I am a doting mom to my Ayla Chloe Zephyr, a loving (at times, nagging) wife to my chef, Francis, and a woman who is often lost in an internal fantasy world. Get to know the perks and perils, the ups and downs, of being an introvert mom in the world of coffee, social media and quarter-life crisis.
Hello, everyone! It has been 4 weeks since we all said goodbye to 2017, and prayed that 2018 will be better.
I originally wanted to post something more personal (probably more dramatic) as a year ender, but 2018 proved to be a bit busier than the last, at least for me, so I might as well just make this a quick one.
Here's my year in review, suck and sweet edition (the good and the bad).
1. We failed to zero out our bucket list for 2017. - My husband almost never avails his leave incentive, and he also goes to work even on holidays, so it is really hard for us to plan a long vacation. Hopefully this year, we can cross out more items on our list.
2. We failed to hit our 'target savings'. - We really really need to be wiser in spending our earnings starting this year. We were able to save a little, yes. But it would be really rewarding if we will spend less on our wants so that we could have more savings for the rainy days. Right now, we are really working hard to achieve this. hahaha.
3. I.DID.NOT.LOSE.WEIGHT. - If anything, I even gained a bit more. :( If it's just the food, I could go on without eating rice, sweets, fatty food. It's the exercise that I cannot fathom doing. I don't know if I am just filled with excuses, or if I am just plain lazy. Just thinking about being all sweaty and tired makes me want to lie down all day and eat V-cut. Haha. Dearest friends, any tips? Huhu.
4. Saying Goodbye - I always hated goodbyes. Last year, I had to say goodbye to some of the people I love. Some are workmates who had to go to find better opportunities, some are friends who had to go abroad. I also had to say goodbye to Bogart, my 7-year old shih tzu, as he was adopted by my aunt who lives in Anggono.
5. Iki still rants about how moody I am - I promised myself (and my husband) that I will try to be more patient last year. However, I guess being moody and easily annoyed is really a part of who I am. That's just how it is. Charot! haha
1. My family's good health
2. Special moments that I celebrated with my family - Last year, I got to spend my birthday with my family, I got to meet my husband's relatives in Quezon, I organized a staycation celebration for my mother's 50th, and just before the year ended, my second brother got married. Being an introvert, large parties and celebrations really make me uneasy, so I tried to keep each event as intimate as possible. I pray that this year, I would have more moments with the people I love the most.
3. I have awesome workmates - After getting married and giving birth, I immediately looked for a job. It's almost 3 years since then, and although sometimes work can be stressful, I am thankful that I have awesome friends at work who make life bearable, if not fantastic.
4. Towtow Day - In the beginning of 2017, I promised to spend more time with my daughter. I am so happy that I remained true to my promise. I made sure to have a family day monthly, if not weekly. It doesn't have to be expensive, heck, we don't even have to leave the house. I just want to make sure that my daughter feels that we love her even if Iki and I are both working 5-6 days a week.
5. Haircut! - I've wanted to cut my hair short since 2015 but I was scared, because I don't want to look fatter. However, before the year ends, I finally mustered the courage to cut my hair short again. I still look fat, of course, but at least I was able to do it after two years, so yey! haha
Most importantly, I am thankful that 2017 has brought me closer to my family, especially to my husband. We still encounter problems, but Iki and I are now trying to be more mature in handling petty quarrels. I am more open to my parents now, and my brothers and I have made an effort to be closer to our family. Despite the sucks of the past year, 2017 is still a sweet year for me because I started and ended it with the people I love the most.
Here's to hoping that 2018 would be even sweeter. Belated happy new year to us all!
Last August, my mother-in-law celebrated her 60th birthday. It was a very memorable one not only for her, but for me as well, because not only did I get to spend the entire weekend with my husband's entire family, I also witnessed how much my husband and his brothers love their mom, one thing that I hope I could experience from my daughter, someday.
Her party was held at Tres Pinos Beach resort in Infanta, Quezon.
Before I begin showing you the party pictures, let me tell you about my uber-talented sister-in-law first. My Ate Abi is a nurse and a party coordinator in Kuwait. She is also the wife of the eldest Perez brother.
She is very hands-on to every detail of the party, even if she is in Kuwait. If it weren't for her, the party wouldn't have been this successful ♥
Everything is DIY. Here are some of the pictures from the party.
Finger print tree for the guests, by Architect Charlie Perez ♥
The cake is one of the highlights of the party. The first, third and fifth layers are fresh roses. Aside from being beautiful, it is also very yummy. No wonder it was a hit with the guests.
