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Are You Always on the Run?

Did you ever notice when you ask some folks how they’re doing, they respond that they’re really busy? I ask myself, “Is that good?” Are they suggesting that being busy shows how popular, in-demand, and successful they are? I guess their answer implies that the more frenzied they act, the better they’re doing. Does that make any sense to you? Are you always on the run?

Start Doing More by Doing Less

Looking for ways to calm your hectic lifestyle? Try these 30 ideas on for size:

  1. Think before you do.
  2. Say “no.” (And don’t feel guilty about it.)
  3. Fight the BIG battles.
  4. Ignore distractions.
  5. Avoid the drama.
  6. Ask for help.
  7. Don’t look back.
  8. Never reinvent the wheel.
  9. Learn from others.
  10. Tell the truth.
  11. Combine similar tasks.
  12. Keep problems in perspective.
  13. Leave work at work.
  14. Appreciate what you have.
  15. Say “I’m sorry.”
  16. Settle for excellence rather than perfection.
  17. Find a shortcut.
  18. Let it go.
  19. Learn from mistakes — yours and others.
  20. Plan for an emergency.
  21. Be honest with yourself.
  22. Prioritize.
  23. Learn the meaning of enough.
  24. Unsubscribe.
  25. Know your limits.
  26. Think ahead.
  27. Delegate.
  28. Remember…you’re human.
  29. Listen to your conscience.
  30. Just relax.

Think about it…we pack our day with commitments until we don’t have a second to breathe. Then, when we’re at the end of our rope and can’t possibly do any more, we add one more commitment — as if we’re trying to drive ourselves crazy. Of course, when the slightest thing goes wrong — which always happens — we get anxious and flip out. The house of cards collapses. Right? Rather than learn our lesson, we repeat the same mistake the next day. Run, run, run. The truth is, we’re so busy being busy that we fail to see the error of our ways. Are you always on the run?

Are You Always on the Run?

Additional Reading:
Doing Nothing is Time Well Spent
Living in the Fast Lane
Change Your Priorities: Change Your Life
30 Habits That Create Enormous Distress
A Simple Reminder That Could Change Your Life
You May Regret Not Reading This
What’s the Best Investment That You Can Make?

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It seems like yesterday that written communication was sent by mail; food was reheated on a stove; and you traveled all the way to a store to buy merchandise. Now, if you’re like most people, you get frustrated when email takes a moment to appear in your inbox; the microwave takes a few seconds to beep; or a website requires a second click to complete your online purchase. Patience, what’s that?

With time at a premium, it seems like patience is out with the horse and buggy. For example, people change car lanes to save a minute, eat energy bars to avoid preparing meals, and switch websites because it takes an additional second to load. Sound familiar?

Things Take Time to Hatch

If a recipe says something should be cooked for 34 minutes, you can’t take it out of the oven in 25. The same remains true in other areas of your life. Things require patience. Here are 15 situations in which patience is ill-treated:

Deadlines. Some people scream URGENT even when it’s not required. Then, when an emergency actually arises, their plea for help falls on deaf ears. Do you cry wolf?

Trust. Some folks force a relationship rather than taking the time to establish trust. Consistent and predictable behavior breeds trust. That requires time.

Solutions. Some people seek a quick-fix solution rather than address a problem’s root cause. While it may feel comforting to “do something,” it’s fruitless if the underlying issue isn’t addressed.

Brainstorming. Some folks stop brainstorming when someone provides the first satisfactory response. The problem is, you’ll never know if you arrived at the best answer if you cut the process short.

Risk. Some people swing for the fence rather than opt for the slow and steady path to success. They focus so much on striking it rich that they ignore the possible consequences of going for broke.

Self-reliance. Some folks create dependency rather than making people self-sufficient. As the proverb says, “Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach a man how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

Business relationships. Some people try to gain the upper hand rather than forging win-win relationships. Partnerships succeed when both organizations work for the common good rather than trying to outmaneuver each other.

Management. Some managers order employees around rather than securing buy-in and commitment. Superior results are achieved when people are involved and committed.

Speed. Some folks sacrifice quality for speed. Crossing things off your list may be satisfying, but redoing activities takes time, too. Do it right the first time.

Communication. Some people talk before thinking. Doug Larson, columnist and editor, said, “Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk.”

Problem solving. Some folks would rather throw money at a problem than come up with an effective solution.

Success. Some people cut corners rather than prospering through hard work, commitment, and sacrifice. The fact is, there are simply no shortcuts in the long run.

Career. Some folks are so impatient, they’re unwilling to start at the bottom. If you want to climb the corporate ladder, you must pay your dues.

