have a big head?

36 Signs Your Ego Is Out of Control

Do you:

  1. Blow your own horn?
  2. Think you’re better than everyone else?
  3. Always want to be the center of attention?
  4. Believe that rules don’t apply to you?
  5. Dominate conversations?
  6. Make fun of people who are less fortunate?
  7. Always have to be right?
  8. Go straight to the front of the line?
  9. Show off expensive merchandise?
  10. Think you know all there is to know?
  11. Look down your nose at others?
  12. Steer every conversation your way?
  13. Believe you can do no wrong?
  14. Refuse to accept advice or be told what to do?
  15. Try to set yourself above others?
  16. Refuse to admit you may be part of the problem?
  17. Talk about money, nonstop?
  18. Refuse to let people into your clique?
  19. Post selfies — all the time?
  20. Refuse to apologize?
  21. Require people to wait on you hand and foot?
  22. Put others down?
  23. Think no one else played a role in your success?
  24. Believe your own PR?
  25. Think you’re too important to give others the time of day?
  26. Dodge mistakes rather than learn from them?
  27. Interrupt others?
  28. Think you have all the answers?
  29. Disregard what others think? (What do they know anyhow!)
  30. Worry more about appearance than reality?
  31. Treat every disagreement as a threat to your intelligence?
  32. Force your viewpoint on others?
  33. Think low-skilled work is beneath you?
  34. Play one-upmanship every chance you get?
  35. Feel like you always have something to prove?
  36. Refuse to think this list applies to you?

How high did you score?

Is Your Ego Out of Control?

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Additional Reading:
Be Humble: Don’t Let Success Go to Your Head
Is Your Confidence Turning Into Egotism?
The Costs of a Big Ego
It’s Time for Grown-Ups to Grow Up

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Frank Sonnenberg Online by Frank Sonnenberg - 2w ago

Everybody has a hero. Who’s yours? I’m not talking about Superman, who can leap tall buildings in a single bound, or even Mother Teresa, who is larger than life. I’m talking about folks, like you and me, that you look up to. What makes them so special? And how do these role models influence how you live your life?

Some people draw an artificial distinction between heroes and role models. They say we idolize heroes, while role models are “ordinary” folks who cross our path every day. The truth is, that distinction is irrelevant if both of them influence our behavior every day. When was the last time you thought about who your role models are, what makes them special, and how you can benefit most from them?

People need role models. Are you up to the job?

What Makes Your Role Model Special?

Why is your role model so rare, and why do you look up to that individual? Is it their moral character, the way they treat others, their overall perspective, or something entirely different?

Consider the following:

  • Do you know the individual personally or is this individual a public figure?
  • Do you admire this individual for their outer beauty or inner soul?
  • Do you look up to your role model because of what they have, what they did, or who they are?
  • Do you admire this person for their achievements or for what they’ve done for others?
  • Is your role model young or old, a man or a woman, from a background similar to yours or entirely different? (Does that even matter?)
  • Does the individual maintain a high profile or remain out of the spotlight?
  • Is the person admired by many or only by a few?
  • Has this person impacted just your life or the lives of many?
  • Can anyone replicate your role model’s deed(s) or is a special talent or expertise required?
  • Does this person possess a specific character trait or is their entire disposition special?
Wanted: More Heroes

When some folks envision a hero, they think idol — someone larger than life, someone who broke a world record, put their life on the line for a comrade, or who is continually in the spotlight — watched by millions of folks every day. That may be true. But there are also people that folks look up to who are not famous and don’t even view themselves as special.

But they are.

Heroes and role models don’t have to be rich, powerful, or famous. They don’t have to look the most attractive, wear the fanciest clothes, or drive the most expensive cars. They are as commonplace as a family member, business colleague, or even the person next door. But they represent someone very special in your life and in the lives of others.

It may be a teacher who changed a kid’s life, a coach who helped her players achieve greatness, or even a stranger who went out of his way for a person he didn’t know. You, yourself, may be a hero or role model to someone and not even be aware of it.