The party is like my MIL's 18th birthday party, only that it was held a couple of years later. We had 16 roses, 16 candles, 16 shots, 16 gifts. We also had a couple of games as well.
Eldest Perez brother, Kuya Benzel
Kuya Exequel with son Zoc
My parents-in-law ♥
The Perez ladies from L-R: Me (Mrs. F), Dhez (Mrs. E), Ate Anne (Mrs. C) and Ate Abi (Mrs. B)
Architect Charlie and Engr. Anne's family ♥
4/7 of the Perez babies: Akio, Yvo, Zoc and Klong
Mader's relatives and amigas
After the program, some of the relatives danced in the middle, my sisters-in-law decided to go nightswimming, while I joined the boys in preparing the lambanog and pulutan :D
It was indeed a night full of love, thanksgiving and tears. I got to know how kind and loving my husband's relatives are. They were all very accommodating and warm. I loved the food, especially the laing. I love how the Perez brothers, even if they are all boys, did not hesitate to show their mom how grateful they are of her. You can feel the love that they have for their mom. It was very touching.
Would I be able to reach my 60th year as well? I hope I would, and I hope that when I reach that age, I would still have the people I love to be there with me, partying.
I have heard a lot of "Biyenan horror stories" from friends and relatives, and it is one of the things I dreaded the most when I was still single, but luckily, God has blessed me with not just a loving husband, but a loving and caring in-laws as well.
Raising kids is never easy, but my in-laws did just that, 5 times over. The Perez brothers all turned out to be hardworking, selfless and very loving, just like them. I am lucky that one of those 5 boys became my husband. :)
To my Mader Mely,
Thank you for accepting me and loving me. I hope that someday, I could also be as loving and as kindhearted as you. I will be forever grateful that you have raised my husband to be loving and responsible. You truly are a queen. We love you ♥
I believe in the saying, "Happiness doesn't have to be expensive". I am not ashamed to say that I am frugal, at least for myself. I find it a bit hard to spend more than Php 500 for myself, unless it is a necessity. Maybe it is because I am part Ilocano, maybe it is because ever since I started working, I realized that earning money is no joke, and I am not comfortable in spending my hard-earned money mindlessly. However, if I do have the time to go to the mall alone, I see to it that I buy the things that really make me happy.
Here are some of my cheap thrills:
1. Takuyaki balls - I am never choosy when it comes to Takuyaki. I only started eating this last year, and I cannot get enough. I remember last December, I ate Takuyaki for lunch for 1 whole week. Of course, I have yet to taste the legit one with octopus, but I hope someday I will be able to try one in the Land of the Rising Sun. Char.
Takuyaki balls at Robinsons Galleria for only Php 30 for 3 pcs.
2. Candles and scented oils - When we finally had our own place, I started buying burners and scented oils. After work, when the hubby and the little madam are both asleep, I would light up a candle and enjoy the aroma. It helps me relax. For this month, I use the lavender field scent, last month I tried the orange scent. For June, I might buy lemon or sea breeze.
Lavender Field scented oil from Robinsons department store for only 90 pesos
3.. Coffee (and coffee time with Mr. Perez) - I cannot function normally without a cup of coffee first, but I am also not the type who would splurge for a cup of coffee + wifi. Great Taste White is good enough for me. I am happier on our rest days when the hubby and I would start the day with coffee and deep conversations. It just feels so relaxing. hihi.
Cheesy couple mug from SM Department Store: 299.75 per pair
4. Tiangges and Bazaars - Being frugal does not stop me from buying clothes for me and for my little madam. My eyes light up at the sight of bazaars and huge SALE banners. My go-to places are Pasig and Taytay Market. If you read my OOTD blog about my daughter, you would notice that most of her outfits are from Taytay market. I tell you, the prices are waayyy tooooo affordable and cute. You don't need to go to Divisoria anymore because I think most of the Divi items come from Taytay as well. To know more about my favorite tiangge, click this link.
5. Books (and Ebooks) - When I was still single, I see to it that I buy a new book every month, if not every payday. However, now that I have different priorities and responsibilities, I cannot stick by my monthly ritual anymore. Good thing there are ebooks which are a lot cheaper than the actual book, you can even download free ebooks. Of course, holding the book and being able to smell the fresh pages is still the best, but if you have a tight budget like me, ebooks are the next best thing. I also love going to book sales. I usually go to Filbar's or the book store in Pioneer Centre in Kapitolyo (I forgot the name).
My Aldiko library. Currently reading Love, Rosie :)
6. Spending time with the people I love - This perhaps is the cheapest, but the most precious one in the list. Nothing beats going home to your favorite people after a long and tiring day. Nothing is more relaxing than staying in bed all day with your baby and hubby, watching Frozen, Trolls, Moana and Sing over and over again.