Planning. Some people can’t be bothered with planning. They want action! Their motto is “Ready, fire, aim.”

Conscience. Some folks are like bulldozers — they’ll do anything to get ahead. Follow your conscience. You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.

The Power of Patience

In most cases, people are impatient because they think it’s in their best interest and will get them to their goal faster. The truth is quite to the contrary. While you may think impatient behavior is moving you forward, it may actually be holding you back.

Patience is like a muscle — the more you exercise it, the greater it becomes.

Be patient. Take a moment to think. Gain some perspective. Plan before you proceed. And only then, move forward with resolve. You’ll find these things work wonders for you. Patience will enhance your relationships, increase your productivity, and improve your mental health. I know it’s not easy. But some of the hardest things in life are also the most worthwhile. As Saadi Shirazi, a Persian poet, said, “Have patience. All things are difficult before they become easy.”

Are You Running Out of Patience?

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Most things in life are the result of choices that we make. In other words, life doesn’t happen to you; it’s created by you. Here are 30 habits that create enormous distress. Do any of these sound familiar?

Do you:

Live beyond your means? When you run out of money, stop buying.

Fail to honor commitments? Keep those promises that you make to others –– and to yourself.

Worry about tomorrow? If you can’t change the outcome, move on to an area within your control.

Dodge personal responsibility? If you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see, don’t blame the mirror. It’s your life to live. Own it!

Take things for granted? Be happy with what you have rather than obsessing about what you don’t.

Fear leaving your comfort zone? The old adage rings true: It’s not the things you do in life that you regret, it’s the things you don’t.

Fail to act? Dreams, unlike eggs, don’t hatch from sitting on them.

Crave approval and validation from others? When you constantly seek approval, you give more weight to another person’s opinion than to your own.

Betray your beliefs and values? Know what matters most to you and be unwilling to compromise those priorities at almost any price.

Compare yourself to others? Don’t compare yourself to others. It only breeds envy and resentment. When you compete with yourself, you both win.

Feel guilty saying “no”? The more you say “no” to things that don’t matter, the more time you have for things that do.

Value possessions over relationships? Moments, rather than possessions, are the true treasures of life.

Criticize yourself? Don’t be too tough on yourself. Why would you say something to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a good friend?

Harbor anger? Set yourself free. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, or approving of, what someone did. It just means that you’re letting go of the anger toward that person.

Think you know everything? When you think you’ve learned it all, you’ll discover how much you really don’t know.

Act like a slave to your money? Money should never become the cornerstone of your life or define you as a person. It’s a means to support yourself and your family.

Feel entitled? People who receive a free lunch end up paying the price. If you’re rewarded without effort, it reduces confidence, promotes dependency, and robs you of your personal dignity.

Set the bar low? It doesn’t cost more to strive for excellence, but if you settle for mediocrity, it’ll cost you dearly.

Keep bad company? Just as toxic waste impacts the environment, toxic people can impact your life.

Need instant gratification? Don’t forgo your long-term dreams to satisfy your short-term desires.

Let success go to your head? Your ego should never equal more than one-half of your accomplishments.

Take, take, take? Greed can be the unwillingness to give OR the willingness to take.

Fail to set priorities? Determine what’s important to you or you’ll react to situations rather than make conscious decisions based on sound reasoning.

Live on the edge? Those living on the edge never fear falling off. When you bet against the statistics, you’ll eventually become one.

Fail to learn from mistakes? Lessons in life will be repeated until they’re learned. How many of these habits create distress in your life?

Fear failure? Mistakes don’t make you a failure, but beating yourself up makes you feel like one.

Live to work? Make a life while making a living.

Act like a show-off? The more you try to impress someone, the less impressive you become.

Follow others’ agendas? When you spend more time doing have-to’s rather than want-to’s, other people’s happiness becomes more important than your own.

Compromise your integrity? Everything has a price, but not everything should be for sale. Listen to your conscience. That’s why you have one.

If some of these habits create distress in your life, determine what you’ll do about it. The choice is yours: Pull out the weeds, or make peace with the dandelions.

Do Your Habits Create Distress?

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Additional Reading:
The Choice is Yours
Take Ownership by Taking Responsibility
Honor Yourself: Live with Integrity
What Do Your Habits Say About You?

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When you go into a room, your body adapts to the temperature. The same holds true for your mindset. How much are you influenced by the people you spend time with? Do they bring out the best in you? Or do you find yourself compromising your values, mimicking improper behavior, or lowering your personal standards?