People who look up to you watch every move that you make —
so don’t let them down.

I have my heroes and you probably do, too. They’re always busy, but they always find time to make a difference. They don’t think they’re special, but they sure make you feel that way. They’re quiet and unassuming, but they can light up a room when they enter it. They don’t flaunt their success because their achievements speak for themselves.

Exemplary role models believe in the power of good —
not what’s good for them but rather, what’s good for others.

People don’t “sign up” to be role models; others naturally gravitate toward them and look up to them. Role models continually cast an aura of goodness that’s terribly hard to ignore. They don’t do things to seek the limelight or win kudos. They aren’t perfect. And they’ll be the first to admit that to you. They do things quietly and are often the only ones who know the good they’re doing. But that’s enough for them because they don’t want, or expect, fame and fortune. They take great pride in knowing they’re making a difference — and they are!

Who’s Your Role Model? Who’s Your Hero?

Additional Reading:
The Power of One
Change Someone’s Life and It May End Up Changing Yours
13 Ways To Be a Good Role Model
Karma: Make Your Own Luck

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Mistakes have a negative image. So we hide them, play the blame game, or beat ourselves up when they occur. In fact, these actions compound our mistakes by creating stress and anxiety, damaging relationships, squandering time and money, and most importantly, often causing us to repeat the same mishap over and over again. The truth is, mistakes aren’t inherently bad –– what counts is how we view and react to them. How do you react to mistakes? Do these actions sound familiar?

9 Ways People React to Mistakes

Avoidance. Trying to avoid mistakes at any cost can be very costly. As Albert Einstein said, “A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”

Repetition. When you run into a wall, don’t dust yourself off and run into it again. Learn.

Inattention. Learn from other people’s mistakes rather than reinventing the wheel –– and making every mistake yourself.

Suppression. Sweeping mistakes under a rug never makes them really disappear.

Procrastination. Left unattended, small mistakes grow into big ones.

Judgment. Mistakes don’t make you a failure, but beating yourself up makes you feel like one.

Dishonesty. It’s one thing to make a mistake and quite another to commit one intentionally by being deceitful.

Denial. No one wins the blame game. Pointing fingers prohibits learning or progress from taking place. It’s time to face the music.

Trapped. Dwelling in the past won’t help you today.

When mistakes are made, our actions shift from doing the right thing to covering our behinds; to pointing fingers rather than accepting personal responsibility; hiding errors rather than fixing them; allowing wasteful projects to linger rather than shutting them down; and letting small problems become big ones because they’re inadequately addressed. The result is that learning is brought to a complete standstill –– making it more than likely the same mistake will be repeated. It shouldn’t be that way.

The time has come to view every mistake as an opportunity rather than a weakness. This change in outlook will stimulate personal growth, strengthen relationships, and enhance efficiency and effectiveness. The truth is that there shouldn’t be shame in making a mistake. The disgrace should be in failing to admit, correct, and learn from it. Make no mistake about it!

How Do You React to Mistakes?

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How Do You React to Failure?
The Blame Game
Make Experience Your Best Teacher

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Do your days ever start off crappy? Your kid has a cold, you run into heavy traffic on your way to work, and the milk in your coffee is sour. Really? If it’s not one thing, it’s another. You get cut off by a driver, your computer goes on the fritz, or your favorite shirt gets stained. Sound familiar? None of these problems is so monumental that you’d step out onto a ledge, but some people still go to extremes by saying, “My life sucks!” Is your glass half-full or half-empty?

Some people can accept nuisances in the normal course of events while others go off the rails and think the world is coming to an end. Of course, you have the right to get upset when bad things happen. But negativity, in general, can be counterproductive — especially when you allow negative thoughts to spiral out of control. That kind of behavior not only puts you in a bad mood, it can undermine all of the positive things that you do.

Is Your Glass Half-Full or Half-Empty?