Indeed, you do not have to spend so much to make your heart happy. Of course, if money is not an issue, I would love to travel the world with my family, but in the meantime, the things on my list are just enough to put a smile on my face.
How about you guys, what are the simple things that make you happy?
Hello, hello! It's been a while since I last posted my little madam's OOTDs. I'm telling you, she is growing up fast. Last time I checked, she still cannot say a straight word, and now, she's talking about how I should only have a crush on one guy - her tatay. (will blog about this soon on Klongversations)
Anyways, July and August have both been busy months for the entire family, with our brother-in-law and his family coming home from Kuwait, to the preparations (read it here) and the party for my mother-in-law (will blog about this next), to the time that we had to bring Klong to her doctor again (because of tonsillitis), that is why my to-do list keep piling up. As Klong gets older, it also gets harder to take a good photo of her. It is also a bit harder for me to pick an outfit for her because lately, she's been wanting to wear her boots all the time, even at home.
So here are the very few pictures that we were able to take for the past month.
A few months back, my brothers and sisters-in-law created a group chat so that we could all plan a party in celebration of my Mother-in-law's 60th birthday. Yes, it took us months to prepare because the Perez brothers are everywhere, one is in Kuwait, one is in Teresa, Rizal, another one is in Laguna, and only two are here in Pasig. My MIL also wanted to celebrate in Infanta, Quezon because that is where most of her relatives are.
August 13, 2017, we all drove up to Quezon to prepare for her party which will be held the following day. I will dedicate a separate blog for my MIL's special day, but first, I want to show you this little but very cozy resort where we had our party/reunion/mini vacation.
Tres Pinos is located at Binulasan, Infanta. We drove for about 4 hours from my brother-in-law's place in Calamba, Laguna (heavy traffic in Los Baños).
Since we traveled with 3 toddlers, my sister-in-law made sure to pack snacks and toys to keep the kids busy.
It was raining hard when we arrived in Binulasan at around 6:30 pm, that is why I wasn't really able to enjoy the view. Since we still have to prepare the decors for the party the following day, we checked in at Tres Pinos right away, even if our package only includes an overnight stay from the date of the party.
The resort only has two rooms, but boy were they big. It has its own balcony, and even though each room only has 2 king sized beds, they have more than 15 mattresses so the others could sleep on the floor. It is perfect for a big family.
Our room: 4 families fit in this room alone.
We were all so worried that my daughter would cry at night because her lola wasn't there but perhaps because of exhaustion, I had no problem putting her to bed. <3
The next day, (MIL's big day), the adults were all busy with the last minute preparations for the party that afternoon, so we let our Perez babies play and swim while we were all busy.
Here are the Perez cousins:
Ate Ganney and Klongski
Kuya Kio, Kuya Yvo and Calie boy
Not in the picture are Ixxi and Kuya Zoc.
The pool is right beside the gazebo, where the party will be held, so we could still look after the kids while preparing.
The party began at around 6pm that night, and ended at 12mn. We were asking the caretakers if they could still let us swim since we will already check out the following day, but they did not allow us. We stayed by the pool and drank Quezon's famous lambanog until around 3am.
The following day was their family reunion (MIL's side). Sadly, it was also our check out day. We were checked in until 2pm that day, so my husband's relatives came early to prepare for their reunion. They bought huge fish to grill, lambanog, laing, etc. It was nice seeing Iki's relatives from his mother's side. MIL's siblings were all there, and they shared stories and I got to see my husband's cousins from the province.
It was also the only time that I was able to stroll the beach. I was never a beach person, I would rather stay in a hotel room in Baguio or Tagaytay, but seeing Klongski run in the sand is relaxing. The water isn't clear (it was rainy that night), and the sand is almost black. I didn't swim in the beach, heck, I didn't even get to swim in the pool, but I had fun just looking at my "mag-ama".
After lunch, it's time to go. Packing is always hard, so it took me almost 1 hour just to pack our dirty clothes. We dropped by their relatives' compound first before heading home.
The traffic isn't that bad, but we were all so tired on the way home. We had dinner at Famy, Laguna. We arrived in Pasig at around 8pm.
It was a fun weekend. Being able to spend time with my husband's relatives made me realize how lucky I am to be included in a family who are all very loving and hospitable. Also, I keep wishing that someday, I could also feel the love that the Perez brothers have for their mother. I hope that Klong ( and her future siblings, if any), would also love me the way her tatay and his titos love her lola Mely. Raising 5 boys is seriously a hard task, but she did it while managing a store. The love that the Perez boys have for my MIL is very touching. They grew up grateful of their parents' sacrifices for them, and they are all eager to give back, even if my in-laws never ask for anything for them in return. It is indeed heart-warming.