While it may be tempting to take the easy route, to follow the crowd, or to be seduced by riches, you are responsible for your conduct — and the consequences of your actions — regardless of how others behave.

People can’t make you do things without your permission.

Your Personal Standards Define You

Never lower your standards, compromise your integrity, or dishonor your name. Here are 10 ways people degrade themselves.

Give in to temptation. Some folks stretch the truth, let their eyes wander, or get seduced by money. I hope you have the willpower and self-respect to say no.

Relax your standards. Some people are tempted to lower their standards because others are slacking off. While it may be appealing to take a breather, bad habits are hard to break.

Follow the crowd. Some folks follow the pack because they assume others know better. Even though a group may provide comfort and security, it doesn’t guarantee that their motives are pure or that they’re thinking rationally or ethically.

Mimic inappropriate behavior. Some people fall into a bad crowd and imitate their behavior. The truth is, “Everybody does it” doesn’t mean you have to do it.

Look the other way. Some folks turn their backs, fail to speak out, or cover up for unethical behavior because it’s convenient. Every time you close your eyes to immorality or injustice, you’re condoning it.

Crave acceptance. Some people will do anything to win acceptance from the in-crowd. Think long and hard before you pay the price of admission.

Get dragged into a tussle. Some people always seem to be looking for a fight. While you may be provoked to jump in, think twice before you take the plunge. As a famous saying goes, “Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”

Lose control of your temper. Never respond emotionally. If you’re angry or upset, count to 10 before communicating your feelings. If that doesn’t work, try 20.

Compromise your values. Some folks impose their way of thinking on others. You win a debate with a better argument, not by force.

Take shortcuts. Some folks act unethically to look good, cover their behind, or get what they want. The prize for living with honor and integrity is that, even though you won’t win all the time, you’ll be true to yourself and your values.

Raise Your Personal Standards

Jim Rohn, author and entrepreneur, famously said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” What he’s saying is that people will influence you. It’s only natural. That being said, I hope you spend time with folks who are smart, kind, and honorable — but what if they’re not?

Be aware of the impact that others have on your behavior. Don’t let bad habits, weak character, low standards, or immoral behavior rub off on you. If anything, be a positive influence on others and an inspiration to them.

Keeping bad company is like being in a germ-infested area.
You never know what you’ll catch.

Be your own person. Set your bar high and don’t lower your standards for anyone. You’re better than that. Some of the most precious things you possess are your honor, your dignity, and your reputation. Be the person others look up to — whose character is beyond reproach. Be the one who inspires others to achieve excellence. And be the one who lives with honor and dignity. At the end of the day, if you’re not proud of who you are and the way you choose to live your life, little else matters.

Do You Lower Your Standards?

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Additional Reading:
Do You Choose Convenience Over Principles?
Moral Character Matters
Honesty: The Plain and Simple Truth
Are You Blurring the Line Between Right and Wrong?
Reputation: You Can’t Run from Your Shadow

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What Does Your Cell Phone Really Cost You?

Cell phone usage has exploded. In fact, if evolution has anything to do with it, a cell phone may be another appendage of your body one day. The question is whether your cell phone is adding or subtracting from your quality of life. That totally depends on how you use it.

What Can Be More Important Than Your Cell Phone?

Your cell phone can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Are you:

On a date? Who’s more important?

Walking on the beach? Are you working or on vacation?

Eating dinner? Does that count as family time?

Pushing the stroller? Are you bonding with your baby?

Watching your kids play ball? Will you remember this moment forever?

Attending a business meeting? Did you get the message?

Crossing the street? Do you see what’s coming your way?

Watching a movie? Why is everyone staring at you?

Driving the car? What’s more important, the text or your life?

This Is a Wake-Up Call

I’m sure you can think of 50 more scenarios in which cell phone use is inappropriate. The question is whether you’re motivated to do anything about it. Before you reach for your phone next time, ask yourself: What’s the tradeoff? Will the call make me more productive or rob me of precious time? Will it enhance special moments or divert my attention? Will I be physically present but emotionally absent? Will I be teaching my kids proper etiquette or would I scold them if they pulled the same stunt?

Pause for a moment…think about your cell phone habits. The phone is a tremendous tool if you use it properly. But that’s a big if. What does your cell phone really cost you? The truth is, it may be costing you more than you think. Is it worth it? Your call.

Are You Willing to Change Your Cell Phone Habits?

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Additional Reading:
Is Your Friend Really An Acquaintance?
The Secrets of a Successful Marriage
May I Have a Word with You?
Parenting: How to Raise Happy and Productive Children

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