Do you see the glass as half-full or half-empty? Although both ways of looking at things are technically correct, your perspective can have a huge impact on your success and happiness.

Happiness. When you continually see the glass as half-empty, you may convince yourself that you’re having a bad day even when you’re not. So if you don’t want to put yourself in a lousy mood, stop being negative and making yourself feel bad.

Success. Negative thoughts can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you expect a bad outcome, you look for evidence to support that view. Your expectations can have a significant impact on results.

If you don’t believe that’s true, think of the impact that a placebo can have on your health. According to an article in Harvard Health Publishing, “Your mind can be a powerful healing tool when given the chance. The idea that your brain can convince your body a fake treatment is the real thing — the so-called placebo effect — and thus stimulate healing has been around for millennia. Now science has found that under the right circumstances, a placebo can be just as effective as traditional treatments.” Give that some thought next time you think, “I’m doomed from the start” or “People like me don’t stand a chance.”

Look on the Bright Side

A positive mental attitude can improve your health, enhance your relationships, increase your chances of success, and add years to your life. What can you do to change your mindset? Here are seven places to start:

Get real. Things happen. Get over it. Even if life were a bed of roses, you’d still need to avoid the thorns.

See it from a different angle. Situations are rarely black or white; the truth lies somewhere in-between.

Keep things in perspective. Don’t blow things out of proportion and make a mountain out of a molehill.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. If you can’t make it better, don’t make it worse by being negative.

Be nice. Some people are nicer to friends than they are to themselves. When you say, “I’m such an idiot,” “I can’t do anything right,” or “I’m such a loser,” you undermine your self-worth and confidence.

Break the habit. Stop complaining. It won’t solve anything. It’ll only drag you down.

Fake it. Be conscious of your thoughts and try to see the bright side.As Dale Carnegie said, “Act enthusiastic and you will be enthusiastic.”

Pep Talk or Debbie Downer?

When crowds of people cheer you on during a marathon, it can have a tremendous impact on your performance. That’s true in sports and in daily life. So be your own cheerleader!

It’s your choice whether to view the glass as half-full or half-empty. My advice is to make every effort to be positive. Start today! Don’t dip your toe in the water. Jump in with both feet. It’ll have a huge impact on your health and happiness. Don’t wait for someone to do it for you. Make the effort yourself. As the saying goes, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.”

Is Your Glass Half-Full or Half-Empty?

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Additional Reading:
The Power of a Positive Attitude
Great Things Start with Great Expectations
Mindfulness: 13 Ways to Obtain a Positive Mindset
How Do You See the World Around You?
Be Nice to Yourself

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You Are the Captain of Your Ship

The future you get depends on the choices you make. Period. No one’s going to force you to go to the gym, invest in your personal growth, or save for retirement. Additionally, you can choose to be an honest person, surround yourself with positive role models, and live a healthy lifestyle. Or you can choose an alternate path. The upshot is, you are bound by the consequences of your choices. You are the captain of your ship.

Unfortunately, some folks prefer to make their decisions in a haphazard fashion. They “shoot from the hip” or flip a coin rather than reviewing their options in a deliberate manner. Others make decisions in a vacuum without taking time to collect the facts or consider the consequences. Still others simply follow the crowd to avoid taking personal responsibility, or they base their decisions solely on the advice of another person, rather than on an idea’s true merits. Lastly, some individuals are more interested in checking an item off their to-do list than in making a sound choice. In this case, expediency tops effectiveness.

Not All Choices Are Created Equal.

Next time you forget that you’re the captain of your ship, think about the choices that you make every day and the impact they have on your life. For example, do you:

Surround yourself with positive role models or negative influencers?

Satisfy your needs or try to please everyone else?

Set high expectations or settle for mediocrity?

Keep your promises or break your commitments?

Crave instant gratification or invest in your future?

Grumble about things or work to make them better?

Live in the present or relive the past?

Listen to your conscience or fall victim to temptation?