All in all, Tres Pinos is the perfect venue for us to hold a party and a reunion. It is a private resort but it is very spacious and cozy. If I would be asked if I would go back to that resort, I think yes, only because my husband's relatives are just a few blocks away. The view is also very beautiful, and the rooms, the pool and the comfort rooms are all clean.
If you are a Manileña like me, this place isn't easy to reach. It is not advisable to commute because it is far from the main road. Apart from the zigzag road from Rizal to Quezon, the resort also doesn't have a parking space. We had to park all of the cars outside the resort. Since it is a rest house turned resort, they do not have a restaurant or a cafeteria, so you have to pack your food because the only thing that they sell are liquors.
The place is relaxing and beautiful, but there are still a lot of things that they can improve.
How about you, are there any resorts in Quezon that you can suggest?
Hello, everyone! How was your week? I know most of you moms are still on a high because of Mother's day. I wish I could say the same. The past few days have been stressful for the family, but hopefully things will get better now. Huhu.
I have been waiting for May. It has always been one of my most favorite months because of a lot of celebrations. May 14 is Mother's day, May 15 is my husband's birthday, May 19 is my parents' anniversary and May 27 is my mom's birthday.
Last Sunday, I was not really expecting anything because my husband and I both have work. Plan was for us to just have dinner (Klong will be having dinner with my parents and relatives). After that, we will celebrate at home for his birthday salubong. I wanted it to be just the two of us when we bid goodbye to Mother's day, and say hello to his 27th year. However, things did not go as planned because Klong got sick last Sunday.
While I was at work, my nanay texted me that they are already with our relatives, Klong is (as usual), makulit and takbo nang takbo. I told her that we will be coming home a bit late because Iki will pick me up from work and then we will have dinner in Robinson's Galleria. Iki showed up at the office with a single long-stemmed rose for me. (kilig kilig). We were about to have our dinner when my tatay called me and said that Klong is throwing up daw. I can hear her crying in the background. I panicked and I told Iki that we have to rush home. I didn't want to push through with the dinner, knowing that our daughter is sick and crying. When we came home, Klong is still throwing up. My nanay told us that she did not eat dinner yet, but she made candies out of the ice cubes pala while they were drinking. Mahilig talaga magpapak ng yelo ang anak ko, probably because of too much heat din. She was throwing up and she would ask for water after. Simula 7pm yun. The following day, we brought her to her doctor. Initial findings were gastroenteritis and tonsillitis. Her pedia said that if she still won't pee in the next 12 hrs, we will have no other choice but to admit her to the hospital so that they can monitor her more. I chose to go home and try to keep her hydrated at home first, plus of course the medicines that she need to take.
So Iki's birthday was spent talking to the doctor, looking after the cranky Klongski, forcing her to drink her medicine, a lot of kicking and spanking (Klong is the doer, I am the receiver), and a lot of frustrated sighs and tears. Luckily, Klong started peeing that night as well. When Klong fell asleep, Iki and I each had one bottle of beer to celebrate his day, then called it a night because of exhaustion.All the plans have been cancelled, and we were all worried sick. Our hearts started beating once again when her urine level finally went back to normal, as well as her appetite.
Things did not go according to plan, but I am still so happy that my baby is now okay. I realized lang talaga na as a mom, I couldn't wish for anything else but my family's health and safety. No amount of material things could ever compare to their health and happiness talaga.
Wala lang. Basta let us not forget to let our moms and wives feel special, not only every 2nd Sunday of May, but ALL DAY, EVERYDAY!
I know I originally wanted to post Klong's OOTDs on a monthly basis, but I wasn't able to do so, because we barely went out lately, and we also haven't done any little madam shopping for quite a while, hence, the lack of OOTD entries. Hahaha.
On the very few occasions that we left home, I find it harder to take good photos of Klong. Maybe it's because she is hyper, and wants to run around all the time. Anyhoo, here are some of the pictures that I have of her for the past weeks. ♥♥
This morning, I experienced another heartbreak when my daughter kept on crying when she saw me getting ready for work.
You see, this seldom happens. Everyday, my husband and I leave the house without our daughter throwing tantrums. On good days, she would go to the door, kiss us goodbye, say "Nanay Bubong please (pasalubong please), and then wave to us until we reach the gate.
On bad days, she would ignore us even if we endlessly say bye to her. Sometimes she would refuse to hug or kiss us before we leave.