Forgive and forget or harbor anger?

Accept personal responsibility or make excuses?

It’s your choice: what to think, how to spend your time, who to be.

Are You the Captain of Your Ship?

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Additional Reading:
Take Ownership by Taking Responsibility
Will You Choose the Right Path?
Mediocre Behavior Is a Choice
Do You Have a Victim Mentality?
Are You Sabotaging Your Success?

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A category 4 hurricane can pack winds of up 156 miles per hour. Why do palm trees that stretch to the sky often survive hurricane-force winds, while well-built frame houses give way like toothpicks? The fact is, the house is rigid and takes the lashing head-on, while the palm tree is flexible and can bend to the ground. Do you adapt to your environment or are you stuck in your ways?

The world is changing at a blistering rate. Are you willing to change with the times or are you rigid and set in your ways? Think about how your mindset may be helping or hurting your efforts.

Excuses proclaim an unwillingness to change.

Are You Flexible or Rigid?

Use the following 25 strategies to identify whether your habits are propelling you forward or holding you back.

Roll with the punches. Expect the unexpected. Ready or not, the future will happen.

Get real. Accept reality for what it is — not for what you want it to be.

Be positive. Do you see the glass as half-full or half-empty?  Make your outlook work for rather than against you. Your mindset matters more than you think.

Challenge your routines.  Are you open to change? “I can’t” and “I don’t want to” trigger the same results.

Be realistic. You can’t control the uncontrollable, but you can control how you respond to those situations.

Face your fears. Face your challenges head-on rather than surrendering your dreams to fear. If you don’t try, you forfeit the opportunity.

Learn from mistakes. Do you repeat mistakes? Make experience your best teacher. Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.

Let go of your anger. Do you harbor anger and resentment? Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, nor does it mean approving of, what someone did. It just means that you’re letting go of the anger toward that person.

End the bad relationship. Toxic waste has a tremendous impact on the environment. Consider the impact that toxic people have on your life.

Know what matters most. Are your priorities in order? The more you say “no” to things that don’t matter, the more time you have for things that do.

Keep an open mind. Do you listen to differing viewpoints? Try to see their side of the issue. You just may learn something. 

Leave a bad work situation. If work isn’t fun, you’re playing on the wrong team.

Learn something new. Are you a know-it-all? Unless you learn something new every day, you’re becoming obsolete.

Simplify your life. Your life is as complicated as you make it. Are you stuck in your ways?

Stop overthinking everything. Once you’ve made your decision, don’t look back. Make it work.

Live within your means. When you run out of money, stop buying.

Be kind to yourself.  Do you judge, criticize, or find fault with yourself? Be your own best friend.

Give up control. If you can’t change the outcome, move on to an area within your control.

Make yourself proud. When you constantly seek approval, you give more weight to another person’s opinion than to your own.

Enlist support. Do you try to do everything yourself? Have faith in others. Learn how to delegate.

Just say “no.” When you’re hijacked by other people’s priorities, you don’t have time to tackle your own. Make your priorities a priority.

Manage your expectations. Strive for excellence rather than perfection.

Admit fault. Are you too proud to apologize? The two greatest time-savers are saying “I don’t know” and “I was wrong.”

Know when to quit. If you reach a dead end, it may be time to stop.

Live with honor. Everything has a price, but not everything should be for sale. Listen to your conscience. That’s why you have one.

People Change Only When Change Is Their Choice

Although your habits have served you in the past, that may not be true today. The reality is, applying old formulas to new world problems doesn’t add up. If you’re using a hammer when the job requires a screwdriver, you’re going to face troubled times ahead. Therefore, don’t wait for storm clouds to appear before you act. Embrace change while the sun is still shining. Are you stuck in your ways?

Are You Stuck in Your Ways? Be Open to Change

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Additional Reading:
Change Your Priorities: Change Your Life
The Benefits of Being Open-Minded
30 Habits That Create Enormous Distress
What Do Your Habits Say About You?

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Frank Sonnenberg Online by Frank Sonnenberg - 1M ago

Being successful is great. But having a big ego can be a detriment to that success. Here are 13 costs of a big ego.

Weak relationships. People with big egos can be condescending, rude, and disrespectful. Their nastiness can suck the oxygen out of a room.

Shallow connections. It’s hard to build deep, trusting relationships when people dominate conversations, spend little time listening, and are totally self-absorbed.

Inadequate knowledge. People who think they know it all are more likely to stagnate because they undervalue the importance of acquiring knowledge.

Blind to weaknesses. People who reject feedback are more likely to repeat mistakes because they’re totally blind to their flaws. In fact, ego can obstruct a necessary course correction and lead to failure.

Ineffective decision making. People with huge egos rarely seek advice from others — because they know better. They’re more inclined to make decisions from a limited perspective.

Dangerous complacency. People with egos think they’ll always remain on top. They rarely glance over their shoulder to see if competitors are gaining ground.

Poor image. People who blow their own horn, talk down to people, and make fun of the less fortunate are likely to develop a poor reputation

Mediocre career advancement. People with big egos are unwilling to start at the bottom; they turn down work that’s “beneath them” and refuse to be told what to do. Then they wonder why they’re passed over for promotions.

Wrong partners. When people have an inflated view of themselves or their organization, they’re more inclined to squeeze partners than to create win-win relationships.

Loneliness. People who think they’re above it all consciously separate themselves from others. This can lead to a lonely existence.

Ineffective leadership. Effective leaders build and exude confidence while keeping their ego in check. When leaders squash input, hoard the credit, and put people down, it can — and usually does — dampen the effectiveness of a team. 

Increased stress. When people feel they have something to prove and always have to be right, it adds a lot of stress.

Distorted self-image. People with large egos measure self-worth based on what they’ve gained rather than what they’ve given back. That can distort their values and skew their priorities.

Do You Have a Big Ego?

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Additional Reading:
Is Your Confidence Turning Into Egotism?
Be Humble: Don’t Let Success Go to Your Head
Complacency: The Enemy of Success
It’s Time for Grown-Ups to Grow Up
Counterfeit Leadership

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Frank Sonnenberg Online by Frank Sonnenberg - 2M ago

Kick the Bad Habit

The first step in modifying a behavior is recognizing the issue and having a willingness to change. Here are 40 habits that may be holding you back. Do you:

  1. Take people and things for granted?
  2. Allow yourself to get distracted by trivial things?
  3. Fail to keep promises — to others and to yourself?
  4. Talk a good game, but that’s where it ends?
  5. Allow jealousy, hatred, and revenge to consume you?
  6. Speak before thinking?
  7. Blame others for personal setbacks?
  8. Overthink things to the point of the absurd?
  9. Refuse to do more than is asked?
  10. Check items off a to-do list rather than address priorities?
  11. Keep score in relationships?
  12. Surround yourself with toxic people?
  13. Fail to keep problems in perspective?
  14. Refuse to admit mistakes or say “I’m sorry”?
  15. Offer advice without being asked?
  16. Try to please others at the expense of your own needs?
  17. Confuse being busy with making progress?
  18. See everything as black or white?
  19. Refuse to ask others for help?
  20. Follow the crowd rather than think for yourself?
  21. Refuse to leave your comfort zone?
  22. Let your emotions get the best of you?
  23. Fail to learn from your mistakes?
  24. Put things off?
  25. Demand perfection rather than settle for excellence?
  26. Try to keep up with the Joneses?
  27. Say “yes” when you really want to say “no”?
  28. Refuse to let go of the past?
  29. Lose patience at the drop of a hat?
  30. Avoid difficult situations at all costs?
  31. Wait till problems get out of hand before addressing them?
  32. Refuse to delegate and let go?
  33. Take on everyone’s problems as your own?
  34. Beat yourself up for mistakes?
  35. Fail to balance work and play?
  36. Overcommit yourself to the point of exhaustion?
  37. Look down on others?
  38. See the glass as half-empty?
  39. Quit at the first sign of a problem?
  40. Start everything; finish nothing?
Will You Kick the Bad Habit?