This morning, however, when she saw me looking for my bag, she stopped playing with her cellphone and asked me to carry her.
Klong: Nanay, karga Towtow please. Me: Anak nanay will go to the office na eh. Wait for me later, okay? she started crying.. Me: I need to go to the office di ba, so that we can go to SM and you can buy more toys and dresses? Klong: Ayaw toys. Nanay please ayaw office ka.
I left the house, hearing my daughter's wails. Huhu.
I phoned my nanay when I arrived at the office and she told me that Klong cried for a good half an hour after I left. She fell asleep because of crying too much. Hays. This only made me sadder.
Di bale, I will make sure to spend my rest days playing with Klong na lang, even if it means getting all of my lipsticks and putting it on her while facing the mirror. Haha. #kikayKlongski
By the way, I found this article online which really makes a lot of sense for us working moms:
Kidzoona is still Klong's favorite place. It's her 4th time there (5th, if you consider the first time she went inside but didn't actually play because she was still 4 months old then), but she still gets so excited whenever I tell her that we will be going to Kidzoona again.
2 weeks ago, we brought her back to her happy place.
As usual, Klong was ecstatic. We barely made it to the play area when she started jumping and yelling "BAAAAALLLSSSS!!!!" and off she went to the ball pit.
I wasn't able to take a lot of pictures because I was also busy playing and running after Klong. Here are some of them:
What we love about Kidzoona:
It near our place. They have a lot of branches but the one in Robinsons Galleria is the most accessible one for me. We also do not have to pay a lot to make Klong happy. You can check the rates for the other branches here. For 1 hour and 30 minutes, your kids can enjoy the huge ball pit, inflatable slide, pretend play area (Klong loved wearing the chef uniform because she thinks she is like her tatay), the educational toys, library with tablets and the arcade. You don't even have to buy tokens for the arcade. In the Shangri-la branch, Klong spent a lot of time in the Just Dance room.
Their staff are very attentive to the kids as well. Of course, it would help if we keep an eye to our kids all the time too, but knowing that the people who are running the place are all smiles, eyes and ears to our beloved kids makes me feel comfortable, being the ever praning mommy that I usually am.
Needless to say, Iki and I also like the place. Aside from seeing our daughter so energized and happy, we also love to lounge in the ball pit while watching Klong jump and dive and scream. The ever-dramatic me loves to savor the moment while I can still play and jump and goof around with my daughter, because she will only be a 2-year-old once.
Happy weekend, guys! Unfortunately for me, I work on weekends. This afternoon, I do not have much to do at work so I looked at my old photos in facebook. I realized just how much of a roller coaster my weight is. I had my senti mode on upon looking at my pictures during those pre-Klongski years. I also had a short trip down memory lane, and realized that before I got married, I was edgy, I was adventurous, I was carefree. Oh well, I miss that personality but of course, nothing beats being a mom to my little madam, even if it means letting go of my short shorts, my "depende sa mood" hairstyle and my social life. Teehee!
2-year-old Ea. Don't I look like my daughter in this picture?
here with my Nanay ♥
I hate this picture because of my haircut, but my tatay had this blown up and displayed at home. Rar!
This outfit. HAHAHA
College days. I took a hell lot of selfies that time because I was too thrilled with my all white uniform
Do you remember how popular Nokia 6600 was? I begged my parents to buy me one and I wouldn't stop taking selfies because I felt like it has the best camera ever. NOT. hahah
Ang payat ko dito, I swear. I don't know what happened to me that time. Maybe I was stressed with thesis?
I think malapit na ko gumraduate nito because I was in 4th year when I first dyed my hair.
College na ko, pwede na akong makipag date sa MOA. HAHAHA
First time ko ata magkaroon ng tumbler na SB. hihi. Notice my earrings. I have that in every color, courtesy of the bilaos in Morayta :D
I forgot to have my 2x2 picture taken for grad application, hence the super close up ID picture. Mano mano na lang. hahaha
BS Psychology Batch 2012
Right after graduation, I cut my hair short.
Tagaytay circa 2013
In Tagaytay with Iki's family. Shorter hair, and thinner legs. huhu where na you?
My first work in Southstar Drug ♥
I don't think I can sport that kind of haircut now.
7-month baby bump
Me and my little madam
It's really fun to look at old pictures and remember the moments that go along with each snapshot. It is fun to know that once in my life, I was able to have a crazy haircut, I was able to achieve something, I was able to wear skimpy shorts without a bulging belly. I know that it will be hard for me to go back to how I look before, but I'm okay with that. your suggestions are welcome if you know how a lazy, working mom can shed a few pounds. HAHAH.
Anyways, may you all enjoy the weekend.
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