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Additional Reading:
What Do Your Habits Say About You?
Are You Always on the Run?
Make It a Priority
Where Did the Time Go?

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Do you know anyone who has a big ego? They constantly blow their own horn, fight to be the center of attention, and believe they’re always right, even when they’re not. They think they know it all, steer every conversation their way, and believe that the world revolves around them. Right? In fact, they have such an inflated view of themselves that they can’t wait to tell you how wonderful they are and how successful they’ve become. They may have everything in the world going for them, but the egotism is tough to take. (Ugh!)

If you recognize yourself in this description, is your confidence turning into egotism?

Many people buy into the common misconception that confidence and egotism are the same thing. The truth is, confident people believe in themselves and their abilities, while egocentric folks have inflated opinions of themselves and care only about their personal interests.

Being successful is great, but having a big ego can be a detriment to that success. It can tarnish your relationships, restrict your personal growth, weaken your leadership performance, damage your career advancement, and the list goes on.

The more you try to impress someone, the less impressive you become.

Keep Your Ego in Check

Having confidence is important, but it’s critical that it doesn’t turn into egotism. Here are 16 ways to keep your ego in check.

Challenge yourself. Strive to be the best you can be…and then be a little better.

Surround yourself with talented people. Surround yourself with exceptional people. Don’t view them as a threat. Let them challenge you to be your best.

Give up control. Have faith in your colleagues. You can’t do everything yourself.

Make yourself vulnerable. Send signals that you don’t know it all. Achieve this by asking for help and soliciting input from others.

Identify weaknesses. Solicit feedback to help address your personal deficiencies and mistakes. But remember to act on that input!

Share credit. Acknowledge others to demonstrate that it takes more than one person to achieve success.

Get real! Accept praise and the good feeling that it brings, while remembering that you are no better than anyone else.

Keep yourself on your toes. Don’t let your guard down and become complacent. It’s easier to maintain momentum than to rebuild it once it’s lost.

Earn respect. You can’t demand respect, you earn it.

Remember your roots. Think of all the people who contributed to your success. As you climb your ladder, reach down and pull others along with you.

Be discreet. If you do something nice, do it quietly. You defeat the purpose when you boast about your generosity.

Listen to your friends. Real friends will always give it to you straight. Your job is to listen up!

Reflect on your behavior. Rein in your ego by listening to your conscience.

Be modest. If you’re really good, people know. There’s no need to blow your own horn. Your ego should never be more than one-half of your accomplishments.

Laugh at yourself. See the humor in everything. Don’t take yourself so seriously.

Recognize the impermanence of everything. Nothing lasts forever. As Vince Gill, the American county singer, said, “Success is always temporary. When all is said and done, the only thing you’ll have left is your character.”

Check Your Ego at the Door

The purpose of this essay is NOT to denigrate success. If your success was earned through hard work and honesty, never apologize for it. BUT, achieving success doesn’t say as much about you as how you choose to wear it.

Those who serve arrogance as their main course will eat humble pie for dessert.

When you reach your goals, there’s no need to brag about your achievements or rub your success in the face of others. Instead, take a moment to smile inside so that you’re the only one who can see it. You don’t have to win the applause of others because you’ve already attained so much more — self-respect and inner peace. Bravo! You can hold your head up high knowing that your hard work and commitment paid off. There’s no need to boast about your achievements because acting with humility and grace says volumes about you.

Is Your Confidence Turning into Egotism?

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Additional Reading:
Be Humble: Don’t Let Success Go to Your Head
Complacency: The Enemy of Success
Should Your Viewpoint Matter More Than Mine?
Moral Character Matters
Counterfeit Leadership

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